ABA Therapy for Mild Autism and Severe Autism

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[@olivia7546]

the part about ABA not being something to 'look normal' i think is so important omg i was diagnosed with aspbergers syndrome, some people prefer to call it lower needs or high functioning but ill just stick with what i was diagnosed with i remember when i was like oh idk maybe 6 my mom put me in ABA therapy and they would try to stop me from being autistic basically they werent really focused on actually improving my quality of life but rather stop my 'abnormal' behaviors instead of focusing on stuff that i wouldve actually wanted help with, like my 'meltdowns' or my 'lack of social skills' , they tried to make me talk more 'normal' and like look less 'autistic' so my mom pulled me out of it after the first few sessions cause it was bullshit and we never tried it again and im an adult now speech wasnt a problem for me and i still talk differently then neurotypicals but its still not a problem in my adult life i understand speech is a huge struggle for alot of autistic people but for me it wasnt, every autistic person is different its a spectrum i could talk just fine for a 6 year old but because i have a 'weird' stutter when im nervous and am an autistic person they decided it must be negative and must be treated i still have the 'weird' stutter when im really nervous and i dont want therapy for it it doesnt need to be 'corrected', i am happy & functional how i am, it doesnt inhibit my ability to live a happy life some things dont need to be treated

[@7Aheadfamily]

I love this! Thank you so much for sharing. I am so glad that your mom was wise enough to pull you out of that therapy. That sounds awful.

[@hebrewhomestead7811]

I'm so happy to have watched this video. My son has been in ABA 6 mths. He has become more aggressive, frustrated, and sad when his BT is around. She has been having him point to the "cup" or asking, "What is this, which is a cup?" He knows what a cup is, and I can tell he is over it. Last week, BT and supervisor came to go over new targets. They gave my son kinetic sand, which he loves. Then they took it away and demanded him to say sand and request to have it. This went on for a few minutes. He became so frustrated that he threw the sand to the floor and began headbanging, crying, and attacking his BT. I could tell he didn't understand why they would give it to him and take it away. As he was going through this, the supervisor told the BT to ignore his behavior. When I tried to console my son, the supervisor was speaking to the BT indirectly about me doing this. Stating hes acting like this because he knows he can get attention. It was traumatizing to him and me. I've canceled these last few sessions out of fear. Thank you for sharing.

[@7Aheadfamily]

It’s difficult to understand the situation completely, but if your child is responding adversely to having his stuff taken away, then they need to find or creat a different way to motivate him. Simon hates having things taken away also, so the therapists use games and puzzles which he loves. While he plays the games they ask him to say something they are working on saying words as they play, without withholding anything. He is intrinsically motivated to continue the game so he says the words and if he doesn’t want to he has the option to say no, and they move on. I hope this helps. They will also sometimes say a word and then say “your turn” and wait for him to respond. Also, before they expect him to do anything, the therapist must bond with the child and build trust. Hope that helps, good luck. And thank you for sharing.

[@reshmasreejith6419]

I just want to point some light on this topic as the BT was trying to get a request for kinetic sand from your child as he is motivated for the item and what he did was try to escape from the demand of saying the word “sand” . He started throwing tantrum to escape from the demand . We need to understand the difference between tantrum and meltdown. By giving the item to him as a result is reinforcing his behavior of showing tantrum and he will repeat it again .

[@7Aheadfamily]

That is true, but every situation can be different too. We also have to ask ourselves how many times should we be taking a reinforcer away from the child. How much is too much? and when should we give other choices to help them learn little by little, to eventually learn the correct and most appropriate communication incrementally.

[@EarlyBirdCraft]

I feel so sad for your child. He is literally being abused. He’s not learning new skills. He’s just learning to be submissive. He’s banging his head because he’s frustrated. Nobody should play with his emotions by taking his toy and give it back and take it away. He’s not mentally challenged. He’s just different from most of us. Just let him be who he is and take him to occupational therapy. Please don’t torture your child in ABA

[@7Aheadfamily]

As the parents, they see, know, and understand better than us I am sure. From their description of the ABA, it sounds to me that they could be doing a better job. See a doctor hit this subject a little bit here… kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y5uQoKSLg7Cgnbc

[@sadieandbean]

I love this video so much. THIS is what ABA should be. I am an autistic teacher of autistic students and our school is ABA-based, in the positive ways you highlighted in this video. For years I thought all ABA was bad. This information needs to get out there!

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you for watching and commenting! Yes, we hope that it eventually gets out there. 😊

[@mare7329]

I disagree with aba I have a granddaughter with autism and watching what they do is child abuse if you did that with a normal child it would be called abuse it needs to be stopped

[@sadieandbean]

@@mare7329 You need to find another place that's neurodiverisity affirming and doesn't suppress stims

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yes, as the caregiver you really have to be involved and let them know what type of ABA you want your child to participate in.

