60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma - Part 18/33 - Abuse Authority

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Complex Trauma is the result of the abuse of authority. Some people with Complex Trauma, who were on the receiving end of the abuse of power, end up abusing power themselves when they get in a position of authority. Why is that? What can they do to change?
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[@karenwallace227]

I am a fifth generation Aboriginal survivor of the most horrific kind of trauma… in my community we learned to turn the anger and pain towards each other- called “lateral violence”. I wish people in my country could understand this as well as you do.

[@lemostjoyousrenegade]

That’s precisely what Black a lot of Americans (those whose ancestors were stolen from Africa and enslaved) do, some people call it “Black-on-Black crime”. It’s heartbreaking to hear/see/know. 💔 Much love to you and your family/tribe from San Francisco. ♥️ 🌉 💫 😘

[@astroboyseeker5273]

Excellent analysis for seriies and your observations! Thank you! Simple followup question, which may be showing my lack of understanding:, why does Africa seem to have so much violent unrest? Initial Hypothesis fed to us is Colonialism? Media images? There are of course many other quesrions for followup. . At least this series deals with the healing process, too. Looking forward to consuming entire series so i can understand what needs to be done. Every group seems to have a form of Complex Trauma tp deal with. Let's fix it 😊 My hypothesis is the political division we see is related to more and less trauma camps.. Much love to all, especially those who suffer from the behavior of those who had bad ideas. ❤ We ALL see thru very dark glass, some more clearly than others, including me.

[@davspa6]

​@@lemostjoyousrenegade I'm an American too, Caucasian I guess you could say. I didn't know that at all but it makes sense. I have heard for years that there's a lot of black on black crime, but I didn't know why... So it's likely redirected anger from CPTSD... 😢.

[@WhistleblowingGoodWitch]

Sending love and support from Colorado, USA. ❤ This trauma recovery is such a blessing. I'm so grateful we all made it here to bust this Intergenerational trauma once and for all. 🙌

[@BeautifulOnes876]

The same sad story happens in the African-American community in the USA. 😢

[@user-cz6st5pi3g]

It sounds more and more like, people in business are taught these abusive tactics in college.

[@TiffanySloots-Baxon]

This particular video should be mandatory for everyone to view. We need for the world to change to make room for generational trauma to heal. We need to stop the repeating pattern/cycle.

[@bobby89bobbyAb]

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[@michellelaudet5363]

However, we also need to take stock of who we are as well, because don't we all want our own way? Don't we also act like the holiest person, righteous, even if it's only that we are good? Don't we each allow ourselves "benefits" over others because right now, we deserve it? Seriously, I have been through alot of trauma, but as one country of my ancestry says: There's nothing so bad that it couldn't be worse... we each can only fix ourselves. Fix yourself.

[@Tempist-Strike.]

I had attended the Jehovah's witnesses church for my entire childhood. This series is my first step. I will see my first counselor at 43 years old. That guilt based doctrine captivated my grandmother, mother and most of my family. It's my time now.

[@anodyneredamancy1587]

My guy and I left the religion a year and a half ago. I was in it for 28 years. Been presenting a lot of symptoms to do with complex trauma since and recently found Tims channel. What’s funny is I was listening to this and sent it to my guy saying “honey! Listen to this!” lol The elders are currently going after his 80 year old parents because his dad is an elder and we do business on their 9 acre property. To be clear, we are not in business *with* his dad, they just let us process firewood out there to sell. We find out yesterday that my brother in law who is also an elder is taking pictures of my almost 80 mother in law because was driving down the driveway and rolled down her window to say hi. Neither of us are disfellowshipped, so saying hi is allowed.

[@Muck-qy2oo]

OMG! I have never heard so much truth been spoken just straight away!

[@HappyCat1111]

Thankfully, I have never abused power. But I have been abused and bullied badly by people above me and it’s affected me deeply. I’m hoping to be able to stand up to these horrible people in the future should I encounter such abusers again.

[@johanna006]

Serving others is the best way to reduce ego.

[@DisEnchantedPersons]

I made sure that my guys never experienced abuse, they were all treated with dignity and respect, my supervisor told me that I was too forgiving. My guys remember that I was.

