54 years old: I have NO friends

[@helsbels2582]

I’d rather have no friends rather than toxic friends. Be careful of people, they have agendas.

[@amybrownmidlife]

I have learned that lesson the hard way. Thanks for watching

[@Ann-eb8dp]

So many people have agendas

[@elainerobertson1988]

More so now than ever - sadly.

[@DevonRexLady]

Likewise.

[@irishcountrygirl78]

Couldn't have worded it better. I was really badly cut twice because I was passive and allowed nonsense. Be at peace lovely people ❤.

[@vahnipomlover]

I have no friends. My choice. Fed up with being used and abused. I’ve never been happier or more settled. Love my life. I have animals and hobbies. I even run my own business from home. No regrets what so ever. My life is so simple. I am 54 too. This is wisdom.

[@mariekitty]

❤

[@christianespan8116]

"Fed up with being used and abused" sounds like my life. 😞

[@jaynecliff1568]

You sound very much like me. Pets, hobbies, a business. I have 3 good friends 2 of which in particular I can rely on, one of whom I'm in business with. We see each other sporadically. You're better on your own I think. And the idea of meeting loads of people in social settings is horrifying. And a waste of my time and money frankly. Glad not to be the only one.

[@brynne77]

Well, I guess you're unique. I don't have many friends, but definitely want more. I can relate to your saying you're tired of being used and abused. I've been treated badly by friends in the past, too, but I still want friends. I need to go somewhere where I have more in common with people.

[@BumbleBee666-u5t]

This sounds perfect, good for you. I have a few friends but only one that I could really count on even though she is a little self absorbed I know I could count on her which makes her special to me.

[@sourcehealing82]

You seem like the kind of person that I would want to be friends with.

[@saxifrage-q3h]

My thought exactly! ♥

[@lianacordova8094]

Yup❤

[@Becky3392]

I agree.

[@Julie2554]

I live in Scotland but if I lived near you I would be your friend. I wish you luck in your friendship journey 🌼🌻

[@Dusenfossan]

Definitely!

[@angelalaurent2324]

52, no friends, no boyfriend, no husband...just two beautiful cats.......I love my life. Friends are overrated. Had them, hurt by them or just annoyed with their lifestyle choices. It's nice to know there are people out there like us! Thank you for this video!

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for watching. Take care

[@i_love_rescue_animals]

Very similar. I have a few years on you. I have a few friends (very few) and now live overseas and am retired. I have two, wonderful cats (who I brought with me, of course) and one of them is laying his head on my hand while I type this. I wish I could get to the point of friends being overrated - but I do get lonely. All the best to you. ❤

[@LucianaVIP1]

This is our little group "no friends, beautiful cats". I think we are the richest, nicest, kindest people out there. Cats are guardian angels. Soft and fragrant, intelligent and sensitive, loving and caring.🐾🐈💕

[@SharperMind123]

California and Florida are transient states with lots of population in and out…less people with local roots and grounding by family…

[@Lynn22823]

Same here have 2 cats too. Sending you hugs❤❤

[@kChandler10]

I think this subject is important. I am so glad I found your channel, Amy. I am 71 and have no friends. My husband died one year ago from a 2 year illness and that ended acquaintances and neighbors contacting me to ask about him. I've realized my only long time friend is not a real friend. Thoughtless comments hurt, but I forgave. You can easily discover who really cares if you stop reaching out and the 'friend' never bothers to find out what happened to you! Yes, the loneliness is crushing but I am determined to keep that to myself and find peace being my own friend.

[@nancyinthegarden3160]

I’m 69 recently and moved was invited immediately within to a women’s night out. I have so much to do, I don’t have time to have daily friends right now. Pressing issues with husband’s health is priority right now also my creative outlets. I would love this to bc an x space where we could all talk as if we’re visiting

[@normanmacfarlane6724]

Yes , the loneliness can be crushing but you'd be amazed at how it becomes your new normal and how very used to being by yourself 😂❤ You are beautiful , appreciate that .

[@FayreeenAarow]

I can very well relate to what you say. I do have had what I will say I loved my friends I thought more of them than my sister so to speak. But they weren’t my friend. That hurts deeply! I don’t think we really over itas interesting other people to be our friend. Of course I would suggest that you find somebody that you can stand to keep some confident with, but don’t tell them your secrets don’t open your heart as in fully trusting. Just keep them at base and you’ll be all right.❤ God bless you.!

[@FayreeenAarow]

Correction: as in (allowing )other people to be our friend😢😢😢

[@FayreeenAarow]

You had a severe eye-opener when changing positions in a company, or even leaving a company how you were treated by your so-called friends. It’s it’s a lot more hurtful when it’s your church family that treats you like that.( But it’s better to know it now than later.)… lesson well learned. (Don’t put your head back on the chopping block.)…. (God, ). knowing all things can give you a trustworthy friend.!!!!….❤

[@newchapter6867]

A different question to ask yourself is, are the people you are socialising with worthy of having YOU as a friend. You seem like someone worth knowing to me 🤗

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thank you for your kind words

[@Loumag-ky9bz]

@@amybrownmidlife I agree. I think the same thing. You need to be around more healthy women.

[@Becky3392]

Omg what a beautiful comment

[@Dusenfossan]

exactly!

[@a-k6575]

Your first friend is yourself. That's life.

[@walter77ify]

Sage words.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Good point.

[@Lilione111]

I agree. It took me a long time to learn that lesson.

[@markmarkyyy5632]

Ain't that the truth!!!!

[@MariaGarcia-zd3st]

Why look for anyone when there's YOU?

[@Shelly9401]

I'm 57 and have NO friends and NO drama. I like my own company ..L'm not married.

[@amybrownmidlife]

I'm so glad you found peace. No drama sounds amazing. Thanks for sharing.

[@shellydee9377]

Same here Shelly! Must be our name!😊

[@jonnsmith180]

"I may be alone but I am never lonely". Mental strength can overcome almost anything.

[@Holger101]

I have no friends either. I am 47 years old. My former friends do their best to create drama around me unfortunately.

[@MelindaMelinda-y1j]

Same… and I LOVE it!!

[@hazelwagambie9569]

At times having no or few friends is quite peaceful and less stressful. A hobby replaces that void.

[@Mel-vt9mr]

I had what i thought were friends but realised it was friendships of convenience. I was the listener, i always accomodated them, their plans when it suited them, i was the last minute catch up for a coffee. But when i actively tried to make plans to catch up over the xmas period and my birthday only i person bothered. I dont have any family or husband just my 2 teenage sons. Everybody knows i dont have any family yet 99% of the time ive spent xmas and birthdays with just my boys since they were toddlers. It was a painful reality check to admit i was not anyones priority. Since then ive stopped giving them my energy listening and counselling them. Stopped breing available for last minute coffees. Not surprisingly i dont here from anyone anymore. I see a pattern in that ive failed to have good boundaries in place early on. All of these people have selfish traits but are not bad people, they just knew that i didnt expect to be a priority or say no or limit my energy i gave them. I made myself too available and accomodating and never put my needs first. Moving forward im aware of this now and will be more assertive and have clear boundaries from the start. If its not an equal friendship, its not a friendship!

[@joannedeepsheep8161]

Mel I feel the same way. I’ve gone out of my way to listen and be there but never had it returned. Even my sister uses me. No longer,I’m done!

[@lynnewillette2654]

Perfectly said. I agree.

[@piarademacher4024]

Sounds so familar to me.

[@anne.christine]

I can relate. Lots of love to you ❤️

[@TravelinRosy2025]

I'm in same boat

[@karenhicks8664]

You are so right about co workers. I had to leave my job 11 years ago due to illness. Never got well enough to go back. I had worked there for 23 years. I was so shocked that no one stayed in touch with me after I left.

[@amybrownmidlife]

I am so sorry you experienced that. Keep well

[@i_love_rescue_animals]

I'm sorry both that you got sick and never well enough to go back to work AND that no one reached out to you! That's not right. I had a similar thing - I got permanently laid off from my job of 21 years (I had 2, very different jobs there) and then was hired back almost immediately as a contractor doing part time work for no benefits (yay) - I was 51. I limped along like that until the company was obviously not going to need me anymore, so I quit (the contracting work) - just to have a piece of self-respect, before they let me go again. Anyway, now I live in Portugal. I'm amazed at how FEW (like 2) people have reached out to ask me how my life is in Portugal. I have *some friends here, but it is still a struggle. All the best to you and I hope your health is improving. ❤

[@verapaine4275]

@@i_love_rescue_animals How do you like portugal?

