7 Things Asexual People Want You To Know

Asexuality is an extremely misunderstood sexual identity. Sexual intimacy is important for many of us. Because most of society deems sexual attraction important, asexuals are often ostracized - even pitied - for their sexual orientation. In this video, we cover some of the common misconceptions that asexual people want you to know. If you want to help promote awareness of this topic, help us share this video.
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[@Psych2go]

This was an important topic. Hope you guys appreciate this! :)

[@Racinq]

Always happy to learn more about other parts of the lgbtq community! Maybe a pansexual video sometime?

[@Psych2go]

Sure thing! We are planning on doing a video on types of sexualities. Is that something you would like to see?

[@timbertes1259]

I dident know but I might be A sexual cuz I really am not attractied to anyone. I just don't know what to do with this though.

[@taehyungie5426]

I would love to see more videos on all different types of sexualities!

[@fogdood6868]

I appreciate this very much.

[@jess-tameme1080]

Aces are like unicorns. *Not a lot of people think we exist.*

[@urikostar7164]

are you implying unicorns exist... cause id be down for that

[@RamenNamen991]

@@urikostar7164 i mean there's narwhals? Best water unicorns around and people know little to nothing about them. So even more like the ace spectrum!

[@The_eggiest_dog]

Jess-t a meme yay

[@bretroyal9464]

Jess-t a meme exactly

[@suprstaarzz]

I believe you exsist!!!!! Also I believe unicorns do exsist too! DON'T. CALL. ME. CHILDISH. FOR. BELIEVING IN UNICORNS!!!!!

[@mindanbi2992]

Dear people who think i just haven't found the right person: *no*

[@clumsy_zebra_97]

I means there is the tiniest chance but yea

[@luanas.g.3852]

Dear people who think that I'm going through a phase: No

[@juliasoag]

I have a friend that was assexual until a week ago, i met her 2 weeks ago and she hadn't told me her sexuality or what a assexual was until last week, that's why i came here. Don't blame peaplo who makes this questions, some times hapeens, peaplo change sexuality.

[@juliasoag]

@@luanas.g.3852 you know, maybe you passing though a phase, is always a possibility I was bisexual until last month

[@luanas.g.3852]

@@juliasoag maybe in some cases but it can be really annoying when you don't have people who believe in you when you need

[@plompers1704]

When I first told my grandma I was asexual as a teenager, her first reaction was "Oh thank god" and I died laughing

[@chia9808]

PFFFTT

[@leemon5557]

Haven’t told my mom but she’d be happy as heck too ngl

[@RowanArk]

That was a beautiful response

[@jejo4911]

She lost faith in humanity or what 🤣🤣

[@plompers1704]

@@jejo4911 Nah she was just really worried about me in high school, since she was always anxious about her grandkids going through teenage pregnancy :'D

[@dannyboygregory-mccormick9157]

I knew a girl who was asexual and aromantic. She was cool, she never got involded in drama, liked to play video games, she mostly stuck to herself and a few close friends but she clearly wasnt lonely. She never wore make up or liked shopping. was a straight A student and became a doctor. I have a lot of respect for her as a person even though we weren't that close. I never met anyone quite like her.

[@readmachine18]

Bruh, minus the doctor bit, you literally just described me to a T 😂😂😂. Lol, sorry for the random comment, I just felt super called out in a good way, it felt validating 😝. Thanks so much for appreciating different kinds of people, and I'm glad you got to know such a cool person, lol, even if just a little bit 😉😜

[@umangar9340]

why and how do you know me (minus the doctor bit)

[@isiajahhhahahababblvjylvjy1034]

This is the definition of minus the aromantic part

[@ariffitrie8839]

Can anyone of you tell me how to come out as a asexsual ? I really want to become asexsual person...i want to get rid of my Pornography Addiction. I dont want pornography in my brain... PLEASE, TELL ME. I REALLY WANT TO BE ASEXSUAL.

[@dannyboygregory-mccormick9157]

@@ariffitrie8839 unfortunately being asexual may not prevent you from having sexual thoughts. There are some Asexuals who dont have sex but still masturbate and some even still enjoy porn. Other asexuals may even have sex with a partner on occasion but they just don't enjoy it as much as their partner would. As for being an asexual, I dont belive there are a lot of cases for choosing to be asexual. Like if somone were to ask me how to become gay I would probably not have an answer, I just discovered one day that I perfer men and that was pretty much how that went. If you are worried that sexual thoughts are damaging your life you may need to seek psychological help. Doctors may just tell you to practice controling your urgers with meditation or scheduleing masturbation time, so that you can associate reliving yourself with an appropriate time and place. If those things don't help they may prescribe medication. Honestly getting professional psychological help has saved me in so many ways, I feel it will likely be the best solution.

[@jpsplat]

Asexuals experience: feeling anxious when your friend says "I haven't been laid in weeks I'm going crazy!!"

[@indianbellydancer1]

I’m not even asexual and hear those sentences makes me anxious TOO lol. Bisexual here, just feel awkward when people want to randomly blurt out about their sexual experiences like can you not? It’s so cringy to me if we were having a normal conversation and the conversation switches to sex that fast like calm down haha

[@lauramays9296]

@@indianbellydancer1 Mmh; I feel the same way, but I think I'm probably Ace.

[@umhello9962]

Burgerbitch. Not even asexual and I can agree that that can be annoying XD

[@prncessbaby16]

@@lauramays9296 Just found out I am last month.

[@RosemaryTurner2002]

@@indianbellydancer1 Agree. That's so annoying.

[@mangaboidesu3103]

I'm Asexual and Aromantic but I suddenly fell in love with two beautiful creatures in the world... My bed and the food

[@kirkafin8327]

Same xd

[@koyelnandy3005]

That's a mood.

[@blank9433]

@@koyelnandy3005 no bro that's not mood that's how i veiw love

[@koyelnandy3005]

@@blank9433 I meant no offense 🙇

[@chanelhanson9944]

Danganronpa_Ultimate 😂😂😂

[@CynicalButOptimistic]

My parents: "NO BOYS, stay away from boys! If you so much as mention a boy's name, we're gonna interrogate the hell out of you. But we don't want you to be a lesbian either. If you ever start dating, we're all gonna die." Me: "Okay," *is ace* My parents: "NO, NOT LIKE THAT!"

[@fredeshadow1353]

Exactly

[@user-dl3vn8ze9n]

HAHAHA... Well, except my parents wouldn't care if I liked girls. And my mom actually understand asexuality.

[@avnikaushal6971]

I feel you buddy. Trust me we're on the same boat

[@rishikart10]

Can totally relate

[@JRexRegis]

No sex! Only grandkids!

[@eleanawynter5099]

The girl: So what do you like to do in bed? Me an asexual: *_Talk about feelings or just sleep._*

[@spacehusky8265]

I like to sleep, draw, eat, school, and video games in bed

[@respectthefish4992]

eating is nice

[@albertmccarthy7232]

@AceSketchyAlien I woulda been like: hmmm I like to watch Netflix

[@starshinee23]

@@spacehusky8265 same

[@AriettaTheWild17]

Play video games, it’s the next best thing to do in bed in the dark. The best one being sleeping obviously, that’s what beds are made for, what could be better to do in bed than what they quite literally made for? 😏

[@ALLEGIVNT]

ace on the streets asleep in the sheets

[@kindakyana2372]

Ayeeeeeeee 😎👉👉

[@lettuceforlife4827]

Ayeeeeee

[@trinitybair7516]

I need this on a shirt

[@avroses24]

I love that so much

[@killuazoldyck2630]

ayeee

[@badgyaaaaaaal579]

Friends: do you have a crush? Me as an Aromantic Asexual: I have a crush on myself but i think myself doesn’t love me

[@ihatepeople5765]

Me: I *crush*ed a cat in my bike :)

[@gamerfawnstopmotionpicture3953]

Fucking same-

[@nunyo9441]

I ship y'all, if it helps

[@imcitiii6857]

Sounds like me lmao

[@aya-chan4784]

This is funny, but what is aromantic ?

