8 Rules for loving an ENTJ | Season 27 | CS Joseph

[@obcane3072]

Summary 43:42 1. Always tell the truth even if harsh and hurts their feelings. 2. Help the make responsible choices (precise wise choice) 3. Always give them positive feedback (what gives you a good experience); demonstrations of loyalty 4. Tell them you think highly of them when they do something good (positively manipulative) 5. Always help them find the best answer. Do not withhold information;your own Ti (research) to help them their Te (decision). They need all the info. 6. Always tell them what you are about to do to show you are being faithful; state your intentions (calm down Ni nemesis suspicion) They jump to conclusions if you're being secretive. They are critical of others intentions. (No I can't tell you it's a surprise) 7. Always help them remember. Tell them to take photos, take notes, set up alarm. Chronicle your relationship. 8. Do not expect them to be empathic (aware of how others feel) . They have sympathy (Fi) so tell them "how would you feel if this happened to you". Remind them not to treat others like cattle. Final super quick summary: 47:48

[@gigglesmcdounut723]

That last part made me realize that's how I've been able to have and keep morals. I always think that if I was in the other person's position would I want that treatment?

[@maaiker2977]

@@gigglesmcdounut723 Its the golden rule, do to others as you want done to you.

[@RonFlux]

Just want to mention one caveat: Don't tell the truth in front of other people if it affects their competency. They might still manage to end the meeting, but will go to their Fi inferior after the meeting venting their anger.

[@theyetti90]

I copied and pasted this. Used what I could remember in a surprise conversation with my ENTJ. She was driving back home from a long trip and called me to stay awake so she wouldn't die.😂 thanks

[@JungINFJ]

16:50 Rule #1 Always be brutally honest with your ENTJ even if it hurts; tell the harsh truth! 21:35 Rule #2 Always give your ENTJ a choice but keep them responsible; give them options with your thoughts on which is the best and why. 24:35 Rule #3 Always react positively to everything that they show you; demonstrations of loyalty like sharing photos with them throughout the day 28:12 Rule #4 When they do good things tell them you think highly of them 30:46 Rule #5 Bring ENTJ reference points also; do not withhold information but provide it 34:05 Rule #6 Always tell your ENTJ what you're going to do before you do it 37:27 Rule #7 Make sure you help them remember things - chronical your relationship and demand they do the same 39:28 Rule #8 Do not hold them to the standard of being empathic

[@whatoncewas8480]

You are a godsend - thank you!

[@intj1782]

The first rule about "Always tell the truth even if it hurts" & one rule somewhere in between "Share what you are doing. Share photos, selfies, etc - keep them updated" also applies to INTJs. Great Job, I liked the lecture.

[@gigglesmcdounut723]

As an ENTJ woman I 100% with him about abusive relationships. My ex was an awful person and he was extremely manipulative. He knew how to make me feel loved just enough for me to stay, but he had no respect for me. I was angry at him and myself for allowing myself to be manipulated. I started watching him closer and seeing what he was doing and saying. It's hard to leave an abusive relationship because you're made to feel like you deserve the abuse and disrespect. I realized I had to respect myself and love myself because he wasn't able to. When I finally broke up with him and made it very clear that his manipulation wasn't going to work anymore he got worse and just helped solidify my decision more. I learned a lot about myself in that relationship. I learned the kind of person I was and how I was able to hold on to my morals and virtues even though I'm sure most people wouldn't of been able to. He was a serial cheater and liar. I'm sure a lot of people would of cheated on him as a form of vengeance, but I'm proud of myself and the experience showed my true colors even to myself. Now I'm with a very loving and caring INFJ. I know we will have our struggles, but there's no yelling at each other. Its just talking about what the issue is and fixing it together. It's such a stable and loving relationship and I'm so glad I was able to leave the abusive relationship. It was hard but it would of been harder if I stayed. The amount of trauma I went through with the ex still affects me at times and I'm going to therapy for it. Thankfully my bf is very understanding and supportive. Gosh I love my man!