[@TraceyBillsHomes]

Karen, it's shocking, but I recently learned the company you work for could care less about you. You are replaceable. Today's co-workers understand this and aren't showing up to work to make friends. And as far as a "team" at work..nope..that team member will cut you to rise above you. It's a crazy world we live in. We find our people on KZbin. Type/comment to/with strangers and think they get us. That is delusional as well.

[@Happy_crab630]

@@karenhicks8664 I have learned finally at a few years ago not to get too close to co workers. I did that in the past and became very close friends for many years. But of course shit happens and bye bye. Now I don’t share anything personal with co workers or anyone really.

[@dojocho1894]

63 Cardiologist, NYC after my 17 yr marriage ended I went through friends and now I am alone. But in the thick of it, I have discovered the Lord. It's odd but its always like I'm being guided by someone or thing daily so I dont feel alone..I actually feel fine. I took time to look back at my life and realized he was with me through so many tough times.......I am blessed.

[@amybrownmidlife]

I appreciate your words. You are blessed.

[@isagoldfield7393]

GOD IS IN CONTROL💛☀️💛

[@ScottsdaleSushi]

You are the doctor I would want taking care of my heart. Between your expertise & the Lord guiding you - what POWER!

[@nettewilson5926]

So you have an imaginary friend. And I am sure you will find other cultists to socialize with. But if it brings you happiness then it is a good thing for you.

[@dojocho1894]

@@nettewilson5926 lol I heard you had a imaginary friend as well but due to your narcissism it commited suicide....

[@cheriholman2892]

I find friendship mysterious. I feel like there is no one else on the universe who wants what I want.

[@anne.christine]

Well said!

[@MissCandy350]

Exactly!

[@belle6219]

Having friends beyond childhood is highly overrated. In reality, a single good friend is like a unicorn or the holy grail. At 66, I am intentionally alone, with no so-called friends, and could not be happier!

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for watching. Take care

[@mickeyward5945]

I'm 59 and have NO friends because I'm tired of fake people.

[@TravelinRosy2025]

😢 yes

[@NancyHsu-f9m]

I'm 55 years old. I have poor health, a toxic family (no support), no job ($ running out) - and no friends. I trust myself only. You're still blessed with your own family (and the family you grew up with), a career, and your health and intelligence. I no longer blame myself for my situation. I do my best and do what's right, but life is brutal. I'm happy for your blessings and maybe one day I'll have some myself.

[@nettiea9384]

So sorry… hang in there u r not alone. Its sad and brutal out here. I dont think our society is kind. Ppl r quick to look away frm the suffering of loneliness and depression brought about by loneliness. It is what it is here in this country in our independent fast paced money worshipping culture. Ppl find community at church and at other volunteer opptys. Dont gv up searching for the right group of ppl for u. If u find just one that wd be the holy graille! Dont gv up

[@grandma460]

You seem very kind and caring… 💙

[@NancyHsu-f9m]

@@nettiea9384 SORRY for this late reply. Thank you for your kind words! I do keep an open mind, but get disappointed over and over. Wouldn't it be wonderful if people in my situation found each other? I recently met a family who are church goers, but they only contact me sporadically. I doubt this will work out, but I'm putting all my energy into my life. I have an open mind and heart, but I have to be realistic in order to survive. I hate superficial associations. I work on being mentally strong. YOU ARE SO THOUGHTFUL TO CONTACT ME AND I HOPE YOU HAVE ALL THE WONDERFUL THINGS LIFE OFFERS, but has denied me. I WANT YOU TO BE HEALTHY AND HAPPY!

[@NancyHsu-f9m]

@@Thequietestquiet2875 I hope you have at least one person you can trust. If not, please keep mentally strong and take care of yourself physically. You must value and respect yourself. I LOVE animals, especially cats, but can't afford one. I hope to find an animal shelter to volunteer. I do enjoy doing what makes me happy, even on a limited budget. I spoil myself and hope you do too. Wouldn't it be wonderful if all the people like us found each other? Don't give up and keep searching for joy. ❤

[@dien2323]

@@NancyHsu-f9m Check out your local shelter’s foster program. They usually pay for all associated costs (e.g., medical, food, etc) while the dog lives with you, wag to be adopted. Win-win: dog gets reprieve from harsh shelter conditions and you get companionship. ❤

[@blatevola01]

I’m 69 and have spent most of my life alone. I enjoy my private time. People need to learn how to be strong and independent and be their own best friend. Enjoying one’s own company brings peace, lack of drama and plenty of time to do what you enjoy. There’s also plenty of time to learn who you are and to love yourself.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for sharing. Take care

[@trish87563]

Problem is, learning who I am showed me how much I want connection but don’t have it, and that revealed a deep, deep ache.

[@angeebb3080]

That's good and fine but not everyone wants to be by themselves all the time. I am an introvert but I like human companionship every once in a while also.

[@oliviastar3812]

@@trish87563 Try Jesus. May God bless you and help you with your connections. 🙂

[@tanial694]

Well said.

[@beckyv9393]

Oh goodness, you articulated this so well. I have almost exactly the same experience in regards to friendship. I get along well enough with others and have coworkers, but no friends. When I was 54, my daughter got married and a friend of hers hosted a wedding shower. My daughter asked me for my guest list and I had zero. I was tryng to skirt around the obvious but I don't think I'll ever forget the look on her face when I saw her realize that her mother didn't have friends. She politely suggested that it was a busy time of the year and a lot of people already had plans made weeks in advance and that she wasn't expecting everyone to be able to attend. I went along with that, of course. So yeah...sigh. I'm to the point now that I don't expect to ever have friends. It makes me sad to see how many of us there are in the same boat. All the best to you. 🌻

[@amybrownmidlife]

Oh gosh....I can really relate to your story. Virtual hug!

[@anne.christine]

❤

[@teresastaggs7923]

At 21 my sister wanted to throw a birthday party for me and invite all my friends. That's when I realized I didn't have any

[@pavla2055]

Some years ago I read an article about friendship warning people that few to none of the people you associate with regularly are actual friends . Activity friends are seldom real friends any more than co-workers . It's a hard lesson to learn . We really have to harden ourselves to that and move on . Treat yourself well !

[@thepragmatist]

Thanks for this video. It's not just you, we're in a weird time right now in the U.S. All the best to you.

[@a-k6575]

The weird time is global. "We're alone together", the title of a French film where three tenants otherwise strangers found support with each other. I last celebrated my birthday with my sons when I turned forty, it was my 65 ten days ago, some neighbours knew but no word. Battling rare cancers, have a selection of mobility aids, as some have a range of cars. I enjoyed my own company, choice of music, roasted a duck, bought a Pavlova smothered it with fresh whipped cream and fresh fruit, enjoyed the excess during four days. Then jumped back onto the carnivore diet, scanning the local pet rescues for a companion, I'm still looking I believe a four legged companion will find me. Been a single parent, mainly self-employed while living in both hemispheres, the chances of having long term friends who could pay regular visits is rather slim, and sons live in the opposite hemisphere. May we enjoy the day with a smile, ok odd tear.💃🕺

[@EarthWindFireable]

You're correct. There's something spiritually wrong in the U.S. or people are waking up to the spiritual world and they can no longer take humanity. That's me. I'm done with humans and am alone with my animals, but I'm happy.

[@2FollowHim777]

Do you think our 'sensitivity levels' rose? Covid, masks etc? 1:49

[@eneecie]

This started before Covid. A study came out in 2019 that said 45% of people have difficulty making friends and that the average American had not made a new friend in 5 years. Covid just made it worse.

[@lynnewillette2654]

@@2FollowHim777 Hmm. There’s a thought. Covid certainly did a number on us and definitely disappeared my social circle.

[@annacrossman1288]

I would love to have a friend, like you Amy!! So genuine and kind!!

