9 Signs You're NOT COMPATIBLE With Someone...

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@almetabowman990]

God bless you Precious Stephan what a great video I agree wholeheartedly 100 percent. When there is Divine. Unity the Connection will be Awesome. And know that we don't have the power to change anyone. The greatness of the relationship comes when the two are working together on one accord. The bible says how can two walk together unless the agree. And when God joins the two He has a great purpose for them here on earth. There will not be inconsistencies of any kind because God has blessed and equipped them to weather whatever may come throughout the duration of theirs lives. I love to listen to you when you talk. I touches the very core of my soul. Unity, Balance, Understanding and Respect brings about a great bond. You're able to compromise with no problem. When God seals andd blesses the two Everything Shall be in Perfect Divine Order in the Providing name Of Jesus. Always Love Queen Almeta❤🔥💥😘🙏🏿

[@teresabarklind781]

A lot of things you describe in your videos I have already lived and experienced ( and even have been guilty of ( truth be spoken

[@teresabarklind781]

I have 3 of your books and one of them is the man God has for you. Thank you so much what you’re putting out there because I today’s society relationships don’t last marriages don’t last and this needs to be changed ( so what you are putting out here is so important thank you truly grateful

[@janiceparkerson4727]

Yes

[@janiceparkerson4727]

I'm A In I'm

[@Amatullah.574]

What's frustrating is when someone pretends to be someone they are not and you don't know until it's too late. Don't pretend to be someone you are not.

[@dermlover1]

This happened to me. Complete bait and switch. I’m 6 years in. Started surfacing year two but I was too stupid to leave right then. So much time wasted. 😢

[@kitten5210]

It's never too late. Take time to get yourself together and get out of the relationship. I'm just trying to get on my feet and getting away from an abuser. It took him almost killing me for me to love myself and know that I deserved better.

[@kitten5210]

@@dermlover1 I've been there too and it's harder than people realize or could understand. I pray for your healing and everyone else's along with mine. We are free but still have to heal from the trauma of the things we endured.

[@TheBubbly1]

@@kitten5210 I've been there too and sometimes it does take take that if not worse before person realizes those too late. I'm really happy for you that you got away just in time and I pray that your life is getting better every single day that you are away from that abuser. I've done it and you can too! You made it this far and you can make it even further. I'm living proof of that.

[@bonitasmith6064]

That's exactly what a narcissist does. At the beginning the Love Bombing stage and when they see you are really into them the true self comes out. Be careful if they seem too good and moving very fast. I learned the hard way. These videos will make sure you don't repeat the process.

[@Mekia-hr8qh]

Never Go into a Relationship with the mindset of them having potential. Either you fit or you don’t. And that’s ok . Have a blessed day Stephan

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback and may you have a blessed day as well!

[@shanekamitchell8772]

You

[@1972jojodancer]

Such a waste of time falling in love with the vision of someone's potential. Loving a fantasy...a real disappointment in life.

[@TheBubbly1]

@@1972jojodancer Amen!!!

[@ummesalma1037]

This lesson sadly takes us a while to learn..lol

[@ifymaey]

“You have to know the difference between Becoming a better version of yourself & becoming a person you’re not” This is so important !! 👏🏽

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!

[@tikajoubert2473]

Yes!!! 👏🏽

[@SunshineGrace]

Yes, well said! Big difference...

[@ghyslainestleonce1743]

Very true

[@BamaMotherTrucker]

You’re on point “If you don’t understand her, how do you properly love her?” Yes, baby!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Absolutely!

[@tya4662]

I tried dating someone I wasn’t really attracted to because I loved their personality... it wasn’t enough. We would have been better off as friends.

[@charnelmbianda9938]

Me too. And I spent 7 years of my life trying to force myself

[@TheBubbly1]

I'm currently in that situation right now. I just don't know how to get out of it and I'm thankful that we are not married.

[@Wigsbyvb]

@@charnelmbianda9938 omg 7 years is really a long time.. 😟😔

[@sunmolaa]

I did this too . It did not end well . I thought that as a woman , a man's kind personality was enough to get me to fall in love with him but I was wrong .

[@lisettebrown8317]

@@TheBubbly1 if you’re not married and no kids just break up . Tell them you are not compatible. I wouldn’t say thy aren’t cute enough as that would hurt their feelings. Breaking up is hard but drawing it out will make it harder.

[@CammyCamz-o8]

You can’t force connection . It’s there or not. Be patient and listen to your intuition to move forward or bounce.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that. Thank you for sharing!

[@vanessaleriche]

And, that's what I did with my previous relationship. I would not love by pity and regret it later one. Oh, no!

