A Perfect Example of a THAI GIRL Playing the Long Con In THAILAND With A TOURIST 🇹🇭

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[@glynnsears466]

Hey Dan, this is Glynn hey why all the tats…. So sad

[@glynnsears466]

Lol I used to watch Thailand bound

[@glynnsears466]

Your the best

[@glynnsears466]

That girl that you play from full metal jacket she’s Indonesian model and she passed away just a few years ago very pretty woman. I didn’t know if you knew that Dan

[@thaitalkwithdan]

Hi Glynn I didn't know thanks for telling me this, I'll Google the info 👍

[@megaworldasia360]

"I met a girl in a gogo bar. She's different." When it comes to bargirls, there's only two rules you need to remember: 1. It's always about the money. 2. If you don't think it's about the money, see rule number 1. She's doing a job, and you (the farang) are the job. The jealousy is simply because someone else is getting the money, and not her.

[@lindalucky9214]

After millions spent on Bargirl girlfriends I'm coming around to your thinking....🎉😂

[@chrisdocherty6496]

I was in Australia and was in my late 40's and had a 30 yo girlfriend. She hung around for a while but after time went for somebody younger. Same for bar girls . If ypu are old enough to be her father why would you think she is madly in love with you and not your lifestyle?

[@kokikoki12345]

Thanks u nail it ❤❤❤❤❤

[@perjespersen3806]

same shit different toilet.. money grubbing ho's 😂

[@dotcom2528]

​@@chrisdocherty6496cheers up, go use and abuse. Why care about 1 girl when there are millions? I do 500B/day and live place. She pays everything "in house". "Out" is only Thai style/music... 1h massage, arobics when I want/day, living quarters. All included, no honey no money.... I like to reverse it...!

[@ubiquitousdiabolus]

As said before, other than money, why would a younger beautiful woman want to date an older overweight guy who likes to go to bars and pick up prostitutes?

[@bajadan6034]

$$$$$

[@ihanakaunotar2741]

Lmao, as a female it’s so blatantly obvious that I don’t understand how delusional some dudes are 😂😂

[@SimplyMe-SM]

*Why would an older overweight guy like to go to bars and pick up prostitutes in the first instance?*

[@L-Nino]

Some guys are just drama queens but they don’t know it. They say they want drama free lives/relationships? But they sure are going about that the wrong way! Firstly don’t try to get to know these girls or understand them, you never will! As a matter fact you shouldn’t even really bother finding out their names or get their contact information? Just enjoy a brief casual encounter and go home with some great memories. Why come to Thailand and get into a complex relationship that will NEVER work out. You’re supposed to be here on a holiday? But if you want to be a philanthropist I’m sure there are plenty of girls that are willing to take your cash off your hands. As far as bringing her to your country? Big mistake!!! You never take the crocodile out of the swamp.

[@stevekostakis2983]

Well summarised. 100 % TRUE

[@rubennilsson5416]

You wrote it before me. Well said!

[@bighoss9705]

I hear ya. I have one now trying for a long game even tho I live here in Thailand. At the bar she works at she actually paid her own barfine and for both of our drinks when I told her I was done seeing her. In the morning I put her "fee" on the coffee table and she refused to take it. True story. These ladies are very good at what they do.

[@L-Nino]

@@bighoss9705 I believe it! Like I say never try to figure them out because they run on a complete different spin cycle than the rest of us

[@L-Nino]

@@rubennilsson5416 well I’m glad I’m not the only one who knows these things…

[@Zen36977]

These guys that toot their horn about what a great catch they are seem to be the most delusional and easiest to dupe because they think they’re so above the games these girls play 😂

[@silly_hammy1]

It's called low self esteem

[@amarchhabra2175]

Could also be undiagnosed high functioning autism or some type of neurodivergency

[@Zen36977]

@@amarchhabra2175 Or could be pride cometh before the fall. ☺️

[@Pretty-Pink-Mink]

They search for a Thai girl because they have no luck with their own women at home.

[@Gabrie177]

Delusional isn't even a word for those guys.

[@tessiemaucuer6297]

Dan, your advice is totally brutal honest, Bravo!

[@markwright7848]

Might be brutal, but it's true

[@kennethmcgurn3830]

Marriage is a bad deal for men. Period. Dating can be a good deal with the right woman. Thailand is a great country, and affordable, for dating sweet women. A single man is a happy man.

[@EricFoemmel]

No wife, happy life

[@ihanakaunotar2741]

Statistics would prove other wise for men, but each to their own.