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for sharing ~ Take care

[@CraftingMyWorld]

Thank you for sharing your video! I am in my 60s and have no close friends - by choice. I have a history of being friends with people who are needy, have problems and issues and end up being a doormat & a sounding board to all their problems which was incredibly draining. With your later video about the Mother's Groups, I could very much relate to what you shared. I learned the hard way when my child was diagnosed with a life threatening illness in 2012 and those "friends" were too busy with their own problems to give me the time of day. I just wanted a card or just a phone call - any acknowledgement - of the difficult journey that we were on - but no, you could hear crickets. I never felt more alone in my life at that time. And they just got on with their lives not including me because I was spending every waking moment at hospital for a year. In the end, it was probably a blessing even if it was a hard lesson. My life is immersed in my many hobbies: I enjoy the wildlife that visit our garden, creating a garden of beautiful plants and flowers which I love to photograph, I love to sew and do art - my life is so full and wonderful & simple and most-importantly: DRAMA-FREE. I do have a supportive partner and I have never been happier to not have close friends. Weirdly though: every so often I will see a group of ladies at a cafe laughing and having a wonderful time & I feel left-out & alone - yet I don't want to be a part of it.

[@amybrownmidlife]

I really relate to you, especially your last few sentences about seeing a group of ladies at a cafe laughing....

[@anyoneanyone3515]

I haven’t had friends my entire life. I was bullied and labeled as a child and an adult. I’m decent looking, dress nice, and I’m kinda, but my social queues were off. My timing was off in conversations, I divulged too much information or said something off putting or odd, and had insecure body language. I might look normal but I firmly believe I’m on the spectrum. I get so lonely and I drink sometimes just to kill the pain. I haven’t had a date in three years. I’m 53 yrs old.

[@anne.christine]

I can relate ❤

[@amybrownmidlife]

I can relate to a lot of what you said.

[@kayingthao5072]

I can relate . Have you thought about getting a dog? If you go to the dog park it can help you be around other people. Having animals around make it easy to start a conversation.

[@governmentchihuahua4132]

So you're not a robot. Don't put yourself down when other people are close minded.

[@Angela-j5i]

That is so me. I used to drink but stopped years ago I am married with grown up children but everything else you said about yourself is me ! I am a clone of you. I dress nice and look decent as well. Xxxx Take care ❤from uk 🇬🇧 Ps I’m 58 so have a few more years of disappointment than you have had. It hurts so much xxx

[@rainncorbin8291]

58, in a wheelchair, live alone, no family and no friends. Just my dogs.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Dogs are truly sent from heaven.

[@rainncorbin8291]

@@amybrownmidlife they are angels

[@kimwarner1681]

Dogs are much better than people, even family. I will take my dogs over family any day, but that's just me.

[@rosaliemenoza8426]

You have Jesus ❤️

[@rainncorbin8291]

@@rosaliemenoza8426 i don't want Jesus or religion. I'm an ex Christian for a reason.

[@Belluser-we1uc5cb2l]

58 and a widow since 2005. The day my "friends" disappeared. I have my cousin and my 3 sons and 2 dogs. I find people that are popular have superficial relationships. They are many Acquaintances. I don't need fake or toxic people in my life. No gossip, drama, just peace.

[@oliviastar3812]

same

[@EarthWindFireable]

💯💯💯🐾🐾🐾💞💞💞

[@l.5832]

My 'friends' disappeared when I left an abusive husband. Divorces are bad enough but no one wants to weigh in when abuse is in the mix. My two 'true' friends died a few years apart. All my birth family is dead except one toxic sister who instigated the silent treatment years ago. So....that leaves me with nothing. I am 65 but choose to work part time or I would have no social interaction at all. I content myself with acquaintances and realize at this late date I probably won't have another real friend.

[@tanial694]

Good for you for being independent and wise!

[@amybrownmidlife]

I'm sorry for your loss. I know what you mean about no gossip and no drama.

[@SoloSecondHalf]

Hey Amy, 59 and solo over here. Some of the negativity floating through your brain I think we've all experienced and it is maybe part of the human condition 🤷You aren't alone. I don't think it is unusual for some friends to come and go along the journey. Maybe we go through different eras. I have some long term friends but the relationships are always changing and morphing. People move, their life circumstances change there is an ebb and flow to all relationships I think. Stay connected. You aren't weird. You are a human being. Stay away from any mean, nasty people. They are battling their own demons and going through their own hell. Don't let the fire from the sparks burn you. 🤟😀

[@WorldWideWebObserver]

I have experienced all that you’ve described. Glad you made this video to let people like me know that we’re not alone in these unfortunate experiences.

[@LisaKelly-k8s]

Friends are a pain.

[@TravelinRosy2025]

Ppl r a pain

[@jango1970]

Yes I can relate to what you are saying. Thank you for speaking the truth. I am 58 and I noticed this 6 years ago. I started psychotherapy for that reason. I learned I put up with mistreatment and don’t establish or defend my boundaries. I quit therapy recently since I didn’t develop skills to maintain friendships. I may give up. I am single, no kids, parents have died, estranged sister due to her substance abuse. Growing up, I never knew extended family. So I really have NO family. My “best” friend is cold, distant, and competitive. I am not her best friend. I have acquaintances. Sad, but true. I want a stronger relationship but very disappointed. I have tried so hard with so many people, for years. Thank you for saying the truth.

[@tanial694]

Sometimes pets are better than people, trust me! At last they don’t abuse you and have unconditional love. Buy two dogs or two cats so they have a friend each and you to love.

[@amybrownmidlife]

I'm sorry you have been let down. Hugs to you

[@nancywolf3786]

there is nothing wrong with you just because you refuse to tolerate toxic people

[@barbaraelizabeth4011]

Well put and thank you. It's nice to know am not alone with these thoughts.....well am alone actually and I love my own company 😂❤😂❤

[@flowergirl-pp7vz]

It’s not you! If you have a husband and two adult daughters, and you have a good relationship with all of them, you are way ahead of many people!

[@cyndimorgan9792]

I got rid of a lot of my friends around mid life when I realize they’re only idea of a friendship was to pull me up once in a blue moon and dump some ridiculous family problem on me and and then never call me again until the next one. they never wanted to get together to do fun stuff. I finally got disappointed and stop calling them back.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Midlife is a great time to re-evaluate relationships. Thanks for watching!

[@Belevaqua]

It is called , “ bread crumbing”

[@lurettabatchelor8599]

BREADCRUMBS THESE HUMANS ARE 5HE VERY ONES WHO THINK THEIR SHIT DOENSNT STINK ENTITELED AND SELF ABSORBED AND YES WILL ONLY NEED YOU WHEN THERE IS DRAMA THE WORST HUMANS ❤😊

[@vintageprue8728]

Good for you! They sound like toxic emotional vampires, friendship is a two way street.

[@LKnaus123]

To be a friend is to be able to share vulnerabilities with and not be shamed. And shaming can happen at church. And at jobs we all want our strengths on display. I appreciate your insight in this video…really helped me clarify things. I’d be happy to call you a friend💖🙏

[@TrishBell1]

Your transparency is beautiful. There is nothing more painful than realizing the "friend" you had, has been exposing you, gossiping and making fun of your most vulnerable characteristics. Currently am working through this painful space as she tells others I am "toxic, play head trips and need to move on" when I finally after decades let her know I have been betrayed by Her. The conversation only turned Her to her new group to tell them she has matured and doesn't need Me. Crazy making, but the good news is: I will only gravitate toward women who are real and respect my vulnerabilities. Women can be SO mean.

[@lindatrem275]

A bit older than you, never married, no kids and no friends. I have a few what I would call acquaintances from church and people I can call if I need a ride to the hospital. I am very grateful for that. A life long introvert with crappy self esteem, depression and extremely hard of hearing...its just easier for me to stay in my hidey hole. But when another birthday rolls around or another Christmas, it does get lonely being alone sometimes. I understand your situation. The pandemic really was an eye opener on who matters to whom.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks so much for sharing. I absolutely agree - the pandemic was an eye opener for sure.

[@l.5832]

Hearing impaired! YES! It is very isolating. I'm in Canada and hearing aids are much more expensive here than the USA. The ones I currently have are no longer really effective and I've been quoted at $6000 for replacements (no government help with the cost here and no insurance cover them either).People think if you can't hear, you are also 'stupid' (deaf and dumb and all that!) It makes you hesitate to interact with people at all!

[@nancywolf3786]

have you tried volunteer work? i was lucky to meet a couple of wonderful people. i left the place, we get together couple of times a year. it's enough.