[@masteryoda8299]

Agree

[@tanyaholt7451]

Preach

[@Jaxmusicgal23]

I wish I had learned this sooner. I had had a deep connection with someone, but when it didn’t work out. I gave up on that idea. I married someone thinking, maybe real connections grow overtime …. They don’t.!!! it’s been 17 years and it still hasn’t happened. It’s actually gotten miserable because the other person doesn’t understand me and constantly misunderstands who I am. Then I met someone who I had a deep connection with probably six months into knowing them, and we both can tell we had a deep connection… it sucked because we could only stay friends. Both he and I are married….. and sadly we are both married to people who do not like us and don’t understand us. (His wife had gotten to the point where she utterly despised him, wanted, no physical contact or conversation with him ever ! She even mocked him for his romantic efforts to keep the marriage going at women’s Bible study. even though he had grown in his faith and become a better person) Our church kind of fell apart and I ended up losing contact with this friend… mostly because I don’t call men that I’m not married to, unless I have a business relationship that requires it. I now realize that connection wasn’t fake and I should’ve paid attention because now I am in a marriage where I care about the person, but there is no deeper connection and we don’t understand each other and it causes a lot of fights and hurt feelings pretty much constantly for a whole marriage of 17 years. Even my kids that are older, I have now realized the importance of a strong, emotional connection to another person for relationships to be strong and last. Ours has only lasted out of my husband’s sheer determination, and hate of divorce… along with his codependency issues that make it hard for him to want this to end. I stay because I still have agape love for him and I love my kids and I don’t want to have to deal with a divorce because that also affects kids more than people realize . You can choose to love, but it would be easier if you are compatible with the person

[@Blazian2000]

Yes! 👏👏👏 The person should already be what you're looking for when you meet them....not a fixer-upper.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!

[@Amatullah.574]

Yes. I call them projects. And who needs more projects?

[@Blazian2000]

@@Amatullah.574 Love that! You call them projects! Genius! 👏👏👏 Yea, who needs more of them??? Not you, not me, and not the rest of the lovely people who liked this comment. 😊😊😊

[@habeebahs.2956]

@@Amatullah.574 I totally agree. You should NEVER be a project for someone in a relationship.

[@Phat_336]

🗣Say that!!!

[@Blazian2000]

"When attraction is not there, respect can go out the window." Yikes! I didn't even know that, thank you for giving that insight!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤

[@justmealways7246]

Thanks for this video. It felt like it spoke to my soul. It opened my eyes to a lot of things that I have overlooked. I completely relate!

[@TheLaurenREllis]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you Stephan for your perspective, you are giving some great pointers!!!

[@reginayfavors]

I felt that too. Thank you for writing the comment. I want to ponder it some more.

[@Blazian2000]

@@reginayfavors That's awesome that it touched you too. You're very welcome and blessings.

[@brendacook5103]

The biggest incompatibility is a couple where one is a spendthrift and the other is a saver and investor. This type of marriage often leads to divorce. Also a person who deals with conflicts by showing anger and verbal abuse does not belong with a peaceful person who calmly discusses problems and issues. The Bible tells us to avoid angry 🤬 people.

[@ruthsnyder1020]

I am the one who can calmly discuss issues, and my bf throws a temper tantrum.

[@brendacook5103]

@Ruth Irvin: I am sorry about the verbal abuse you are receiving from your BF. I hope you can get out of this relationship and become safe. All men are not abusive and you deserve better. I got rid of one BF who punched me and I quit another one who was verbally abusive. Both apologized but I made the wise decision NOT to accept them back. I hope you do the same because they will NOT change.

[@fieryblaze75]

This is so true. Him being a spendthrift was one of the major stressors that led to my divorce.

[@mzeye]

Facts

[@mzeye]

Alot of ppl who are anger prefer calm ppl..opposites. balance

[@HesoRello]

I had a woman tell me that I'm lazy because I'm an introvert, I'm content with myself and content in my world, I don't NOT go out, i like going out, but i can only deal with the masses for a certain amount of time before my energy drains and i have to leave. But she really told me , because I'm not as active or I don't like going out, or doing different activities as her that I'm lazy lol, I was like okay. And I stopped talking to her.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that, but I'm glad you were able to do what was truly best!

[@yasha36]

I had my ex say the same thing and I went through your situation. I should have left after he called me lazy. Being at his party was draining and he was upset, I didn't want to stay.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

@@yasha36 I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

[@芒果牛奶-r3d]

That's a huge misunderstanding, I am sorry you are rudely labelled that way. I am generally a quiet person but I am capable of talking business and multitask.

[@themoonbleu627]

maybe compared to other men she knows you were lazy …. I had a very productive bf and the next seemed insanely lazy compared to the first so I left him .

[@crystalvarner4325]

I’m glad you mentioned sex as an incompatibility because I feel that we tend to overlook it, then both partners are sexually frustrated!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@mshunni-love2810]

Very true!

[@jenn2597]

Sex changes everything and clouds so much, creates bonding where bonds should not be because the person is not right. Waiting until marriage gives the relationship time to build, true intimacy. It allows people to look at each other with eyes wide open, and honestly. After marriage, sex creates that strong bond that allows eyes to be half shut. That bond helps two people with stand the crosses and hardships life brings. Just wanted to add this. I really enjoyed listening to your video. Thanks

[@WriteTheVisionAndMakeItPlain]

Yes indeed, sis. It definitely clouds our judgement when dating/courting. And oh that ungodly bind to someone we’re not married to. Oh my gosh! It is hard to break from that sometimes. Many times. Thank you for stating that. This is by God’s design. We are to wait until marriage to connect this way with our partner. So many of us did await marriage. I’ve been committed to waiting for the past few years. One of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

[@__a547]

But if after waiting marriage your beloved is terrible in bed or doesn't like what you like (and won't change about it). You are stuck with someone that won't fulfill your sexual need. And will end up sad and resentful. I think it's better to have sex in order to validate that you are compatible in bed.

