7 Things A Man Will Say If He's USING You + 3 Things You Need To Do In This Situation

Discover seven things a man will say if he's using you (PLUS three things you need to do if you're in this situation) in this video with Helena Hart.
If you want to learn the secrets to attracting a high-quality man and inspiring his love, devotion and commitment, get my FREE "3 Keys To Attract The Man You Want" report and audio training here: helenahartcoach...
Get your personal dating and relationship questions answered here: helenahart--mc...
The flowers in this video are from Rose Forever. They're preserved with natural oils so they last for a year! Check out their website here (use the coupon code HART25 to get $25 off your order!): bit.ly/3XHpaoQ
Check out my eBooks and Programs here: helenahartcoach...
Listen to my “Master Your Magnetism” podcast on Spotify here: open.spotify.c...
…or on Apple Podcasts here (feel free to leave me a review!): podcasts.apple...
You can learn more about my self-love rose quartz candles and bracelets here: www.cosmiclotu...
While I don't personally conduct one-on-one counseling, I’m sponsored by a company that can meet such a need if you'd like to get online therapy from a licensed professional (I've worked with a therapist from BetterHelp myself and it was absolutely life-changing!). You can get a discount through my exclusive invitation here: betterhelp.com...
Connect with me on Facebook: / helenahartcoaching
Follow me on Instagram: / helenahartcoaching

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

If you want to learn the secrets to attracting a high-quality man and inspiring his love, devotion and commitment, get my FREE "3 Keys To Attract The Man You Want" report and audio training here: helenahartcoaching.com/ Get your personal dating and relationship questions answered here: helenahart--mcoast.thrivecart.com/feminine/ The flowers in this video are from Rose Forever. They're preserved with natural oils so they last for a year! Check out their website here (use the coupon code HART25 to get $25 off your order!): bit.ly/3XHpaoQ

[@sandradaeschler6620]

Thanks again Helena! ❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

@@sandradaeschler6620You’re welcome! 💕

[@domif.b.7657]

I think you made the most crucial point, saying 'if the situation was the opposite', if you knew a guy's in love with you but you're not, you wouldn't play with him and his feelings. If a man is 'honest', that's great but he still lacks integrity and is using you if he's still fine with her 'doing girlfriends things' while he has a constant exit route. Thank you for your video

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! Yes, thanks for sharing your insights here. 💜

[@rosenblau]

"What's truly for you will bring you clarity, not confusion." Wow. That's all I needed to know. Thank you!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜 Yes, I talk more about that in this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/l3mneZyFf6Z_oMU

[@rosenblau]

@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you beautiful Helena

[@vivianamieres]

Men will use you not only for sex, it could be just company and to have someone to talk with. But i know my desires are above of those things that arent alined with my true desires.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here! Yes, I talked about that at the beginning of this video. 💙

[@tori168]

1.5 years later and I’m still with my love who I met 100% by letting go of ways things that weren’t working by following Helena’s advice. Thank you! I still love watching your videos bc it reminds of that time period and how I didn’t know what was right around the corner 😊

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m happy to hear that, thanks so much for sharing your experience here! ❤️ I’ve officially moved over to podcasts for my new content, I have many episodes for women in relationships and how to apply these principles to attract what you want in ANY area of life. It’s available on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/show/2sQpQcwuijinXm5y8G06O3 …and on Apple Podcasts here (feel free to leave me a review!): podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214

[@TheSeaRose]

I knew it in my mind but hearing you articulate it so well helps to clarify a lot for me. I've heard a few of those things and wasted a lot of time. Need to be done, learn the lesson and focus on me. Thank you!😊

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! I’m glad this was helpful. ❤️

[@kristyh1724]

This is such a great short clip! It’s so hard to walk away when you have an attraction Or connection but your right…. We deserve more than the crumbs they throw out.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Kristy, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💜 Absolutely, I talked more about that in these videos: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mn3NZJKqptl2o9E and kzbin.infoV3Z2W9cyO6A?feature=share.