[@IAteYourLastCake]

I hate when people say “y did u say he’s cute if ur ace!? Do u have a crush on him???” Like, I’m sorry but I know good looking when I see it

[@sophiayamagughi]

I swear people think ace = I don't like anyone at all whatsoever, never in my life will I find someone who is deemed attractive to be attractive

[@IAteYourLastCake]

@@sophiayamagughi if that isn’t true, then I dunno what is

[@SuperPickle15]

I may be ace...but i aint blind. If you think beauty is just sexy...perhaps your the one with the problem, not me!

[@IAteYourLastCake]

@@SuperPickle15 for almost all my life I thought sexy was a style until I found out it meant a person that you wanted to have intercourse with 🤡

[@Majnubala]

Hey I am an writer and wants to talk to you for some reason....plz msg me on [e-mail]...plz...it will be helpful for me....plz

[@the_toybonnie1228]

Ok everyone, for who's not asexual Just because I said someone is cute doesn't mean I want to duck them or be with them, being asexual doesn't make me blind

[@claytonwalden4413]

Go off preach to the crowd 😂🤣🤣 I'm ace btw

[@OmGoshStudios]

F A C T S As an Omni Oriented Aroace, If I compliment someone, That doesn't mean i want to have shag them or date them. I just like to compliment someone or even be friends with them.

[@Handlebarb]

Yea,I mean like I just want a lover that talks about my problem,try to solve them and stuff.Btw do ace people can enjoy nsfw and sex scenes and stuff?

[@SeanStrife]

I think learning about the difference between aesthetic attraction and sexual attraction helps a lot in this regard; learning about the differences between those two actually helped me realize my own asexuality.

[@mitaandtrishabhowmik1894]

​@@Handlebarbyes, but not necessarily want to do them. Just watching sweet stuffs 😉

[@cantthinkofaname3344]

Person: how do you know you're ace? Ace: what? Person: if you've never 'done the do', how do you know you don't like it? Ace: well, I've never been stabbed, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't like that...

[@crystal_flower]

👏 facts 👏

[@anisseezra68]

FAX FAT FAT FAX

[@BronzeEleven]

I like how it's both an analogy and a reiteration

[@xjwthx455]

I’m actually scared to come out to my parents as ace I just know they’re gonna say something like “you just haven’t met the right guy”

[@aydan1261]

Uh huh, you got the point bruh

[@wellhelltherefellwhuman4637]

Me: **is asexual** Teacher: mitosis is asexual reproduction Everyone: **turns to look at me**

[@keeprkyd]

Well, hellø there, felløw human! Underrated comment

[@zetjet9901]

Well, hellø there, felløw human! I’ve seen you before!

[@axowelp]

Duplicates* yes

[@Lolidk-ec1yc]

EVERYONE FUCKING DOES THIS, I came put as Ace and my brother looked at me like I didnt know what I was talking about he said so you know that means you reproduce on your own TF

[@kimberlysharkey8164]

Meiosis* but same

[@donutkiller8004]

My friend came out as asexual to me so I’m trying to learn about being asexual so I can understand them better

[@panainpublic]

that's so cool! you really are a good friend :)

[@winteralf7300]

woah thats pretty good.

[@akilucky2090]

Aww www! 😍 ask us any questions you'd like! 😊

[@crowspears3265]

What a wonderful friend you are

[@lucticide]

You’re a great friend :)

[@RubyDaLynx]

I am not even an adult yet, and I can only imagine how hard it will be to find a partner who doesn't need ''The thing''. This is why you need to make it clear; I know it's awkward, but you are saving yourself from a lot of trouble.

[@fredeshadow1353]

Indeed

[@anon2916]

I mean you probably have to find another asexual person

[@sophiayamagughi]

@@anon2916 There are rare cases tho. It's possible to find a hetero person or bi, lesbian, gay that understands the risks of sex and is okay with not doing it

[@jems3732]

bruh i watched a video that was like “how long would you wait for your romantic partner to do ‘it’ with you” and majority said less than a year.. and i’m like “how about never? 😃”

[@Trikovioz]

@@sophiayamagughi Hi I'm a heterosexual in an incredibly happy relationship with a panromantic asexual

[@vimvandalism]

Something people need to get into their head already. Asexual: NO *SEXUAL* ATTRACTION. Aromantic: NO *ROMANTIC* ATTRACTION. They are both perfectly normal, but it’s *absolutely* disrespectful to say asexual people don’t want to date or want a significant other.

[@sun-godtutankhatenseti-rah8241]

Vunaria Night what does it mean if I’m both

[@wordforger]

@@sun-godtutankhatenseti-rah8241 Then you're one of the ones who may fit the blanket description put up here and that's ok. It's just that romantics are miffed at being painted with the same brush because it's hard for them to find a romantic partnership with the uneven sexual attraction at play, and equating them with aromantics muddies the waters even further.

[@vimvandalism]

Zion Rudd If you’re both, you most likely have no interest in romance OR sex. Which is totally okay.

[@AaaAaa-ic2lc]

Zion Rudd you're an asexual a romantic, and you just like every other person platonically.

[@MicahBuzanANIMATION]

They aren't normal. They happen and deserve respect - but they are not the norm. Just like people who are born with no arms are not normal, but deserve equal respect.

[@brendanforde2631]

Me: "I think im asexual" my mom: "Don't worry you'll find the right person" Me: "DID I STUTTER"

[@edhelyzarivera5878]

Lol ify

[@afa1515]

Brendan Forde Still hearing that with 27...

[@Nour-uc7mq]

Well, technically you could find someone with the same preferences as you whom you enjoy spending time with. 😉 But I get your meaning. 😀

[@RoxAnna417]

Happened to me... i was honestly a bit disappointed as my mom is mostly a very open-minded person. I guess that is why videos like this are important, to show people what being ace means~ anyways, big hugs to everyone:)

[@colorfulchameleon9891]

C'mon mom, I don't _want_ to find the right person.

[@feminico2613]

Short answer: ace peeps like people for their personality, not because of what's down there.

[@feminico2613]

@@artisplatters you may be aromantic as well and you only experience "squishes", or the other type of crushes.

[@feminico2613]

@@artisplatters squishes are basically crushes but instead of a romantic relationship, you want a platonic relationship, in other words you want to be really really really greay friends with them, but no romance.

[@ekales_]

We also like people for their personality. Sex is an additional content.

[@coolcactus9524]

I have a question, so if you like someone that is non binary, are you pansexual? And also can you be both pansexual and asexual?

[@AshIsCooking]

@@coolcactus9524 yeah I think

[@violethikari7955]

I had a sneaking feeling I've been an asexual even as a teen. I just wish I was told about that term and learned about it at the time. I still remember hearing students at my school engage in talks about sex, and it's very clear some of them were very interested in those discussions and would've had the same sexual attraction for it. For me, I personally never saw why people liked the idea of having sex and found it repulsive. I really did believe that maybe I'll eventually have a change in heart once I become an adult. Nope. I'm glad to know there's other people in this world like me and it's not that strange after all.

