7 things you need to learn as a woman.

[@LatoyaClark]

I wanted to add one piece of advice on the subject of not telling your friends everything. If you are a person that feels the need to constantly vent or express yourself verbally ; start journaling or creating voice memos in your phone. That’s a good way to release and let things out without actually telling another person. Btw, I really enjoyed this video and you look really pretty 🩷

[@theleahalexander]

@@LatoyaClark love this tip , I agree!!

[@sivialove475]

I love this💕

[@NiriamLizeth]

Thank you for sharing this !!

[@Braiddiva3]

GREAT advice 📌

[@Foodieleissy]

I felt this 💯

[@BabantleRose]

There is this Tik Tok audio that keeps playing in my head, “ Stop trying to be good enough for people who aren’t even good enough for you “

[@sarahmicheal9169]

That’s so true

[@seydivine]

👏🏾

[@vickyvick8294]

hmm

[@theleahalexander]

@@seydivine I’m

[@donna7049]

Damn.

[@Alanahg815]

Deleting social media was the best thing I could’ve done for myself. Consuming unnecessary content and getting the beating that addiction to the hearts you get when you post on your story…love Pinterest and KZbin. Algorithm is working for you and not against you. Really getting comfortable in my natural form. Which is making me more confident. Please get a therapist as soon as you can too. Best thing I’ve done for myself.

[@zzombiee.]

pintrest is the perfect app

[@JennyNaCole]

Me too !!! ❤🎉 I love this too even though I run a business it’s tough

[@oneonly215]

@@JennyNaColeGirl same

[@muraismybby4617]

Facts, haven't used TikTok in months, only use Instagram for digital art, and KZbin is entertaining (can't lie about that one) but that's it

[@meilanimenes134]

Same, I don’t even care for it anymore. I love it , wake up and just live life 😂❤

[@alysiaa.]

the tip of not telling your friends and family things about your relationship is honestly such a slippery slope. my friend has been abused by her ex silently because she believed relationships no matter how dangerous and threatening should be private. that is NOT always the case. speaking up can save your life.

[@MolllySerena]

This!!

[@armanisierraxo]

well she did mention if it’s life threatening to speak up! i think she’s referring to other things for instance a petty disagreement that can be solved between you and your partner

[@skooz13z]

exactly, i wish my close friend had told me what was going on in her life and how much she was struggling. I miss her everyday, always tell your loved ones when something is going on

[@kaylatashae_]

i mean at some point you have to use your better judgement.. life threatening & dangerous relationships is an exception

[@interetycreativity3940]

exactly. my relationship of 4 years got really abusive this year. i myself, always believed my relationship problems should be kept private. no matter how bad it got. although, when the abusive stuff started happening.. a few times I did speak to friends about feelings ( not the abusive stuff though ) & he knew i did that & got angry at me for it. he would verbally abuse me for “ talking to my friends about our relationship. “ turned very controlling & didn’t want me to have friends. welp, 2 months ago.. I finally came out of hiding & told friends & family about his verbal, physical & emotional abusive. I feel way better. yes I’ve journaled too but there’s just some things that others need to know for the sake of your safety. & its also ironic he never wanted me to tell neither.. he knew what he was doing & that he’s a chaotic maniac. he knew that if I told friends & family what he’s done that they would tell me I deserve better & he knew I did but didn’t want me to leave & get that better… & yk what? that’s exactly what I got. not a new man lol but slowly but surely learning to love myself again & feeling like myself. something he took from me.

[@TynasiaT02]

I’m 22 & My partner of 5 years told me he didn’t like this “new me” because apparently he knew me better then I knew myself lol, I started to put me first & speaking up more about my feelings, now I realize he is scared of the woman I’m becoming and not putting him first! My confidence is at an all time high and I’m loving it🩷 Great video!!

