Aba Talks To Destiny About The Situation.

Aba checks in on Destiny and talks to him about the Melina situation..
Aba N Preach
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Date: 12 Dec, 2023
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[@destiny]

Destiny Reveals The Flaws That Ended His Marriage ►kzbin.info/www/bejne/aWOVgYiGiJere6M

[@Ammall-rt9xd]

Good luck, I hope you recover from this marriage!

[@sarhan_]

Thank your mods for constantly time outing me during the live

[@punkrockgalbenevenelse3659]

Happy Birthday Destiny

[@ProperMethodz]

Aba is your best 'friend' man. He genuinely is looking out for you. I'm sure you recognize this, don't take it for granted.

[@justinklein9756]

Destiny and Aba. Two of my favourite

[@largeman1624]

When Aba turned to Destiny and said "maybe the real divorce is the friends we made along the way"… I felt that

[@capo4ever334]

Felt it in my prostate, personally

[@shekel2356]

I clapped

[@IL_Bgentyl]

I stood up

[@youtubeviolatedme7123]

I came

[@malikshabazz2065]

so true

[@Richard-tg2lb]

forget all of that redpill shit. this is proof that you can have a normal, wholesome, platonic conversation between a man and a woman

[@RainCityDrip]

Bars

[@499y60iogbuy]

Destiny is a girls name

[@ultrasound1459]

@@499y60iogbuy 🤡

[@crazyguywatchnu]

The redpill that predicted his divorce?

[@EvilPineappl]

Don't let this comment distract you from the fact that Aba is a girl's name

[@Winn3r__]

I love seeing the black community come together to talk about relationships.

[@hoopslaa5235]

You said White wrong.

[@anubis7457]

@@hoopslaa5235Destiny is a black woman

[@fancypotato2188]

He doesn't know. Sadge

[@ceciliale5276]

Lmfao

[@GikamesShadow]

But a man and woman discussing men's issues?

[@Gary-And-His-Demons]

Aba is such a solid and genuine guy. I really think it's nice that he came down to check on his friend.

[@bw5020]

I love it.

[@darklightprojector2688]

Aba one of the dudes who smashed, him being Destiny's friend is how got close to her lmao Seriously, yall aint see stuff like this?

[@icu3869]

Destiny”Thx for the present- when is YOUR birthday?” Aba: in April” Destiny: “ DO YOU THINK WE’LL STILL BE FRIENDS THEN?’ What kind of weirdo SAYS THAT?! Wtf

[@nicholeb2746]

This was a beautiful video. Nothing but good things coming to these two.

[@nicholeb2746]

​@@icu3869bc ppl are so fake and fickle- and unfriend ppl for isreal takes or less.

[@ScottLovenberg]

Aba is a certified Real One. If you've got a dude like him in your life, you're blessed.

[@nezmustard]

Aba is like a professional IRL relationship guy, and Destiny is like the Online guy.. gotta hang out regular people more. Hanging out with Entertainers all the time would be wild.. lived in LA for a bit it can get a lil gross

[@Classikh]

@@nezmustardHe’s had normal relationships with non entertainers in his life tho. He’s originally from Nebraska and hasn’t lived in LA for a while

[@thekemplarfiles]

Where Is your Wife Scott?

[@TheTiredhermit]

A real one who bitched him online

[@Kordikk696]

Im Aba

[@Murderbits]

Aba the kind of dude that hears you had a breakup and brings over some beer and burgers and keeps you company so you don't dwell on shit too much. I never in my wildest imagination thought I'd see two people I watched separately like Aba and Destiny become friends and collaborate, but it's probably one of the best things to have happened here. It's always a pleasure to have Aba drop in.

[@moonknight4053]

Damn he really is that type of friend, thts how I’m tryna be in my relationships to others. Tryna be a good cxnt it’s worth it, I got a lot of love to give

[@gabrielegagliardi3956]

I image a chat question like "Hey Destiny, do you consider Aba your friend?" "Friend is a big word, we made several collaborators together, he's fine and blablabla". Destiny is emotionally detached and defensive when it comes to relationships, so I don't know who really consider a friend.

[@fanaticalspud323]

@@gabrielegagliardi3956 Im sure hes referred to Aba as a friend before. In fact Id go a step further and say Im sure he's broken down his relationship with almost all of his orbiters after the whole Brittany thing

[@diemay_4997]

Myron no diffs

[@dlwf11111]

He’s also the type of friend to passionately dance with your wife not just infront of you but infront of your whole audience, making you look like a joke.

[@manasesa.davila1828]

Aba's the most normal human you interact with.

[@xbabu142x]

I've never understood that barometer myself, but I guess it's why me mum always told me that I wouldn't need to worry about stranger danger, since compared to me, I'd fine none stranger.

