6 Signs You Might Have a Toxic Parent - Part 2

[@Psych2go]

Here was part 1 of this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bJ2zmq2hiseHa5Y Are you currently stuck in a toxic home environment? Comment below if you are and how you are dealing with that.

[@fishron5594]

Thank you so much for every bit of help you give me :)

[@oyasumibrasil6647]

Hi ... I wanted to ask you to put subtitles in Brazilian Portuguese

[@rayraystarwars]

I'm not anymore as both of my parents are gone due to current avents

[@crispynoodle465]

Im stuck in a toxic family.. like the family that acts perfect when in reality, we are a mess. I just talk to my friends (not necessarily telling them about my home life) but just chatting.

[@hoshi3168]

I am, but i am a kpop fan and watching videos of my favorite group 'Stray Kids' and they cheer up, its like their right front of me and their like a siblings to me 💙 and now i feel like people acutually love me because watching their videos cheer me up so much that i sometimes forget that my family are around me 💙

[@jackin_it]

Every child deserves a family, but not every family deserves a child.

[@leslieoliveira9831]

Parent not family

[@Isabel-sr8ep]

Fr some parents shouldn't even be around children

[@BehelitZero]

afootineachworld yeah gotta get psychological evaluation or some shit. Cuz ya know.

[@BehelitZero]

afootineachworld oh I- yeah. U right

[@jordanfelt5978]

Wow, whose tumblr account did you steal this from? Lol jk.

[@ilostmyearpodsbtwiamhannah815]

*Do y’all ever feel safer at a friends house rather than ur own ? And when u leave ur friends house u have a whole anxiety attack because ur scared to go back*

[@oranberryartistowo1301]

Yes.

[@ilostmyearpodsbtwiamhannah815]

@@oranberryartistowo1301 iam so sorry same I hate it but we wil make it out happy New Years wishing u the best

[@Yoongiluvbot]

@@oranberryartistowo1301 school was the place, but didn't go for the pandemic for almost a year

[@Max-zy1hb]

Yes. Even though everyone has the “be nice around guests” it still feels so good to see my friend and just game talk to each other about the times my mom yelled about me. Or when she cried to make me feel guilty. Btw she almost never cries except when I do something that she thinks is wrong. Or when she cut my phone line because is was on it too much and I complained that I don’t get to use it enough, btw I get 2hours of anything screens. 1hr phone 1hr Xbox that’s it for the day.or when she slapped me and as much as I can’t touch women I pushed her back and then she hit me to the ground. Or when she left the house for 2 days to a hotel leaving me alone. It was because I “disrespected her”

[@areyouaboogercosipickyou4566]

Yep.

[@angela_angela7601]

Toxic parents compare their kids to other kids. Making em feel like they're a failure 😔

[@Maykay1312]

Angela _Angela why cant u be more like me i passed collage why cant u...

[@creativeusername6927]

My dad said that I called my friend a lying b**ch.

[@technicalmaster-mind]

@@creativeusername6927 maybe, you said

[@aloeveil]

Exactly, it sucks. I got a B or 3 in my grade and my dad compares me to others. They think it helps, but in reality, it just doesn’t. It hurts the kid.

[@EMMA-jd3zp]

Comparing you to your siblings is even worse

[@clioandbrian6812]

Things parents need to know:- 'When you criticize or yell or abuse your child a lot... They never start hating you! Kids start hating themselves...'

[@ethereal_musik]

This hits different 💔

[@catcubers3435]

I can relate since I'm a kid. I am not productive and is scared of everything. Please wish for me. I'm not in a good time right now.

[@Manu-sk7qx]

bro i got 39/40 my parents still say im not gonna become anything good in life with thsat score (not exaggerating)

[@GrianyBunch]

Somewhat true... Update: actually it’s true more then I think....

[@sapphirenature1967]

My parents were actually severely abusive 😢

[@THE_Novakane]

Hate when parents say “I sacrificed so much for you! You don’t even know!” Ummm we didn’t ask to be here... sounds like a personal problem

[@jooniesdimplesarelivinginm5398]

@@quinbxrry1807 Your parents dont deserve you When u grow up , just move out and live your own life They'll regret it

[@quinbxrry1807]

@@jooniesdimplesarelivinginm5398 this is the nicest thing I ever heard from anyone I knew tysm

[@sethmcclain8517]

@NovaKane I hate it when I want to be a little lazy, just a little and my mom hits me with "I'm sick and I have a headache" but she plays video games and watches TV like there's no tomorrow.

[@naji_moarmy6808]

*yes.*

[@THE_Novakane]

@@sethmcclain8517 hang in there buddy 🖤

[@scarletroseVT]

And this is why I'm desperate to move out already.

[@leigh4810]

Same but I can’t with this virus going around

[@Di-hm9dg]

I feel you. I want to move out soo bad 😪

[@leafychild5179]

This is a mood.

[@gingerdude]

I've done it. Trust me it was hard being on my own but it's going to be peaceful. You can do it, stay strong you beautiful soul!💪

[@nraexox2599]

Same baby girl💓, I live in South Florida and I'm willing to move to Tacoma, Washington just to get away from them😫!

[@alannysanchez3570]

Me this whole video: Don’t cry don’t cry don’t cry don’t cry

[@laraoz7417]

same:(

[@shawtyshortcake-qq9rx]

spoiler alert i cried

[@haziellepaburada4751]

Same

[@notbendover5372]

SAME 😭😭..

[@prm3468]

😭😭🥺

[@wadew.1869]

*Apology without change is just manipulation.* Remember that.

[@Psych2go]

That's wisdom. Thanks for sharing!

[@lol-rf2un]

bold of you to assume they even apologize lmao

[@hellobitter-sweetdays6923]

thanks for sharing uu

[@LifeewithA]

What about not apologizing and acting like it never happened then still not changing ?

[@kaykj207]

And I thought my mom meant what she meant when she apologizes. That’s sad

[@palestnative2035]

Why’d I click on this I already know I have toxic parents

[@doku_yuyu989]

Oof

[@dawnelizabeth1828]

In fact my toxic siblenenemy's lol siblings/enemy's support my toxic fathenemy lol father/enemy it sucks yucky, yikes, icky, ugh and arg.

[@angelicalloyd4879]

Facts i clicked on it immediately my mom tells me im ungrateful then throws the bible quotes to make me feel guilty and now shes fircing me to do real estate next year insted of my passion for art and college

[@deltag4mer830]

Probably because it speaks to you and makes you feel better. That's why I clicked

[@amnamasoud2535]

Same..

[@Rewind-Watch]

Parents:"you should go out" *Leaves the house for an hour* Also parents:"you go out too much"

[@yuuhoyuu3371]

O o f

[@cozyjuni]

I feel you man. U should talk to me bout ur problems, later what do u mean u feel sad & depressed

[@artyraven]

You can go out?.. I’m nearing 16 and I can’t even go out yet..

[@2kg.o.a.t569]

FELT

[@stressed.coquette]

My parents always say "go outside, do something" but when I want to hangout with friends, they never let me. Then I feel isolated from my friends😞

[@atharvaketkar3517]

I'm not the only who wants to leave my house and start over, but being financially dependent on toxic parents is the worst gift life can give you.

[@ethereal_musik]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 literally my life right now

[@saireneanneflores5825]

Fricken same

[@zeighartsanimations3602]

Samee

[@PauleyDucati]

I made A LOT of terrible decisions in my life that forced me to live with my mother at home until I was 33 years old. She has carved many scars into my soul. I was an opiate addict, I chose the wrong career path dozens of times... I was FINALLY able to escape her grasp and buy my own house with my fiance' and life is much better. Recently severed ties with her and the guilt I've felt my entire life is slowly disapating. I am lucky to be of strong mind or the shit she put me through may have turned me into a much different and darker person. My mom has done a lot for me throughout my life but has made me feel guilty about all of it every step of the way so I totally agree, it is a terrible curse. Being financially dependant on her is what kept me at that house for so long but keep your spirits up my friend, once you get out, life will be infinately better!

[@catcubers3435]

Well yes. If I have a trillion dollars I would buy a better house. Probably even a car! To at least get out of the depression hole of my parents house.

[@teenoush7489]

When you win an argument with them (based on logic), they refuse to accept that they are wrong and aim for your personality instead. And the gaslighting is even more blatant: distorting points that you had previously said, pretending to have never said/done anything, blaming everything on you (every trait, behaviour or interest that separates you from them).

[@Meikyu88]

Or they just 'misinterpret' the situation and blame u for things u didn't do or say. Refuse to listen to your explanation. Makes ridiculous/ illogical statement to blame you. Then exaggerate it and make the story looks worse while they tell other ppl.

[@zddtxycysratsuid1181]

Yes :(

[@zddtxycysratsuid1181]

Liam YW THATS WHATS HAPPENING RN IM UP IN MY ROOM FOR SOMETHING A HAVENT DONE THEN MY DAD GETS ANGRY WHEN IM MOODY CUZ IVE JUST BEEN SCREAMED AT :(

[@nrannia]

God, EXACTLY

[@yonyhusk]

Big oof 😅 hit too close to home

[@Hi_amDenise]

My grandma takes better care of me then my parents also I feel safer there.