[@rehabhassan6039]

I am so grateful that I found this channel , Thank you so much

[@stefaniamirri1112]

THE MOST IMPORTANT LESSON OF THE SERIE. You are talking of Narcissists and their victims. You are right on the fact that even the victims can end there if not aware, but that is indeed cause both come from the same ground.. Even the Narcissist have been abused indeed.. Abuse is repetitive inside that generation, and than they bring it outside that world from work to all hyerachic systems, and all the situations you said..and we have now indeed a totally sick narcissistic society, all over the world, every country affected.

[@yumaychang]

You described how my narcissistic boss behaved perfectly!

[@bingbangbong3159]

This is a good explanation of what happened in the year 2020.

[@julychani]

No it wasn't, I was a nurse in 2020 and people died, because of c. It was not a lie. You abused your Power maybe by not wearing masks that time and making others sick.

[@margiel2180]

I agree I think I know what you mean

[@italian1ist]

Elaborate would you please

[@italian1ist]

Why bring politics into a beautiful healing video like this and defile it? The person who replaced him in 2020 is definitely not any better

[@Cardio_gram]

Indeed true.❤Thabk God people like you exist. In the cpuntry I live in it's hard to find a therapist

[@chilloften]

The workplace has traumatized many beyond repair. Never have I seen such evil as in healthcare. Know it all gods everywhere, every level, every department.

[@hdmccluskey]

My father was brutal. I have trouble with the commandment... Honor your father and mother.... How do you honor someone that you never felt safe around? I'm 68 and still working past stuff..... Discovered recently that my inability to organize clutter stems from the brutality. I was never sure whether a decision I made caused the beatings. Every bin of my stuff contains the emotional impact... As if I was a kid again... At least now I have the awareness of how useless that impression is at this point in my life.... Even writing this makes me feel like throwing up.... Thank you for sharing your wisdom.... All the best.....

[@annastone5624]

I’m so sorry, that sounds awful. 🥲 It’s must be so enlightening to discover the source of the issue. Personally I believe that commandment is meant to encourage general care of one’s family and relationships. I doubt very much it was ever meant to encourage anyone to submit to abuse.

[@annastone5624]

If you feel like throwing up.. I had that feeling a lot. I believe it’s because none of it belongs to the true you - not the abuse & not the symptoms it caused you to suffer. Do you just want to vomit and expel the whole thing out if you. It’s excruciatingly painful to have these realisations - I hope you can be kind to yourself, curl up with something soft, but yourself your favourite food or cake 💖

[@KatWoodland]

@hdmccluskey I, too, have clutter issues that have manifested in the wake of surviving a childhood of narcissistic abuse followed by THREE monogamous relationships (two husbands + one decade long disaster) to pathological narcissists. No surprise there! It took me to age of 59 to actually SEE it was my mother who was the original mind effer. YES! Children of severely critical parents, in my case my rage-aholic mother, have a brain wired to prevent getting yelled at. We are wired to scan the airwaves to be sure our decision is defendable or something. We grew up justifying our very existence. We were made to feel ashamed for having needs, like using electricity and warm water. Be as kind to yourself as possible. What I do is focus on one thing in the room that is beautiful. Then it’s easier to tidy. Also creating order. So I got myself some cute baskets. Best wishes to you! Rewire your brain, and accept it takes the rest of your life to UNDO the major fuckery that was done to our programming.

[@michellen6595]

I love it! Focus on something beautiful 🤩. I am going to start doing that when I get triggered. Thank you for sharing 😃

[@WhistleblowingGoodWitch]

Beautiful, thank you ❤. And congratulations on awesome recovery success.

[@basiabarbara3365]

For me, the christian part was absolutely mirroring my journey. And I got encouraged. Thank you Tim and I thank God.❤️ He is good 😌

[@robertafierro5592]

I will be listening to this as i walk to my Counseling appointment..its the one quiet time i have to work on myself as i enjoy my Remission. Tim Fletcher's videos and lectures came into my life at the right time. For that HUGE MIRACLE id like to Thank God AGAIN. The real Truth is that I am Blessed.

