Parveen's Arranged Marriage Dilemma: Old Farm To New Family | Absolute Documentaries

Parveen faces the emotional challenge of leaving her Waikato dairy farm home to marry Ranjit in a semi-arranged wedding. However, the prospect of parting with her grandparents, who raised her, weighs heavily on her mind. Meanwhile, 33-year-old Hindu bachelor Nitesh eagerly anticipates the chance to consummate his marriage.
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From: Matched | S1 E3
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[@judithjordan154]

I was so impressed with Ranjit - "I want to make the house ready for my wife to come in, otherwise she might not be happy here." I think they are both starting off with the right attitude - that it's going to be work, but it's going to be worth it. I think sometimes in "love matches," the couple assumes that love will conquer all, and so they don't go into it prepared to work at it in the same way.

[@mosimosi630]

I have no problem with arranged marriages as long as everyone is in agreement and not being forced into it

[@anna_m59]

Agreed!

[@bevs9995]

most people dont seem to like the idea of their parents telling them who to marry. I know I certainly wouldnt even let my mom pick out my outfits to wear. So why not just do arranged dating

[@HeatherBoo916]

@@bevs9995 that's pretty much what the Muslims in America that still want an arranged marriage. They do arranged dating. Jewish people also, the more conservative ones.

[@operator_zx5265]

Well , nobody gives a damn about uh..and ur PROBLEM ...😂😂😂uh.... We will do what our culture believe

[@crystalharris7394]

YES!

[@lindsaywarden1746]

I met my husband on holiday! A holiday romance? That is never going to work! This year we'll celebrate our 42nd anniversary! The whole key is respect, compromise and kindness.❤

[@kiranw7393]

Praveen is so graceful and soft spoken. A natural beauty!

[@Laura-vc7er]

Swasti & Nitesh are absolutely adorable

[@RoseleeMartinez-ne1sh]

Yes it was love at first sight but not all are like this as long as they can say no n not forced they ALREADY HAVING a baby❤

[@vins6036]

This is Arranged meaning boy and the girl Agree to the match its NOT FORCED marriage where a girl is taken to a village and married off to a first cousin who by the way may be 20 years older then her.

[@itsmedawn-marie]

I went to school with a British-Pakistani muslim girl. When she was 13, she was taken out of school. There were rumours that she was taken to Pakistan to get married, I thought it was kids just gossiping, at 13 myself, I'd never heard of such a thing (it was the early '90s. One year later, she had returned to school and indeed, married to a guy in his 30's and he came to live with her family in the UK. She was no longer allowed to dress in western style clothing, having to dress modestly with her hair and face covered. She seemed happy, but very grown up.

[@humongousfungusamongus3871]

The only time I have a problem with arranged marriages is if the bride is 13 years old & the groom is 60 years old.

[@janine9400]

Agree…that is not an arranged marriage, that is child abuse, plain and simple

[@angeliqueoren2462]

I love this tradition and wish it was more common. I would love to a member of any of these families. What a beautiful video.

[@kamauwikeepa7308]

Thank you so much! I have watched many Sikh weddings on utube and have often wondered what the rituals actually meant. The bride and groom reflect the rich traditions of an ancient culture. It's really amazing and the deep respect for the older generation and tradition. The bridal couple gives myself an outsider a glimpse into how maharaja Sikh must have looked like. Most appreciated.

[@doodybird5766]

Strange how in arranged marriage couples that I've seen. You have a man coming here to the states with his parents and brothers but somehow leaves his wife back in the country they came from and will eventually bring her here. In the meantime, he's partying every chance he gets and definitely not being faithful like his wife is expected to be while he's not around. I've seen this in 4 different families so how is it the husbands parents allow this when they're the ones who insisted of an arranged marriage? Just courious..

[@HeatherBoo916]

Depends because you can't always get visas at the same time. It's extremely complicated and expensive.

[@comradeleppi2000]

​@@HeatherBoo916so hus can party around?

