7 Needs Quality Men Have That Are Stronger Than Sex

[@BernMendez]

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[@yolandacastillo6741]

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[@mesmerize3965]

I love all your video. I hope somewhere in time. I'll meet the right man.

[@christinerobinson7966]

Wow now I totally see what I did wrong. I was playing that mother roll I didn’t mean to do that but, I did and I didn’t set the boundaries the way I needed too. Wow that so tough because, I been through so much pain because, of it.

[@annsmith6505]

Hi Bern, I tried accessing the site, but it got flagged as not safe. Can you assist me?

[@terrierichards6738]

Tremendously beneficial to know about men . So true I might add. Good reminder.

[@lilacarmen5073]

1 to be admired 2 feeling desired 3 feeling seen 4 being useful and adding value 5 your trust 6 your respect 7 your standards and boundaries 7

[@BernMendez]

Lila, thank you for your share!

[@lilacarmen5073]

@@BernMendez my pleasure 😊 Thanks to you for your precious videos !

[@carmellaws6410]

That respect one is wrong …….same respect both ways not letting them run riot

[@nunya5270]

Thank you!!!

[@lilacarmen5073]

@@nunya5270 you're most welcome :)

[@TheLove2surf]

Hey Bern! I have been following you and listening to your vids for more than 2 years now. I have taken on board all your messages… and applied them. 9 months ago I met a man… when I least expected to… when I was busy working on myself and literally in the middle of focusing on one of my passions (I was literally surfing when I met him… also in the ocean surfing)… and I have taken a whole new approach to relationships as a result of your advices..It turns out this man is the most kind loving respectful and inspirational person I have ever met… and more than I could ever have imagined if asked to describe the man of my dreams… and the most amazing and crazy thing… is that 9 months in… he proposed…

[@eierinjhoi]

This is beautiful. I'm happy for you

[@meeyahfarley8076]

Awww! I love this! This is truly beautiful that you have met a wonderful man! Congratulations on your proposal! 😊❤️❤️

[@belindarobinson9008]

Congratulations 💏🎉 🤗

[@TS-mentalhealthmatters]

Congratulations!!!💚💜💕

[@Insomnia_Is_Histo-Rai]

Congratulations! 🎊🍾

[@Katrn30]

I needed this video 40 years ago...I was out in the world at age 18 without any tools on how to navigate. Great advice!

[@LonjeMarie7]

I really appreciate your content. Can men please focus MORE on holding MEN ACCOUNTABLE! There are so many videos towards what women should do ,what about the MEN?

[@numacamara]

This channel exclusively focuses of giving advice to women. There are other spaces for that which you can find with a simple search.

[@tinabrain4646]

AMEN to that.

[@shannoncrees1974]

Omg well said 👏👏👏

[@Introvertliving]

They have them, too. How to find a woman who’s really cool kinds… It’s people and never just men or women. It’s all about cross connections. Whom we like likes someone else and on it goes…

[@Bayo106]

you must be crazy, respectfully. I've seen videos from men FOR men for the past 12 years. at least. just say you've never searches for them instead of talking rubbish

[@oliviafranzen2959]

Guys, please dont feel the need to apologize that you want to be valued! It's not a man's thing, it's a human thing. And please dont feel like you have to apologize for being a man. Look for a woman which wants a man. Real women appreciate real men! We love you!

[@jamekac.stuckey3228]

Very well said! Thank you!

[@BernMendez]

Thanks for sharing, Olivia : )

[@mahaalotaibi8352]

My husband wanted to marry me from day one he was talking about marriage and kids lol. I didn't follow any of those steps but I did have BIG STANDARDS. He knew I wasn't looking for casual I wanted to start a family. But my vibe was not desperate at all. He could tell I was going to get what I wanted with him or without him. You can never hide the smell of desperate people so ladies be careful. Men and women and everyone can see it. Make sure you are willing to lose the guy that's what having standards means and not waiting 5 years for him 💯 👌

[@VCD512]

I have preached this for years. NEVER EVER BE AFRAID TO LOSE A MAN! They always come back especially the ones that truly loved you from the start but never really told you. I'm going through that now...lol

[@juicy1325]

You’re lucky. Most men, like 99% I’ve run into don’t want any kind of relationship except sexual

[@QuietlyCurious]

"He could tell I was going to get what I wanted with him or without him." So badass.

