Dating Over 50: 6 Types of Compliments Men REALLY Want to Hear? Compliments That Make Him Melt!

[@briar35981]

The only compliment I ever had from a woman in my life was from my grandmother on my college graduation day. I came out in a suit ready to leave. She took me by the hands and said "I looked like a fine young man" When i think about that today. It still makes me smile. Many times men don't take compliments well because we never get them.

[@lindapeck3459]

Compliments are another way to say I love you. The more specific the better. When I compliment my man it strengthens our bond. His love language (other than touch, ha!) is acts of service. Probably the biggest thing I learned after my marriage ended was to compliment not criticize. I just think about how I want to be treated.

[@2ndActTV]

Great points, Linda! Thanks for your comment!

[@sparkleevenmore9638]

Same. I really learned a lot from my marriage ending as well.

[@om617yota8]

One of the first times my girlfriend and I went to her parent's place, I overheard her mom ask her if she should check on something I'd done or was doing. My girlfriend's response was "No, I trust his judgement." Meant a lot, definitely one of the better compliments I've received.

[@2ndActTV]

That is so perfect! Thanks for sharing!

[@kathryncothern3433]

Any compliment said to anyone, romantic or not, must be absolutely sincere, real, and authentic down to the core. Must come from the heart and have substance. As an Empath, no fake surface stuff please since it’s easy to sense. ❤

[@collyf6010]

I absolutely love it when My long time partner compliments me whether on physical appearance or my achievements. It just makes me gush. And I know that he gets a really good feeling when I compliment him !!

[@2ndActTV]

Good for both of you Colly!! 🙂

[@tomjeffersonwasright2288]

Best compliment I have received - "I never knew it could be like THAT."

[@2ndActTV]

GREAT compliment! Thanks for watching

[@gwortman3515]

I believe if we can admit our inadequacies, learn to apologize for wrong doings and love every flaw we see in the mirror then we are ready to love and be loved.

[@2ndActTV]

Absolutely! Great point! Thanks for watching, G W! 😊

[@ralphverboten8816]

Following that advice will lead to being perceived as a loser in todays society.

[@gwortman3515]

@@ralphverboten8816 sounds as though you may feel like a loser..so sorry

[@gwortman3515]

@@ralphverboten8816 you recognize a loser??

[@abart2056]

Thank you Robert and Silke for this important segment. I agree with so many, especially when Robert said "a man that can make a woman laugh is sexy". I'd take it farther and call it foreplay! My dad could always make my mom laugh and I paid attention to how she responded. My LH was a goof and I appreciated that so much. Towards the latter part of our life together, I complemented him more because it was just us again and I recognized it. I appreciated him and should have said it more. Who doesn't want to feel safe, and secure? I remember people during the lockdown saying that they learned they really like their partners! I thought that was interesting! 🥰🤗

[@2ndActTV]

Great feedback, and thanks for reminding us how important it is to let people know how special they are to us, while we still can! Always appreciate your helpful engagement! 😊

[@DD-ic1bd]

Compliments are so important for both men and women.. both need to regularly tell each other their hot, beautiful, handsome, etc... it's not a vanity thing.. we know we're not movie stars... but we want to know our Love finds us attractive.. and not just once or at the beginning of the relationship.. regularly!! Will go a long way towards feeling bonded.. of course there's so many other areas of things to compliment.. but this one is important! Thank you both for another great conversation!!👏👏🙌

[@2ndActTV]

Thanks D D! It was interesting to focus on this topic and realize what we do and don't do when it comes to compliments.

[@ccmarcum]

My mother told me when I was a teen-ager that no compliment was too extreme or far-fetched for a man to believe. I tried it out and total my boyfriend that a girlfriend had seen him driving in town and thought he was there to make a movie. He fell for it completely. I've used the suggestion once in a while and never been disbelieved. But there was one fellow who needed a steady diet of praise and lavish compliments, and that got old pretty fast.

[@DougHardy541]

Robert is on target with emphasizing that “authenticity” is key with the compliments, whatever they are concerning. Frequency is important too. A constant stream of compliments, even if well intentioned, is typically viewed as fake. Specifically about appearance, men receive orders of magnitude fewer compliments about their appearance than women do -they do carry a special weight. A woman will often tell her girlfriends that her guy (or someone she’s interested in) is “hot”, but never ever tell him directly she’s physically attracted to him.

[@shellshelly5552]

I do tell my man all those things, because it’s so true. And, he makes me feel amazing.

[@mypov4343]

Positive or even negative feedback as I strive to improve myself is always welcome and appreciated! One of my new "lines" which I haven't used yet is "I worked on me so I could attract you" hahaha...we will see how that works out!

