7 STEPS TO TURN YOUR LIFE AROUND | A PLAN FOR LIFE SUCCESS

[@brianmccord7387]

Learning to forgive yourself, and then taking the next step to actually love yourself with all of your flaws and failures, is so hard but ultimately so worthwhile.

[@thestevepbrady]

Gotta love when you log onto KZbin and a new Chap video has just dropped. Really like when you go the life advice route. There are so many "bro hacks" out there that it's nice to see real adult men on here helping the younger generations. Happy Friday Ash!

[@escapematrixenterprisejacq7810]

I love it, and Im not a man!

[@9er..]

Best comment!

[@JMD1965]

Excellent advice sir.... Myself, I have messed up more relationships than I care to count in my past... But every single one was an opportunity for self-reflection & growth. And as a result, I attempt to be the best son, best husband, best father and best man I can be. The most important saying to learn and really mean when you say it, is "I'm sorry..." even if just to yourself.

[@TheChapsGuide]

Well said!

[@anthonyhowells4560]

Sometimes one must confront the humans who are destroying our lives. Take responsibilty and have goals in life. Achieve these. Do not mjx with loosers and wasters.

[@phililpb]

When you get yourself in a hole getting out of it can take time so you need to have patience for yourself. All the hard work needed only gets you to the staring line and it feels like a lot of work for little reward but it is worth it as slipping back can only take you to a dark place that is best avoided

[@lynn5447]

Most universities have counseling available - for FREE! And they usually are very good quality. On nutrition, if you are a heavy drinker, the alcohol actually can block the nutrition from food. The alcohol in a sense takes over the body. You can wind up with severe problems - liver damage which can be fatal, pancreas failure, brain damage ("wet brain"), etc.

[@ActualLivingHuman]

Thank you, friend.

[@daveporter6091]

Thanks Ash, this chap was me many years ago. Your advice is sound.

[@philipklink5406]

Great advice Ash. The only thing which I would like to add is that Life is a Marathon, not a Sprint. Whilst things may appear to not be going well at the moment, this is a fraction of this young man's life and there is no need for his current issues to be consequential over his full life. If study is not for him, find something that he loves and do that with passion and the rewards will flow his way.

[@Dr.Sheffield]

Thanks for great advice and wish Andrew and everyone all the best Ameen ✌️

[@bigbadbith8422]

What a fabulous article.

[@jimreece7615]

Great advice / support Ash ❤

[@escapematrixenterprisejacq7810]

For the first question, may I add, he is in the best place he could be. When all goes to pots it's a spotlight message that its TIME to take another route, time and opportunity to examine. I lost copies of my book 3 times and thought the world would end...yet I held up, and said, "I will make it even better this time," and it got better and better. Change the habit pattern (mind and body) to exit out. The advice here is very good

[@Kennybooy9]

Great topic. Bravo ….I know that you’ve covered goal setting… I also feel that a topic like the essential life skills you need to develop before say 30 would be helpful. Importantly I feel that financial management / Financial forward forecasting / financial goal setting / setting up to track progress against these is an important skill to have today. Young folks today are just not being taught this stuff !

[@albertocasirati7788]

Another truly great video, thank you so much.

[@ronaldpoppe3774]

Great advice Ash. We all have been there. Adversity creates character.

[@lynn5447]

The young man has some signs of alcoholism. Some counseling may lead him to the victory and success possible in Alcoholics Anonymous. Great video! Ash, this is you at your best!

[@roccotarulli2464]

Ash, A well put together conversation with great insight and advice. Very nice.

[@JayJuanS]

Thank you very much Ash and Andrew. I also have been in a situation like Andrew's lately, and have been starting to turn my life around, but only by focusing on exercise. I will start following the other steps and I feel confident, these will help me on improving myself. Thank you again.

[@allan1302]

One of your best!

[@philipyoung5480]

Absolutely.

[@JoeBeim]

Your responses are RIGHT ON, my friend!

[@mikebodner1812]

A few suggestions I'd share with Andrew are first, reflect and determine if you are on the right course. Maybe university is not the right path. The second suggestion, regardless if you stay at university or pursue another direction, is seek mentors and roll models. Mentorship is critical at all stages of life to help you stay on course and improve, but most important in the transition to young adulthood.

[@kxe7934]

Great advice , thanks. On a different matter, where did you get your jacket, and could you speak more about your role as a wellbeing trainer and what that entails?