[@Regina061]

@@__a547 Then you value sex and you value sex-related stuff and maybe you can say it from the beginning of courtship that you have a sex drive and care about sexual experimentation and in your life, sexual compatibility matters. If your partner looks at you disgusted or a little hesitant after you talk about sex or sexual compatibilities then maybe y’all don’t work out. Not everybody cares a lot about sex.

[@Jaxmusicgal23]

It is so important to wait to have sex until marriage. It doesn’t 100% avoid making bad choices. Both people have to be willing to show their true selves and be honest when answering questions. Otherwise, you are presenting a false person, and you are gonna cause a lot of resentment for the other person. Once they find out, you sold them a lie , and now they have given them selves to you, and they feel stuck. It doesn’t matter why you’re hiding yourself … just be who you are where you’re at… I’ve always been that person and it’s never let me down. Ask my hubby, how pretending to be someone you’re not turns out… he hid his insecurities and acted and agreed on everything we talked about, but he never actually talked about what he believed, and I was a fool for not asking for more details. You need both : abstinence and honesty.

[@imnoemit]

​@@__a547may I share, If you both feel attraction, you know sex would work...

[@SharonsHomestead]

I am a first time viewer. This video is on point. It has caused me to rethink my situation. Loneliness is not a reason to get with someone who is incompatible with you. It breeds frustration, resentment and regret.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@karmahleone1196]

FAXXXXXXXXXXXXX I SPENT 2 YEARS THINKING OK MAYBE ONE DAY WE WILL BE MORE COMPATIBLE OK MAYBE ONE DAY HE WILL LOOSE HIS STOMACH OK ONE DAY HE WILL SURPRISE ME WITH GIFTS OK MAYBE ONE DAY HE WILL WANT TO HELP ME OUT MORE OK MAYBE ONE DAY HE WILL DO THIS AND THAT

[@lauriepeifer7297]

100%!!! I tried with 2 different men, lack of {physical} attraction. One I stayed with for 7 years hoping I would get over it because so much else was there, and tried to convince myself I was being shallow, to overlook it etc etc... I will never ever do that again. It was unfair to both of us!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

The blessing is that you learned your lesson and you’ll be better off next time. 😊

[@AB-ib3nf]

I lost attraction to someone who literally is so hot people are always commenting on them but their character *personality , became to be so low with jealousy & insecurities that were u merritted, that I just couldn't stomach it anymore. Many years wasted. 😭Attraction comes in more than 1 form.

[@rushrush1209]

It's hard for people to make drastic changes physically. For the most part, either the physical attraction is there right away or it never will be.

[@aholm287]

"Differences bring conflict and not balance" - wow, this spoke loudly to me

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@hulk-smash-deez-hose.7951]

Honestly I think being a alone is probably the best thing for people to do, but some people force themselves into a relationship out of fear of being alone.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Yes, it definitely isn't an easy situation,but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!

[@hulk-smash-deez-hose.7951]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks totally agree.

[@Denzelj2023]

Nice pum pum 🤣 that name is classic

[@the777john]

100% attraction can come about. I've realized a woman was attractive to others but she was only average to me. Now as I got to know her I really loved her personality and she became more and more physically attractive to me. Now I find her really attractive because she's more of a whole package kinda deal.

[@kristypaigetheriot5819]

Love this!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!

[@trulyoptimistic3469]

I had an ex tell me that he really liked me but he was constantly trying to change my viewpoint on sex. He even went as far as asking basically demanding me to call my friends and family to get their opinions on sex while he was on the phone. He knew he could not manipulate me so he sent me a very nasty long text about how he doesn’t and never wanted me. Yet he consistently reached out via text, call and FaceTime. He was toxic and narcissistic. Him leaving was the biggest blessing.

[@Crowned711]

The way you break everything down and genuinely include God in your work means so much. You are so patient and compassionate, bearing all the fruits. I appreciate you. Thank you Stephan! 😘

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 Thank you!

[@colleensmith1925]

I made the mistake of getting in a relationship with someone that I knew I shouldn't have. I didn't want to seem shallow so I tried it and It was just a MESS I was miserable

[@deepdiver849]

True connection leads to unity if the inner work is done. Unity within and Unity with your counter part. Normally when a soul connection occurs it is based on similar core values, that means compatibility on the core level.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!

[@ericajanellelifecoaching]

I agree wholeheartedly!

[@ogogoegogo8399]

"[phone]⏭️⏭️⏭️⏭️ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of breakup.,"

[@DivinelyGuided777]

I agree wholeheartedly……when you say you love someone, that mean you accept them for them and you don’t try to change them. Never attempt to go into a relationship and try to change someone, you are not compatible; move on and find compatibility ❤️🙏🏻👑😇

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that. Thank you for sharing ❤

[@DivinelyGuided777]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Good night Stephan, you’re welcome ❤️👑🙏🏻😇

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! VERY INSPIRING AMAZING STRONG POWERFUL POSITIVE WORDS OF WISDOM! YES INDEED! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! SMILE ALWAYS! ( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU!) HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD HAS US COVERED! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED ! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! OCT 2021

[@MsSaucyinMD]

I'm in the opposite position...I lost respect for the man and thus my attraction to him dissipated.