[@maaiker2977]

I know what you mean. I am an infj female and had a n*rcissistic boss that gave me a massive burnout. Eye opener to say the least. Taught me a lot; * what is toxic behaviour? I have a 0 tolerance policy for it now. No devalueing, setting you up to fail, disrespecting bounderies etc. * The weakness of the infj is that we are perfectionistic people pleasers. We are too strict on ourselves....which a narc exploits. I don't tolerate a external narc anymore...why tolerate an internal narc? Why be so strict on yourself. Perfection is an illusion. Knowing/acknowledging your weaknesses and asking for help when needed...THATS strenght. And the infj is so focussed on helping/pleasing others...we don't help/please ourselves. I didn't even know myself. Selfcare, bounderies and going after what you want is so very important. I get hit on by ent*'s a lot. Normally I wouldn't go for it cause they accidentally trip my narc radar. That was before I had a bit more handson experience with narcs. Its just that I can see past masks, but its not as cut and dry as you might think. With a narc I can see the coldness and the empathy (they fake)...it gives me an "2+2=18...somethings not adding up....what is he hiding?" feeling. But the ent* gives me the same feeling. But I think its inverted with them...its all about intend. The perfect strict mask protects the feelings and the need for control is to help others. The narc fakes the feelings mask but wants control and hides a m*nster underneath. Control for personal gain. They "look" simular to an infj but they aren't. But it triggers my narc radar and I tend to do a runner when that happens. But the ent* is bluntly honest without the intend to hurt your feelings. The narc devalues. It looks simular but it isn't. But I recently saw some nice examples of ent*/infj relationships and they seem to work....if you can keep it in balance. Even the push and pull of the flirting thing they do...its more than just them being playful...its kinda a determination what kind of person this is...will they be dominated or push back? If you push back or tell them no...a narc won't like that....an ent* gets turned on by that. I think both ent*/infj are more into show than tell...words are cheap and people lie...show me what ya got....proof it.

[@no-thanks]

Was your ex an ENFP ???

[@gigglesmcdounut723]

@@no-thanks He was either an ENFP or an ISFP. Though he was one of the best sales people I've seen in person. Also found out I am actually an ENFJ and not an ENTJ. Took a long time,but figured it out! That Fi inferior vs nemesis was tricky to figure out.

[@no-thanks]

@@gigglesmcdounut723 Serial Cheater + Sales Person + the Bait and Switch = sounds like an ISFP. They say sorry not because they plan on changing, but because they want you to shut up about it ??? Yeah, the ENFPs I know are all or nothing. It’s either they REALLY like you or they REALLY don’t care. They don’t do the mind games for attention or they won’t feel the need to draw it out. Glad you were able to nail down your cognitive type ! XNFPs are self-preservationists of a special kind because of their Fi. If they feel like they’re a good person, even if it’s not accurate or based in reality, they probably won’t change. You would have to Fe shame them into changing and then they will retaliate and punish you for doing so.

[@SisterMarilyn]

This is sooo much better than typing by zodiac sign, wow.

[@LexaLite]

Chase you nailed this perfectly. 👌 I personally as an INTP never expected to date and end up with an ENTJ. But thanks to your content like this I am able to understand how I can be my natural self in a relationship and simultaneously be a beneficial partner to another human being. I've pretty much naturally followed all of these while being with an ENTJ and see and know how clearly this stuff works and is true. Thanks for the great work.

[@MrCosmonaut]

I'm an INTP male married to ENTJ female. I've spent a life to find one. Happy to spend the rest of it with her, I've won the lottery, it's a jackpot, it's the flashiest royale, unbelievable luck.

[@theyetti90]

I have my first date with one, Sunday. Also INTP male. I actually got her to take the test. In the words of Sgt. Lincoln Osiris, "Any tips?"

[@Eshieshusband]

How did it go?

[@theyetti90]

@@Eshieshusband if you’re asking me we’re about to take photos for our wedding invitations, so well. Thanks.

[@Eshieshusband]

@@MrCosmonaut really? That's very good. I wish you the best brother.

[@gigglesmcdounut723]

I'm an ENTJ and I would never cheat. Even when I was younger and very unhealthy I just opted for never having relationships. I was always honest with the people I slept with so nothing was a surprise. I've always been upfront and honest. I don't agree with the jumping to conclusions. I may have suspicions, but I make sure I have undeniable proof of my suspicions before making a decision.

[@jennanelson5453]

I completely relate to and agree with this. Cheating is not an option.

[@isabelle2717]

The advice to make ENTJs imagine how they would feel if they were in your shoes is so on point, especially valuable for their pedagogue, and looking at the comment section it's not so rare that these two get together. I have this kind of relationship with my ENTJ boyfriend and I've come to the same conclusion but after erring quite a lot when trying to make him understand what I was going through on different occasions. Also, I would add here that if you're their partner, don't hesitate to ask them how they feel on regular basis, they like opening up and will surprise you with how much in tune with their feelings they can be. It's also quite rewarding when you manage to soften up an ENTJ :), a very precious experience, probably only reserved for those most trusted.

