A Mistake I Made As A Woman Alone - Divorce Over 60

[@StephanieJoRountree]

Happy Mother's Day, Sue! Now, you go get your phone and text that man right away! Whether it blossoms into romance or not, he sounds like a fine man. We're right here cheering you on.

[@LittlePoet]

You are a wonderful dear friend Stephanie! Happy Mother's Day! ...( looking for my phone....) xo

[@jacquelineellis8949]

Happy Mother’s Day Susan🥰 🌹 I hope you found your phone.. Cheers 🥂 from Alberta Canada 🇨🇦 🍁

[@eileenwatt8283]

@@LittlePoet Never love somone more than yourself. You will lose yourself in that kind of love.

[@msturi2002]

NOOOOOO!....A lady doesn't text first. Only Pickmeisha's do that.

[@debra7241]

⁠​⁠@@msturi2002lol! What the heck is that?

[@adesign3755]

Ladies never give up your home for a new romance, no matter what. If things down the road change at least you will have a home of your own to got. Don’t put yourself out for anyone. I’m telling you I’ve seen too many women regret that. Be happy with the company of a male friend if you want but don’t sell your home.

[@chelseaK11]

I am 55 and this one of the best pieces of advice!

[@debbiewatermelon]

Is that why Golden Bachelor failed?

[@sandrawright8109]

I did this and didn't look out for myself...then when they reject you you have to start again....not what we want as we age. I agree with you

[@AnimalFarm341]

👏👏👏👏

[@deeoh3708]

Absolutely!! Never give up your own security. If that doesn't suit the other person thats a big big warning bell!

[@ladyofwildrose]

You do not have to give up your home you've worked so hard for or give up control of your life. He can keep his home and his life. And you can keep your home and your life and still love and enjoy each one another and each other's company. And live a full life, filled with love, and companionship without having to give anything up at all.. you write the rules..

[@gloriasaliba3395]

Couldn’t agree with you more

[@linky1953]

Excellent advice!

[@maggiecamps6790]

This is my choice now at 68 because I came from a stormy relationship. But the problem is men don't want that. They want to live together and that's where it gets difficult because I am willing to accept the company the love but not the moving in. I feel at this age it is so much better to live in separate homes but yet enjoy each other anytime you wish, travel, dinners, movies and so on. They want that person home that cares for their needs and I'm not for that anymore. I live a happy life and enjoy my alone time doing all the things I do. I totally understand, Susan . We just can't lose hope that the right person who agrees with our wishes will come sooner than later. Much love for everyone and for you, Susan and Desi. I love you tons ❤🙏✨️🎉

[@rhonda6791]

Oh I like you!

[@tanyajohnston8262]

Yes agreed

[@susanhughes5996]

I am 68 years old. I met the love of my life 15 years ago. He recognized that I had always settled for less. LADIES, Don’t settle for less ever again!!!!!

[@LittlePoet]

Amen!!! I hope your Mother's Day is a great celebration! Much love to you and yours always, Susan & Desi

[@loujones5388]

Please share your make up routine and skincare. You look gorgeous! You look so much younger than your stated age. You can do your own makeup because you look like a pro did it. Wishing you much happiness and a great time at the wedding.

[@Esme0285]

Amen Sista!!!😊❤

[@empriester3199]

Beware of the narcissist! 'Falling in love' quickly is a major RED FLAG. And don't do 5 hour first dates. NOOOOOOOO! Protect your heart.

[@rhondaq]

Love this quote.."He offered her the world. She replied she already has one!"

[@MadelineMaxwell-m5z]

Hello Susan, you are the perfect artist for your face. Your expertly applied cosmetics is so pretty.

[@LittlePoet]

love it!!! " He recused her...and she rescued him right back!"

[@Valencenliberty]

Pls--- Don’t do what happened to me. Never have i ever thought of a dating site and of course wasn’t interested. Couple gals said do it. I said i have no interest. To get them off my back, i thought i will do it for Europe or somewhere far away. Let me say: learned a huge lesson. Those Nigerian boys certainly steal. I only lost 2,000 dollars. The very very sad part is they know how to talk especially after a loveless marriage. 😢😢😢 it’s like u get hypnotized. Very scary

[@susiepatterson5383]

I agree with everyone, take that chance to be loved again if this turns out to be that❤️

[@donnamonticello8192]

I was divorced at 63 and I am 80 now never been happier. I lived right through it. I was married to a strong narcissistic man, he ruled with an iron hand. To the point I had to leave to save my sanity.

[@cathybutcher4826]

I'm happy for your escape and your peace now. That is not a way to live! I've been there. I'd literally rather live in my car than with an abusive man.

[@AyaSmith-rb2hp]

Me too!

[@heidibee501]

I am a widow. I lost my husband years ago. I had so many things to set right and deal with l really didn't think much about myself. First l had to reno the house so l could sell it. Then l found myself caring for my grandkids. I also had my cats. 🌷🌷Two good things came of it. I got to know myself and l reinforced my deep kinship with God. He teaches me so much. All these years He has guided and protected me. He still does. ♥️Love to you and Desi, as always.

[@carolestone1079]

Bless your heart ❤️ So thankful you got closer to The LORD ! He has helped me so very much, beyond measure 💖

[@janicemillican9754]

Absolutely, God promises to be a Husband to the husband less and a Father to the fatherless. He is true to His Word. God bless you sister.

[@dewuknowofHyMn]

Amen sister !!!

[@jocelynoslear1578]

Slow and Steady wins the race…

[@dlabit527]

Silver would be a nice complimentary color to the wedding colors. Your makeup always looks so beautiful and radient. I don't think a 20 yr old makeup artist will be able to do the flawless job that you would do.

[@nana73carol46]

I agree. Have the makeup artist use your makeup You are beautiful!

[@deborahpellerito6117]

Yes I agree Susan should do her own makeup

[@glendacarpenter2767]

I have been married for 19 years and I am so tired of apologizing for being myself, and walking on eggshells, I just want to be free and be my self, I feel like staying in the relationship just because I am scared of the unknown is not a reason to stay. Have a Happy Mother’s Day, enjoy 😊 Beware of the too good to be true date, take your time in sorting out your feelings.