[@piarademacher4024]

You describe my own feelings perfectly well. I like being alone but not all year 'round. Sometimes I'm just so lonely. I wish I could talk to someone about the movie I watched the other day or the book I'm currently reading. I miss talking about things that interest me, and not about the weather or high prices in the supermarkets. I'm 64 now and afraid of bring lonely for the rest of my life. Not such a pleasant outlook.

[@tessaL7989]

I really resonate with this- I have found it impossible to make friends as an adult I relocated to a new area almost 10 years ago and I never managed to get accepted into a friend group… I thought I had made a few close friends but eventually they chose others and the friendships fell apart with no explanation I have come to a place of acceptance that being alone may simply be how I will live. You are blessed to have a husband and family. Being single and friendless is really difficult

[@amybrownmidlife]

It is so hard to make friends, especially when you are new to an area. I'm sorry friendships fell apart. I know how much that hurts. Take care.

[@Omar_Zazzle]

I have always been shy and afraid to put myself out there, but in California I did have a couple of friends but unless I was buying the alcohol, or they were using my swimming pool I never saw them. I moved to Idaho at the age of 57 and I do have acquaintances and a lady friend who is nice but really too old for me, I really have no real friends and I live with my brother who is severely mentally ill which really complicates my life and I have no other family that I can pawn him off onto and I can't afford to put him into a home nor can I leave him alone. Most of the time I wish God would take me out of the picture and put an end to my misery.

[@terayzea9240]

My dad used to say if you have one true friend in life lucky.

[@hsoderberg6505]

I can so relate to this! I moved to a small Michigan town for subsidized housing & had 2 friends that 'unfriended ' me. I joined a lot of groups, but none ended up with friends to do things with. About a year ago I decided to stop trying. My impression is that folks here have their friends & family & their dance cards are full.

[@hsoderberg6505]

​@Omar_Zazzle are there any caregiver support groups in your area? Sounds like you deeply resent having to care for your brother. Is he older or younger, if the latter what happens if you pass away first?

[@managingmonasmoula9811]

Sounds like the title of your video fits me perfectly. Sad but true. No, you’re not alone.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for watching

[@christopherjohn611]

I'm 57 and I have no friends. Once I had several heath problems everyone left. You have yourself.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for watching. Take care

[@elipotter369]

Yes, when I quit my job (for health reasons), almost all my friends dumped me, I'm guessing because I took a huge hit in social status. It was pretty insidious how they did it - 2 still met me for lunch each when I asked them, but they sat there blank faced & non-responsive to anything I said, plus asked me zero questions about anything & my changed life. No concerns expressed about my health or anything! So naturally I didn't call them again.

[@Englishroserebecca]

@@elipotter369you don’t need them. Focus on some hobbies that bring you joy. You won’t miss them after a while. ❤

[@Debihasabudget]

Same here gained health problems and lost my friends

[@Lis-im2rh]

​@@elipotter369wow that sounds both weird and cold behavior. Sometimes you find out people are not your friends when bad things happen to you. It is sad when it happens.

[@rowanmichel855]

Hi from New Zealand. Im 67 my Husband passed away 18 months ago and the few friends we had have now disappeared. I have no family. I have a 10 year old rescue cat. I dont think ill ever have a friend. My life is quiet which at times is very deafening. There are alot of us in the world.❤

[@gardendormouse6479]

So sorry your husband passed away. I hope your memories are a comfort to you.

[@amybrownmidlife]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself!

[@a-k6575]

Greetings from Wellington ☺Now we have been around the world together.

[@Victoryshout_nz]

Hi from Christchurch - Sorry for your loss. At 61, I've lost touch with all my friends - just work life being so busy that we all just drifted apart.

[@erinwatt4686]

Hi from Tauranga💕

[@courtneymiszczak6413]

You are so honest, kind, and smart. You are more than worthy of friends!

[@DruinStLouis]

62 here, have no friends other than my husband & my older siblings. As my Mothers’ hairdresser said “There is a time & place for friends throughout our lives”. It’s normal that we fall out of touch with each other as life gets in the way. At least it’s normal for me. I’ve finally realized I’m a true introvert & keeping up with friends is just too much work. I don’t want to feel obligated to anyone any more. I used to beat myself up over this, but at this stage I just want peace. My 1 fear is being an old widowed lady, dying alone and my cats eating my face. 🐈🐈‍⬛ 🐈 😂

[@amybrownmidlife]

I love your sense of humor. Lol

[@MelModica]

I’m 43 and feel this way too. I find most people to be very draining because I am an introvert. I usually give way more than I get. I noticed a lot of people contact me to vent but rarely ask me how I’m doing. I’m honestly much happier being a loner and enjoy being home alone with my cats. Since the internet took over so many people are lonely and have no friends.

[@l.5832]

Consider an automatic feed dispenser. That'll buy you some time! 🤣🤣🤣

[@tanial694]

LOL, amen.

[@vtrusardi921]

True only use you to vent. Don't care otherwise.

[@MicheĺleCoffey-t8f]

I hear you , so many of us go through this, i have found that as we grow older, the less we care about what others think, and we just want peace in our lives, i am also 54

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for watching. Take care

[@nancywolf3786]

my new favorite saying: STOP TRYING TO BE LIKED BY EVERYBODY. YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE EVERYBODY.

[@websurfer5772]

@@nancywolf3786 lol - I have to remind myself that too. I'm actually very picky so what am I complaining about?

[@dorojessy6932]

I'm your friend now. I wanna have a friend in Florida! Greetings from Switzerland.I'm female 56, never been married, no kids.

[@amybrownmidlife]

That is so sweet. I want to have a friend in Switzerland!

[@msr1116]

I would love to reside in Switzerland. It's such a well run country and civilized society. The videos here on YT are marvelous and scenic.

[@jacquelinehogler5477]

@@amybrownmidlife would you like a friend in New Zealand...I have no partner, no children and no friends also, I have tried to make new friends but it is not easy, I am lonely also and it doesn't help as I get older...I did have some friends but sadly they died... thank you for your wisdom, I've found a lot of what you say is true....jxxx

[@akferren1]

I’m 53 and I have zero friends..I also work from home so no coworkers either and I’m single.. I did get a puppy and he’s been wonderful. I’m enjoying the peace and solitude mostly just occasional sadness especially at holidays

[@amybrownmidlife]

I'm so happy that you got a puppy. My dogs have saved me many times over the years. Take care.

[@Omar_Zazzle]

I am disabled and I get upset when my inconsiderate severely mentally ill brother leaves a mess for me and as much as I would love to have a puppy, I just don't have the energy to take care of one.

[@Sharon-hb3qh]

​@@Omar_Zazzledoesn't your brother take his tablets for mental illness?

[@Mercalons]

Plan your holidays to be with people

[@vichuck5609]

You are beautiful soul lady. Not to worry. Your friend will be found when you will be ready. It’s so different at age over 50. Life is beautiful and friend just a compliment to it. With or without enjoy it dear 🙌🌻

[@juliewychor]

Thank you for sharing this, it makes me feel less alone. I’m 63 years old and I have no friends. I have acquaintances I know, but they are not friends who I hang out with or do things with. I feel the same as you - I feel envious of women who have lots of friends and do things like go on women’s weekend trips together. My children and grandchildren need me so much that I also don’t have the time or energy to spend on building friendships. I don’t seem to fit in with other women, and I have a hard time trusting them. I attribute some of this on having 8 older sisters who constantly criticized me and told me what to do, how I should or shouldn’t feel, etc.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for sharing. Take care

[@monicacappetta7017]

You are so fortunate to have sisters. I do not have a sister or sisters but I have lots of friends.