[@kaliferguson2232]

Grandma's are the best 😭

[@mkneidhardt]

Kali Ferguson yes 😩😭🥺

[@Matt-jq1jy]

Lucky, man

[@jujuonthatbeat8503]

Omg yes same for me

[@rifqahnursurayya1929]

That's why I love my grandma more than them:) she's my biggest supporter

[@aloeveil]

Well now that I’m in quarantine, I have to deal with them. Arguing. Every. Single. Day.

[@No.buffer478]

Same here bt I dnt do argument bcoz she told me she will be betten me very badly the same things told to my brother bt he did not scare he told come for beaten me and àlso tld tat he we do the same things

[@Psych2go]

How are currently doing to cope with the situation? Any tips for others who might be going through something similar?

[@aloeveil]

Psych2Go I just try to ignore them honestly. It sucks to have to be with them especially my dad. For everyone else? It depends on the kind of toxicity. When I was in school, my parents scolded me for being lazy and not having friends. Also, they compare me in every way possible to other kids. Right now, they just call me lazy and tell me to go somewhere.. during a PANDEMIC! It’s crazy, I know. But to everyone else just try not to interact with them as much as you would like to. Probably not the best advice, but it’s the only thing I got. Again, thank you Psych2Go for acknowledging me, your videos are amazing and really knowledgeable. Thanks!

[@vevict]

@@aloeveil same here, actually I changed my entire sleeping schedule, I live through the night and sleep during the day to avoid them. They refer to me as "the crazy one" just because I'm the only one that call them out on their bullsh*t, it's exhausting, they want me to LEAVE, always threatening to kick me out of the house. They make me feel my life is not worth living. It's a process but I know WHEN I leave them I won't be coming back, I want them out of my life. Specially my dad.

[@aloeveil]

Victoria Benítez yeah, it’s good that your the one calling their bullsh*t out. It sucks that some parents don’t know how to treat some kids.

[@bambi6780]

The worst part about having my parents is people tell me that they “aren’t toxic” because the abuse isn’t physical and that mental abuse isn’t abuse

[@mayaperez381]

That is what my dad,mum,my littlest brother and sister say to me.

[@meenakshiarcot3385]

You can do one thing focus on yourself. Start doing your inner work( work on making yourself mentally strong) . This helps a lot.

[@kassimasinia3314]

“I know your mother. She wouldn’t do anything like that to you.” 🤦‍♂️🥺😭

[@muslimwarrior9891]

Dumb , it’s abuse , if it hurts its abuse

[@muslimwarrior9891]

@@kassimasinia3314 yeah yeah , u look like u REALLY know stuff abt my mother ahahahah (I’m being sarcastic in here)

[@LuluLula143]

"why cant you be more like your sister?" "why cant you be like your friends?" "i live a life more horrible than you before, you should be more grateful." "why do yo walk like that? why do you eat like that? you are such a shame." *yells at me in public and cussed at me*

[@sweetpotato4831]

Heyy i can relate...

[@jamclone]

That third one though... Very relatable

[@mrfrog4746]

That's what mom is saying all the time

[@pizzariotin]

i relate to the fourth one alot. my parents are so mean to me because of the way i sit, i drink, the way i walk, everything. i hate it so much

[@jamclone]

@@pizzariotin Yeah I walk kinda funny, it doesn't bother me though

[@raeisadummy]

“Why are you crying? Your acting like a 7-year old.” “It’s because of that phone!” “Why aren’t you being social at school?” “Why do you have lots of unfinished homework? Do them NOW!” “After all we’ve done for you, your saying we are spoiling your sister? You’re so ungrateful!” “Do this. Do that. Get this for me.” “If you won’t (insert command here), I’ll take away your phone!” “Remove those horns! They’re evil!” “What’s this? Delete this now.” Things my parents have said before that had affected me.

[@legion4076]

How is it that my parents have done half of this stuff to me

[@youreandyourarentthesamewo6939]

Evrey word from their mouths affect me...

[@b0ss889]

@Samiya Shaikh 7300 Same I'm just 13 too, I wish my grandfather was still alive he would've been there to support me and I feel like my grandmother feels powerless in the house and can't properly support me

[@xx_midnight_xx5789]

My parents say the exact same thing your not alone buddy..

[@jiminsheartshapedhair6237]

This is how my parents are

[@rinzanacantdraw4652]

" All the food we Feed you goes to waste if you're this stupid" " You're Useless" " You'll get nowhere in life" I will remember those words Until my last breath

[@NicknameThe1st]

Aight u need a hug. I know it’s on the other side of the screen but. It’s the best I can do. *Hug*

[@MASTEROFEVIL]

That first one was pretty funny

[@rinzanacantdraw4652]

MASTER-OF- EVIL It really wasn't they're basically saying that they shouldn't have fed me and i was a dissapointment.

[@MASTEROFEVIL]

@@rinzanacantdraw4652 everybody used to say things like that to me all the time

[@NicknameThe1st]

@@rinzanacantdraw4652 I’m sorry to hear that. That can be really damaging to self esteem. Stay strong.

[@moraim6204]

1. They're manipulative. 2. They blame you. 3. They actively block you being happy. 4. They're unstable. 5. They are overly critical and mean. 6. They are severely abusive.

[@blaze36344]

Thanks! :)

[@djonatek9439]

Yes and they have no empathy and they think you will forgive them.essily after all the psychological bullying. HAhah. I will just ignore the door or go out so they can't get to me.

[@doniazaad]

nah man it's my fault my mom is kind of rude to me I keep screwing things up and making it worse

[@greyskymy]

This is my dad. I look at this and finally my guess is correct!

[@thatonefangirl4395]

I get blamed for a lot of small things. A more recent example included that my Mom accused me of eating all her sandwich materials (since she works at a factory by day and packs her own lunch), she screamed and ranted out over something I couldn’t remember. In truth my brother, who’s 13, was the real one that used her sandwich stuff for himself and he doesn’t get yelled at over it. I think it’s unfair how I grew up that was harder than my brother who’s having it easy…

[@shamspayno1922]

"They actively block u being happy" Every time!! I never tell them any thing that truly made me happy cause they will always make fun of me and it won't be a happy thing any more. :)

[@lumynis5130]

Or they'll use this against you. Like, taking away your phone just 'cause you like to read and play games...

[@naturesmagic6970]

How scaringly it's trueeee right!

[@mybackithurts7792]

Every sing time

[@lukeperry3454]

Ummm why are we so similar?

[@ethereal_musik]

It's sad but it's real. I can't even begin...

[@amrithapai8436]

Psy: Physical abuse is *toxic* Asian parents (aka my parents): *I'm gonna pretend I didn't see that.*

[@neusrrw]

Ye-

[@neusrrw]

But I hope my parents won't see this on my watch history or chat lul

[@ummeraihansiddiqi5115]

I know..

[@GenshinWalnut]

Hey, i'm Asian too.

[@SarukoKun]

Me, an Asian: my mum said that it's kinda soft because hitting a child is illegal but they think it's soft

[@villiaura]

‘It was all in the name of love’. It wasn’t love it was anger, stupidity and toxicity.

[@canigettheuhhh]

They always told me it was "for my own good" .... but damn, I was a child and I needed support, not these insults and shit

[@valercornuwu2600]

my mom: *gives me truama, depression, sucicidal thoughts. compares me to friends family and litterally people that i dont know or dont even exist, never stop lying to me(even when i can see shes lying) never stops yelling, blames me, controls me, makes me act like a girl, ect.* also my mom: "why doesnt my duaghter like being around me?"

[@Elisabeth5355]

That is horrible.

[@unepersonneunepersonne3206]

I'm sorry for you... I hope that you changed something about that.

[@sohanidas7316]

no literally like I sometimes wish for her death i can feel the contempt welling up in me so much

[@tangytomfoolery2840]

my parents always says i can talk to them but whenever i do actually feel emotions they dismiss it and say its an act for people to feel pity for me. i feel so powerless and im terrified to even come out of my room

[@baileygregg6567]

Been there mate. Try some good rock music like Ghost☕💜🎶

[@jamclone]

Been there buddy

[@ohshanana2397]

my parents made a rule saying I have to wake up at seven am and i can’t be in my room again till 9pm. they basically forced me to spend time with them and act like I love them so they can boost their egos. and everyday I hate them even more

[@localanimegod5169]

@@ohshanana2397 That Sounds bad dude. You should talk to somebody

[@celebrityshowdown5126]

I’m talking to a therapist and they said I have depression and anxiety, but my parents don’t really recognize that and know they are like oh it’s just corona and say things that make me feel bad and I feel so useless and my dad recently threatened divorce and I feel like it is my fault and my brother has hurt me so bad but has gotten away Scott free I don’t like hugs or being touched in photos because of him and my parents don’t care and make me hug and kiss when it makes me uncomfortable and whenever I get touched I have to do that to my other side of my body and it sends me insane to stand there touching somone

[@milanluxferos]

What about 'tricky' parents/family? They aren't straight out abusive or toxic, but their behaviors or the way they say things can be harmful on long terms- or they are toxic, but it's not that evident... Don't really know how to explain, sorry. Heard the term 'tricky parents' once and I couldn't get it out of my head. All of these signs feel familiar, but not as intense or straightforward, hmm... Great video, as always, stay safe folks

[@stressed.coquette]

Mine too. It's complicated and when I try to explain or unravel it, i can't actually explain. It gets me frustrated, then I over think😣

[@tina1061]

Ah, so true! Idk how tricky family suppose to look like. I mean technically, my mom wasn't abusive but her words get to me every time to the point I'm easily triggered when she has a conversation with me. Not that I'm highly sensitive to anyone else...