[@fredeshadow1353]

Here

[@strangeart8362]

Same here!

[@dani010203stor]

even when i was in primary school i had this weird yet certainty that i would never like a person in a romantic or sexual way. like i was VERY sure of it. it felt so weird to *KNOW* that at such early age. but yeah, i guess i always knew it. it was a huge relieved to learned it was an actual sexual orientation.

[@Majnubala]

Hey I am an writer and wants to talk to you for some reason....plz msg me on [e-mail]...plz...it will be helpful for me....plz

[@armlink961]

Can I ask you something? At what age do you believe someone can understand they are asexual?

[@stuwadlittle6217]

Friends: so do you like boys or girls? Me, a Biromantic Asexual: well yes but actually no

[@LadyoftheDreamless14]

I feel this so hard.

[@MidnightTenshi]

ayeee me too lol

[@erinesser6658]

AYE MOOOD

[@Katxo1831]

😂😂😂

[@ConvenientlyShapedUsername]

Same same same samesamesame

[@dr.stabinthefaceovo1155]

I'm a Asexual And if you don't know how it feels like just imagane the world was obsessed with door knobs.

[@dollopathy5284]

That cracks me up XD

[@fanime1]

I'm demi so I'm basically in the middle of the spectrum and that's a great analogy. I relate to it and feel it's accurate, but also being a sexual person, I can see how non-aces will imagine this scenario and I think it gets the point across perfectly.

[@francesco7723]

I find this funny

[@stalinskaya9516]

Some door knobs are pretty neat though

[@absurdious]

I just imagined myself saying -I don't care for door knobs and being answered: -Really? are you sure you're not into window glass? hey, nothing wrong with being Glay... I think that can be stressful... thank you for the great example... PS I know I sound sarcastic, but seriously, I'm not...

[@Kazoeyy]

I don’t want sex, or a relationship, I just want to be left alone.

[@aguythatpoopsalot]

teacher: okay class today we will learn about asexualty the whole class: *violently stares at me*

[@whyjustwhy2300]

Hopefully this and other sexualities would be a topic at my school and that people can come out with no fear .

[@El-no5wv]

Okay PSA to non ace people: Just because I make a sex joke doesn’t mean I’ve evolved into a horny monster and shed my asexual shell. It doesn’t work like that-

[@lizdougherty7239]

or when you say "that person is pretty" or agree with someone saying that and they're like BuT i ThOuGhT yOu WeRe AsExUaL -_-

[@Keznen]

Exactly. I'm heteroromantic asexual but I have a super dirty mind. ~ Tass

[@Nakia11798]

Asexuals are the Masters of sex jokes tbh, bc we don't take them seriously or get offended.

[@Aethelhadas]

Liz Dougherty RIGHT

[@ashxox9153]

THANK YOUUUU

[@craftyalligator1969]

All I want is a boyfriend that feels like a best friend that is always there for me. Why does there have to be so much pressure on having sex with someone? When you explain to people that you're asexual they either give you a weird look or say "oh so you don't like anyone." I wish more people were understanding smh

[@sutanukaadhya1401]

I feel the same as u .....a boyfriend who can be always there for me as a friend....

[@oxines6979]

People doesn't need a boyfriend. They need a friend! That's why it's boy friend. A boyfriend without a friend is just a boy.

[@chloe-ce7wu]

ikr

[@littlemissemila1818]

As someone who is demiplantoic I could relate to this

[@crystlewaters8264]

I have a friend who I came out too, and she's the only person that understands what ace is, I'm so lucky to have her as a friend 😂

[@papasscooperiaworker3649]

Some things to know about asexuality (anyone can read this, including asexuals who may not know everything about asexuality/may have common misconceptions) One thing that's important to know upfront about asexuality is that asexuality is about our attraction to others, not our action. We can be asexual and still have sex. Not all of us are sex-repulsed (sex-repulsed means feeling disgusted at the idea of YOU experiencing sex and NOT wanting to engage in sex yourself), so those that aren't sex-repulsed can have sexual relations and for plenty of reasons such as: wanting to pleasure the other person(s) in the relationship (who may or not be allosexual! Allosexual means experiencing sexual attraction at an average rate/allosexual is anyone who isn't asexual), wanting to pleasure themselves (asexuals, as you know, aren't sexually attracted to people but they may enjoy the 'feeling' of sex itself), are just curious about how sex feels and are okay with having sex with people etc. Most people seem to think asexuals are “just scared of sex” and are completely unaware/oblivious to when someone finds them attractive which is so untrue and hurtful to think because it's a stereotype that doesn't define all of us. Asexuals, again, are not defined by their actions but by their attraction just like any other orientation and the same goes for aromantics! (Example: aromantics who are romance-repulsed wish to NOT engage in activities that are typically considered romantic. Aromantics who aren't romance-repulsed may wish to do activities that are typically considered romantic) By the way: Yes, asexuals can be fully capable of telling if someone's "attractive". We may not feel sexual attraction but we're not blind. Aesthetic attraction is a thing as well so it's important to take that into account. I'm sorry this is super long. I would make it shorter to read but I'd have to exclude clarifications which are important for, you know, clarifying lol Overall, I hope this was educational. Thanks for reading to the end! (Jk this isn't the end, I'mma just include some helpful terms related to asexuality- you don't have to read this next part although it is also very educational and may help you better understand yourself and others) Descriptors (I include the ones that are most helpful for conversations about how you feel about sex yourself and seeing sex in media/when other people discuss or show sexual activity) Note: If you switch the term, 'sex/sexual' with 'romance/romantic', it can apply to how you feel about romance yourself and seeing romance in media/when other people discuss or show romantic activity. Both asexuals/aromantics and allosexuals/alloromantics can use these descriptors. Sex-repulsed = feeling disgusted towards experiencing sex personally Sex-indifferent = feeling indifferent towards experiencing sex personally Sex-favorable = feeling glad towards experiencing sex personally Sex-negative = feeling disgusted towards seeing sex in media/when other people discuss or show sexual activity Sex-neutral = feeling indifferent towards seeing sex in media/when other people discuss or show sexual activity Sex-positive = feeling glad towards seeing sex in media/when other people discuss or show sexual activity This means you can totally be sex-repulsed and sex-neutral, as in: you may not want to experience sex for yourself although you're indifferent to seeing it in media/when other people discuss or show sexual activity. Regardless of whether or not you're sex-repulsed, you are supportive of people who are sex-indifferent or sex-favorable (or should be supportive, anyway), as in: you may not want to experience sex for yourself although you're happy for anyone else who does want to experience sex for themselves! You can be a sex-repulsed asexual/allosexual and be happy for friends who do want to have sex (:

[@akilucky2090]

Wow. This was super long but helpful

[@thisusernamedoesntreallymatter]

um no. I feel disgusted about sex for me and everyone else. I will never support a pervert.

[@akilucky2090]

@@thisusernamedoesntreallymatter um what are you talking about? Are we still talking about the comment? 😅

[@thisusernamedoesntreallymatter]

@@akilucky2090 I might have replied to u on accident sorry lol. I was replying to the comment.