[@2ndActTV]

That made me giggle, I think that could work! Good job Povie! 🤗

[@Wildevis]

I like that, as long as he does not slip back to old habits once he has you lol

[@mypov4343]

@@Wildevis Good point! That's why you need to change for yourself...NOT for someone else. That's why its a "line" and a bit of a tease....LOL

[@Wildevis]

@@mypov4343 Still a good line lol

[@Wildevis]

I think complimenting anyone for the effort they put into themselves to make the relationship better, should be complimented and appreciated as it's not that easy at our age to change old habits. Bottom line is that we should take notice, be aware and appreciative of the other person, then you wil notice and give sincere compliments and please don't overdo it as that starts sounding very insincere very soon and you wonder what they want from you!

[@2ndActTV]

I agree, Erika! Don't overdue it, otherwise it can become 🙂"overused" like saying "I love you" every 5 minutes. 😏 Allow it to mean something!! (But no too sparingly also!

[@cindydalton9608]

I just turned 60. I really appreciate your videos.There amazing!

[@2ndActTV]

Thank you so much for saying that, Cindy! And Happy belated Birthday. Welcome to the 60’s!🥂

[@richardpauly1635]

Nice pic you look great for your age

[@grandmaoldschool7011]

I don't do comparisons in a compliment. Likewise, a guy told me I was the prettiest woman in the room. I thought that we ought not leave the room.

[@popsshops]

I feel the same way. A comparison compliment may seem to lack sincerity.

[@junereader7230]

LOL!!!

[@622barmacost]

Sense of humor is huge!!!

[@2ndActTV]

YES!! Thanks for watching Barbara!

[@monicadaniels784]

Gotta love a guy with a huge one! Yeah, I mean sense of humor!!!

[@joerockhead7246]

@ 5:10 Silke, that was hilarious. Thanks for posting. I always look forward to Robert as a guest.

[@2ndActTV]

Glad you liked it Joe! Yeah, 5:10 was pretty funny, I wasn’t expecting that one! 😂

[@popsshops]

I replied below that a comparison compliment (You're the funniest I've ever met...) may lack sincerity. And I do believe that like and love are different. It's a bit hard to describe but when I told my lady (we have both professed our love for each other) that I like her, she knew exactly what I meant.

[@charliewhon6548]

I’ve been married for 25 years, but I like tuning in to remind myself that I still need to be fresh and loving towards my husband; something that we can often take for granted after years of the daily grind. I know when it was mentioned to give a compliment as a question, it caused me to cringe. My husband often tries to compliment me with a question like: “you’re pretty hot aren’t you?” And I have always had a difficult time showing him that I’m receiving it well. It makes me self conscious. I used to act silly and say “oh yes!” But it usually just came across super goofy and I don’t think he actually thought I felt complimented. I usually now just say: “well, I’m so glad you still think so!” I think a statement overall is easier to receive, but probably more difficult to give.

[@blondiegirl9015]

Dr Manni, I really agree with your perspective and your advice for compliments to be authentic and sincere. I will be looking you up on KZbin

[@kristinej.4182]

Great video! And all the points presented do make a lot of sense! Thank you! I will remember this for my BF.

[@kcorrao5623]

I believe , you can't love without respect as in a romantic relationship. You can respect without love. Like your boss.

[@richardhintonracing]

Well done. That is a really good idea. I would never have thought of that . That is genius. How do you do that ! Thanks for all of you have done .

[@2ndActTV]

Those compliments are great! Thanks for watching Richard!

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

Was on a first date with a man he whined that I didn't compliment him. Everything about him was a turnoff. One of those cringe dates.

[@2ndActTV]

Well, compliments are not always warranted! 😉Thanks for watching!

[@lckendel1079]

How about « You are really good at fishing for compliments »?

[@jackdeniston59]

Whined? or opined. You have never complimented a man.

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

@JackDeniston Yes he whined. Jack you are lashing out at me knowing absolutely nothing about me. Only compliment when warranted.

[@grandmaoldschool7011]

Lol! You are the neediest first date ever.

[@dmrd222]

"JACKPOT!" 🤣 I'll have to tuck that away (ETA: hopefully) for future use...

[@DougCap]

How does a woman help a man accept compliments? I’m seeing a man who waves me off when I compliment him; especially on his physical appearance. I want to ask if he’s ever had compliments before--but I know that’s not what I should ask. Great video!

[@joedonlewis9820]

I almost skipped this one because it's just fantasy. I did have a girl call me handsome in 1994 though.

[@Anchor5777]

I am honest. I will not tell a guy that he is funny when he isn't . It is important to me to be with someone who makes me laugh and I have a good sense of humor. A guy I was dating told me that he liked talking to me because I made him laugh but another guy was pleasant but not funny. I couldn't imagine being married to someone who wasn't funny.

[@eddy2561]

After 41 years of marriage I can count on one hand the number of times my X-wife paid me a genuine complement....and after being married a while, complements stopped and her cynicism took its place. And after a while I stopped trying.....

[@2ndActTV]

Yes, unfortunately you describe a pattern many fall into - a destructive pattern, ultimately! I know doing this segment made me think! Thanks Eddy!

