A Different Way To Let Go Of The Past

[@abhimanyusharma2489]

The PAST cannot be changed , forgotten, edited or erased ; It can only be "ACCEPTED " . Please Never let your past destroy your beautiful future .

[@TheRealJshawn12th2005]

💯💯💯

[@destroyerinazuma96]

Reminds me of a post I've read about "trying to negotiate with the past" and people going mad over whatifs as beating themselves up.

[@bhargavyashaswin193]

Iam the messiest mess

[@GRIMJONESMUSIC]

thank you

[@yokonono2171]

❤❤❤❤

[@AhmetKaan]

You'll watch an entire Netflix show even when the first episodes are slow and boring just because someone told you "it gets better." *But what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?*

[@Alechemistsbooks]

I love that comment ! Thank you

[@urangames457]

I see you post same comments on multiple videos on this channel, but still thank you for giving people motivation. At least your comments are good ones.

[@deioped]

Life isn't a scripted show though, shit can happen and usually happens.

[@snehaloni9556]

Damnnn I so agree with you.. Thankyou for this I just remembered “the office” 😂 it gets better after a season

[@dr33kkclement54]

Love this

[@2gunmoya]

I recently had a chance to meet up with my childhood friend from high school. He made sure he didn't like me and was being disrespectful. I don't know what I did to deserve such hatred. Although we shared good memories in the past it was obvious I had to let it go and forget about him. My time is too valuable to be wasted by an asshole. After watching your video I'm glad I made the right decision.

[@DemetriPanici]

I have a lot of regrets. But it’s time to let that stuff go

[@littlebrodie6988]

Same here

[@youngjoshhiechicagoporter2452]

I don't believe that it's hard not that easy to let the past n hurt it's not that easy

[@dantepepper]

Letting go is giving it to the universe healing is apart of life DONT be ashamed of your past 💯❤️

[@cookiegirl891]

Thank you 🙂

[@yokonono2171]

pfp❓😅

[@youngjoshhiechicagoporter2452]

I'm ashamed of my past it's hard n hurt not that easy never got over no help no support almost harm myself or others

[@RealJamieBarclay]

As Cole says in this video, one of the greatest human needs is the need for consistency. We want to be consistent with our identity, but more importantly, we want to be consistent with how we think other people see us. This is why you will act differently around different people. When in reality, none of that shit matters. You get to choose who you are and what you do every single day. You are under no obligation to be the same person today, as you were yesterday, and don't let anyone tell you any different 💙

[@Nikoloz511]

I came to this same realization an year ago and it has increadible impact on my life. Everything changed in a moment. I felt like a new born, I understood that I don't need to search for purpose or understand who am I... I'm who I want to be and I'm enjoying exploring all my sides, dissolving in present and expressing love in all I do(sometimes failing, but I also like it). Our limitations are like fetters and when we remove them we learn to fly 🕊

[@DarksteelHeart]

The answer is simple. I am me. The culmination of everything that's happened to me, and everything I've done, been and said. Everything that is undesirable in myself, burnt off. Everything that helps me achieve my goals, or provides hope and good remains. The blooming fresh bark on this Tree that is my life.

[@Cordellium]

The self is an illusion indeed. When you really look for it, there ain't nothing there baby. Unique articulation of that here without immediately throwing people into the deep end, good stuff Cole!

[@susan_1993]

Wow

[@cosmicgiggler1044]

We are, always have been and always will be

[@joeykenney]

Always evolving. Always improving. Never be afraid to give up the good to go for the great and become someone or something better

[@youngjoshhiechicagoporter2452]

Im never fucking afraid damn makes me so very angry and hot have a temper anger problem no help no support never did but when thru it sick n tried of being different what the fuck I'm here for for what compared myself to other pretending someone that I'm not good guy or bad guy never was taught or conversation been around violence bully mistreat had did domestic violences on a person trauma dey made me feel this way no light but always dark always negative no positive but messing with a person do this and do that mantiputive I had to mantiputive them back had to fight back like my mother had taught me had fight with my step father he hit me he was drunk cus he hit my mother rip since 2015 haven't heal on n off no comfort or peace feel like I have to fight someone cus it's like attack retaliation that it had me to get weapon been around high crime neighborhoods at young age just took my anger or frustration out on a person or persons by making me mad plus make fun of folks with conditions like artistic or the other word I can't take it anymore even relationship with women I been in jail before it's hard to over come that where the help and justice for me 🙏 feel me tho