[@akilucky2090]

@@thisusernamedoesntreallymatter lol okay

[@trish5111]

I'm in my 50s now and just learning about asexuality. I am so much happier since stopping having relationships in 2007. I have difficulty understanding the longing for a relationship by my female friends. Its such a relief to not to have to think about it anymore. I live with 2 dogs. We have lovely life together. I think about getting someone to share my home, but it would only be to help someone out. I feel selfish and I recognise my privilege here, but I prefer to just live with dogs.

[@Majnubala]

Hey I am an writer and wants to talk to you for some reason....plz msg me on [e-mail]...plz...it will be helpful for me....plz

[@Naam_name]

Hi trish,I'm in my late 30s a female from india. trying to figure out hw to spend rest of my life without partner,I hope u ll hlp wit this. Can u plz share ur telegram so dt I can ping u to discuss ds further to understand hw u achieved it.

[@glxsstxblegirl]

When people sexualize me it grosses me out. Also it scares me :/

[@DreamieQueen]

Omg me too!!! I hate it.

[@randomasshole8400]

Is it weird that im fascinated by porn but not want to experience it?like,my friends say that if it was the end of the world they would like to have sex i would like to eat cake

[@unlimitedpower4101]

As a male I hate it too.

[@kathrynhardy3877]

Same but its not like I notice them doing so untill some one tells me... I wish people would just let me be ignorant.

[@dankestvonmemen76288]

You people smell like cheese

[@ace3259]

Me: I'm asexual Them: So....you don't like anyone? Me: Oh jesus here we go again-

[@susakihonda575]

Why is that so relatable!!

[@chaoskismet3643]

OMG THIS SO RELATABLE ! FOR ME IT GOES LIKE THIS! Me: i'm asexual Them: so...you like food? Me:...what? Them: you like food then? Me: yes i do like food but thats not what i meant Them: i am confused so what do you like Me: you know what nevermind its a pain in the ass to explain... Them: Oh i know what it means you like Both!!! Me: -_-

[@kt54]

How did you know? I’m still unsure and every person I ask doesn’t really answer

[@ace3259]

@@kt54 how do i know I'm asexual?

[@kt54]

Collasia yeah like how did you know?

[@tj_noir8813]

Being an asexual person, I commonly get treated like I'm broken, but I'm just a normal person trying to live my life happily. Just because I don't feel the want or need for sex doesn't mean I can't have a fulfilling life.

[@ennize]

I remember telling a boy friend that liked me why I didn't like him or anyone else, that I was ace and he was like "that is not normal. You need to be cured of this". With the world driven by sexual urges, 99% of people simply can't grasp how you can't possibly feel anything.

[@samvalecaaguilar1807]

My friends out here wanting to get that d from their crushes and I'm here like "I want to have a boyfriend that feels like a friend"

[@inactiveaccount7238]

SamValeCa Aguilar same 😪👌

[@violet3430]

Try to get someone to platonically date with you

[@skyangels1153]

Same tho

[@renee1446]

EXACTLY

[@samvalecaaguilar1807]

4 people agree with me? i thought i was alone

[@insideofchrissysmind]

“You’re not asexual, you had a crush on somebody!" Me: ”Doesn’t mean I want to screw them." Not everything has to be about sexual attraction. To me, asexual literally means little to no sexual (key word) attractions to anyone. However that doesn’t stop me from having romantic feelings for them.

[@asullivan677]

Hiya, I've currently started dating am asexual who's still figuring himself out - I'm wondering if you could help me understand how exclusively romantic attraction works? Like, what differentiates a romantic crush from a friend?

[@namkwal]

I am asexual and its clear nobody believes i am asexual. Nowadays everyone oversexualizes everything.

[@diandramahadewi7149]

@@asullivan677 for me personally, my romantic feelings tend to be quite strong when i have a crush on someone, and it also takes me a lot to have a crush on someone. i care about my friends and physical affection is one of my love languages, but its stays platonic. i think the easy way to differentiate platonic vs romantic is if u feel a strong romantic attraction to a person and wanting/craving that person to feel the same towards you. this kind of just feels like word vomit but i hope it helped ^^

[@asullivan677]

@@diandramahadewi7149 thanks

[@christinatoo801]

Straight up facts. People keep mixing being aromatic and being asexual. Like bro the meaning is kinda in the name. I’ve personally never had a crush but yeah.

[@yorreyamyam]

I have a friend who's asexual and this made me understand her better. *Thank you for this video*

[@rakifdes]

"WHEN YOUR AN ADULT YOU WILL HAVE TO MARRY HIM" Thats just..sad

[@Majnubala]

Hey I am an writer and wants to talk to you for some reason....plz msg me on [e-mail]...plz...it will be helpful for me....plz

[@theinfinitewolf]

The thing I struggle with the most is the fact that we live in a hyper-sexual society. Everything is sexualised. I'm not saying it's bad to be sex positive, it's just difficult to accept yourself when everything around you is supposedly linked or should lead to sex. It feels suffocating.

[@MonAhgasInsomniAroELF]

Amen

[@apothisiii5549]

@Alcatraz 》 so? The world has enough people. Its not like everyones asexual and humans are going extinct. You shouldnt force your lifestyle on others.

[@jbstarkiller4626]

ApothisIII there are more of us than ever and it’s not because we live in a certain society. It’s because of advances in technology. And everyone has the desire to reproduce, it’s just human nature

[@apothisiii5549]

the only problem I have your statement is everyone having the desire to reproduce. While it is a common desire, there are some who just dont feel that way, muself included. There's more to life than just refueling the population. Edit also considering people have different view points I feel the argument: "its just human nature" is a tad subjective. You cant just assume everone has the same world view as yourself. Please note I have nothing against peopl who sexually inclined, that lifestyle just doesnt interest me.

[@jbstarkiller4626]

ApothisIII I’m talking from a scientific point of view not an individual

[@meredithanimates814]

THANK YOU. FINALLY SOMEONE GETS THAT ROMANTIC AND SEXUAL ATTRACTION ARE NOT THE SAME THING. Edit: Holy crap, I’ve never gotten this many likes. Thanks guys!

[@Psych2go]

Hope the rest of the points were accurate too! Let us know if there are any inaccuracies :)

[@fogdood6868]

@@Psych2go Absolutely spot on. This will be my go-to video when someone asks me about asexuality.

[@meredithanimates814]

Psych2Go Yep!

[@BreezyLavender]

But how is it different from a "normal" relationship? I get that there is sometimes romance and not usually sex, but it just sounds very normal to me and by no means feels necessary to add another label to the snowflake community.

[@fogdood6868]

@@BreezyLavender Lack of sex in a relationship is not normal. Calling asexuals the snowflake community is very rude. It's not celibacy. It's not our choice.

[@sonahime6341]

My cousins: You just need to find the right person. Me an aroace: As I said. I. Am. Not. Interested.

[@Yumecha36]

For me, I’m perfectly fine with kisses, hugs, and cuddles- but the moment anything gets remotely sexual, I’m like “Haha, no.” I consider myself asexual, and in some ways, a little bit sex repulsed.