[@kidathlete]

Honestly Aba acts quite different to normal humans, his level of social awareness and compassion isn't something that most people even consider

[@manasesa.davila1828]

@@xbabu142x 😂😂

[@manasesa.davila1828]

@kidathlete Yea you're right. I guess by that I mean most reasonable.

[@Naptosis]

100% the only reason Destiny doesn't want to sleep with him, is because Aba isn't mental.

[@streetninja510]

Black men supporting black women. We love to see it.

[@kidn00b1]

Holy Hell

[@spht9ng]

UNITY ✊🏿

[@supernova7848]

As they should !

[@whateveryoulikeilike6475]

what I see is black women slandering black men when was the unity@@kidn00b1

[@wallysvideos]

Why you bringing Boze into this?

[@kavanasama4365]

Aba came down to Miami to check in on his homie. Everyone needs a friend like Aba and everyone needs to try to be a friend like Aba.

[@dominicdunn2579]

Just want you to know that this comment hits

[@sv7017]

cmon. They will split the profit 🙄

[@arielvega6344]

​@@sv7017 And thats inherently bad? To be friends, hang out and get paid to do it?

[@sv7017]

@@arielvega6344 Which had priority? I know the answer.

[@arielvega6344]

@@sv7017 You sound schizo. Who cares if they make money... go make your own, and move on.

[@kevinschraa7210]

idk if im being parasocial or not but this, to me, looks like a quality friendship Destiny doesnt seem to have publicly very often. Aba can actually check him on his quirks without attacking him and be upfront with boundaries without it being cringe. Was awesome to see the friendship talking on big, difficult, common issues that so many face in relationships, their personalities, and picking/fighting battles.

[@susanthejew6351]

don't forget he has a son who he neglets destiny doesn't deserve nice things

[@SamwiseIWStan]

@@susanthejew6351 You don't know what neglects means my guy.

[@AnimosityIncarnate]

​@@SamwiseIWStan Tbh destiny was the one neglected from listening about their "cold parenting".

[@nicholeb2746]

Yall need to worry about the details in your own life. These comments is wild!

[@kirknichols178]

Everyone needs a friend like Aba. Don't you lose him, Destiny!

[@aupoorbosarkar6462]

Knowing destiny there's a high chance he will burn this bridge at some point

[@jp32123]

Don’t say that to Destiny, say that to Aba. Aba acts like he’s too cool for school whenever he drops by and tells Destiny that he came for a salsa thing or to meet up with some other friend, and always rejects Destiny’s offer to have dinner with him.

[@DieNibelungenliad]

Destiny wants open friendships

[@Malum95]

I can already smell smoke

[@joseaguirre744]

@@jp32123Why are you so engaged in someone’s business. We don’t know shit.

[@1000yearswordling]

aba was absolutely adorable getting destiny that wallet (and he was so thoughtful he had two!!). so sweet

[@tarabear1423]

Totally agree! Destiny looked genuinely happy

[@digadigado]

he beat nathan to the punch on his dad present

[@ryls8828]

That whole interaction was so wholesome

[@ryls8828]

That whole interaction was so wholesome

[@joeposteraros]

Aba is a good man. It's always come across on his channel. He's always been full of real world empathy.

[@paulofreire9174]

That wallet gift was very thoughtful. Aba seems like a really good friend to have.

[@christophermurphree2315]

I know right, he’s really good with gifts

[@damedusa5107]

He got loads from sponsorship,gave them out to his friends

[@paulofreire9174]

@@damedusa5107 Lol 😬 well the second part is 100% true either way.

[@DjangoVonShaft]

A wallet??

[@damixed1]

A wallet that has his name stitched on it. this way destiny can never regifted to anybody. 😂😂😂

[@Alinoraable]

Aba is such an emotional intelligent and empathetic person.

[@thekemplarfiles]

🌈🌈🍆

[@ruminating1596]

No he's not lol.

[@xdoc482]

Wtf is emotional intelligence?

[@IrideLastMtb]

@@xdoc482 have you never heard that term before?

[@xdoc482]

@@IrideLastMtbI have, just never heard the real definition. Just a lot of deflecting definitions to compete with intelligence quotient.

[@rustysarkela7754]

Respect for Aba showing up for a friend that’s admirable

[@Sid00077]

Now that Mel is out of the picture, Aba and Destiny should marry and have an open relationship to prove to the haters that some open relationships do work. Show the haters what true black love looks like.

[@Truevitz]

BEST LESBIAN COUPLE EVER

[@TurtleChad1]

But no open relationship this time

[@memsysr]

They could do spit roasting 😂

[@TrentonF505]

A platonic open relationship where they exclusively fuck other people

[@markstriker925]

​@@TruevitzAba finally gets a high value woman.