[@HeatherBoo916]

@@comradeleppi2000 that's on him

[@Juanita-gf4te]

Not many grooms would be allowed to behave this way. Both bride and groom are expected to be chaste until they marry. Among the Indians I know the men had never had a girlfriend before marriage.

[@MissJadeScorpion]

There is no problem with arranged marriages, if done right. Dating is terrible now a days, there are to many options and people don't want to commit. This way is easier, your parents can find someone who is serious and wants to commit, instead of wasting months and years waiting for your partner to commit.

[@cleo8665]

The downside tho, is that if the bride is unhappy in the marriage, she will most likely stay because of guilt. It can go both ways.

[@eugeniasyro5774]

Sweet documentary! I liked it

[@melissabarney4235]

Parveen is a very strong personality compared to other brides I have seen featured in these documentaries

[@CharlotteDonovan-ku3md]

Her groom is extremely chill, so they're marriage should be successful 🤞

[@nkhen_c357]

Every decision he makes the mother would be consulted....what kind of madness is that?

[@kimtaehyungsock]

typical indian culture

[@comradeleppi2000]

As indian i hate it i don't allow it... They get angry but i don't mind it

[@Juanita-gf4te]

Marriages that work long term.....

[@nkhen_c357]

@@Juanita-gf4te he might as well marry his mother

[@Juanita-gf4te]

In Muslim and Indian communities the mothers are worshiped and obeyed. Thats the reason the love of Lady Diana's life, Hasnat Khan would not marry her. Sher went to Pakistan to meet his mother and win her approval. She failed. The wealthy and discreet high class Khans did not wand the drama and paparazzi that came with Diana. They also did not find Diana very stable. And they were right. So she and Hasnat broke up and Diana took up with Dodi on the rebound. And in this case the mother did approve her sons choice so it all worked out. @@nkhen_c357

[@devashreeyumnam7009]

Just as a lot of love marriages end in disaster, it’s the same with arranged marriages. For the western world it can be a strange concept but it has worked for lots of people in the part of the world where it is normal.

[@bevs9995]

"Romance before marriage, means you dont have anything to look forward to after youre married." Wise words, actually. Something rings loudly true. Maybe its all the memories of my parents fighting.

[@MommeeMadre1]

Amen.

[@ShesS0Weird]

Nope. Not true for my family. My husband and I have only grown and fallen more deeply in love after marriage.❤

[@MommeeMadre1]

A marriage has a much better rate of success when the entire family is also invested. It's not about puppy love, it's about a deep commitment to a covenant bond with your spouse. I love how so many family members are in hand to prepare the bride and groom. I love this so much!

[@tiffinyanderson4403]

I really enjoyed this documentary and the couples seem lovely. My oncologist and neighbor are Indian and had arranged marriages and they are truly family people. I respect so many of their traditions and the foundation that can be built upon in their lives. Of course there are good and bad things with every marriage but it’s beautiful.

[@kemeyartusniki842]

Both families are beautiful... Congrats 🎉 to the happy couples🎉

[@tracymay6702]

How are they born and bought up in New Zealand, but act as if they are from rural India! Especially Swasthi, she is not even fluent in English!

[@sharynkhan1104]

I hope they will be as happy as I and my husband are after 40 years of marriage. I married a British Pakistani we kind of had a arranged marriage, because I arranged it.

[@kimtaehyungsock]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@maimoonaahmed8614]

😂

[@sagarikanath5052]

Swati and Nitesh seems really happy to find eachother

[@highlyfavoured5121]

Talk about “don’t judge a book by its cover!” Listening to Parveen’s family speak and their British accents totally threw me off! That’s lovely! 😂😂😂

[@Caramelo412]

They’re from New Zealand

[@TheBeauty_Charmaine]

This is quite interesting

[@anoucheerbil-babayan6728]

Beautiful.