[@ubermama23]

From my experience as an observer, when meeting a man for the first time or on the initial encounter/date, if they claim to be your husband, they genuinely mean it. Based on what I've witnessed, this approach seems to work. There's a belief that men, from the moment they meet someone, already sense they'll marry them - akin to fairy tales, but in reality. Personally, I have yet to encounter this phenomenon myself.

[@myhappyplace7861]

This is an awesome video. Have been married for 36 years. My husband told me years ago that men just want to make us happy. So just tell them what we need. If it is reasonable and within his power he’ll do it. And he’s good to his word. By the same token, I do the same for him. We spoil each other. Within reason. We make spending time together a priority. And we show appreciation for the others contribution. We try to be more polite and thankful to each other than we would be to a stranger. All of the things in your video are absolutely accurate. If you’re being disrespected and can’t work it out, there’s something better for you.

[@Sarablueunicorn]

Men want to make the woman they choose happy and they will do it without her doing anything in return. They don't give a flying f*ck about a woman's happiness but they know if she's happy she will provide everything listed here + sex. Doesn't mean he loves her or wants her happiness, it's transactional.

[@myhappyplace7861]

@@Sarablueunicorn I think it depends on the man. All people are different, men and women. Some women or users some men are users. Some men are not users and some men are users. Most things in life are transactional even among friends. If one starts to feel taken advantage of, they will distance themselves if they’re not able to work it out. Human nature. At least in my opinion

[@izymachado2934]

After dating younger and older men and loosing patience because most of them don’t follow that list.. it works both ways . Being in control of your own life is the best form of happiness.. at least for now 🙏🍸

[@m.a.p.transformation1938]

Women receive and reciprocate. The man has to give the woman something to work with. No matter how powerful and loving a woman is the man gives the ingredients, the woman makes the cake. There needs to be more information to teach the man the ingredients to bring so she can then have something to work with.

[@indy18286]

YEP PEOPLE HAVE TO BRING SOMETHING TO THE TABLE NOT JUST A PRETTY SMILE AND A NOD ....IM NOT GOING TO ADMIRE ANY ONE IF THEY HAVENT PLAYED THIER CARDS RIGHT IN LIFE

[@m.a.p.transformation1938]

@@indy18286 She brings the ability to reciprocate and multiply. It’s the masculine and feminine principle. He puts the seed in, she makes a baby. He builds the house she makes a home. He gathers the food she serves the masses. This is the first principle of life. No one is saying the woman has nothing, does nothing or brings nothing. We all know women can do wonders with or without. However for there to be balance the woman needs not bring all this wonderful stuff to no table when the man has no table to put it on. She’s to reserve herself for the one who values what she has and then she releases as he shows he’s it. Folk are getting waaaay too far from the yin and yang of life. As couples prove themselves to one another over time then they both can move gracefully in and out of their masculine and feminine energy. In the beginning stages, women need to be about their business until it’s safe to love. Otherwise she becomes the man leading in a relationship that may end up very out of balance. Men need to think about their own daughters before they insist a woman goes above and beyond for a man that has no intention of marrying her. Period.

[@indy18286]

@@m.a.p.transformation1938 THER IS MORE TO LIFE THAN MAKING BABIES WITH A MAN ...

[@m.a.p.transformation1938]

@@indy18286 making babies? I was using metaphors. Smh. This is precisely the problem. Shallowness. Never mind. Bless your heart.❤️

[@indy18286]

@@m.a.p.transformation1938 FO IM FRM THE SOUTH I KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS GOOD LUCK

[@sandragreen5146]

Your teaching is so mature and responsible!! I really love the maturity you encourage in love. Thanks Bern.💯❤

[@BernMendez]

Sandra, I'm happy you're enjoying my content. Thank you for sharing.