[@AndreRL2001]

Gotta love watching the healthiest convo that’s ever happened between two men

[@electronicexposure]

womans name

[@jolisan3920]

I also love watching MEN have conversations with each other talking about MEN's issues

[@Macheako]

@@jolisan3920 I just love MEN ❤

[@heroricspiritfreinen38]

​@@hijklmnopreaperhow does red pill live rent free on this fanbase 😂😂😂

[@TheSosKille12]

Its nice to see men and women come together and have a wholesome conversation ❤

[@johnnycang]

Damn. Aba's a real friend.. He saw his friend in need. Probably knew that friend would never ask for help. Just came and visited and was a good friend giving whatever support he could. It wouldn't have mattered to Aba if this was on stream or not. He would have done it either way. This situation had nothing to do with content for him. He might be the only content creator that's also a completely normal person.

[@nezmustard]

I love how Aba was explaining the “gotcha, anything else?” Phrase, Destiny not realizing he did it to Aba within the first few moments of the convo

[@michaellee1244]

Much respect for Aba. His friend is going through a rough time and he hops a plane to hang out. True friend

[@steviewolfeofficial]

Aba is a real one. A friend that helps and advises you through a breakup is a GOOD friend.

[@esco819]

It is nice to see women stick up for each other😂

[@steviewolfeofficial]

@@esco819 👉👈

[@popeagapitusi8]

@P0wFish mate his youtube channel is way bigger lmao

[@communismcanfixit3732]

@P0wFish 2.05 mill > 739k

[@Sealsco]

I disagree. Real one does record the discussion and broadcast it online ....

[@repugnantjar432]

The convo between Aba and destiny is one of the best one on the channel, in terms of good faith arguments and the flow is unmatched.

[@the_inquisitive_inquisitor]

No yelling 0/10

[@edent4935]

A fair amount of their convos are like this, pretty standard for them...also my fav type of Destiny content to watch haha

[@JavierNYC423]

@@edent4935what a dork

[@wallysvideos]

The first interaction of theirs I heard was so interesting that I went back and listened to every prior one I could find. The camaraderie between them is *chef's kiss*

[@dylanlapenna8513]

Aba always struck me as a genuinely good friend. Glad he's here for you Destiny

[@selffirst]

Good friend that dances with Melina in front of her husband

[@Rulody]

@@selffirstI almost forgot about that 🤣🤣🤣

[@dylanlapenna8513]

@@selffirst if a friend dancing with your wife makes you insecure, than I guess you shouldn't have a wife.

[@selffirst]

@@dylanlapenna8513 Sure, that's why divorces happen when boundaries are called insecurities.

[@commissarkitty3553]

@@selffirst did he set that boundary with aba before they danced ? or are you projecting your boundaries on everybody else ?

[@platcrab4890]

This conversation for me was actually pretty enlightening. Like listening to the two sides of my brain talk about my last relationship, actually helped me clear up a lot of the ways I think about my last partner. Good shit

[@thekemplarfiles]

🌈🌈👎🏽👎🏽🍆🍆😊

[@nicholeb2746]

Yes it was. Beautiful to witness. The world needs more of THIS

[@OliveOath]

Seeing Destiny have a completely normal open very honest convo with a friend and this actually feeling grounded and both parties engaging with the topic and self analysing this was surprisingly wholesome and REALLY engaging

[@jameskeene3126]

It’s so crazy how aba and destiny’s friendship evolved over time. And now destiny should be glad he’s got a friend like aba at a time like this because he might be blunt about things but he’ll so you the utmost care when it comes to making sure that you’d be okay.

[@matthewfoster6407]

Come on now destiny is a womanizer and Melina was a hoe. He saw this coming miles away and you should have as well...

[@bigisrick]

Destiny is 100% gunna take that girl back and get cucked again.

[@Ivang017]

He's just clout farming the situation

[@jameskeene3126]

@@Ivang017 are you serious? Or trolling? Because if aba really wanted to milk the situation he would’ve posted a video on his channel and got hundreds of thousands of views for it and on top of that is aba posted something it would’ve added fuel to the fire for sneako and fresh n fit to keep going in on him, but he didn’t because he isn’t going to do something that low to someone he considers a friend.

[@Ivang017]

@@jameskeene3126 Aba is a clout demon. Making a video would be to obvious if he did. He’s definitely clout chasing, by the fact that he gives destiny some shitty wallets he got for free from a sponsor haha. It couldn’t be more obvious he popped up in Miami when this goes down. Also, fresh n fit are not even going at Destiny. Myron has a lot of respect for Destiny. He hasn’t said anything about him.

[@rubydelta6]

as a more conservative christian I will say I disagree a lot with Destiny on many different topics but I take no pleasure in seeing the destruction of his relationship and watching him go through this break up regardless of what I thought of their relationship. I hope he takes some time to reflect on where things went wrong and work on himself so he can enter into a more stable, healthy and fulfilling relationship where he doesn't feel the need to constantly watch his back and calculate his partners motives and can just trust. I know he's not a believer but regardless my prayers go out to him.

