3 Ways Women Need to Be Submissive In A Marriage

[@kat-601]

After 10yrs of no sex, love or affection l am getting my marriage back on track. 10yrs sexless until this past weekend. (2x;) she's seeing a change in me & after a very hard real talk l exsplained i would not be in a sexless marriage anylonger. She asked me to give her a week (lastweek). Thanks again Karyn you have helped save my marriage. Im 63 she's 56 - 28yrs married. My 2nd her 1st we have no kids i have a grown daughter.

[@censorshipsucks9493]

I hope it works out. I have no idea women decide in their forties that sex is over, and expect their husband to go along with it.

[@Steverz32]

I am glad Karyn could help you & your marriage!👍🥰

[@savannahannalay7296]

A DECADE????

[@sneakyviewing4391]

That's insane. Should have left 10+ years ago instead of getting excited for the carrot on the stick

[@nineteeneightyfour3680]

It takes a woman who doesn’t let her pride control the marriage. The worst kind ate devoted southern Baptist women!! Believe me I have seen it in every one of the SB marriages I know and their kids are super jacked up. Those women destroy everything they touch

[@shayestevens6627]

*I wear the pants in my family, and I have my wife's permission to say so!* My wife had a brief conversation with 2 teenage boys that were helping me with a project. When they said something about me being head of the house, she put her hands on her hips, cocked her head and glared at them with a look that said, "Oh yeah!" It was then that I realized the truth of the PRETEND SUBMISSIVENESS of so called "traditional women". _The reality is that she is just sitting back and enjoying the show of watching YOU doing everything while she does a little as possible._ IN HER MIND she is "letting you" (i.e. giving you permission) do things FOR sweet little her. You give. She takes. That how she thinks it should be. This isn't submissiveness. The fact is that Feminism has ruined all women of all ages. *In most marriages, it has just gone underground just as I have pointed out in my case.* So guys don't be fooled.

[@alexisc7565]

You gotta pay the cost to be the boss.

[@OfSoulAndSin]

My STBXW wanted to be in charge of EVERYTHING, but never wanted to lead. She was the same with her job. She constantly talked bad about her boss, but when offered a promotion, she coward away.

[@rb-ex]

appreciate all the candid and tough-minded sensibilities here. letting your husband lead in the bedroom would also mean letting him handle any sexual innovation. some men enjoy sexual innovation from their wives but for most men, we see it as no different than wanting a puppy or a new renovation: it's just another way of not submitting to your husband and insisting on controlling everything in the relationship. also, many men do not want sexual innovation. often we want the same old boring thing and we're ok with it being boring. it's usually men who demand sex because we're wired to want it more or less constantly. if your husband is a good man, there is nothing wrong with submitting to him when you dont want sex and always without exception being a good sport about it even if he has no interest in your orgasm. a man wants his wife to be happy that he desires her. and that happiness should be enough for a good woman in the bedroom

[@oldludwigdrummer6844]

Karyn. I wished I'd found your channel 28 years ago. I'm 61, been married to my current wife for 37 years. I have put so much into our little family. But I feel like I've fallen so short. Our 28 year old son is still on our payroll. There is no intimacy in my relationship with my wife. I'm still in love with my wife, but she has openly told me that she's not with me. At this point, I'm just putting my head down and working along.

[@etseredouard3146]

sell everything, give her half, go to thailand, you're welcome

[@thehappywifeschool]

@oldludwigdrummer6844, thank you for being so open about the struggles in your marriage - you help other good men like you know they are not alone. Bless you.

[@andrew1717xx]

Her and PsyHacks with Dr. O.T. are the right places to start. It sounds like something is wrong on her end and is causing issues in the relationship.

[@georgetrevino3532]

What’s stopping you from changing things? Or getting devorced?

