5 CRITICAL QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE GETTING MARRIED w/ GUEST RAY MURRAY (EP. 58)

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EP. 58) 5 CRITICAL QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE GETTING MARRIED w/ GUEST RAY MURRAY We’ve all heard of financial literacy but why haven’t we heard about marriage literacy? Don’t you think it’s important to have a class about arguably the most important decision you will ever make in your life? @iamraymurray took us to school in this episode. He covered the 5 critical questions that you should ask before getting married. If you’re someone who’s married, dating or interested in jumping the broom this episode is for you!
Enjoy! 🥃🥃🥃

[@laclairelcyy007]

“Someone without direction, cannot lead someone else !” That line was POWERFUL !!!!!!!!

[@EbonyBrownChats]

This is the best conversation about marriage I’ve ever encountered. Seriously.

[@laceyarrie]

Agreed.

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Still picking up gems 💎🥃

[@missa9313]

One of my favorite lines from the pastor "Someone else's experiences are not your Bible" whew! And how others can affect your relationship 😩

[@chenelleburdette4604]

Wooow “Your marriage can’t heal your lack of direction” that’s a very powerful message. You can’t take these kind of conversations for granted and I am happy to have found this podcast.

[@BlickyWhite]

Aw man we absolutely need a part 2, this was such a dope episode! So much insight and gives you a lot to think about while preparing for marriage and just dating in general.

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

What was your favorite part of the episode?? 🥃🥃🥃

[@Carlitothegreat]

50:52 was gold. This is key to a healthy partnership

[@emmanuelatilola528]

You heard him say we can do it again! We need a part 2 & 3!! Exceptional conversation about what’s it’s really like to be in a union, outside of the frivolous things that are amplified to our generation today on social media!

[@AdrienneDMayfield]

1. Who breaks the tie? 2. Are you compatible with my purpose? 3. Can we talk finance? 4. What’s the vision for our marriage? 5. Do we agree?

[@cloeespinoza7205]

Is there someone who has a bigger voice than me?

[@D33Beloved]

1. Compatible with my purpose lifelong 2. Who breaks the tie 3 .Financial openess 4. Vision for Marriage 5. Agreement

[@mattwalker2877]

Bruh I'm like five minutes in to this podcast and bro already blew me away! Going through a divorce and this is so on point. My ex and I are still great friends, but my purpose didn't meet our compatibility, but I never knew. Wow so real.

[@MillionaireLid]

“Men who are not locked 🔒 into a vision for their lives end up hurting their mates” big facts i’ve always felt like as a man I should have something going and have a very solid understanding of who I am before I bring a woman into the mix. This was further confirmation. Great gems dropped in this episode.

[@tentrickspony8925]

to be clear...it goes both ways...everyone, man or woman or other...you gotta take care of you first.

[@jmic101]

Bravo 👏🏽

[@missa9313]

I hope we get another show with him as a guest! This is my favorite episode by far 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@alexandraparker5211]

I’m happily married, however I wish I’d heard this before we got married 🥃🥃🥃 love, love, love this. Every bit of this

[@DestinationDionna]

Wow….. This is one of them ones!!!!!! What a great episode fellas. As a divorced Woman about to remarry I completely agree with the Pastor…..you definitely need a partner who aligns with your purpose!

[@sarcasm176]

Lord protect ME cause this man has BARS. Wow, powerful convo

[@antoinettejohnson1565]

When you spend time with them around their family you will see it too.

[@instrinsiclove]

Yhew! Man oh man. How is this podcast pushing my mental boundaries EVERY WEEK?! So much new perspective from this episode!

[@kendraanderson4656]

Same queen!!!!!!

[@Truestpoint]

Girl I’m rewatching this!

[@christinaelem7487]

There is ALOT of content on a healthy marriage and relationships out there. Books, podcasts and videos from therapists and everyday people who lived it. Of course vet your sources, but there is still alot of reliable content out there. Especially now. It may not use the exact phrase "marriage literacy," but seek and you will definitely find. But this was a GREAT discussion!

[@qhamaclaasen4049]

Share some please 🚫😎💡

[@queenjee8570]

I love listen to intelligent black men conversing with each other💪🏾👌🏾🥂🎯TOP TIER, Each one teach one. Great show guys, BRAVO

[@JayLeiRay]

Omar: what’s that called? Duke: …discipline Me: 😮‍💨 Fire episode! I didn’t want it to end. God bless all 4 of you 🖤

[@ivyp4142]

This is my new favorite episode, though I love them all. Please bring Pastor Ray back. And can he start a husband school? 🥃🥃🥃

[@anamorlamusic]

This is by far the most valuable information on marriage/relationships I’ve ever heard 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@lee-threeimagery7150]

“We’re dangerous without purpose!!”.. Wow!! Powerful episode. Keep up the great work my brothas. I needed to hear this.🙏🏽

[@alisabee3]

I think to avoid rushing we have to start dating intentionally. That way you Can start to ask the questions needed to determine if that person is gonna be your person.