[@interetycreativity3940]

this is crazy ironic bc the same happened to me recently before a partner of mine of 4 years ended. he dead look me into the eyes & said “ you’re evolving & I don’t like it “ LIKE WHAT !?!? I was speechless & knew right there that I was glowing in many different ways & he couldn’t handle it & I guess hated the fact he “ wasn’t above me “ anymore. & like you said, not putting him first. I’m glad you have that high confidence girl, I’m getting back there too ! much love ! 💖

[@CharmaineNodada]

I'm also 22 going through the same thing plus we have a child together. So Im learning to put myself first, child and him and it's Making him uneasy and threaten😂😂😂😂

[@aalou334]

Also, you’ve been with him since you were 17, and now you’re 22. You’re absolutely going to change, and turn into a mature women. That man is just going to have to accept that you’re older now and you’re trying to better yourself. Proud of you sis 🎉

[@Washiru._Chege]

Oops!She is also scared that I'm evolving. She misses the old me and scared of the new. I guess I'm growing😊

[@miminiss5145]

At 22 what are you doing in a relationship of 5 years already instead of building yourself?

[@Fr0mm32u]

I literally love the way she’s not sugarcoating any of this. This is DEFINITELY the type of content I need to be watching at this period in my life. Just turned 20 and want to absorb as much wisdom as possible!!! I’m excited to be a young woman! I just want to be smart, cautious, aware of my thoughts, actions, and their effect on my life. Thank you for this amazing video, I will be watching a couple more videos and most likely subscribing. So beautiful also!!! Period 🩵

[@shetana5782]

You’re 10 steps ahead even thinking that way you’re gonna thrive in life babe, sending you love ✨💛

[@Fr0mm32u]

@@shetana5782 thank you queen! I am sending you positive energy and wish you well in all of your endeavors.🫧🫶🏾

[@QTVV0555]

Gurl follow KARINE ALOURDE!!! SHES EVERYONES BIG SIS!

[@christinescorner111]

You already sound like a very wise young woman and this is a beautiful perspective to carry❤ don’t loose this no matter who crosses your path. Xx

[@Hmmmmmm674]

I’m turning 20 in November and I just want to listen to whatever older women have to say it’s wisdom

[@DeniseSandersDeepWatersHawaii]

Not even in your 30’s-40-50-60 do we have it figured it all out. If you are in your 20’s please just enjoy your life, and focus on your health and self. So many young folks are rushing the process .. yes focus on yourself and upgrade but remember …. As long as we are ALIVE we will be figuring things out and evolving.

[@mimii375]

I really needed to hear this!💓

[@iamnotmyhandle]

OMG...THE PRESSURE!!! 😱🫠 So glad I was born before social media and was able to learn organically from my f-ups without all the unnecessary pressure to have it all figured out. Chillax and enjoy life! 🙏🏾💚

[@DeniseSandersDeepWatersHawaii]

@@mimii375 take your time. As long as we are alive we will be learning. Who you are now isn’t who you will be in 5-10+ years. Be gentle with yourself in the process too.

[@zaire-aniyarobinson2928]

Lmao yes I feel there is this constant need to level up to the point I can’t enjoy where I currently am 😂😂.

[@DeniseSandersDeepWatersHawaii]

@@zaire-aniyarobinson2928 your life is going to fly by you and yo will regret it. That was me when I was in my 20’s… Enjoy where you are while building for more

[@CiegiLaPriest]

Lean into logic and lean out of your emotions is a big one I always tell myself Feelings Are NOT facts

[@isaacsarah3836]

They just die off after a period of time

[@ImQueenZee]

“RADICAL RESPONSIBILITY OVER MY LIFE” a wordddd

[@nabilaxx6323]

Hair is so nice ❤

[@Anywayyihao]

I’m 26 and finally graduated school so I no longer have the school girl mindset. As I’m transitioning to the real world this is the most I’ve been learning and relearning, especially after my recent breakup. I’m trying my best rn to become the woman God needs me to be. I’m trying to keep myself fulfilled and be the most positive version of myself.

[@cassandrableez19]

I am in the same position! We got this 🙏👌

[@sagittariusbeauty]

I’m 26 too and about to finish school as well, coming to the “real world” has been an eye opening experience.

[@corlorz123]

Same here !! We got this

[@shuntezhayes9031]

Omg this is the journey I'm on right now

[@isapooh7]

Learning to make decisions for yourself and by yourself is so important! Like without family or friends, definitely think more women need to get comfortable doing that. Definitely comes with trusting yourself. Loved this! Thank you🫶🏾

[@pryncessyanni]

I’m 44 and I must say, I wish someone had taught me these things twenty years ago. It would have propelled me forward much sooner and helped me to avoid tremendous suffering🌺✨!