[@sandragreen5146]

@@BernMendez you very welcome🤗

[@blingblingnelida]

@@BernMendez I Love 💘 your Maturity of Level you Teach. The Common sense of The Ability of Teaching US LADIES The Important Essencial Respect of Relashionship..." AMAZINGLY DONE. LOVE ALL YOUR VIDEOS ARE ALL AMAZINGLY AWESOME DONE AND SAID....I will continue to Watch And Continue to Learn from it... God Less you Bern...😇🙏"

[@RealLadi228]

Standards and boundaries are huge for me...coming from years of relationships that were all take and no give and after childhood trauma too..I have worked my tush off with healing...I'm not playing games or dealing with fake people🎭 Single and happy🙏🙏🙏

[@starfishw7138]

O well. Who said men were so great anyway?

[@RealLadi228]

@@starfishw7138 Amen! Hello! We must say not all!

[@raularmas317]

I find nothing disrespectful about my new love telling/instructing me in how to make her favorite dishes. I would actually appreciate being able to make them the way she best likes them. I think that's part of how you keep a keeper-- show them you respect the difference she makes in my/your life by having a teachable spirit especially when it comes to them and their particular likes and needs.

[@junleypick8651]

This feelings comes naturally if you really love that person ❤️❤️

[@erineileen6183]

I have been watching many of your videos. I am amazed at how different men are responding to me who are strangers by me changing some things. One, I’m being more aware of how I am moving and smiling, being vibrant. I was always in a hurry before, I am slowing down and noticing around me. Men are approaching me and talking, joking. I’m not being fake, just having fun and enjoying every moment. Thank you for helping make us aware!!!

[@BernMendez]

Erin, I'm happy you're experiencing these results by changing your awareness, courage, and expressiveness.

[@maripena75]

Thank you for all your guidance Bern! You have helped me so much! Especially with standards and boundaries. Many blessings and much love💫💕🤗

[@BernMendez]

Blessings to you too, Mari!

[@NFTeve]

I don’t think this is true. U can be so amazing but if ur with the wrong guy who doesn’t want to marry you, then that’s not going to change. Just move on, ladies. I spent too much time being too awesome!! You build a man up like this and he thinks he’s all that and looks for other women. I did all of that Understanding men and programs but the man was not for me in the end. Most men just want u to be MORE awesome. I stopped over giving and being over supportive. I don’t think this video will help women, just make them work harder. Work less! Please less! Be less nice!!! 🌹🌹🌹🌹 get dolled up and get a new one who appreciates you. Of course- it helps to respect and do these things said in the video. But this won’t get u commitment.

[@0christa0]

so true! love your comment

[@anettgabriela8975]

I love your comment too. Very true....always giving is not the solution. A toxic man will give you Still harm...

[@nutrishake]

The only way you will get commitment is loving your self and not having him on a pedestal

[@anagomez109]

I agree with you. I did the same I gave it all, I gave myself 100% at the end was nothing to him. When they don’t put any effort to the relationship it becomes boring to them. You ladies do less or nothing for them.

[@crystalchavez6968]

Thank you for saying this! It’s so true. I was “engaged” for years and I realized it was future faking to keep me around. No one should have to work so hard for a ring, to get an actual wedding date… only to then find out he’s cheating. Many wasted years on a toxic guy.

[@falisha1979]

I have done all those and more and still no engagement or nothing from him. I left asap and he come crawling and begging back. No in single and I'm good. I know my worth.

[@indiasupportstrumpwwg1wga927]

here's a crazy idea.. why don't you propose to him? Too beneath your dignity? The problem was, you didn't like him for some reason and that's why you broke up with him. Women don't leave a good relationship for no reason.

[@falisha1979]

The relationship wasn't good bc he was physically and verbally abusive so go get yourself a life.

[@Bayo106]

@@falisha1979 well duh. but you're a grown woman who wanted a proposal from abusive man. So that was stupid and now you are free to find a GOOD man

[@slendersprig6811]

Being a divorced 53-year old lady I tell you all younger women; what Bernardo explains in this video is 100% true. Now I understand what went wrong in my relationship. I had the feeling but now I also have the words.

[@riselle1]

This is MUTUAL. As a woman, I also want ALL these things from my man.