[@ZirZaZZiZ]

same for me, I love all of the things you listed, but when it comes to sex, I'm like, *h m m y e s* the floor here is made out of floor

[@fredeshadow1353]

Same

[@sharikasharika3792]

Can you help me to solve my doubts? I love cuddling, giving kiss, hugs in love way not in lust way. I have sexual feelings until he touch me. Before he touch me i have huge erotic /sexual feelings. But once he touch me i don't feel anything sexually or romantically. At the same time i don't wish him to stop from what he doing... I am expecting romance, sex and all but i didn't get that feel. When Intercourse my mind just go off like depression or thinking about sad memories, or thinking like he just expect lust from me like that my mind goes in a bad way.. I get satisfied only while i am doing selfsex. I seek help from him like suck my boobs, i do selfsex... I don't feel i don't need sex or i am not comfortable here like that. I like sex, romance and i am comfortable but i didn't get that lust feel while doing romance or sex.. So now tell me what kind of person am i??

[@namaisluv4646]

Being asexual in a hyper sexual world is very lonely

[@miss.mysterie]

The sad truth

[@raggona5819]

Sadly.

[@raggona5819]

Most people really don't understand it.

[@shizukumidoria1564]

I'm asexual and it's great.... For me at least I have a cat so

[@raggona5819]

@@shizukumidoria1564 I have friends. A Cat would also do. Actually, I think that a great, interesting conversation about something less mudane is so much better than sexual contact if we speak of what people can do together.

[@bee5889]

When I told my mom I was Asexual she basically just said "Of course you aren't yet, that comes later. You just wait" and now here I am years later and I'm still asexual

[@Ari-ih5un]

lol same

[@Pedrosa2541]

How old you are? How many times you tried?

[@bee5889]

@@Pedrosa2541 And this is needed because???

[@Pedrosa2541]

@@bee5889 I'm just curious, don't need to be defensive.

[@bee5889]

@@Pedrosa2541 Sorry if it came of defensive, it wasn't intended and in my experience it is never a good idea to share your age and sexual history to strangers on the internet :)

[@AmixamMM]

"Every human wants sex" Oh I see, it's hard to be a god. :) YOU ARE VALID ACE GANG

[@ferchii13]

🥴👌

[@Level_of_violence]

I'm demisexual and It's so weird when someone says "omg that guy is so cute I would totally go out with him" I just...don't understand how people can fall in love like that-

[@kissxingqiu]

Me, and asexual: ah yes a video that doesn't think all ace people are aroace

[@emmaryartistry2874]

Yeah, no offense to the aroace community, but it sucks that romanticaces get forgotten about even more. I'm happy to have a romantic relationship, I just don't want to have sex, nor have I had a sexual attraction to anyone lol. I

[@cassihaswell4781]

I actually am aroace and I think its super annoying too that asexuality is represented soo little that maybe half (I don't know the statistics) of the community is forgotten or has some kind of misinformation about it.

[@samiyuz]

I'm an aroace but I completely agree with you, people need to understand that being ace doesn't mean you ultimately can't date, some people still want dating but don't want to have it. As for me- I don't feel comfortable with dating or affection in general, so imma just stay and cuddle with my bed while sleeping

[@a.u.m.4489]

Shuiiichiii~~~ ✨😶

[@user-dl3vn8ze9n]

Yeah, even though I'm aroace, it gets on my nerves. They aren't the same thing.

[@DumbAce]

Why is society so invested and (dare I say) obsessed with sex

[@Sapphiresenthiss]

THAT'S exactly my question. This is seriously getting out of hand.

[@arandomowl3678]

It's because the world was full of whores that need to kill themselves

[@lext1019]

I know! I find it disgusting, the level of obsession that people have with it.

[@violet3430]

😖🤮🤢

[@vivisleyart]

Yeah I don't get it, I did went horny once. But I do think people over-exaggerate about sex...

[@navedali1144]

There should be a group where actual asexual people can find love like no horny people allowed

[@nhopkins9040]

Hell yeah

[@user-ug2fu8mj2j]

IThere is. t's called Denmark.

[@burnpoet]

Love is not sex. Sex is sex.

[@eddvcr598]

Thank you for this video. I’m 39 years old and have lived my entire life thinking that there must be something wrong with me, that somehow I must be broken. You making this video made me almost cry.

[@KisDraga]

I'm really glad people are talking about it more. I used to wonder if I was when I was in college but just went with "maybe I'm Bi"... Cut to 10 years later I'm watching youtube thinking "yes! this is totally what I am! And there are others just like me"

[@ea1766]

Edd VCR why cry are you gay?

[@LoverofSunflowernBees]

I’m 49 and I just have figured out that I’m asexual it’s okay we are fine there is nothing wrong with us.

[@LoverofSunflowernBees]

Xotic sznn he was crying tears of joy, not sadness

[@ea1766]

Happydaysrcoming I would rather kill myself then *choose* to be aesexual

[@pineconeeagleman6101]

And it makes high school awkward af

[@Udontkno7]

Deadass lmao

[@brycelavender2255]

The 14th Doctor omg yes

[@notsureiL]

You just want the teenage years to go away.

[@KHaLeD-jv7fu]

Thats the 11 doctor

[@OdinsSage]

Preach

[@debbielawrence2038]

Asian parents praising Asexual kids till their marriages and then fretting and blaming them for the same. It's weird how quick Asian parents change overnight and yet not change ever at all 😂 An Asian myself!

[@Traumatised311]

My parents were proud of me for being single until 23, I am 24 and depressed cause they think asexuality doesn't exist

[@lemin0u]

That's sad

[@ventimilord1715]

Me: telling my friends I’m Asexual a million times My friends: *continuously shipping me with other people*

[@wisteria8152]

honestly that’s fucked up. shipping real life people in general is straight up just fucked up

[@sophiayamagughi]

Hold up. That's actually scuffed. Never ship real people ever wtf.

[@juliwb6390]

But being asexual doesn't necesarly mean being aromantic. Srry if I don't fully understand

[@Majnubala]

Hey I am an writer and wants to talk to you for some reason....plz msg me on [e-mail]...plz...it will be helpful for me....plz

[@thatowlonsomething1454]

I can relate to this, my friends did this to me too

[@aunicarakir7231]

Asexual Aromantic: *existing peacefully* everyone else: " you need to work on your fear of commitment, you just haven't found the right person yet." or " Were you traumatized? Is that why you don't want a relationship?"

[@Nour-uc7mq]

Just.. meh. 😒

[@0nikolaigogol0]

I'm aro/ace and I rage when I'm shipped with people >:00

[@Mr._Lonely]

People that are traumatized usually are hypersexual..

[@hadiyashamsheer3130]

@Riley Harper yeah I find that kind of weird too , like shipping fictional characters is completely fine but real people?

[@hadiyashamsheer3130]

@Riley Harper oh yeah I understand that , some shippers are kind of weird and agressive

[@winstonthepooh9388]

Wait you can just like someone romantically? And that’s a completely separate thing? Okay I think I finally figured myself out-

[@palomequea6837]

-strawberries and icecream- i know the feeling, and honestly it kinda lifted a weight from my shoulders

[@Iovesosweet]

Same ngl ,,Ive been ace for idk how many months now but yes ,when I found out these are 2 separate things I was so happy

[@lucymchugh1801]

QUEEN. I love figuring it out I remember when I figured it out and was like “wow” I’m so happy for u

[@christinasanderford5849]

YEP. Think of it like this: imagine your biggest celebrity crush. If you think they're hot= it's aesthetic attractions, If you wish you were in a relationship with them = romantic attraction, and if you want to f**k them it's sexual attraction. For me I'm aesthetically attracted to my celeb crush all day long, but if given the opportunity I wouldn't sleep with him.