[@kaylabryson1932]

I left a 35 yr marriage like that . I’m happier than I’ve ever been !!

[@kaylabryson1932]

Hope you can leave 🤞

[@Sarahbee-o8t]

One thing I have learned in this life is people will disappoint you. Don’t put all yourself into one person you will be sorry

[@christinecohen8687]

So true

[@flowerlady-e5u]

Be your own best friend.❤

[@lynnbrown4364]

The most rewarding thing I've done is volunteer for a dog rescue. The animals have never let me down.

[@sweetsuzie100]

I have learned not to put expectations of others... resentments don't grow 🩷

[@bobbiewilliams5101]

I feel it is more like don’t lose yourself for,another person.

[@prayeropensdoor1050]

Text him, don’t let your heart be fearful or you’ll never know what could’ve been. Even if it is just a beautiful friendship. ♥️🇨🇦🌟🌻

[@michellem8284]

I've never met a man on a blind date who was happy just being friends .... friends with benefits, maybe. But, not just friends.

[@SimplySheilaB]

I'm 56 and will have been divorced 2 weeks on Wednesday after 25 years. His lies finally caught up with him and I decided I deserved better. I'd rather be alone than with someone i can't trust anymore 😢❤

[@barbaragabel351]

Another quick comment. I made it a rule never to pursue a man. I learned long ago that men will pursue a mate they want. They will be persistent. If he did not continue to keep in contact after that last text, then he wasn't the ONE for you. The Universe always sends us what we need. Just keep going! Sending you positive energy! Thank You for all your time and effort making these videos for us.

[@joywebster2678]

I had a therapist many years ago tell me that, and told me to kerp my life open for a new partner to come in. Well she is long buried, and the years have passed, and I wasted time and resources making sure I had space for others, that have never appeared. So universe has told me I deserve nothing, and no one. So that's life. I do not repeat that saying to anyone as it misdirected my life and thinking for decades.

[@carolestone1079]

Oh Susan thank you for sharing.....Just to make you aware, I felt the same way about my Husband many years ago before marriage. It was actually a red flag and at the time I thought it was perhaps LOVE ❤️ Well my Husband passed away 6 years, this coming August and I'm still healing!!!! He was a narcissist and that is not just a word, disease, or a sickness..rather something that is beyond even what you can even imagine!! Remember that saying: WHAT a tangled web we've weaved...well it is way beyond that! I am a Christian, and if I had not of been I would of taken my own life, that is just a taste of how bad it was! All of you that have been with narcissist PLEASE, PLEASE google it and listen, and even if you have not been with one, PLEASE PREPARE YOURSELF 🙏 LOVE YOU ALL, I PRAY FOR MANY

[@queserasera1674]

I was married to one for 37 years before I finally escaped. They are evil to the core. I had no idea about what a narcissist is until I got away. I agree that women need to google YT channels to learn about narcissists...it definitely could save your life.

[@JanetNewnes]

I was married to a narcissist for 27 years. I escaped and I have been free for 10 years! I enjoy my peace. I will never ever settle again!! I enjoy being single.

[@vivianstidham9596]

I was married to a narcissist for 32 years. I grew up in a Christian home and wasn't aware that there were men like this. I am so thankful you didn't take your life. They are not worth it and are so selfish it would 't matter. I have been divorced and live alone with my dog for nineteen years and have been happier than I have been in years. It hasn't been easy at time because he has remarried but I am so relieved that I no longer will be cheated on and mistreated and have to walk on eggshells. Someone else has taken my place.! I have grown stronger in my faith and developed a personal relationship with Christ! I don't live in fear, He supplies all my needs and I enjoy my life. I love being single. I turn 68 in July and I am enjoying life. I hope the very best for you too. If you have Christ, you have all you need!

[@Valencenliberty]

Mine was a narcissist there were red flags and i ignored them😢😢😢 .

[@Valencenliberty]

@@queserasera1674yes they sure are

[@susanalexander7990]

It doesn’t have to be all or nothing with this man. You can grow a relationship with him and enjoy his company for as long as it feels right without giving up the beautiful life you have made for yourself.

[@carolpageler8124]

Dont read too much into meeting someone. Just enjoy life.. and spending a little time with someone is a blessing.

[@trinarenae8625]

HaPpY Mother’s Day everyone❣️

[@patatkinson826]

To you as Well!

[@jacqui.amelie]

Happy Mothers Day

[@mitzialamo9352]

Happy Mother's Day to you also 😊😊

[@juliefizpatrick513]

Happy Mother’s Day to everyone!💕🌸💕🌸💕🌸💕🌸💕🌸💕🌸💕🌸💕🌸💕🌸💕

[@joycetaggart3123]

When you started to tell us about your date, it scared me. I was like alert. It seemed heavy. We know where you have been and do we know if he is so perfect. Where has he been. Who else has he swept off her feet for 5 hours.? Oh I am being protective mother or sister. Hang in ! Take care . hugs from Joyce

[@carmenburnham1088]

Words of wisdom.

[@HelenVaughn-un6de]

Love bombing is a sign of a narcissist. Be careful. The Holy Spirit stopped you.

[@emr555]

I really enjoy your videos, I’m 66, divorced for 15 years & totally understand how you feel. Don’t give up on love or even on the wisdom you have now gained from the past. Building up walls doesn’t allow for maybe the best relationship you could ever possibly have. Is it a risk, yes but crossing the street can be a risk, driving down the highway is a risk but we do it anyways. Walls keep out joy, happiness, love & possibly the greatest gift God may have for us. I’m talking to myself too 😂😂. Text him, be honest & if he’s that gift, he will be patient, understand, and no pressure until you’re ready. And do a background check 😂😂. Be blessed and happy Mother’s Day 💐💐🐕

[@mam564]

You do such a beautiful job applying your make-up! I don't think that anyone could do a more beautiful job! Seriously! ❤

[@VTGAL4EVR]

I agree Susan I think you know exactly how to apply your own makeup so well and you do such a great job, do it yourself. If you are offered and see what the beautician is doing is what you think would work great, then give an it a try. If you particularly like your hair that day, then keep it your way. You have such beautiful hair and great features, you don't need improvements. 😊

[@hortensemason4073]

No I don't want to go through that again. I love my freedom.