[@regnorse]

@@ihanakaunotar2741 outdated sociology 101 bs

[@benleno]

Long story where nothing actually happened except stroking his own ego

[@samsongomah1318]

True. I tend to take people less seriously when they self-promote themselves up the ying-yang.

[@stephanguitar9778]

Think he was looking to confirm his confused, unsure and fearful self. And as we all know, nothing is guaranteed in any relationship.

[@cash4cat]

Any woman or ladyboy that can speak a foreign language or Multiple languages, is very smart and will be very good at their profession.

[@genestone4951]

And if you are falang who speaks Thai, its really fun to hide your power level. Speaking Thai (or even worse, Esan) is the one thing that truly terrifies the girls.

[@marcuslouisson5498]

maybe my experience in thailand is if she is uneducated, and she can speak relatively good english , one has to ask oneself , where did she learn such good english , newsflash , she learned it from her customers, ie men , durrr, its a huge red flag in terms of concidering a long term relationship, if you have an uneasy feel about her , just randomly ask to swap phones, its her reaction that will give her away, not the physical act of handing the phone over, works a treat

[@guyvandercruycen2830]

That means that she already had lots of men.

[@kevt9189]

Been to Thailand many times got involved with a Thai girl my advice is to be aware of what you bring to the relationship and that is resources if you live with her in Thailand know that whatever you have bought there house ,business or money be prepared to walk away without any of it if you can do that and still be ok then enjoy the ride. Brought mine to my home country a few times on a Holiday visa then worked with her in a business together she is a good worker, good company and looks after me cooks cleans etc been seven years now so far so good just thought I’d give your audience a different story than most of them on here.

[@brucekellam5203]

Ditto!

[@johnm6691]

Great show mate, but those moronic stories, my advice to newcomers,as the old school say "BUYER BEWARE"

[@richardbond4496]

she isnt yours its just your turn what could go wrong?

[@evilchaperone]

Yup. You don't lose your girl, you lose your turn.

[@philipcryptolover95]

Congrats on hitting 8K subscribers. Well-deserved, and onwards and upwards. About Julie & Karen, forget about them. They are to be avoided, but for different reasons. The reason Julie did not ask for money is either she does not need it because she earning enough from her salary & tips or more likely she already has multiple sponsors. She is only stringing you along for when one of her sponsors falls by the wayside. Karen may be looking for money or maybe not. There are not enough details to make a judgement. The clingy obsessive girls, of which they are many in Thailand, are to be avoided as much as the greedy bargirls. They may not drain you financially, but they certainly will drain you mentally and emotionally.

[@thaitalkwithdan]

Thanks Philip 🤝

[@TannhauserGate]

Love your vids Dan. The use of the memes adds context to your thoughts and speaks a thousand words 😂 Keep 'em going mate!

[@thaitalkwithdan]

Cheers Brad appreciate the positive words 👍🤝

[@dimbelgium]

yeah hilarious i loved the one with the girl in the coconut tree lmao

[@masteryancodesan]

man you need a Leo after reading that long crapper! :D

[@thaitalkwithdan]

It has taken me around 6 hours this video 😅🙈 don't ask 😅 chickens, temple music, fireworks, editing etc... I was planning on making 3 videos today but now I'm lay in bed having a rest 🤯😂

[@masteryancodesan]

@@thaitalkwithdan its hot as hell today too XD

[@paulinegiles5757]

Good job, Dan. You always tell it as it is 😊

[@ismith9826]

she doesn’t want red roses 🌹- she’d like gold tho ! Where do these guys come from ? Any guy picking up a prostitute in Nana plaza gets all he deserves if he thinks it’s anything other than transactional

[@Flymike53]

Spot on Dan!! Bro you can’t control this, no matter how you self justify what you’re doing Dan is right, see her again if you want if you return to Thailand but kill the idea it’s ever going to be a genuine relationship. Stop wasting your love and time. Instead find someone who’s worth the investment, I’ve been where you are now, you can’t blame her and I’m sure she’s great company but it’s what she does to make a living. Stop engaging in this type of thinking with girls like this mate. It’s going nowhere.

[@RayStatham]

Bang on advice Dan, great example story and dissection of how things work here.

[@davidrobinson5265]

I met a girl over in the Caribbean, she was on tinder, but was selling sex down to nothing more than necessity, she hated it, and genuinely wanted to stop, she had a few debts, and all she wanted to do get back to her family but had no money to be able to clear some accommodation debt and get straight. I sorted this out for her, and she forever grateful. Some people need a leg up. It’s just money, I have plenty of it, I rather help one person and know where my money went, than send it to a charity , then ends up invested in some fund and penny’s go to the people on the the ground.