[@b.dailey3180]

I'm grateful for the life I've been dealt. I loved, worked, won, lost.... ready to wind down at 68 and I'm in fantastic shape physically and financially....no friends or family. Thank the lord.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for watching. Take care

[@expectingthebeach2368]

Every video i watch on this topic, the friendless person seems completely lovely and approachable. I have no friends but I put it down to my anxious disposition when I'm around new ppl, or something I'm not aware of lol Anyways sad to see us all feeling so lonesome and disconected in this life, i hope for peace and acceptance. thank you so much for making this video💐

[@amybrownmidlife]

Anxious disposition is something I can definitely relate to. Take care

[@queenietheenie]

I am turning 62...I feel your pain. I have friends who are out of state too. I think you are genuine in a ungenuine world. Women can be just awful. If we lived nearby I would have a cup of coffee with you and give you a hug. No one really knows how to be nice and connect in a real way anymore. There is a rise in narcissism in the world. It is very sad. I feel the same way as you. I am learning to just be by myself.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thank you for your kind words. Take care

[@Catfluff521]

Friendship is very overrated. I’m 58 with husband and 2 adult sons. I have 2 friends. After 25 years of close friendship, one abandoned me while I battled cancer because she was busy with her new love. We’re still friends, but I’ll never forget that episode. The other is largely unavailable because she has a disabled adult child. It’s lonely, but no friend can replace what I really want which is my parents, my true friends, who have passed. Learn to enjoy your own company and not feel “alone”. Friendships will come and go and don’t really matter. Women are hard to get along with; no one can truly be trusted so these people are just passerbys. I had the same experience with former coworkers and it took awhile for me to figure it out too.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for sharing your story. I'm sorry you were abandoned by your friend during cancer treatments. That's awful and would be hard to move past that.

[@wildflowerwind6941]

Agree. Really miss my parents. They accepted me with all my faults.

[@gardendormouse6479]

I'm sorry to hear that. One thing you touched on: Having friends is a responsibility, in a way. You have to maintain the relationships. I have no friends at the moment, other than my husband and our 8 cats. I know what you're thinking...crazy cat lady. You are correct😸!

[@Catfluff521]

@@gardendormouse6479 Lol, I have 2 cats and I’d get more if I could. They’re so cool and fun. Everybody should have some! My adult sons love cats too so we’re a crazy cat family.

[@Tara-oy5ni]

I relate so much with what you're saying. I've felt on the periphery most of my life. I'm friendly with people, and at work they come to me for support or comfort. However, I've longed to have a female best friend. I keep praying that I'll meet her. I'm your age, and you're right that most people our age already have their friend groups and aren't looking to include anyone else. I enjoy my family and my own company. It would just be nice to have that one special friend to grow old with and share life's ups and downs.

[@amybrownmidlife]

I really, really relate to your comment. It sure would be great to have one female special friend. Take care

[@MargoMartin1]

Everything you said in this video resonates with me! I've never felt like I fit in or belonged...... until I accepted myself for all my querkiness and became my own best friend. ❤

[@amybrownmidlife]

That's great advice. Thanks for sharing

[@Omar_Zazzle]

It is impossible to love other's or expect them to love you until you learn to love yourself and that is something that I have never really learned how to do. Not only do I hate life I hate myself, but I try to be good to others without letting them get too close to me. I am 62 and I doubt that I will ever change.

[@TaijaT76]

Having no friends is one of the worst problems in one’s life. It is better to be poor than have no friends but better to have no friends at all than fake and toxic friends.

[@SusanKornhauser]

I too live in Florida…72 and.Im retired…but when I was teaching, I was “friends” with the women I worked with and some of the students parents as well…teaching filled up a large part of my life…durning that time, people moved, and then I moved…and lost contact…as geography is a large factor in maintaining friendships. When we retired, we moved into a multi age neighborhood and the neighbors were social…and about ten years ago, they put flyers in mailboxes and invited the whole neighborhood to a progressive New Year’s Eve party…we surprised our children by attending…we became friendly or should I say neighborly with many in The group and it provided a social outlet for about. 7 years…again people moved and the group broke up…I’m still friendly with two women who have also moved, but within the county…but they are younger than I am and still working…so I don’t see or talk to them much… In both these scenarios, I never felt like I fit in. The only thing I had in common with the neighborhood group was proximity…but their values, religions, education, views did not click with mine…. I went along to just have something to fill up time…but IM OVER IT ALL. I never felt like I fit in…and I no longer give a crap. My daughter and her family aRE VERY CLOSE AND THEY HAPPEN TO LIVE NEXT DOOOR. MY HUSBAND AND I are mostly at home and find contentment in just being together at home…50 + years together. I agree with you…people at work are not friends and neither are neighbors… You can’t make NEW “old friends”….i have a friend who lives 40 minutes away and we’ve known each other since we were 3…and the 40 minute ride is not conducive to socializing plus she is a caretaker for a 98 year old mother….and that restrains her time and strengths. I’m done caring…and trying to fit in...just want to be with my husband, kids and maintain health…. Tired of trying to fit into cliques…that’s why we didn’t even consider moving to a 55+ community… I used to force myself to participate in lunches out with the neighborhood ladies and the whole time I’d be thinking that I wish I was home…the egos, bullshit the self aggrandizement… BORING….and i can see right through it all and quite frankly, I’d rather be by myself than try to fit in… I play the piano, cook, and my husband nd I enjoy planning trips and traveling when we can…. I am no longer on the hunt…I give up trying to find another woman who I can relate to…I always had more friends that were boys growing up….and I think the nastiness that many girls/ women display is ultimately a turn off to me…. I wish you well

[@amybrownmidlife]

I really, really appreciate your insights. I'm so glad your daughter and her family live nearby.

[@kimwarner1681]

I agree with all you said. Me too, always had more friends that were guys instead of girls. I do not care for the catty, phony bs. If I do not like someone, I don't do the catty phony smile smile. Not jealous of anyone, just like no drama and most women don't function this way.Not to mention, you have to hear allll about how great their kids/ grandkids/ they are and they love to shove their grandiose lifestyle in your face constantly. I get so sick of it. I am more than happy to stay home with my husband and our dogs, movie nights, going to dinner sometimes, I am fine with that. I do not need anyone else around us and family is the worst. My brother is an arrogant braggart of the highest level , he couldn't care less about me, only when he wants to show off some new toy they got or whatever. Send gifts for my nephew...never get a thank you, I am lucky if I get a text with a thanks. Have to ask for pics from a bday party or holiday as we live 2500 miles away but still. no one picks up the phone and they act like they can't be bothered to even text, which to me, is the lowest laziest form of communication there is , it is insulting to me. I only hear from his wife, my sister in law, if they get into an argument, then she wants to talk and see why he did or said whatever it is he did. I told her, finally. I am not Dr. Drew. He is selfish and always has been, go to see a marriage counselor, please. She has never just reached out to say hello, how's it going, only when they argue, I hear from her. My nephew was in a school play before they let out for the summer. I asked how did he do? She responded she did not have time to talk (unless she wants info from me, this is her standard response) and will text later. Problem is, she never does, she always says this to me when I ask how anyone is doing. she has no time for me. I finally got fed up and told my brother. He responded that's just how she is. I told him find your cajones , and stand up for me, your sister. told him how she goes behind his back wanting info when they fight and tells me not to tell him we talked. yet has zero time for me otherwise. Their last fight, hilarious. They were on the boardwalk and she ran into her ex fiance from 30 years ago . She proceeds to have a 30 min long chat down memory lane, she could not understand why. my brother was upset, lol Really? She never introduced him, nothing. I know all this because, yep, she called me later that night. I said did you introduce them, say this is my husband so and so, this is our son, etc? She said no, we were just chatting about old times. She is something else and I told my brother as much and when a woman runs into an ex that she had a serious relationship with, and she walks down memory lane for 30 min and ignores you and her kid..you better open your eyes. The result? He is not talking to me. I told him don't put your anger at your wife/marriage out on me. put your foot down, find your balls again. I have had it with people and I don't care anymore if it's family or not.

[@schnoodlemommy6586]

You sound exactly like me!

[@lynnefuchs4864]

Amy, you are not weird. You are an empath. It is a rare personality type. Everything you describe mirrors my life to a T. I am 10 years older than you and coming out of an emotional breakdown 2 years ago, I learned this. I was so shocked! Look it up. It answered all my questions.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thank you for this advice. I will definitely look into this personality type.

[@nancywolf3786]

@@amybrownmidlife read a book long ago about finding the right mate. part of it was about being a "rescuer". same as empath i'm guessing. hard to get yourself out of that rut, but it can be done. and you will be happy and proud of yourself when you do.

[@manueladarazsdi9675]

I am also an empath. People drain us because we are generally perceptive of other people's emotions

[@lynnboyd33]

I can relate so much! When I first saw a video about empaths, I thought, what a strange word....but that's ME to a T!!! Im also an artist, and pretty creative, and I thank God all the time that I'm so sensitive and can put what I cant really say out loud, down on my canvas or journals. I'm OK with that most the time. I'm pretty much 'settling' for pals and we occasionally do things together. I think the BEST FRIEND ship sailed a long time ago.