[@georgiakritikos4955]

When the unlawfull sneak in the legal, they give the civil a hard time. IN AL0T OF WAYS ,the worste DOMESTIC ABUSE EVER ❤court assisted is criminal activity

[@cledosliop4175]

Thank you for sharing this valuable insight. ❤

[@CM-uo5tq]

So glad I found your channel; breaking decades of shit is tough

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

Thank you, Tim. So powerful.

[@SuperFacecloth]

They did not find any bodies. Not to negate the abuse but they lied about the bodies as an abuse of power to keep the trauma alive.

[@misskaistar]

Residential school just has another name: FOSTER CARE Canada is still doing this. Please explain why I was abused by my narcissistic mom, once I became a mom I tried my best not to repeat, but now I'm dealing with a government , social worker that's narcissistic. What is the spiritual lesson in this?

[@soapsuds5553]

Maybe alot of social workers are victims themselves and maybe that's why some of them abuse others they're empowered over. Best not to get on the wrong side of a children's social worker if you can help it. If you think they're up to no good, hire a lawyer. Record everything, including phone conversations.

[@phyllislucia]

By the way, no bodies were found at the residential schools. Check it out for yourself.

[@WhistleblowingGoodWitch]

They didn't need to bury their bodies because they'd already taken their Souls. Sad and horrific Catholic Church. I am so sorry for anyone who endured this. ❤

[@Spritual-life-lessons]

Karma, understand the patterns

[@jimig399]

​@@WhistleblowingGoodWitchyes. They've already stolen their souls by wounding them deeply. Kids lose their motivation, confidence, spontaneity, creativity, etc. My ex wife has been a k-12 teacher in California for 27 years. She has borderline personality disorder and is a covert narcissist. She uses everyone in her circle. 33 kids pass thru her class every year and she uses most every one of them to advance her agenda. She has no accountability. No moral compass. She sees herself in a superior and romanticized way that is scary. She's completely delusional and in denial of her manipulation of others. To me it seems as if many of her peers, coworkers and administrators are exactly the same as her. They use shame and intimidation to motivate kids. We are in serious trouble if we can't get a grip on this and fast.

[@mojomeme3116]

WOW thank you so much I have been listening to you for a couple of weeks now almost every day. This has been a very eye-opening experience for me. I now realize that I’m outside of the box and going up against Christians and family.

[@jason-ed1uo]

Sounds like any cop or judge or lawyer I ever knew.

[@Johnconno]

Welcome to Britain.

[@JCImageInc.]

Your message is a miracle to me. It's at the right place, at the right time and is right on target. Thank you so so much!

[@robertaturk]

Good leadership Have mission (the what) Have vision (the why) Everyone is subordinate to these characteristics. Go to your employees and ask: “What can we do to make your job easier?” “What do you need to be more efficient and effective? How are other departments impacting you? What can they do to make your job more efficient?” Who are the people who need to have the most power? In retail - the person who loads the car and next the cashiers. Why? They are the last people that the customers have influence them. In the 90’s corporate Container Store there were only two reserved parking spaces. If you guessed it you’d probably be wrong. It was for people applying for jobs. No rule book Just “Do the right thing.” (and everybody knows what that is.)

[@GrowNow_clairvoyant]

35:15 necessary for me to start , with being accountable

[@draftsman3383]

Thank you so much for this video. I have an authority trauma myself. Thx for the part for christians aswell. ❤

[@daniellegamache309]

This is very interesting and very much needed. Thank you

[@shelteredsparrow2736]

Great video

[@shelteredsparrow2736]

So well said about the box

[@andyetters9056]

This is really depressing

[@ash-is-napping]

I was with you about the victims of complex trauma relating with the underdog, having been subject to the abuse of power. I understand many people who have gone through complex trauma then abuse power themselves even though they themselves hated that done against them. Do you have an answer for why?

[@chilloften]

Anger, rage. No empathy or compassion, not even for the self, firstly. Because if they’d see it for themselves, then they’d gather it for others.

[@alexandrugheorghe5610]

I'm homeless and experiencing abuse from roommates and shelter staff. I'm disabled.