[@KonaBean1]

This is wonderful content. I’m in my mid-50’s. Sadly, been divorced for a couple of years after a 23 year marriage. This is soooo true from the beginning to the end of your video. I wish I could have shared this information with my ex before she was my ex. But - sometimes Goodbye is a second chance. I’m much healthier now after I’ve processed the grief and loss of going through this stressful time. I truly feel God hates divorce, but protected me by allowing to happen.

[@majorsam83]

Yes - I agree. God protected me too by divorce after 28 years. I also agree that God hates divorce. But … it happens.😢

[@user-nx7bo2er5j]

1. let men lead in finanacial matter 2.let men lead in parenting 3. let men lead in bedroom

[@b3Ila]

sounds like rules straight from the handmaids tale if im gonna be honest

[@JuniperGal-ek2pu]

Ew but youdoyou 1. Woman may be better at math/finance 2. Mother may be better at parenting 3. Woman may be a dom

[@JuniperGal-ek2pu]

1. The woman may be better at math/finance. 2. The mother may be better at parenting. 3. The woman may be a dom.

[@b3Ila]

@@JuniperGal-ek2pu preach

[@dantelossantos7562]

@@JuniperGal-ek2pu It just does not work! that is just too much resposability for a care free being. Women are not happy doing math for us, nor doing the parenting plan and defentily not happy about doming. (Exeptions are not rules) If you do not belive me find a men who put hes heel over your head wile intimating...

[@censorshipsucks9493]

I never understand supposed Christian women who won't let their husband lead like the Bible dictates. Now that does not mean he gets to be a dictator, but he is the head of the family. This is what the Bible says. He is supposed to love his wife as himself. So that means he does what is best for the family. I'm always amazed how Christians always preface before they get into a discussion about the scripture wives be submissive to your husbands. We never have a preface before talking about the ten commandments. The Bible is simple. You either obey God's commandments, or you don't.

[@phillipgarrett4547]

Amen

[@michaelclark2458]

Every weak Christian church always cites Ephesians 5:21 before 5:22 rather than putting it before 5:22, 6:1, and 6:5. It’s the end of a paragraph and man-wife, parent-child, master-servant relationships all require leadership/submission roles. No one ever prefaces “mutual submission” with in parenting relationships as it would be foolish to. Likewise it’s equally as foolish to think of husbands mutually submitting to their wives.

[@sneakyviewing4391]

How about instead of using someone else's agenda like a holy book, you just work on being yourself? I think the mentality of insisting things need to be a certain way because of a book is entirely leading yourself into your own misery, fueled by false expectations. Whenever I hear this rhetoric it just reminds me of those guys like Elliot Roger who make those videos where they simply can't understand why women run away from them. I'm an Archaeologist and Anthropologist and reading this is crazy. The Bible is really simple and the Bible doesn't even necessarily dictate all that so many believe it does. People will find any means or justification to legitimize themselves. Then again this is what we get when people think they know more than they do about things. It's very helpful to read these different books in different formats and compilations so one may understand them to fullest and with the appropriate context. Without that you don't actually know what those books are saying, they were never designed to be read or written in contemporary vernacular such as English. Personally I think it's bizarre that anyone is fully aware of a great deceiver but still leads themselves into being played and deceived. 🍎🐍

[@sneakyviewing4391]

@@michaelclark2458 So according to canon since you got all these quotes ready to go, what are we supposed to take away from women like the Virgin Mary and Mary Magdalena? What is their place? What is their role? Are you going to try and say that's different?

[@Vid7872]

Women have taken out the word obey from the wedding vow. And they are living that everyday

[@Neoteny374]

Anecdote : I pressured our son to leave home and find his own place. My wife thought i was being a monster. "Did your father tell YOU that!?" - Yes. Yes he did. The kicker was when I told the story to her brothers. They told her, " Of course Dad didnt talk to you like that, but he sure did talk to us". She was shocked at the double standard, but submitted. " OK, he's your son"

[@geography_guy335]

My wife has only ever "let" me lead financially. Back when she was spending however she wanted we were living paycheck to paycheck. We were also going into debt. Things are much better now. She still tries to make me feel like a complete jerk when I say no about a particular expense

[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

Sorry, that this happens.