[@ethangutierrez7725]

I love how every video Cole Hastings does, he always refers to how we’re programmed to think a certain way and it influences our “thoughts” that aren’t even us. Letting go of the past is so important because if you’re truly living in the moment, you know that you’re the only person in the entire universe looking at a certain thing from a certain angle experiencing this certain experience and you create a special relationship with the universe. Everything becomes curiosity and potential and it makes life joyous and a wonder every day. You wake up errant and excited for the possibilities the day may provide to you.

[@Xldldoom0]

Love this comment.

[@larrybrander9116]

You may have just helped me get past a phase I've been stuck in for 22 years. I realized that I was not actually a designated being. Ive been holding onto things because I was afraid to live out the truth. I let other people shape who I was because they seemed to care alot more than I do. I know that I have no identity, and always have. As an adult I still have to take responsibility for my actions, however this is good to remember.

[@DavidMasson90]

I had to clean up my past to let it go...philosophical mindsets only got me so far. I had to dissolve resentments and grudges I had. Pay back any debts I had(financial or otherwise). Make apologies to people I've harmed. Get rid of any labels I adopted. You are dead right in this video about labeling yourself and what it does. Good video.

[@jackperry6269]

how did this go? with the apologies? how did you go about this?

[@IsaacJoshi]

It's so important to be able to free yourself from the stories you tell you about yourself. Incredible video!

[@belavera994]

I'm trying to eliminate all limiting beliefs I have about myself and life in general right now, so this video came just at the right time✨ labels I've put on myself or let others put on me and accepted them as being part of who I am are definitely a huge part of those beliefs, because ultimately we are the only ones to decide who we are, what we let affect us and what we choose to reject it's all in our power and we're really the only creators of who we are and the lives we live. I've realized this a little while ago and took my power back from the people who I've let have power and control over how I've felt about myself. living self-empowered and independent like this really gives you a whole new sense of peacefulness and happiness.

[@jameswebb375]

“I am just THIS” - that was a really powerful statement for me! Thanks :)

[@ToastyGhost2]

this actually really helped. I attached so many negative labels to myself because of my past, when i was still a kid. But its obvious i've grown up and i'm not a kid, and I get to define who i am every single day. this actually makes me feel amazing, freeing yourself from the weight of everything in the world is wonderful. It doesn't make me panic, it makes me want to do good with what little influence i will leave on this world.

[@tenny6020]

Something I see is that depression of the past makes anxiety for the future, and for me vice versa. So I became stoic recently. I realize i can't decide certain events in my life or the outcomes but I can decide how I react. I will always stay positive and I know at times I will be sad but that's how life goes. I refuse to stay depressed all the time because of what life throws at me and I will stay strong!

[@justoriginal6029]

This video changed my life. For the longest time I couldn't explain what I was feeling, but now I realized I was stuck on the depersonalization part when I should've just surrendered. This video finally gave me the answers I was seeking for years now, thank you very much Cole. Subbed! :)

[@yungboxer8360]

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart" Jeremiah 1:5 - There is only one you

[@symesalexander5294]

Facts

[@franciscoaybar7768]

The cheekiest, wisest and the most inspiring hunk on youtube! Can't help but love him!

[@jmmc7585]

Dude yes! "PERFECT BRILLIANT STILLNESS" -David Carse You are only the second person I've ever heard speak like this abt not existing. Beyond the Tao. ❤

[@Cmyztry]

If we aren't continually learning we're not growing. Even if we aren't learning we are growing. It's always about direction.

[@DemetriPanici]

*”Some people don't like change, but you need to embrace change if the alternative is disaster.“ - Elon Musk*

[@thebenjiguy]

Whenever I feel overwhelmed by the inevitable complexities of life, I simplify it by saying to myself that I will do and say what is most loving. To simply be a being of love. Eventually, the complexities will build up again, like the clutter of memories one accumulates which so easily can hold you with them in the past. And when that happens, simply focus your attention on that guiding question, "what is the most loving way to live". This works for me and makes life simple again. Maybe it will work for you too.