[@7Aheadfamily]

So true

[@user-eg8ht4im6x]

You are great parents ABA or any other therapy, what’s important is what you do, keep a close eye on what they are doing with your child, only allow what you want for your child. So so so wonderful, you are so closely involved it’s about helping your child do life their way. Love your wonderful balanced view, making the most of what they are and have, and accepting the Autism. The view behind you is wonderful. You are very balanced and understanding parents. With lovely children. I am a very late diagnosed Autistic, I stim it helps me focus, I don’t make always make eye contact, but I’m listening. I love watching you channel.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much for watching, and commenting. ❤️ We are so glad to have you here. 😊 With your later diagnosis I assume you never did any ABA?

[@cowsonzambonis6]

I was not sure what I would think about this video, but it’s probably the best I’ve seen on ABA. I absolutely love the points you made about what it should not be. You are protecting your kids from potential harm, and it gives me hope that the Autistic kids in my life are also getting true help through their therapy.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you!❤❤

[@LikeSomeDude]

Those kids sure are blessed to have such great parents

[@7Aheadfamily]

You are so kind, thanks for watching and sharing. 😀❤️❤️❤️

[@brainbomb.]

I'm waiting for the "jk".

[@LikeSomeDude]

@@brainbomb. get lost, idiot

[@7Aheadfamily]

How many of our videos have you watched?

[@MaggieC-ud7ku]

My son has been having ABA therapy since he was 1 year and a half now a year later he has improve so much all this words coming a lot of his behaviors are almost 1 a month. I believe so much in aba therapy

[@7Aheadfamily]

I’m so glad you’ve had such a positive experience. Glad you’ve found our channel and reached out. ❤️ thanks for sharing

[@lovepeace2373]

I am so happy to hear, how you watched over what the therapist does with your child and corrected it, so that your child(children) are always safe. When you mentioned this incident, where the therapeut ignored Simons signals and just insisted, it showed the sad reality of many other autisitc children. You came ro Simons rescue but much more it would have been the duty of the therapeut to see where her behavior is leading to. So that seems to me the problem with ABA: ABA itself IS about forcing children, about making them fit in/not show autism... And then are good therapeuts, who take what is good inspiration from ABA and use it in their own respectful, understanding, gentle way. That doesnt make ABA good for autistic children. Because there are parents that are not able to intervene or are not given permission to observe. Every therapeut that you didnt work with for the wellbeing of your children (thank God you watched out for them) goes somewhere else and gives “therapy“ (many see it as abuse) to other children who are not that lucky to be protected. You need a lot of knowledge, selfconfidence, selfawareness and i guess money , to be able to deal with therapists the way you described it. If i go to the dentist or physical therapy, i dont have to know basically everything to be aware of where they could mistreat me or my child. With ABA -therapist, we obviously have to. Child-safety-leish: big YES. It takes a lot of stress off the person in charge (and yes, that is also a priority we dont want to get burnt out where we could avoid i), and it keeps children safe . It is like with a knife, you can do good things with it or do harm. Those parents, that do harm with this item, do haem without it as well. Thanks for your effort and all the good information & explanation!

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Yes. We have to be very involved with the therapy that happens to our kids, it can easily turn to a forceful type, and that is not providing the kids with their freedom that they shouldn't have to fight for.

[@zoayeaye]

The goal of ABA therapists is always for the child to be safe and successful with learning! ABA isn’t about a power struggle with a child or client of any age. ABA is not looking to force children to do things that are harmful for them or put them in a bad place - emotionally, physically, etc. The practicioner’s hallmark of ABA is that the therapist should always be “happy, engaged, relaxed” and the therapist should always work for the client to be happy, relaxed, and engaged as well. ABA is good, but it’s important to remember that RBTs are an HS diploma-level certification which means that there are a lot of different levels of clinicians with that certification. RBTs are always learning - about the child, therapeutic goals, etc. In clinic, there would be a BCBA to supervise. With in-home therapy, parents can also play a role in this. Some children find learning (“placing a demand”) aversive and the child and the therapist have to work through this together so that the child can learn to learn. This is not an excuse for an RBT mis-stepping, but rather more information on an RBT’s role and variables at play. Covering for a client an RBT doesn’t know is super challenging. It’s awesome that they were working with the child to learn and that they received feedback from the parents! A wonderful thing about ABA is that the client and their family come first, and every program should be written with the family’s values in mind. When an RBT is substituting they are learning how to teach with a new family’s values. If a caregiver is not allowed to observe therapy, then the caregiver should look to have a deeper conversation with the provider and if a report needs to be made to the BACB then there are avenues for that to take place. If you are not aware, the BACB ethics code is a publicly available document that all behavior analysts operate under. There is also an RBT ethics code. ABA is not looking to eliminate someone’s autism. After all, the best way to teach is to involve the child through their special interests. Also, many ABA providers are neurodivergent themselves  I am not sure where you are located, but I wish I could put you in contact with providers in your area so that you could meet them and learn more about what ABA services are and all the complexities that go into it. The ‘hands down’ procedure described is effective for some children and their families but not for others. It all depends on the needs of the child and what approaches best meet their needs. ABA is soooo individualized! When a therapy team is communicating amongst themselves and with caregivers, a child’s progress is really incredible. Every ABA provider I have met is willing and excited to speak with parents - to talk about their child, approaches, and ways the provider team and caregivers can work together. Knowing about behavior analysis is important when a child is engaging in challenging or dangerous behavior, but knowing everything about behavior analysis is NOT essential to preventing abuse. Providers and caregivers can seamlessly connect and communicate shared values and the role of approaches in achieving outcomes

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you for sharing ❤️. You know a lot about ABA!