[@Wishpool]

Ditto!

[@mcrachelgrace9568]

58 and loving being single. At peace and feeling so free because of it.

[@kathymarton2411]

Thank you Susan. As an older woman, twice married, on my own now, I think if you meet someone, date, do things together, but keep your homes separate. That plays it safe and why not after you have worked so hard making a good life for you and Desi. You may not get a second chance to build your life again, if relationship falters.

[@bonniebrown8947]

Isn’t it great to be alive and be grateful for everything we have?Happy Mother’s Day Susan!!!

[@florencecavallaro4599]

wow/my name is florence/i gotta agree with you there/i like dinners/having coffee 2or3 times a week/butttttt/lol/ii also am not his girlfriend/his wife just past and my hubby just passed as well/so we are not looking for that amen//

[@brightpurpleviking]

DO YOUR OWN MAKEUP!! Ooo have I got a story for you. It was my daughters wedding and she had chosen a highly rated local makeup artist to do all of our makeup. Only she went for a preliminary appointment and it turned out beautifully. Day of the wedding the artist brings an assistant to do the moms and the bridesmaids makeup while she did the bride. The assistant was a very dark complexioned young girl whom we had never met. Long story short… a half hour before wedding time, I gasped as I looked in the mirror after my makeup was done. I looked like a cheaply done drag Queen with big square floppy eyelashes, we all had foundation that was nearly orange, too much liner, I had bridesmaids in the bathroom crying and I was trying to fix us all as they had shown up a bit late. No time for complaints or re-dos as the photographer was expensive and if we deviated from that schedule she would charge hundreds extra. What a fiasco! But WOW we all could have saved so much money and heartache had we just done our own makeup. EDIT. GOOD HEAVENS. THIS WAS NOT “RACE BAIT.” THE ASSISTANT- AS I CLEARLY STATED- HAD A DARKER COMPLEXION AND WAS YOUNG AND OBVIOUSLY ONLY HAD EXPERIENCE WITH DARKER SKIN TONES. SHE WAS NOT OF “ANOTHER RACE” AND ASSUMING SO AND CALLING ME OUT FOR POINTING THAT OUT IS RIDICULOUS. I SWEAR THIS WORLD HAS BECOME SO TRIGGERED 😡

[@SarahRenz59]

@brightpurpleviking I'm sorry you had that awful experience on such an important day, but I gotta' ask... How is the skin tone of the makeup artist's assistant relevant to the story? It sounds like she was inexperienced in working on people with different skin tones and makeup styles, but that's a skills deficiency that has nothing to do with race or ethnicity. Calling out her skin tone isn't a good look and I hope you don't mean what it implied. Take care.

[@texasmimi5566]

@@SarahRenz59 I just knew someone would bring this up. It matters because the assistant prolly never had experience with caucasian women and their way of doing make-up that can be different from black women and how they do their hair and make-up. There is a difference. And that is why the bridal party and mothers looked like drag queens. 🤨

[@rachelphelps6347]

@@SarahRenz59 I am sure she meant just what she said, and that perhaps the girl was inexperienced is how I took what she said. Never did anything in my mind about race enter into it, but apparently it did yours! No reason to imply anything else. As Morgan Freeman said about racism, “Stop talking about it.” I think that is good advice for everyone. Take care.

[@lindafrazier8092]

Note to self!

[@SarahRenz59]

@@texasmimi5566 @rachelphelps6347 I'm sorry y'all don't like me calling out racist inferences, but I have gays, POC, and all sorts of people in my life for whom I care deeply and I'm not going to just sit and say nothing when somebody says something ignorant, regardless of how innocently the remark was made. Texas, "their way"? "They"? Do you even hear yourself? You're basically saying that black people are incapable of doing makeup on white people. I reject that premise outright. The assistant was inexperienced and unskilled, period -- nothing to do with her race, gender, ethnicity, etc.

[@hortensemason4073]

I am going to start the carnivore diet, way of eating. So many people get happier, less anxiety, more confidence, more energy, less brain fog, no diabetes. I want me better.

[@robindavies3418]

I have been carnivore 2.5 years I reversed my pre-diabetes, lost 40 lbs and never felt so good.

[@themamachar]

I’ve been carnivore for 5 years. Best thing I ever did.

[@BlingyBea]

I tried it but I just can’t do nothing but meat, eggs, cheese, I missed my veggies.

[@jillr759]

@@BlingyBeaI really despise meat most of the time.

[@robindavies3418]

@BlingyBea the veggies were what were creating my joint immflamation..within a few days of cutting them out my hand and knee pain totally went away, and I'm talking i was wearing a knee brace!!! I can eat certain vegetables very infrequently but if I over do it the pain comes back , so, as much as I like them I just don't eat them.

[@JenJean1234]

Spring is here! ❤ Have a blessed Mother's Day Susan! 🌷 🎀 👒

[@dollydimple6126]

I discovered you yesterday on KZbin and can see your videos are going to become my friend. You inspire me to breathe and realise there are so many women like me. I divorced 20 years ago - my decision. A few years later I met a wonderful man who for the first time showed me what real love is. Sadly I lost him to a terrible accident 3 years ago and have no desire to find someone new. At 68 I have rediscovered my other love - travelling. I moved 200 miles to be part of my little grandchildren’s lives but my daughter and I didn’t get along and so I have missed every minute of their little lives and she is estranged from me. This all happened at the same time I lost my partner. My daughter’s callousness has shocked me and I’ve spent the last 3yrs coming to terms with that. I’m coming out the other side a different person and am learning to live my own life which I am loving! I have a wonderful son and plan to live abroad for 6 months of the year to be closer to him. Life is exciting again so never give up hope! Thank you for your supportive videos - I’ve subscribed! Have a wonderful day ❤

[@BR-kk9qu]

Your filming is so beautiful and refreshing to watch! Happy Mother’s Day! - Belinda

[@susiesmith9957]

Dear One, don't be afraid to open your heart to love and romance. You are a beautiful woman and have already learned the lesson that you are in control of your life and you do not have to fall back into the role that you agreed to buy into so many years ago. That was just a role and you are authentically living in your power now. That kind gentleman was attached to the new you, so think about that, as you wouldn't have to sacrifice who you really are.