[@dariancomsa7204]

I can relate. My mom always has an agressive attitude, like she is ready to scream at me, but acts normal-ish. It was very hard to realise she is a toxic parent and what made me realise it was that most of the time just by being around her made me angry and I always want her to just go away

[@tarax6566]

Totally agree with this!

[@juliaeichhorn3914]

Mood

[@pastelpirate9906]

My mom is definitely toxic. If she's "losing" an argument, she says "You're just like your father!" Or "You're acting like your dad!" My dad is an dead beat, alcoholic, abuser. I've asked her to stop but this only made her use it more, because she knows it hurts me. Then one day, I asked her "how, in what way am I like him?" And she had the look of a deer in headlights. She then started talking about how I dropped out of college, which I didn't. My dad also never went to college according to him and ny grandma. I no longer hear "you're acting like your dad."

[@lairdericwells4075]

Your dad is no worse than your mother. CUT THEM BOTH OFF!!!

[@Yoongiluvbot]

Same since my dad improved a lot I'm compared to my grandmother. She did black magic on us, 🌚

[@creativeusername6927]

My dad used to be an alcoholic abuser to and my mom would do the same exact thing. But now I get along with my dad wonderfully and I'm writing this comment from his house. I hope your mom realizes that what she's doing is very wrong!

[@V1SHNU_V1PER]

Ikr, when my mom is losing in the arguement, she finds anything to stop me

[@devx1033]

Exactly how coward mums are like. When they lose, they stop.

[@Wizard608]

It took me 21 years to realize that my father is emotionally abusive and neglectful. I'm now 22.

[@Wizard608]

@@rylencason4420 I hope that your brother will be able to escape from him. And just to share my story also: my father has been guilt-tripping, gaslighting and emotionally abusing me and my sister for years. It only took the pandemic for me to finally stand up to him and call him out for his actions. I don't call him "dad" anymore, and he doesn't live in my house regularly anymore.

[@ethereal_musik]

I'm 23, and recently realized that I live in an actual toxic environment.

[@anonymousfeather1907]

At least you realized, its better late then never

[@Totallynotgerardway]

Took my 13 to figure out my mother

[@SlickSkylar]

I started doing research when I was 8 about this, I realized the situation I was in when I was 12, I'm about to turn 14.

[@yes3964]

I told my parents i would respect them if they respected me and their reply was “Why would we respect you?? We are your parents you HAVE to respect us even if we hurt you”

[@_Lillith_]

I-

[@camii902]

Thats my mom 🙃

[@n.user1011]

my mom lol 😆

[@morel666]

What 😟

[@maninthemirror216]

F…. Toxic… control freaks

[@rubikscubedude4028]

Parents: "I can do with you whatever I want, I'm your parent" Me: That sounds like slavery, but with extra steps... Parents: Shut

[@leslieoliveira9831]

@@n1dula708 bruh

[@koryleonard8147]

@@leslieoliveira9831 that's toxic right there.

[@leslieoliveira9831]

@@koryleonard8147 no I'm saying bruh because the grandma said that

[@Isabel-sr8ep]

@@n1dula708 oof i can relate but my grandparents were never toxic i miss them😞 and the "why would we respect you" is somthing my dad would say

[@MadameSomnambule]

@@n1dula708 Parent: You have to earn my respect, and you haven't. Child: Ok, so how can I earn your respect? Parent: *dial-up modem noises* Obey me. And if you question me, that's disrespectful.

[@hotcargatorade8443]

“My parents are just strict” [See’s this video] *”yep, just strict”*

[@paulchiu531]

I feel the same

[@SarukoKun]

Y e s

[@thechadleo1179]

Yeah there are just strict.................*HAS A MENTAL BREAKDOWN AND JUMPS OUT THE WINDOW*

[@anudayoker]

Yep. I had strict parents as a kid. Nothing wrong here. Except, you know, the part where it might explain THE VACUUM IN MY MIND THAT REPLACES MY GOALS, INTERESTS, ENERGY AND EMOTIONS AFTER HAVING A MENTAL BREAKDOWN INVOLVING THREE TRIGGERS (one of them coming from my father’s father) AND A SPLIT MINDSET.

[@SarukoKun]

@@anudayoker anything I like bad

[@user-pu3xp7xt2q]

when your parents think that they’re protecting you from the world while in fact they’re the one who destroys you and make you feel shit about yourself

[@Killua_Zoldyck3407]

Why did that hurt do much...? 😭

[@catsarelit5305]

Stop stalking me get a life

[@cosmicrefractions2834]

When she said you don’t feel comfortable sharing your happiness because you’re fearful that it will get stomped on, really felt that

[@yee8598]

Same, that's why I don't tell my mom any of my interests, because she will stomp on them and then ban them

[@cosmicrefractions2834]

Kalista Silva on god, that shit is so annoying, like damn, can’t even think for ourselves, or truly be independent with our decisions when they start to try and but in.

[@klubhouse478]

Same. I feel unsafe when I’m around my one parent alone because I know there is something for me to get in trouble for. No matter how stupid it is

[@-WilsonCostanilla]

My mom: **Is manipulative** Me: **Is suicidal** Mom: ᵤₙgᵣₐₜₑfᵤₗ bᵣₐₜ

[@soupyun]

Hey please no please no.. pls don’t be suicidal please its my nightmare please i beg. Ik u don’t know me but pls don’t

[@-WilsonCostanilla]

@@soupyun I've been suicidal ever since my mom encouraged me to disappear

[@soupyun]

rowel costanilla my mom tells that to me everyday... pls don’t do that, we deserve to live and survive...

[@jenetonwufuju9731]

I've been depressed ever since my siblings were born.

[@soupyun]

Jenet Onwufuju im sorry about that ☹️ I never wanted a sibling thats why... its gonna be alright...

[@runax.]

1) manipulative 2) blame you 3) Block you from being happy 4) they’re unstable 5) overly critical and mean 6) they’re severely abusive

[@NicknameThe1st]

Recipe for chaos

[@angel772921]

Thank you..☺

[@alexturnerstan9000]

spoilers

[@matthewmolloy756]

Ice T fuck.

[@cronusml5795]

Parents always say that there's no room for emotion while they're always expressing their emotion to us by always being angry

[@hobi_buns7020]

My mom always says “you know I’m always here for you.” But when I need her most, she’s not there. I refuse to tell her my emotional conflicts because I know she’ll start criticizing. “It’s because of that damn phone.” “It’s because you have no friends.” “You’re too sensitive.”

[@imsoooboredjaehyun]

Yes my mum always blames my phone but she does not get it is my only source of happiness ik how bad that sounds

[@quinbxrry1807]

Mhmmm what do I do if u don't want us watching mobile it's all fine cuz we won't be doing the online school and more dump classes all fine right now big deal

[@peachhblanket]

same

[@jooniesdimplesarelivinginm5398]

Same My mom always blame the phone AND BTS SHE ALWAYS SAYS YOU WASTE YOUR TIME ON THOSE PEOPLE WHO SING INSTEAD OF STUDYING AND WHENEVER MY DAD INSULTS BTS AND THEN I SHOUTS AT HIM THEN MY MOM SAYS WHY ARE U DEFENDING THOSE BOYS WHO ARE NOT YOUR FAMILY OR FRIENDS

[@karloponte4368]

My mom blamed the depression I had from her years long neglect on Not taking a shower, or appearing to have not.. I always took showers.