[@wowerman]

Giving people money does not change them.Even with best intensions.Adults have capacity of changing their lives.

[@rozyue1177]

Learn a skill , don’t give fish , teach them to fish They are still young , they can change BUT , they want fast easy money !

[@zenglider2145]

She probably has no skills which is why she sold her sexuality. And having done it for awhile, her identity and pride are now dependent upon customers affirming her desirability. Giving her money will not change that and in fact delays her hitting bottom which is the only chance she has of quitting the trade.

[@davidrobinson5265]

@@zenglider2145 they don’t hit the bottom though until there sexually is all spent, and by then they are knackered, but, you are right, since that post, she’s constantly asking for more and more money, won’t do anything for herself, and it’s easier to sleep with men than actually get a job. But without skills it’s difficult. She believes in god though ! All these poor people do. It’s like there last hope .

[@ihanakaunotar2741]

Well it can help in the end, now if she ends up in same situation again, I would not help her.

[@underworldringside]

Amazing stuff. I forget these birds a day after. He dosent understand reality. If his such a catch find a normal girl

[@RickTheBoss98]

I do wonder whether they are normal women to the local Thai man the girl from my High School who was considered one of the prettiest got into escorting after a rough relationship with a boyfriend and no one that knows the aspect of her past would ever get into a long-term relationship with her now I wonder if this reality of British culture translate over to Thailand once a woman becomes a bar girl is that like a black stain on her reputation in terms of long-term relationships with local men

[@underworldringside]

@@RickTheBoss98 there parents influence it. There shitttt people

[@cccbeats_]

@@RickTheBoss98I think it is. That’s why you see a lot of them posting on their social media profiles about how they want a husband, but they’re always single. It’s because they don’t want to give up the lifestyle, but at the same time they expect a Thai guy to be a husband to them. Yeah, it doesn’t work like that, which is why they end up working in those bars for years on end, and are single.

[@rickylee6129]

Good Video Dan 😊. Keep the video's comin. Stay Safe 💕 💞 🙏 🙏

[@Sick_Buffalo]

Honestly, I do not feel sorry for guys like him. He is not a teenager. Either this story is made up (most likely) or his IQ is barely over 75. In any case, he earned The Grand Simp Medal of Honor.

[@rozyue1177]

He went for sex and appearance , no need to feel sorry for him . These girls /men are professionals in squeezing money fr foolish men. . They must be laughing😂😂😂 behind their backs

[@johnniedee5884]

Sick buffalo

[@bighoss9705]

This man seems very confused. I don't get what he's up to. What is it that HE wants? You paid her 60k baht and never had a go with her? What do you think SHE'S thinking about that? If you don't want to do it with her maybe she thinks you're not interested. Then you parade another girl in front of her in a public place? Sorry mate but if she did have any feelings for you in the beginning she definitely doesn't have any after you did that. In this country losing face is a big deal. You think to try to make her jealous? She's way ahead of you on that. She knows. What he did was very foolish. Yes he has a lot of money but why waste it on nothing? Seems to me he's in love with her. Time to move on and chalk it up to experience.

[@philipcryptolover95]

He doesn't pay for sex, but paid her 60K THB for no sex!!

[@stephanguitar9778]

My brother got involved with a Thai woman from some online site 20 years ago. He went over there, met her and things progressed and so they got hitched and she quite happily moved to Australia. Since then all of his friends got divorced from their Aus wives and married Thai women. In their local working class outer suburban community this collective of Thai women/Aus Men grew to several hundred over a few years and I met at least 30 of them. Fast forward a few years and just about all of them are divorced. Why? with only one exception that I know of (and she was an obvious scammer from the start), the women got sick of the men's habits of drinking, smoking, gambling and womanising on the side. This included my brother who's wife was an amazing person. All of these women came from poverty of course and appreciated the ability to work in Australia and they all did these menial jobs in laundries, chicken farms, cleaning hotels etc and didn't complain. These women though were all in their 30s and nearly all had been abandoned by their Thai partners and all had kids and as such had enough real life experience to know what was worth having or not, ie far more ideal partners than say a 20 year old beauty queen. To make this story more interesting, nealy all these divorced guys went on to find and marry Pilipino women who it would seem are far better at scamming than Thai's. All of them were up to date with Australian law around children and property ownership in the event of divorce etc so some of these guys very quickly found out they had been had, many of them, even in their 50s or in one case his 70s got these girls pregnant and bingo, the house was theirs and 'Jack the lad' was off having to live in a caravan or a tent.