[@anorak2641]

People often say that I am attracted to animals or inanimate objects because of me not being sexualy attracted to anything and it really annoys me because of it.

[@Tai-xw6uy]

I think I've commented this in every ace related vid I watched, but it just doesn't sits right to me that strangers (or not, just some people in general I guess) look at eachother and think that they would have sex with them.That feeling accually happens? Is seventeen years just to young to feel that?some people just base this attraction on appearence?? I have so many questions, help

[@winstalgia8177]

fr! It's so strange to me, as well! I'm also 17 and I've identified as ace for a year now. I had a co worker once who would look at people and verbally tell us she wanted to hook up w them. Like - excuse me? I don't think we're too young though, and even so, it's fine if we realize we aren't on the acespec in the future

[@Tai-xw6uy]

@@winstalgia8177 you're righhtt, thanks soo much for answering! it helped me a lot and made me feel much better accually hope you have a great daay :^)

[@dragonfly2577]

I’d rather just get a dog and live in the woods than have a romantic relationship.

[@veeeeeeeee7]

I would like that

[@tevv8076]

Yeah,but a big bed with WiFi too😌😌😀

[@veeeeeeeee7]

@@tevv8076 same bro

[@mrsfahrenheit]

haha you’re pulling a Daryl Dixon right there😂🙏🏻

[@tatischaer6718]

mood

[@hqooq4240]

I've always hated sex scenes in movies, even kissing grossed me out, while my friends were practically drooling over this stuff. I honestly thought that something was wrong with me. When all of my friends got themselves girlfriends or boyfriends, I started feeling like an alien. I even tried to force myself to like a guy, but a mere thought of having a relationship terrified me. Now I finally know who I am and why am I like this and I'm binge-watching different videos about aces! I was happy as hell when I found out that there's a whole community of ppl like me💜

[@mer_acle8101]

Same and welcome to the community 💜

[@fredeshadow1353]

Yeah I would force myself to like guys as well.

[@trish5111]

I have been accused of "not being sex positive" for not liking or understanding the need for sex scenes in films. Even non-porn is unrealistic too. Are there really women who have orgasms standing up with barely any prior stimulation ? Seems unlikely.

[@mer_acle8101]

@@trish5111 now, I honestly don't know how to judge realism in that case, but I always find it weird that movie character choose the most illogical and dangerous moments for making out and kissing. I mean, nice and "romantic" and all that, but you should pay attention to the explosion in front of you, honey, then you're more likely to make it out alive. Or maybe don't choose this room where someone is bound to come in and cause conflict that I'll have to sit through. I don't know, maybe people are like that, it's just a pet peeve of mine. +major discomfort.

[@mer_acle8101]

@@trish5111 now, I honestly don't know how to judge realism in that case, but I always find it weird that movie character choose the most illogical and dangerous moments for making out and kissing. I mean, nice and "romantic" and all that, but you should pay attention to the explosion in front of you, honey, then you're more likely to make it out alive. Or maybe don't choose this room where someone is bound to come in and cause conflict that I'll have to sit through. I don't know, maybe people are like that, it's just a pet peeve of mine. +major discomfort. Edit: Also, that "not sex positive" argument is kind of dumb. Like, just because I don't like to see something I don't forbid people to like it or do it. I just rather see the sword-fight or best friends cuddling, thank you. I've not been accused of that yet, I just get teased for looking away or displaying my boredom.

[@matheuscavalcante4857]

OKAY, I NEED TO MAKE A TRANSLATION OF THIS FOR MY NATIVE LANGUAGE, SO I CAN SHOW TO PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T SPEAK EN, THIS VIDEO IS PURE PERFECTION

[@ChurchAtNight]

Making a face when your friends express their “need” to pass on their genes and last name.

[@anonymous-zn5em]

ok, so it has taken 53 years for me to realize there is a word for me...

[@ameidle]

Art Deco why?

[@artemis73737]

@Art Deco What?

[@heh9668]

@Art Deco what?

[@liri2758]

@Art Deco wtf?

[@hopelessopus4910]

Art Deco means Sexual Aversion Disorder a.k.a Sad. It was a stupid pun on that acronym did u guys not watch the video? Lol xD :P

[@cathuff5802]

I’m asexual and one thing I don’t understand.... Why is the world so obsessed with sex when we could take all that energy to MAKE DRAGONS?!!! (But all-round generally good video) Edit: I didn’t think I actually had to say this but let me specify, this is a JOKE. I know not everyone is obsessed with sex. If you enjoy sex, all power to you, I just want dragons because dragons (1k likes thank you so much)

[@cathuff5802]

Its Your Boi Guy In The Black Hoodie 10/10, perfect response! Haha. Please continue your highly beneficial work!

[@ud3mare]

Why tf we need a dragon ?

[@juliasoag]

Non-assexuals are NOT obsesed with sex, that's just a stupid steriotype and you need to stop.

[@emzirek]

I am Ace and I like having sex with myself, even if I'm in a relationship. I sometimes find that more rewarding than the relationship. So I guess you could say that I am an active Ace.

[@Jellied_Slime_Games]

@@ud3mare Because *DRAGONS!!!!*

[@michelleruben5696]

I was married for 18 years. My now-ex used to say “ Something is wrong with you. Go fix yourself. Go to counseling, go to the doctor and get put on hormones.“ Which I did. But it didn’t work. Because I was not “broken.” Lack of sex drive is normal for me. Now I worry I’ll never find someone who accepts me as I am w/o expecting sex. I don’t feel it’s fair to date a “sexual” person b/c I’ll never be able to meet their “needs.” I like cuddles, companionship, adventure and would love to share my life w/ someone but I don’t know where to find someone like me who would be ok in a lifelong committed, friendship-type relationship w/o sex. I’m 50 and friends say I’m cute and sexy (seriously??). So I give the “wrong signals.” I attract sexually oriented people. Seven years since my divorce and I’m still alone.

[@CrepuscularQueen]

My dad when I leave the house: Don't add to the population and don't subtract to the population Me: it's okay I'm ace. ♠️ an ACEassin.

[@inactive3720]

**Sudden Realisation** MOM! THIS ISNT A PHASE

[@mariacimpan4286]

*SURPRISED PIKACHU FACE*

[@pik9492]

@@agustv5358 i joined the chat

[@mmgei5649]

Same

[@bretroyal9464]

joonpai if only our parents could understand....

[@SundownerMGRR]

Asexual: *exists* The first letter of the alphabet: *chuckles* I’m in danger

[@feefko6668]

lmfao _this joke was approved by a panromantic asexual_

[@kindakyana2372]

11/10 would joke again _Joke approved by a still trying to figure out who to date asexual_

[@miarezzz]

10/10 would laugh again _this joke was also approved by a sad biromantic asexual_

[@yotsubaed]

420/10 best joke I've heard in a while _this joke was approved by a androromantic asexual_ Edit: dont have a gender anymore

[@pluto3194]

The joke was fine _this joke was partially approved by a homoromantic asexual_

[@thesaltiestspoon]

My parents just think I'm "just not ready" yet I have literally feel no attraction like that at all

[@iwanttodie9653]

people hate you when you love sex, but people also hate you for hating sex.

[@monikorasort]

Me, an intellectual omniromantic asexual: I like my coffee like I like my partners: hot, but not screwing me.