[@サイコ-y4d]

Here’s my experience with my parent(tell me if it’s toxic or if I’m just losing it): 1. They have control over what I’m doing every day, by making me always wake up at a certain time, and right away start doing work. 2. My mom makes me feel very self conscious and nervous to even look at her, let alone talk to her. She makes me do things that makes me feel uncomfortable ALL the time. She says things like, “I don’t care how you’re feeling, just do what I tell you” “If you don’t ___ , You’re not going on your phone for two days” “I don’t even care anymore. Your problems are your problems, not mine” 3. She invades my privacy. Sometimes when she knocks on my door, she doesn’t even wait for an answer, she just comes in before I can say anything. Then she starts looking around my room, pointing things out like, “Those shouldn’t be there, put them away.” “Could you clean you room? It looks terrible” When really, there’s nothing wrong with anything. She sometimes takes my phone and keeps it until I do what she says. She makes me do things that I hate as many times as she can, whenever she can. 4. She sometimes treats me like I don’t even exist. Sometimes, if I ask her a question, it takes multiple attempts at asking before she answers, even when she’s not even doing anything! She even takes it so far as to talk to the other family members and pretend like she just “didn’t notice me.” 5. She acts so emotionless towards me, but the only other “emotion” I get from her personally is anger. She yells at me sometimes, getting mad if I miss something on homework, forget to do something, and doesn’t even care about how I feel, which is usually just pain. 6. I think I have anxiety, like, really bad. Now that my mom sometimes points out flaws I have, I’ll names all of them right now: 1. Messy hair 2. Dry skin 3. Weird voice 4. Just weird in general 5. Too quiet 6. Rude Ever since she’s said that to me, I don’t feel the same way I used to: happy and energetic. In public, especially in school, I feel extremely self conscious and left out, and just don’t feel like I should be there. It got to a point where, I can’t even speak out loud to anyone without feeling embarrassed, and always feel like something’s wrong and then feel bad when people ask what’s wrong because they can’t even notice what the problem is. I would say more, but my mom is probably going to go through my phone history and things and end up finding this so, please tell me if I have a toxic parent or that’s normal-

[@Mari-be3db]

Pure manipulation. It's not "normal". Take care of your self, you're not alone🌼

[@Dragadizzo]

Of course your mom's toxic… My mom is similar to yours in some ways. I am clinically autistic, anxious, and depressed because of her and she even continue to blame me for having a bad mental health and tell me to take less drugs that I need. It's nightmarish to have a toxic mom.

[@lolzize8208]

•.F¡rè Ńøvà.• That is horrible what you are going through. I wish I can empathize with you. Just, never view yourself as weak if your mom has hurt you in any way possible. Anyone would feel some terrible pain from being forced to go through what you are right now.

[@kristaokon2359]

@Xjay _Vki I wish you the best. I know what you are going through.

[@lililucena22]

•.F¡rè Ńøvà.• That’s not normal at all. I’m really sorry for your situation :( Your mother seems very manipulative and abusive.

[@franchescasilva9330]

My mom's a verbal abuser and my dad's a physical abuser. The perfect combination 🤌. How I survived: - Stopped caring about what they said or thought about me. - Focused on myself for my future goals - Know my worth - Know what I am capable of - Did everything for myself - Just smile and wave bois

[@miapeleschi6199]

👏🏻👏🏻Keep goin

[@zapro_]

This is what I need to do right now thank you so much ❤️

[@anonymousfeather1907]

I'll be taking notes

[@michelec.9971]

You are Great.

[@reynakondaveeti8346]

Smile and wave

[@kirimizu6223]

I hate it when they yell at you and say things like 'useless child' 'I wish you were never born' 'ungrateful brat' Then in the next day they'll go smilling and laughing like nothing ever happened at all (._.)

[@theondrahamilton9988]

Exactly

[@supdawg3323]

Ugh same

[@lilllyeevee6536]

I wished they fucking stop to trying “improve” our future. They destroyed it

[@bts_is_my_life_bitches161]

This is true that I get suicidal because I'm the only one in my family that my father abandoned me. My step father hates me and talks bad about me and my mom always believes him. My two step brothers tease me all the time of not having my father around. She always compare me to others and it's hard I just feel like giving up right now 😭

[@clarem9639]

yes, i can relate. my parents are two faced, backstabbing, manipulative liars.

[@markgalamiton391]

In my opinion, a toxic parent of a family is one factor why a son/daughter might end up in jail.

[@sku11exz]

mom: i did this to you because I *love* you me: soooo, hurting me with words and physical pain means you love me? oh, ok then... mom: your *opinion* is not an option

[@zoranabanana]

Skullexz my moms the same way :/ some parents think their idea of “tough love” is okay but it’s actually toxic and hurtful..

[@jamclone]

Tough love is a feeling that we can control. I get it with our animals but I'm not too rough with them. I just kinda freak out

[@nathalie3601]

also mom : its just tough love

[@xinnasinpatria3202]

Mexican moms: esto me duele más a mí que a ti. (Te golpea)

[@doit4thefun803]

My house is a dictatorship not a democracy! I would fucking slap her into next week if I wasn’t a boy

[@NenaLavonne]

Sending so much support to anyone going through this. It can cause so much suffering 🦋

[@creativeusername6927]

Thank chu.❤❤

[@NenaLavonne]

Gacha Editor ♥️

[@sophiaredwood5825]

Nena Lavonne Thank you so much 😭💞

[@yuuhoyuu3371]

💖💕💘

[@No.buffer478]

Very very nice thoughts

[@crio3772]

"Children should feel safe, happy and supported" AAAHHAHAHAHAHA.. see now thats FUNNY

[@karloponte4368]

God damn. I only wish really.

[@ninaidian9167]

@@quinbxrry1807 Where Just Same What Use Of Respect is Respect are Parents If they cannot Respect us

[@inksterdoodles11]

@@ninaidian9167 ͡° _ ͡°

[@FoxycityGD]

There's something wrong with you

[@camii902]

Why is it funny dumb bitch ? 😀

[@PilotVBall]

That's every single day with my parents. So happy that I live thousands of miles away from them.

[@JustCas]

Me: *does something wrong* Mom: *tells everyone she knows in front of me*

[@kardamonn1115]

Dude I freaking hate when she does that

[@spikerae3095]

why is this my mom 24/7

[@lullaby_sleep_toddler]

True

[@justadampeterjohnsonfan9446]

A L W A Y S

[@oh_imjustagirl]

My mom told people (others strangers) that I wrote her a stupid suicide letter (which it wasn't). Then she said if you want to kill myself, I shouldn't do it in her house...I should do it outside. And that when I'm getting married she'll read the letter at the wedding

[@angelicgacha]

Oh god I related to this video even more than the last one stay safe during quarantine and a good excuse would be to self isolate to get away from them you're of non use to them if you die

[@whomsthasawakentheanciento7725]

Same

[@vivix2248]

Sameee

[@stressed.coquette]

Quarantine life isn't different than my life. My parents never let me hangout with friends, they always coop me up in my house. For me it feels like an extended break, but with school😕

[@dragoncakebomb549]

Angelic Gacha I agree

[@stressed.coquette]

@@oceanmermaid7581 sorry you went through that. I hope you're doing better💜

[@reypizza7902]

Me: *Does something my mom asked me* Mom: You did it all wrong!! Why didn't you ask for help?! Me: *Tries again and asks for help* Mom: Why do you even need to ask for help? It's so simple and easy!!

[@leafychild5179]

Same tho

[@cdy3891]

That's sad... If any of you need help, I'm here! :3

[@liddolmenace]

Yup.

[@sleepyghost9286]

I giv up on dat If she told me me im lazy to hell with it There always something wrong with wut I do Im the who gonna end up stress and hurt anyway :(

[@maralinazarate7741]

Its true

[@patheticgirl5919]

my mom : "you are a girl you need to act like a girl, you need to be soft and gentle" also my mom : *starts slapping and throwing stuff at me

[@kyus.covers_470]

Atleast this comment made me smile

[@puppypiecat5367]

same

[@muslimwarrior9891]

“u sHoUdNt rUn cUs yOuRe a bIg gIrL”

[@manuelkaduthuse497]

Oh my i can't stop laughing sirusly this is the most relatable commet ever *intense laughing in the background *

[@anonymousfeather1907]

or just throwing stuff anywhere in general

[@musictilldaydreaming7290]

I only have a toxic dad. He doesnt appreciate my efforts to make him proud, all I receive is nothing but reminding me of my failures from my past.

[@kylieazzara7525]

Same. My mom is the best mom, but my dad.....he's toxic....

[@trusttheprocess4775]

Same. My mom is alright, but my dad...o lord, he's toxic asf. Every single idea, thought, feeling, emotion that I have is just downgraded by him. If we talk on the table while eating, he just wants to disagree with whatever I say and then gives me a lesson on how to "think". What the fuck is that all about? I have a mind and brain too...

[@musictilldaydreaming7290]

@@trusttheprocess4775 I feel you man. My dad treats me like I havent graduated yet.

[@trusttheprocess4775]

@@musictilldaydreaming7290 hang in there buddy.

[@leah212]

When i was 10 my mom told everybody about the crush that i had. She told her coworkers and her boss. I was never the same ever since. I’m 25 now, and i have distanced myself from them because i want my peace.

[@melg1975]

@Lou I know how you feel. It happened to me as well. I remember telling my mom and she told many of her friends and family. It was embarrassing. I can't tell anyone anymore plus it might be the reason why I stopped having crushes.