[@theadventuresofemily_]

Yep.. dealt with a narcissist who couldn’t give me any of that. 😓

[@irisgoodman7500]

Totally agree! I want all of the things on the list as well! I want to KNOW how he feels, that I am not only wanted but needed, respected, trustworthy, and boundaries

[@zanastrange1878]

Wow!!! I love how you have presented this in such a respectful way. Your approach is that we are all humans who have needs - not 2 alien species. Love that! Because, we ARE all humans who need to learn how to be symbiotic. Thank you for adding your Voice

[@energyNyello]

I’ve been proposed too in all three relationships that I had! The third proposal has turned into marriage and has been growing four years married and eight years total in the relationship. The first relationship lasted seven years,Second was nine years and I promised myself next one I would marry! The first two didn’t work because they were controlling and selfishly wanting me all to themselves without my family and friends! I’m very family oriented so that was a lot for me! Now I have the freedom to be myself without the hassle! Thanks for your content! I watched it to see if I was lacking in any area so far All Smiles ! Keep informing us well appreciated!

[@BernMendez]

I'm glad to hear your relationship is thriving : )

[@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade]

I did everything except number 7🤦🏽‍♀️ Thank you so much!! I needed to hear this… I already knew deep down in my heart that I did not create respectful boundaries for myself I heard someone else say that boundaries are for us not the other person. My control is to set a standard and maintain it while being gracious and loving.

[@corinneblair8795]

1. Tacos 🌮 2. Burgers 🍔 3. Steak 🥩 4. Potato 🥔 5. Bacon 🥓 6. Chips & Salsa+Guac 🥑 7. Beer 🍺

[@BernMendez]

haha

[@AsToldByAWidowYTSeries]

So true, I asked an Ex why we didn't work after I saw him some years later. He responded "You didn't need me". I remember my heart dropping, because it would have been true.

[@cherisolomon1508]

OMGsh I would have just died hearing that! Such a difference between needing them and being needy!

[@Sarablueunicorn]

Did he break up? If he did it's because he didn't want you not because you didn't need them. Men like to put the responsibility of the end of a relationship on women even when they are the ones doing it so he can go back to use her...just in case.

[@DELACREMEDELAthegod]

Are there likely videos out here teaching men how to ascertain and meet the needs of their preferred woman so that she will choose him as well?

[@LearnGermanwithMarzipanfrau]

Courtney Ryan is a good KZbinr that teaches men what women like.

[@Sarablueunicorn]

No. Their teachings are focused on getting hook ups and manipulation techniques to get the woman to like him... even if he doesnt want anything serious.

[@donnab8345]

There aren't too many videos on that because men aren't on YT looking for videos about that. Men are watching videos on cars, plumbing, funny animals, etc. Women focus on relationships more. Sad but true.

[@Arlene_witha_y]

Unfortunately women outnumber men. There are more females than males, it’s a natural balance as one woman can only make one baby per year but one man can make many babies per year. Women are also the emotional and physically vulnerable sex that seeks protection and provision from a man, men’s need is to spread their seed. So, sadly, inherently, Biologically, women tend to seek tying down a man more often than a man seeks to tie down a woman. Hence the volume of videos like this

[@lindazavala5894]

Bernardo, everything you say is well stated. Pleasure listening to you. Very candid. Linda

[@noreensirianni3135]

Fundamentally, a person has to be content with themselves and not expect another person to validate them in order to be in a sustainable, content relationship or union.

[@denisech3351]

These tips are mostly helpful. However, I think an important message got lost here. You cannot change somebody’s mind. A guy needs to decide on his own if he is interested in getting married or not. So if a woman is interested in getting married, make sure the guy you’re dating has the same goals and values you do. Make sure he is interested in committing and understands that a relationship is work. Otherwise a woman can follow all the tips in this video and she will just be wasting her time.

[@equillagallien3028]

That's Real Advice

[@tania0070]

TRUTH

[@nunya5270]

Things Bern has made me see here: You must be vulnerable with a man, meaning you must be confident in your ability to express any vulnerability you maintain, whether it be, your needs, expectations, standards/boundaries for a future relationship together, When you don't bother to vulnerably express to him what it is that you need and/or expect in your relationship, you will be setting the relationship up for failure, and What's worse is that, you are also potentially bringing him down with you. Every man needs the opportunity to rise to the occasion, to step into HIS most alive, most masculine version of himself. If you deprive a man of this need, he will never be the best version of himself for you, and above all, for himself nor, for the Universe.

[@melindab5585]

Spot on ☺ I feel like I am so far ahead of the competition thanks to your advice!