[@MamaSwole]

Your uploads always align with what I’m going thru it’s wild lol, much love to you Cole❤️

[@MamaSwole]

@Christian Torres hi

[@heartsofgoldenrod]

This is very helpful. Always great to hear the same message in different ways because one will evidently click more than the others.

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you. And absolutely, great point. That's why it's so important to present a message that's been told millions of times but in a different way

[@handitan3090]

this particular topic being discussed is just so good.

[@SeriousGuy]

The fact that Cole was in his mother's womb before even being conceived is so inspiring.

[@ColeHastings]

I should look up definitions of things before i say them so confidently.

[@SeriousGuy]

@@ColeHastings LOLL no it's okay, I respect you more for making mistakes!

[@UltraGalacticSuperFantastic]

Technically half of him was. Lol

[@leahc9695]

@@ColeHastings I love the way you are keeping it real, and humble at the same time! That's one of the things why I fear speaking up even I have so much experience I could share, cuz I'm afraid I might say something so confidently then find out later I wasn't right or years later a whole new view on it. Also human experience is not all cut and dry, and even sometimes we mean well and a general well rounded advice for most, can sometimes be life crippling advice for some. Anywho you're doing quality work and all the editing and knowledge shared has been valued and I personally really admire. Keep on being you 🤗

[@daimsaeed]

Built different

[@zMysTicc]

Cole. This is the psychedelic spiritual content I requested from you and you delivered all without having to speak on them directly just more so one of the ideas they can show you. You’re like me, you’re trippy mayne. 💯 keep it up

[@QuantumQuibbles]

Cole is not like you. Cole is like Cole and you are like you 🤙🏼

[@zMysTicc]

@@QuantumQuibbles but truly we are all of the same essence incapsulated by the illusion of separation therefore Cole is like me and you and us

[@MichaelITFR]

You're literally articulating something I had to go through...yes! I'm so glad more people have these kinds of experiences. I don't feel like I'm doing too much brain gymnastics anymore

[@ddoomm]

The quality of these videos have become out of this world. Keep up the amazing content! Thanks for sharing❤️

[@climbeverest]

You are helping me dispel my depression

[@painuchiha2694]

Great video I been thinking about this for a long time actually I always hated whenever people expected me to be a certain way To different people they have different expectations of who you are and that sometimes gets annoying. I prefer friends who can accept who I am at any moment if I’m calm or not without them expecting a specific persona from me We are always different and changing so it’s annoying when we’re told “you’re not how you used to be”

[@ckelly19841]

Good advice. At 18, I was in college away from home, but without any friends or family and depressed for so many reasons, identifying as "lost" just made sense but it came with so many other labels that I didn't want.

[@teego3936]

Funnily enough I was thinking about this. It’s been eleven years since the 2010 World Cup with shakiras trending song Africa. I remember those were simpler times when I had my plastic crappy MP3 and less worries and I was ignorant. And you’ve opened my brain to other solutions: we don’t matter. Our interests don’t matter. We change constantly and we can never fully find ourselves. All we can do is survive; pushing forward without motivation. ( ha guts reference) We only see the good in our past. And I’m so glad I’ve found you. I have learned sooo much and you are so wise. Thank you for your videos because I learn about life and it’s struggles. This is an eye opener Cole. Keep being awesome.

[@ColeHastings]

Glad to have helped you

[@beire4543]

Thank you Cole for making these videos and giving everyone such an incredible insight in your personal journey. You are talking about a lot of struggles the majority of KZbinrs don't even dare to address, even though they are super recognizable. Thank you from Belgium x

[@nofilter5]

I just want to say thank you for this.. I have not been kind to myself and this has definitely helped me put things in a new perspective.

[@arinbhargava923]

thank you so much for this video i feel like i needed it so much sir, you helped me let go my past in easiest way possible , i was blaming myself for every bad or embarrasing thing happened to me but now bcz of you i am able to breath freely. A great gratitude to you 😊 may god give you more happiness and success

[@symesalexander5294]

Thanks for this 💯

[@CarlosRodriguez-gn6hx]

I just came across you’re vids last Saturday after hanging out with my ex witch might not be healthy I’ve been trying to pursue to fix the relationship when she isn’t sure that she want to get back and I did many of the things you did and coming across you’re content and have giving me hopes that I’d be okay by self and that is okay to feel the pain then rather to fix when it’s something that I can’t fix and you’re content have become help full from acting out of spite. You gain my follow.