[@leylajali2712]

Curious on how you got together. Did he chase you?

[@isabelle2717]

@@leylajali2712 The first time we met was at a party organized by our friend but at the time we both were in relationships, and only spoke shortly. It wasn't until 3 years later, that we talked again. I posted something on social media that interested him. He initiated a conversation and later asked me out. I wouldn't say he needed to chase me though. That's because I liked him and he was very clear about his intentions soon on, so we got into a relationship relatively quickly.

[@Phn123-d4v]

What’s ur mbti ?

[@Sudden_Dairy]

Hi, an INTP I am here, and this seems to be a great video. Where to start where to start, I had so many thoughts while watching this video, it's now become tough on how to start typing the college level essay I thought up of in my head while C.S. Joseph was talking. Great job keeping your videos logically consistent among themselves, you can almost always prove the points you make by reaching back to a previous video and its clear that you do this from memory, not from script. That being said, I would enjoy some more of the lecture-style white board and marker videos again. INTPs are terrifyingly good at setting our "quirky" baselines for our moods, being masters of consistency while single, and then throwing EVERYTHING away for the sake of societal expectations once in a relationship. I believe this happens from lack of experience taking part in romantic relationships(our Si child only lets be good at ANYTHING with proper time to practice) and we try to hurry our maturity along in using our ESFJ subconscious. Please don't dismiss this aspect of Si child, it is the source of our ego and we know we're competent especially when we're achieving in some competition. Now to the ENTJs, for rule 3, if you want quick, positive, physical reactions when being touched, INTPs are not truly capable. We always give ourselves a time threshold for info processing and would probably react or reciprocate with explorative touches of our own, starting slowly and uncertain, another INTP in the comments says otherwise, so I'm a little shaky on that point. More on the rules; rule 3, giving positive feedback, these are value judgements that INTPs in baseline "observer mode" are not want to make. Incedentally, this is what our ESFJ modes help us do, even though we do it wrong. I believe that XNTJs want a partner who is simultaneously their mentor/teacher or is fulfilling aspects of those roles, roles that XNTPs are made for. Please don't laugh when the roleplaying in the bedroom is a student/teacher affair, and you are literally critiquing the performance. I've used my "trainer" mode in work to catch the new people up and when I'm doing well at training I'm told I'm excellent at it. Rules 1 and 3 demostrate how INTPs are so appealing when they can actually balance being authentic(rule 1) and being mature in the right way(rule 3), so please don't recomend that ENTJs leave INTPs when the INTPs fail at this balance, because we get the LEAST experience in these areas of life, but we need it the most, in order to remember it, process it, and practice it. Achieving this balance with the APPROPRIATE use of the mentor mindset satisfies rule 4 perfectly. Rules 7 and 8 may seem the hardest for INTPs to handle, but 7 can mean to us "they never let us become complacent, lets show them what it really means to us to be on top of responsibilities". Life will be difficult for those taking the pathway of maturity and rule 8 will become relevant when we are least in the mood to deal with others. If we can somehow direct our energies to just the one ENTJ while satisfying the emotional needs of others, it will make us more comfortable, but it may backfire on us if the ENTJ percieves this as "just another person trying to make me more emPATHETIC". Thank you so much for your vids and sorry for the lengthy feedback. I may actually return to this video just to look at this comment(I'll make myself feel guilty and therefore obligated). I really alomst recall how our vice of apathy screws us over in relation to this video, so I may make a (smaller) comment detailng how it does so.

[@thundermyth]

Prime example of informative style... 17 minutes in, no rule explained. This video is awesome and I enjoy your content and wisdom. Much love from Croatia, an ENTJ

[@rossdouglas4615]

as an ENTJ, this is mindblowing.. it all makes a ton of sense! Thank you for this!

[@Whyareyoustalkingme123]

Gosh I love this . Rule 6 is so important . You can do what you want ( let’s be reasonable ) just let me know . I want to feel like you trust me and that we’re a team. And that I can trust you.

[@whitneyvalens4126]

I’m an ENTJ woman, and yes, I do want love. We have to develop boundaries.

[@gouthambolt]

I am in a relationship with an entj woman. She's got lot of guy friends but she's scared to put me infront of a few guy friends of her and it makes me think these are friendzone guy or guys she's once dated and broke up and is just being friends with them, although she denies it. But her fears and anxiety makes me doubt her more. It makes me beat myself up wether I am an insecure person or there's actually some information hidden. It's difficult dating an entj woman.