[@liztowers2058]

I take all the red flags, I make curtains out of them 😂 He's a good guy. Just, doesn't want ME. I can't take it personal.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, men typically know right away whether or not they’re interested in pursuing you for something serious. My husband and I talked more about that in this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/lXWWaHSGfLSsbrs

[@kathleenwaite5430]

Thank you so much. Realize that I've been being used for 4 months. For money. Everything all 7 points you mention he does. Dumping him NOW.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! I’m glad you’re moving on. ❤️

[@liztowers2058]

I don't care if you date other people.. That one too!. Yes. Keeping his options open, and making sure I know he doesn't want me by showing me I can go wherever I want ... Keeping my exit open for me.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, that’s a big one! 💙

[@sia5764]

You are the best female coach I would love to hear from 🙏🏻💗

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you so much! ❤️

[@monicalindberg9147]

"who knows what the future will bring ". " i shouldn't look for something serious now because i dont have all that time ".

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing these, Monica! My husband and I talked more about that second one in these videos: kzbin.info/www/bejne/lXWWaHSGfLSsbrs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/aKCpeGBoh9Rnbrs and kzbin.info/www/bejne/ol6bmJaCrtWbpdk.

[@katerinaclaus4028]

This makes so much sense. Thanks Helena!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💕

[@hollyc.691]

Yep. Anything other than "I want to be with you" after like a month or 2, you need to walk 🚶‍♀️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here! 💕

[@maurapritchard1336]

Thanks Helena. You always have such great & helpful advice.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! ❤️

[@RRthee1]

This is appreciated. Unfortunately, it was needed. You have really helpful points/lines. 💗

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! I’m glad it helped. 💜

[@rosemarie3915]

Thank you Helena there are so many great points. Love how you decipher if whether he is into you or just using you. Awesome video.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! I’m glad you enjoyed it. ❤️

[@cataa6077]

That last minute was on point 💯

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! 💜

[@vikkik.jackson3413]

My guy don’t want to cut the string with his ex by continuing to go to the gym with even though I asked him a few times to stop. Also he talks to her about our relationship knowing how I feel about it. I’m actually about to let him go

[@ciggytwiggy]

Fk that

[@texasstardust6010]

THAT MAN IS A CAD. He has no Respect for you, your feelings, and for the " sacredness " of the Relationship with you... If he continues to " see his ex at the Gym " ...(??!) And discusses you with her ???! NO..., that's unacceptable...it has ZERO to do with ' being a mature woman , to accept it, blah blah blah " . That's Horse Hockey ..... HE IS SEEING HOW FAR HE CAN GO. Kick his sorry A** to the curb. He's disrespectful of you, behaviours of a teenager. A GROWN A** MATURE MAN WILL NOT DISCUSS YOU WITH A FORMER S.O.

[@liztowers2058]

Ahh hell no!!

[@lorrainehall9244]

They still involved 😮

[@vikkik.jackson3413]

I let him go and got my own place. I got my own place without him knowing until it was time for me to move out. Best decision ever.

[@monica-sg2bp]

Love this video. Appreciate the clarity with your specific examples. Thank you!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! I’m glad you enjoyed it. 💕

[@BeWellwithT]

I love the integrity tip! I like seeing that trait but never prioritize it over chemistry, per se. I will from now on.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad that resonated with you! 💜 This video might also be helpful for anyone who can relate: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mn3NZJKqptl2o9E

[@guzindjemal2744]

Thank you opening my eyes..19 years.😢

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜 These videos might also be helpful for anyone who can relate: kzbin.infoV3Z2W9cyO6A?feature=share and kzbin.infozKEos5BY2nA?feature=share.

[@WahineInTN]

The guy I was seeing said “I don’t catch feelings easily”. I took that for what it was and moved on.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💕

[@senayyildirim4177]

Yes I love the integrity But how long does that take to get to know him if he is honest and trustworthy? Although you ask for clarity, and my experience they say the Wright things and give you answers to reassure you meanwhile you get emotionally involved then 6 months later all there lies come out and and finding out that they are still in contact with ther exces they social media ect .. Then when you end the relationship they want to come back ? Your heartbroken and end up in hurt . How can you trust them again ! Love this video ❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! I would imagine you wouldn’t be able to trust him again after something like that. What made you feel the need to ask for clarity? In my opinion and experience, the red flags are almost always there right from the beginning. 💜

[@naiaacumberbatch4437]

Every point you made is very true.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! 💙 These videos might also be helpful for anyone who’s in a situation like this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mn3NZJKqptl2o9E and kzbin.infoV3Z2W9cyO6A?feature=share.