[@mathematicanman597]

I've been watching your videos for a while and you helped me a lot. I see things I couldn't see before and now i'm które aware of my thoughts and feelings. Big thank you Cole

[@ZarinaMachaAuthor]

Such a beautiful, profound video. Your content is truly a blessing ❤

[@mihaelatashkova7915]

I cannot even express how thankfull I am that I found your channel. I think its very underrated!!! I love your philosophy! Keep making these high quality videos!

[@beboduh]

Your videos honestly help me become a better person every time you post. Thankyou so much for your efforts. Thankyou for existing. ❤️

[@stephr9859]

Two of My kids are alienated from me. The version of me they have in their heads doesn’t exist and never did. It used to hurt and I’ll always love them but this kind of realization has helped me to move on. I can’t help what their programming is, but I can choose to enjoy my life in the moment and I would want them to do the same if a loved one rejects them.

[@mrmhj9925]

It’s true. If you think about you being the only being on the planet, how can you identify yourself if nothing is labelling you? You just simply, exist. Quite maddening but feeling comfortable in one’s self. None of that matters anymore anyway. That’s a true blessing I think to achieve, to love yourself.

[@mycoffeequest6634]

One of the most profound pieces of advice I've ever heard came from the writer, Alan Watts. I'm not sure if he was a Buddhist exactly, but he seemed to follow many of their core principles. One of the ideas he constantly repeated was that everything is in flux, that the one true constant is change. Everything is always transitioning into something new that couldn't come into being without the changes that came before it. Applied to what we are, that means that we aren't the people we were five or ten or twenty or how many years ago. That person doesn't exist anymore and never can again because it was necessary for them to exist at the point in time that they did so that we, as we are now, can exist in this moment. The same will be true for our future selves. This version of me that I am right now will not exist within ten years, or that version ten years afterwards, because I will transition into a new version of me that hasn't existed before. We are always fading in and out of existence at the same time, always becoming a person that has never existed before and will not exist in the moment after. And this will continue until the point of death. The concept of the self is an illusion because it is static, unchanging, unrealistic, and quite literally goes against our own evolution. If we couldn't change, we couldn't adapt. If we couldn't adapt, then none of us would be here. The idea of the self even defies the laws of physics because nothing stays the same forever. Change is the one true constant. Embrace that and your troubles become a little less.

[@watcheroffadinglight]

You really have a creative mind. Your videos never cease to amaze me

[@ColeHastings]

Appreciate it!

[@elijah1193]

Great video , your a soul having a physical human experience you have 7 levels of Existence. So your right we are not just these bodies. You see out the eyes not with them. The eyes is the window to the soul. You are Energy you can't be destroyed or created everything that's been here always existed and always has been and always will be

[@rickywilliams2096]

Just be you. You is a combination of everything in your life. While i do belive in labels i agree to where you are coming from. And for me, the key to letting go is by remembering life is like a wind that come and ago and so do you and your character.

[@yiwu2683]

Thanks!

[@davidmckelvey2601]

I've let go of my past and have never been happier❤

[@daimsaeed]

How?

[@ThyHarvesting]

"People only have substance within the memories of other people. And that's why there were all kinds of mes." "The physical body exists at a less evolved plane only to verify one's existence in the universe." - Serial Experiments Lain

[@GiovanniDeluxxe]

Crazy come up. Went to your videos from 3 years ago. Well done. Cant wait for you to hit a mil

[@frezzpr]

This video hits so hard right now, sometimes I feel like I wake up and other times I feel as if I'm asleep or like you've said looking at my life from the outside it's overwhelming and it sucks

[@FabzP96]

Thank you so much for making this in depth video. Given me alot to think about

[@oemp12]

I too struggled a lot with depersonalization, and keep having these momentary realizations you have outlined. But it's really hard for me to implement them, as I keep "forgetting" or falling back into old habits. How do I "train" myself to really adapt this new mindset? Most people would probably say mediation or something of the sort. Great Video btw!