[@nemesis27]

​@@gouthamboltdump her

[@nemesis27]

​@@gouthamboltlearn redpill

[@g.k.1285]

Honestly, the ENTJ is the easiest type for me to communicate with smoothly, with no headache. Being direct and honest is my preferred manner of communicating but it's not received well by most. -INFJ

[@thaisplouvier5403]

2:00 ENTJ men often marry SFJs / ENTJ women often marry ISFPs. When young, people often marry their polar opposite. 7:00 have a lot of struggles with relationships. 7:45 randian objectivist : libertarian, earn their way 12:00 beauty makes you lovable / nobility makes you respectable 14:00 ENTJ allow a lot of abuse in their relationship

[@nasreenbari2765]

ENTJ men can also be tyrannically controlling and abusive. Their way or the highway

[@emthis22]

It's funny when you said that you have to react to every touch they give you, as an INTP I'm very sensitive to touches, it's crazy. I don't know if it happens to other INxPs

[@malakashraf2801]

As an istp, I am very sensitive to touches , si critic is sensitive.

[@ZachBlogs]

Keep the ENTJ videos coming! 😊 - ENTJ 🤣

[@jennanelson5453]

As an ENTJ, I agree ! I just have one correction, based on my personal opinion. In regards to ENTJ's expecting others should take care of themself because noone else took care of them so why should they look after others....I dont beleive that is the mindset. It's not based on vendictivness, it's based on values and personal philosophy. We are hard working, self driven, organized individuals. We value responsability...its not that "well others dont look after me so why should I look after them". It's more like " everyone is responsible for ourself. I cannot make someone do say or feel something, that is a job for themself. I do not controle others emotions or thoughts, therefor I am not responsible " I definitely agree that the full truth, no matter how painful, needs to be shared. As well as that we desire and thrive on all relevant information and veiw everything as numbers / statistics /more information...even living being, including other humans. Thank you for sharing !

[@2xcap]

Btw -Ty so much for sharing all this. Didn’t realize where all my drive for non-stop achievements came from at such an early age, or why I have certain difficulties with relationships, work situations, etc. Amazing how much you understand me and provide examples that really land!!! I continue to make more sense of myself & find ways to better myself bc of you. Thank you !!!!

[@sarahamin10]

The abuse part sadly was a big part of my life story but thank God it's ended. Yes loving someone and trusting them so much that you believe them when they undermine you is really stupid and sad.

[@KristiJoseph]

Actions speak louder than words. We need shared experiences that are real and meaningful for us otherwise ENTJs can't sustain intimacy in relationships.

[@gouthambolt]

I can't tell you how much your video gives me a direction on how to love my enf/tj girlfriend. She puts insane efforts for me. But her fear that she's a bad person or something going wrong is very in my face and it makes me question her transparency. You give me reasoning that she never does and it helps for me to understand soo much. Thank you so much for these videos.

[@Hello0o0o064]

No. As an ENTJ, I’d never cheat. That would be a waste of time… why would I be with that person anyway if I cared so little about them or didn’t really want to be with them enough to cheat?

[@CNStanza1]

I love it when CSJ triggers himself when defending a personality type, shows his Fe child

[@honor9lite1337]

Yeahhhhhhh 🤭

[@Officialmourad]

Yup lol

[@sunnymccalister234]

It was funny that you mentioned also watching ones own type... to perhaps learn to love oneself. That is why I am here, watching. hahaha. Thank you for making this... It is helpful.

[@shannen271]

This content is incredible, great job! Very helpful and spot on! My husband is an ENTJ and I'm an INFP.

[@leylajali2712]

How did you end up together? Did he chase you? Asking cause I date EnTJs but its not smooth st all..

[@shannen271]

@@leylajali2712 No he didn't chase because I didn't play hard to get. We discussed early on what we wanted, we were both looking for a serious relationship. He did always make the first move.

[@leylajali2712]

@@shannen271 thanks for the reply. I Guess this ENTJ im dating not into me. I have initiated texting twice now after our date :(

[@shannen271]

@@leylajali2712 Just bluntly ask. My ENTJ didn't text much at first because he didn't want to push me away.

[@BananasPogo]

@@leylajali2712 update?

[@RaffertyMBTI]

Why is Ni child in a relationship? Se child wants to give the best experience & I am guessing Si child wants to receive the best experience. What does Ni child want?