[@beago0810]

Exactly, it's a competition. Many women don't truly get that concept. Men don't like women who aren't as physically fit, feminine, and inspirational as they can be. Men want peaceful and non-argumentive women. I had men say, "why would I want a woman who tries to act like a man?" I'm straight, not gay. Exhibiting feminist behavior is a total turnoff to good quality men. It will keep you unattached with your only companion being your pet.

[@nabihayousuf]

The 3rd point "Feeling seen" was on point and only recently I had the chance to prove that ability of mine towards someone. Perhaps, right twin flame/soulmate can trigger such abilities within you. You start analyzing on deeper levels about that person.

[@dianabentley6119]

Love this. Great explanation about what “being seen” is. Thank you 😊

[@BernMendez]

You are so welcome, Diana. Glad this was helpful to you.

[@eileencarpenter4769]

Bern is absolutely correct! I am married but still watched the video so that I can let my husband know in his own language how I can value and honor him, while at the same time honor my own journey.

[@nicoletacherechesu1576]

Much peace and clarity , after I listened your advices…..thank you , so much!

[@BernMendez]

You're so welcome, Nicoleta!

[@nicoletacherechesu1576]

I am in a toxic relationship…. I try from hard to understand all things which happening …but I cant take yet a decision…..I learned from you a lot of things about that situation….I hope in a future day …to have peace and clarity……

[@GigiGilliard]

This video is specifically for me and I believe God wanted me to hear it. Thank you Bern - SO VERY MUCH. Subscribing and following! This is my 2nd video and I truly appreciate your energy and gift of giving. THANK YOU FOR THESE WORDS!

[@kiahmuri5442]

Very usefull and insightful info, I belief that marriage is all about mutual respect and admiration for one another and to put healthy boundaries in place from both parties to maintain a successful marriage - great advise Bernardo👏👍👐💕

[@NFTeve]

Most me are not trustworthy. I trusted the wrong men by watching this type of video. Hold back until they prove how much they like you.

[@Sarablueunicorn]

Freaking toxic video. There's not a single dating coach for men teaching them how to make a woman his wife. They just teach how to make a woman fall for you so you can get from her whatever you want.

[@archis2508]

1 Look up to them for the effort in helping others, think highly of them let them be a hero ie admire them or they'll be drawn to and move on to someone that validates him. He has a need to contribute. 2. They want us to desire them. Feel the passion from us or they'll search to be desired elsewhere .be expressive with my heart and sensuality seeking his . 3.hold space for him to understand why he is the way he is. His dreams values and his fears without judgment. Needs to be seen. Figure out the truth and uniqueness about him . Builds connection .witness him heart body and soul. 4Let him be useful and add value to my life. Don't say can do everything myself. Let him add value to the woman he's with 5.Needs my trust. Don't bring past men mistrust to now. Open up to him or he'll be out. 6. Men have Deep need for respect. No respect no manhood. Don't make him your project or rescue him.dont be his mum or coach or therapist .his partner shouldn't tell him how to get to where he needs to get to. Disrespectful. Don't tell him how to do things. 7.Give him your standards and boundaries. He needs to hear you Say no when u need to. Don't overgive and say gave him everything and he still left etc..needs to respect you too

[@radley3519]

Great thanks so much!

[@Dreamsareareality]

I love the holding a space comment. That is beautiful, deep and so true.

[@skycutie77]

I’ve noticed I attract insecure men if they can evolve and heal those insecurities things would have definitely moved forward but I have dodged a bullet I feel. Definitely holding a man accountable is key.very interesting perspective I’ve been divorced 12 years raised my 3 sons with an absent father. All men need a woman to hold them accountable not a mommy but a good woman by his side to love support and It takes a good man to recognize what type of woman is in front of him when he has her.

[@juliettecannon6371]

You are so right. My son is 9. I’ve had 2 businesses with my ex. I worked as an equal partner. At the end I became that workhorse for someone who was not going to work on himself.

[@tabitaeguangs]

What do you mean by insecurities?

[@pains1956]

excellent that is why my husband loved me to his end..I am a widow..but without knowing I did all that...

[@adriedrake8605]

The last one is huge!! You got to hold your standards and voice them correctly they will listen. Magic 🤗 great video

[@BernMendez]

Thank you, Adrie.