[@laurenpalmer7049]

Me too! And he's actually a really attractive man but when the respect was lost, the attraction went with it

[@Xenlacasa45]

@@laurenpalmer7049 this is true I lost respect for my women now I can’t stand the site of her

[@noirfit9721]

This happens to a lot of women. Once the respect is out the door, the attraction goes too

[@ghyslainestleonce1743]

Waohh is me I lost respect for my husband so the attraction is gone

[@carlosverde-datingtips7001]

That’s such a good point Stephan, I know a couple of women who know that they are in a bad relationship - but are convinced that they can change their men who are basically players and will never change!! It’s just sad that they don’t realize that it’s extremely difficult for a leopard to change its spots. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@jayc5756]

Exactly. SMH!

[@888hereandnow]

Yes ,as the saying goes ,the only man you can is one that is wearing diapers.☺

[@kimberlysmithcarlson1777]

OMG!!! Stephan's example of what can happen when two people that are together have dissimilar musical tastes is so spot on and highlights the genius of his mind as far as how he can explain a very complicated interpersonal dynamic in such a simple yet profound manner that EVERYONE can understand and embrace...you are such a gift to this world Stephan!!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you very much 🙏 ❤

[@kingmemories352]

A person's musical selections in various environments will reveal a lot about them and a possible connection with others.

[@ajm3821]

I’ve always said music is a BIG issue. If you have that in common, you are WAY ahead of the game.

[@LadyTii]

I feel like connection is necessary to go the long haul whilst compatibility is necessary for every day issues/doing life.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Connection is definitely key thank you for sharing!

[@cayad2591]

i just realized...ok it took me way too long to see it, i know...but i just realized that i was always willing to adapt to the things he liked but he was not willing to adapt to the things i liked. when it came to our mis-communication i was willing to learn how to love him better (i wanted to do couples counseling) and he was unwilling to do anything different than what he was already doing. that was it. thank you Stefan.

[@kimerickson55]

I love your videos! I am 62 & widowed & from my perspective, I see SO MANY things in my 2 previous relationships that I did wrong. These videos have been helping me to re-evaluate these past relationships & teach me how it SHOULD be. So, from the bottom of my heart, thank you.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@laurenholly1849]

Talking about incompatibility...I've known people whose weight was totally out of control and taking it's toll on their health. I've known people who because of their addictions(smoking or drinking), their life and health was spinning out of control, yet these same people insisted that their significant other be slim, trim and healthy. No one will ever truly have a successful relationship unless they are able to face reality.

[@LaGuera928]

A few nights ago, I found myself lost & asking for signs or answers. Today I came across this. I do not believe in coincidences. Wow.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you be sure to share so that others can receive love and healing!

[@diamondkelly9214]

You are preaching more than you shouting!! You hit this on the SPOT. True Quality Speaking Stephan

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

[@Monilove64]

Totally agree with you Diamond unlike you know who (KS)....IJS

[@brandiambush7484]

Wow I'm literally in tears right now... just knowing` the writing was already on the wall....and you just confirmed it .... but it is what it is" Period... Thank you and I pray God continues to use you...

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you very much I appreciate that!

[@Sarah-e4f3z]

Stephan... you don't even realise just how important it is. Your videos. I mean it! 😄 Your work... is literally saving my life. I literally am taking advice from you, situations that would take me years and lifetimes to even go through. It is so heartbreaking yet amazingly beautiful to know that! Honestly, maybe it's just better to stay single and be REALLY patient. REALLY work on myself and THEN get to a relationship. Just got out of a relationship, 4 days ago. We still live together. At the beggining of my relationship 2 years ago I watched your videos because I wanted to make sure that i did things right..... turns out I missed out on some major things.... some things I did not want to accept... But now learned my lesson! At least somehow.... But I want to stay single! It's safer that way! Thank god I had the education before, so that the outcome is that I did not stay longer in this relationship.... because my mind slowly led me to the answer. AND YOUR VIDEOS! 😂

[@angelsmile9789]

You are truly operating in your gift and calling Stephan. Been following you for years. What a on time message. God Bless you💘

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you very much, I appreciate that ❤ and may God bless you as well!

[@atlantasfaithsmom]

Amen. Great comment, sis. 🙏🏽

[@battfamily435]

You really are. So impressive and truely helpful.

[@Zanyelle]

You are 100 percent correct on your points and glad to hear that I'm not crazy. I was told that I needed to let the physical attraction go. Well, a relationship does not work if you don't feel the draw and kept thinking I was superficial. I gave this one man time, but ended up having to end things when the attraction was not happening naturally. Our differences also brought conflict. Worse part he argued with me about these same points, he couldn't see why being incompatible is an issue and its been hard for him to accept that I don't want to be romantically involved. The spiritual aspect was a BIG one as well! I refuse to settle when there are these specific incompatibility issues you are addressing in this video, just to say I have someone, never that.

[@deereynolds2392]

This video is speaking volumes. I recently started to reconnect with someone after a while and he said he is looking for a woman who is caring and understanding. He mentioned the other day to come and see him and have sex(not so bluntly). I let him know that I am not looking for sex because I am celibate, but, that I am looking for a serious relationship leading into marriage. We would text each other in the morning and speak throughout the day. It has stopped on his end. I am not going to go any further with him.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Sometimes, it is not an easy situation but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!

[@deereynolds2392]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks So true indeed. Thank you for your encouraging words and videos. It has helped me through a lot of hard times.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad I could help!