[@gigglesmcdounut723]

Honestly, a lot of this sounds like very unhealthy ENTJs. For someone to expect loyalty and faithfulness in a relationship then they need to be those as well.

[@t-ime]

it's always CS Joseph in the dark

[@giuseppelorisnuzzo2840]

i would also point out that actually they care about other people feelings (few ones, even tho technically is better to say they care about "how you are doing into your life", which is more SE child but ok) but they do not take them into consideration, example : you are an infp (me) go to them and say hey i got x problem; they will tell you what to do to fix your shit so maybe in the end you feel better. This sometimes happens to the point of ordering people what to do not caring about they feel cuz they know that if you listen to them you are gonna say thank you in the end. So they show love by "Thinking about you" that's litterally TE+SE.

[@CSJoseph]

They can sympathize when it's something they can relate to, yes.

[@jasonblack4208]

I like your differentiation between "generosity" vs "charity". ENFPs are generally much more social creatures who want to be noticed for some kind of mission (ranging from moral causes to pure histrionic posturing). Underneath the authoritative exterior, ENTJs are fairly private creatures, and would rather give to a select few people. Also....you caught me. I only give a shit about how others feel insofar that I can ask "how would that make ME feel in that situation?". I'm generally quite good at understanding why people feel a certain way, but often I decide "I would have responded like X, so they're a pussy and idgaf". 😂

[@2xcap]

Idk why other ENTJ females have abusive relationship, but coming from abusive childhood where I cud never be feminine, demure, dainty, or dependent enuff for my mom & was constantly criticized by parents for being diff, I seemed to trigger the worst of their ability to abuse me bc even then, I knew they were wrong. It took time in adulthood to figure out how non-abusive relationships worked & which of my “normals” / conditioning were red flags.

[@annroberts4593]

I’m an ENTJ but I have amazing memory, I don’t break rules even if it benefits me, I don’t need control or to be the center

[@raedjamal5779]

do informative types want love more than respect and do direct types want respect more than love?

[@CSJoseph]

what they want and what they need are often at odds. Men want love and need respect, women want respece and need love.

[@giuseppelorisnuzzo2840]

lol i got entjs telling me that they value how honest i am XD (and i am infp) gotta love parenthood pairings

[@ammar9279]

Bro I'm infp are we honest?

[@giuseppelorisnuzzo2840]

@@ammar9279 we can be, Just not with Templars usually

[@beatsg]

How does one remind or criticise an ENTJ appropriately and effectively? JS Joseph, how do I make them feel truly good about themselves?

[@oOZanlanOo]

16:50 INTP: I see no problem in that haha

[@Susana-yg6hk]

I have problems with that cause life is already hard so I don’t want to upset others plus as if the others were going to listen in the end it only hurts you to tell the truth

[@iforgotit1889]

Oh yeah there is a problem, as much as the Ti hero want to tell the Truth, the Fe Inferior fear's hurting someone's feeling with their Truth

[@oOZanlanOo]

@@Susana-yg6hk Yes but they grow on that; win win.

[@HR-lm3jh]

@ original post: this is art.

[@honor9lite1337]

@@Susana-yg6hk If you don't want to upset others with the real truth, their life will continue to being problematic. Short term thinking vs. long term (wise) thinking.

[@malakashraf2801]

Istps are definitely avoidant, too .

[@liveforyouonly]

can u pls do difference between female INTP vs ISFJ? the trickster spot isn't that noticeable for me

[@CSJoseph]

If going to www.udja.app doesn't work, download the free type grid companion at csjoseph.life and work through that, you'll get your answer. Or if you're impatient you can always get a 15 min typing session.

[@tarikalakkad2005]

Getting into a relationship with an ENTJ woman and a bit concerned about the compatability as an INFP

[@patrykj547]

I still have in mind one situation when ENTJ ask me for feedback and that is what I heard triggered my Ti to the point that I told him that makes no sense and he is so Based I can't remember what that was unfortunate but he started yelling at me how the fuck I question his authority he knows better because he is older 3 times. His Se was butthurt so much and his Fi starts acting so weird idk how to describe he becomes so weirdly emotional and attached to his idea. After that, he never asked me about something or if he was I just ignored him and answered simply yes that good idea. They can be extremely subjective compared to INTJ's based on the experience I always try and mostly succeed detached emotionally from the topic to be true to myself and correct as much as possible.