[@nightingale3847]

Tactical Nonsense omg I love this comment

[@netta-li3xl]

NOICE

[@veeeeeeeee7]

Preach brother Preach😁

[@lululegall9260]

Yeesssh. I'm not an asexual but I think people should stop thinking the world revolves around it. Like its literally one tiny thing that people don't feel and then everyone is just thinking you're a disorder. By the way if anyone is rude to you for your sexuality just answer dogs don't feel guilt when they do bad things.

[@a.u.m.4489]

Meeeee an aro ace who admires and ships from afar: *sips* ah yes tis a good tea owo

[@angelicgacha]

As an asexual aromantic all I hear is "it's just a phase" 'stop hiding your crush" "you just haven't found the right person yet" and they think if I don't get embarrassed like that.

[@bretroyal9464]

Why do people treat us this way?

[@bretroyal9464]

Izabela Lancea precisely.

[@user-bc8ge8nn2y]

People suck. Be glad you don’t fall in love.

[@aspectacle5589]

It's honestly so annoying. You can see I'm clearly disgusted at the thought of sex and dating. Why do you wanna force me?

[@LuffyDatMonkey]

That’s my friends and mom right there it’s why my dads the favorite parent, cuz he don’t give a dime whats my sexuality is he just doesn’t want me to date boys unlike my sister ever since I told my parents I’ve been the favorite child U-U

[@anthonytavares9931]

I love attention and be admired for my looks, personality, and dress skills BUT I do not enjoy or need to have physical sex. Why can we just cuddle and enjoy each other company instead? #biromantic

[@ElleMcD137]

my partner and i are both ace, and we're extremely happy just cuddling and talking and such, and i think that's awesome :) thx for making this video, its really great

[@TROYCETV]

I always felt different and this is why ❤️

[@aceclop]

Kool :)

[@Thatssoshrimple]

thats what we are looking for!

[@lemonspice4368]

Troyce you’re asexual too? Yesss

[@_Lunanella_]

It would be cool if you talked about this. Not your own personal experience if you don't want to, but just about asexuality in general and how it's not talked about enough.

[@socialchaos1215]

YAAAAS

[@fogdood6868]

AS AN ASEXUAL THIS VIDEO IS THE VIDEO I'VE ALWAYS WANTED. Thank you Psych2Go.

[@mid-sizesedan488]

No offense,but I thought asexual people are people who replicate themselves

[@Psych2go]

You're welcome! Now you now L P. :)

[@fogdood6868]

@@mid-sizesedan488 True, I reproduce like a plant. It's quite convenient.

[@geesus1271]

Same!!

[@RcelhaB]

Plants actually replicate mostly sexual, too. You're more like Paramecia or something of that kind :)

[@dreamieramune]

whats even grosser about someone's gf/bf/nbf being disrespectful about someone's asexuality is that there's a little thing called consent as well.

[@ambz7965]

people: why don’t you ever date or like anyone? me: well... **aromantic asexual**

[@Majnubala]

Hey I am an writer and wants to talk to you for some reason....plz msg me on [e-mail]...plz...it will be helpful for me....plz

[@Al-br2gl]

As an asexual I want to thank you for making more people aware that we are not mythical creatures

[@LilChuunosuke]

I mean, it's kinda fun to pretend we are, but within an educated community of other aces lmao

[@swtormadness]

I am a legendary pokemon and I am definitely mythical until Ash gets into some trouble so I can save him xD

[@sircamelot3501]

Man I thought I was a legendary Pokemon then I saw this comment so what I'm a regular Pokemon?

[@sylve2474]

What? I thought I was a chimera!

[@MandyHartzler]

you mean I'm not a unicorn?!

[@suhaanasyed7450]

"Asexuality is not a disorder" *This video being in their Abnormal Disorders playlist*

[@geminity5194]

maybe for someone who thinks they have the disorder and then find out they are ace? idk lol

[@Iovesosweet]

????????? TF

[@lillianblack8749]

Ok that’s not good at all but my dyslexic butt read that as abnormal disasters and that would have been much worse.

[@Aethelhadas]

Oh no

[@panainpublic]

@@lillianblack8749 I mean, I have yet to meet an ace that isn't a chaotic disaster, sooo

[@TheKalina100]

As an asexual I finally found out why I never fantazised about sex with any crush I had. I only imagined romantic relationships and the thought of sex is still meh and an inconvinence for me tbh

[@Shalala-27]

I'm asexual, but I'm really young, so I don't think anyone would believe me or take me seriously when I tell them, I'm not going to tell anyone until I'm older. It's honestly really sad, I've come out to my parents and other family as omniromantic, I have a few people who support me (including my parents) so they would be okay with it, they just probably wouldn't take me seriously at this age.

[@hyuranghae]

Everyone: My ace/aro ass: Say "you'll find the right guy" to me one more time-

[@niobedragones6457]

I feel that

[@kinghermit207]

Me: SAY THAT AGAIN, SAY THAT AGAIN!

[@winterbreezex]

My guy friends:"It WILL happen someday don't worry." Me:"No it won't,I don't like it at all.It's disgusting!" My guy friends"That's what you say now..." *Me wanting to throw myself at a wall*

[@Yourhopelessbookworm]

Me a hetero-romantic asexual: *sweats nervously after requesting the birds and bees* (My parents dont know that I'm ace. They hate LGBTQ+)

[@Foodmetal_alchemist]

Boys in real life: Me: I'm asexual Boys in anime: Me: I'm asex- w h a t-

[@sinisterstork9055]

1- YES. 2- Your pfp and username says it all I think

[@dani2959]

SAME

[@just._.chara_]

This is the most relatable thing I've for now saw in this comments....xD

[@thetiredfan1734]

🤣🤣🤣 So relatable!

[@ArcaniaSkypirateDen9516]

The what now?!

[@ayumis5452]

I was recently introduced to the term ‘asexual’ and began to think that maybe I am one. Since childhood I had no idea why people’s interest is largely dominated by sex or romance. I had been constantly feel annoyed at people asking ‘are you seeing someone’ or ‘do you have a crush’ ‘have you had sex yet’ etc - none of them interested me. I did date and several times I was in a relationship, and yes I experienced sex. But even though I felt some sort of affection to him, it was never sexual desire, so I did not particularly enjoyed having sex. After the last breakup, which was when I was 24, I’ve been single for almost 7 years and I’m okay with that. I have friends after all. However recently I told my psychiatrist that I might be asexual, she said ‘no you are not, haven’t you had boyfriend before and you’ve had sex? that means you can’t call yourself an asexual. I think you are just trying to run from the fact that you don’t have a partner.’ I explained to her that I’ve read that asexuality is spectrum, which means there are variety of people who regard themselves as asexual. But she said ‘if a word could mean so many things, what’s the point of the word? what’s the point of you calling yourself an asexual, if the definition is so vague? I don’t think you should call yourself an asexual’ I cried in despair. I’m now scared of telling people that I might be asexual. (sorry for bad English)

[@livieliviaturtol4501]

I am just questioning myself if I'm ace or not..

[@TorimakiVocaloid]

The amount of people who have taken my asexuality as a challenge, or assumed it’s something that they can fix is ridiculous! I broke up with my ex as they assumed my asexuality is a fear of intimacy and unwillingness to be close and might I add general immaturity. I’m furious at the lack of understanding that people have on this orientation. It’s not a choice but a feeling.

[@bartelgrant]

fear of intimacy would also be a feeling. argument started off right but then came to the wrong point.