[@omnicast9323]

Your sincerity is definitely noted and appreciated. It’s mostly people in the manosphere who are reveling in destiny’s misfortune. The couple of Christian people I’ve seen comment have had the more normal response.

[@Bogman-w5z]

@@omnicast9323 Most internet people are just deranged, most people irl don't act like angsty children

[@ryanturner7125]

​@omnicast9323 the reason why destiny is catching so much backlash is because he was warned about the exact situation he is in now (specifically the Christian guy chase from whatever podcast) Instead of heeding that warning and taking corrective actions by making different lifestyle choices (Polygamy vs Monogamy) he doubled down on criticising and chastising the RP community to the point where he will likely be made an example of for a long time.

[@EbonyPope]

He's breaking up with Melina? If so I'm not surprised. Open relationships usually aren't made to last. There's not a single old couple I know that was in an open marriage and had it work out for them.

[@EbonyPope]

​@@ryanturner7125Melina left him? Or the other way around? Hardly surprising. I mean do you know any old couple that has had an open relationship and it working out for them?

[@Androidsquid31]

When Aba said “it’s not your fault.” and Destiny started crying was such a wholesome moment. Timestamp 4:20

[@Videosbyme278]

@@suryapratapsinghraghav640 It's a movie reference

[@maiqtheliar_]

timestamp?

[@oatdilemma6395]

@@suryapratapsinghraghav640 Hunting Will Good

[@teteu03]

@@asimhussain8716 it’s a joke lol, just a movie reference

[@gayben2806]

​based pfp @@oatdilemma6395

[@schmidtier]

Man I didn't even know the internet could get this wholesome, more please.

[@schmidtier]

Also I've been with my wife for 11 years, we have two kids, and this is all fantastic advice.

[@ancientslav4863]

Destine fucked up. Everyone told him. He didnt listen. He got a no prenup marriege to a golddigger. but he is just as pathetic as her.

[@GovnaBuckingham]

what

[@br070497]

Everyone deserves to have an Aba in their life. People like him make the best type of friends.

[@blackmanwithcomputer]

Aba seems to be Destiny's best KZbinr friend. They have such good and deep conversations; good faith, every time. Two guys that act like how they preach (seemingly).

[@VigilantVagrancy]

Aba is real, Destiny on the other hand…

[@terdferguson1736]

@@VigilantVagrancyright because he didn’t support hamas..

[@terdferguson1736]

You know why because they are basically republicans. This is what the current Republican Party is . Tolerant, trying to learn by engaging in actual good faith debate. It’s crazy how the left are actually the racists facists these days.. and don’t even you all supper hamas, you have elected officials that support hamas, the Ivey league institution overran with hamas supporters spouting openly antisemitic rhetoric. The only reason they don’t currently vote republican is because imagine what would happen to his community. It would crumble, of course proving my point. If he came out and said the left is clearly for more dangerous to the nation, which it is, so you should vote republican until the democrats come back to reality. Imagine you ideologues would lose it. So he is audience captured.and this you know is what normal people do, imagine being so weak minded so brainwashed you are letting a political party own your vote without having to do shit for it. All because you don’t wanna be called names.. lmao and you know this was famously a prominent nazi technique, to accuse others what you are quilty… and boy isn’t that true, the party of punching segregation calling the right racist, the party colluding with social media to censor and deplatform , text book facism. But hey definitely keep Blindly following your party, oh shit more nazi shit.

[@the1stmetalhead]

Dr. K and Kyla are up there as well

[@QMS9224]

Yeah I think there's a big difference between youtubers and streamers, especially an Aba style youtuber where he already made it and just posts whenever he wants and focuses on other things like comedy/family. As opposed to most Destiny orbiters who are chronically online streamers that are a little (or alot) crazy

[@Josh-ml8ho]

First section where he gives the wallet to destiny is super cute 🥰 I love how he had an extra thinner one on hand. Abba is so thoughtful it’s heartwarming

[@lustrazor44]

That was really sweet of Aba to get D a gift. He’s a real one. Hopefully they stay friends. I like their interactions but more importantly D needs actual friends 😂

[@BrandonfromStLouis]

A friend who stops by just to check in and (literally) put their hand on your shoulder when you're going through a tough time is invaluable. W Aba.

[@HarmlessComment]

Destiny seems like he rarely gets touched by someone who cares about him

[@nicholeb2746]

​@@HarmlessCommentI feel bad for him, that's terrible. Looking for love and affection in all the wrong places.

[@masterdftw4983]

This is one of the best videos I have seen of Destinys in a long time. Aba is a real one, keep him at all cost. This is the kind of friend most people wish they had.

[@MrVirtuezzz]

Man, feels like just yesterday I was pleasantly surprised by this crossover after following both Destiny and Aba&Preach for years. I didn't expect a legit friendship to blossom before our very eyes. Wholesome af

[@gonfreecss6002]

I don't really care all too much about Destiny's relationship with his orbiters and online friends, but if the Aba and Destiny bridge ever burned I would be legitimately sad.