[@nellyradebe3196]

I watched your matrix video and I'm super impressed. I always thought your typing celebrities/characters skills were lacking, but you proved me wrong. Neo is a clear Infp. Alphonse from Fullmetal is the one I struggle with. Is he Isfj or Infp? Faith or belief?

[@simpletomash]

Rule number one for loving an ego focused ×e-Te looping EFP: - have no hands so that u can't smack their ass when they get overwhelming.

[@NB-qy7ku]

19:37 Intp or infp most brilliant type

[@abrahamdavidmunozlopez7822]

The first rule also applies to ESTJs?

[@CSJoseph]

Yes.

[@Eshieshusband]

Please someone help me, I really like my entj girlfriend and as a intp boyfriend, I have done everything she wants me to do and ive made mistakes too but ive always learnt and I wanna do everything for her, our relationship and bond was very strong and good but now, its crumbling apart due to my past, and she thinks I dont have a good past and she wants a pure intp guy who has no past and what do I do to make her love me and like me because I cant change my past Please help, I dont like asking for help but now I am.

[@Eshieshusband]

Im still stuck on this issue

[@mahardikaerza5010]

I am an ENTJ; without specific context, it's difficult. If I were in her position, I would understand, verbally say love, and thank you for your desire to improve (assuming she was ordering you for something to be better). What kind of past she can't accept? Just play assumption here, you stick to bad influence and can't move on? Was that the past you're talking about? if yes, the solution is easy. Don't mention, do, and reference about that anymore. Yes, it can be difficult for Si child nostalgic, I understand that. That was the meaning of "no past" from her POV. Don't let the past still influence you!!!

[@Eshieshusband]

@@mahardikaerza5010 can we talk more somewhere else? I really want to improve and I would like it if we talked properly somewhere else

[@Eshieshusband]

@@mahardikaerza5010 is it possible for us to talk somewhere else? I really appreciate you helping me, I want to get more into details and id appreciate it if we talked on this issue somewhere else, let me know if you have any socials where I can text you

[@Eshieshusband]

@mahardikaerza5010 can we talk more on this topic somewhere else? I really appreciate your help and id appreciate it if we talked on this issue somewhere else so I can get more into details.

[@NourTheDreamer]

I've met ONE ENTJ woman and she was dope. Unfortunately I was very immature back then.

[@Eshieshusband]

@@NourTheDreamer immature as in what? Because I need help with my entj girlfriend

[@johnroc2335]

Thanks Chase! I have some questions about questions 6 and 8. -6 If the entj in a relationship is a woman, is having to tell them everything as a man not going against holding a masculine frame as in kind of being submissive? -8 The sentence you said was spot on to what I have heard before, almost word for word. But you said they have had to care for themselves all their lives...didn't they choose that like? In wanting to be independent and not need anyone? It's not like people haven't offered or wanted to help them, plus they forget all the times people have.

[@sakethj2657]

Since entjs are inherently a masculine type( one of the most masculine), I think some behaviors will naturally have to be feminine/not masculine (intps being the golden pair is probably somewhat related to them being one of the most feminine types)

[@erinh9267]

No. You are conflating a body with a way of relating/personality. It is actually bigoted

[@gigglesmcdounut723]

For the question 8: chances are most ENTJs can't depend on others because they have been shown they are irresponsible. I'm an ENTJ and I like being independent, but I don't want to have complete control in my relationships. I want others to be responsible and take care of things for me. I remember when people do good by me, but generally the good they do isn't on par with the bad.

[@underwaterpanther]

Damn this is helpful. Infj with ENTJ. The fe parent with fi inferior is rough af sometimes. Turn feelings off blast with Ti. 😆 both have issues with needing to know what the other is doing before doing it. The freedom but not trusting others is interesting af and hilarious at the same time. Def need loyalty!! I mix this with astrology. I have a intj slant and he has a enfj slant aka mercury placement which we play heavily on after 30. In our conscious awareness as a tool to the ego. Anyways thanks endlessly!

[@andrewross5454]

Doesn't conflict based chemistry yield attraction for female psychology? Polarity as far as intergenderal relating?

[@CSJoseph]

Yes, distance is essential.

[@patrykj547]

from an INTJ standpoint, I still can't believe that my grandfather ENTJ married the most obedient type known as ISFJ 🙄 so this is true, what you are talking about lmao

[@CSJoseph]

Bronze pairs do tend to work out long term.