[@melg1975]

@Lou just don't feel alone ok :) happened to me when I was in 1st/2nd grade

[@sophiaredwood5825]

Lou My mother discouraged me from crushes because she wanted to crush any sign of immaturity from me. Me, idolizing her as a kid, wanted to act grown up and essentially waste my childhood, so I would stop myself whenever I was tempted to crush on anyone. Later on, when I was in middle school, I finally started crushing on a boy that had made my heart flutter for three years (and that I had refused to acknowledge because of it.) And I told NO ONE. Absolutely NO ONE. Not my friends, and DEFINITELY not my parents. I didn’t even completely admit to myself that I was having a crush... even though part of me knew. If my mother had found out, she probably would’ve done something similar to yours. Or would’ve made fun of me for my emotions or told me he was out of my league or something. So I learned to trust no one with my private emotions like that. Because damaging parents can... be damaging, in that area.

[@melg1975]

@Sophia Redwood poor you. Don't worry I feel ya can't trust anyone with my emotions either maybe one day I will be able to and hopefully you do as well.

[@sophiaredwood5825]

Mel G Thank you so much 💞

[@internetpurple]

my family: *says something that makes me upset* my boyfriend: “you should leave the room next time they upset you” me, upstairs, avoiding my family because they upset me: “StoP hIdING in YouR rOOm cOme dOWNstAiRs aNd Be SoCiaL”

[@ohshanana2397]

my parents made a rule saying that i can’t be upstairs from 7 am to 9pm and they forced me to “love them” so they can boost their fragile egos

[@celebrityshowdown5126]

I swear to god I feel like my parents and brother are out to get me like I eavsdrops in them and hear them talking about me and they don’t say nice things about me behind my back ever they take away my phone and might take it away permanently when it is how I deal with lose and what I used to cope with a very close loved one dying to feel better when I’m reality if they were better i wouldn’t use it so much but meh I’m already ruined

[@lunaryder7518]

I hear this too much

[@fairymairah]

It's bad enough to have toxic parents. but I got older Siblings who are exactly like this toward me !

[@palakbansal9040]

ikr...even though i am the oldest sibling in my family, whenever my siblings get scolded or anything, i try to comfort them and talk to them bcs i know how it feels to be humiliated, i feel disgusted when other people who are older than their sibling(s) just don't care. i am glad my siblings are not the oldest ones, bcs then no one would listen to them.

[@fairymairah]

@@palakbansal9040 you must be a good sibling. even better than mine !

[@pramodjha8351]

Exactlyyyyy..

[@fairymairah]

@@palakbansal9040 one time. I said I did'nt need to be taken care of and I was considered Un-Grateful and don't have any respect for me.

[@palakbansal9040]

@@fairymairah yeah it's something I've also heard many times

[@LilChuunosuke]

I already knew my parents were toxic, but this stuff is always reaffirming. I cut them off 4 years ago and left them a letter on my bed saying that if they wanted me back, they had to recognize how much they hurt me growing up, apologize, make an attempt to be better, and ideally seek help for their issues. They've basically responded with "we've always loved you! You just never knew how to take a joke. Here's a bribe, come back!" I don't think they will *ever* make an effort to be better people, but if they truly want me back, they have clearly written instructions in size 16 Ariel font on what they need to do. Until then, I won't even acknowledge they exist.

[@phillysteak-t5v]

I mean, you should probably give them a second chance... but if you’ve given them multiple chances, then I understand why you cut them off

[@leafychild5179]

@@phillysteak-t5v Sis, don't even. People like us gave our families so many chances, they just don't care.

[@leafychild5179]

Good job, I hope you're doing better now.

[@phillysteak-t5v]

Hello Nobody ??? I was just saying what I thought

[@LilChuunosuke]

@@phillysteak-t5v abuse victims hear this shit all the time. That's why they reacted the way they did and I didn't respond. We hear people say this to us from the day we cut contact for our own safety and well-being until the day our abusers die. And every time we cave, they hurt us as much as they can until we leave again. Do you think we enjoy not having a family to go home to? We do this because we have no choice. It's either cut contact or suffer endlessly until we die or our abuser does. I appreciate you're trying to be helpful, but EVERYONE tells us to give them a second chance and our abusers always hurt us when we do. I hate not having a mom and dad, but I hate being abused far more than being alone.

[@kainatrafique9993]

When I laugh,They say not to laugh. When I cry,they say" why are you crying?" Me: Should I be Emotionless then?...

[@irisbantillo3531]

EXACTLY MY PARENTS but then if u turn emotionless, they'll tell you that youre an uncaring child etcetc

[@irisbantillo3531]

@꧁SkyleeKates꧂ . its okay thats the reasom why i always spend an hour and a half at bath

[@panda-gj2ml]

no because then you’re uNgRaTeFuL

[@kainatrafique9993]

@@panda-gj2ml ;-; seriously...

[@alwaystired32]

i understand you! my parents get annoyed at my laugh! but the thing is i don’t have just one laugh i have loads it’s never the same and they think i’m fake laughing or if i laugh for more than 15 seconds than it’s unnecessary 😔 makes me feel like i shouldn’t be happy!

[@MelioneChaudoin]

I'm crying rn Seeing these videos Last night my parents told me that they shouldn't have a daughter like me I'm alone And I'm depressed I don't have anyone to talk to

[@DeepakKumar-fi4os]

I can feel your pain

[@evelynrod5094]

They’ve told me those exact words too. I feel you :/

[@thechadleo1179]

I feel the Pain You are going through It's a Real War Right outside your front door I tell you right where they'll Kill you but You can use a Friend

[@anonymousblanketgirl9865]

I really hope those parents know whose responsibility it is to raise you PROPERLY and with love instead of feeling forced and wishing for you to never be born. If they didn't want you and if they wished they never had a daughter, then why didn't they put you up for adoption or for some abort you?(I'm not intending to wish death on you) They just wanted someone to vent their problems on, basically a human punching bag. Cut them out of your life. Until they change, it's best for you to stay away from them as much as you can rn. You are brave and wanted in this world and God loves you. And there are going to be times where God is going to tell you to "go" or "stay away". Now is your chance to stay away if you can't run away at the moment. Will you take it?

[@SaurabhGupta-vh8jq]

Don't worry...just move out

[@blooeagle5118]

The worse part is if they get you into the mindset that "Maybe they aren't toxic and it's just me being weird" when they are definitely being this way. I have to think long and hard to remember things that happened fairly regularily because I think it happened so much I either got used to it, or I just blocked it out.

[@reyna9873]

and it might take many bad decisions before you actually see the truth and your entire childhood would have gone away without any happy memories, just constant fear, hesitation and insecurities. you end up forgetting who you are and push away people that truly love you because you dont understand what love looks like.

[@andyandens9468]

Thing is, my parents always change their acts while guests are around, always saying how I say that they are such good parents! It makes me shocked... and scared.

[@multifxndom4770]

Exactly 🙂🙂

[@Yoongiluvbot]

Same, or it looks I'm the villain

[@maya07_11]

yeah-

[@Benjaminjames7]

I don’t fear anything, but I do get the almost personality change under public eye

[@sageyt4808]

My mum will be pissed at em for oen tiny thing and then when people come over, "My kids perfect i love her!!!"

[@blehstudio8756]

Sometimes I look at my family and say, “What happened...?” When I was little, we were a happy family. My dad used to call me pumpkin, and my mom would call me a lollipop. I was very close to my dad. We had a dog that we had before I was born. My life was amazing. I had lots of friends and a loving family. But around the time I was 8 or 9, I noticed things began to change... My dad would come home and not say a word to me. He wouldn’t hug me or say, “Hey, how was your day, pumpkin!” It was like I didn’t exist... My mom and dad would argue after I was asleep. I would always wake up in the middle of the night and hear them. After that, my mom was cold and distant. She would talk to me, but not like she used to. She would always compare me to my friends and belittle me. After a while, I just kind of distanced myself my only happiness at home was my dog. When we left elementary a lot of my friends ditched me for the older cooler kids, I was alone.. Soon after my dog died from old age.. I really miss her. Now I’m here today writing this comment. The one thing that’s getting me through life is my first and only friend.. Best friend! I’m so happy she stayed with me At this point I feel like I don’t want to have a relationship with them at this point.. but I would get backlash from my older siblings (20 year age gap) because they had an amazing childhood with my parents when they were young and wouldn’t understand because they see them as how they were back then

[@trusttheprocess4775]

*HUG*

[@blehstudio8756]

Aryan Raveshia *sniff* thanks..!

[@jamclone]

Hmm... I relate.

[@vin3019]

When u see things changing but can't stop them ....

[@blehstudio8756]

너무 서투른 해요 there will always be worser cases to anything. I know someone will always have it worse. But, to me what you say is that I cannot be sad because someone has it worse.

[@scout8360]

During this quarantine I feel like my mom is beginning to get frustrated with me and my sibling. I feel like she has a lot of insecurities as she was yelled at a lot as a kid and her father was almost never there. She used to yell at me a lot when I was younger until I cried then she would yell at me for crying, she later blamed it on stress. Not long ago she called me and my brother useless for not feeding a fish, I feel like she keeps setting a higher expectation for my sibling as they been yelled at a lot recently. Sorry I just needed a place to rant but I don’t know how I feel about my mother as she sometimes suddenly blows up sometimes but then she is calm for the rest of the day. It’s really frustrating to try and figure out if she is toxic or not. Ps she stresses very easily

[@crazyiwascrazyonce8437]

I really do feel for everybody who has abusive parents I feel like my dad is not really toxic but I have definetly had to accept the fact that I cannot trust anybody. He has promised me so many things if I do that and this but then he just tells me that I'm a girl and I don't need a computer to play useless games or that my friends are the reason I act like this. He doesn't ever think what I have to go through every time I do something like clean the house it either ends in a screaming match or me crying.