[@Tavat]

I can tell Aba would be a really good friend to have. Good and genuine guy.

[@XxHistorikxX]

The real important thing about hobbies in relationships is that you need to *respect* your partners hobbies. You don't have to share hobbies as long as there is respect within that area of the relationship. It's much easier to build relationships with people who enjoy the same things as you, because we don't need to spend the time and effort to understand and respect their interests. This is why so many relationships have issues with video games. If someone doesn't like that their partner plays video games, it's usually because they don't respect it as a hobby.

[@nezmustard]

EA killing me with their DLCs. Gotta keep my gf happy 😆 meanwhile I’m playing EA golf and wonder why TheSims functions so badly

[@mongomymango]

4:40 its sad that destiny can't distinguish between online friends and real life friends. Like he assumes Aba WOULD cover his divorce because that's how his friendships usually go, online and surface level. Aba is a real friend and genuinely shows that he cares. I wish destiny could see that.

[@andrewjohnson6544]

Aba seems like a good friend to have. Real chill guy.

[@jonathanrodriguez8470]

To dance with your girl

[@serg10xm.69]

I have had the pleasure to meet him and hang out and played dominos with him, he is a blast. This was when he was doing comedy shows in Montreal but since Aba & Preach have jumped in popularity, they were big then but now they are widely known. A few months ago I went to Montreal and saw him on the street and he remembered me and greeted me, it felt good because he is someone I have only met in person like 4 times before. One fun fact about Aba is that he doesn't drive, he rides his bike around town and that's how I bumped into him. I feel proud of him in a weird way because he is still so down to earth.

[@Dementia.Pugilistica]

​@@jonathanrodriguez8470oh no two people who study dance did a dance fkin cuck city amirite?!?!

[@IrishDavaRox]

Aba is a great friend. Notice how he showed up in person, brought a gift for his birthday, and even made a point to touch him on the shoulder a few times. Human touch like that is incredible, and lads don't do it enough. Humans require it. Even if you can pat a mate on the back, give a hug after a time apart, or even just a hand on the shoulder going through a rough patch, there's nothing like it. Lads, be there for the boys 💪 Apart from this instance, as Destiny is a girl's name...

[@crazyguywatchnu]

Very good points

[@williamcobbett4943]

Spot on, a pat on the back can mean a lot

[@patrickbateman1660]

"Bro I know your getting cucked and I made you go viral and dance with your wife, but here is a wallet I bought for 2 dollars"

[@namename2040]

What do you mean lads do that for each other. If a man isn't expressing that to a woman or a guy, they aren't in their inner circle. Depending on the guy it's harder for women to get in a guy's inner circle if they aren't dating/together. Only the cringiest or the cringe loser babies don't touch the homies whether it be a comforting or friendly touch.

[@ghostrecon3834]

@@patrickbateman1660bro is obsessed, dude has left 77 hate comments 💀 get a life my guy 😹

[@rubbadubbs3242]

I respect Aba going to Destiny in person to discuss this.

[@sirisaacmormont5445]

Everyone needs an Aba or needs to become one. Aba is who he is because he knows who he is and doesn’t try and be or convince anyone of anything more than that. His confidence and calm says “I deserve love and I’m good enough.” He is what humans refer to as “grounded.”

[@justinmeader]

More friends like Aba, less friends like Lav and Max. BE AN ABA TO YOUR FRIENDS

[@donny9787]

Aba a real one, in the background doing his own thing but knows when he needs to be around for the homie 💕

[@TheSosKille12]

Its nice to see men and women come together and have a wholesome conversation ❤

[@Joshua-eo5hr]

Are you calling destiny a woman?

[@TheSosKille12]

@@Joshua-eo5hr pretty obviously..

[@BRZDR]

@@Joshua-eo5hr What Is A Woman?

[@Joshua-eo5hr]

@@BRZDR I guess destiny

[@aidang217]

Aba is so chill and wholesome. What a great friend to have

[@daydreegirl]

Loved this conversation. It made me think about what I need and want in a relationship and how those things are established. Also it's great to see guys talk about this. I feel like Aba's perspective on yelling and verbal abuse and shock at the type of speech during arguments might be a necessary thing to think about. Everybody is totally different but I would totally see that as verbally abusive and I couldn't handle it. It's so interesting how it can be totally normalized and how conflict resolution can be so different across different relationships. I hope there are more talks like this with Aba.

[@Massivecarcrash]

Aba is such a good dude. Our little girl needs friends like Aba.

[@2crisp63]

hahaha this took me a bit to get

[@blessingpearls4805]

@@2crisp63still don’t get it lol

[@2crisp63]

@@blessingpearls4805 destiny is the "little girl"

[@williamhornabrook8081]

I like Aba. It took a little while for him to grow on me, but now I think he is a funny, clever and decent guy. He's very emotionally intelligent for a content creator. He's one of the saner and less annoying Destiny collaborators, although the wackos have their place too.

