60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma - Part 28/60 - C-PTSD Test

[@timeittakestoletgo1687]

Our man Tim is on vacation and still making videos to help our mentally ill, addicted asses. We love you, man. Thank you.

[@radelapadat7421]

I am binging his lectures for last month, Tim is so helpul and easily understood. :)

[@DanielSedgwick-q7n]

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[@Ominous89]

Yes to many questions. But also no to a lot of questions. Or, yes I once thought like that, but it changed or I learned different overtime. Wich means that I am actually on a good path of growing out of the depression and dissociation. I have tackled questions like these in a timespan of over 10 years. But after burnout, homelessness and debts as a result of the depression from C-PTSD, there still is a lot of work to do for me. Even after developing a healthy structural household, after years of hoarding. Even in my second year of total abstinence from alcohol. At least I went from isolating into to curiosity for new people in my life. But I still do fear my own rage. Sometimes, no, a lot of times it's just hard for me to stay on top of it and remain patient and peacefull at triggering environments: -Doing groceries in a supermarket appears to be challenging for me. -Standing in lines makes me feel uneasy. -Traffic, and especially traffic lights that keep the whole intersection standing still for minutes and no reason. In my town, it's a challenge for me to wait for a red light, with so many space and time to cross the intersection. So many traffic lights waste so much time and cause so many traffic jams just by bad programming. -People not paying attention in traffic because they're on the phone. -People cutting me off or blocking the road. -My own behaviour while riding a bike: roadrage. -Annoying long lasting rainy weather patterns. It's so hard not to lash out or go off to these kind of situations and people. Once I lashed out, I get home, I feel like some kind of Patrick Bateman from American Psycho, and then the shame kicks in: "Again, I've failed to remain calm and kind. Again, I couldn't ride the bike without loud profanity. Again, I have been terrible to everybody today. And again I behaved like an immature child." Sometimes I need half an hour to cool down from that. But I also manage to laugh about it in hindsight. I'm working on it. Every day again. Some days are better than this. I'm always thankfull for those days. But this is what makes it so hard for me to find new people: people only see me as the ominous angry man who behaves like an abused animal. It's been a problem for years and it's something that goes so much way back, that it is a complex problem in my behaviour. Because this has been repeating for years, I need to break through this cycle.

[@sandymarie921]

He is the absolute best i have ever encountered. Such an absolutely amazing and life changing Godly man. He has changed my life!!!!!! I continue to learn from him. Thank you God for this man , your messenger.

[@LOVEISTRUTH300]

He is LOVE💖💖💖

[@LOADINGGLIFE]

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[@naturalist369]

How kind of you to still make a video for us when on vacation ! So much appreciated ! Bless you ❤🌟❤

[@MissiJade]

I am extremely overwhelmed after this test. I have CPTSD diagnosed but seeing this is hardcore. I got 9/10 in the aces and I have been trying every modality I can think of. The one thing that has certainly helped me more than anything is acupuncture because my body and lots of peoples bodies nervous system is firing on all cylinders. It is so hard to engage in any kind of psychotherapy when your nervous system is that hyped up 24 seven I would recommend anybody who is also experiencing difficulty with psychotherapyand feeling so anxious and on edge 24 hours a day for such a long period of time to seek out acupuncture. The body definitely holds the score thank you.

[@robertdeskoski9783]

I heard my ex (who I think shiws many signs of C-PTSD) muttering to herself, "He doesn't love you, he's loved other people before, how could this love be special" I knew I was dealing with someone who engages in self-sabotage. She always felt alienated and yet alienated herself and wore masks and pushed people away She also always seemed to feel attacked, even when I was trying to be loving and kind.

[@adamanderson8838]

Be so thankful you are free from that mess. I have peace from forgiving my ex & a heart that would love to encourage her to seek healing her inner child through Tim Fletcher & become somebody new & free from her negative behaviors but that’s not my Job nor should you want that for your self. It’s heart breaking knowing that they’ll move on with negative behaviors & unresolved issues only to return to vomit. I married mine & she sabotaged it within 3 days & is likely back to the vomit she relented of & fled. I was turned into Fletcher excuse I couldn’t make sense of the mess I went through. Tim opened my eyes up to exactly who my ex is & man was that scary & sad at the same time. Focus on you brother & strengthen that which holds you back & find a partner who has done the work & isn’t a child trapped in an adult body. God bless

[@anxietyhealing]

"In order to get others to respect you need to be better" - This used to be a big struggle for me. Great video Tim.