[@tekleur2462]

There's a great book on exactly this called "How to do the work" by Nicole LePera. Would recommend.

[@rareschiuzbaian]

Write them in a journal

[@mustafahmed9101]

Thank you for this video. I came to the realization that I'm an evolving pattern, not a static thing. It was freeing to realize this. I forgot about that realization for some time, and this video brought back this freeing perspective.

[@BerlinWall1993]

thats what i needed right now

[@YaBoyDrew623]

Hey man, thanks so much for what you do. You’ve literally changed my life. I appreciate it. Keep up the great work!

[@ColeHastings]

Means a lot ❤

[@HoshPak]

Thank you, Cole. I was struggling with some of my past demons after work had shook me during the annual interview. I willingly accepted the labels they had put onto me even though I know they don't know their views are limited and biased. The heavy weight just fell off and I can get back to true self. Again, thank you!

[@mae4712]

Keep up the good work, thanks for your videos Cole

[@ColeHastings]

❤

[@blakerabizadeh]

It’s so funny because I was watching iamlucid stream the other day with you in it, you where giving a preview of this video and after watching it, it’s so good!’n

[@t0bif0x64]

Yeah i know that, i label myself often as something and it's kinda like ”limiting yourself“ for me. And i hate to tell who i am when i don't really know who i am.

[@AhmetKaan]

*Ships don't sink because water is around them, but because water gets inside them. Don't let what's happening around you influence or weigh you down.* I hope this comment made your day 1% better. 🙏

[@thehuman2861]

Yeah it did I needed this comment

[@BulletTrainProductions]

Self-Improvement remains eternal!!!

[@deadchannel89]

I need that

[@urangames457]

It deffinetly made that 1% better

[@SmellMyKnee15]

Thank you❤

[@ldunn2]

Love this message Cole! Thank you for sharing your thoughts. This aligns with my being completely!

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you

[@dralandralarkins8443]

Needed this. Thank u for this message Cole.

[@Mitzthatonekid]

Okay. This is the best advice I've ever gotten. It feels so freeing. Being told I am not the bag of flesh I once was. It's actually very nice to hear that I'm not the same person.. that I'll never be able to go back to that person. Because that person simply doesn't exist anymore. Who I am now exists, and soon they will no longer exist having shed the skin of past yet again. I am no one in the sense that I am not defined. Not that I am less or more. I just am.

[@julianivanov3058]

As someone who's interested in Eastern Philosophy, I absolutely LOVE how you came to some of the same conclusions that are central ideas in Buddhism

[@saintburnsy2468]

You have a stellar voice, Cole. A voice for radio. Random thought: have you ever been on a really long through hike? I'm talking weeks-long hikes. You seem like the kind of person who might find benefit in such a thing. I personally recommend it... learned a lot about myself when I hiked across the island of Kyushu in Japan back in 2019. 500 km, two weeks.

[@Damian-pp5oe]

Love your channel bro, love what you put out, continue to expand and explore this paradox of the thing we call life and living, “Let those who have ears hear”.

[@AndreaEvansTribute]

Label me, Limit me I always say! 😊 I really needed to hear this RIGHT now! Thank you for making it. I was so mad at myself for not being as productive as I normally am because, The present me decided to get a new dog and that has taken all my time. You relaxed me today! 😚

[@mildhotpeppers]

Always dropping bangers 🤙. When I'm feeling stressed or down, your videos help me take a step back and see everthing I'm going through from a different perspective. Thank you for what you do my dude!

[@ColeHastings]

Love to hear it

[@paqito429]

5 seconds into the video and already saying this - Please don’t stop making these 🫀

[@Bufekana]

Your chanel is a jam❤️

[@vincentxtran]

After having tried to make YT videos myself, I now realize how amazing your editing is. Great video Cole, I love how you tell your stories!

[@ColeHastings]

Thanks Vincent

[@03cnutty]

I’ve lived a similar life to you, my names also Cole and I’m Also 25 lol. You should do a video on “dis-identification” Seems like you hit some points about it already in this video but the practice of disidentification is what really helped me manage anxiety and depression.