[@deezahm9143]

🌷💕Happy Mothers Day Susan and all moms of humans and all moms of fur babies! I’m six years divorced from a malignant narcissist. I’m 68 and live alone. I’m learning to let the past go and swing into the future. Thank you Susan and all the women here who encourage and motivate me each and every day. God bless us all-much love light and sunshine to all 🌸💕🌸💕🌸

[@lisapurzak722]

In my life the men that made my heart pacing were the exact men i should of stayed away from. There is something exciting and that thrilling feeling is a warning sign for me. It has taken me yrs to finally figure that out.

[@Lois-o1f]

Yes, me too

[@pattyengler2569]

I am so thankful that I recently found your channel. I am in the midst of a painful divorce after 24 years at age 66. Appreciate you and your wise words so very much😌

[@BlingyBea]

🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@LittlePoet]

Oh I am so greateful you are here! Happy Sunday...how are you doing? Much love to you, Susan & Desi

[@mrs.e3909]

Nothing wrong with riding solo, or hibernating until you come back into balance and find your focus. A partner should be your counterbalance, your shoulder to lean on and your point of reason. I think when the right person comes along it should feel seamless.

[@marypucci6814]

Being scared is really being cautious..as we should at this stage in our lives. Listen to your heart. ♥️

[@adesign3755]

I knew a lady that told me “ it takes at least six months to get to to know a man. Because their tue self comes out or they will start showing signs of who they truly are. I just wanted to share with all us ladies be careful and don’t rush a relationships. Just take your time with new relationships and truly look at the persons words and behaviors, patterns and life style. I’m not saying everyone is bad but it doesn’t hurt to know someone as a friend first. Pray about everything and ask God for guidance. Susan you are a smart lady! I do admire you.

[@sharronr]

I hope you give the nice man a chance. You never know what is possible. I have been a widow for 2 years after 42 years of marriage and I can say that I am happy living alone with my little dog. For the first time in my life my days are for me and only me.

[@CandaceArt]

*PLEASE DONT WAIT TO ORDER YOUR DRESS!!* Sweet friend, please don’t wait until July to order your dress for an August wedding. Please build in time for availability shortages, product and shipping delays and unless you have an existing appointment with a tailor/seamstress, assume that will take time to get a desired appointment and assume you may need more than one fitting. “Build in space for chaos” especially for an occasion as important as a family wedding. You’ll rest easier knowing you have the dress under your roof (even if it’s basically a tent on you!) let the seamstress worry about fitting it, just make sure you have it! (Don’t ask me how I know 🙈) ❤

[@imlistening1949]

So correct, my antenna went up when Susan mentioned going to wait on ordering. Shipping and sizes are not what it used to be. Yes, if to large can have it altered - too small forget it.

[@cn4492]

Do your own makeup!!

[@JennyWilson-ko6gt]

Tread carefully with this one because it is early days yet and, most importantly, stay financially independent. Make sure you have your own money and make no apologies for that. I remember my Mum saying even Grandma had her own running away from home account - not that she ever needed it!

[@Khatoon170]

Happy mother auntie Susan. Honestly if we could give you ability to see yourself through our eyes only then would you realize how special you are to us , thank you for being wise friend , inspiring woman .

[@Khatoon170]

I mean happy mother day . We celebrated mother day in Arabic countries last March as well as England. It’s different date around world you in USA and Canada on May.

[@cynthialambert9067]

Makeup isn't a tattoo. Let the makeup artist do your face. If it is unsuitable, it will wash off. Just give yourself enough time to redo it yourself, if you need to. Honey, you are better off without that guy. I feel that the only way I will always have complete control of my life is to be the captain and crew of my ship. I would rather be alone than surrender control. At any given moment of unhappiness in my adult life, there was a man behind it. I finally learned my lesson, and love the status quo. I am whole. I don't need a 'plus one.'

[@robbinmaskell1730]

Amen Sister! 👏🏻

[@mcrachelgrace9568]

Amen! Free at last!

[@juliefizpatrick513]

Let the makeup artist do it- they do mothers, grandmothers and will make you even more beautiful. Go over ur likes and dislikes b4 they begin. Go for it!👍😊🚀

[@delializarraga9638]

PS: take your own, make up with you and let her do your make up with what your accustomed to using. She can enhance what you already do, and you will have your comfort level with concealers and foundations. The basics.

[@lissac67]

I felt red flags when you talked about the blind date. When feelings come that quickly my experience is it's not good. I wonder if your intuition was telling you something. My ex was like that at first, but then I realized a few years later he was a narcissist. So you felt that way for some reason and it is valid. I don't believe that when it's right it feels scary or like you are losing control. I think when it's real, it compliments your life, not taking over your life.

[@Dabiam63]

I was thinking the same thing. My ex was the same. I chose to ignore the red flags in the beginning and I regret it. The first night on my own when I left him was the best night sleep I’d had in years. And the urge to drink was gone as well.

[@SarahRenz59]

@lissac67 Abusers often use "love bombing" to reel in their victims. They prey on people's loneliness. I've recently been getting a lot of videos in my KZbin feed about romance scams, where women our age are seeking love online and instead they get tangled up with a romance scammer who cons them out of thousands, and sometimes millions (!!) of dollars. Experts estimate that people in this country have lost over 1 BILLION dollars in romance scams. It's beyond sad that we have to worry about such things, but unfortunately the predators are out there and we need to protect ourselves.

[@Silenceisgolden-o9o]

Same here

[@lissac67]

@@Dabiam63 similar experience for me as well.