[@GenerallDRK]

Same 😂. The only reason I wasn't feeling him was because I assumed he was apart of the RP crowd.

[@violetblythe6912]

@DRKToss why do so many people think that? I don’t get it 😅maybe just bc I watched A&P for a long time before red pill even popped off.

[@wallysvideos]

Sometimes he can let his ego get out of check, but those instances are generally few and far between. I actually hoped everything between them was still OK bc I hadn't seen him on the channel in awhile.

[@mjg3379]

Abba with the second wallet. What a solid dude

[@thecooljohn100]

Aba's a great guy. Glad Destiny has someone like him around during these times.

[@MojoJojoJunior]

I love these retrospective talks between these two. It’s always insightful and humanizing to see them reflect and recognize patterns/behaviors. Can we have these at least once a season?

[@imyournme6632]

These 2 have to have conversations more often, these are the most interesting conversations in a while.

[@MadCowDiseased]

Getting a real good deep Aba conversation is way more fulfilling than any drama dump stream.

[@XekTOr89]

Aba might be the sanest person with common sense destiny has in his life, at least that's the vibe I get from the way they talk, destiny is just such a weirdo it makes no sense haha

[@lukeslifestyle8846]

I think Destiny’s issue is that he doesn’t take advice from ANYONE but himself. The most he’ll do is say to Aba “That’s fair”, but he never says “oh, I’ve never thought about that before”

[@cjsumm1796]

It takes him a while to change perspectives

[@mewster1818]

This is the problem with a lot of people. My husband and I have been together for 10 years, weathered lots of difficulties, and yet I've mostly stopped giving any relationship advice because it's never really listened to because fixing relationship issues is really hard and you can only fix your side of the problem... that's not a quick option and it doesn't make most people feel good when they're looking at their own flaws.

[@lukeslifestyle8846]

@@mewster1818 You’re very wise and self-aware. I’m wishing you the best

[@98danielray]

around the 1 hour he admits he has to change a few things. watch the video

[@ethosterros9430]

Could be trauma from abuse. Even my own parents would give me shit takes and i grew up in basically a ghetto full of animals so listening to others is solidified in my mind as possibly the most harmful thing I can do if I dont hyper analyze it first for validity

[@Aya..19]

Destiny looks good in all black clothes. It makes him look thinner too.

[@DefineMeAsOne]

57:30 It makes me happy to hear this. I complement and thank people all the time, I'm grateful for the people around me and I like to regularly tell them either by complement or by being thankful. Some people feel taken back by that, some may think it's "corny". I was once a guy that couldn't even say "I love you" to even my family, when I was younger because I thought a man is not suppose to say I love you too much.

[@Lupostehgreat]

Honestly, our entire fucking culture revolves around with-holding compliments for some reason. While too many compliments becomes demeaning, or flattery, too little leaves you feeling like you are never quite certain what others think of you. This is for good reason, too, as gossip and hearsay are universal truths. If you want to avoid just becoming an asocial hermit, you need some occasional, genuine validation. Your friends deserve to have some validation, and your mate ABSOLUTELY deserves it.

[@kylecasey7010]

Aba is and has always been a real one.

[@jamesgraves4724]

Aba and destiny have great chemistry, they should do a podcast for real but I know that’s not going to happen or very far away from what their individual goals are

[@kc270352]

Aba already has Preach, would be hard to do definitely

[@punishedbarca761]

I prefer to have these gems drop on the feed every 6 months. Podcasts get real shit real fast.

[@thegreat9252]

Aba fit lowkey nice

[@Joshboyes1]

Bro look like a gay ww2 pilot

[@Cororo96]

​@@Joshboyes1 I dunno bro I'd rock it.

[@beasty108]

@@Joshboyes1post your drip

[@wontonschannel]

Bro looks like a pimp who retired and started a podcast

[@CrippledMerc]

You know what I genuinely love about this? These guys can have a great, honest conversation about some real shit, and still poke fun at each other a bit. That’s good shit. I don’t have a ton of friends, nor do I get to see them as often as I’d like, but the one’s I do have are like this and it’s great. Being able to really be there for each other during tough times while still giving each other a little bit of gruff to lighten the mood, that’s the best in my opinion.

[@swagkage7550]

You gotta have some real hate in your heart to hate Aba. Respect for showing up in person to support his friend and as usual the discussions are nuanced and interesting.

[@samueldegrey7718]

I mean Aba is hella annoying at times, if you watch on Aba an Preach. this coming from a fan of theirs

[@Epitome_of_john]

You can have a relationship that is propped up with sex. And then the sex stops, and it falls apart. The trick is finding a partner where the sex is great but secondary to the partnership. Then when stress or life or whatever affects your sex life you don’t lose your whole relationship.