[@mariacimpan4286]

THANK YOU! Damn... So sad to hear that tho, but if they thought about it that way, the relationship wasn't good to begin with.

[@bradbradlylife9918]

I'm super lucky cuz I don't like penetration but I still have a libido for foreplay. So some people just call me a tease when I tell them that! I've always been this way tho and I'm 30 years old. Call it a disorder if u want but my dna knew I should be this way for the paths I needed to take in life and I love being me

[@starplatinumoraoraora]

@red x17 Some people have a sense of self-dignity, not everyone has a slut mindset.

[@Neon_Swing]

Hear that? **The entire Asexual Community cheering and clapping** Ah yes. The sweet sound of understanding.

[@Wickedthtz]

Sounds like a bull taking a dump. Bullshit.

[@Wickedthtz]

@@hamsandwich7986 at least I have one you Sissified bastard childg

[@laylaamnesia5295]

Jeez can people be any more mean this days? Still, not ace but *clap and cheers*

[@McSwagical]

Neon Swing LMAO YES

[@TheVoidStaresBack31]

Yes, very true

[@allisonkeefe5949]

Me: "I’m ace" My mom: “ur ex was gay, that doesn’t mean you are never gonna find love, you just need to meet someone " Me: *literally dated him because neither one of us wanted to cone out*

[@justicethedoggo3648]

The fact that so many guys are asexual but they get called an alien or weirdo when the group talks about sex and I'm they are like forcing themselves to say yes

[@caroodraws]

Welcome to the Ace space. A space for Aces, a place where Aces can embrace. In a totally platonic way.

[@smileyface81mc77]

I know I’m late, but how do you know if you’re ace? What is sexual attraction? How do I know what sexual attraction is like if I’ve never banged anyone? (This is a genuine question pls don’t laugh)

[@caroodraws]

​@@smileyface81mc77 Good question! Here's what I know! There's a difference between the feeling of romantic affection and the feeling physical desire. You can want to be with some one romantically without feeling the physical aspect of it, and vice versa. They tie into each other a lot for the average non-ace, but sexual desire does not equal romantic feelings or affection. I consider myself to be grey-ace, and to my understanding, sexual attraction is (pardon in advance for being gross) a touch hunger surrounding genital areas... Kind of like a craving but for a person and their physicality? Being Ace or not being ace isn't wrong or bad, they're just different. Your experience and feelings are gonna different from anyone else, and if the asexual label serves you and feels true to you, then use it. There's a pretty big Ace community on Reddit if you wanted to meet other ace people and learn more.

[@smileyface81mc77]

Shmaro-caro Thank you! I think I’ll give that subreddit a go!

[@caroodraws]

@Riley Harper I DON'T KNOW MAN LIFE IS CONFUSING

[@walling2197]

Hugs everyone platonically because I want to be frens with more people like us.

[@patchworkat]

My ex once told me "I could straighten you out 😉". He was so disrespectful about my Asexuality.

[@naomisav5738]

Thank god he is your EX, cause T-O-X-I-C, we don’t need his bs

[@arlaxazure486]

When I didn't really know the label but for sure didn't want sexual relationships, I went through 3 relationships where 2 of them said "Don't worry~ I'll get that libido trained". The 3rd was just a straight-up jerk calling me a freak. Currently living a very happy, single life. :)

[@sophiayamagughi]

The quickest way to make an ace person never want to talk to you ever again. Now you just gross us out, man.

[@livieliviaturtol4501]

Ewww I'll be like bitch leavee

[@synctrox9679]

Why would u date someone who isnt asexual ? THEY DONT OWE U A PLATONIC RELATIONSHIP

[@BlackWhite-lc3tz]

Asexuality is a very broad topic. There are like many different kinds of asexuals. Thank god this exists.

[@oliviag.3365]

I identify as asexual and that was spot on! I have experienced a lot of that societal misunderstanding. We even face discrimination within the LGBTQIA+ community (emphasis on the A, for these purposes), from fellow members who don't believe that being ace is "gay enough." You don't have to be gay to be LGBTQIA+. You can be ace, bisexual, aromantic, transgender, and many more.

[@kaitlyn6583]

Me: mom I don't want a kid Mom: Ur just saying that now you'll find someone Me: *are u sure about that*

[@silverschmid4591]

I can relate :€

[@yeoubi1560]

My mun said those exact same thing to me-

[@Ruuhbi]

Btw people can get pregnant without the thing y’know 👉🏻👈🏻

[@backstreetboysreuniontourb7719]

Same my mom wants grandkids but like eeeeewwwwshhhhhhddduuuujjjeeejkkk

[@backstreetboysreuniontourb7719]

@@nibwhipdragon omg that's awful I hope you're alright!! It's 100% your choice if you want kids or not it's your choice what you do with your body so please don't let what he said get to you❤

[@TheNonameHousehold]

Sex Ed teachers should show this in class

[@lunawolfheart336]

yes they should

[@Psych2go]

That would be nice! Wouldn't hurt to start getting them see this video now and go wow, I need to share this to the class.

[@boredlyaesthetic4111]

Ikr!

[@kistonlaosa2227]

Definitely!

[@620pickle]

I would literally teach my health class about the LGBTQA community and just like have a unit on it. Then I'd be so happy for all the people who learned something and maybe even found out they're LGBTQA.

[@brynolivo2060]

I heard someone mention "But the A is like a V, so automatically sexualized." I was like, "But there's a bar in the middle that say "NO" right there?" Also that would mean that all Ace's were female so again, NO

[@aliaaysha2072]

Female part haha true

[@otterwithadarkside4422]

My friends sister is asexual and I didn't really know that much about it, so I decided to come here and I have to say, this video really helped me learn what asexuality is! I never knew this stuff before so it was helpful to learn! Thanks Psyc2go, you always make great, informative videos!

[@l_y8545]

"Asexuality is not a disorder" - Psych2Go , also Psych2Go : puts video directly into "Abnormal Disorders" playlist.

[@koenigkorczak]

so that you know what _is_

[@quuaackyy]

Tigerlily 99 exactly lol

[@deivisony]

It isn't just a simple disorder it's a abnormal one

[@larrytherubberduckunicorn7502]

@@deivisony asexuality isn't a disorder. Asexuals just don't feel sexually attracted to people. Maybe try watching the video again...

[@sadness8945]

Deivison Carvalho It’s not though. It’s obviously a biological disadvantage but other than that it really is almost like a learned behavior.

[@samuraix558]

Friends: Which do you like, boys, or girls? Me, an aromantic asexual: No

[@La.máquina.de.los.sueños]

cake 🍰😀

[@WhenTheGoingGetsTough]

@@La.máquina.de.los.sueños YES!!

[@lemonal_3032]

THIS MADE ME LAUGH XD just "No"

[@Majnubala]

Hey I am an writer and wants to talk to you for some reason....plz msg me on [e-mail]...plz...it will be helpful for me....plz

[@loreleipenn]

Another aromantic asexual! I am not alone!!

[@twi.squared]

That moment when you come out as asexual and people go "oh don't worry you just haven't met the right person", that other moment when sex has been defined as a NEED by society, that other moment when you tell your parents you have a girlfriend and they go "wait I thought you were ace" even after you've explained to them time and time again that sex is not romantic attraction, that other moment when you used to think people watched porn for fun and didn't even fathom that it turned them on somehow, that other moment when people talk to you about sex as if you want to have it and you just kind of smile and nod while cringing on the inside because you're out to everyone you know already....fun times