[@patriciasaldanha7243]

Hi Helena,💝 Good Morning One of the issues that are painful to deal with are the lack of clarity or evidence of clarity that might also be interepreted as evidence of confusion especially in LDR 's - where there is NO indication of anything tangible on the horizon ...thus leading to more emotional pain tears and further confusion- WHY DO THEY EXPRESS NO DESIRE OR WILLINGNESS TO MEET UP? Could there be residue of the past? Financial setbacks ? Are they gay? A combination of the aforementioned factors? As always , sweet Angel Lady, we are grateful for your advice and the crystal - clear clarity of your thoughts on so delicate a subject as human relationships ♡■🌈🎼🌕🟪🔸️💠 ♥️☆☆.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

In my opinion, rather than analyzing what may be going on with a man, it’s important to see the situation for exactly what it is and quickly move on if it’s not in alignment with what you truly want. This includes not getting involved in long distance connections with someone you’ve never met in person. It’s so important to not get overly invested in a man until he’s shown you with his consistent ACTIONS over time that he’s serious about you and ready to move things forward. These videos might be helpful for future reference: kzbin.info/www/bejne/oKLHkmxtqrWFp6s, kzbin.info/www/bejne/qmGwl6pqqcemm9k and kzbin.infoCuWhh-DnLJY?feature=share.

[@mellead8727]

Thanks Helena for this most valuable video. Would you please be so kind as to grant one of my wishes: would you please do a video on whether we, as ladies, should ask a man we're chatting with on a dating app to meet for coffee, to gauge the in-person chemistry?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! I have several podcast episodes on that topic. We talked about that around 45 minutes into this one - you can listen to it on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/episode/1hw4X7UlkPYYrMwrZE5RNi?si=0ATMZhxcQ0eczP2DQ74nLA …or on Apple Podcasts here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214?i=1000571404796

[@mellead8727]

@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you dear Helena, this is brilliant

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💕

[@peppermintpsaki1157]

“Let’s just go with the flow…” Going with the flow is for dead fish & turds 🤣

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Haha 😂 Thanks for sharing!

[@raerivera5676]

Thank you!❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💗

[@Aurora-ir6ti]

Thanks!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💕

[@maryhartley512]

Would this apply to an avoidant ? He was hurt when his marriage failed and says it takes him a long time to fall in love.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

While I don’t know the details of your situation, you want to make sure he doesn’t fall into the first category that we talked about in my latest podcast episode. You can listen to it on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/episode/6Y3ftGPTnTMr5qUsbqs4uL?si=19qcE2c-SJeBxTgL6a3grA …or on Apple Podcasts here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214?i=1000624945849

[@Jess-wk5jo]

Hi helena i have question for you. Boy call Joe sent shirtless photo of himself to me and ask me to sent one back and he was staying like can i get on top of you and will you get on top of me is that underaged and breaking law is it sexting because me and him where 18 in uk

[@liztowers2058]

Who cares.....he sounds like an idiot.!!! What do you think?? Stop talking to him. You already know the answer.

[@liztowers2058]

It's just a pervert talking to you. That's all. That's clear as day

[@Jess-wk5jo]

@@liztowers2058 I don't know

[@Pearlangeldream]

Sounds so wrong. At 18 u shouldn't sexting like that. Even as full adult for what u want to allow him speak to u like that

[@patriciarose2342]

So what if all the feelings are there but he's separated and going towards divorce? I just don't know if I can trust that.

[@LucindaCleophas]

I'd stay clear from someone not divorced yet. Coming from the ex wife . They continue to pursue the ex wife while being with you.

[@patriciarose2342]

@@LucindaCleophas thank you. I agree. It's just that in the beginning he told me she was his ex. Until I asked him how long he'd been divorced. Then he confessed he was only separated and waiting for the divorce.

[@LucindaCleophas]

@@patriciarose2342 already lying to you from the start doesn't bode well for him. Give it time and take it slow and try and find out as much info as you can. My ex dragged out the divorce and give his new GF the impression it was me delaying things

[@patriciarose2342]

@@LucindaCleophas yeah I agree. I've gotten to know him quite well now. Over time he has become a different person. Probably who he really is. I had to let him go.

[@patriciarose2342]

@@LucindaCleophas yeah I agree. He was a good actor. But I find now that he's only destroying his own life on his own. With or without marriage. I had to let him go. I learned a lot though, to not be so empathetic, to not be supportive of someone when I don't agree on their lifestyle. It took so much away from me.