[@lovepeace2373]

@@7Aheadfamily Wishing you all the best !

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much! And same to you ❤️

[@thomasschoeck9080]

When I did hand stims in school my teacher had the aide hold my hands down to keep me from doing this. Very often the next day the fingers in my hands would lock up and it would be lunchtime or later before my fingers started moving again (with a great deal of effort). I eventually learned that my tendon sheaths were becoming inflamed and what I was experiencing was actually trigger finger. Last year I experienced trigger finger in my left thumb after decades without any trigger finger symptoms. As you might imagine that brought back many memories that I tried not to think about. I’m not one hundred percent sure that what they were doing was ABA but I don’t know what else it would have been.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much for sharing.

[@christinaweight1619]

Just found your channel. Love the information you have shared. My seventh child and youngest looks to be on the spectrum and it’s been a bit of a roller coaster. My son also has no awareness of danger, and we’ve just taken the approach of someone always watching him. I really appreciate your videos though. Keep up the great work!

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much ❤️. That means a lot. How old is your youngest?

[@winterwithawhyknudsen5166]

Severe and mild autism isn’t a thing. We now use “high/low/moderate support needs” as every autistic person has the same “amount” of autism, just different support needs.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thanks for sharing.

[@winterwithawhyknudsen5166]

@@7Aheadfamily you’re welcome. Thanks for listening!

[@7Aheadfamily]

❤️❤️❤️

[@Chances29]

I disagree. My child was diagnosed this week with mild autism. The developmental pediatrician said he no longer uses levels because ASD is a very broad spectrum.

[@winterwithawhyknudsen5166]

@@Chances29 meaning that everyone is unique with their strengths and weaknesses so no one has mild autism, just lower support needs.

[@thomasschoeck9080]

I was in high school before I could tie my shoes. For some reason this never came up in my special education classes or adaptive PE sessions when I was younger.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much for sharing.

[@pinaylakers]

This is very informative and helpful content. Appreciate it. My son currently having ABA. His first ever. So I’m trying to be observants what’s going on during session / therapy. He is just 3 years old.

[@7Aheadfamily]

So glad you found our channel. And thank you for sharing. Good luck with ABA for your son. Hope it goes well and he learns fast and has loving therapists. ❤️

[@flapper883]

You both are so well informed. This video was very educational for me.

[@7Aheadfamily]

We are so glad that you found the video helpful! Thanks for letting us know.❤️

[@danielleonfirehernandez5150]

My son is almost 7 years old and has attended ABA therapy for about 7 months. It has done wonders for his behavioral reactions. He was really struggling with playing with other kids, sharing, persevering through non-preferred tasks (writing, reading), carrying on a conversation through back and forth exchange. The other day at the pool some kids taught him how to play Marco Polo and he played with them, took turns and accepted when he ‘lost’. I was so happy for him. He was so happy he made 2 friends that day. Basically they work with no him being able to regulate his emotions, and some occasional therapy & speech therapy. We’ve had a good experience and he looks forward to going to therapy.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Wow! Thank you so much for sharing your story. ❤️ So glad to hear that ABA has been helping your son so much. How often does he do ABA?

[@annikenlittle9644]

@@7AheadfamilyDoes The Young Boys Like Wearing Only Goodnites Diapers? Autism.

[@7Aheadfamily]

We just have them wear regular diapers to bed

[@maribeldelacruz5196]

Functional skills will be futile if your child has whining tantrums and meltdown always..

[@danielleonfirehernandez5150]

@@7Aheadfamily he only goes once a week since he's in 2nd grade. He has a medical release to attend w/o counting towards too many absences. It's all day 7 hours once a week.

[@VikramS-l4g]

Could you please make a video on occupational therapy? What type of activities your kids get in OT?

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yes! We have it on our list. Thank you again for letting us know

[@gabrielafersouza23]

I love this video ! We explained about ABA better than therapists. I agree to do ABA at home ! Please make more videos about ABA ..

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you! We need to do more videos about ABA for sure. thanks

[@KimlovesOT]

Love this. Good explanation of the pros and potential cons. As an occupational therapy practitioner, I can see the benefits of ABA when done right. OT is also an effective way to promote those life skills, fine motor skills, feeding, and sensory diets if parents don’t want to go the ABA route. I do love when ABA can be done at home and on location to help with carryover.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️

[@galileasalamanca3129]

I love your family, I have one boy the 5 years espectro autism, I will Good blessed you family ❤❤❤

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much for watching and commenting ❤️. God bless your family as well. ❤️

[@ralph4720]

Kids like this therapist, but afterwards we were talking. They were playing, and she noticed something at 1 of my boys. She said that he should have been an Aba all along and that I'm a lazy dad.i tild her how much i spend with my 3 youngest alone each day with a 2 year old grandson and 2 step closer and a pregnant wife and i told her what my 8 year old goes thew everyday as he struggles to walk and what his mother put him threw when she was 7 months pregnant with him so she told me one of my kids needs meds and i disagreed with her because his Dr. Told me he's to young right now it like I'm getting ready to get married for the fist time and i get called a lazy dad im cooking for 30 people tonight i told everyone I'm eating then I'm taking ivan all alone to a hotel in Connecticut spending the day with him because he needs me and quite frankly i need him to i love that kid so much

[@7Aheadfamily]

It sounds like you have a lot going on. Thank you for sharing. and only you can really know how good of a dad you are. People judge too fast. Take care of yourself.