[@RafaAldez]

Sounds exactly like Western women.

[@derrickadamski9319]

Hey, Keep up the Good work..!! Love Your Stories..!!!

[@Referee006]

Great video, Dan, trying to help your brothers with tough love.

[@rogomcrog62]

Dan you should make a clip of the Funeral BANG !! and use it at the start of the video's 🤣🤣. Another great story buddy. Well done.

[@thaitalkwithdan]

Haha it shocked me that, it was actually a wedding 😂 I'll definitely save that clip 😁

[@lovemarie5690]

Well Said Dan. Hope People are listening. Been through it myself many times sad your channel wasnt around back then. Im one of the lucky ones found the lady maybe one day i will tell you my stories :-) keep up the good work

[@leejones3219]

Shop for a Wife at the Mall or local restaurant. First get out of the tourist areas.

[@stephendufort4154]

GLAD U MAKING SUCH REALITY CHECK STORIES

[@googleuser2609]

Excellent assessment and advice!

[@joseph317]

Her priority is the bar ....she proved it even when 50 thou baht was given what more convincing do you need.

[@mrmustard007]

Great advice Dan : luv this show

[@joemann2178]

I'm in a 5 year Long Con it seems, my Thai girlfriend goes to work, pays half the bills and looks after me really well for 5 years now. She wanted a bicycle recently so she could come with me in the mornings when I do a 20 or 30km ride around the countryside. I was suspicious but bought her one, but I think I was too soft and didn't see it coming. Now I'm not sure what to do because I really like her and we seem to have a lot of fun together. She doesn't want to come to my home country to live, but maybe that's because she knows I want to stay in Thailand. It's all so confusing hearing the stories here about Thai women, and being in a new 5 year relationship with a Thai woman it's a bit worrying. Maybe I should have gone to Pattaya as people tend to prefer the women there. Congrats on 8k too Dan!

[@rockon8174]

Have you met her family?

[@joemann2178]

@@rockon8174 yes, really nice family. Suspicious eh!

[@VittoShulman]

She obviously wants to entrap you deeper before cleaning you out. Did you buy a house yet? That's probably what is her long term goal is.

[@thaitalkwithdan]

You have a good girl Joe 😁👍👌

[@cash4cat]

My wife runs a successful business and still comes home to cook for me every night, 17 year long con, I'm a little worried too😁

[@danieljones332]

"Me love you long time." Perfect.

[@reggaevibes100]

Dude sounds super self absorbed and and the last kind of person I would want to hung out with.

[@peekingmanofficial]

Good advice at the end buddy. Im dealing with a similar situation, right now.

[@anthonyduckworth1098]

Yes Handsome Dan, me watching Long time…..😂

[@thaitalkwithdan]

😂😂😂

[@thaitalkwithdan]

Thanks for becoming a member Anthony 🤝

[@garyrobinson8665]

This guy doesnt seem to realise he was simping as soon as he bought the first bar girl a drink.

[@Male666chauvinist]

@@bigbrother4ever love your comment completely agree 100%

[@neilyounan3241]

It’s called Escapism that’s what we all feel and do when we arrive in Thailand as if it’s Fantasy island where everything will work itself out which it never happens

[@Paul_in_Thailand]

That clip of that woman makes me roll up. I love the way you edit these videos Dan. What film is it? I have to watch that film now. Oh congratulations on the 8k.

[@DavidB-fo5vu]

Full metal jacket

[@belze0n885]

29 Min, my day couldn't start any better.

[@RickTheBoss98]

I'm looking to go to Thailand soon and find these stories very interesting definitely think I'm going to stay away from the bar scene at this point I feel like even if I met the most genuine person in Thailand ill be suspicious if them

[@Randy-lg1qo]

No, go to the bars and get some of the girls. Kick em out after ur fun and have a good night’s sleep. Don’t give them ur number (or get a burner phone for ur time there). When ur a kid, u didn’t move into Disneyland after a great holiday, same applies here

[@kokikoki12345]

Life is to short.go explore ❤❤❤❤

[@scambodia147]

Keep it that way

[@garyzies3486]

Whenever you start trusting anyone there, you'll know that you're on the wrong track!

[@RickTheBoss98]

@@garyzies3486 thanks I will keep this in mind true is I'm a deviant so I'm trusting them they're definitely trusting me which means I'm about to do something awful 😎

[@mgvikings1484]

I didn't get his point, what was he after in this "not relationship" ? I assume as long as he does not want "intimacy" with the girl and pays, he is the best customer ever possible. Once he wants more, and does not want to pay, he will notice thta there was in fact never any connection....