[@YvonneWachter-tj8fw]

Susan, you are , bar none, the greatest gift to me this year. This piece is another magnum opus, a gift of self-effacement that is soooo relatable. Don't think I need to spend $1,000.00 a month with a shrink who makes me do all the talking and gives me no answers. You are of greater help to me. Words cannot express my gratitude for the work you do here❤

[@mergnart]

Happy Mother’s Day. I look forward to your video every week. I’m a 77/year old widow of almost 8 years. We met when we were in 6th grade, married at 20. I wouldn’t say he was a narcissist, but at times things were less than great, and I took the blame for everything. We were married for 49 years. I miss him even though it was sometimes rough. 2 years after he died, I started dating his best friend, also from 6th grade. It turned out to be the most incredible relationship. We often said how weird it was that we ended up together. We were soulmates. Then in 2019 he died from stage 4 lung cancer. My life is still so shattered. I am afraid to date even though I am lonely and would enjoy the company and be able to go dancing again. I don’t know what the future holds for me. Maybe there is still hope. You are such a treasure. To deal with a new size and your old clothes. Give them away and say, “ I am never wearing that size again “. I did that 30 years ago and I’m still a size 4 from being a tight 12. Give your beautiful clothes to a non profit that gives them to women who are in programs to help them get a job and on their feet again.

[@lindahoskins3692]

I think your makeup is always amazing. To have a stranger do your make up I think isnt a good idea. You know what looks good on you, your colouring, how it feels on your skin and how the right balance gives you confidence. You know how to do dramatic, subtle, textured makeup. You know about lighting and how to respondto it with makeup. To do your own makeup makes you the perfect artist. Do what gives you confidence for the day. If another person applies your ‘face’ and it doesnt look ‘right’ to you, your confidence will drop. There is no expertbuty artist. They interpret intheir own way and their vision and, not your vision. Have a wonderful experience being YOU.

[@cathyandresiak]

If I fell for someone that fast, I would be scared as well! I have done that before and it didn’t turn out well! I found chemistry doesn’t negate a true relationship and it takes a long time to get to know someone! When I fall for someone that fast I get all goofy and lose my sense or something, Lol! Thats a tough one! Happy Mother’s Day Susan!

[@stargaze0406]

Hi Susan At the wedding, take your own makeup & ask the makeup artist to use it. Take a photo of your usual look for them. Then after, if you need to touch it up a bit you have your own makeup. You should bring also a photo of the hairstyle you want.

[@Vicki1951]

Hi Susan. There were so many thoughts that passed through my mind during this video. So many chapters of my life. I’m alone again. I have been married 3 times. Not exactly something that I am particularly proud of. However, I was single for 17 years between the 2nd and 3rd and the last husband took his life after several failed attempts. I don’t like being alone at 72. It’s certainly not the dream I had but at some point I have to take responsibility for my own life. Looking back 35 years ago doesn’t serve any good purpose. Life goes on but after 3 very abusive husbands, I’m not sure I have the courage to even sit across the table and have coffee with someone without hyperventilating.

[@robertahughes8782]

Hello Susan, I completely understand your fear of getting together with the man you met on a blind date because I have been there, experiencing the fear, and have been avoiding dating for a long time because of a bad experience. Also, because I know that my natural instinct is to give myself away in relationship, putting everyone else’s needs above my own. I’ve survived the loss of my husband (due to his death when he was 49 years old), and worked very hard to create a new life, learning as I go along. It’s scary to think about possibly letting someone new in, on the chance they might ruin the progress that has been made. One of the mistakes that can be made in early dating is mistaking chemistry for actual love. Truth is, when you meet someone for the first time, you don’t know them at all. You only know what they have presented to you. That’s why it’s really important to take it slow. Date only in public places. Do not go into their home, or invite them into yours. Do not sleep with them. Take it slow and get to know them. But first, be clear within yourself about what you are looking for. A committed, live-in relationship? Marriage? Someone to only see occasionally, maintaining separate residences? At our age, we get to decide how it will be. We get to choose. Then, while dating, try not to leap ahead in your mind about where it’s going to end up because over-thinking often creates problems. At the same time, be fully aware of what you want and don’t want. Date slowly and get to really know them, while trying not to over-think it. But, know your “deal breakers,” and be prepared to walk away if they are an unqualified candidate for what you need. Do not ignore red flags. Watch to see if their words and actions are in alignment. Learn from past mistakes. I know about mistakes because I have probably made most of them. Dating can be fun, scary, exciting, and horrible. Only you can decide if it’s worth doing. Being stuck in fear can paralyze you. The question is…do you want a man in your life, or are you content with the status quo? Only you know the answer to that question. I would like to write a book about dating after loss, and have some interesting material for it! Many women our age are single through unfortunate circumstances, and we have little or no dating skills. We fumble around, hoping for success, while not understanding the process. Then, we get hurt and become paralyzed with fear.

[@shamaywilliams-blake]

Happy Mother's Day Susan. Please be cautious my friend, about falling so quickly for a man. That IS scary. Sounds like a charmer. I wonder why he is available if he is such a catch. 🤔 Love you and pray all the best for you and Desi.

[@juliemoore6957]

Divorce is like a death. Death of a love, a dream, the way you thought your life was going to be. It's devastating. It's a grieving, just like a death. You must allow time and space for this grief to heal. When I went through my divorce, I had to grieve. And after awhile, I started praying for God to give me a new dream for my life. Now, 20 years later, I have a new beautiful life. I have a new man who loves me deeply, step kids that blend so well with my kids. It's a whole new life! Don't despair. There is a new life waiting on the other side.❤

[@kimberlypruitt161]

There are worse things than being alone. I am 64 and have been divorced for a year now. I have never been happier! I was married to a control freak. I now do what I want, when I want, and how I want. I no longer have to listen to insults. I no longer have to do everything he wanted to do but nothing I wanted to do. Gone are the days of living with a moody person who only survived with drama around every corner. I can honestly say that meeting someone new is not an option. I am just happy and content with me.

[@hildawehl3569]

Happy Mother's Day!! Wishing you and all reading here, a day full of Joy, Laughter, Blessings, Healing and Answered prayers. Hugs. Hilda ( in February this year, We found out my Mother have Vascular Dementia. It is heartbreaking. Life is short. Take care of yourself. )

[@lauriesmith561]

Happy mothers day Susan. I hope you have a wonderful day. Blessings to you and Desi. 💐🌸🌺

[@janeteddddd]

A five hour lunch sounds exhausting to me. That would totally wipe me out for a week or longer. But then again I'm an introvert.