[@nicolekangas2115]

I’m sorry, you’re beautiful and like she said it’s never to late to live the life you want

[@helloo8243]

I really like the piece where you said not to tell ppl your stories/struggles until you’ve solved them. Some people have negative energy and when they know you’re struggling, they won’t be able to do anything for you but bring you down.

[@RavenMarie2001]

I'm 23 years old, and I love being able to learn from women of all ages it has been the best thing ever !! 💞

[@Barbiekalee]

Your hair! OKAYYYY 😍😍😍

[@theleahalexander]

🤭💕💕

[@lashellrose]

Giiirl, her hair is the reason i clicked on the video 🤣🤣

[@kiaj.d.5855]

@@lashellroseI literally said she’s a doll! What is she talking about?! 😊

[@lesedim.4352]

STUNNING!!

[@stushgalsteph]

@@lashellrosesame! I immediately went, “I’d do that” literally what in aspiring to rn❤

[@abbysmoviereviews]

THIS is the advice 20 year olds need. i just turned 20 and no other videos really put me in my place like this. but this is exactly what i needed. thank you

[@jae2890]

I was gagged when u told us to grow tf up like it hit me hard and im so grateful for finding this video

[@dirtyshirleyheart]

No matter how many times people tell you to grow up, you’re not going to change unless *you* decide to take accountability for your own life and become a woman. The first step is realizing that no one’s going to come and save you. 🥀 P.s. you’re so beautiful 😍 Thank you for sharing this. The message is very truthful and helpful. I hope this reaches the right audience so we can create a better community for women.

[@jounerie_]

miss guuuuurl the hair and brown tones are absolutely breathtaking!!! thank you so much for the real talk ❤

[@trulyrelaxingvideos]

"emotions are a guide" this is very very mature what you just said.

[@cyb.wyr00]

Emotions are NOT a guide. Emotions damage and control. People cannot control their emotions so they let the emotions control them. Do not be quick to anger. Do not be quick to offence. Do not be quit to argue. Close your mouth and go about your day.

[@trulyrelaxingvideos]

@@cyb.wyr00 close your mouth you immature, ignorant, confused, unteachable, fool.

[@chanelwest3641]

My mother told me that 6 months before she passed!! She told me you are born alone and die alone!! Thank you for this message Beautiful I received it (New Subscriber🎉🎉.. love your hair

[@Boujienadiadaniel]

My mom tells me this every n I am the only child

[@TelxZaid-fl8nq]

11:55 this is so real keep things to yourself even if u wanna share things u wanna do let it happen first I understand wanting to tell everything to your best friend but sometimes it's best to keep things for yourself

[@lablablateuse2507]

If you are suffering domestic violence please don't stay quiet!! Talk to your family and friends about it they will help you or talk to a doctor don't wait to "pass through the storm". Never stay alone in abuse relationship or friendship. 2) if you were sexually assault IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT you are not responsible for this person behavior so no, not everything it's your responsability in your life its what you are doing next that is it.

[@shashaa8373]

I'm glad I read this, I was sexually assaulted some days ago and I kept blaming myself. Thank you

[@xtrodinarygirl]

I'm 16 (almost 17) and I agree with everything you're saying, I consider myself a woman because I've maturly endured so much to the point where I'm matured a lot for my age, even though I don't have a lot of experience with what adults go through I feel like I can relate. I do dislike the "I'm just a girl" quote because it makes it seem like a weakness, If that makes sense. Of course I want to enjoy a lot of my childhood and internally I am a kid still, but I do want to keep my self awareness and make my future self proud. Thank you for this video, I learned some things and gain extra knowledge ♡

[@briannagardea]

I agreed with ALOT of what you said, a lot of this wisdom that you spoke on comes first from the Bible. It’s so important that we know who God is and let him mold us into the people he called us to be.

[@NaaDensua-lm6gr]

Yes this! God is the answer to all of this

[@madebymilan_]

How can I find the scripture that is the foundation to the wisdom she is sharing?