[@chrism1102]

I'm 60 and starting to realize you don't need a gang or a group to hangout with. There's a saying "A single rose can be your garden and a single friend can be your world." And I think there's something to that. I've started appreciating my family more and also online friends I've met over the years can be great to have. I've never found anything good come out of a group dynamic long term. And to be honest I find it difficult to maintain friendships in a group setting. I find it exhausting!

[@kellysadoff5523]

Whatever makes you weird is your super power!! This took a lot of courage to tell your story, its hard to feel vulnerable. I appreciate your honesty! If you come visit WI I'd be your bestie! I sure hope you find your path to friendship and inner joy.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for sharing. Take care

[@I_give_I_give]

"whatever makes you weird is your superpower" HA I love it.

[@agingintobeauty]

Over time I find my definition of “friend” has evolved into a much deeper and significant relationship than the trivial connections I had when young. I no longer tolerate anything that doesn’t match my level of character. I’d rather be alone than compromise my values and ethics. I have few I call “friend” at this point and even my friends are spread out around the globe and not in my life on the regular. I’m sometimes lonely and always open to new relationships but I’m content to be true to myself at this point. I’m grateful for your video. Reading the comments tugged at my heart. We all deserve true friends but the world has become so greedy, selfish and narcissistic that sometimes it feels safer to hunker down and go it alone.

[@amybrownmidlife]

I really appreciate your insights. Thank you

[@virgoblonde0828]

It's very strange that your videos were put in my path today because I was just sad and crying about this exact thing last night to my husband. I am 54 as well and have no real friends and went no contact with my family 3.5 yrs ago . I have no children and a stepson we have no relationship with. I also feel like the little girl asking "do you want to be friends ", I'm exhausted. It's strangely comforting to realize that I'm not alone however how do all of us "wierdo's" form our own friend group? Lol. Thanks Amy for putting this out there and being real 🙌 ❤ BTW hopefully you weren't affected by any recent weather down there in Florida 🤞🙏 are you on fb?

[@amybrownmidlife]

I'm glad you found my channel. It is so hard today. No one seems to be loyal anymore.

[@suzanne296]

Turning 62 one week and no friends. I'm sad alot and struggle to get out socially.

[@amybrownmidlife]

It is so hard. I have to make myself go to events to meet people. It is draining sometimes.

[@kimr3755]

​@@amybrownmidlifeIt can be. But I am glad I force myself to go to events. I enjoy myself once I'm there.

[@Omar_Zazzle]

I am also 62 and I can't get out due to my brother being severely mentally ill and the only socializing I had was going to the senior center and due to my brother's careless behavior we got kicked out of there. My depression is overwhelming, and I wish I could be free.

[@donna6949]

Hi Amy. Thank you so much for discussing this. I m 54, single, live with my son and daughter. I have one close friend and two friends locally. Other friends live in different countries. I lost so many 'friends' during lockdown. I think Facebook can make you lonely. Most of the people on there are not friends. Also, work collegues are not friends, unless they are part of life outside of work. I ve had so many promises of meet ups, but then cancelled at the last minute or being people s last minute fill in. I cherish the people in my life, but can t be bothered to make new friends now 😢

[@animal79thecat]

@@Omar_Zazzle Majeor suck!

[@AndreaAltgayer]

If they hit the road, they weren't meant to be your friend. Just be yourself. Make friends with yourself first. Invest in yourself, do things that mean something to you.Invest in your hobbies,education and self-improvement. Be the kind of friend to yourself that you would want to bring into your life.

[@amybrownmidlife]

I appreciate your thoughts. I need to focus on self-improvement and hobbies.

[@loopers2984]

My life is better because you are my friend. You did a brave thing uprooting your life. You are on the way to deeper friendships bc you make an effort. Time will solidify your work. I hope you find a CB partner soon. Appreciate your honesty and talking about something so difficult.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks so much!

[@S.Chambers-q1d]

I’m 72 and have just gotten friends through my church; I have had work friends work friendships throughout my working life, but, friendships are rare. And I’m grateful for the friendships I now have.

[@amybrownmidlife]

I'm so happy to hear that you now have friendships.

[@kimwarner1681]

I have found once you leave a job, the friends leave with it. Work friends are surface friends, you won't see them anymore. and i am a okay with that

[@PaulFerguson-t2x]

That's great, be happy❤️

[@karolinasundkvist5762]

You are worthy of having friends! I hope you will find good friends and feel at home where you live! Many of us can relate to what you describe. Friends do come and go. Just use all your wisdom you have gained, be yourself and continue to reach out. And don't blame yourself if someone doesn't want to keep in touch. It takes two! Best of luck to you. Hugs from Sweden

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thank you for your comments. I will continue to reach out to others.

[@kirstyt.7845]

Your vid just popped up on my timeline. Im 50, single, no kids and currently no friends. I had what i thought was a strong friend group from 22 years of age. Nights out, holidays, concerts etc. And i had several groups of friends who i met over the years. But i found in my 40s i was slowly moving away from these groups. Some friends naturally came to an end, i believe some people are in your life for a season. But the core group of girls from 22 were still there. I found myself getting angry when out with them. Due to health reasons im not drinking as much (always social drinking) and as i was watching them as a group slowly getting tipsy i realised i actually had nothing in common with them and also that we talked but nothing meaningful. I had also gone back to studying. Which only 1 of them was supportive of. I found i was angry cause I wasn't enjoying myself. Covid was the final straw. When lockdowns were happening, all my so-called friends had family. Being on my own, i had no one. Not one of them reached out to me. I realised these were people for "good times" and no more. I slowly just stopped answering group chat messages and now have no communication with any of them. So i currently have no one. Im lucky in that i like my own company and can amuse myself. I go to the movies/concerts and holiday on my own. I do miss occasionally going to the pub and having a chat and a laugh. But in the whole im less stressed and dont have to worry bout keeping up with them. (They all had much better paid jobs than me) i now choose what/where and how with no interference and im enjoying that. Also as a add on - what do you use on your face ?? Your skin looks amazing !

[@amybrownmidlife]

I'm sorry you went through that. Your phrase "...these were people for 'good times' and no more..." is so spot on. I appreciate your skin comment. I use castor oil and did a video on that topic. You might want to check it out.

[@MJYouAreNotAlone1]

I have met most of my friends at the store. Hobby lobby, TJ Maxx, Walmart, etc. I just start up a conversation with people and then we exchange phone numbers and a friendship grows from there. Not everyone that I’ve met but most people. It’s really amazing! Good luck and God bless!💙💙🙏💙🙏💙🙏💙

[@Mrs.JessRich]

Aww love this. Im meeting a friend Monday for lunch that i met at Walmart. We met while she was working there and talked everytime I went to shop. She told me she was leaving to start a new job and on her last day I brought her a plant and a card with my number and we are building a friendship.

[@Gerilady]

IL be 62 in a few months with no friends and estranged by my adult children which means my grandchildren also. Can't expect anyone to stay even if there family.

[@Omar_Zazzle]

I am 62 years old, and I have no wife or kids, but I live with my severely mentally ill brother and I have no other family to help me and my life is horrible and I can't leave my brother alone nor can I afford to put him into a home and with his mental disorder many homes won't take him anyway and my life is lonely and horrible and depressing and I never been so unhappy and this has been my life for a long time and I pray to God to take me.

[@sallyconfer6785]

@@Omar_Zazzle Im sorry , I hope you can find some joy.

[@sallyconfer6785]

I feel you on that one.

[@summer8085]

Been there, you are not alone and you were never the problem. People just don't have your kind authentic heart.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thank you for those kind words!

[@fionaledger1939]

This resonates with me. Thanks for sharing. I’m 59 and following major illness in 2020 my life changed overnight. Some people disappeared off the scene. I learnt that when the shit hits the fan you know who your friends are! In fact in hindsight it was a blessing. I have some friends in other cities and have made new friends none of which are in close friends. I’ve learnt that friends come and go. No one wants to put the hard work in anymore. There is a saying ‘we have friends for seasons, reasons and a lifetime.’ Good luck you seem like a lovely person.

[@amybrownmidlife]

You are so right - when things get difficult in life, you absolutely learn who your friends are. Thank you for your comment

[@ohkay7418]

I am almost 70 and I have no real friends. Bothered me badly for a long time. Don't care. Spend time with your family. That is all that counts and can be counted on

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for watching. Take care

[@meinungabundance7696]

Depends on the family. they can be toxic too

[@Maru-vs9kb]

Family?! Surely you jest. Families are a crucible of pain. So thankful for my friends.