[@AnnjDesign]

Thanks for another lovely vlog 🥰 I have enjoyed them for the last few years when my life has been a big challenge after my beloved husband of 33 years didn't want to be with me anymore but wanted to sell our house and live alone - and he doesn't love me longer - I know it's probably due to his cognitive damage from severe strokes over the past 7 years. Now the house has been sold and I have been lucky enough to be able to rent a nice little house with a small garden in a new town. And I have now started to enjoy my new life alone without being responsible for another adult person and I will do everything I can so that the rest of my life will be just as I want it to be. Take care and enjoy your life 🥰

[@lenaannis8787]

Hello. When i separated at 58 I lost half of the friends we had as a couple. At first i was afraid to sleep in the apt alone. So, I put logic to work, got a house alarm system,and two cats and that made me feel much better. And now 7 years later, I actually like to live alone. To the point of thinking this is one of the reasons the marriage did not work out. !!!!

[@jodiyelinek3160]

I love your videos. I love the music. I love your honesty and openness, the simplicity of you sharing about what life is like for you as a woman of your age and life experience. I find it very soothing and comforting to listen and watch. Thank you for doing this.

[@nancybrace1233]

Hi Susan! What kind of diet are you on? I am hanging on….starting to garden, and teaching 2nd graders. Those kids bring me so much joy! I still feel lonely at times…..just don’t think I can date….

[@mariadewey4369]

Hi dear Susan. Money is tight, it’s raining hard, but I decide to be grateful. The grass and plants will be happy. I hope you give yourself a chance with the gentleman you mentioned. Just be wise. Happy Mother’s Day. Love from my little piece of Heaven in Costa Rica.

[@lindafrazier8092]

🎉

[@sheilavanduynfote5539]

Susan ❤Happy Mother’s Day❤❤, I gain weight in my abdomen and I truly believe the way you put on makeup is beautiful. I am 73 and I need to have a change in my makeup it makes me look older. Thank you so much for all the support and encouragement you give to all of us. I am living in a very unhappy marriage, but I have been married before (3) times and I just don’t want to go through this ever again. I was a coward for not leaving when I could have, I’m in survival mode now.

[@BlingyBea]

🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@kanamichelle7404]

I am in the same boat you are. Condolences❤

[@franzone70]

It’s never to late to be happy.

[@dianewandland1833]

I feel for you. Prayers

[@LS-ku2xv]

Consider leaving and staying single. Finish out your years in peace.

[@janeashton2027]

Hi Susan, l think we all made a lot of mistakes all along, l went through that with my 1st husband, l had to leave him, because he was doing things behind my back, l was told by professional people that I had to leave him, so l did for my sake and also for my daughter, sometimes women fall in love with the wrong man, so thats what I did, and I found the right man, my 2nd husband was so good to me and my daughter, and he treat me like a queen, he treated my daughter like she was his own, you and Desi have a brand new week, Happy Mothers Day to you, hugsssss ❤❤❤

[@patricia753]

Susan, maybe take a chance, if you can, and contact that gentleman again. Meet up with him and tell him what happened to you, your fears. Maybe you could see what happens. Wishing you all the Best! ❤

[@tamaralerette3669]

I suggest doing your own makeup since you do it so beautifully. I felt like you were speaking directly to me when you said you never expected to feel so deeply so fast. I have an unfortunate track record of falling for the wrong guy and this is the longest I’ve ever been single (almost 7 years). I always go for the spark and overlook the red flags. I’m so conflicted between accepting at my age of 63 I’ll just have to settle with someone who checks most of the boxes or fear of falling head over heals for someone who has the potential to destroy the peacefulness I’ve created in my life by being alone. Please let us know what happens with you. I hope you have a wonderful Mother’s Day Susan. Love from Hawaii, Tamara and Theo the Pom🌺💗🌺

[@HelenVaughn-un6de]

I escaped my X. I had to hide so he could not find me. I am grateful to be divorced. It was scary. Sometimes I become afraid. My dad died and grief hurts. But I keep going. I am happy.

[@mkbrown3902]

So glad Desi is better🐾❤️. I have been alone for years and I really enjoy it. I don’t want to ever feel that loss again and I have trust issues but I'm ok with that. I decided to stop thinking about it and enjoy ever minute here and now. Of course like you I have my best most loyal friend 🐾

[@Annie-lu5rt]

@mkbrown Same here. Of course we're all different. At 70 years of age I am content after 2 divorces to be living alone with my sweet little doggie. I work part time, garden, crochet & do a bit of crafting.

[@sondrasmith2691]

You are such a beautiful and caring person. Are you mortified of being alone? Be careful with that feeling if you are afraid. I wish you true ...love and happiness.

[@Cindy-bee]

It's is nice to have a companion to wine and dine us but I prefer we have our own places. I find at 70 my girlfriends are more fun to be with for the most part. Susan you are a successful independent woman making your own way. Any relationship must be on your terms, not theirs.

[@michellem8284]

Thank you for sharing the story of your blind date with us! I have three thoughts: First, trust your gut and listen to your instinct. Secondly, we all have different attachment styles and you sound like a fearful or dismissive avoidant. The problem with us (I'm one too) is that our fears can outweigh our feelings and cause us to retreat and that sounds like exactly what happened to you. And, third, if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. Proceed with caution. Thanks again for sharing :)

[@paulapirpignani4802]

Happy Mothers Day Susan! May your day turn out magical and your blessings continued. Lots of love n admiration sent your way 🤍 🐾 🎉

[@comosi519]

I agree - do your own makeup! Your makeup always looks flawless and so I think you do you!

[@Marie-r4i2u]

Susan thank you for your kind words coming from a life being well lived but I am so tired of trying to love and give of myself only to find myself alone and forgotten again. Blessings.

[@themerryneedle1749]

I feel this deeply. Me too, but don't lose hope. Let's try to hold onto a little hope, a little miracle, of equal love and caring to come. Good luck to us!