[@janesmith9024]

Thank you to all families for letting us see into these wonderful weddings and good luck to all of them (from here in a very Indian part of London). My only advice to all the couples is make sure you are 100% sure under the civil law of the country where you marry that you have a civil marriage too otherwise none of the legal rights apply. In the UK Christian and Jewish marriage MUST have the civil part at the same time. However the other religions do not have to do so (not least because muslims are allowed 4 wives). If the new spouse is not married also under civil law there are no protective civil law legal rights . I have known someone who deliberately did not do the civil part so his wife had no claims on him on divorce in England.

[@HeatherBoo916]

Shameful that people do that deceitful like that

[@jillianvirginiathaggard2289]

very, true

[@anydrama1]

nothing wrong with this is going on for years ...as long as both parties are happy

[@pantone1679]

A little creepy seeing him in the underwear section. He spent a lot of time touching and handling the items.

[@Thufferinthuckotash]

That was weird af

[@TuneinR]

I have interacted with a couple of indian girls but i don't really push in any effort because i know their parents are already making husband arrangements 😂😂😂😂😂 the indian way ofcourse.

[@TomRiddler-m3j]

Don’t worry about it. Go for it. If they really like you they’ll go for you

[@TuneinR]

@@TomRiddler-m3j I am not an Indian...so that makes it even worse and my chances slim to 0% so i just leave them alone.

[@TomRiddler-m3j]

@@TuneinR that shouldn’t stop you. If you feel race is an issue, go for a Fiji Indian girl. They are more likely to get with another race.

[@TuneinR]

@@TomRiddler-m3j i dont live in the Australian, New Zealand region.I am in europe but thanks for havong this polite conversation 💗

[@TomRiddler-m3j]

@@TuneinR it’s all goods. Good luck on your journey

[@NancyCronk]

Why are they filming them in the bathtub?

[@snoopysnoopy2556]

I have a friend she’s 6 ft and plus size. She told me she wish there’s arrange marriage.shocking as she’s Canadian German decent. But I guess realistically that’s maybe her only chance of marriage. She is 60 and single

[@marykagunda8218]

I feel for her, since I'm also a plus size girl who is also yet to find the other half

[@abcdefghi9]

I think arranged marriages are the future. Its too much headache to be dating nowadays.

[@ONEOFAKINDSISTAH]

Throughout history and many cultures arranged marriages are nothing new. Arranged marriages occur in the Bible. The concept of ‘love’ unions was popularised in the west in the early 19th century with the rise of romantic fiction. Prior to that families arranged the unions of the young men and women in the family.

[@ariston5433]

My husband parents were married 61 years my parents were married 54 years, my husband and I have been married 52 years , my brother and his wife have been married 55 years, other siblings have been married 46 years, 44 years. None were arranged marriages by the the way We are Americans. Believe it or not there are still westerners and Americans who honor their marriage vows and families. Although it is not the norm any longer.

[@SayanHaqueOfficial]

Wow❤❤❤

[@dorotadamiecka5233]

Stay away as far as you can (disaster)

[@cocopen3415]

I AGREE!!!!!!!

[@kvwright729]

The haldi is gently applied….🤜🏾🌫️🤣

[@rolmaguiland21]

Good luck to both families 😊🎉🎉🎉

[@salhooper]

Imagine wearing a white vest to a turmeric ceremony

[@chicfini]

In Trinidad and Tobago 🇹🇹 they call it the maconarny😂😂😂😂. I very much respect this tradition.

[@RoseleeMartinez-ne1sh]

Im American n Christian im ok with this as long as everyone is agreed n not forced and not to an oldman. So they may introduce a young man but if it doesn't work they wont force them thats the way it should be. And no man mary yound then 18 years old everythung should be the brides choice this way everyone is happy. They already expected the first child this wS A BEAUTIFUL celebration of 💕💕

[@HumbleMonsterUK]

They really overdo the turmeric and henna 🤢

[@lovesika7]

I do believe there is a positive side of the arranged marriage .