[@MaishaOnTop]

THIS 📌

[@ysin6563]

1:00:27 “I don’t feel it today, but I’m committed”. 👏🏽

[@valentinewairimu3351]

This is why this is the number one podcast❤️

[@EbonyBrownChats]

Wow! This is by far the best episode so far! P Ray is amazing!!

[@asipofmosscato]

By far one of the best episodes so many gems I did not want it to end y’all definitely gotta bring him back ! 🤞🏾

[@jkinese3841]

Ahhhh! It was so good! I didn’t want to listen to this at first, because as a single person no where near marriage, I didn’t know how relevant it would be. But wow, so many takeaways. ”If you don’t have the next chapter, you stay in the current chapter.” …in fear…blew my mind. Figuring out the tie breakers up front, what a great strategy for compromise. Recognizing and acknowledging each others strengths up front before pride is in the way. 😅 The breadwinner giving their stay home spouse a separate allowance account to respect the sacrifice and not dehumanize them, beautiful solution. One can only hope that their partner would be as introspective as you all and surrounded by men like this that can share such wisdom. The way you all self improve, the way you all love your women. I want my community and crew to look like you all! Maybe when I make it back to LA I will connect with you all and your beautiful women. You all are truly a community of inspiration! Oh, and I shared this!

[@joannaharris6738]

Shhhhheeeeeeesssh. This is gold! People need to hear this. Men and women. Can’t wait for Part 2 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@naej.6844]

This was such an insightful episode. Although I am a woman, I still found this to be useful and full of truth. Thank you for all you do fellas!

[@octaviad9082]

As a women this episode moved me. I’ve I’m not new to N&N either . But thank you for providing such a great gift to many of us🙏🏾💕 The pastor is the truth!! Also thanks duke for being transparent and vulnerable as always . Blessings guys 🫶🏽

[@theprmuse]

Thank you guys for this! I know as a single lady, this conversation is needed and appreciated! We need more of this especially perspective from our black males

[@kayshanice689]

Never been married…when I say I took so many notes! Literally, not mentally ✍🏽 this was amazing! 🙌🏽 Stepped on necks but respectfully…so necessary. Very valuable gems here 👏🏽

[@daniellemason8481]

Amazing 🎉 I really enjoyed the part about being committed even when you aren’t feeling it! Thank you all

[@purposefullyzenny]

Wow, what a phenomenal episode. This was truly a blessing to receive.

[@princess3ks60]

This conversation is important. I’m thankful that I had the opportunity to listen to this. I intend to listen to this message again.

[@angelbeautii8991]

I just love hearing mature black men speak about their experiences and feelings on life and relationships

[@FollowingTheCall]

Did Omar say "that shit don't matter" in front of the pastor? lol tickled me so lol 😂👏🏾 Great show guys, loved these topics.

[@gabriellemm3464]

What a great episode! Such good knowledge 🔑🥃🥃🥃 we need a part 2 of this marriage literacy!

[@47Sylvia1]

This was a great episode. These young men and women need to hear this.

[@NikitaMaxwell]

What an insightful episode! So many gems.Thank you💙💙

[@cindyl5087]

I absolutely love and enjoyed this podcast SO much. So much valuable knowledge and very valid questions asked and answered. I would love to see more of him on your Podcast!!

[@jordanmccain5299]

We need a part 2!

[@sunnythree8904]

Beautiful podcast! I’m in love with these topics, the maturity and emotional growth that is being displayed on here with strong black men. I’m listening to all the episodes now..❤❤❤

[@rashedavis6566]

If you are not ready and they are. Let them move on. If you need time to grow/ let them fly!

[@dawnssunrises6050]

SERIOUS PAUSE: (We used to have the stereotype: Angry Blk Woman) Nowadays, it seems like most Blk Men feel they GOTTA BE: HARD and/or ANGRY to be STRONG or POWERFUL. It seems like we have more Angry Blk Men than Angry Blk Women now. 😳

[@lepenseur1]

@47:24 that pause though ! and that sigh💨... Ray with the💎💎💎

[@J15_Savant]

Some really good and amazing points....take your time!

[@gegebuysflorida]

Duke!!! Thank you shedding light on the comments people make on it being time to be married . I needed to hear it. Right on time! Question 4 was directed for me . Thank you!

[@alisabee3]

Wait I’m not done with the episode but this is a really good episode!!!!

[@kadeshabarnard6320]

“Submit to each other…” I’m in the gym listening to the episode and verbally said YES when I heard that line lol immediately looked around to see if anyone heard me 😂🤷🏽‍♀️ I love it here!

[@veeboss4853]

This episode should go viral! I have to watch again to take notes

[@jmic101]

This podcast ep is truly music to my ears. You guys already know this was a killer conversation. 🔥

[@FAITHANDSLIME]

Such a transformational episode, fellas! Thank you for blessings us DEEPLY INSIGHTFUL.

[@keys8885]

I’m 16 mins in this shit 🔥 🔥 🔥

[@QueenOyinkan]

incredible episode! So many gems!