[@thehappywifeschool]

Thank you for sharing. Good for you to stick to your guns when your wife has a temper tantrum. That's a wonderful example of how good men become stronger in the face of their wife's woman ways.

[@Steverz32]

Stand on you square brother, and don’t let her take you to the poor house!😃

[@Nnmtes]

Take charge. Ignore her protests. Lead. It works

[@geography_guy335]

@@Nnmtes that only works if the wife wants to submit. In my faith submission is completely voluntary. We see compelled submission as a form of abuse. We call it "unrighteous dominion.". For the first time in my marriage I've been standing up to her emasculation. 8 months ago I decided to start focusing on my own well being. I had been focusing on hers to the exclusion of my own. I've been cutting calories, exercising and lifting weights. I've slimmed down a few inches already. As a result I've become more assertive. I'm enforcing my boundaries for the first time and standing up to her. Among this and other changes she isn't really liking the new me. I feel divorce coming. She'll never submit to me and I'm refusing to submit to her.

[@malsierover182]

I love being in a budget my husband told me when we got married. He wants me to do all the finance work and we always talk together like how much we can spend or if we want to do it and it works great.

[@DirkWrightxyz]

I wouldn't say that good men are always the better parent. Both parents are equally important. Mom teaches them one thing, and Dad teaches something else. The problem is when one, either Dad or Mom, doesn't accept the differences in parenting of the other and judges the other as a bad parent.

[@BTBdrummerBTB]

Karyn, thank you so much for your work. I'm a 30-year-old dad who has been married for almost 7 years now. We have two young children, but we stuggle a lot. I have been trying everything, but it only seems to have made it worse. She told my right to my face she doesn't find me attractive anymore and has refused sex for almost three years now. That hurt. I'm so glad I am part of a loving church family and have many close friends to share my pain with. To be honest, I'm afraid my wife will never listen to you, but I keep praying for a miracle. But even if indeed she does not, I get great comfort from watching your videos, knowing and understanding better what she is going through. And how her crazy female mind works. I just want her to respect me, or at least be grateful for the things I do for her. We're going through a major problem right now, we disagree about to whether or not berate eachother in front of the kids. She seems to be unable to control her anger and dissatisfaction with me. We're going to talk about it tonight with our therapist who - thank God - is a good guy. If not, I seriously consider putting her outside until she calms down when it happens again. Maybe it causes her to self-reflect. But that is a thing that she struggles with a lot. And besides, that is very risky and could very well make it worse. I have never laid my hands on her before, but it damages my kids if their mother humiliates their father in front of them. Any advice is helpful!

[@seandaulby2381]

In my experience, most "trad or Christian" women these days are just Feminists in sheep's clothing. The problem for you is you don't really have anymore big bargaining chips because you are already married w/ kids so she has you right where she wants you. The more you put your foot down the more respect she will gain for you. What we were taught, to bend over backwards to give them everything they want is exactly why they will lose respect for you.

[@simplexity110]

I feel you brother, she needs to apologize, and you should try to work on changing the power dynamics in your relationship, if nothing works open the door and let her go!

[@Amy-fk5we]

Hi! I am a 30 year old wife with two small children. I would ask her why she doesn’t find you attractive anymore. And if she tells you the truth, maybe you can change it and it might then inspire to change too. For example, if you gained a beer belly or more back hair (which small things like this normally don’t make women lose complete attraction to their husband) or if it’s something about your personality (just shooting random examples) you can change it. Maybe you’re letting her lead too much and I know women secretly want to be led by their man. They love when their man takes the reins wether they realize it or not. Women lose attraction to complacent men. Let her know that all you want is for her to be happy and you will change what you need to change to do it. Then see what she says. If absolutely nothing about you has changed, then that’s not the problem and she’s talking out of her hat. Being told by your spouse that they don’t find you attractive is very hurtful. I hope you can get to the roots of the issue and bring her wall down. Sometimes the best conversations with my husband, where I don’t get worked up, are when he opens me a bottle of wine 🍷😂 I don’t get worked up for nothing cause I’m relaxed. Women are very complicated. But I have an amazing husband and I know I’m an outstanding wife, being able to be completely open to each other and saying 100% what we mean and want is key. Anytime we argue is because one of us can’t express how we truly feel or are afraid to be judged. But when we agreed to a judgement free relationship then things got so much better, even though they’ve always been good. Good luck, you deserve to feel wanted and loved.