[@samtula5946]

I got way too many guys this year randomly mentioning their exes early on? Like why are you talking about or dropping exes randomly within 1-2 weeks or on the first date? I had 8 guys do this! I felt like shit esp on dates but on text too.. when it kept happening and like I’m not good enough

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! I’d actually see this as a GOOD thing - they’re showing you right away that they’re not the right one for you before you get invested or waste your time, energy or emotions on them. I definitely wouldn’t make this “mean” anything about you or your value. We talked about that type of man at the beginning of this podcast episode - it’s available on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/episode/6Y3ftGPTnTMr5qUsbqs4uL?si=u28ggtjwQYy2_3QnyJWuqw …and on Apple Podcasts here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214?i=1000624945849

[@liztowers2058]

Well, I feel like a bloody idiot after this. 😅I knew, he never lied to me. I FELT He wasn't into me and we were friends but I ignored it Im certain he's also talking/texting other women, not just friends either.. I have a gut feeling about that too. He isn't seeing any of them but.....I'm not certain of that either. Yes he continued to take what i offered (which was everything) I'm a giving person. He didn't ask for anything. I just gave. I'm such a bloody blind fool. And yes, I agree....men say they're "not ready" But when the right one comes along suddenly they're ready pretty quickly.!!! I'm just not the one. How painful.:( I don't want to see that and break my own heart. I did this to myself. Again .and again. And again. It's been a year. I'm certain this absolutely isn't going anywhere more than a buddy. im a red flag ignorer. I feel so so stupid. Time to open my options. im done.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, I know many people can relate. ❤️ These videos might also be helpful for anyone who’s in a similar situation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mn3NZJKqptl2o9E, kzbin.info/www/bejne/lXWWaHSGfLSsbrs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/lZukg6uho8hkbJI and kzbin.infoV3Z2W9cyO6A?feature=share.

[@danilaroche1156]

Stop calling yourself an idiot and fool. Your human. I didn't figure this stuff out till I hit 50. 50! We are women. We are givers by nature. You can start over. God gives us all second, third, fourth..etc chances. You have a soultie with him from sex. That needs to be broken. Do you know Christ? The Savior? Jesus?

[@carolprosceno5873]

I had to fly the red flags cause I am the one who wants to get the right one not rush into anything.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💞

[@marthadyck8157]

I have a question so I've been dating this guy for 8 months and he still hasn't told me he loves me but he says he has feelings for me and he's so up and down so I'm wondering if he is probably not really into the relationship cuz I don't want to continue dating the guy if I know it's not going anywhere

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

If it’s up and down, that’s not a great sign since men typically know right away whether or not they’re interested in pursuing you for something serious. These videos might help give you some clarity: kzbin.info/www/bejne/lXWWaHSGfLSsbrs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/mn3NZJKqptl2o9E and kzbin.info/www/bejne/qmGwl6pqqcemm9k.

[@2wyn379]

👍🏻

[@kellykay5120]

Can you do a video, or do you have a video on what to do if your husband is only showing interest or romance when he wants sex. Or expects sex every time he does something nice.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’ll keep that in mind for future video topics, thanks for the suggestion! In the meantime, this podcast episode might be helpful - you can listen to it on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/episode/3F7R4b82PO8E24W9PGH33M?si=PnqBZ_kbTRmLSKPE0sN3CQ …or on Apple Podcasts here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214?i=1000608014961

[@deborahkrueger8271]

How about a guy who keeps asking for money? He is having a hard time getting a job. He says he loves me, as soon as his life changes he will take care of me. It been 4 years. He wants to come to America this year.

[@Adhara740]

Sounds like a scammer

[@melstyle7619]

I just got rid of a man that did this within four months of us dating. And after we broke up, he had the audacity to still ask for money. Not being able to find a job as an excuse because he has you to give him the money. Cut off the money and he’ll have no choice but to look for a job.

[@nicoleb48]

That's a scammer

[@msBbee-oq7im]

Drop him ASAP!

[@deborahkrueger8271]

@@Adhara740 thank you

[@Jess-wk5jo]

Hi helenaI have question Is it emotional affair 1 Thinking about Stephen 2 talking to Stephen on phone 3 texting stephen would i be having emotional affair with my ex boyfriend Stephen behind Morgan back

[@JCNJ1]

Yes it is an affair

[@Jess-wk5jo]

​@@JCNJ1 what type of affair

[@JCNJ1]

​@Jess you're doing it behind your boyfriends back, it's considered cheating. How would you feel if he was doing all this with someone behind your back

[@Jess-wk5jo]

​@@JCNJ1 I dont know really and what type of affair would be ?

[@Jess-wk5jo]

​@@JCNJ1 yes i am