[@belledelemos9615]

Such blessing, please part 2

[@Tpres1420]

wow this was great, not married but love hearing diff insights on things. I do date and been devoted to my faith so nothing sexual. I just believe this is what most ppl need to hear (men yes, but I believe everyone) shouldn't date until you know your purpose. Good one hear guys

[@amandagermain]

Pastor speaking facts

[@DestinationDionna]

Marriage is definitely an agreement. Every couple should do premarital preparation (preferably before the wedding date is set). I would love to see y’all have Tim Ross on the Pod (check him out his podcast is called The Basement)

[@zmf7371]

Great Episode. Very insightful. Shift my mindset on how marriage should have a purpose and function. Need a Part 2 gentlemen. Great, Great Episode

[@kerryb.6419]

This was sooo good!! I needed to hear this. Y’all keep doing your thing, you’re blessing many people with these gems of wisdom 💎🙏🏽

[@Anonymous-cl2es]

My ex used to say he would change when we got married...um no sir, thats not how it works! I'm glad I walked away from that relationship!

[@RealMadrid079]

This podcast was VERY insightful on a lot of aspects on marriage and it is also relatable to a relationship before the marriage! Definitely gave me a different perspective on how to go about choosing someone that is compatible with my purpose and how it all comes together. GREAT episode guys.

[@jkinese3841]

Admittedly when I saw the title of this video I skipped it lol, but when I saw the short and noticed it was you guys podcast I came back to watch because I knew there would be valuable information lol.

[@Thegracegod]

Listen this episode is so deep. It’s so legit. I’m speechless.

[@CL-je9zc]

Loveeee this!!

[@96Gabyk]

This was fire!! Part 2?

[@deshawnforte]

Powerful Episode ! 🥶

[@mattwalker2877]

Bros this was one of ya'll best episodes! Definitely sharing it with others! I wish I had this back in the day, but glad it's here now!

[@madlintutu6099]

BEST EPISODE!!! Gems upon gems upon gems💎🔥🔥🔥

[@simplybayyana]

This is such a great episode I'm catching up on the old episodes this is amazing! Thank you all for this space, the greatest takeaway I took "is this person compatible with the purpose" I'm definitely going to be coming back to this episode.

[@ethereal5556]

Whhheeewwwww this conversation gonna make and shake some households. Send this to everyone yall know frfr

[@Kchi_co]

Such a powerful eye opening episode!!! Seriously incredible words of wisdom from everyone of you! Blessings to y’all and more success with this podcast! Keep y’all foot on the gas!

[@marteciagass4975]

Great discussion as usual! 👏🏾

[@msjessiedenise]

There’s too much! Will definitely listen again and share. So many gems

[@sherrondadavis4816]

This was definitely a great episode and I thank yall for this one.💜🙏🏾 I really do feel like all the information was important so I can't really pick a favorite

[@KeySlaysss]

Yo this was REALLY good and it literally made me not even want keep dating and get right back to me!

[@JamilWarren]

This was the best episode of Nice & Neat!

[@chloelenoir6754]

This was an amazing episode. SO insightful. Absolutely incredible!!!

[@andrewasare7192]

Truly amazing conversation. Thanks y’all

[@relle973]

He didn’t think it was ok for Tom to keep playing because he has a family but it’s ok for him to be away 2 weeks and miss holidays because of work. There’s always a give and take just like his wife folds the cloths one way and he folds another , who breaks the tie? You won’t agree on everything 100%. All in all good energy from the brothers.

[@clayair19]

Incredible! Mind shift for real. Why was I waiting to watch this sheesh!

[@frandiablaise7853]

As a woman I took a lot from this y’all need a pt 2

[@render404]

Definitely needed to hear every bit of this. Thank you nice & neat ✍🏾

[@temogogift1108]

Yoo fam!!! Thank you for this S/O

[@TestimonyTyme]

Good talk

[@WhoIsTheeMeister]

Marriage is a part of the purpose. That needs to be understood! Singlehood while serving obviously wasn’t best for the purpose. The ex wife obviously wasn’t for the long term purpose, just a lesson. Purpose is not just about money, career and what we do for the world!

[@kobeemendoza6313]

incredibly powerful this episode wow

[@CHEETAHGD9]

This episode 🔥

[@kmerelan]

Wow, this was amazing! Thank you guys!

[@mc.2638]

Give us a part 2 please!

[@theresalor]

Amazing conversation!!!

[@dawnssunrises6050]

MAJOR PAUSE: A lotta people give cool advice that have never been married nor divorced. But once you've experienced both? ALLLLLL of that TRADITIONAL mindset stuff goes COMPLETELY out the window. It's a HUUUUGE waste of energy & time, & a MAJOR catalyst for divorce. (Hence, our divorce rates.) TOTAL PEACE becomes your future Bible.

[@RonnieRapGame]

This was good

[@daphneerose8026]

This!!!! That's it! that's my comment.

[@crystalrubbie9383]

8:30 damn i always knew that but i couldnt word it right lool well said sir

[@professormiles1890]

I love this podcast because it’s about becoming a WHOLEsome Man. NnN to the moon

[@dennesaaa]

Wow wow, GREAT episode 🥃🥃

[@ziondurden5598]

One of the best ep. THUS FAR