[@briannagardea]

@@madebymilan_ I will rewatch everything and post all the scripture as soon as I can! 🫶

[@briannagardea]

@@madebymilan_ Charm and beauty is important to a lot of woman but having wisdom and a fear of the Lord is what brings all the value into your life as a woman. “Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭31‬:‭30‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ Charm can be misleading Charm can be deceiving, and people can be deceived by it, especially when it comes to attraction. Beauty is vain Beauty is vain because it is useless and produces no result. A woman who fears the Lord will be praised A woman who fears the Lord will be praised throughout eternity because she lives in awe, wonder, and fear of the Lord. A woman's beauty is eternal A woman who honors God with her life will be beautiful and charming eternally. Value the valuable People should value the valuable, not the vain, and consider whether they value beauty and charm too much. Continuous growth and advancement: As you age you should be progressing in life. You should be growing and maturing. Your relationship with Christ should be deepening as well. As you spend time with Christ and get to know more of who He is, then your intimacy with Him will increase. You will then begin to experience Him more throughout your week. Learning and growing is a constant walk in life. It’s important that we continue going forward in life and growing in wisdom and knowledge. “When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” ‭‭I Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭11‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ “And the Child grew and became strong in spirit, filled with wisdom; and the grace of God was upon Him.” ‭‭Luke‬ ‭2‬:‭40‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ “Get wisdom! Get understanding! Do not forget, nor turn away from the words of my mouth. Do not forsake her, and she will preserve you; Love her, and she will keep you. Wisdom is the principal thing; Therefore get wisdom. And in all your getting, get understanding. Exalt her, and she will promote you; She will bring you honor, when you embrace her. She will place on your head an ornament of grace; A crown of glory she will deliver to you.” Hear, my son, and receive my sayings, And the years of your life will be many. I have taught you in the way of wisdom; I have led you in right paths. When you walk, your steps will not be hindered, And when you run, you will not stumble. Take firm hold of instruction, do not let go; Keep her, for she is your life. Do not enter the path of the wicked, And do not walk in the way of evil. Avoid it, do not travel on it; Turn away from it and pass on.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭4‬:‭5‬-‭15‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ “This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate in it day and night, that you may observe to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success.” ‭‭Joshua‬ ‭1‬:‭8‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ “For the Lord grants wisdom! From his mouth come knowledge and understanding. He grants a treasure of common sense to the honest. He is a shield to those who walk with integrity. He guards the paths of the just and protects those who are faithful to him. Then you will understand what is right, just, and fair, and you will find the right way to go. For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will fill you with joy. Wise choices will watch over you. Understanding will keep you safe.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭2‬:‭6‬-‭11‬ ‭NLT‬‬ “If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking.” ‭‭James‬ ‭1‬:‭5‬ ‭NLT‬‬ “But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and the fruit of good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere.” ‭‭James‬ ‭3‬:‭17‬ ‭NLT‬‬ [there’s so much scripture about wisdom, understanding and knowledge] “But the path of the just is like the shining sun, That shines ever brighter unto the perfect day.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭4‬:‭18‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ Advancement is God’s desire for everyone, incremental greatness is Gods desire for everyone that It should never be based on God‘s thinking, and based on Gods expectation that you have to look back into yesterday simply because your tomorrow is pale and frail in glory. The glory that the Lord has invested upon the Believer is the GLORY that excels. That means God expects increase, advancement and progress in every aspect of your life. “And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men.” ‭‭Luke‬ ‭2‬:‭52‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ •Jesus increased! Jesus our mortal of Gods expectation for the believers. For the sake of those connected to your grace, GO FOWARD! For the sake of your children go FOWARD! For the sake of all the souls connected to your apostle ship GO FOWARD! Inspite of the obstacles go FOWARD! Mindset: “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” ‭‭Romans‬ ‭12‬:‭2‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ “Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus,” ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭2‬:‭5‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ Jesus did not just win because he was Son of God, there was a mindset that kept VICTORY in His life. Even if satan is not in existence, a poor mediocre mindset already tends to defeat. Mindset. The decision to be transformed! The riches that you have received in this life flows through a transformed mind. If your mind is not transformed, the potential of your salvation cannot be made manifest. TRANSFORMATION IS KEY. It is a part of transformation to know about getting materials to build your mind is better than getting clothes to live a fake life for now, dress your mind and your mind will dress your body. But if you dress your body and leave your mind, your mind will have to strip the clothes on your body to cover your shame. The choice is yours. So you see someone who is transformed, buying a Bible, buying materials, traveling from place to place, praying everyday. This person may be in one small room fasting and praying every time you see that person studying, someone might ask “don’t you enjoy your life?” He knows that every time does not provide every opportunity and he must walk the works of him who sent him while it is day for the night cometh on every man. “I must work the works of him that sent me, while it is day: the night cometh, when no man can work” is a verse from the Bible, John 9:4. Some say that this verse is a reminder to be ready to do God's will at any time and to fulfill God's purpose for our lives. Others say that it's a call to give oneself enthusiastically to tasks that can make a difference in someone's life, because opportunities like these are usually short-term.” This is what you get when you come to church, TRANSFORMATION. Your friends who were your friends yesterday, You’re not even aware that they’re no longer your friends because something has changed. Transformation produces dissociation. The next time they call you, you will not have a common ground for discussion that’s how you know you have grown. The things you were discussing yesterday, your priorities, your interests have been altered now. While you hear them speaking on mediocre things, gossiping about others, you tell them “you no longer have that passion anymore. I have seen that if I waste this gift God gave me and I’m not ready to allow you to make me waste this gift.” Learning from Trial/errors/mistakes: You can’t go back in time, but what you can do is learn from your past mistakes. Mistakes makes us stronger because they are learning experiences. The way you view things will shape every single moment and experience in your life. Every time you make a mistake don’t be so quick to shame yourself but give yourself grace as God has given you grace, instead repent and ask yourself, “what can I do to be better and how can I let this teach me and transform me?” What matters most is what you do next. “Those who fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it.” “Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead,” ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭3‬:‭13‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ “As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten. Therefore be zealous and repent.” ‭‭Revelation‬ ‭3‬:‭19‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ God allows things to happen in our lives so it can help us, mold us and make us better. “To do evil is like sport to a fool, But a man of understanding has wisdom.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭10‬:‭23‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