[@ralph4720]

@7Aheadfamily thank you I respect your whole family very kind and I appreciate you when you gave me a call because I was going threw something deep then and just needed some one different to talk to and you helped me

[@7Aheadfamily]

You are very welcome. ❤️ Let us know if there is anything else we can do. 😊

[@ralph4720]

@7Aheadfamily you guys are awesome we ended up staying home he was having fun with all the kids he's excited for the wedding and anything that you wanna talk again let me know because I really have a few people and they tell me the same thing over and over

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much for commenting! ❤️ So excited for the wedding!

[@loganabrams6409]

If ABA seems alot like Speech therapy, why not do speech therapy only?

[@7Aheadfamily]

It’s really just terminology, call it ABA or speech therapy, either one. Our focus is helping our child to use words to communicate using whatever techniques and therapies that work well with them. ❤️❤️❤️

[@7Aheadfamily]

And also, Insurrance will cover ABA a lot of time, but if they help with the cost of Speech it’s usually only a little bit. Speech is way for expensive than ABA if you were to pay for it out of pocket, at least it is where we live. We tried speech and we had to drive an hour to get there and it was $300 an hour. I’m sure this differs where you live, but the fact we can have ABA in our home and so often really helps the kids. And for us right now it’s $80 an hour. (The therapists don my get paid nearly that much, but that is what we pay the provider)

[@loganabrams6409]

Thank you for your response.❤❤

[@7Aheadfamily]

You bet! Thanks for watching, commenting, and asking. 😊

[@meganmayala]

Were you able to maintain consistent ABA therapy sessions while traveling? If so, can you share how you were able to do so?

[@7Aheadfamily]

That is a good question. We had planned on doing ABA while we’re traveling and had created a bin just for Ezra‘s ABA lessons. But I honestly don’t think we opened it up one time while we were traveling. It was just so difficult to keep up. We had good intentions. But it still didn’t really work out the way we had planned. We had the Bcba teach us how to do some ABA lessons. So we were prepared. But we didn’t follow through. It’s a lot better now that we have a rental and aren’t traveling anymore. We were able to get Ezra into a really good charter school/ABA clinic.

[@Bigbarb34]

That's right Mom, don't let them tell you how to handle your child's stemming, you know your child better than they do anyway.😊😊😊

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you! If I don’t stand up for him then who will?

[@7Aheadfamily]

If that therapist has anyone like you, for sure!

[@7Aheadfamily]

You’re so incredible. How many children did you have? And how many of them were diagnosed with autism?

[@KendrickJackson-pl4vh]

Great video! Truly appreciate the breakdown of ABA, what it should look like, and how it should make our little ones feel. My little girl just turned 4. She's diagnosed with ASD level 2. Next week she will start ABA. I am less nervous after watching your video. Thanks, again!

[@7Aheadfamily]

So happy the hear this! This is exactly why we did this video!

[@jkka1477]

Imagine you are Ezra, you can’t talk or communicate nonverbally during curtain situations, such as crossing the road! So your first impulse is seek danger to tell your parents something, and you run away so that you can find a place that isn’t overstimulating, but your parents call it “being unaware of danger”, consider what it ACTUALLY means. Unaware of danger means you either 1. Too blind or visually impaired to see danger or 2. Too unconsciously unaware of surroundings including, but not limited to danger! AUTISTIC PEOPLE ARE AWARE OF DANGER!! THEY JUST DON’T ALWAYS SHOW IT!!! I’m aware of danger, so are my other autistic friends!

[@7Aheadfamily]

Hmm, that’s an interesting perspective. Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@ralph4720]

My friend is bringing over his friend and his wife to meet with they know of 3 places iven to go to and a hospital that will fit my kids special needs

[@7Aheadfamily]

❤️

[@hafduzngz03]

Stopping a stim will only makes new one pop up.