[@elinorehansson-boe7282]

Iam from Sweden and Iam so greatful for your videos! You explain things so good! Thank you Tim! 🙏💕

[@wanjiruolive]

I am from Kenya 🇰🇪 this was a good video....thank you for sharing it with us.

[@Paulathompson1712]

Thank you Tim, this is a brilliant and comprehensive list - unfortuantly, this is one test I passed with flying colours. Great thanks from Sydney Australia and to all those on this site I really wish you well in your recovery. I believe we CAN get better.

[@notbrad4873]

Having identified with 90%+ of that list, seems like free will is a mirage

[@adamanderson8838]

Damn, stay focused & target your inner healing & forgiveness. God bless.

[@nryane]

Yep. MANY questions answered yes for the past (healed now). Also some questions I’m aware of being partially healed. Definitely affected by childhood AND relationship trauma. I’m waking up to the fact that my cognitive executive functions were severely affected by trauma-induced brain damage. I respond to the world with behaviors that have sensory sensitivities much like people with autism and/or ADHD. Addictions, luckily for me, seem to be low-level and manageable. Healing emotionally is uppermost in my life. Creating new “habits” of behaviors seem doable. C-PTSD challenges many of us. Trauma therapy and our willingness to look at our lives and change them can make a huge positive impact. Blessings!

[@SimplyMulani]

Wow. I know a lot of this from introspection but Damn!!!! I’m seriously shocked, shook and concerned to be honest. My mind is blown! I have my work cut out for me.

[@bumblebeez1341]

Wow, thank you, I'm so glad I start therapy very soon, I answered multiple on 54 questions, I'm blown away by that fact. Your channel is so well put together and so informative, thank you again. I hope to heal my past trauma and live life again.

[@cosimavonliebenau8317]

Shocking how this resonates.

[@user-fg3yt6oh8v]

Thank you for sharing your knowledge Tim. God bless you

[@teresaphillips9692]

I could identify with every question except for one... Now that I think about it, that's the best score I've gotten on any test 😳

[@sonyakayoftheusa2615]

Anyone that cares about me need to watch this video. It explains a lot.

[@lauravastag7661]

Me too boo❤️🌎 much love from sweet South Carolina.

[@timeittakestoletgo1687]

Yep. I’ve sent this series to many people.

[@jaehowlett9408]

For me the biggest trigger is being yelled at or told negative things to. I will blow up big time and hold a grudge afterwards. Might be cuz I have borderline traits tho

[@alexandrugheorghe5610]

I scored 32. Many of these I've managed to get them fixed by doing therapy in conjunction with mindful meditation, neurofeedback and Yoga for trauma.

[@StonedOverlord]

What if i have it all, did i win ? When do we win this game ?

[@HappyHolyHealthyLife]

Awesome! This video makes me miss cruising soooo much!!!

[@raslalique]

How have I made it this far? I tick MOST of these boxes 😢

[@jeanetjensen6474]

Omg what a beutiful place 🤩 have a nice time tim and crew 🇩🇰🙏👌

[@mariacliment2767]

I have most of them, I am 52, desperate, I am alome in the world, I dont know wjer to start... How can we heal alone? We need special help. What is that program you tall anout?

[@bumblebeez1341]

Seek therapy, you are not alone there are people out there who can help you

[@andrewterry8092]

I am 52, disabled, and alone as well, too dysfunctional to be with anyone.

[@waynewells1958]

I have alcoholism so I've found peace in 12 steps. It works if you want it bad enough

[@mariacliment2767]

@@waynewells1958 yes, I am doing the 13 steps. Thank you so nuch for advice

[@manyBlessings2all]

Hi Maria, your comment was 2 years ago ~ I hope you found Tim's programmes in the notes, or some other suitable effective help.. it's a tough road & takes time, but with good info like this, & support, hopefully with good & actual physical people, we can repair & create a healthy happy life. Even reading comments here feels helpful & a connection, company.. step by step we can heal.. thanks for being here.. love & hugs 💕🤗

[@basiabarbara3365]

Brilliant idea for creating the test! I’m going to share this with many people that I know. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@Willsontime]

Looks like SE Asia. Question 3, I do all of them. Question 5 all except hitting as reflex. 7, almost all, 8, yes. 12, most of them. 13. All of them except not fear of death. 14. All of them. 15. All of them. 16. All except d and f.