[@matrahman8174]

Same, but my dad isn't a bad parent at all, he tries his best to cheer us up. My mom most likely has a disorder from stressing herself and from regular stress :/ . Im a bit more worried instead of angry and sad.

[@Chinwa2025]

Either if she suffers or not, you don't deserve to suffer too.

[@wynnsr_]

Funny huh? Parents say the internet is toxic for us but some of us see it as a vent. I love that about the internet ♡

[@ohshanana2397]

my parents only like me when they benefit from me. so since i’m not in school right now they act as if i’m useless trash. I usually visit my grandmas for the summers so I don’t have to go through this for three months but because of covid 19 i’ve been at this house all summer doing nothing but studying and i’m not even learning anything from the studying. it’s just making me hate school even more

[@thedollhousechannel]

I was personally raised in an abusive household and I firmly believe that anyone who wants to have children should have to take mandatory parenting classes. Some people like my own Mother were raised in abusive homes, and continued the toxic patterns that she endured as a child in our home. I feel like if my own Mother was shown what was and wasn't appropriate when dealing with children, she would have done fine as a parent. But, she assumed she knew what she was doing, and I suffered the consequences of her ignorance. Now, I'm 23 years old. The way I was treated as a kid makes me terrified of the idea of having children of my own. I wouldn't want my kids to meet their "grandparents", and I don't personally want to visit my own family again any time soon. The thought of seeing my own parents makes me incredibly nervous and unhappy, even as an adult. It makes me quite sad at times to know so many other people think just like I do about their own families, and don't want their own children because of how they were raised. I sincerely hope that anyone who has endured childhood abuse or trauma of any kind would go through intense therapy and get their own issues resolved before having children. Some people are able to cope, and they are successful at functioning normally within society despite what they endured, but not everyone is capable of dealing with their issues alone. "Your kids are not your therapists, and they deserve a normal healthy childhood despite the trauma you dealt with in the past." is something I wish I could say to my own Mother, but she would completely dismiss me. To this day she believes she has done a fine job as a parent, and I couldn't disagree more. In my opinion, being a parent is a serious responsibility that a lot of adults who have endured abuse or not couldn't handle. Don't feel pressured to have children, because it's honestly not for everyone. Having kids, or even just one kid, is years of hard work. If you can't handle taking care of a cat, dog, or small pet, forget about having kids. Raising a child is basically a second job that you put a lot of hours into, but you don't get paid for it. You really need to want kids, not just passively think about having kids. If you feel like you've been cheated at a good start in life, I highly recommend doing everything you want to achieve in life like seeing the world, owning nice cars, or finishing an important collection before you have children, so you don't resent your own kids later for simply existing. It's not your child's fault that you can't afford a new car, house, vacation, nicer things, etc. Kids rely on their parents for the money to survive and to be happy, and that is a parent's responsibility. If you want someone paying to live with you, go get an adult roommate. Kids love asking for new stuff all the time,and you can't just be stingy and always say "no" to things they ask for unless it's unreasonable. I hate it when parents say things to their kid like "You're lucky I don't charge you rent to live here." or mock their children for not having their own money or a job when they ask for stuff. It's ridiculous. You created that child, and now you're upset because they aren't living up to your unrealistic expectations.

[@rowanbcapr]

“Other kids get it way worse then you do!” “We are so much more lieniant!” Thank you. This channel helped me identify the problem.

[@Yoongiluvbot]

If my parents sees this video They will take my phone and say they are fake

[@ghostly5760]

She always says ‘you could’ve been in adoption with people you don’t even know! Be glad that your grandparents took you when your mum couldn’t’ ‘I swear to god I’m going to send you back to her’ ‘You’re just being a moody little lazy b*tch’ ‘You are always sleeping while your sister is cleaning the kitchen and being useful’ ‘There’s kids that don’t have clean water to drink so stop crying like a baby’ She always tries to guilt trip me by belittling my problems like if I’m sad she’ll rant about kids who have it worse so mine doesn’t. Matter anymore.

[@kyraisdead7876]

Parents shouldn't brag about themselves. It's a toxic behavior, and my father does this a lot. It's always "my father was never home when I was a kid." I'd rather have a father who is never there than one I don't want to be around.

[@qylieminneiahchan8865]

@@kyraisdead7876 That hit too close to home.

[@catsarelit5305]

@@YoongiluvbotIkr

[@ellie8983]

In my household, my mother and brother used to shout at each other for years for him not doing his homework. I always stayed quiet in my room, but I wanted to tell my father about that, but my mother absolutely prohibited me to. Now, since quarantine started, I recognised my mother also shouted at me out of nowhere for minor mistakes I made. For example, my mother offered me to work in one of two days to paint a room. But then, she shouted at me in the middle of the first day for not helping her even though she promised me to only work on the second day. This wouldn't have been a problem if she didn't promise me to only work for one day in the first place, but shouting at me out of nowhere absolutely destroyed my mental health since then. I absolutely dislike helping her at all at this point knowing she herself is a emotional rollercoaster. A loving caring mother in one moment, but shouting out of nowhere in the next one. Don't know if that really counts as toxic parenting since my mother is a kind person beside that problem, but I don't know.

[@kristaokon2359]

It is a toxic parent if she can't keep her promises and puts the blame on you. Try not to communicate with her to much and see what happens. Good luck and stay safe.

[@Ashley-cb9th]

That is definitely toxic behavior, it's also very manipulative. She could be gaslighting you. It sounds like to me that she is sweet and a nice, caring mother one moment and the next she's angry and blaming you out of nowhere. This is very bad because she gets you to care about her and shows you that you can trust her, and then the next she breaks your trust and shows you that she doesn't care about you. This cycle then repeats over and over again until you finally break it, which takes a tremendous amount of courage and effort to do, and is often impossible

[@thewildcardperson]

Michi you need to sit your parents down and explain what’s going on with you and your feeling towards them if they don’t want to listen or don’t change you need to make them listen provoke them (call Child protective services or 911) get them fined and jailed if need be

[@trusttheprocess4775]

That is called instability. They are unstable parents

[@sakshisawant5053]

Most parents abuse us emotional with words and making us feel useless and not making us to live anymore 😔😔

[@NV-ur4zh]

Things my parents say that hurt me " You can't do anything " "Why r you not good in studies" "Everyone in our family is( toper) nice in studies , I think you r the only one in our family who is not good in studies" "You will never be able to be the thing you want to in your future, I am saying for you dear that do a simple job only in future" "Why don't you talk to family, why r you always in that phone and friends " "Freinds will never be with you in future, only parents will be " There are so many more but I don't want to make this comment long anymore ( now I feel relaxed after sharing, is anyone here that relates? 😞)

[@manuelkaduthuse497]

Same but i have something to share with you friendship is forever

[@someone-vi5en]

Sounds like my parents and relatives-

[@hj6431]

Yaa same with me, Except one thing...Afraid of my parents I started studying and get good grades but whenever I get A they are like where is A+, Which totally demotivate me...Once I said to them when I am competing in a quiz in online class (note- I am a maths topper) I said I try my best I might only get half mark of it, Mom got really angry & scold me, I am a crybaby whenever they scold I remember everything they do to me so If i started crying I wont stop as all those memories attack me, But when result announced I became first and she come at me for congratulating and I really feel to burst out at that moment...Now I am in 10th they are expecting me to have full A+, they remember me about it everyday I feel pressured and I am so afraid that what will happen If I loss one A+....They really spend so much for my studies like tutions, they have high expectations....

[@meenakshiarcot3385]

One thing that helped me was to work on myself such that I believed in myself and not asking for validation from others.

[@meenakshiarcot3385]

One thing that helped me was to work on myself such that I believed in myself and not asking for validation from others. I understand that this is not easy thing to do but is the best solution I believe. If you find amazing friends, never let them go. Friends are very important part of life.

[@thirtytwenty]

the voice makes me cry its so comforting

[@faustasma3909]

It's like that for people that are easily upset or considering self-harm, I think.

[@thirtytwenty]

@@faustasma3909 for me its both

[@annagarza8649]

But... "it's because I'm a teenager with stuipd emotions"

[@jamclone]

Can't be further from the truth

[@d4rlene452]

"You're too old to cry"

[@padparadscha6492]

"at your age people aren’t tired, you have no problems"

[@averagefan352]

STFU, your parent'S feed you, and you call them toxic.

[@chirpingbird5787]

@@averagefan352 yeah people fed slaves but still beat them so what's your point

[@Quinn-bq9sv]

My mother keeps JOKING about divorcing my dad and actually seems like she means it. What do I do?