[@brigittavanderputten3596]

You're very brave for putting yourself out there again! Personally, getting to know a man again as a potential partner, isn't something I want to do anymore. I still have fleeting attractions and I still feel attractive to men but after spending so much of my life in relationships that didn't work, the potential for anyone treating me the way I deserve to be treated, is slim. It's taken me a long time to learn to love myself. Do I trust myself enough to get involved again? Honestly, I quess I don't care to find out.

[@ireneturner2944]

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY EVERYONE 💓 LOVE YOU ALL!!

[@sabinekoch3448]

❤🥰

[@lindajames4922]

My daughter got married last Saturday. She had a hair dresser and a makeup artist. I’m 68. Treat yourself to both! It was a fabulous experience. Convey to the makeup artist how you feel. She’ll know what is perfect for you!

[@NanKF]

A mother of the groom that I know had the makeup artist do her makeup, but took her own products, the one she normally used. Participation can be part of the bonding experience with your daughter-in-law.

[@texasmimi5566]

Unless it is done by an assistant who has no idea of how to do the women's make-up.

[@LittlePoet]

I love this and congratulations!!!!

[@lindajames4922]

@@LittlePoet Thank you!❣️

[@shamaywilliams-blake]

​@NanKF Great response. I had my makeup done for all my kids' weddings. It was a great experience.

[@rhettaseeger248]

Happy Mother's Day Susan! We just adore you and so happy for your new life. Your move to a new city and living near your grandchildren. That is wonderful.

[@malexander1519]

After the lunch, HE texted you first, you replied, then radio silence? We don't know what was said in these texts but I believe the the ball is in his court. My mom (born 1918) always said "don't chase a man".

[@andreagardner2335]

It’s a red flag to put too much into a single meeting with a man. You can’t really know who he is. If you want to date him for a while, do that. Really get to know him. But keep your guard up. The last thing you need is the wrong thing.

[@MsMarshall12]

Happy Mother's Day. Susan my husband passed away April 24th, I am still in shock. I don't know my own feelings right now. I hope you and your viewers have some advise for me. Ty

[@justjoy1247]

So sorry for your loss, my husband passed away four years ago in April

[@comfortcreekranch4948]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[@BlingyBea]

I’m so sorry for your loss, may God wrap his arms around and comfort you.🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️

[@kathybriscoe1474]

Sorry for your loss. My husband died suddenly of a massive heart attack July 21, 2019. I still think of him every day as we were married 53 years. My faith and my friends sustained me these past years. We don’t move on…we move forward one day at a time. I was already involved in activities with friends before my husband’s death, so that helped. I still feel lonely most evenings and holidays are very different. I takes time to readjust to recover from your loss. God bless you on your journey through grief.

[@annabluhm8214]

I am so sorry that. you suffered the loss of your husband❤.... My husband passed away 12 years ago, the first days and weeks were a blur, i felt numb. Don't think to far ahead, rest, be kind to yourself.....when some of the shock wears off, and it slowly will, find a friend or minister, someone that you can share your pain with, allow yourself to feel and express your sorrow, anger,fear, sense of loss. Someone said to me at the time "allow yourself to grieve the loss of your husband for as long as you need to" I have never forgotten that. Take heart, take courage and know that in time it will get better.

[@marilynmoreno3794]

Happy Mother’s Day, Susan! You don’t have to have a man in your life to be happy! You have your beautiful grandchildren and your son and soon to be daughter in law. You are blessed.. Find a good Bible believing church and get involved! You are a lovely person and lots of gifts that you could volunteer at your local church! Have a wonderful day!❤️

[@nana73carol46]

Some of us are created with a need that God himself gave us, to need and to love a man; one that needs to love and care for us. I am a Christian, and I don't agree with your message. We are all on our own path, and we can not know what another woman needs.

[@lose999]

Happy Mother's Day, Susan. I hope your day is extra special now that you are so close to your family.

[@adriennebrown3778]

Dresses: I have to say I never saw the green one as right for a wedding. It was nice but more hippy/casual than mother of the groom so I am glad you are consulting a stylist. Re the man: contact him & tell him you are scarec & want to take things slowly. Have a great week!

[@SharrellKline]

Do your own makeup. I was lucky enough to be asked to sit for an interview with a KZbin channel and also featured in Women's World Magazine, and both happened in February. Both organizations offered to provide a makeup artist along with the photographer and videographer. But I knew they could never do my curly hair and 64-year-old makeup to suit me, so I did it all myself and I'm glad I did. I had my makeup done for both of my weddings and for a big holiday party when I worked for SAG-AFTRA in LA, and I look back at all three events in photos and I look terrible! Especially when compared to how I was wearing my hair and makeup at the time. I think you'd be so much happier doing your own makeup because you do it naturally and absolutely beautifully, and no one could come close in my opinion.

[@valerienelson3296]

Happy Mothers Day to all of you.💐 You have such an amazing group of women here & they seem to be like me and feel so open to share their innermost thoughts here, because of you and your streams. You make me feel safe and talk about the very things that are on my mind❤❤❤ This sounds like such an amazing wedding and I think you might be right on the makeup. You do such an amazing job and I have used many of your tips. My daughter has her own salon & is amazing with color on my hair but makeup not so much and she also does weddings and does an amazing job for others . I took off about 40lbs when I turned 50 and really piled it on during menopause. Clearly needed a whole new wardrobe. I finally got rid of all my bigger clothes after 10 years. Guess what I feel like I jinxed myself. I put on 13lb this winter by not getting on the scale. I was grieving the loss of my sister. We raised our kids together and lived in walking distance. So lost without her but your community helps me so much. I got 4 of the pounds off and will have it off by the end of summer. Not going to do this again, constantly washing the only clothes I feel comfortable in😅

[@BlingyBea]

Desi looked so handsome in front of those flowers, Happy Mother’s Day and much love to our sweet little Desi. On your blind date, you’ve been through a lot getting yourself strong and have made a happy life for you and Desi then you moved to being happier living close to your son and family. Yes your scared of anyone maybe a big maybe of someone destroying what you built in yourself. Trust your gut, our intuition is never wrong. I met my 2nd husband 6 years after my divorce., I wasn’t looking to ever meet a decent man, I had given up on the dating scene and my dream. I truly believe the lord brought this wonderful man into my life. We spent our first date talking thru the night it was wonderful. He also had been divorced and had 2 small boys, I have 1 daughter, she was 12 at the time. I knew he was my soulmate, we married 3 months later and will soon be celebrating 38years at the end of this month. Maybe give him a call and just talk and see what he’s really like, get to know him a bit, you will know if it’s right.🙏🏻🌹🌹

[@karenbehymer3634]

You look a little sad. You bring a lot of positive attitude with your channel. Thank uou gor that. There is a lot of pressure meeting someone on a dating ap. Both the man and the woman will feel pressure. Maybe your date was waiting for you to call him? Dont be discouraged. Men are just as insecure as we are. All we can do is "follow our bliss".....being busy with activities that are important to us and bring us joy. You are an inspiration!!! Thank you!!!