[@DirkWrightxyz]

Laura Doyle discusses this extensively in her best selling book "The Surrendered Wife" from over 20 years ago. I'm glad that you're putting this out there in a much better way. You're so much better at expressing this than she is. So, I'm grateful that you are presenting this. A good marriage is like ballroom dancing. The man leads and the woman follows, but that doesn't mean that he's better or more important than her. All it means is that he takes action to make the dance go forward. His purpose in leading his partner is to show her off, give her pleasure, and to protect her from banging into other couples on the dance floor. He chooses the moves in the dance that she enjoys because he knows that her being happy in the dance makes everything is much more fun.

[@GeorgeGill-vo3hc]

"Anything your husband wants to do in the bedroom is reasonable" Except bringing in an outsider.

[@j.p.5716]

For those women who call themselves "Christian". God tells them they are to submit to their husbands in EVERYTHING. (Ephesians 5:24)

[@Fitricson]

They don’t like that part.

[@JuniperGal-ek2pu]

Christians already cherry pick verses anyway. Plus, I don’t think it literally means our today’s meaning of submit. I personally think it means being loyal.

[@j.p.5716]

@@JuniperGal-ek2pu - What it means is what the authors meant when they wrote it. The original language is Koine Greek and the word that we translate as "submit" is the Greek word "hupotasso". Here is the literal definition of hupotasso out of Strong's Concordance: hupotassó: to place or rank under, to subject, to obey Original Word: ὑποτάσσω Part of Speech: Verb Transliteration: hupotassó Phonetic Spelling: (hoop-ot-as'-so) Definition: to place or rank under, to subject, to obey Usage: I place under, subject to; I submit, put myself into subjection. To even better understand what the authors meant, hupotasso was a military term that (as shown above) means to "rank under". What the authors (The Apostle Paul and the Apostle Peter) were instructing New Testament wives to do was to consider themselves to be a lower rank (think military) than their husbands and to treat them accordingly. That is to obey every (legal) instruction they were given and to do it with all respect.

[@JuniperGal-ek2pu]

@@j.p.5716 lol you didn’t even sugar coat it. So wives were expected to obey every single instruction like a slave? Yeah, no. Not for me or really anyone for that matter 😅

[@j.p.5716]

@@JuniperGal-ek2pu - When you were living under the authority of your parents, did obeying them make you a slave? No. It just made you a good child. Does obeying your boss at work make you a slave? No. It just makes you a good employee. A wife choosing to obey her husband does not make her a slave either, just a good wife. All organizations have to have a leader and others that are under the authority of that leader. In marriage, God says that the husband is the leader. That "slave "nonsense" is just one of the (many) lies of feminism that hurts everyone.

[@ellenroehl6022]

Omg. Women have to always be redecorating something.

[@thehappywifeschool]

😂

[@bumpercoach]

That's how you know they haven't had enough babies put in em

[@landwater4388]

Great video. Hope some will take your advice. Sadly, there are some women who will claim they were "financially abused" when their husbands refuse to renovate the basement immediately! Life in crazy world.

[@darrylpatterson1091]

There are women who insist that the husband lead in each of these areas and work ad hard as they can to undermine him in these areas. Of course then it is all his fault. If the man is frustrated about it then there is something wrong with him.