[@briannagardea]

@@madebymilan_I’ll finish the rest later :)

[@redheadvibez]

Respectfully , she ate us up and I love that! Especially the things she mentioned about social media. Thank you -

[@keniagarza3477]

CLOCKEDDD ALLL OF US😂😂

[@RemedyReady]

Real badd 😮‍💨

[@sivialove475]

Literally I almost clicked off🤣

[@laurens_creation]

i felt it in my soul😂

[@A.J.0606]

lol i liked feeling attacked, like ok now what i have to do to get better

[@GhanaBabee]

no frl!!

[@ManniDoesItAll]

Love your video gorgeous! Turning your brain off should never be literal. It’s about letting your man handle logistics from time to time to give you a mental break. Like your boarding pass is in his apple wallet for vacation. It doesn’t mean you become childlike

[@FromMyHeartToGodsEar]

11:45 Learnt the hard way. Don't vent to your friends or family. The will definitely see you differently and judge you.

[@II_SUO]

6:06: to be a better person,the bible has advice & ways to help you. It helped me ❤ e.g. Romans 8:1-17 ; Romans 12 .

[@str4wbry_e]

i was just having a conversation with my younger sister who is entering her first year of college. thanks for your being so authentic

[@shinewithinthedark]

I want to listen to this video EVERY morning before starting my day. This was so valuable …. Everything I needed to hear to turn myself and my life around now. Thank you so so so much for this ❤

[@makgabomonoa2934]

"This aint Disney" 🤣🤣🤣 Very true

[@PatriciaTA-888]

I love the "be confident and bold" & "know thyself" parts, thanks Leah x

[@deanna8277]

This actually one of the best & realest woman advice video I’ve watched. And the hair is everything 😍

[@zanele6492]

You have given me an insight about how to view my self as a young woman , my interpersonal skill as a young woman to be specific because I think I struggle a lot with interactiong with people not that I’m anti-social but I just haven’t mastered that aspect in my life , for example dealing with conflicts as you have mentioned that life will put us in uncomfortable situations , sometimes I wouldn’t even know what to do or how to solve a particular conflict And I need to not deprecate myself or under valuing. I like that you said putting my big panties on and start taking accountability and radical responsibility for my decisions, no one on god’s green earth is coming to save me Thankyou so much for such wisdom ❤ I’m 21 years by the way all the way from South Africa

[@akeirafaith]

You know what… You got a new subscriber. Ain’t no way I just got served like this all in one video 😭 Thank you! 🩷 Blessings to you.