[@billestep6804]

No way that 40 yr old dude thinks that 25 yo truly loves him.

[@3franksandarock]

7:58 - The reaction to a gunshot going off from what seems like a few feet away!!

[@glen7849]

Would have probably been fireworks, they go off in the village when someone dies to let everyone know and again during the funeral, it happens where I am

[@belze0n885]

Best part ever, you could use this in the future like the movie scenes...rural thailand😅

[@jamesh8862]

The first problem that the average beta cannot ever seem to comprehend is that sex/intimacy does not equal love. The second problem is that you cannot turn a h0e into a housewife. The third problem is that you cannot white knight your way in to save a broken woman. Her trauma/mental health issues or whatever is afflicting her require far far more treatment that you are capable of giving her. To sex workers, you are not their first rodeo. They've seen it, done it & had it before you. To the social media, OF thots, you are not the only one sending them compliments or trying to slide into their DM's. All this thirsting & simping does is make their ego's worse & with that, their attitudes become even more sh1tty. To men out there...have some ffffing self respect.

[@regnorse]

well said

[@Lion_ofJudah]

This type of guy is pure gold for the "bar" girls and there are plenty of man like this.... thats why thai girls will always have a job and make good money, the loop never ends :)))

[@hectorjones5780]

Another example of "my girl is different", this guy claims to have a lot of the experience dealing with working girls, but it does not appear like he does and acts more like a newbie, as he ignores several of the red flags. He also tried to make himself look good in the eyes of the girl by not demanding for sex, while still paying for her company, and instead presented himself as an easy target and inviting the girls to take advantage of him. Don't worry mate, been there, done that just learn from your mistakes and enjoy the experience for what it is, Find them, F*ck them, Forget them, nothing more.

[@stefanodisperati1391]

The fragility and insecurity of that man is unbearable! Holy moly 10 min of introducing him like if anyone care, and then got a prostitute to find out that - OMGGGG she's a prostitute! Where those suckers are bred: I have a Trevi Fountain to sell. They don't deserve to have any money: better take from them and use them properly

[@Jackthesmilingblack]

There's the mother's operation, the younger brother's next motor bike payment, but my all-time favourite was "the water buffalo needs a new school uniform". Researching my book was the cover story. Jack, the Japan Alps Brit

[@notinservice3724]

love the stories and the extra film clips for punctuation

[@mikerobinson2201]

Good job, your a stand up guy! Thanks

[@dannmm6745]

50k and no aerobics... I would even love you too mate 😂😂😂

[@Chris-to7qs]

Dan Being brutally honest is the only way to make people understand and not fall in to this trap that meny people including myself in the past these bar girls are no more then sex workers that are out to make money and extract as much as thay can out of you, anybody who gets involved with these girls dont be under any illusions that thay are realy in love with you cos there not like Dan said thay will try every trick in the book to suck you in you can have a hissy fit and disagree with what i am saying, but money is the main driving force with thai womon

[@nikkimclay5474]

of course it is, you are in a third world country, poverty rules

[@kokikoki12345]

With everyone same story ❤❤❤❤❤

[@rozyue1177]

They are fr very poor backgrounds

[@biashacker]

These stories are great.

[@jazzyjez]

How to spot a SIMP * Describes himself as Christian Bale * Denies and continues to say hes not a simp. * Pays for company * Goes to go-go bars and falls for workers * Keeps justifing that he is well off to pay for her company. * If any were missed, please add more.

[@FIZZYTOP]

Bald headed usually Wears tight under armour shirts Has pot belly

[@stingray4real]

Pays a 'vet fee' for a sickness buffalo in the Thai village.

[@lste]

Another great story and narration. Many thanks.

[@evilchaperone]

When I lived outside of Pattaya, I had a pretty sweet setup. I hired a mamasan to take care of things like cleaning my place, doing my laundry, and delivering meals during the weekdays. Then, on weekends, I would hit up the agogo bar scene and book a girl-friendly hotel. Every Friday, I'd find a stunner and spend the weekend lounging and partying at the hotel pool. I treated these workers like princesses: generous with the cash, taking them shopping for new outfits, getting their hair and nails done, pampering them, and taking them out to nice meals. It was always clear from the start that our time together was a business transaction, with a strict three-day limit. No games. As soon as they acted up, they were gone. I had an absolute blast during the year I was there. And I made sure to follow one crucial rule: never take a Thai girl back to your condo or let her know where you live!