[@deereynolds2392]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Absolutely👍🏽

[@doriel668]

Wait until you get married for sex. I told my husband before he married me, for a date, do not touch me at all not even a kiss and how many years I had been celibate. We were having breakfast at a church. I am an orthodox Jew. He said, "what the f*, got up and walked away. A few weeks later he came back and asked me out to dinner. We got married a few months later. Stand your ground. A man does not need to sample the merchandise.

[@mrnotyouraverage9524]

You should make more videos for guys, like why she not the one, how to let her go… why she left without saying anything, why she ghosted… you have alot of experience give it to guys also 👊 great channel btw

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!

[@sarajie5230]

Lol

[@privatejen3590]

People need to be independent, together.

[@WhollyPurpose]

Man, this is just reiterating my feelings and thoughts. It’s truly unfortunate, being married to someone who I tried to break up with (twice) before we got married (rushingly got married due to military circumstances) because of our incompatibility and now I feel stuck (because I made a commitment) and it hurts knowing that I will hurt him if I were 100% honest with him about how I feel, because I am feeling more free and happy being physically separated from him (new job in another state). Thank you for this video.

[@WriteTheVisionAndMakeItPlain]

This is so on point, sir! I cannot date/court a man who tries to make me become I’m not. It is healthy when he helps me become the woman I’m destined to be. And my commitment to whoever he may be to do the same. Over the years I’ve found myself attempting to use my love for my man as enough to muddle through whatever issues we were having in our relationship. I now know that love is not enough. Specific parameters, foundations and understanding have to be there for a relationship to work. I will say this; there are some of us women who engage with our men intimately even when we’re stressed, upset, under pressure, etc. I never found myself to be able to not connect with my man unless I was seriously sick or in thriving pain. Intimacy is where God connects us and binds us to our partner. Now with wisdom and time I live abstinent while dating/courting knowing that sex is reserved for marriage between a man and his wife in God’s eyes. Not knocking anyone who is intimate before marriage. Many of us have engaged sexually prior to marriage. I’m no one to judge. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. You’re so wise. “In all thy getting, get understanding. For wisdom is the principle thing.” Sorry for paraphrasing Scripture. I believe this is in Proverbs.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@MrShoman1212]

The friends thing is so true, I use to date a girl that her girl friend and I don't get along at all. At the end we broke up, I found out she was behind the scenes manipulating the situation right from the start.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing and I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

[@cq264]

I recently told someone: 1. We don't have any chemistry 2. We really have nothing in common 3. Conversations are mundane....he says that's not bad or harmful. That we can make chemistry 😏...No not wasting my time. I'm not attracted to him.

[@jillfields457]

Wow, this right up my alley. My husband and I were married for 23 years up till he past away. We were unequally yoked. He was Baptist and I was Pentecostal. Our beliefs were ok in the beginning. After a while it was the issue of the majority about our arguments plus his addictions. He became abusive and ended up hating me by his actions through his words as well. We had 3 sons. They are dealing with the damage as well I left him a few times. He would always talk me into coming back. Let's just say. When he past away. The war was over but the battlefield needed to be cleaned up. After 9 years of his passing still dealing with all the damage that was done. Plus he had 4 affairs plus addicted with prostitutes . He was a Very dominating man. Any one reading this please check all boxes. If anything is in question don't even start a relationship. If they don't wanna answer your questions they are not worth your time.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

[@jillfields457]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you, I've been through a lot of hell since then as well. Putting myself through toxic relationships one right after another, even was kidnapped and he tried to kill me. He's in prison for it. It took that to wake me up. When someone is trying to kill you and you look into their eyes while trying to do it. You see life different after that. Trying now to find a healthier relationship and being good to myself. I'm trying not to quench my convictions and submerging them in doubt any more. But I'm finding it difficult at times to become a better version of myself. God called me to do a lot of things been doubting myself. I tend to have the Moses syndrome "Lord send someone better than me." But I'm aware of it and working on it every day to walk in the light he has called me into. Amen!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

@Jill Fields You got this 🙏

[@teresitararo8282]

Wow! Thanks for ur comments and suggestions sister...

[@teresitararo8282]

So, it's nice or better if have the same belief between the two individuals having a relationship...

[@annekajordan6952]

Great video 🙂. I believe it’s that true connection that is the real determining factor. People may be surprised to be in love with the person that they never ever imagined being compatible with, because when it’s your match & you are so in love with them, there will be perfect alignment, everything works and falls into place. I believe that’s what true love brings about 💞

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

[@annekajordan6952]

It is my joy & pleasure ❤️

[@ogpgojohnson2499]

"[phone]⏭️⏭️⏭️⏭️ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of breakup.," ......

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING AMAZING STRONG POWERFUL POSITIVE WORDS OF WISDOM! YES INDEED! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! SMILE ALWAYS! ( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU ) HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD HAS US COVERED! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! OCT 2021

[@TG-nh6ni]

In this situation right now...madly in love for the first time in 36 yrs 🙏

[@valerielinares2068]

To me, being compatible does not mean we're the same. It means the personality traits, values, morals, those core things line up in such a way that we have the most important things in common, but our differences help to balance us out. In this way, we complement each other. That's what compatible means to me. And yes, that is very important. To me, we cannot have a true connection unless we're compatible in that way.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@krod7154]

Exactly 💯👍🏼

[@ItsOkayToBeHappy]

I loved "You ain't cute enough to talk to me like that!" Almost spit out my lunch laughing at that. Absurdly hilarious 🤣🤣🤣

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

[@brittanyb5942]

Me too😭😭

[@TheInsaneashley]

I was crying 😂😂😂 he is funny without trying and speaking truth.