[@TheWackler]

No better trait in a trauma counsellor than someone who always shows up

[@carolynmurphy3697]

I wish I lived near a beautiful beach rather than in a gloomy depressing chemtrailed City

[@Musika1321]

Thank you.

[@alexinwonderland6239]

Did he say that just the first 10 would be indicative of more severe trauma?? Welp looks like I'm a little worse than I thought bc I scored higher on that than any test I've ever taken 😭

[@lisacurtis8162]

I am afraid of angry people. The closer they are the worse. Then it's fight or flight. I'm married to someone who says why don't you just change? Why can't you just trust God? Most of the time my husband is the one scaring me 😢

[@adamanderson8838]

@@lisacurtis8162 Yeah you need major help. Your husband is drowning in your mess & brokenness. You are clearly operating from your limbic brain & need some serious help getting out of that trap. God bless you both.

[@rebeccaweberling2120]

There are 7 that don't apply. I think that's pretty bad. Makes me want to say screw it and just stop living. I know I need help but there's none around me.

[@ajelder6822]

I get that temptation, I too struggle with the dark thoughts. BUT I flip over to the light soon enough to stop the intrusive behaviors. You're not alone .

[@tishainess9339]

I hope you are ok. If you want someone to talk to I’m here ❤ reply to this and I’ll even put my email or phone. God bless you 💖

[@lukedegraaf1186]

If you're not living on the edge; you take up too much room.

[@pippatuck7753]

30 out of 64. At what number do we need help?

[@axeslinger94]

Umm...clicking on the video?! In other words, you need help like YESTERDAY if any part of this is resonating Lol

[@skruffs1537]

what if u need to answer multiple of those responses. ......

[@MusicMissionary]

A lot of yeses, a lot of used to bes. I guess I'm on the right path.

[@AiCash-mc8fb]

Are you guys in Florida?

[@HappyHolyHealthyLife]

I relate to about 80% of these traits 😭

[@lydiahughes6564]

Got all but 3 of them😢

[@MoreFootWork]

#15 is soooo about me

[@katechristy6842]

62 yes, 2 no 😢

[@French-Kiss24]

Oh my. I thought I’d do okay, maybe medium. Not so.

[@misak68]

Well, I took your test and I feel so bad...There was only one question I said NO to...

[@Elya08]

Wow… It’s like you know me so well. 😵 Not a good thing. Good thing is I’m in and have been in trauma therapy for nearly 2 years now.

[@AR-vf7vg]

The end of this video should definitally be part of the intro. Indeed as sayd only then and there: ALL of the proposed 'answers' are unhealthy. None are (yet one can be very understanding of them.) I FIRMLY believe one can know (or still need to know) to have c-ptsd and not feel ok with the answer options. ( Conscious or not no have received not enough dignity, attention to our very personal inner needs, average over long early childhood time, creating "living without good futur" mindset., ...) (Also, at number 3 my reply is a) even though I reply thus only to the second part of the question submitted as on single situation.) I admit I stopp at number 17 but than gave benefit to the doubt and went strait to the closing speech. Ah ok: it's christan hope to catch lost souls. Got it. At that stage religion gets in the way folks, exactly between you and yourself.

[@Fnberg744]

May want to write it down first next time . Or not

[@bobbygordon3257]

Good tax deduction work on vacation trips...

[@zaram131]

According to this, everyone on earth has complex trauma. I have a ton of these, but a lot of them are normal human reactions.

[@zaram131]

Or personality traits.

[@DanielN-n5t]

LOL! Feeling more confident every day and noticing my anxiety dissolve until I knew I was “in control” is definitely a relief, I went with what I mentioned and a week after my paruresis was gone. I just go'ogled the latest in Beck Reznark’s guide and now I can go without even thinking about it.

[@charrioll7009]

it appears you have an xray into the workings of my mind.

[@ahmedbenzoghli]

😢

[@rickprogl8086]

Yab a dab a doo thanks for the stew!

[@lakshaybhojwani8975]

I have a doubt you have done resource specifically or list common traits of weak minded people?