[@aimandjulian3195]

sometimes its nice to be conned

[@yojimbo8695]

Oh SHIT! Now that was fucken funny! A 12 gauge pops off you jumped and then said. "A funeral." I fell out. I mean we're talking tears dogg. I even said as I was laughing. "You think!?" Because if it wasn't!? It sure as shit is one NOW!" I have never jumped at gun shots. Or car crashes or anything loud. I have never jumped at people jumping out at me. I have never understood that I have no idea,why I'm like this. But what you did and said was hilarious. First time you made me laugh. BANDIT.

[@jonnya1034]

Camera man is cool I love his attitude. I’m from Melbourne 👍

[@AzShahid-allthingsThai]

Dan your b role cracks me up keep up the great work mate 👍🏼

[@thaitalkwithdan]

Thanks 👍😁😅

[@martinkenna6735]

Dan's listeners say 'hi Dan great advice big fan you told me not to marry the deadly lion!' Well guess what Dan I married the deadly tiger instead' Lol Norman wisdom lives on in these guys. Lol

[@MA-pp4pr]

Dating a “Western woman” also “costs”. So, in the end…..you had a “good time” with the Thai go-go girl even though it felt like you were just dating (without getting “intimate”). You’ve left Thailand and have a memory and some stories to tell. IMHO……Women come and go. Thus, is LIFE.

[@aidjunkie5335]

You’re doing a great job Dan, love your videos. Even if you save just one poor chap from loosing everything then your job is done. As they say, rent everything, even your flange.

[@jacobramseyer5275]

These guys really need to do the research when they say the girl was involved with a crappy guy. If a girl's involved with a crappy guy that usually means she's a crappy person herself.

[@jonhobson3592]

Not always but mainly yes I agree

[@TF-mw4sy]

Dan, thank you for calling it what it is- sex working. Any "work" includes a business transaction between the business and a customer. Nothing is free. ❤

[@Thailand_fan17]

I’d love you to conduct some interviews with bar girls and hear some of their horror stories ?

[@tapptom]

Use the 3 F’s rule it always works!!! That Brit accent?????

[@JohnLongGold]

When a beautiful girl suddenly was interested in me, I would just turn and walk away. Cos I know myself, I ain’t no one famous and i am not the most handsome man out there, also I ain’t a millionaire . This is the way I always protect myself.

[@WesselGermishuizen]

Damn this guy loves himself so much, he probably also has a 20" member as well in his eyes. Not Dan to be clear :)

[@drfunkmaster]

I have said it plenty of times. They belong to the cracks of the streets

[@charming_farang1071]

Love the memes lol

[@gotasification]

Thai girls when they see anglo saxons rolling down laughing with tears

[@mattkearsey812]

Haha… keep your money in your pocket and treat her like she’s a normal women you’ve met!

[@VooDooMaGicMan81]

Whoever wrote that story is incredibly insecure at heart. Feel for him, narcissism is an ugly affliction.

[@Pfsif]

Who's the narcissist?

[@amarchhabra2175]

Could have high functioning autism or some type of neurodivergency too.

[@mrmustard007]

“ Buy she’s different “ title of my book on the Thailand hustle . 😂

[@Sigma-In-Asia]

Yeah, yeah yeah. Versions of this story is all we ever hear about. But there is another possible outcome. We just don’t hear stories that don't fit the narrative. A guy I served with in Bangkok during the Vietnam War married his bar-girl girlfriend. She went back to America with him, learned English, got a job, and became an American citizen. They've been married 45+ years now. Another ex-Thai bar girl I knew, was a 4th-year student in the same teacher education program as me. These stories are in the minority, but they do exist.

[@Sigma-In-Asia]

@@bigbrother4ever I lived in Thailand from 2010 - 2019. By then I wisely stayed out of bars. I currently live in The Philippines, married to an older English-speaking Filipina. Happy retired life, no drama

[@Sigma-In-Asia]

@@bigbrother4ever Yes, Philippines IS a lot less dramatic than Thailand. In the 9+ years I was there, even though I spoke fluent every-day Thai, I could not find a suitable mate there. Several wanted to marry my bank account and the ones who were financially ok claimed they wanted to remain single and independent. Maybe they were holding out for someone with a bigger bank balance. I don't know. Anyway, I was continually being friend-zoned. My Filipina wife works part-time and contributes significantly to the household budget.

[@Sigma-In-Asia]

@@bigbrother4ever I walked into a restaurant in Bangkok once and asked the waitress to bring me a menu. When she returned to my table, she asked in English, "Are you single?". I said I was. She replied, "I am too! Why don't we get together?". She didn't know anything about me, not even my name! That would have been a disaster waiting to happen!