[@marcioldham]

Bernardo this is so wonderful. You just helped me see how I can do better in all seven of these points. My partner and I have a great relationship, but after a year and a half, it just feels a bit like we’re in a holding pattern and not growing closer together. He’s a wonderful man and I’m excited to use what you taught me to make sure I’m meeting all his needs. The last one really hit home. I love him so much, I have trouble telling him no, even when it might be hurtful to me. I’m going to work on all of these, but be especially mindful of that one. Thank you so much for offering these free videos!

[@jennifermyers775]

You're on point. I enjoyed your video. Thank you

[@sarasen330]

Love your channel Bernardo, clear message and so insightfull

[@BernMendez]

Glad you enjoy it, Sara : )

[@tiffanytrueblood-redtailso5137]

Great video. Thank you. Hearing from a man what a man needs is worthy of noting. 🙌🏾

[@milicas.4534]

It works 2 ways his mother should admired him so he learned that he has to love himself admire him self so he can admire that woman in his life she will return feelings. Narcissist have need to be admired

[@Calidore1]

We want our women to be happy about us!

[@BernMendez]

Yes! :)

[@silverlinings3946]

"Our women"? I want no men who think that women belong to them.

[@marthisa5800]

@@silverlinings3946 he was trying to be sweet

[@silverlinings3946]

@@marthisa5800 however, I don't belong to anyone, nor do I wish for anyone to belong to me.

[@mowthpeece1]

1. Need to be admired (requires behaving admirably, tho). Wants to be a hero (see above). 2. Need to be desired (desired for sex, but it's not because they only want sex, lol!!) 3. Need to feel "seen" (men have to be willing to show themselves, tho, and most don't). 4. Need to feel useful/adding value (need to be needed, then do what we ask instead of fighting us all the time). 5. Need our trust (you have to earn that, like it or not) 6. Need our respect (again, you have to earn that). 7. Need our standards and boundaries. (because he's a disordered mess and without a woman to say no, anything goes...yes, he really says this, so why would we want that kind of animal again?) Let me throw something out here. Everything men need, according to this, is dependent on a woman REPRESSING HERSELF. In other words, YOU MEN HAVE AN ARTIFICIAL SENSE OF WHAT DEFINES YOU. Women have to "need you," for example. For what? What if we don't? Are you less of a man? No. So wtf is that? A. A false requirement. How about need to be respected? Women need that, too. Are we less of a woman if you don't? Hell, no. So why do you feel less of a man? A. Because society filled your head with bullshit Alpha Male crap. "Respect my authority!" Eff that. I could go on but you should be getting the picture now. Women are independent now. We don't need Alphas, not even for reproduction. We can buy that. So you're going to have to come up with OTHER qualities that women want if you want us to keep you. Chest pounding ain't gonna do it. Monkeys do that. No one needs monkey men. Everything here is trying to program women to be weak, needy, or manipulative. Fuck that. We've been that for eternity and all we got was murdered, raped, beaten, abused, and left. We like you guys, you feel good for a while, but although this man here might be a good one, too many are not...And we've learned.

[@MonteCarlo111]

AMEN! So refreshing to hear reality. Why do women have to keep the balls all cozy and safe. That is a boy. Men shouldnt be so high maintenance.

[@Pavneet-wc7ro]

This is gold!

[@BernMendez]

Thank you!

[@kevabela6307]

Really great 👍 Thank you for sharing these important needs of men that women WANT to meet but may simply be unaware ❤🙏💯

[@terrymondon7649]

Great video Bern❤❤🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥. Thank you as always!

[@jannatyasser1562]

You are a game changer Thanks for your existing ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@AB-fo4jp]

Trust and respect are earned over time. The rest is ego stroking.

[@kiahmuri5442]

This video was very inspiring informative, and it gave me great insight into what men really desire from women. You've put great emphasis on respect and I believe that respect and healthy boundaries is what we value most and it'll make any relationship special and long lasting.....Thanks for your advise, I really enjoy ALL your videos and keep up the good work👍👏

[@mieshacanb6967]

You REALLY explained this perfectly...you are definitely right!! The best and most real vid out here.

[@emilyknowlton8602]

Don't settle for low investment men. No Netfix and chill.