[@7Aheadfamily]

That makes sense

[@ralph4720]

They start occupational therapy on Tuesday and ABA on Thursday and she wants to see them on Saturdays every other week

[@7Aheadfamily]

That sounds great! Keep us updated on how it works out

[@ralph4720]

@7Aheadfamily thank you I will and thank you for taking an interest in my boys she said her #1 priority is to get them in to that school

[@7Aheadfamily]

That’s great

[@AnnGoslinn]

Does Ezra likes to turn on water from the tap while bathing? My son always does it.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Usually he doesn’t but he has before. Thanks for asking! ❤️

[@jenniferm8949]

Hi there! I’m new to your channel but very much relate to your family situation. I’m a mom of two autistic boys (4 year old level 2.5) and (two year old level 1.5). They are both in ABA, the oldest for 6 hours a day and the youngest 3 hours because he naps in the afternoons. We also have both in speech therapy combined with OT once a week as an enrichment to their ABA. As some people have asked, the main reason you would seek out additional therapies outside of ABA is to zero in on the comorbidities that come with Autism. For my kids they have apraxia that affects their speech and sensory processing disorder that OT really helps with. Not all autistic kids need OT and speech. We have a relative with autism that has OT therapy for feeding but is very verbal and reading above grade level so no need for speech therapy. On the flip side we know of another kiddo with apraxia but no sensory issues so no OT just speech. Some kids need just ABA. A good ABA place will offer a generalized form of OT and speech goals into their program but will also work with the other therapists working with your child to refine and bolster the already present OT and speech goals in the ABA program. For reference my kids go to ABA at a clinic it is not home based. It acts as a school with art class, music class, academics and teaches kids to get ready to enter the public school system.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much! Ezra has apraxia of speech too. I love your explanation on this subject! Thank you again for sharing! ❤️😊❤️

[@jasminubiaribeiro9818]

I think you guys are doing amazing, and it is probably because you are doing ABA wrongly, which is great!!!!!!

[@7Aheadfamily]

I suppose we’ll take that as a compliment. 😊 We are actually going to be doing another video soon about ABA which will hopefully give more clarity and clarification on the subject. 😊

[@AlyssaJCarter]

Im not quite sure why ABA is still used in this day and age even if it has changed considerably the origins and everything behind it has not. even in its newest forms it has been reported there is high incidences of PTSD and post traumatic stress symptoms that cause significant distress and impairment. Also masking is another big one. Most of the "improvement" from aba is temporary and also caused by the autistic person masking. Masking in the long term also has detrimental affects on mental health and also ABA has been strongly linked to making these children more vulnerable to predators as aba essentially teaches them that they have no body autonomy. A large number of autistic adults have spoke out against ABA (around 90% of autistic adults disagree with aba entirely) and if thats not a strong enough statistic to say that the whole concept of aba and its practices both past and modern are horribly wrong then I dont know what is.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you for your thoughts and for watching. ❤️ yes, as we mentioned in the video, there is a lot of negative things associated with ABA, and that is why as a parent, you have to be very involved and make sure that therapists are working on the things you want your child to progress in in the way that you want your child to progress. A lot of it is just terminology, our therapy is play-based, and so the kids actually have a lot of fun. We need to do more videos on that. :-) Coming soon.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Again, you are exactly the type of person that has caused many of these peoples nightmares, such as this comment that was also recently made on our channel… “As a survivor of very abusive 80s ABA "therapy" to stop my non-harmful stimming, just want to say thank you to you for not stopping your boy's non- harmful stims. I have had my hands taped down, I've been strapped into my seat, prevented from rockingI've been made to bite a spoon all supposedly for "my own good" so I'd sit still and have quiet hands, feet and mouth. I'm slowly learning to allow myself to stim when feel safe to and I'm in a safe space but I still hear my "teachers" voices in my head when I do so. I forgive my parents bc they were just doing what they were told to do. I am trying to forgive the teachers and try to remember that some of them really did think what they were doing was the right thing and they tried to be kind but there were a few that I'm sure just got some sick twisted sense of pleasure from torturing kids. Those ones can go eat a bag of unwashed, sweaty, hairy, donkey balls for all I care.”

[@7Aheadfamily]

Again, thank you for this, this is great content for future videos. 😊

[@mare7329]

I agree aba is horrible and shouldn't be allowed if it was done to a normal child they'd say child abuse , talk toa an autistic child who has had aba , it's horrible and I don't understand how parents are ok with this

[@7Aheadfamily]

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[@epic_rshutterbug9226]

You sons who's severe, what were his signs at almost 3 years of age? Was it noticeable as it is now? Thank you

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yes. He was an easy diagnosis. And had very obvious signs of Autism very young.

[@7Aheadfamily]

We made a video of him here when he was very young. 5 Signs of Autism in Babies kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYaUeGSaZcuKi5o

[@7Aheadfamily]

Here is one about signs he had under two years old. 12 Signs of Autism Under 2 years kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z4u6eZRjbMiIqpI

[@Java-D]

We do not and will not use aba or any other behavioral methods. The biggest issue with aba is that it teaches a child to ignore their own comfort, their own body needs, and to comply with the demands of an adult. That’s the opposite of self awareness and autonomy. Using preferred foods or tasks to “motivate” a child is basically saying, IF you do this thing that makes you extremely uncomfortable and doesn’t come natural to you, THEN you can have this thing that you want or enjoy. It teaches the child to ignore those internal body signals!!! Children who mindlessly conform to an adult’s demands are such easy targets for abuse and according to studies, almost always end up with trauma from aba. Yes, the kids seem to enjoy the therapists. Yes, they have fun. But also yes, it is damaging in so many ways, even with the precautions you have in place. Child led speech and occupational therapy does not look the same! It is completely different. It is never going against a child’s needs or wants, it is encouraging them to regulate and make their own body choices, and it is not done in a way that needs rewards or bribes of any kind.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you for sharing. Thank you for watching the movie and commenting.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Your way is force, our way is freedom. True leaders help others progress through example and love, not bind obedience, or force.