[@shreksspawn2359]

Aww I'm sorry. Try to get all your emotions out in a healthy way, such as writing it down, doing sports, and just any creative endeavours. Hope it gets better, love! 💘 ❤

[@kellyfortes5949]

Hello sweeatheart. I'm very sorry you are going trough that :(. First of all I want to send you the warmest hug 💞. Can't be easy going trough that. Second I'd advise you, too look up ways to deal with whatever it may be that you are feeling. Also now that all your feeligns are valid and belong to your very unique way of emotion 💖 Third, if you have a close friend or anyone you really trust. Your sister or brother, cousin, neighbour, even a teacher, or an only therapist. If you felt comfy, try talking to them :). Sharing this situation that I am sure has been heaving on your heart, may make it a little less heavier. (Also there are those numbers you can call to you, to speak with an advisor or a listener I believe. Be careful if you chose this approach and try to reach the oficial and safe sources) Third, journal how you feel sweetheart. No judgement. Accept you feelings like you accept the wind. They are natural and won't stick around forever, however they are important, so writte them down. I hope this technic allows you too better understand how you feel and also lighten you heart :) 💞 Fourth and not last! What your mom is doing, is porbably a product of her own pain, it is in no way your fault. I don't know how old you are, but I'm here assuming you might not be a child already, and in that case, know that you will be ok believe me. Google people going trough something similar. And be tender and calm with yourself baby. If you need to cry go ahead. The universe will still love you and bring you the most beautiful wonders even if you feel at your lowest. You are worthy You are loveable You are amazing And you are very brave I wish allll the love and warmth in this world to you sweetheart 💖💖

[@tehogvirgin3664]

is your dad nice?

[@theroadtocosplayandcomicco5840]

Im still on the same boat I told my mom that if she divorces my dad I will stay to live with him because I trust him and he can provide for my needs . She was pissed

[@heyitsolive4451]

My mon wishes my dad to die..

[@keiishihara1725]

I feel so grateful. That i'm no longer live with toxic parents. I care about mental health. And know i'm so happy with everything that i have. 🤗

[@catcubers3435]

**Agrees**

[@celestiallemon1555]

Me before watching this: “Guys no, she isn’t toxic, calm down” Me, after watching this: “I’m not, well... well this.. hm Nahhh”

[@AmoghSarangdhar]

Parent: “You deserve to be dead” Me: ... (don’t ever call me when u r on ur death bed then)

[@allisonslocum6948]

Anybody who's dealing with toxic parents or families especially during this difficult time and quarantine, just know that you're not alone. You can get this through this. My heart goes out to you ❤ Stay safe everyone

[@michelleguevara7708]

I'm the only that feels so overwhelmed that really wants to scape from home? No? Just me?

[@mig_alto3606]

Ohh gurl you’re not alone

[@mig_alto3606]

Like yess my mother is toxic but the fact that my sister and father don’t do anything about it makes me want to move out for good and never come back

[@doit4thefun803]

My mum: “if I was a girl I would never even look at anyone like you. You’re a sorry spoiled child.” I will remember those words until my last breath

[@serenemountain6769]

My Father : You are way past your expiration date, you will never be someone! i don't hate my Dad but i know that i don't want to become like him ...

[@quinbxrry1807]

:0 :(

[@Arqkn]

I feel you...

[@quinbxrry1807]

Then who is your mother a boy?

[@Arqkn]

@@quinbxrry1807 well No,

[@SophiaMayflower]

I feel safer on the internet than i do with my parents, and this is coming from a 12-year old Edit: I should probably mention that i mean *mentally*, NOT physically... Sorry for any confusion!😅 Edit 2: I'm 13 now yaaay!

[@chirpingbird5787]

Ouch

[@onlyhuman5669]

I feel you😔

[@RadilRaaid12]

same from a 13 year old, and I am a boy using my mothers account on the computer. And they are bragging on how private my life already is and bla bla bla.

[@Yoongiluvbot]

And people are insulting my online friends after finding out blaming them for what I do. Doesn't talk much but Is annoyed when I talk to them. They took my internet for a few days I somehow manage to use it currently

[@hannahrose2528]

I only like the asmrs of KZbin like gaelforces audios.

[@Nokyyyyy]

When your parents are comparing you with others : - stop comparing us ! ;-; - I'm not ! What's wrong with you?

[@genzi78514]

Compare them with the parents of those successful kids. -John is so responsible, why you can be like him? -Because his parents are nice and mine aren't.

[@Isabel-sr8ep]

@@genzi78514 saying that might get you slapped or the belt or worse there are soo many very strict and abusive and emotionally abusive parents out there its soo sad😣😔

[@jamclone]

@@genzi78514 The ultimate burn.

[@caitlinNicole1618]

Thank you for sharing, as a parent myself I have learned of an extended amount of toxicity my parents, more so my father would give out. I REFUSE to follow in his steps but I have learned one thing about myself, I have learned what I have been taught and it takes effort to heal from that. His abuse and toxic behaviors stuck with me and sadly it wasn’t UNTIL I became a mother that made me realize it. I started therapy and it’s safe to say I’m NOTHING like my dad but I still have some traits I’ve picked up from him, it’s all a healing process. With that said, if you have this type of relationship, please get help, talk to a councilor because it’s something I wish I did. I was scared of being taken, beaten, many things but as an adult now, it would have saved me from going through all that I did. Don’t give up on finding the right therapist for you, not all therapists shove pills down your throat. I have requested purely talk therapy myself. Don’t wait until you’re a parent yourself because post partum comes in many forms, and past traumas can surface, if it’s like my case, it will increase the thoughts creating a form of PTSD and triggers that come and go.... don’t wait to get help. Parents may know what they do wrong, most likely they are just blind to it...they may need help themselves but they won’t get it if you don’t get the help first. ❤️

[@multifxndom4770]

"your too young you don't know a thing about depression"

[@hefnafrenchia4573]

yup ...

[@hefnafrenchia4573]

its a really commonly used word without actually knowing the meaning of it

[@tinyotaku8091]

I've heard this one

[@Robert.a._]

Says the ones who never experience it

[@hefnafrenchia4573]

@@Robert.a._ YEAH

[@erinaivi]

I’ve grown up with toxic parents... I relate to all of these.. is the best thing to do is leave the house.. my mental can’t handle this anymore.. I’ve thought many times to just give up.. what do I do.

[@xxxxxxxxxxxx5643]

You should try to welcome them and try to be “kind” if it doesn’t work out just state all they do to you, unless they are abusive

[@laxmishiwakoti1264]

Same here dude . I also relate to all of this shits . Now they have finally put me in DEPRESSION.

[@EjJung11]

Sign #7: You're watching this.

[@technicalmaster-mind]

My parents are as GODS! Thank you GOD for making these 2 amazing creatures as my parents! 🙏

[@kenkaren4542]

Nah this got recommended... Unless

[@nganmap01]

nah, i have a healthy parent

[@nwerpy5577]

Ngân Hồ Hà lucky

[@borjanapopova8945]

Watching for a friend.

[@reyna9873]

its terrible when they praise you and put you down in a time gap of half hour. you're given a lot of freedom just to be called ungrateful. you're being treated with kindness just to be reminded about it. you have been kept safely because you need to be grateful for it. and above everything they still believe they do all of it because they love you i have spend almost the entire 17 years of my existence believing that kids are supposed to be grateful and i'd go mad if i do something that doesnt get validated by my mom even if its the right thing to do. i got trust issues, i almost ended up feeling like a sociopath and it took me such a long time, effort, tears and anxiety to realise i was losing empathy. because thats the only way i could connect with my mom. i had to be like her in order to comfort her and aid her trauma. everything that she's undergone has to be understood by me and i should support her .because of that, i lived my enitre life believing that i was ungrateful whenever i wished she was different. its either that she's very kind and calm or she's being severely violent. i have been hit since i was 4-5 years old and i grew up believing it was the right thing to do. she'd spit such hurtful and manipulative statements but you cant talk back and if you did, you dont love your mother and your ungrateful because a mom behaving so is 'normal'. she'd apologize and agree to be a good mom saying she has been horrible, but if my sis or i agree with that and say that she indeed is, she's angry and uses abusive statements saying how no child is allowed to say that. also, having individual emotions is wrong and we're just the mirror images of her and every mother feels this way so if we went against it, we;re the weird ones. i grew up thinking every abnormal thing she did /said was normal, and if i didnt do it, ill never fit in and ill be bullied and hated forever. now when i start to look at myself, i feel much at peace when i think about death. im severely suicidal but dont want to seek help because it feels like thats what im supposed to do and i feel happier. my girlfriend was the only one that made me realise what true love feels like. i was never able to reciprocate it in the right way, but now i cant unsee her gestures of true love. maybe its too late now, its better to end everything. it feels so good to watch someone validate my feelings by posting videos like this. i finally feel like im an individual existence who has a heart and soul of her own that CAN get hurt and feel anger.

[@koo9568]

it would be nice if you made a video on signs a kid has toxic parents like how the kid reactions are, based on their parents behaviours... e.g. the child gets scared on the slightest raised voice or..the child can recognize their parents footsteps patterns :/

[@scrumpstitch1120]

Make this blow up!!!