[@eddy2561]

@@2ndActTV And thank you Silke for producing a much needed video!!

[@DougHardy541]

Fewer years, same experience.

[@lckendel1079]

I have noticed that feeling from men I know, and also women getting more cynical and fed up. It is a relationship killer, especially if you stay too long in a relationship that doesn’t fit.

[@netgnostic1627]

Respect is good, trust is better. As a matter of fact, if my woman told she respects me, but was often suspicious of me, or showing in any way that she didn't trust me, that would prove to me that she DOESN'T respect me.

[@2ndActTV]

Makes sense, good point! Thanks for watching!

[@monicadaniels784]

This is spot on!

[@jluis333]

35 years married and my wife hardly complimented me ever. I have to pry stuff out of her which annoys her. Compliment yourself, cause others will if they need you.

[@elizabethmccaul2223]

I told a man that he was gorgeous and he was

[@elizabethmccaul2223]

@@floatpool8307 never Dr. Phil or thr view. But thanks for the kind words

[@MoonCrow35]

Make sure you know the person enough dont fake flatter anyonea person can tell

[@carlsenlifeafter60carlsen11]

My husband lets me pick out his clothes and I love doing it. I always tell him how good he looks. He looks modern for a man in his 60s I love a well dressed Man.

[@woodliceworm4565]

Among the things I have heard - "Are you still alive" while using sunscreen "Dont run out of embalming fluid grandad" from my daughter "according to this list of what bogans like - your a bogan" or when out someone said "you look different - have you put on weight" When trying to lift some major why too heavy object - "weaker than two chickens" or from both daus after cleaning up their mess for the sixth time "we think according to research you have OCD" That's the good compliments you don't want to hear the bad ones.

[@2ndActTV]

Oh you are too funny! Thanks for making me laugh, Woody!🤗

[@johnbingaman3645]

I dated a girl that would compliment me on a lot of things. My physique. You're so handsome. She would say you always show me something and I learned something from you every time I see you and then she went back to her ex-boyfriend after dating her for 2 months. What a let down. She was an awesome amazing woman. In every aspect, beautiful body keep a nice home lots of fun together, but there's always an EX

[@junereader7230]

Perhaps the 2 of you put a label on too soon. Maybe a conversation about being exclusive at the 2 month mark.

[@joegarrick2760]

Six "types" of compliment? I'm 61 and haven't gotten six total of any kind.

[@TheScotsman1977]

Women want to be loved, but men want to be respected. There is an entire book on these topics.

[@DrMikeOckhertz]

Compliments mean a great deal when paid casually. If you make a big song and dance about paying a compliment they can often come across as forced and false. If you walk past your partner when they're looking in a mirror a quick squeeze or peck on the cheek and a "looking good babe" can work wonders.

[@joegarrick2760]

Six types?? Guys get compliments? Who knew.

[@kirbyd3185]

You should really address new partners' undisciplined pets! Specifically, dogs and dogs that get on the furniture and are difficult to walk!

[@netgnostic1627]

"Specifically, dogs and dogs." 😁😄😁😄

[@2ndActTV]

That’s an interesting suggestion Kirby, I can identify with that from both sides! Let me think about that, kinda like issues with kids! 😏

[@InDogsITrust]

As someone who has had and trained dogs for 25 years, your complaint is often a result of (1) the dog owner not having training themselves on how to train their dog, or (2) your having different expectations than the dog owner. In my home, my dogs are welcome on the furniture and sleep in bed with me. Sometimes they pull on leash and that is a work in progress - training takes time. They are allowed to briefly bark to alert me to something, then they stop when I acknowledge it or they come back in the house. Really my point is if you and your partner have different expectations for your partner’s dogs’ behavior, you best work that out sooner rather than later. I have made concessions on my pets in past relationships, and will not do so going forward. I will hold out for a man who loves dogs and appreciates all the joy and love they share with their people. I am happier without a romantic partner than I would be without my dogs.

[@2ndActTV]

@@InDogsITrust This really could make a great topic! I totally understand where you're coming from! (At one point I had 9 dogs and 3 cats 🙂)

[@InDogsITrust]

Agree! Actually the non-dog-owner partner likely hasn’t trained dogs either and needs guidance on what cues and techniques to use with the partner’s dogs. An outsider shouldn’t expect all dogs to understand their expectations or cues. It reminds me of the Will Rogers quote: “If you get to thinking you’re a person of influence, try ordering somebody else’s dog around.” 😊

[@squaretriangle9208]

Compliments are nice, but do you really need to say most of these things, better is to show it through your immediate reaction, e.g. laughing about his humour, not saying it, oververbalization shows that other ways do not work

[@marie-clairecorbeil3075]

You are controlling the interview way too much.

[@claudiasmith969]

She talks too much….who is being interviewed?

[@paulshinn5394]

Always enjoy Thanks Silke

[@2ndActTV]

Hi Paul, thanks!