[@svetavinogradova4243]

@@7Aheadfamily Your way is Not freedom. My way is common sense. If humans could be formed just by example, there would be no wars, no criminal law, no police, no contracts... and there would be no criminals with non-criminal mothers! However, life does not work like that. Every human child is a mammal with both good potential and a barbaric potential. Speech development is not a given in a human child. Without obedience , there can be no learning, as humans are mainly taught by STRANGERS, not mummies! No other adult would bother with non-obedient defiant kid. Without reasonable pressure (call it force), withdrawal of desirable things, a human cannot be raised, as your personal experience confirms. You results are 3:2, in general population mothers get result of 30:1, or in France 1500:1. Very poor result. Your boy walks on a leash, like a ferret... is this freedom? Well, it is not! Your younger one has his mother spying on him with a camera all the time at a party!!! Is this freedom? Your both kids who cannot give consent, are exposed with their disorders to the whole prying world, also for 15$ a month donation to the parents!!!! This is freedom???? In my book of traditional parenting, it is the opposite, it is major oppression.

[@svetavinogradova4243]

@@7Aheadfamily Obedience of a child is always blind, as no child can appreciate whether the demand by a parent is sensible or ridiculous. A child is not in a position to judge, and as sailors obey the captain, a child must obey the parent. It is up to the parent to be reasonable and not to sink the ship.

[@7Aheadfamily]

I don’t have time to continue to argue with you, but will do some videos on this in the near future. 😊

[@tamaraanderson7260]

Thanks so much for all the information!! Great job!

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you ❤️

[@dishaarunagiri264]

What is stimming?

[@7Aheadfamily]

Good question. Here is a video that explains the answer. kzbin.info/www/bejne/eoq5emuPrap_Zs0si=O3nN46jAJjye18Iq

[@VikramS-l4g]

The timing of this video couldn't be better for me. I am planning to start OT and Speech therapy for my kid. I have couple of questions. Is ABA = Speech therapy + OT? Do therapists (both speech and OT) come daily? In Ontario, Canada it is very expensive per visit. I have check with my insurance they cover only 1500$ annually.

[@7Aheadfamily]

ABA is very expensive. $1500 is not very much. For us that would cover only a couple days. You can always get on the waiting list for ABA as you find out more about it. ABA therapists are only trained In ABA, usually. In this video we are saying that good ABA will and and should include traits of these other therapies. Good luck with everything. Providers often differ quite a bit on policies. So you could find a local provider and ask your questions with them. I don’t know how much ABA differs in Canada compared to the US. That is great that you have the other therapies signed up for him. Have him go to those for sure. Often in the US our problem is that insurance won’t cover speech, but it will cover ABA.

[@Bigbarb34]

I loved your last video, I like seeing Simon work with the ABA therapist, I think they should not make the children repeat themselves over again, your boys I know are doing great so well right now all thanks to you both as parents to them.😊😊😊

[@7Aheadfamily]

Well said. Thank you.

[@redn2sweet]

Hello my name is Karen. My grandson is 5 he is non verbal autistic. I just stated watching your channel. I see a lot of similarities between your son Ezra and my grandson. I laughed so hard when Ezra threw his cup over the fence! Frankie loves to do that. I seen Ezra put your hand under his chin, Frankie rubs my legs. I have to admit that I have learned so much from him, patience is the first I learned. Thank you for your videos. Karen

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much for watching and commenting ❤️ Yes, Ezra has taught us so much; patience, love, understanding. In our eyes, he is the pure perfect one, and we are the ones who need the work. Does Frankie like to throw a lot? That is one thing that we really have to watch out for Ezra as he can throw things and hurt people sometimes.

[@redn2sweet]

Yes he loves to throw things. We have put up most of the toys him and his sister have because he will go into the toy boys & throw them all over. (she's 7 and he's 6) and yes some of them are fire trucks or busses! And if we have laundry in a basket he will take out all the clothes & throw them again & again. So yes he is just amazing! I would rather spend time with him then any other person. ❤❤

[@redn2sweet]

@7-Ahead I also want to tell you how awesome I think you are. It's hard having an autistic child much less 2 PLUS you have 3 older kids. I can only imagine how you do it. I get tired at the end of the day with Frankie! But I wouldn't change a thing and I know you wouldn't either. ❤️

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much for sharing! ❤️ You sound like an amazing person! Good luck to you and Frankie! 😊

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much! ❤️ The older three help us with the younger two a lot. I don’t know how we would do it without them. 😊

[@naureen9326]

Thank you so much for sharing! Been wanting to start my nephew in ABA and this gives so much good advice and insight bc yes I've heard about the scary side of ABA and also personally witnessed bad experiences with therapists. Ive struggled between biting my tongue and also advocating for him but, ultimately I have to agree with you guys about making sure things don't become aversive or focused on the wrong thing. Are you able to share the company you guys are using or could I email/Ig dm you? It sounds like the ppl you are working with are good and amenable to input.