[@blueyskyper3812]

Now the one with the footsteps is so true I know how everyone’s foots steps sound and how Heavy they are crazy right

[@ok-se7ke]

i am shake if someone says my name now

[@nicoleterrero9681]

Same with me and my mom I get shivers

[@ireitman1087]

Wait footsteps are a thing?

[@thismynamedealwithit2690]

I'm scared of the future... growing up and having children. I'm scared I'll become a toxic mother. I'd rather not have children at all

[@botmaster9000]

I think that you should see a psychologist and a counselor. You would be surprised at how well they can help you.

[@thewhitewolf7886]

I have the same opinion of being a father.

[@thismynamedealwithit2690]

@@botmaster9000 I just don't want my parents to find out yk... It's hard to leave the house without telling my father where I go

[@botmaster9000]

@@thismynamedealwithit2690 In that case, I think that you should call either Child Protective Services or the police.

[@thismynamedealwithit2690]

@@botmaster9000 Ah, it's not like he beats me up or smth like this yk. He's just kinda... toxic😅 but he's also trying... He's actually a good person even if it doesn't seem like it sometimes

[@evelynd7980]

My dad said to me this morning "I wish I never had kids." I'm only 12 so unfortunately i can't move out

[@lunaryder7518]

I’m so sorry that happened. That sucks

[@Omkumar0385]

Ya i am also 13 And i have fear of getting beaten

[@aestheticlife647]

@@Omkumar0385 I'm 16 I can't move out either

[@Wizard608]

I'm so sorry. You deserve happiness and love. You are worthy.

[@namjoonslostairpod1083]

I am 14 and my mother says that

[@artisticalex1206]

A lot of these I can relate to. They made me into this person who worries about how others feel about me and they make me think "Grow up" or "Things can be worse" and so on. And it sucks because they make me feel uneasy about myself.

[@EvraeFrelia]

It has taken me 23 long years to fully come to terms with my mother being emotionally and psychologically abuse and manipulative. These videos and help from my friends and boyfriend really helped me see that.

[@beveritas7083]

I do, I didn’t even know that this wasn’t the normal until I realized that other parents were very confused at how I act towards them.

[@minerva9799]

I feel relieved and emotionally stable when I’m away from my home and parents. Like on trips, I’d have a break down if I have to leave and I feel nervous and uncomfortable when I rejoin them.

[@djonatek9439]

Same here. They are hard work. Extremely mental. They try to make me out to be mental. When I'm independent with my own place and a job. They hate it cos they are just jealous and are near 79 but have you not noticed they seen to have more energy than a twenty year old. They need serious evaluation from s psychiatrist . Even they are beyond help of these specialists cos they are definitely possessed by demonic entity's. They've got to be. They can't continue to be horrible and jealous about everything positive you do whether it be make new friends or get a promotion at work. It makes them plot and scheme behind cos they are sick minded people. I'm actually convinced they plot and scheme to bring you down.. that gives them.olessure cos it there true colours shining through. Pure evil narcissistic personality disorders. 😵

[@nads.crops.101]

omg this happened to me recently I cried 3 days in a row at the 5 day trip with my school

[@ilovekangals1054]

I thought I was going crazy, or I wasn’t seeing something. Now I know there’s something not right with my parents. I’m not just a complainer, I’m not angry for no reason. I’m right, but I can’t do anything about it.

[@chavezsmith3938]

yup, can relate. I've grown hate hearing my mother's and her husband's voice over the years. I currently live with my grandparents and when ever they used to visit I'd almost always get upset and didn't want to see them at all.

[@leafychild5179]

I hate hearing my name because bad things happened when they called my name.

[@deadjellyfish]

*i feel like a rag doll to everyone except my one friend*

[@aloeveil]

Ehhh I’m sorry but I really don’t trust you lol. I don’t want to be the bad guy but seriously, anyone who has a gacha life profile picture that looks depressed... really gets me irritated. So sorry lol.

[@landonisia]

XMANYOLO true haha

[@Layla-tg2qe]

@@aloeveil Honestly, yeah. I seriously get that.

[@deadjellyfish]

XMANYOLO it’s ok

[@yuuhoyuu3371]

Oof, I feel like people putting depressed pics in their pfp just makes it so unreal- Sorry ;-;

[@jae-la7418]

My mom is so toxic that I was literally afraid of making friends and when I was really young she left an came back as if it were nothing an I developed separation anxiety and because of her I have been insecure since I was 7. She still is the same and a she would make fun of how I looked an my weight and because of that I was eating a lot when I was younger, I even started cutting myself. Because of that I have 0 self esteem, confidence, and love. Because of this I stopped eating as well, but because of quarantine I'm working out and stuff. And I kinda turned into a empathetic person or whatever it's called but im really a nice person in real life. But I hope no one else has to deal with this❤ (So update my mom came in my room and started bothering me and I'm trying not to cry cause in her mind crying an stuff like that is weak. She makes it hard to want to live)

[@momoslayedtbh]

Jae-La Sinclair I hope your mom treats you better

[@angelicalloyd4879]

Jesus loves you you are never alone if you ever need to talk my email is [e-mail]

[@joelmavity1467]

I know know you feel. To my dad crying was the worst thing you could do. Because of him I learned that the only emotion allowed to be displayed is anger. That really messed me up.

[@souhailanadir720]

Work on yourself be successful person don't let them to get you

[@rynli]

Jae-La Sinclair my parents are the same to me and my siblings they even threaten to kill me

[@Ade1.]

I’ve always been scared to die… but sometimes I wish I was never born.

[@jess-tameme1080]

*When you're quarantined and aren't able to escape them or your darker thoughts:* • 🖐😐🖑 welp, time to isolate myself further

[@youngmyah2811]

the fact, I only been happy when I leave the house and want to stay out longer. Knowing when I come back , to happiness drains out of me. I just got yelled at the other day and now she ignores me . I blame myself because I thought it was fault . She was never meant to be a mother , if she can’t even talk to her own child.

[@nothere3950]

With part 1 & 2: They’re about 90% of this, explaining how would take ages, plus, I’m not too comfortable to share those experiences especially when I’m still experiencing them.

[@botmaster9000]

I am sorry for what you are going through.

[@funkylilith]

Stay strong, it’s going to seem hard at time. You’re going to go through difficult phases with excruciating decisions you will have to make. Remember you come first, you are in charge of your happiness , your safety and your mental wellbeing. You have to parent yourself. It’s unfair, you deserve better. So stay strong, talk your friends you can trust and find your own way to a safe life, full of love and fulfilment. I’m rooting for you. Xx

[@heatherverse]

my mom when I bring something from the past: "things have changed" also her: "I cArRiEd YoU fOr 9 MoNtHs" bruh, i didn't ask to be born tho.

[@kassimasinia3314]

Same.

[@anonymousfeather1907]

9 months isn't a year yet though, its not that bad

[@monsterhanna6691]

I find it so stupid when parents are like "Well, I'm your parent" and I'm like "That doesn't mean you're perfect or a saint."

[@day6atemywallet78]

I’m actually at a point in my life where I’m toooo scared to have a relationship or have a child 😭

[@TheBlackFelinefromtheend]

I know exactly how you feel😔

[@PonTheGachaMachine]

You should actually be excited because you get to raise them like you should have been. I'm sure it'll go well! :)

[@manuj2868]

Sometimes, those with the worst role models end up being the best parents

[@eeveegirl1334]

Mother put me on birth control in my adolescent years (wasn't even seeing/dating at the time), in high school said if I were in a relationship and got pregnant "there's the door, good luck and don't come back!"

[@khonchounie2647]

No problem 😉

[@artyraven]

I’m nearing the age of 16 and I’ve never done anything independent like go out to the shops or something by myself. or even with friends. There must be an adult there, because “I’m not mature enough.” However, I’ve been told I’m more mature than my age many times. Is this toxicity in any form? I’m always in the house and my parents take extreme measures to make sure I am with a guardian no matter where I am. I’m just a bit unsure whether it’s toxic or not.. because I’m not independent at all and I wonder why. I can’t walk to school on my own even though I’m so nearby. I can’t stay home alone ever. I can’t be left for one second alone.

[@anteater9408]

They're not really toxic parents but they are helicopter parents

[@stressed.coquette]

Mine too. One of my parents even works at my school😥. And yes this is a form of toxic parenting. It's called "Helicopter parenting". Basically means that your parents never let you do anything by yourself even if it's something small like hanging out with friends😥.

[@stressed.coquette]

@B3llet Truth my parents always believe that they are right. And when I told them that i literally wanted to die, they didn't do anything. They think I'm going through "a phase" when in reality, they're the ones that make me feel this way😞

[@myfarts]

Ooof.. I feel ya

[@kareemramzey8870]

Tell them to put some faith on you that you can take care of your self and you wont stay at home forever someday you have to go out and find yoir dreams yoi have to convince them after sitting them down and talk calmly

[@dzeroprime1500]

"In reality they are just angry that they weren't able to take advantage from you" Oh shit, the feels.