[@nadinemadsen4366]

50 yrs old, no boyfriend/husband, 2 dogs, almost an empty nester, no friends. I also do not have family so that really sucks. My mom passed away in 2018, stepdad remarried and moved on, daughter is 13 hrs away, estranged from brothers. I was never close with any other family and when my mom passed away amy family connection was gone. My biggest fear is being alone if I get sick or need a surgery/emergency, which I did recently have an emergency. That was a scary moment for me. Maybe all of us friendless people can somehow connect and see if maybe by chance we are close to anyone and maybe start a friendship?

[@amybrownmidlife]

Great idea. Glad you found my channel.

[@Happy_crab630]

@@nadinemadsen4366 I’m in NY. Where r u?

[@nadinemadsen4366]

@@Happy_crab630 South Dakota

[@virgoblonde0828]

Minnesota here

[@nadinemadsen4366]

@@virgoblonde0828 where in MN? Love that state. Have taken many vacations there.

[@Kootenay613]

I LOVE that Amy is so open about this. I've had periods of my life where I had no friends and I fear in the future I may have no friends again (due to death). If you are a "no-friender" don't feel ashamed. You have a lot of company. As someone who has struggled to make friends his whole life can I make two suggestions: 1) Get hobbies. Even casual friends from your hobbies can be really great. I have a lot of tennis friends. They aren't my closest friends, but they still brighten my life. 2) Decide to befriend the people you see every day. In the pre-Internet days it was normal to be friends with your neighbours and workmates. Now people have this idea that a friend has to be perfectly tailored to your life. No! A 50% fit is good enough.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Great advice! Thank you

[@heidiweaver3944]

I am 56 and I have no true friends. I just can't stand all the drama that comes with having friends. I would rather have peace of mind.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for watching. Take care

[@jeannedurocher5577]

Bingo! You've hit the nail on the head in this topic. My situation is pretty much the same as yours... husband, son, pets, 2 good friends that moved away to different states. However, the difference is that "I" am the one cutting loose the friends that remain. I'm 72 and NOT the person I was 38 years ago when I started making friends here. Some of them are anywhere from 4 to 12 years younger than me. I've also, through personal tragedy and spiritual growth, come to realize I don't enjoy the drama and disregard for my time and feelings that they bring to the table. I know my limits and I've set some boundaries. Not gonna lie, it HAS been lonely at times but I'm much less anxious and angry than I was trying to maintain these relationships. What I find helpful, and fulfilling is taking a class and meeting people that way. I go to a water aerobics class and my library's book club. Sometimes we go for coffee afterwards. My loneliness is relieved, and I go home feeling recharged and happy, without the need of making a new friend. If it happens, it happens. If not? That's fine too!

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for sharing. Take care

[@denawolf5884]

My best friends have always been animals. Took the most part of my life to learn why i attract the people i attract. I, being an empath, a chosen one a highly sensitive person explains alot about the world around me. Its been a rough road, i feel lost at times, but i like who i am . i am all i would like to find in a friend. Its ok to walk away when it does not feel “right”. I find what i seek in animals and nature. ☮️💙🙏🏼💫

[@JudyAiken]

This inspires me and I can so relate.

[@diamondlee9034]

its definitely much harder as we “mature” to make friends. I feel one of the big reason is that people in general have become very self centered & selfish sadly. there is this quote, “Be careful who you trust, salt & sugar look the same” that being said, its not worth having so called friends if its one sided

[@amybrownmidlife]

Yes - salt and sugar do look the same. Well said!

[@siennas]

sadly, I CAN relate. to everything you said. it made me cry. but your smile and optimism really shine through and I hope our situations will change eventually.

[@amybrownmidlife]

I'm so glad you found my channel. I have not given up on friendship. I hope you also will not give up.

[@TheGymnast71]

Wow this video really touched me. I've struggled with friendships and I ended up spending time with people that were not very good to me at times. I regret some of the people I spent time with in my younger years. Now I am so resistant to friendships and I am very guarded. I find women to be the meanest

[@amybrownmidlife]

I also regret many of the people I have spent time with over the years.

[@summer8085]

I absolutely agree!

[@beckywilliams1388]

Amy , I’m 57 and can very much relate to all you are saying . But one thing I am just learning lately is that when you walk in a room full of strangers you should realize most of them feel as self conscious and alone as you do . They are just struggling like you . When I see someone I want to be friends with , I just reach out to them and start asking them about their selves. You’ll be surprised how many people need your friendship as well . ❤

[@amybrownmidlife]

That's so true. You never know what's going on in people's minds in a big room full of strangers. Thank you for your comment.

[@delgal1987]

I think my inability to make a lot of close friends stems from childhood and seeing my parents not function in circles of friends either. And I had situations over the years where I experienced rejection or disappointment, so it definitely sticks with you as you get older. I see people who have many genuine friends and I always wonder how that happens. I have a son-in-law that can make a friend in a minute! I think it’s no fear of rejection that helps a person to connect quicker. I continue to make an effort to be friendly to everyone I meet at whatever event I’m at, but am alright with it not going much further.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for sharing. Take care

[@FaintAura]

"Coworkers are not your friends" Had to be reminded of this myself recently. Just because I had some fun times with a coworker outside work doesnt make them friends and creating expectations for them as friends will lead to disappointment

[@amybrownmidlife]

Hard lesson to learn when you spend so much time together.

[@DonnaRiggs-tt3hn]

Yes you have a friend Jesus loves you and he's the best friend you can ever have.

[@madiclegg3690]

Im 51 and have no friends. I got very ill in my 30's and any friends i had dropped away. I tried making friends in my 40's but no-one was interested in being my friend. People say im weird, but that's ok. Im a kind genuine person, it seems so unfair, but iv learned to navigate through life without any support from anyone. The plus side is it's Made me so strong as an individual.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for sharing. Take care

[@DarciJ-u6u]

Hi Amy! I understand where you are coming from-My suggestion is that you focus less on finding and making new friends, and focus more on your interests and hobbies that you love-That takes the pressure off of working so hard to be friends-BUT once you start pursuing your interests, you and others can talk about that common ground! Volunteer at a Library, join a book club, work with animals, join a walking group, or a garden club. Whatever you are excited about and enjoy will be the source of your conversation and perhaps friends will be made-There are lots of kind people and kind groups out there! Best of luck! 😊

[@astra-rb6sz]

Yes that’s how you make friends

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for the advice. I appreciate it.

[@tanial694]

Great advice!

[@DonHeber-eq8sb]

Excellent advice!

[@creativesolutionsart-h3o]

Friendships are hard. Especially if your standards are high. Because you don’t take any BS. It’s a hard balance to be selective and know your worth and try to have good people in your life. Especially as we get older. When I started making videos. I met some people here on KZbin that I really wish I could see in person. They are wonderful people. Yes, I wish I had some people I could meet up with in my town and go out with. I’ve lived here eight years and I’ve really only made one true friend, she can’t go out much due to health problems and I’m also disabled so that makes it even harder. Thanks for bringing awareness to this :-)

[@amybrownmidlife]

I'm glad you found my channel. Friendships are hard. Take care

[@creativesolutionsart-h3o]

@@amybrownmidlife thank you for your reply… I am really wondering if I had known you as a little girl I lived in California in Van Nuys would have been around 1979 or 80… I always wondered what happened to you if it is you you must had moved… Forgive me for asking again because I had left a couple of comments on other videos of yours. I mean no disrespect or invasion of privacy, so I will understand if you don’t answer me. Just amazing what small world it is if it is you❤️

[@JeepGal48]

This makes me feel better. I'm also 54 and have one good friend, though I don't tell her everything because she's a gossip, so if she gossips to me she'll gossip about me. Other friends I've dropped over the years because they can suck the life out of you with nothing but complaints. I felt bad about this, but friendship really shouldn't be all about complaining all the time. That really affects my mood when people do nothing but complain. I changed schools every year, and one year I had three schools in one year so it's hard for me to open up to new people. I'm glad I'm not alone. & apparently not as weird as I thought!