[@flygirl6108]

Happy Mother’s Day everyone! Celebrate you!!!

[@kaitlinmeadows6273]

Your caution is well earned. You are a beautiful soul. Allow yourself the wisdom of acknowledging the pleasure and peace you have earned in your new home. Proceed slowly, gracefully, give yourself time to get to know this new friend. You are not a giddy teenager. You are a brave, strong, well-settled woman who can love and enjoy the company of a partner without giving up your independence or risking your heart. Blessings on your journey!

[@dianeyoung6256]

You do your own makeup so beautifully, I. Vote you do your own. You will be so gorgeous.

[@THOCKI58]

I don't think it's a mistake! You are wise to protect the life you've worked so hard to build! Good move to slow it down! It's all coming together beautifully. You are blessed and so loved!! Happy Mother's Day! (You lucky hot mama!)

[@MM-hk8om]

Please do your own makeup! You know best. Those early attractions and sparks are exciting, but you didn’t text back because you either weren’t ready to take the step and/or perhaps your gut instinct stepped in. Whatever the reason, please don’t second guess your decisions. Hugs to dear Desi. ❤🐶

[@donnakelley1202]

I always appreciate your videos. With regards to your new love, I recommend going with your gut instinct. If it feels like you would loose yourself in a relationship maybe you don't need that relationship. It's really up to you. You're the only one who knows what is best for you.

[@MariaAU]

Just be careful, sometimes charming men say all the right things. They re calculated and know how to make women swoon. But sometimes what lies beneath isn’t really what you see. Especially on the first date, they say what we want to hear. Please be careful, Susan.

[@Lois-o1f]

That's what my shrink said...and it's so true

[@cynthiaclarke4224]

I understand the paralyzing fear you spoke of after your amazing 5 hour date. My husband left me suddenly 6 years ago. I bought a house, thrifted until I loved every room. Rescued a darling little dog. The quiet hours as well as the freedom I now have to be with friends and family and to travel on a whim would be very hard to give up now no matter how wonderful a new man might be.

[@cherylmartin1740]

So glad you posted, it's Mother's Day and I'm all alone and feeling sorry for myself. I have four (2 boys and 2 girls) children and I haven't heard from any of them. We all live in the same area but I'm just not included in their lives now that they are all married and have children of their own.

[@graceb]

I am so sorry

[@justmaria5806]

LP: Just when I think you can't top yourself, you do. Today's opening and closing shots, music, and the sounds of nature were what we all needed. I initially cringed because I had been thinking I was probably the only person who voted for the classic green dress. What a relief to know I wasn't alone. Sorry, it won't work because it really stood out from the remaining cookie cutter looking mother of the bride formal dresses. I have no doubt you will find just the right thing. As far as the topic of love and loss and dealing with the pain...... yikes! You really got me on that one. I felt like you had opened up the top of my head and were peering down to the very depths of my soul. I've lived a life of love, of stress...... 2 divorces, a couple of broken hearts, and most importantly of all, suffered thru the sudden death of an adult son. Try wrapping your head around the reality of a 35 year old dropping dead while running.....running with an undiagnosed heart condition that was worsened by the aerobic lifestyle he was pursuing to find that someone to love in his life. Something happened that day, Susan. The shock and loss of the entire situation were too unbearable. I looked in the mirror the following day and didn't recognize who was looking back at me. I aged overnight. Over the years, I have been trying to scrape together the broken pieces of my heart and soul that no one can see. I know in my heart of hearts I will never be the same. A piece of me died when he died and will never come back. Somewhere along the line, I came to the following conclusions: you had your chance at relationships, marriage, and love and are probably not very good at any of them. The person you loved more than life itself is gone and never coming back. Get yourself together; try to mend all the broken pieces (seen and unseen) you can, and DO NOT let anyone close enough to hurt you. You aren't strong enough to endure rejection or any other sort of loss again. Love and support those around you, but don't become vulnerable and let anyone too close. Am I the only one who feels this way?

[@nana73carol46]

I am so sorry for your tremendous loss. I cannot know the hurt and grief you feel You most certainly are broken and need all the time that you need to mend. However telling others never to let anyone get too close is not really a good idea. Walls put up are hard to take down, and the walls shut the world out. How can we experience joy, love, peace when we aren't a bit vulnerable to the other emotions? Please take care of yourself! 💗🙏💗

[@lynnewright31]

I'm so sorry for your great loss of your son. My mom lost my brother suddenly at forty and it almost killed her, she was never the same of course. I wouldn't wish that kind of pain on my worst enemy. Take care of yourself ❤

[@krazedvintagemodel]

". . . extra leaves . . ." 😊 Susan, I say do your own makeup for the wedding, for the reasons you mentioned. Also, decisions I made based on fear, I regret. I choose Peace over Love at the moment, but healing isn't one size fits all. I'm still earning my wisdom, and praying for it. Peace and Blessings everyone🌻

[@loisgalloway7143]

I love how you intersperse your videos with such beautiful scenery. Happy Mothers Day. Susan.

[@alinapuentes6373]

When my son got married, I was worried about the makeup as well and chose to do it myself. I was so happy with my decision. I did glam it up a bit but still looked like me.

[@alyssaalexande542]

Thanks Susan for this powerful video I too left my narcissistic husband of 34 years four years ago and preparing for my divorce. Starting over is definitely not easy but my peace and freedom will be worth it!!!!