[@Sue-103]

Lovely couples ❤

[@ShahPadayachee]

Both couple are absolutely amazing and beautiful, yeah and to follow traditional custom, indian diaspora is very much the same were ever we live in the world, congratulations to the married couples ,good wishes South Africa ❤

[@liznemeskery4321]

I respect the beliefs and honor the Indian culture, nationality and way of life. This was enjoyable and interesting to watch.

[@lburgess63]

The beautiful side of arranged marriages -- blessings and happiness to these couples and their families forever!

[@RoseleeMartinez-ne1sh]

This was very beautiful ❤❤❤ they had the chance to say no are yes. The grandparents accepted her choice n she goes to visit grandparents every week shes a good granddaughter. Wishing them much happiness already having the first baby congrats

[@Seekay-oe3qz]

It's up to da families - if they are orthodox traditional then it's their business! Their personal choice , if it goes south down the line & turns toxic then divorce must be acceptable to all parties.

[@HappyComfort]

Very nice video 😊👍🌷

[@renatesperlich7266]

Beautiful preparation for the wedding and beautiful family and friends, it’s like a fary tale .

[@RG-ki9mf]

Thank God my for fathers left India ,cant see myself living there

[@louisetringham5830]

He’s a hoot going tone a great husband. She will joy her life’s blessings

[@granmabern5283]

Sweet

[@lianefehrle9921]

That kind of wedding looks like fun. Costly but fun.

[@sharynkhan1104]

I absolutely love Sikh weddings. I hope they will be very happy 😊

[@annetteingle1410]

Why dont they have their own home

[@ONEOFAKINDSISTAH]

Because initially living with the family helps the young couple settle into family life and helps them build themselves up financially. At least this has been the case for a lot of my Asian friends here in the UK.

[@daljeetkaur8515]

Don't worry, you can always buy the gift card if not the perfect gift 😅

[@gayatrijohnston]

Congratulations to the couple

[@maureencopeland5300]

How you leave memories ?

[@nevertoomuchshoesever5532]

Ive never gotten emotional at any of these videos but Parveen story brought me to tears...Im so happy shes happy snd wish both couples much much love and successful marriages.

[@abidafakroodeen4633]

❤❤❤ South Africa 😊😊😊

[@juliancoulden1753]

I can’t think of anything worse than an arranged marriage. It’s a sentence. The innocence of these poor people is astonishing

[@maylynbayani]

I have friends who had arranged marriages and their relationship seemed more stable and happy than most "love" marriages. It's their culture. I mean, im sure those in hook up culture arent seem to be that happy too. Atleast these women have the commitment of marriages.

[@juliancoulden1753]

@@maylynbayani I have many friends for whom their marriages were arranged. They tell me that rarely is it love at first sight, if you are lucky the love grows. But for many they are trapped in loveless marriages, which is destructive of both partners. And the children, who don’t see happy role models. Also I know that men in unhappy marriages cheat and look for companionship elsewhere.

[@Annsunshine30]

"Journy towards love", or hate!!

[@cleo8665]

"Haldi" is not the name of the ceremony, it's the Hindi word for turmeric.

[@sassysaloni.]

As Haldi is applied to groom and bride on that day, we just call this ceremony Haldi Ceremony

[@toganivalumirry]

Hello Mrs Balram.

[@Seekay-oe3qz]

In da west da thinking is ' you came for a beta life to white European settled ex colonies so now you must follow our rules ' that thinking is for the average Joe but in the west amongst the wealthy - it's arranged marriages of heirs to vast fortunes based on a marriage bond brings the business aspects of each together. For those PPL from India that settled in the west esp the elderly the idea of holding onto ur Indian heritage & culture is key to identify. Because no matter how we dress as a westerner we remain Indian in the eyes of non Indians so we mite as well embrace that difference to contribute to the tapestry of our adopted countries.

[@Flyrabbit1]

With a face like the grandma I think she’s lucky to have been arranged

[@senoradelvita]

???

[@lianefehrle9921]

That is a rude thing to say.