[@renee167]

Hi Stephan thanks for the video post on this topic! I agree that connection is more important than compatibility however, it shouldn’t be ignored during the getting to know you phase of a relationship. I also liked how you addressed that different belief systems is a sign that the relationship will not work. So many people overlook this, but if you don’t both share the same beliefs it will not work period. Thanks for addressing this 😊😊👍!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thanks for sharing! I appreciate your feedback ❤

[@GoddezsIesha]

Well im different i want me & my boo to be able to grow together heal together learn & teach eachother

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@GoddezsIesha]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks same here. Always a pleasure.

[@Denisebemmett]

Great video. I love the examples. I just ended a 3 year courtship for a lack of compatibility. He is a really great guy. We truly had fun time together However I always planned where we eat, where we go. We never been on vacation together. I needed a little more spontaneity, a planner. A man that says put on your best dress we going to the opera, I have tickets for a great show, are you available for a weekend trip. I felt I am better off by myself and doing all these things for myself not hoping he was that guy and he is not. He is a great guy for someone a little slower. I wish him the best. I love my singleness.

[@Tembo-Salam]

Oh man you got me at the type of music gets on my nerves. I didn't pick that up but thought I could wing it, wasted 7-8 yrs of my life. In all those yrs, I experienced every point you mention in this segment. Stephan you are truly heaven sent. I am learning a lot and I see me growing into my best self. You speak truth.❤ Thank you is never enough, God Bless you always.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you very much glad I could help and may God bless you as well!

[@kourtney101]

I am grateful for your counsel. This IS the advice that is going to change lives! 🔑--don't lose yourself trying to get w/ someone with whom you are not compatible. Go, Perfect (or mature) yourself 1st. Respect your standard. You have great value-Trust me! 💙

[@leonajordan4365]

This was so good to listen to.. confirmed why my last relationship ended-thank u

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing!

[@avannagirltv9898]

depending on your partner interest I feel like having different interest doesn’t necessarily make you incompatible because your not going to like every single thing your partner like but you can still experience it with them and make the best of whatever they like vice versa..

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤

[@Suites_Streets_Streams]

When the person is willing to change, its called progressive Change

[@Thatgirl_Gee]

I've seen how the issue of differences in spirituality causes so much conflict. As an African, many people believe that they can practice both their Christian and ancestral beliefs. People usually never notice this in the beginning, but once there needs to be a function of some sort then they start to see it.

[@mellzj.d3369]

I’ve been back and forth in this relationship with my partner. I do not feel we’re connected or compatible and I have broken up with him over it. The only time I feel it’s something really there is during sex and lately for me that doesn’t feel like a connection. I’m not perfect I can’t allow myself to feel an emotional bond unless you are showing me the attention the affection the love. I just feel like we aren’t each other’s type. I don’t want to change someone to like the things I do or be the person I want them to be which is why I have ended the relationship in the past. Now we live together and it’s just like we are roommates. It’s definitely not ok to be in a relationship thinking that someone will be what you think they will be later on. I could’ve sworn we talked about this years ago when we first got together but I guess it was forgotten.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

[@nadiamakoundou3220]

This like my actual situation.. I current partner i feel like the only thing we have in common is Sex ...and most things its just not matching and most of time we fight...And now its been 3 weeks we not talking ...I just feel like we not meat for each other and they is too many negativities

[@mellzj.d3369]

@@nadiamakoundou3220 yes it’s the same around here the walking around each other for days and weeks not talking then all of a sudden the wants to talk and it’s good for literally a minute and then we back at the same bs

[@kingmemories352]

Compatibility with a person's family is very important. It is also important to observe the way a significant other responds to family members, especially during challenges. Family relations can affect your peace inside and outside of the home if boundaries are crossed and challenges remain unaddressed.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@Jaxmusicgal23]

Yes! I ignored the red flags of how his family acted and how my now hubby responded to his family…. I attempted to address it because I was a little concerned. But he reassured me. I would never act that ridiculous so he would never snap and yell at me…LOL. Don’t ever believe that!!!! Plus, his whole family is like weirdly codependent …. And when his siblings all get together, they act like they’re all little children again and completely forget I’m there… and it’s almost as if my mother-in-law encourages it. My husband is still reluctant to set boundaries except for basic ones . He will stand up to his mother, but if she pushes too hard, he backs off or just let alone because he doesn’t want to “lose his family.” Mostly because he mentions we had to cut off my narcissistic, controlling family so my kids would have no family. I also think he is attached to them still, and some unhealthy ways. On top of the fact, he acted super godly, and like he was willing to grow and change, and said all the things I needed to hear, while we were at a Christian university, only to basically barely maintain his faith, while looking like he is, since we moved away, and we have to maintain our own growth. I allowed that to cause me to stagnate and stop growing but then I got sick of that and started to grow again but it’s caused a lot of tension in our marriage because I am not the same person so I don’t assuage his vices anymore, and I don’t coddle his codependency and insecurities, but I do love him…. He just thinks that love covers your sins and doesn’t say anything. It’s been hard and I’m not sure where the end is for me but I know my kids are seeing the stark difference between someone who takes what they believe seriously, and someone who just bumbles along in life with no plan seeking the next “fun “thing to do after they put in there 9 to 5.