[@7Aheadfamily]

You bet! Email us at [e-mail] and we can hook you up with what you need. 😊

[@allthingsjered]

Love your family, your channel and your videos!! ❤

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much, Jared! Love you too ❤️. How is your mom doing?

[@allthingsjered]

@@7Aheadfamily you’re so welcome. Mom found out that her bladder cancer has metastasized into the bones in her hips.

[@7Aheadfamily]

So sorry to hear that. 😢 We will be praying for you guys. ❤️ Let us know if there’s anything we can do to help.

[@allthingsjered]

@@7Aheadfamily thank you so much. I appreciate you a million. ❤️

[@7Aheadfamily]

You bet, right back at you ❤️.

[@jo-annehickmott2206]

I think it’s good that you’re getting the wellies about ABA around because some people might not even understand what ETA is and he just won’t make fun of child that they don’t know they have autism. All I don’t know has dyspraxia or dyslexia or stuff like that, so I think it is good that you after this one is out I love you guys

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much! ❤️ we love to hear from you! 😊

[@jo-annehickmott2206]

You’re welcome I like something sweet comments, every single person that I watch. I love how you make awareness of autism I like how you make a where is this of other things as well not just autism dedicate your channel to watch the physically not one for pacific thing, you do random things to eat. When I can say, I am make me want to explore more.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️

[@ralph4720]

I need aba tp O come to my house because we're I take them is an hour away so in going to try in a week when in not tomorrow is there last day we are so busy

[@7Aheadfamily]

❤️

[@thomasschoeck9080]

The lack of awareness of danger like what Ezra has is also seen in some cases of level two autism. For example a friend of mine has two grandsons who are on the spectrum and the one who is level two has little to no sense of danger. He tends to climb a lot and he will eat earthworms and other non-food items if he’s not watched closely. Fortunately he doesn’t seem to wander/elope anymore and he no longer needs a toddler leash. On a good day he can be at least as verbal as Simon is currently. On a bad day he might not talk at all and uses signs or an iPad to communicate like Ezra does. He is currently in his third year of kindergarten and toilet training is still a work in progress for him. He sometimes makes it to the bathroom and is usually able to change his training pants when he is only wet so he’s coming along a little at a time. He does however tend to sometimes shut down on stressful days (like Christmas or Thanksgiving). For example, this year when he was asked to say grace he couldn’t do it and didn’t say a word to anyone until the next morning. Last year on Thanksgiving he was able to say grace without any problem. The last time I saw him he was less talkative than usual. He said hello to me and then a few minutes later he started sucking his thumb. I also noticed he was wearing Easy-Ups. The time before he was in underwear so it looks like his toilet training (like his speech) comes and goes. If you know any parents with kids who are level two maybe they can tell you if this is common with kids who are level two. Maybe a future video can cover topics related to this.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much for sharing.

[@avagauthier1662]

I’m autistic but high functioning. Your boys are cute. Are they verbal?

[@7Aheadfamily]

Ezra, our older one, is nonverbal. Simon, our younger one, uses some words to communicate but is very limited verbally. ❤️

[@ralph4720]

We're gonna try Aba again. When the twins because when she called me what she called me I was I told her I'm done, but she called and talked to me she apologized and everything I'm gonna let her try it. Let him try it again because they didn't seem to like care. But what she said to me was disrespectful. And I'm gonna tell her that again tomorrow. I need some rest cause II have to borrow my son's new car. You got a nice new car and you can let me bark. Cause I'm a rejection sticker on my car. I had to get a sticker. I had to get new license plates too because mine have faded.

[@7Aheadfamily]

❤️

[@loveandfunandmotivationala4254]

Maybe they are all just kids acting like kids but adults want kids to grow up so we assume they need to act like us but they are children.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yeah, with three neurotypical children, and two, who are on the spectrum, there are a lot of similarities and differences. Perhaps these videos would be helpful…

[@7Aheadfamily]

What is Autism? | Home Video | Doctor Explains kzbin.info/www/bejne/bHvLpGmMi76NY6s Ezra ‘s story… 5 Signs of Autism in Babies kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYaUeGSaZcuKi5o Simon’s story… Diagnosis of Mild Autism in 2-year-old kzbin.info/www/bejne/q3jPZJWCnql7gMk

[@robertpotenchin6628]

Trucul,cum functioneaza? Cum vor stelele,punct

[@7Aheadfamily]

The trick-or-treat, here is the episode…

[@7Aheadfamily]

Autistic Boy Uses Device to Trick-or-Treat kzbin.info/www/bejne/pIO0fWljp56ohdk

[@robertpotenchin6628]

@@7Aheadfamily Compassion

[@7Aheadfamily]

❤♥😀

[@theupsidedowngame9194]

nice

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you! 😊

[@cj-br9mq]

❤ thank you talking real life with being autistic

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much for watching and commenting ❤️. So glad to have you here. Do you have any experience with ABA?

[@beatricebodre7963]

Hello, so far my experience has good. My son is verbal but is more echoes from words we say or watched from Mrs. Rachel(tv) . He has communicated a little more functionally after starting ABA. The two therapist he has are really respectful.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much for commenting, watching, and sharing your experience. How long has your son been doing ABA?