[@j.f.3590]

If you are looking for someone that will have you walking on eggshells, that will punish you for things you have done or not as long as they believe it. Talk about a oneway relationship, with someone that doesn’t think they do anything wrong or justify the wrong they are doing. They suck unless you want someone that will try to buy your love and punish you for you being with them. The most selfish people ever and understand that you will always have to work for their love. It is all about them and one of the biggest complainers. So if you want a relationship where you don’t matter and don’t mind hearing someone constantly complain. Do not expect them to give a sh*t about you they are perfect for you.

[@CSJoseph]

Might be a good time to date a different type.

[@gigglesmcdounut723]

Maybe you attract Narcissists? Maybe find out what the red flags that you're attracted to are. There are good ENTJs out there, but you got to make sure that you're not attracted to those with a personality disorder. I'd suggest looking up videos on psychology and studying on personality disorders. A good youtube channel for this is Dr. Ross Rosenburg. Best of luck to you!

[@A54D3J]

Appreciate you chase

[@Drox_short515]

[@edensaief7918]

So true. I know an ENTJ fraudster that is that way to maintain his lifestyle.

[@aladdout9454]

intps inability to love anyone or even anything is scary *taylor swift's trouble plays in the bg*

[@aladdout9454]

@Anonymous Me unhealthy ones not the others

[@therealyeti1482]

How can I learn?

[@hankyotutorials]

Season 27 is awesome😇

[@Kubis.goreng]

Chase u can mimicking squidward voice 😆

[@ACelestialSerenity]

Don't know if I missed it, but what was the entjs deadly sin?

[@CSJoseph]

Hasn't been released yet.

[@slashwind3417]

awesome ! i fixed some of these... others not. thank You Sir !

[@qasimimtiaz9668]

what attachment style mostly likely a intj would have?

[@boogieap3617]

Out here taking a night walk too

[@giuseppelorisnuzzo2840]

Rewatching this video and i have a close entj girl friend of mine, she ended up a 6 year relationship with an isfp and she kinda sometimes regrett it. My quick question is: does this relationship get fucked up over time? cuz he was her first and only after breaking up i kinda saw her "realizing" a little more what she needs/wants

[@CSJoseph]

That lecture is coming soon

[@NB-qy7ku]

18:07 Book "attached"

[@sleepyash9082]

Hi, Chase. I was wondering if you could maybe do a specific video on how to succeed as a couple consisting of an ENTJ woman and an INFJ man. I would appreciate it, because I get along with him very well, but we aren't the most compatible as far as I understand from watching your videos. Can we actually become something? Also in bed, is it that bad that we both have Se? I mean, his is inferior so it doesn't really come out that much. Thanks

[@gigglesmcdounut723]

I'm the same way. I was wondering the same thing. Since both are so rare it's hard to find someone to explain the challenges. I'm an ENTJ lady and I like to give my INFJ bf control and be masculine. I enjoy being feminine,but I can be aggressive with what I want. He love it though lol! He loves that he doesn't have to guess with me and that I will tell him what I think and want. The hard part is getting him to open up since INFJs are so use to people not asking about them. I know it cause some stress but I think it helps him realize that I want his input and I value his decisions.

[@EDventureous]

​@gigglesmcdounut723 My work in progress thought (as an INFJ) is two fold. Like you already talked about Se is a bit stressful for us. Imagine performing in front of a large crowd if you have performance anxiety. But it's important enough for you that you do it anyway with the best positive attitude you can muster. Accessing Se like that! An idea I've had is encouraging your INFJ in verbal role play. Ne imagination can be quite fun for us (playful). If he sees you enjoying a setup/story he can start to feel how a more dominant role can be both safe and responsible in this context (getting Fe to chill out!). Acting out in an imaginative (but safe) way can give the freedom he needs to express his desires in a more direct fashion. He needs less proof you feel good/safe in imaginative play. Therefore it's easier to explore further without worrying that you will enjoy the experience. If he is encouraged to come up a scenario that turns you both on, and he is indirectly leading (by playing within a role) ... well, you might get him to really express himself!!! I know your post was over a year old. But hope this helps!!!