[@emilysarvak386]

these points are what so many people need to hear. thank you

[@shinebabyshine.]

this hair is so pretty on you!

[@federicaporceddu3932]

This is the best reality check I ever heard. I wish someone would tell me ages ago. Now I already learnt in the hard way.

[@jasbrano]

at 24, i needed this.

[@sherylsstorage]

Heavvyyyy on the “I’m just a girl” because it is just reinforcing negative stereotypes women face and sets us back. While it may be lighthearted it’s being used as an excuse and in the end makes it seem like you as a woman can’t do anything for yourself 🙌🙌

[@sarahshogunwa]

As a 20 year old with a neurodivergent sparkle, I don’t really understand the “keep things to yourself” mentality. Of course, there’s some information that isn’t always necessary to share but, how far do we take that? How do we *truly* connect with others if we’re not vulnerable ourselves? Are we meant to struggle alone and only share once we’ve fought and hopefully won the war? I really don’t understand. I’m someone who needs genuine, deep emotional connections. I like being open about my life and experiences so that I may connect and learn from others, especially those who are older than me. For example, if I hadn’t been open about my health struggles to my older, wiser peers, I wouldn’t be undergoing a cancer screening as we speak. Sometimes everything isn’t “fine”, and if you don’t speak up you’ll continue to gaslight yourself. I think vulnerability should be encouraged, and it shouldn’t be your problem if someone takes advantage of that. I understand wanting to protect yourself from negative energies but as a child of God, anything done unto me will be returned tenfold. Speak and connect with your friends and family, you will be able to discern who is for you and who is not. I’m very appreciative of this video but that take maybe isn’t for me personally. It’s rare for me to meet people my age who aren’t closed off about their personal lives, finances, etc. Like what do you even talk about??Tiktok?

[@theleahalexander]

@@sarahshogunwa taking what resonates & leaving what doesn’t is a beautiful practice!

[@xSunnyDaysx]

It's more like don't overshare your dreams and goals. Not everyone is there for your happiness and not everyone is rooting for you. There can be a lot of envy, copy catting and taking your ideas. And even worse some people will use 'your' information to use against you or gossip to others about it to be like more.

[@InTheKnowwithCass]

There is no recipe for life. Oh, you ATE that! This video was so good.

[@The_daysi_read]

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[@LifeasKarizma]

i'm 26 and you clocked me and i cried i needed to hear ts so bad! ❤

[@chrystieclervil2562]

I love how blunt you are. Just straight shooter. That’s how I absorb information the best.

[@milktea3985]

At 19 this was really good advice that I needed to hear

[@kelsey4292]

i love that you speak with such conviction. immediately subscribed!

[@Milannnni]

Every single last one of these points were VERY well said !

[@roxyelly6688]

When girls say “turn their brain off” I think in a way it can be good to take off some mental load once in a while. It’s a scary world and women (atleast me and the women in my life)have to be alert 3x more when alone than if I was in the presence of a masculine I trusted (weather it’s family, friend, romantic). I don’t need all that cortisol all the time lmao😅 women Alr are stressed in this world. Letting my brain turn off doesn’t mean I don’t wanna make any decisions for myself, it’s more certain parts of my brain tht are worried get to be turned off for a little while. I do see though how at times women can use that term to sorta infantilize themselves.

[@JahaidaRodriguez-p3v]

This! It’s definitely ok to “turn our brains off” and not always be in control

[@theleahalexander]

@@roxyelly6688 that’s basically what I said lol ! 🤣

[@heheno4206]

Im 14 and I relate to all of these I went through fake friends, bad relationships, listening to other peoples sayings being uncomfortable, and hating the path I was In. Just how they say “protecting my peace” I’m all alone now lol😂, but It was worth It I founded out what people really was by my side and honestly I was the only person on my side, at this moment I’m not comfortable being by myself all the time but I’ll get used to It. I love video soo much you telling me and the upcoming women this advice It just shows me how much I have grew🙏🏽💗

[@destinystokes4662]

Im currently going through my self love journey and these points were so needed!!

[@selenah3697]

omgg you just stated everything that i needed to hear your such well-spoken person.