[@ghostpepper5934]

The most important things in a relationship are shared values, healthy communication, and respect. Especially when it comes to women because once they lose respect for you the relationship is over. It may take a day, week, year, or decade but the entire time they will let you know that they are unsatisfied and want out. Edit: Destiny I wish you the best of luck during these trying times. Please remember that how you are feeling isn’t who you are it is where you are in life. Things will get better and worse at times but your strength will endure.

[@ams914]

The fasted way to a woman losing your respect is you letting her sleep with other people, IMHO. I don't really care how progressive people claim to be. That's not gonna work in the long run. Clearly...

[@blahblahbag8715]

Aba seems to be the one person in Destiny's space that acts like a normal, same, relatively mature person.

[@nolanjakrzewski1210]

I’m 27 been with my wife going on 11 years. I wildly disagree with you on some of your relationship takes but I think there is a ton of value in your perspective. You also made me rethink some of my own habits/way of dealing with things and the way my wife deals with things. Thanks for this.

[@nezmustard]

I was around 27 at the end of my long term relationship. Drugs became involved, she got addicted to the lifestyle.. I could only hang for so long. So much of what he’s saying reminds me of that relationship. I left before she took me down (anymore) with her. Paid the last 4 months paying on our apartment to keep a roof over her head (and a close friend of mine she found deep comfort in) 😅. I stayed with a friend and let them be. Last I heard she was arrested for assault with DW. Some people you can’t save

[@yuno1781]

@@nezmustarddamn the rare story where someone walks away from a relationship that has drugs involved man. That shit ain’t easy, count yourself lucky

[@3v068]

One of my favorite things to come out of these past couple of years is Destiny and Aba making content. Friends, or just business partners for youtube, its been awesome seeing them go back and fourth. These are two smart people with the difference being one studies a shit ton, and one has actual life experience in a lot of these areas, especially in different parts of the world.

[@spigney4623]

If youre the stonewalling type, the best partner for you is someone who you feel safe sharing your internal tornado of feelings with. Instead of stonewalling, sharing the emotions youre experiencing NOT necessarily the thoughts youre having. It gives your partner a window into your mind without committing to a resolution.

[@RedisNotaFlavor]

Aba's love language is gift giving. 😂😂

[@honeyedwinds]

For the conflict resolution bit … I think just stating that you need the space, why you need the space, then reassuring them that you will be back to talk when you’ve regulated yourself to do so will alleviate a lot of that chaos in the in between. If after that they can’t respect that then yea, that’s intense.

[@RachelNC4674]

Destiny really needs to treat relationships like he treats work. They need similar amounts of effort. He’s willing to do uncomfortable things for his job and tasks he doesn’t want to do in order to be successful. Why not put that into relationships

[@AintThatRich]

God that conflict resolution point hit the nail on the head. I’ve been in 4 long term relationships now and I have always been pressed for a resolution to a dispute at the very peak of the emotion.. it’s impossible at that point to reconcile without escalation but having room to breath allows you to recalibrate and is so important.

[@protoman1214]

Haven’t even started the video yet, but Aba is a real one. You can just tell he is legit, a good person. You can’t say that about many people on KZbin

[@noirangel8292]

Didn’t like Aba before this video But wow now I love em, that smile and sense of humour and actually listening, he has a heart of gold

[@theblueeyedcrooner1576]

Great interview, about time these two got together

[@secondeye1574]

They have, at least twice before

[@theblueeyedcrooner1576]

@@secondeye1574 😂 tbh man I just happened to catch the video 7 seconds after it uploaded and wanted to be one of the first comments. Could t think of anything smart to say so I went with that.

[@rolandoarauz-bryan1210]

This is low key the best therapy session Ive witnessed. Aba is a real one for going to visit his friend.

[@denz310]

Aba is such a good friend. I knew he wouldn't talk about Destiny divorce on his channel. When he was still cool with Sneako he didn't want to make a video about him until he came after him. He hit up Sneako privately. We need more people like Aba. A man with morals

[@Vosk21]

Just echoing the comments but aba is the closest thing to a stable dude destiny has ever interacted with

[@davidbritton5627]

Damn Aba is a cool ass nigga. Great to have friends like this. The kind that randomly come through when they know you’re going through it and just wanna help you clear your mind for a bit. Love to see that

[@Awesomeficationify]

Excuse me sir. 👮‍♂️🚨 Do you have a license to use that? I need to verify your 23&Me. 🤓🔎

[@sleezy2953]

@@Awesomeficationify I cringed reading that hope you have a bad day

[@House_Husband_Romeo]

Hey I just want to say Happy Birthday to Destiny and thank you Aba for being there to support our black queen. It sucks to have to go through a break up on the Holiday let alone a Divorce on your Birthday as well as the Holidays. But at least you can spoil yourself as a wealthy black woman. Enjoy your special Day Destiny! 🥳

[@chiciu]

Very nice therapy session. Really admire your guys' ability to open up about these things, especially in front of thousands of ppl.