[@projectz25]

Nice work 👌

[@elisabethschlarb3059]

LOL at the INP sex thing where they just lay there 🤣

[@honor9lite1337]

Don't leave out the ISJ 😒

[@nemesis27]

@@honor9lite1337 ni they don't

[@typetraft7566]

The thumbnail bro💀

[@EnfpSauce]

hey Chase, I may be an enfp, but I truly think that some of he things you say and specially the message that you are trying to put out it is very altruistic and good for humanty. True, at first I REALLLY disliked you, but to undertsand where you are coming from is key. That's why I subscribed and even am commenting this video even though I never ever comment anything. Anyways, keep doing the good , we know you are biaised, we all are, some more than others, but with effort we can face reality and I think your channel helped me do just that, actually ! Have a great day Marina

[@DelroyDennie]

I felt that I'm looking at you INTP at 4:14

[@Amrrkevin]

Y the INTP video in this season is unavailable?

[@CSJoseph]

It hasn't been filmed yet.

[@kmast182]

Hey there! Thanks for your insightful vids. I notice you use a lot of gender binary language and or primarily referencing straight relationships only. I think it'd be great for you to be more inclusive to trans, nonbinary, and people in queer relationships. It would help me feel more included and others too, I'm sure. Thanks and have a good day

[@zenithgreyhatENTJ]

This could be one of the most important seasons yet from you.

[@محمدسامي-ب3س7ذ]

where is the link of the book in 18:00

[@CSJoseph]

offers.csjoseph.life/reading

[@Persephone44]

24:36 : YES.

[@NB-qy7ku]

7:45 what is this ____ objectivist?

[@zenithgreyhatENTJ]

My Se child is just so useless to INFJs.

[@joannezhu2604]

Thank you for your insights on ENTJ. I appreciate your videos. Please I’d like to seek your opinions. Me and a male ENtJ male friend. We’ve known each other from church for 5 years. We both love activities and each organizes activities and joins each other’s activities. I had been seeing him as a fun guy to hangout with. Until last Christmas and new year day, he suddenly asked me out couple times with two mutual church friends for museums and movies…. Ever since we started texting each other a loooot more than before…from an hour up to three hours…. And he kinda “report” to me what he did… on weekend with family…. It’s only been a month and half…. I can’t wrap my head around it… please I need your help! Thanks a lot!

[@joannezhu2604]

Thank you Joseph! Me and this ENTJ were talking about going out to a museum on Feb 12… then he asked me if he should invite our mutual friends… what would I like to do…” Can you help me understand if he sees me as a friend or more than that? Why I got this mixed signals…?? Thanks.

[@officialaikido]

Legit, do we have to worry, my Ne Nemesis finds your Uploadrate sus. I hope everything is fine enough.

[@iforgotit1889]

These videos are being re-uploaded, they're not recent videos, and if i remember correctly, they were in Patreon

[@saavyz]

These are old vids

[@CSJoseph]

I appreciate the sentiment :)

[@lutlla3361]

I agree with all points u said i may add that the young entj thing is right im 17 and all i care about is stubid things and i know that but when my family warn me i back to the right track i feel bad when they do that right but its useful also trust is important if u dont trust me i start backing off and not trying to do anything maybe i will hate u or look for someone else I dont like to doubt myself i have red flaqs About the sex part 😂😂😅 i like to feel strong and expert if they dont react to every thing i do i will get sad and doubt my abilties i dont like that , i get turned on by my partner reaction so work on it its important more than u think

[@CHIKI7AKA]

24:00

[@aladdout9454]

I'm not sure if thats the definition of altruism😅.

[@annicks7385]

Entj woman married to ISFP man . Sigh

[@rachel4060]

🙏 stay strong (or cut ties)

[@aladdout9454]

no but what happens after entjs get married to isfps👀

[@CSJoseph]

that depends. It's not impossible, it's just an uphill battle. You have to get the ISFP to be Si and Fe user of the relationship and the ENTJ to be the Ti and Ne user if you want all the bases covered.

[@annicks7385]

They just drive you crazy . Everyday until they grow up .

[@oOZanlanOo]

47:00 uwu

[@anaaloe]

😍😍😍

[@erinh9267]

it's clear you care about them--ENTJ women, but you have half a dozen sexist conclusions you've errantly arrived at, and those need to go

[@SykeeNot]

Entjs = gays😹

[@slashwind3417]

you didn't got it bro... we are the alpha males of the Universe and ready to crush the entire thing if we don't get what we want. is kinda tragic too.

[@SykeeNot]

@@slashwind3417 Hmmmm let’s see.Let’s let time tell😈

[@shwetajadhav775]

@@SykeeNot that was nice one😂😂😂

[@SykeeNot]

@@shwetajadhav775 right?🤣😂😹Big talkers 😩🥱

[@shwetajadhav775]

@@SykeeNot troller 😂😂