[@siennabarnes7153]

Girl I needed that!! I won’t lie at first I was like damn that’s harsh but omg by the end of the video I genuinely can’t believe how much I need to change within myself this is the video I’m always going to be coming back to when I need the truth and I love it thank you x

[@yalandphomsyha676]

It’s the “why??🤨” for me when talking about shutting your brain off while with a man! Amen! I definitely agree that it’s okay to feel relaxed and safe but to completely turn it off like your a lost duck and he’s just leading you is a big no because you must still be whole on your own.

[@Hmmmmmm674]

This felt like a reality check, I’m turning 20 in November thank you really

[@Justagirl95]

OMG I seriously needed to hear this. Thank you SO SO much! You are such a QUEEN and also we need a makeup routine!

[@McKinseyWood]

Girl I’m obsessed with your mindset and how you speak! I love learning from you.

[@yalandphomsyha676]

Heavy on the stop seeking validation from others! Thats one of the things I would struggle with so much, but the thing is the real truth is that you alone have the answers, you’re just only seeking for someone else to confirm if what you know to be true is actually true when you know it is but you want a yes or you want someone else to clap for you to make you so sure it’s the right choice! The more you do that the more you are no longer in control of YOUR life! Friends, family, partner.. don’t matter! This is your life, you know you more then anybody knows you but GOD. Whoooooo! I love this video 😂😂

[@itssjessicaxoxo]

I’m about to turn 21 and I’m so happy that I found your video when I did

[@yanaa1k51]

Me too!!😭 happy early birthday btw!❤️

[@itssjessicaxoxo]

@@yanaa1k51 thank you ❤️ happy early birthday boo🫶🏽

[@benitha_tuyishime]

Me too ☺️ Happy birthday in advance girl 💗

[@itssjessicaxoxo]

@@benitha_tuyishime happy early birthday boo🤍🥳

[@QuinshyraLachae]

I just turned 21 in July and whewwww

[@DezaJenet]

Girl… Absolutely needed this! Thank you❤

[@Naaijadoll]

The take responsibility section was really some tough love. Thank you.

[@rajashreedibruwal4416]

Felt like a big sister is pointing at you looking at my shitty conditions. Very direct, like it or not. Much needed video for me right now. Thanks for sharing.

[@tamarasorda1046]

thank you!! proof that your gut is never wrong .. i think this video opened more eyes than the other topic! keep up the awesome work!

[@earthtofaith]

Ouuuu girl, I'm sat... I really needed to hear this today.

[@Slow-Low]

I needed that last point..."It's never too late" Thank you Ms Alexander,Love you!

[@_Justann]

this is literally what I been learning especially this year. like you can't tell me something ion know. God got me and I got me.

[@mikaelaburch2899]

OMG, I LOVE THIS VIDEO!! Empowering women to step into the empowered state of femininity which is sooo beautiful + magnetic. When women play small it only plays into that nasty stereotype that we are incapable of handling ourselves as functioning adults. Massive Amen to you for sharing this message 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@divinityofthewomb]

literally the big sister I needed my entire life, im so glad I ended up here💗

[@iamjennelleross]

Currently in the middle of doing a complete life 360 and this video came in into my recommendations right on time

[@Laurennohill]

It’s 180. 360 is a full turn around to where you first started

[@lifewithmoesha7877]

These things felll directly in my garden!! But I needed to hear this😫😫 Thank you

[@carrawayfam3780]

Girl all I kept thinking was I’m so happy young girls get to learn from this video… and lol I was also thinking you must’ve also seen so much going on for you to make this❤ it’s all love thank you for taking the time to make this video

[@theleahalexander]

@@carrawayfam3780 thank you for supporting ❤️

[@anisarae]

I needed this! I’m taking control of my life now, thank you💗

[@juliabiagi1703]

Girl, you are amazing. This video blew my mind.

[@namiixoxo]

GIRLLL thank youuuu❤️ i really needed this! i just turned 18 and just graduated and i’ve been feeling soooo lost lately but this video really made me feel more confident in what i’m doing so i just want to say thank you so much this video was very inspiring and informative for me 🥹

[@cyb.wyr00]

You’re 18 and feeling lost? Lost to what? You just started life. Don’t let the devil make you think because you’re 18 you must be doing some indefinite with your life. that’s NOT how life works. Life is NOT a straight line, life is NOT something that can be noted down for others because LIFE CHANGES. God does not, seek him and you won’t feel lost. Your soul desires things the earth cannot give and that’s why you feel lost. ❤

[@namiixoxo]

@@cyb.wyr00 yesss maamm and thank you sm❤️❤️this video and comment means a lot to me! I glad you seen my comment and i was able to receive this message. I have been a lot more confident after letting God lead the way, definitely taking my time with life and learning as i go. I know he has a lot more life ahead of me!