[@Gk2003m]

I recommend to all couples: ballroom dance classes. Really. Do one where the couples do the class together. Watch the train wrecks all across the floor, as the instructors attempt to teach “man leads” but the wife just refuses to do that with her husband. Then go to a class where the instructor breaks up the couples, so you are doing the class with someone other than your spouse. Watch how much more receptive the women are to the instructor’s direction! Watch how the woman lets her male partner lead! Do that class for some weeks. Only after you’ve both truly learned your dances the proper way, then do it with your spouse.

[@BlueFish-kq9fh]

01:04 1. Let your husband lead the financial decisions. 05:01 2. Let your husband lead in parenting. 07:54 3. Let your husband lead in the bedroom.

[@valdius85]

My mother is on a renovation project side, my wife is opposite. Outside of structural issues etc, I prefer to live in outdated house and have time/money to actually enjoy life. Comfort is important to me, but that is fixable with good quality specific used furniture.

[@calebw.8312]

Hi Karyn, do you have any videos or resources for single good men like myself in a dating relationship with a woman whom I love but whom I find myself shutting down around and fully able to open my heart too?

[@smokingcrab2290]

Don't ever marry. And you're shutting down because you don't feel safe with her.

[@kat-601]

On KZbin -Casey Zaner - he's a man's dating & life coach. Between Karyn & Casey l am saving my 28yr marriage after I blew it then she almost blew it but l recovered & she is definitely working on her self now. After 10yrs of nosex its finally RE-happened twice this past weekend! Looking forward to more.

[@andrew1717xx]

​@@Job.Well.Done_01Psy Hacks is where you want to go. Don't mistake his perspective for Chauvinism. It is of confidence and vetting women to find the good ones, so you know you and her are safe.

[@thehappywifeschool]

@calebw.8312, I appreciate your question. I don't currently have videos specifically for dating, but listen to your heart - it is telling you what to do. @smokingcrab2290 is spot on - you're shutting down because you don't feel safe with her.

[@camlendrim7609]

Your channel presents the essence and offers practical solutions of long term relationship problems in the West. All the counseling/therapy in the world won’t offer the value of virtually every video on this channel. Thank you.

[@Avoid_Low_Frequency]

I love this!!! Thank you for sharing today!!

[@DirkWrightxyz]

My wife says that letting go of control is the scariest thing she's ever tried to do.

[@DirkWrightxyz]

Laura Doyle goes into great detail about money in a marriage and how letting the man take care of that is a very scary thing for her. In her case, she let her husband do that, and he screwed up a lot, but eventually did good.

[@Steverz32]

Great content Karyn👍

[@thehappywifeschool]

Thank you, Steve. I appreciate your continued support very much.

[@Wisdom122]

The million fillar question: Women today. .. do they ever admit they are wrong ??

[@sreach93]

Are you sure you don't have XY Chromosomes, because you make so much sense. Thank you for helping women understand themselves.

[@carlmanis879]

I said do you remember. Too forsake all others, leaving the wife as the only source. In sickness and in health for better or worse to have and hold from this day forward until death do us part, have means sex. I want a husband to take his wife to court for breach of contract because it is a witnessed verbal contract. Now unless a Judge terminates that contract it is enforceable contract. A breach of contract is a failure, without legal excuse, to perform any promise that forms all or part of the contract. 4 Elements of a Breach of Contract Claim (and more) The existence of a contract; Performance by the plaintiff or some justification for nonperformance; Failure to perform the contract by the defendant; and, Resulting damages to the plaintiff. Breach of an oral contract: 2 years from the date the contract was broken you can sue.

[@TraumaChaplain]

The logic of his money is my money and my money is my money does not compute

[@Gk2003m]

A man needs to hold the line on certain things. It is our money. She gets to manage it, sort of… but what I did was, before we went house-hunting, make an agreement with her. We would pay off the mortgage as soon as reasonably doable. We would also do ALL other major purchases in cash, or at zero interest. Everything. Cars, furniture, appliances, home repairs, home upgrades. And I held her to that agreement. A couple times she went nuts over the compromises it entailed, but I held firm. And unlike virtually everyone else we know, we are long paid off on the mortgage. We have done major repairs, major room upgrades, purchased a handful of new cars including luxury BMWs, AND socked away a good nest egg. Because we stuck to the agreement. Because I held her to that agreement.