[@ashen_two]

I'm an immediate conflict resolver, and my partner is not. If I sense that our conversation is gravitating towards a conflict, or if she starts shutting down, we have already established through healthy communication that she just needs time to process whatever issue we may be having and we will talk about it later. This has resulted in 100% of the conflicts we've experienced ending happily for both sides. I've also found that sometimes the party that often shuts down will say hurtful things prior to shutting down, and it's important that the party on the receiving end does not reciprocate and holds their partner accountable for the things that they said. Basically, it's on the party that shuts down to let their partner know that they love them and that they just need to process whatever disagreement. Then, it's on the other partner to respect that boundary and wait until they are finished processing to try and resolve the issue. Then, both parties can walk through the situation together and identify key items that began the argument and how they feel about them and come up with a solution as to how to avoid the same issues in the future.

[@musical_lolu4811]

You're a 'fix-iter'.

[@dbjdi]

You need to appreciate a friend that can tell you where you are fucking up but in a good way.

[@Cobyba]

When I went through a tough breakup one of my friends (from my friend group that never really gives gifts to eachother normally) gave me a nice hoodie. It was a small gesture but it meant so much. I still have it years later.

[@idrinkcofe]

Aba always impresses by being a chill cool dude which is such a low bar

[@thegrinderman1090]

Yeah I know what you mean. Everyone's always saying how great Aba is, and I agree he is, but he literally just interacts with people the way any regular, non-asshole person does with their friends.

[@pablito5927]

If you find this a low bar you're lucky as fuck. Count your blessings.

[@nicholeb2746]

What a wholesome interaction. I love and appreciate the growth you both have gone thru. Such an inspiration and I'm proud ppl have you to look to as role models. Much love and continued success!

[@acen486]

Not pointing diagnoses or anything here but in my personal life experience, but being diagnosed with ASD, one of the main things that had to change in my relationship was absolutely requiring a cooldown time in order to solve any arguments. This could be the same for ADHD im not sure but if someone is hounding me into a resolution at that moment its almost always going to end in a much bigger argument.

[@grantking4032]

Adhd, can confirm. I require a cool down timer.

[@nezmustard]

Yup I felt this.. coming home after a 12 hr day and being argued to bed.. I usually just submit so I can get to sleep

[@S.Archer]

*Destiny needed this. Aba is a great friend. Nice job, man.*

[@theowainwright7406]

Aba is such a breath of fresh air

[@Talot]

This is what happens when a 35-year-old kid thinks he understands the nature of the genders better than 10,000 years of human history/experience.

[@lain5858]

10,000 of human story? Ok....lets go back with the group orgies while doing some sacrifices to the Gods 😂

[@colinlpeace]

I can really relate to being conflicted about whether to compromise with others or just be more assertive with my beliefs. I’m really troubled by the sheer amount of self destructive and antisocial behaviours people have especially in my line of work. I just can’t deal with it anymore and it’s making me into an antisocial recluse. It just feels like there’s no sanctuary for me anymore and I’m being dragged down into being the worst version of myself. Thank god for people like Aba. It’s nice to know some people are sane in this world.

[@avivastudios2311]

Woah! Aba is the wisest person Destiny has ever spoken to.

[@madd_megz]

I love this. A friend seeing another friend who needs some support (whether they realize it or not) . Just getting together for good conversation 🖤

[@coreyloucks4865]

I think what really hurt the relationship was the rule that destiny couldn’t sleep with other ppl unless Melina was sleeping with another person. That probably made things difficult for both ppl.

[@476429]

By their very nature, open relationships are not conducive to a lifelong marriage. They do not possess the deep commitment required to maintain a strong marriage nor do they allow for a unique and singular emotional/psychological/physical bond with one person that assists in sustaining a lifelong marriage. Whatever the direct reason for the breakup of an open relationship, the underlying problem is its feeble nature. They cannot weather situations that leave strong, healthy relationships unaffected. Open relationships are like unhealthy immune systems. They can't handle all of the situations life throws at them. While the cause of death could be the flu, the underlying problem was that the unhealthy immune system couldn't fight off the flu. The bottom line is that there's a reason monogamous relationships have been the gold standard for most successful human societies. They are optimized for building strong families and greatly reduce the risk of fractured relationships.

[@TheMasterceasar]

I think the new drugs might be the reason for Mel leaving. Ever since he started his drug arc I've noticed I don't tune in half as much. Because he's different now & less entertaining. Friendships often change when drugs enter the room. Because that person's vibe changes to a different frequency & you no longer connect the same.

[@beaujones5124]

Aba is a class act every time.

[@Ultima-Signa]

Destiny and Aba are the perfect partners for each other. When are they finally going to realize this?

[@lowkey276]

Aba is great in general. He has a high social intelligence and makes everyone feel at ease. You should see him with his partner Preach.