[@The12Believe]

I will not date a man who has a BatSh*t crazy family. It is beyond stressful, especially if the man doesn't recognize boundaries.

[@smokeem5893]

#2 This happen to me a few weeks ago, I wasn't attracted to him at all. He started with the terms of affection, he would say it in a baby voice and I was completely turned off.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

[@rashondasutton1721]

You’re really good at helping me understand how relationships are supposed to be , and what not to put up with…Thanks

[@karmeshaficklin5202]

All praises to the most high GOD....this was so a confirmation for me. My spirit revealed EVERYTHING you just said to early this morning. It was like having a conversation with myself to myself and for me to come across your page and literally literally hear the same words oh man....my heart is smiling right now. Its so real that its unreal. Thank you JESUS and thank you sir.

[@frankyavery]

I wish I heard this before I got in a relationship with two good friends that I wasn't attracted to because it felt like I was messing with my cousin. People look down on the "friend zone" but honestly it needs to be there for reason. Some people just need to stay friends. Also just stopped talking to some guy because he insulted me twice and blamed his language barrier. I'm great with different cultures so I'm pretty understanding. One, okay maybe it was lost in translation. A second one with a detailed paragraph explaining why I should choose a better career and work on improving myself (I'm a new illustrator and spent the last year creating a magnificent portfolio that is getting me jobs). Your English is just fine buddy. I don't care how much money you have, if you are insulting my life choices and not recognizing my hard work then you can get the stepping.

[@nubianqueen0913]

What gets on my nerves is when I can already tell that a guy is not compatible for me, he'll try to negotiate instead of keeping it moving

[@krissyhall2838]

Yesss like try to fit your mold or saying he is open to ABC instead of having his own personal convictions.

[@xcxiii9163]

How’s this man so wise, I watch these videos and he never speaks a lie. Blessings to you & your life 🧡

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing!

[@xcxiii9163]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks ❤️

[@mandy8780]

Stephan! The "you ain't cute enough to talk to me like that!"🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂 Killed me!🤣 You always make valid points though. U get a person thinking things THROUGH, cause sometimes we will see the one "off " thing but want to stay cause 'oh well, he does the other two right.' But it's really not the way. You are appreciated. 😊

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback!

[@robot12423]

@Mandy he finished me too 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@juliebroderickkersten9135]

Never a truer video...incredible insight and explanations about incompatibility v connections. I'm in this now and it's a crazy place to be; a very difficult place. We check each other's boxes on what seems to be the important ones, but we're not understanding each other's languages and was of being. So incredibly sad 😥.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

[@dawnstonerock4253]

You achieve peace by avoiding them! Bingo!!! Left him a year ago!!

[@gaelablake2692]

This was great message, the bottom line was Amos 3:3 which you clearly stated. I so wish I would have read your books and heard your wisdom prior to be being yoked to the men of my past. It would have save me a lot of head and heartaches. Keep allowing God to use you Stephen. Thanks for what you do.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy to help ❤

[@b4singularity]

Compatibility is not overrated, please.

[@miracleosmannkhata1921]

When attraction is not there, respect can go out the window 😆

[@Neptunepixie]

God damn it. You hit this spot on.. I need to let this person go but I’m out here struggling to do so. I don’t know how to leave & I hate the unhappiness I feel. Why the hell is it so hard. I’m 28! I still got time!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

[@nancyfigueroa1102]

Thank you for inspiring women not to settle.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤

[@African.Diaspora.InLondonUK]

From London Brixton UK. I am a black trainee lawyer. This video should come with a warning, that the user maybe emotionally incapacitated. Good advice. I will mention this video to my clients..-

[@lisawagner421]

Thanks! You’ve highlighted many things that I have previously overlooked. Now I’m being more hesitant & looking at a possible relationship with a different perspective.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you ❤

[@atlantasfaithsmom]

I would like for you to have a TV show based on relationships. Singles, couples, possible couples would come on and share and you would help them dig through their issues and figure it out. People could send in letters and emails for you to address on the air. 🙌🏽❤️🙏🏽

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

That is a great suggestion. Thank you ❤

[@atlantasfaithsmom]

You're welcome! You can invite different relationship gurus on as guest panelists for additional input, to mix it up and to have fantastic discussions. I imagine cutaways to in-home/out of the studio interviews and re-enactments!

[@annekajordan6952]

I agree that is a good suggestion, maybe Stephan you could do this on your podcasts if you don’t choose TV route 🙂

[@sbusisiwelinshaba7841]

@Stephan Speaks You can also have it on Facebook or KZbin like the Red table talk.

[@jayc5756]

@@atlantasfaithsmom Nice!!!

[@bertbrowm4488]

Again that is still compatibility, you have connection, attraction, chemistry. Two personalities that gel well together even if they are different

[@elaibesummers906]

I agree with you Stephan never look to change someone however, have given a partner a gentle nudge in getting their teeth fixed. No 2 people are the same however, to make a relationship work it is about your willingness to compromise to make the relationship work.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@joward1076]

Thank you for being real. I, too, seen those memes on social media and wholeheartedly agree with you. I refuse to date someone that has all the qualities but I’m simply not attractive to them. I’m not in the business of trying to change a man but willing to accept who they are but the attraction is a deal breaker.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@megaaa2023]

My ex and i have a lot of differences and way of thinking… Thank God he opened my eyes that the relationship will not going to work and is wasting time.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏

[@Blazian2000]

Your topic today is speaking right to my soul! Many of us needed this. Thank you so much. Blessings.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad you think so be sure to share so that others can receive love and healing!