[@beatricebodre7963]

@7Aheadfamily you're welcome! He has been doing ABA for approximately 3 months.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Awesome! Just getting warmed up. 😊 Glad it’s going well so far. Keep us posted with progress. 😊

[@DBK415]

Informative video.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you for watching and commenting. ❤️

[@LightningRxx]

I love your videos how you do routines

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much! ❤️❤️

[@ralph4720]

I took my kids out of aba because the d said I was lazy and a bad dad

[@7Aheadfamily]

That’s sad. Sorry to hear that.

[@robertpotenchin6628]

Descoperirea de sine Nu este nimic gresit,doar misterios

[@7Aheadfamily]

Self discovery is good. 😊

[@ralph4720]

I think I'm gonna take Ben out of Aba, but keep Ivan cause Ivan needs help. And then I'm gonna tell the doctor that tomorrow that Ben don't need Aba I was gonna send them to school but they said send them to public school because they love these kids too, and then just send them to a public school. That that's what I'm gonna do to send my kids to school. They were already at. Or was going to go know I'm confused about the sedno. No I think I'm gonna take Ben out of Aba. Keep Ivan in it.

[@7Aheadfamily]

❤️

[@littlejonathorn6860]

Nice Video!!! ABA is very important!!!

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you, agreed. 😊 Have you had any experience with it personally?

[@littlejonathorn6860]

@@7Aheadfamily When I was younger around 10 or 11 I had experiences with ABA. Now I am 28 and things are different.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️

[@flexiblefish100]

How old is the little one ? The mild one . I have a 2 years old who has autism but yet don’t speak .

[@7Aheadfamily]

Simon is three now, here’s a video, showing all of our kids in their ages…

[@7Aheadfamily]

Autistic Brothers' Adventure at Disneyland kzbin.info/www/bejne/imramaVthNCnaJY

[@7Aheadfamily]

Are you doing any ABA with your little guy?

[@flexiblefish100]

@@7Aheadfamily not yet because just to get a official diagnose has been a mission and without they provide aba . But we almost there on the aba . Which he has appointment on ados this July .

[@7Aheadfamily]

Awesome! Keep us posted with the progress ❤️

[@mysterionz]

Hey thanks for removing a spam comment that was posted to a comment I left on your most recent video about stimming. How is the day in a life video coming along?

[@mysterionz]

Just realized it was the 12 examples of stimming video

[@7Aheadfamily]

Your welcome! ❤️ It’s doing great! Best video yet! 😊

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much for watching and commenting! ❤️❤️❤️

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you so much for joining our channel! We appreciate it so much. ❤️.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Do you have any experiences or opinions about ABA?

[@mariesmith3666]

Masker teachers!!!!!!

[@7Aheadfamily]

Not sure I know what you mean❤

[@robertpotenchin6628]

Totul

[@7Aheadfamily]

👍

[@ralph4720]

My kids speech therapist just got a promotion so I have no speech therapist right now She did give me a folder for the summer

[@7Aheadfamily]

She gave you the homework, huh. 😊 How has that been going for you? Takes a lot of time to do it yourself.😜

[@ralph4720]

@7-Ahead yes it does take awhile but I got the hang of it I just hope they work with me and not goof around they loved her

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yeah, sometimes as the parent it is almost more difficult.😜 Do you think you’ll get another therapist soon?

[@ralph4720]

@7-Ahead yes after the summer

[@7Aheadfamily]

Awesome! Any fun summer plans?

[@robertpotenchin6628]

Seman mai mult cu Simon,incruntat Jupiter,suparat

[@7Aheadfamily]

That was a funny face Simon was making. 😊

[@victorcelmare]

How come you all have so much money rofl

[@7Aheadfamily]

You can see the beginnings of our journey in this playlist, but we sold our house and moved into an RV, and went to visit all the national parks, so we’ve spent all of our money now. 😊 we started a construction company now and are back to work. 😊 you can see that a little bit in our day in the life video as well.

[@7Aheadfamily]

Watch the Journey in Order kzbin.info/aero/PLLCliYhgnblbPFMKfjbsN_P4r_pF3qaHE

[@7Aheadfamily]

A Day in the Life of Mild Autism and Severe Autism kzbin.info/www/bejne/iKrOh4Z9Z7mBhrs

[@AllenKordes]

Hey I got autism it been raining in ohio

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thanks for watching and commenting ❤️. It has been a rainy spring here. How much rain have you guys had in Ohio this spring?

[@AllenKordes]

@7Aheadfamily it be dry for 4 weeks in ohio we need this rain snd it is summer time and you kids is out for school?

[@7Aheadfamily]

Yes they are. 😊 the young ones still get their ABA though, so that is great. 😊 Do you have any experience with ABA?

[@AllenKordes]

@7Aheadfamily no I was in early intervention sorry I read bad stuff about aba

[@7Aheadfamily]

Thank you for sharing, yes, we have heard a lot of bad things too. That’s why we wanted to make this video because it really depends on how it is done, and you really have to watch them close and be proactive. Do you feel that your early intervention helped?