[@Sigma-In-Asia]

@@bigbrother4ever Instant girlfriend, just add money

[@michaelh878]

Yes a lot of girls want to get out the industry. But do they want to get out with you? Do you have more to offer (not just money) than the next guys offering it to her.

[@ianlewis2813]

✔ All the boxes 😂

[@garylee4107]

We gain experience by listening to guy like you! 😜 😁

[@smith077906]

Mother Teresa doesnt hang around Thai bars. You aren't helping anybody, not even yourself.

[@PickleRick65]

50,000 baht is only about $1500. That's Nothing. The amount is probably Much Higher🙄

[@franco7928]

Well done Dan !

[@daveshaw5293]

Great video dan great advice keep it up 👌simple equation here in Thailand - thai girls want money and falang want thai girls simple 👍

[@TOBY5783]

When will these fellas enjoy it for what it is ? A business transformation.

[@KantoCafe715]

One thing i never understood- that girl walking sexy in the mini skirt at the beginning of the video. Girls who act like that in the UK would get spat on and called sl*gs* by both men and women. In the UK girls massively have to reign in their sexuality so they dont draw attention.. maybe the UK is more conservative than it thinks. But anyway it always confused me that womens sexual expression was so strictly policed in the UK but then guys go to other countries where its ok and fall all over the women there. Russia js a good place, where women can wear what they like. Thailand seems very liberal and open minded too.

[@Combavski]

Hey Dan! I'm not sure exactly how here in KZbinland I came upon the topic of like sex tourists going to Thailand.. I don't fit the target demograpic at all; I'm a European woman who's never been to Thailand and know little about the country (I do have a massive interest in muay thai though). I don't even have hubby/partner who've run off with some gorgeous young thai woman😄! Still, I enjoy particularly your vids Dan👍 (BTW the bits from American Psycho you used in this one is absolutely effing hilarious🤣🤣🤣)! What I'm definitely intrigued by is the human psyche, intercultural psychology etc. That's probably why I like your channel so much Dan. The concept and even usage of the word itself -SCAM- I find quite fascinating in this context. Of course it's almost impossible for people to step back and look objectively at a situation they got themselves into if they're emotionally involved. My observations and thoughts aren't particularly aimed at the anonymous guy in the story, they're more general. It seems like a lot of the stories of heart- and money ache are a result of the guys moving the goalpost. Before going over there I don't think any bloke going to Thailand to find boomboom is naive enough to think they can just turn up all skint and have the women falling over themselves to jump into bed with them (if there are actually blokes that naive, they won't have enough money to travel because they spent it all on buying a bridge or two). If you have potential girlfriends galore at home you probably wouldn't go to Thailand to hook up. Of course you can go for the other touristy reasons like weather, food, cheap living, friendly people etc but I'm talking about the strictly boomboom posse. So, they go, they choose a woman who in most cases would be out of their league if it was at home, no need to worry too much about how to pull women, they pay various associated costs and voila there's the boomboom! And they can do the whole thing again the next night with a different woman. I don't have any moral issues at all with it: if it's beneficial to both parties and everything's consensual then who is anyone else to moralise about it. If the bloke happens to fall for one of the ladies though, it seems like in HIS mind the relationship has changed from service provider and client to something else. The needs he wants met have changed somewhat from just boomboom to boomboom but with real intimacy. What are her needs? Money. Pure and simple. They haven't changed. Don't we all want to get paid as much as possible for our WORK? The ladies have a chance to make more income if they can give the client as realistic a girlfriend experience as possible and they're going to find different ways to do just that. They're professional girlfriends. These broken-hearted guys who end up financially challenged once the illusion has shattered and they realise that "their woman" never actually quit her job in the bar to sit at home and wait for "her" foreign "boyfriend" to call from half across the world... THEN matey realises it was all "a scam". IMO that's completely unfair. Did you pay for her services initially? Did she provide a service ie did she behave like a girlfriend after you confessed your feelings for her? Did you compensate her by paying money for leaving the bar behind? The two of you had a business relationship to begin with and YOU were the one who wanted it "evolved" when it suited you. She tried to comply but since when can you simply decide who you're gonna fall in love with? I obviously don't know this but I wouldn't be surprised if the women whose job it is to sell their time have some kind of principle as well as some personal sentiment to not fall in love with their clients. How many of the blokes are in relationships back home that the Thai lady knows nothing about? So how likely are they to stay faithful? Are they going to trade their potential Thai girlfriend for a younger one at some point? Or maybe they just get bored and want to try something new like they did when they first arrived as a boomboom tourist. Remember guys, nobody is getting younger and since the ladies won't be able to support themselves plus clan indefinitely in this service they're going to be eager to make as much earnings as possible. Also guys, be brutally honest with yourselves. If you've been constantly "unlucky in love" there might be something about you that the ladies aren't too keen on. Whereas maybe back home you've been straight up told to eff off, the Thai ladies may be willing to put up with it but for a price. I think GENERALLY SPEAKING, people tend to look for a partner who's fairly similar to themselves culturally speaking. It's easier to understand one another's intentions, priorities in life etc. Of course there are exceptions and you have to really have something to offer besides money. I'd say that if the two of you have started off as boomboom client and service provider I reckon the chances for genuine intimacy are minuscule. Even if you did manage to find it, imagine all that baggage being dragged into the relationship from both sides from day one. If you're a drama queen then it may be something for you. I reckon most people want as easy a life as possible when it comes to relationships. Wow this became one long observation! Nearly finished now. To the blokes who feel "scammed": IF there was a scam involved it was your feelings perpetrating the scam on you. Unless there's violence, the threat of it or proper brain washing by say a narcissist or a cult, It's very difficult to force someone to do something against their will. You could have said no if she asked/insinuated for money but you were probably worried she'd leave you if you did. Sane people don't have guardians looking out for their interests. You're gonna have to sort that out yourself. If you made a mistake then sorry about that but own it and learn from it. Don't put it on "your" thai lady. She didn't put some kind of spell on you.