[@TGP109]

40% of American wives outearn their husbands, thanks very much.

[@ayhechu8931]

@@TGP109What about the remaining 60%? Does it not count? I’m sure 60 is way greater than 40. I refuse to use statistics because, to me, relationships specifically marriage should not be about “equality” but “complementarity”. Starting with physiology, ladies got “warm holes” while men got “hot rods”. The key words are COMPLEMENT and AGREE on everything.

[@Mom_Luvs_Tech]

I’ve apparently never chosen good men. 😩

[@etseredouard3146]

let your husband lead...Husbands, lead your family, if she wont comply get rid of her, it's that simple...if your woman has to let you lead, she doesn't respect you

[@Vid7872]

If she takes out the word "obey" from the wedding vows, it's a sign of how the marriage will go

[@etseredouard3146]

@@Vid7872 exactly lol but even if it’s in there they will bait and switch once they are in the marriage because they are like children. Just make it clear it’s either obedience or the streets and be willing to let her go. A woman that doesn’t follow your leadership will make your life miserable and as a man no woman should be letting you do anything

[@nerychristian]

@@etseredouard3146 It would be easier, if the laws weren't designed in favor of women. I bet if the women couldn't get alimony or child support or custody, they wouldn't want a divorce, and would be on their best behavior.

[@TGP109]

It has nothing to do with ''respect''-it has to do with lazy a*s husbands. Some men complain about being nagged but it's not nagging if you're not doing.

[@alexisc7565]

​@@nerychristianLmao most men couldn't last 6 months with sole custody of their kids with no outside help from female family members.

[@nineteeneightyfour3680]

God bless this woman!!!

[@kathleencook2279]

I wish happiness for you. I truly do.

[@calvindenzmorejr3088]

Every time I watch one of your videos. You describe my wife perfectly.

[@Vid7872]

@7:07 I've heard so many stories of moms who swooped in to protect their sons from having their McFly moment. Mom broke up the fight before he got the chance to punch out Biff.

[@ScriptureFirst]

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[@bumpercoach]

for men they believe in salvation by works (and even then they condemn all to hell) but for themselve its purely by grace

[@ScriptureFirst]

Elaborate 🙏🏼

[@bumpercoach]

@@ScriptureFirst Accountability is on men but assumed not on women as typical for supremacist mindsets void of humility

[@bjg3474]

Your content should be required in schools.

[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

My Ex now, before the divorce would give me things she was unable to due, due to her polio. this was like this for a few years, until i retired 6 years ago, it went down hill from there.

[@Vid7872]

Women get MS now. It's so common, it's suspicious

[@user-xp9ry8yh9z]

The problem is that all men think they are "good" men. Saying that she should be OK with everything he wants in the bedroom can lead to issues. I knew a woman who was sick from a disease that affected her muscles/soft tissue. Her hands could barely open and close, but her husband wanted a hand job because she was unable to have v-sex. Yeah, he thought he was a "good" man. Please define a "good" man so that young, naive women don't accept abuse as normal.

[@onlysongs1607]

Dude, this channel is full of "good" men, by a "good" woman

[@Dawnarow]

Can all be reduced to far easier principles... sorry Ima have to let you figure this out, but make broader categories and relay all the information to these... try to help more people. You are not a happiness expert and I say that with a lot of respect for the work and effort you've poured into this, thus far. You've seen how the returns can be extremely positive and, even, exponential. Stipulating that all of this is just in an attempt makes you less of an obstacle to yourself in this endeavor. I wishyou the best. Oh and... while younger women are not mature enough, yet ::: it's still worth a shot to look at youtube's "Modern woman" content. It'll help you gauge how far parted some people are. The world needs better influences and you'd gain a lot of traction if you broaden your scope and simplify the message to fit the masses. Even those in a marriage would benefit from a greater perspective as you will find far better categories for the info you share. No more limits. Take care!