[@ersheri]

I watched this 3 times. Excellent video. Thanks!

[@thisgirlkarenn]

Always useful and insightful. God is really working through you and your articulation. Thank you

[@QuietlyCurious]

Another way I would word the last one: "Being your own person"

[@BernMendez]

Thanks for watching.

[@mideivimarzan1388]

Your Right. Men deserve also respect

[@secretshaman189]

Great advice, you are spot on, thank-you!

[@wairuriblackpoet8252]

This was really nice....really liked the content great stuff..thank you

[@crispinadavid6084]

Thanks for that, it is so useful to beat my insecurities.

[@GayaneMinassian]

Outstanding video, thank you, Bernando!!!

[@chrissypotter9870]

Last part is sooo true. My ex left me & said how can I have respect for you if you don’t have it for your self to allow me to treat you so bad. Maybe if you would of said NO and put me in my place. I would of had more respect for you. I know that’s just his excuse. But I’ve learned and now I stand up for my self. Instead of giving so much that you loose your self and can’t even think for your self. What a difference it made in my new relationship. It’s like they thrive on it.

[@amyj.4992]

I definitely relate to embodying, that rugged masculine vulnerability for a feminine essence

[@BernMendez]

Glad you enjoyed this, Amy.

[@lunakorme]

Interesting and awesome. Thank you 🙏

[@olenacalderon9352]

If we feel desire for you, you guys decide that we are too needy and desperate. That scares you away.

[@wendyross9979]

I'm so glad I found your video most of what you talked about I pretty much have done although I don't always do but your gonna help me stay on track to implement all of these all of the time thank you

[@pains1956]

without having seen this I new men need to be your hero..the knight in shining armor

[@tinamarie813]

#6 was the best thing I ever heard

[@BernMendez]

Glad you liked it :)

[@msj6324]

Thank you for your video very informational and interesting because this hit home 💛

[@kerryjones459]

thanks Bernado, interestingly, these resonated with needs I have for a relationship... maybe men & women have more in common than they are led to believe!

[@lovelygirl630]

I admired him, I have desired him, I have made him feel seened, I have made him feel useful, he had my trust, I respected him but I didn’t share my standards because it was his way or the highway and when I actually told him how I felt he dumped me after three years ! I seriously feel so heartbroken 💔 and I don’t think I ever want to be in a relationship ever. I just feel like it’s too much hard work !

[@prosperitypriestess]

✨Always say what you want & how you feel upfront. Both parties should, because transparency brings clarity of choice. Self care routines & focus for now to mend your heart, Love. Much warmth, acceptance, and empowerment to you Queen 🌺

[@lovelygirl630]

@@prosperitypriestess Thank you so much for your kind words.. it means a lot to me I really appreciate that. I’m definitely going to keep working on myself and will most definitely work on speaking up on how I always feel upfront.. Thank you 🙏🥰

[@MamaMilkBubbles]

I feel you on this. I'm going through the same thing. Keep your head up, girl. It's time for healing and finding happiness within ourselves ❤️

[@lovelygirl630]

@@MamaMilkBubbles thank you and your 100 percent right!

[@lovelygirl630]

@@MamaMilkBubbles hang in there also and sorry your also going through this

[@maggiewanjiru2807]

Thanks. Interesting and full of notes. I guess a few people including me are very poor in relationships. People are better of at out than in when like this...not to be judged as self centered Until these kind of people meet their likes it may never really do.

[@teresaolofson1377]

Being Admired Feeling Desired Feeling Seen Being Useful and Adding Value your Trust

[@verycherry4459]

Best one yet! Thank you so much!!

[@BernMendez]

You're so welcome.

[@faezahjumahat4196]

Hai Coach Good Night's From Singapore! Very Well Said & How To Know If A Guy Is Really Serious Versus The Emotional Needs When A Guy Is Confused Or Just Seems Quiet Or Silent? What Does He Thinks? How Long For A Woman To Asked A Guy If He Is Just Slows Or Paced-Down A Relationship If He Is Not Going To Pursued A Long-Term Relationship If He Is Not Available Or Not Commited Enough For A Real Honest Deep-Connection & Not All About 'SEX' Or Not Going Deeper With His Real Feeling's Or Value's/ Fear's About Not Loving True Or Go Deeper About A Connections Or Desires For 'A True Love's Will Add Values Towards His Deep Emotions & Sparks A Long-Lasting Connections & Not Getting Hurt Or Not Trusting Enough Because Of Past Hurt Relationship Beyond Friend'ship Or Without Even Trying Or Create Spaced For Him To Figured His Life's First Before He Can Commit To A Woman By Being A Listener? Should A Woman Have Standard For A Guy To Approach Or Share With A Woman?