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for sharing. Take care

[@babbaruff1045]

I have basically one friend. I'm shy and struggle with depression and social anxiety so I dont exactly attract people. I really hope to make new friends 😊 You seem so good-natured and lovely. Thanks for such a helpful video 🤗

[@kimscribble6509]

Hi Amy! I think what you're experiencing is pretty normal especially at that age. I'm 57 and recently became unable to work due to neuropathy. I also lost my mobility and friends who I known for over 30 years. I'm 57 and I've never married or had children so I feel especially alone. I can say that whenever I volunteered for different causes organizations that really interested me, I was always able to meet kind like-minded people. I hope you find a group of friends that can be there for you in good times and bad. Keep us posted!

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for sharing! Take care

[@nancywolf3786]

same here. volunteering is a great idea. not all volunteers are kind people, but the odds are better.

[@inkydinkydoodle]

Amy, I find your honesty so refreshing. Thank you for your courage. 😊

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for sharing. Take care

[@decorahnord9902]

I don't have any friends either and it saddens me daily...God bless you with many ...Church is a great place to meet up...

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for watching

[@KKoconutz]

I stumbled on your channel today, this video popped up in my feed. I too have no friends. It’s always been that way for me. Every time I have one, it’s very one sided. I was always the person alone as a child and eventually I just decided I prefer my own company to fake people. Women can be the worst. Lots of backstabbing and gossip behind your back. You are so not alone! Sometimes I miss having others to confide in and share my feelings with. It can be both lonely and peaceful at the same time. Thankfully, my husband is there for me. If you lived near, you seem like the type of friend I would cherish. Have a wonderful weekend!

[@amybrownmidlife]

I appreciate your kind words. Have a wonderful weekend!

[@annied461]

You are absolutely worthy! Absolutely, certain people come into our lives for a season in time and you can't worry about it. Those types of friends are no less valid. Life circumstances change and friends fall away. But that also means that making friends is a lifelong process if it's important to you. I have two friends that I've been friends with for decades. The rest of my current friend group I've met from my volunteer activities, and I was the one that initiated the fun activities that we now do outside the group. I know that this friend group may not last forever and appreciate the memories we are making together now. Hugs to you. You seem like a nice person and you deserve friends.

[@amybrownmidlife]

I appreciate your comments. Thank you so much

[@KathyCheek-v1e]

I'm 54 no friends either and very happy with 2 cats and 3 dogs and hobbies. Thank you for your channel! I thought I was the only one. Your friend Kathy

[@amybrownmidlife]

Welcome Kathy. I'm so glad you found my channel.

[@caroleblossom4087]

Thank you for sharing your friendship struggles. You have a lovely smile and I admire your honesty in sharing your emotions. If I lived nearby, I would reach out to get to know you and become friends. I am 82, retired and since retirement, my friend circle has diminished drastically. Some people in my life have moved far away, including family members. Things have changed with even family relationships over the years and I am not as close to them as I thought would be a forever closeness. People grow in different directions and go their own ways. I have learned nothing remains the same forever. I empathize with you about having no friends. I will say right off you are more fortunate that some people because you are not alone in life. You have a husband and children, so you live in a home with other people who love and support you and that is not the same as being alone or living alone. I have lived alone most of my adult life after my two sons left home. I have had partners and husbands come and go & mostly as a result of my own doing. So I do have regrets but life goes on...alone. As for friends, sounds like not your fault while growing up since you moved around a lot and it would be almost impossible to have life-long friendships from a young age and through your school age years for that reason...which is no fault of your own. As for being weird and having anxieties, well probably a lot of people fall into this category also. If a friendship goes astray, all one can do is ask if one was the sole fault and if there is anything that one can do to repair the break. Frankly, relationships can change over time, especially if life circumstances change. Work relationships are usually temporary and last during the work duration and then people drift apart and move on. That seems to be the case for everyone. Don't blame yourself for the nature of things. Same goes with school, career and even neighborhood relationships that are close when the people involved are together in that particular environment until normal circumstances separate the individuals. At age 69, I joined a social dance group and looked forward to seeing the same people regularly until the group was forced to change venues which did not work out well. The next venue was not the same and people stopped going and dropped out. Some of those people have since died, etc. Church groups are not always a great place to make friends because not everyone is there for the right reasons and often cliques form and eventually it gets right down to ordinary human beings not being able to get along and friction results, etc. Stuff just happens. I was in a spiritual group and it became a big part of my week until I discovered the women I formed a bond with were not as spiritual as they professed. I then saw a different side of them which drove me away and I was very disappointed because I had previously enjoying their company and having them as friends. True and life long lasting friendships are rare. Even then, I have found people change as they grow older and life happens and nothing stays the same or lasts forever. I wish you happiness in whatever you do and enjoy your husband and children. You are very sweet and likeable.

[@amybrownmidlife]

I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts. You are so right - nothing stays the same or lasts forever.

[@caroleblossom4087]

@@amybrownmidlife Thank you for reading my lengthy comments:-)

[@greengypsybird2680]

People are not worth my time. Friends, family, coworkers cannot be trusted. They will all burn you eventually. I have acquaintances. I have a husband. I have family. I’m not attached to any of them. After years of being hurt, I’ve learned to expect nothing from anyone. I’m my favorite person. I love to hang out with myself. I’m very happy with my life.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for sharing. Take care

[@MonicaLillis]

You are so lovely. Radiant. Anyone would be lucky to know you. God Bless. xx

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thank you for your kind words

[@DebBeausoleil]

This really hit home with me. I am just as happy not to have a close friend to confide in. I always felt like I was putting in more effort than the other person. Not worth the stress.

[@crystaltomlinson7699]

I am 51 and I have no friends either. I had a couple really good longtime friendships over the years but they faded out due to our lives going in different directions, moving, but 1 ended after about 15 years because I called her out on her BS. She was the kind of person that only wanted to be friends with people who weren't doing better than she was. Once I moved and left my abuser, I got a good job and supported myself & my kids by myself, she stopped talking to me. I called her out on some things that I noticed, behavior changes toward me & once I did I never spoke to her again. I tried reaching out to talk things over but she just ghosted me. Sometimes I miss having a close friend but most of the time I am fine being on my own. I am still single 12 years later & happier. She is still in her bad marriage, afraid to go out on her own.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks for sharing your story. Good for you for calling out your former friend.

[@cherylann8292]

Yayyyy good on you!!!

[@cherylann8292]

Yayyyy, good on you!!!

[@createone100]

You only need two or three friends who are SOLID. I have anxiety issues too, and sure have had ‘lonely times when I could not find a friend’ as James Taylor sang. I have let several friends go, throughout my life, and when I think back, I remember that, damn, I’m glad I let that person go. This last year has been one of the hardest in my life. It had the amazing benefit of distilling my friends down to three close friends, and a short handful of other good people. Sorting through and ‘distilling’ your friendships is a huge, self-affirming thing. By the way, the way you present yourself is LOVELY! I know you are kind because you look for kind friends. They are the ONLY kind to hang on to! The other ones can just, well, pffftttt. Sending love. 💖💖💖

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thanks so much for your comments. I like your term "distilling."

[@TheMirandalorian]

You absolutely deserve friends and it's a shame that you found people that enjoyed drama more than genuine friendship, or were so blinded by their own insecurities that they couldn't see how they were hurting people. ❤ you deserved BETTER.

[@amybrownmidlife]

Thank you for your kind words

[@michellemackinnon2801]

Wow...nailed it. Thank for being vulnerable, I feel less alone now 💕

[@naliyahkaya]

Thank you for sharing your experiences. In my younger years I definitely always felt I was an outsider and didn’t have any true friends. I desperately wanted them and was always kind to my classmates (religious school) but for some reason they decided I was “out” of the group one day and that was it- excluded from everything with no explanation. I gained some close friends in college BUT also found out when I moved across the country that my whole friend group was talking behind my back and went back to not having friends in the area I lived in, (but held onto the ones I had from back home). I learned that I too easily trusted people and to instead sit back and watch people over time before becoming close to them to see how they treated people, talked about people, if they acted consistently etc. Since then I found some of my dearest friends (at work!) in my late twenties and thirties. I also found some in animal rescue through volunteer work. I often say I’d rather have found them now later in life than to have been popular when younger. I have let go of all the relationships that brought drama and toxicity and am so grateful and thankful for each and every person that I now have in my life AND have learned to let people go when they show me who they are if it means having toxicity or drama in my life I will always choose being alone!