[@muwaffaqmoinuddin403]

with every video you post, you are saving people from years of depression and uncertainty. keep going bro.

[@ColeHastings]

I really hope so

[@qine6559]

Sinbad! Gosh! I love how you all support eachother so much!

[@wayyah6877]

I agree to some point, I feel my name is my name and I’m cool with that. I know that the old version of me is a different person to current me. But if I feel like I am not my name, makes me feel weird. Also the key to continuing is not by simply going on with life but creating goals. That current goal for me is to become a better person that people can be glad to call that person a friend.

[@GoddestPitcher]

(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). To Hold On to the Past Ollwaves Creates Suffering even if it was Wonderful

[@carloslemus2712]

Cole, I really appreciate you making these videos, since I broke up with my girlfriend my life has taken a turn for the worse, but realizing that I can be a person free from ties makes me feel better and realize that I can change by not depending on of that tie that was my ex-girlfriend.

[@NFSMAN50]

Why you reading my mind Mr Cole, how did you know I was rumitating about my past life lol. This guy is a genius and knows it all. I've been recently struggling with my past and how everyone used to view me back then and how I viewed myself, and trying to be the new modernized version of myself on who i am today and who I will be in the future.

[@AntoniatheUniverse]

I love this video so much and my existentialism is flaring up like mad! I could talk about this until 5 in the morning! I absolutely know how hard this must have been to express - this thought is so elusive and hard to grasp and then to so eloquently capture and present it.. BOOM. MIND BLOWN. Thankfully I'm not real, so I'll be fine.

[@rainyreads]

I love this. I need to watch this video on a daily basis until it sinks in!!!

[@arthurmurfitt7698]

I was so ready to hear this. Heard something like it before but now I'm ready.

[@AuntLorasHouse]

I actually had an a crisis. It was a hard year. But now I'm on top of my world lol Being able to play in this matrix with seeing through clear eyes is an amazing gift although it was literally the death of who I previously was

[@MDobri-sy1ce]

I think the best way to let go of the past is allowing yourself too mentally reflect but most of us are busy in most case. However, because of what’s going on in the world it has forced me too. I am in my early 30’s and going through a lifestyle shift of not seeing friends and family.

[@UnaiFit]

Geez cole ur vids keep improving 🙌🏼

[@nezryt]

This is such a great video... Amazing job Cole.

[@mattendo-retrogaminguk3584]

This was literally me during my long stages of depression and seeing your explanation of all this thought process and our associations with society defining us helped me realise the same Cole! Thanks for the awesome vid keep up the good work. just to let you know i was going to commit suicide but after this long thought process of what i am to me i realised i deserved to go to university

[@AncientDogeFly]

For some reason childhood and adolescence seem so poetic to me now even though I know they wasn’t really that perfect. If I go back rn when my current mental capacity and experience I would have nailed them but at the time it was probably as much of a struggle as what I’m experiencing right now. I want to find a way to let them go and be happy for what I no longer have but experienced at one point but it’s such difficult task

[@Palaciosyt]

Thank you Cole, for another great video!

[@babahganush2977]

Bro, this video remembers me my acid trips, amazing, congrats from Brasil

[@motivationbaychannel6891]

There is a season for sawing and a season for reaping but you can't do both in the same season. If things don't go your way as fast as you expected, please just be patient, your season for reaping will reach. Good luck, friend.🥰

[@ahmedsaeedbj]

Loving your videos. So much insights that have opened my eyes ❤️

[@TheLonerStoner]

Momma is right Very handsome 🤍 happy to be on the same journey with you Cole. Your videos are really insightful and I love seeing you philosophize 🤘🏼

[@iMrJML]

You're the best Cole ❤️

[@ColeHastings]

[@ajithsidhu7183]

@@ColeHastings i would like advice on how big is intimidating like i want to join the police force andni notice the buffer the officer suspects are willing to cooperate .Up to what point would be deemed impressive to make suspects coopreatw when on uniform .But i don't t want to get to big till i cannot enter small spaces in an emergency I am 5 10/11 with 16.7 inch arms How big my whole body needs to be Kindly advice

[@Azucarrrrr]

Great video again! Your a big inspiration! Thanks Cole🙏

[@ColeHastings]

Thanks for watching