[@bighoss9705]

Very good analogy. I think the same way. It really isn't a "scam" per se in most of these scenarios. A scam is someone misrepresenting a item. If you buy a used car that has 2000 miles on it and you find out it actually has 80000 then you have been scammed. In most cases these guys just fork over the money, many times without the lady not even asking for it.

[@samsongomah1318]

A typical feminist spin to put the problem on men. Don't fall for it, guys.

[@dmitriikurilov3662]

You are quite right, men often call it a scam when their expectations are not met but in reality their problem is having unrealistic expectations. In addition, I would say that it is really hard for us to have an objective picture of ourselves, we see ourselves not the same as other people see us. So, some people overestimate their attractiveness while other people seriously underestimate themselves. The most disappointed guys are those who believed that they were good enough for their Thai "girlfriends" while in reality those women were barely able to put up with their appearance/manners/smell (pick whatever you like). The key to survival as I see it is the ability to see things as they are, not as we want them to be. For example, I really enjoyed the company of the Thai freelancer who were almost 20 years younger than me and I think that we had generally good time together (at least I did all I could to be a good company) but I never believed even for a moment that the girl would seriously consider me as a life partner. 20 years is a bottomless chasm, it is the next generation whether I want to admit it or not...

[@VooDooMaGicMan81]

They use emotional manipulation and deception tactics from the start. How can you argue over the term 'scam' when those are main components she brings to the table? Your definition of the term is wrong anyway, does a phone scammer calling from the sub continent use threats of violence or cult-like behaviour? There are many ways to manipulate another person mentally, and female nature isn't exactly wired to go down the direct route to intimidation and violence, they often have far more effective strategies. Sounds like you'd rather naive, uninformed Western men get fleeced by these predators rather than help spread the warning to them. Would you say the Caribbean and African guys who take advantage of older Western women are also not involved in scams?

[@VooDooMaGicMan81]

@@bighoss9705 They're misrepresenting their feelings and intentions!! That's predatory, selfish behaviour.

[@TheMicmicmic9]

The guy is so full of himself!

[@Derrick-g9n]

Simply Kinjo..!! Mak Mak..!!! Lol 😆

[@BigFishLittleTank]

@3:23 is that the ‘ghost busters theme’ in a strip club 😂

[@coreycallan9392]

How can we talk Dan I have questions and a happy story

[@thaitalkwithdan]

You can email [e-mail]

[@antifugazi]

Punctuation marks??

[@James-ws6du]

old sailor here yes i have seen this happen before

[@ClovisPoint]

Got a ''Long Con'' ,from a Mongol woman ,a thai woman and especially a Chinese one

[@davidssunstar]

Man thanks for the video.. That guy is just explaining away failure

[@stevenmapu5289]

Mean video brother Brutally honest is the way

[@Zen36977]

You’re a good man Dan.

[@burtonknows9201]

LOL! People aren't confused; they're stupid to think a bar girl will become your girlfriend or wife.

[@Ajax-wo3gt]

Don't date sex workers... Jeez, just catching on, mate?

[@DanneyTanner]

Start doing interviews with guys and their Ex-Wives from the West. I bet they have stories to tell too😮