[@coffeeandgrind]

In my opinion, a woman will naturally release herself from these areas of life the moment her man has proven he can handle it. So gentlemen, don't worry about her submitting, just build yourself up and she will follow once she realizes your path is clearer than hers

[@Fitricson]

That’s the common lies told to men. Character is shown early in the relationship. When women go to work, they don’t check if their boss is a good leader, they know their roles, even when the company makes losses… imagine it is their husbands leading company, I would hear the same excuse: “he has to prove” First of all? Most of women fail with their behaviour and attitude to be taken seriously in the first place. It’s the audacity for me. Double standards are real here

[@coffeeandgrind]

@@Fitricson No, the problem is that most men "adjust" for women. Like your example about the work thing, women know the company will carry on regardless how they behave, and also they get an immediate reward for submitting (a paycheck). If men operated like a company their women will know that the men will simply move on if they don't fall in line. So gentlemen, live your life like a company, make no adjustments for women, that way there won't be an excuse to tolerate the nonsense

[@Fitricson]

@@coffeeandgrind good behaviour is not spontaneous or “just come naturally”. A woman with integrity and respect knows her place from the beginning. Those men who choos these incapable women, are a reflection of their own decisions. Not capable to move with clear mind and logic. And still, a woman saying she can be romantically with a man without submission and respect, she is an immature person and would never be able to deal with a man that doesn’t tolerate disrespect. Most of the time, these women already got dumped by at least one of those men. No one should wait for them, when they want at the same time the complete package from the man on the table…

[@erwinrommel8422]

@@Fitricson so woman are beneath u

[@Arvak777]

But it's not a self correcting problem, thousands of men are in distress and no amount of "alpha man" theology will fix it, it just pushes the problem away

[@moussinobied5013]

Thanks tell me how or the rule's of a good man

[@davidbundesen5867]

I hope there are women that actually SEE this channel. This woman speaks truth. Listen to her.

[@phoenixtoash2396]

I have seen it. And I find it to be interesting. I want to have a slave too. But I am not a male... Maybe I should be changed so I can be free like men are.

[@jimjohnson394]

Maybe this is just nitpicking, but the term "submissive" seems a little harsh. It isn't like you are compelling your wife to do whatever in some dungeon or something, just be agreeable and have integrity with whatever you agree with. My wife and I have a good marriage, and I rarely find myself compelling her to do something against her will. If we do have a conflict in opinions, I'll typically ask myself if the issue matters enough for me to force it, if I should let it go and let her decide, or if we should both come back to it after some thought. Learn to be civil and honest, and that will eliminate 90% of any tension.

[@b.d.hooten1785]

you're not nitpicking - but rather you're not understanding the meaning behind "submissive" - you're thinking of a sexual/dominance thing. Karyn was very clear in her definition and use of the word - perhaps you need to watch her full video instead of just this snippet to get a better context of the word. Very similar to when dancing - the man leads and the wife follows. She knows to follow because you're leading. If she goes her own way - you two will trip up and/or fall.

[@andyjones3304]

Why is submissive a dirty word? That’s part of the lie modern feminism has sown over time. We all practice submission, every day. Whether it be to your employer, government, law enforcement etc. Submission is not a bad thing, civilized society requires it. In the context of a marriage, it simply means a wife follows her husbands lead, and supports his decisions, assuming that he leads in a way that that is respectful of her and her desires.

[@thehappywifeschool]

@jimjohnson394, thank you for your comment. I understand where you are coming from. My definition of submissive is purposely not harsh. Submission means respecting your husband's opinions and decisions and not invalidating him. Thank you for giving us a great example of how a good man thinks in his marriage.

[@USER_S4V4NT]

vocab really doesn’t matter, but i do agree that women submitting only because the have to is no better, a woman who doesn’t submit because they want to still isn’t a good wife.