[@norahw9272]

When it comes to knowing thyself it is important to get to know yourself as much as possible but it is important to know yourself completely. Look into this psychology concept called the Johari Window, it’s interesting and some food for thought

[@brends23]

Wow girl I needed to hear this. Came across it at the right time. ❤

[@lamaitressededavid5312]

Thank you girl . I was about to get this apartment for yrs . I finally got the apartment, my first apartment ever and I turn 30 January. I regret telling my friends and family abt it . They guilt trip me . Thinking I was making the worst decision and I should stay with my dad . Whereas , I have always wanted to move. Now I am moving confidently and don’t have to tell anyone nothing and don’t feel guilt.

[@laurennicole851]

ty for this big sister advice. i’m 24 and just got my degree. i’m trying to make my next steps to be that strong independent woman and get to my dreams. i’m not there yet and have felt stuck in a rut and it’s my fault. i need to start getting to work. i love this and so needed to see this video. it’s up to me to get the life i want. i need to run towards the problems and start growing. it’s up to me. also you look so pretty girl

[@Julisa_Monique]

The Holy Bible is my recipe cause girl dont nun else work like Jesus!💛 I cant do this life without Him and u right life is going to LIFE fs

[@mollydaigrepont6603]

Girrrlll PREACH!! Everything you said was on point. I am so glad this video exists because a lot of young women need to hear this. This is amazing

[@alexiacalderon6686]

The way I NEEDED to hear this!

[@anastasiahomenides]

21 here so glad I found your channel!!

[@daniellaaaliyah5910]

I needed this lecture. Thank you 🤍

[@najahkdh]

I just want to say you very much so chewed with this video. I think so often women try to let social media think for them unintentionally just because we’re consuming so much content that there isn’t enough platforms where we can be met with different opinions, which makes us think. I feel like when you reminded a woman not to turn her brain off all the time and the difference between being a girl and being a woman Speaks a lot to the relevance of being precise with your wording. I loved this video!

[@natashamwamba3468]

I’m actually going through something and God has just brought your page , I needed everything especially about confidence and not relaying on other people to validate me , you are a blessing and thank you for such mature words 🤎🤎🤎

[@keirbears]

I wish I knew this when I was younger, it could've saved years of toxicity and helped me realize so much about myself and my friendships. I hope everyone struggling can find this video and take something out of it. Everything said was so well done!!!

[@bbydollmindy]

I needed to watch this, thank you.

[@dyamon7126]

omg this video is so good and so real, you really hit the nail on the head and clocked the tea that MANY needed to hear.

[@psycmajor]

This haircut and style suits you so well.

[@jaiybae]

Thank you for this video I’m a new sub . I’m on break rn and listening to this helped me . I feel like I’m still stuck in my high school days and I’m 26. I feel like I don’t know how to be that women . I feel like I can’t think “ like a grown women”

[@Yentruocmai]

i’m 29 and so happy to come across your channel i needed all of this ❤

[@Itstherealzay]

You’re giving 90s fine, classy young woman with the hair, I love it! 😍

[@Aurykyasmr]

Thank you so much!! A very great full and enlightened 21 year old girly 🧚🏼‍♀️💭✨❤️🙏

[@sarahclaesson7327]

you reminded me of who I am, a strong woman. subscribed so quick

[@NiNi-mv6oq]

Thank you Yahweh for this video 🙏🏾

[@VanessaTwiine]

6:21 I felt it when said not to seek external validation from any one in your life besides yourself.

[@nicolepoli4896]

I feel like I needed to hear this! Thank you💖

[@HaizelMedia]

This woman is so realistic in this video, it's exactly what i needed and what i was telling myself before clicking on this video. Thank you so much for sharing this❤️

[@Darkskinbeaulex]

Thank you for this video! There are some things us women fail to realize that keeps us from moving forward in our own lives! This video has opened my eyes and will use it as motivation to make changes in my life.