[@nuancedbro9373]

You may get the girl back, get yourself on track, get fitter, stronger and more active and she may hear of it through friends / social media. Do not attempt to get her back, but be better yourself and she just may come knocking again.

[@rickm8343]

It should also be noted there is help out there, too, for both drinking, and the depressed state of mind the writer appears to be in. If necessary, I would strongly suggest looking into therapy/ counselling, especially if the depressed state he's in has gone on for an extended time. [ The writer also might have some past trauma he's trying to deal with by drinking and partying, and if that's the case, it should also be acknowledged and dealt with ] Another suggestion would be to give serious thoughts to his chosen course of studies at uni, and if it's really something he wants to pursue, or if a different course would be beneficial, to both his immediate mental health, and also his future long-term goals.

[@PotsdamSenior]

I totally agree with that. After about 1 1/2 years at university (which, thankfully, is free in my country) I recognised that this is absolutely not the path I want to follow for the rest if my life. I don't have any academic title now, 40 years later, but who cares?

[@R32R38]

If the girlfriend he lost had been far out of his league, Andrew could follow all these steps yet never again find one of comparable quality. Finding any sort of satisfaction in life will require him to understand and accept that.

[@trevorsully3054]

This guy obviously wants to improve his life otherwise he wouldn’t be watching chaps guide

[@adrianwalker2833]

Perhaps you should look into therapy/counselling. At least my 'alma mater' offers that for free.

[@michaelblazin4093]

As he starts to improve, the girlfriend will come back. They almost always do. Set some boundaries with her that he is is on this new journey. If she pulls him to any activities that he needs to avoid, she will have to go. He had a girlfriend at that age. He must have something going for him. Any sartorial goals? I missed them. Nothing about buying anything, but start being intentional about how he looks. Shave every day, shower every day, full dental routine every day. Nails and hair trim. Only wear clean clothes. Pick a time to get up and go to bed. Follow that routine every day. Probably the exercise routine will drive that action.

[@R32R38]

That's not necessarily true. The girlfriend might be gone for good.

[@scrambaba]

I disagree. Mostly they are gone for good. Once a woman no longer wants you, that’s it that’s all. There are few things worse than carrying a torch for a woman that is gone for good. Hope springs eternal, sometimes even after she gets a new boyfriend. Don’t waste your life. If you better yourself, you will attract women that are not only better, but better for you.

[@michaelblazin4093]

@jeremyschipp Commenters misunderstood my point. My suggestion was to be prepared when the old girlfriend reappears. Since she likely goes to the same school with the same friends, it is more likely than not. He needs to be prepared so that he does not let her knock him off his new path. She was an important part of his old persona. That was why I cited the need for boundaries. If he does not get ready, then he could perceive the reappearance as a reward for doing better. If she does not change as much as he has, it could be a big setback.

[@R32R38]

@jeremyschipp It can be a real challenge for a young man to find a girlfriend. For a variety of reasons, especially the way women are barraged with eager men on online dating apps, young women have become extremely picky.

[@w.adammandelbaum1805]

You, Andrew, have an opportunity to reinvent yourself. Screw the U, learn a trade, get to the gym, take a break from women for a bit. Save money, dress better, let women chase you. Remember kid, a chapter ain't the whole book.

[@HardyBunster]

Follow the bible and go to church. Everyone who is successful follows the rules of the bible. Everyone who is unsuccessful doesn’t. 🤷‍♂️

[@TheChapsGuide]

Get a grip mate, supplicating yourself to organised religion in the hope that it will 'magic' your life better is a surefire path to crushing failure. We lie at the heart of our own success.

[@brianmccord7387]

@@HardyBunster that is a childish way to approach pretty much any organized religion. There are plenty of religions that follow an understanding of a God who permits humans to suffer and to endure trials. Certainly, the author of Job would be surprised at your facile understanding of the Christian religion, let alone the apostle Paul

[@ianforber]

@@brianmccord7387 There is no god. Each of us has to take responsibility for ourselves, our behaviour and our treatment of other people.

[@Yorkshirescouser8]

Ive had my life turned around tonight. Been to an awards event and met KC imageworks you tuber kev. He interviewed me and he is helping me set up my own channel. Copyright as “The Yorkshire Scouser”. I will let you know when Im up and running