[@jasminsantos7483]

Hello Greetings to you sir Bernardo Mendez, i really liked and enyoyed your videos and all your explanation when it comes to men behavioral thing. its the reality of a relationship between men and women... hoping to learn more of your advices and pointers with regards of Love Relationship. keep up the good work Sir. God Bless You !!!

[@BernMendez]

You are very welcome, Jasmin!

[@FilipinaRaquelTV]

This is very good content dear. Watching here from Philippines. God bless you.

[@meenakshim4437]

Very useful and rare tips

[@boldandcourageous4176]

This is spot on I learned this the hard way!!!!

[@MsCraftyWPB]

Very infor.ative. thank you for sharing.

[@writeousrhema]

Very good info!

[@BernMendez]

Glad it was helpful, Rhema : )

[@DeAnnaDavis-x6u]

What if you make your boundaries known and they still don't acknowledge or not do these...

[@juliettecannon6371]

I have a need for someone who doesn’t have a need to need anything from me as a condition of relationship… I actually would like to learn something from my partner. Why would anyone have sex with anyone if they don’t desire them? I honestly feel like this advice is for a support group for men who are not fully aware of their potential.

[@jolantastanko5715]

It is very good content :) thank you!

[@cicihoward2595]

I don’t know why I am watching this 😂 but it’s interesting!

[@ellengrace4609]

Right on point, as usual. My issue is finding the right guy, someone who appreciates when a woman interacts in the way you describe here. Maybe you should get into matchmaking??? 😁🥰

[@susanj.damico4771]

The most attractive aspect to attract men is when women are living from their heart ❤🙏

[@ohdear2275]

This is brilliant advice. Thank you.

[@BernMendez]

So glad it was helpful!

[@JMK719]

About being seen, what if a man is not willing to open up to be seen? He’s a good man but he also closed up about his past. I tried to ask but he said there’s no need to stir up the past especially if it caused pain. I really don’t know how else to open him up. I feel like I don’t know who he was. I see him now as a responsible and mature man that I can trust, is that enough? Do I need to dig in his past to understand who he was and what mistakes he made to actually see him?

[@EbbyGerl]

There is a chance you could end up judging him about his past even if you dont mean to. There is such a thin line when digging into a person's past.

[@mariascales1682]

Not really necessarily, just focus on how well he treats you, that he continues to honor his word, and show you true devotion and respect, I would lay everything else to rest, God bless!😇🙏🏽💙

[@JMK719]

@@mariascales1682 wise words! Thank you 🙏

[@cherisolomon1508]

Don't try to dig up his past. Accept him as he is. Just be an example as you share yourself being vulnerable. Ask him how he feels about easier topics. He wants to trust you but also being careful to see if he CAN trust you or not. Blessings!

[@noormashriki4190]

I need a guy like him 😅who is so aware and have deep understanding of relationship

[@CarolynWheeler-v7c]

It’s sad to me that our relationships are in jeopardy when our partner challenges us or helps us grow. I didn’t want to leave my marriage just because I felt challenged. It helped me grow, but based on all of this information, your partner will leave if they’re not adored and that’s not realistic.

[@riselle1]

I admire your content.

[@hcpunkt2412]

put a red nose on an entertain him, maybe he will propose then. nobody needs his propose. look pretty and let your legs closed. that’s the way to his heart.

[@Bayo106]

bitter

[@Sarablueunicorn]

2: "he needs to feel desired" and how can a woman show that she desires him? With sex, ofc.

[@medishahileyesus453]

I honestly value your advice! Thank you, sir!

[@emmanueldadzoe9851]

Great content. Very true 👌

[@lilibratic1330]

This is soo sooo basic, straight to the poin - amazing psihology points! Just woo woo Woooow!!! The best!!👍👍👍👌👌👌❤❤❤❤