[@dougbenton8767]

I don’t know how they orchestrated this cell but I’m stuck in it now and I want out I’m on my life back I’m an old man with no country

[@iw9338]

Thanks Tim, spot on. We are All created in His image, thus each one is of great value.

[@mspinksarahbug]

Have you ever met/worked with Jeff VanVonderan? You guys would be an unstoppable force! Such similarity in energy/anointing.

[@ronm3671]

Some poor people who win a lot of money, turn narcissistic. They end up broke within a few years. Always be humble, remember how hard it has been and enjoy being free.

[@juliazaikina8546]

😮 I recognized myself in the previous videos but not in this one. In fact I find myself quite fearful of people of authority. What you describe sounds like a narcissist not a traumatized individual who has experienced narcissistic abuse.

[@manuelag2128]

Where do you believe narcessists grow?

[@veronicalagor4771]

Perhaps you haven’t been in a situation yet that has allowed this part to show, like he says in the video. It’s a very recent development for me, and very painful to accept since I started out promising to never be like my abusive parent…

[@italian1ist]

He literally explained how traumatized ppl become narcissists.. Try watching the vid again

[@juliazaikina8546]

@@veronicalagor4771I’m almost 40yo so I’m pretty sure I’ve experienced enough types of different situations yet I was never interested in power and abusing it. And I have zero tolerance for bullying. I disagree with your statement.

[@user-tq3zd7vi6h]

Now I understand 😢

[@jwhite5396]

Abuse of power. Ruby Franke and Jodi Hildebrant come to mind.

[@cindybrown9898]

sadly no narcissists are watching this

[@KatWoodland]

@cindybrown9898 Funny! Narcissistic parents are why most of us seek these videos out.

[@veronicalagor4771]

🙋🏻‍♀️Slowly waking up to the monster within, hoping to change now that I can see it

[@ebayaccount675]

I feel I might be I just want to be a better person.

[@ebayaccount675]

​@KatWoodland my mom & dad are 100% that way.

[@KatWoodland]

@@ebayaccount675It’s so good to be recovering from negative conditioning and finally being good to ourselves.

[@user-jl4gh9pe8b]

Finley some one is talking about this. It's not ab race, religion, sex, or what ever they are trying to separate and concor

[@f34r0r]

Job Aiden

[@fairygurl9269]

3:33 💯

[@rhondamathis1323]

Chattanooga Tennessee

[@ZuroiA]

Well I'm confused. If the right path can stray away from social and even religious norms how are you supposed to know that you are on the righteous path and not going crazy?

[@psychbomb7543]

All failures are caused by weakness. If you’re failing as a family or individual it’s because you’re weak. Figure out where you’re weak, strengthen these areas and watch what happens.

[@marty4268]

respect to those pulling down the english statues in winnipeg...from occupied ireland

[@WhistleblowingGoodWitch]

🫂 hugs to you, that is awesome to hear! I just learned I'm nearly 3/4 Irish from Cork and Mayo. ❤

[@phyllislucia]

Please issue a retraction regarding the "bodies buried at the religious residential schools." Check it out for yourself. No bodies were found. Yes, humility is important.

[@bulbo-the-hero]

That is actually untrue, there are bodies of unmarked graves which were left unmarked or had their markers destroyed in the residential school cemeteries, which was done in the pursiut of destroying indigenous culture. While the reports of mass graves of undocumented indigenous children is likely exaggeration and was mostly claimed by foreign news agents. I do think it is important to discount untrue statements like the mass grave things you shouldn't discount the actual truth that there was abuse of power going on.

[@kristinehennix1818]

Power = Pride. Pride is the gravest sin and root of all sin.

[@y.peffle2802]

that bodies story has been proven false by now

[@Jewgirl2911]

Love your teachings - however, your biblical teachings need some attention. Yeshua NEVER came to start a new religion! He came to extend the Jewish/Hebrew religion to everyone - that is why He came.

[@mlou7432]

His plan was to fulfill all the feasts that proclaimed he was coming. He would die as the Passover lamb and save us all from the death from sin. Satan’s plan to have him killed backfired. God knew satan would have it carried out lock step, and it fulfilled the Passover!

[@HiraethVagabond]

Heresy