4 Steps to Mastering Your Emotions | Your Negative Attitude Blocks Your Blessings

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My GIRLS! I absolutely loved making this video for you, and I know it's going to help so many of you. To get what you want in life, to receive what you pray for, and to attract beautiful things into your life, you will need to learn to understand and control your emotions. The importance of controlling your emotions cannot be overstated. What is in your heart is the truth; you can consciously choose to think, 'I am grateful,' but until you feel grateful and your body is in that same state, you will not know the benefits of gratitude. To 'become,' your mind and body must be in the same state, meaning you have to think and feel abundant, successful, and grateful to then experience that in your life. The power of controlling your emotions lies in the ability to direct your thoughts and feelings towards positivity. When you gain control over your emotions, you can navigate through challenges with resilience and maintain a positive mindset.I genuinely hope you enjoy this video and that it brings you benefits in every possible way! Much love to you all! ✨🧚🏽‍♂️
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♡ Contents Of Video ♡
00:00 - Intro
00:44 - Why I made this video
04:30 - “Just think positive” DOESN'T WORK
05:49 - Why is this important?
14:20 - How we get stuck in negative cycles
20:14 - Proof that change is possible.. Even if it doesn't feel like it
22:51 - Understand Emotions
25:01 - How to control your emotions - 4 Steps
34:11 - Benefits
34:49 - Get out of a negative headspace
39:43 - Outro
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I did this the other day! I got some “bad news”. Spoke to God about how I felt about it, cried and starting planning around an alternative solution (while crying lol) & there was a blessing right around that corner 🤗!

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I used to be so ruled by my emotions… thank God for self realization 😌💕

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i want to recommend the book, 'the gap and the gain', which may be read to get more into depth about the topic tbh, but i find that if you implement this short belief into your daily life, that should be enough. so it essentially summarises to the idea that you need to measure your current self against the progress you have already made, going backwards in time. and not measuring yourself against your ideals, as this may lead to lack of motivation, burn out, self-doubt, etc. its honestly something that bahja has alr said but if anyone likes books, go ahead lol.

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This video open my eyes on how i can mastering my emotions becaus;e.Every single time when i was mad,people keep saying to me:Oh,focus on yourself,oh you are too sensitive,oh just think positive.But i didnt know how to doing this.I will follow this steps tysm may Allah bless you!

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