[@TGP109]

@@andyjones3304 Uhm, because many men have used it as such?

[@TraumaChaplain]

What's manifested in the physical realm is a reflection of the spiritual and in regards to control it is the root cause of the infection of a Jezebel spirit. Look up some of the material and books by Bob Larson

[@josephskowronski]

I also would strongly recommend role playing, it's Hot!

[@kriselise_]

While I’ve enjoyed watching a lot of your content recently and learned a lot, intuitively I feel like you’re overcompensating to the far side of Pearl/Pick Me content because of your personal issues in marriage that you’ve shared. Once you cross that boundary, you realize your/ our husbands will still want the younger prettier version of us no matter what we do/say :/ He will also resent you eventually for having a channel in which you only talk to men online 99% of the time because your audience base is male and for the validation of men even though your intentions are good! Please remember to balance Christian submissiveness with respect for yourself. The husband is instructed to love his wife as Christ loved the church (not drink excessively, yell, slack in work ethic and parenting the way so many “good” men are admitting to in the comments” wondering why their wife left after x amount of years”. Women submit when men LEAD, as the Bible instructs. Many men cannot and will not lead and are using your channel to excuse their bad behavior

[@dbarnholdt]

This is so stupid and hilarious. I am a man of 60 and I have never had a problem with women not wanting sex. Yes some women wants a lot of sex and others not so much. The same goes for men. Men wants to be submissive too. In sex, finance and children care. People are different. There is no one way to live. For each his own. This recipes on internet just creates sorrow for thom it doesnt fit.

[@tom-kz9pb]

Advising women to be "submissive" is pitiful. The better way to approach marriage is as equal partners, discussing things and coming to mutual agreements on issues such as expenditures.

[@nerychristian]

The bible says that the woman must submit to her husband. There is no such thing as equal partners. Someone will always have to lead and make the decisions.

[@AmazonRiderNeoLove]

Being submissive does not mean you are not equal. It is a voluntary following by your own want and need, for yourself. Being submissive is like someone asking if you want to go to the movies, and you say, "sure, whatever you want to do it fine by me" in a way that is happily following someone. Being submissive is not pitiful, we are submissive in many different ways, all of us, in every day life. Your boss, you are submissive to, if you let your partner decide what to eat, you are being submissive, if you are lawful, you submit yourself to always making sure you do not break those laws. Same thing with relationships. If you happily let someone lead you out of your own volition, that is being submissive. Being submissive is not unequal, weak, a doormat, or any of that. You are equal, you just like to follow. Being submissive has to come from you though, it is not about forcing someone to submit, that is abuse. You can still discuss things and have mutual agreements, that isn't exempt from being submissive. You can talk and say your mind, that is not exempt from submissiveness. It is about negotiating of how you are submissive and what you want to get out of it, for your partner, and for you too, if you don't have that, you are in an abusive relationship where one is not thinking of the other's wants and needs, but only taking from you. If you decide that your husband is to always have the last say in things, that is a negotiation by yourself that you should be happy with, for yourself. If not, then don't do it. But, sometimes, it is not always about us, to genuinely want to do what your partner wants to do, that is the heart of submission, and I call it, being a good partner. Even a dominant can have a submissive side, to me. That being, the want to please their partner. If you want to please your partner, make them happy, do something for them out of your own desire, that is being submissive. How is that pitiful??

[@RamathRS]

Your complete inability and refusal to even consider the idea that a good man is able to lead his family is pitiful.

[@j.p.5716]

You are pitiful. Man-card REVOKED!

[@TGP109]

@@AmazonRiderNeoLove Ok, so men and women are equally submissive before the law, but only women are to be submissive to their husbands. Whatever happened to people agreeing to what they wanted from life/marriage BEFORE GETTING MARRIED? Religious people know damn well what they mean by submissive, they aren't fooling anyone. There are enough cases of men leading their families off of financial cliffs, and worse to disregard this message.