[@shantys4528]

Absolutely amazing how spot on this video is. I'm in awe of how great Stephan is able to bring across this information using the right examples that are so true to everyday life.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad you enjoyed it ❤ I appreciate your feedback and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing!

[@enealy1515]

Thank you, Stephan . Best examples fir compatability issues. I couldn't understand why I couldn't quite completely pour into a man I am dating. The examples you gave are all of my issues

[@shan4145]

I have a hair condition and I thought I couldn’t do any better so I settle with “ a looks challenged man” and I’m not say I’m all gorgeous and all but I’m just saying I settle because I didn’t love myself enough . This grown boy that was older than me 11yrs older was ugly inside and out! I was not attracted to him but he grew on me but took a while. I just want people to know to love yourself more than to settle for just any man.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing I appreciate that and pray that you heal from all that yo have been through 🙏

[@georgiagirlSB]

Differences are always going to be their but sometimes you both can compromise with them

[@phaedraagurs263]

First Stephan l adore your advice, l at 54 believe that l have never been in love, l don't know what l was pouring Kool aid maybe but after an 18 year relationship 4 children and a failed marriage l truly believe it was attachment not love. I recently had an opportunity to date my childhood friend, he let me all the way into his life, and then one comment he literally blocked me? I am a beautiful woman inside and out, my opinion. I believe he thought he was my only option, he was who l chose. But clearly didn't chose me. It broke my heart. We were friends for 40+ years to cut me out, because he wanted easy breezy, when l asked what he wanted, he said it was too early to tell ? I should have left that day. Thank you for helping me to move on, l miss him but it was the attachment not love.

[@kimturek9637]

Set your intentions you will get it … you are in good company because feel the same way you do

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback, and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through!

[@annmacdonald7875]

Unity/ Connection in addition to compatibility

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@fabioc.felix.origins]

Everytime any woman wants to change anything about me right upfront, I always ask myself WHO she wants me to be, not HOW.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@RGF60]

This is the message I needed. We are so incompatible

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad I could help!

[@rosephillips6547]

A whole intelligent main speaking a mouth full of truth. I appreciate your work!!!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you very much I appreciate that 🙌

[@ChristinaaLouisee]

LMAO the music thing has me dying, its so true

[@lovelight7482]

i can agree soooul much with you on this video. especially the part where you don't like going out to the same places together. i can totally resonate with that scenario.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@naelynn9582]

Great point were made! Some people out here think rageful arguments and screaming matches aren't enough to end a relationship oh but it is

[@BamaMotherTrucker]

So here’s my opinion about your whole idea of someone wanting to change a person’s weight. If you don’t love a person while they’re heavy, you don’t deserve her at her fittest. Love is not defined by a person’s weight.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@mei528]

men are very visual thats a fact we women need to improve ourselves everyday specially our behavior. i also believe in attraction,connection,chemistry and compatibility. everyday is a learning...

[@dafnenoel9825]

Facts 💯 💯 💯

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING AMAZING STRONG POWERFUL POSITIVE WORDS OF WISDOM! YES INDEED! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! SMILE ALWAYS!( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU!) HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD HAS US COVERED! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! OCT 2021

[@naledidollymonei2023]

Powerful saying

[@hc7092]

Wow I wish I saw this earlier in my life!!! My ex of 5.5 years - we had 8 out of 9 of these issues. The biggest one being we avoided discussing issues. Well whenever I brought it up, he guilt tripped me into thinking it was the wrong and needy thing to do so I eventually stopped. It was only when speaking to loved ones I realised no, I should bring up issues. And the more we did, the more our incompatibility became highlighted and we finally went our separate ways. I’m 25 now so hopefully I can start afresh and learn from these mistakes. Thank you Stephan

[@tanijahnance1413]

You hit the nail right in the head Everytime! Thanks for the message.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤

[@NN-dx8tq]

This video hurt my feelings! Literally ALL the points hit home. 😩

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏

[@adrianamoronta2307]

I love how real you are👏🏻

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 thank you!

[@abigalestoll]

Ok, I understand. Compatibility with understanding is important in a relationship. The relationship will have problems without these 2 things.

[@boostmobile9249]

Similarities alike, GOOD? DISCUSSING ISSUES, to solve is important. Show each other valuable.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Absolutely!

[@nmorto2013]

You are speaking facts! My ex was every point u said. The part for me is I was always myself since day 1 and he lied like he liked me then once marry everything and the truth came out. He lied about who he was too. U spit bars everytime even when I don't fully agree. I have so much respect for you.

[@unapologeticallynique2928]

I agree connection is definitely most important

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

💯 Yes!

[@michellethomas4928]

Compatibility is so important. My husband and I are so different. I'm a believer, he says he is but doesn't live like one. I like more organization and him not so much. I'm highly emotive and he's very analytical. It has been a very painful marriage, but I made a covenant and the Lord has told me to remain. Definitely make sure that you're compatible before getting married so that you can share a true mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical connection.