The Golden Girls Reimagined: Co-Living/Co-housing for Black Women | The Art of Being Alone Together

[@StephaniePerry]

#Replay I'll be doing so much travel into 2026 that it totally makes sense for me to get a Golden Girls Gang in Costa Rica. I want a nice house, but I won't use it all for a while. Right now, my plan is to tap into the women I've met there so far and see if they know a Blanche or Dorothy. (Because I'm Rose. 😆 🌹)

[@AdaliaAborisade]

I love this plan! And of course you're Rose 🤣🤣

[@RA-qb4gl]

hahaha

[@gg13308]

you are the Harriet Tubman of the Exodus group and leader of the Vaycarians…

[@FunkyBruja]

Not you being Rose. lol😍

[@KO-wu2og]

Im Dorothy!

[@CuratedVibes]

I would ONLY want to do this as long as the other women are active and have their own lives. I have lived around expats in a few cities over the years and a lot of them are looking for constant companionship and unfortunately, some of them didn't have the funds and needed financial help. It can be a bit stressful if everyone in the space isn't pulling their weight or too needy for attention or friendship. I find myself getting exhausted with the needs of the communities after a while.

[@lenaprice6239]

Your comment is very much on point (especially regarding the finances). I think, a number of older adults do the co-living arrangement, because they need to cut costs. There's nothing wrong with that, but they should definitely vet their prospective room-mates well. Another thing that people have to keep in mind is, not everyone will have the same commitment to paying bills on-time, or following through with the lease agreement. In those instances, the other roommates have to be prepared to pick up the financial slack.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

That's the beauty of it, you and your roomies get to decide how and where you live. Y'all get to design the life you want.

[@toolsofthepodcasttrade]

I did this in Plays del Carmen with a total stranger from Germany. It worked out very well for each of us because we respected each other.

[@moneycoachmalika]

I enjoyed this conversation and really like the idea of a Golden Girls arrangement - especially abroad. But as an introvert who loves quiet/solo time and has lived on my own for 20+ years, it would take divine alignment to find other women with complementary personalities. I’m most definitely a Dorothy. lol

[@AdaliaAborisade]

I didn't think it would be possible for me either... you never know

[@SomethingNewAMBW]

*looks in introvert * i feel this, personalities will definitely need to be compatible

[@FindYourFree]

I just love this content. So excited that women are figuring out who their real support system is, other women! We need our sisterhood..

[@AdaliaAborisade]

💯

[@RA-qb4gl]

Is there an app for Black women looking to co-live internationally?

[@nobodyreally777]

You have a million dollars idea boo

[@KayleneRomero-oz7yz]

She truly does... It Abundance starts with an idea.❤

[@itsquinisha]

If there is, please let me know. I've been thinking of something like this as I travel more often.

[@KO-wu2og]

I have always loved the idea of communal living, it’s practical, fun and a safe way to live.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

there are definitely a lot of benefits

[@Christadatesmx]

This is a great conversation . When I first landed in CDMX, I stayed with two other ladies for a little over three months and I was SO dead set against the idea at first, but it truly turned into one of the biggest blessings. I now live alone but I wouldn’t have traded that experience and there is truly value in removing the headlines thrust upon us about co-living situations when you are of a certain age, especially in the US as you mentioned Adalia. This is definitely something that needs to be discussed more!

[@desireeyoung6205]

Watching the replay from Houston, Texas. I have had roommates intermittently since I became an empty-nester 16 years ago. I think co-living in another country would be very helpful and beneficial mentally and emotionally and could avoid loneliness.

[@RA-qb4gl]

There are many places in Santo Domingo, Dominican republic where you can find 3 bedroom homes and each room has its own secure living space.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Sounds great

[@Hello_PE]

I’ve always thought Golden Girls living is such a great idea for women. I would say I’m between a Dorothy and a Rose haha. Love this conversation! Multigenerational living is also very common and the norm in many (maybe most) other parts of the world.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Thanks for sharing

[@PhetteHollins]

Love love love this conversation. Wow. I’m currently in the U.S. & am in the process of redesigning my life. I’m 48 with an adult daughter & a 17 year old who’s about to graduate high school. I’ve struggled all of my adult life with getting & keeping housing, especially with being a single mom with little to no financial literacy. While I’ve never been evicted, I moved around a lot because I simply couldn’t afford many of the places where I lived. As a kid, I lived in a house with 13+ people. All my cousins, aunts, uncles, etc. I definitely can see the benefit to that now.

[@FunkyBruja]

Excellent! 🥰 MX Life lesson TIP: 1.) Lay the ground rules out before signing the lease. 2) Make sure your roommate doesn't have mental health issues that might complicate things. 3.) Make sure roommate doesn't do drugs/ marijuana (guilty by association)

[@actionvj]

This was a pretty cool conversation. I’m between, having two homes & bouncing between them and having 1 home base & travel around from there. We shall see. Very enjoyable conversation.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Eventually, I might bounce between two homes. We'll see 😁

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

I'm about to be in this boat. Have my condo in DC and I'm buying in marseille france. I do plan on getting a french roommate, a student, so they can watch over things and help with expenses the first year 🙂 also a local so I can practice my french.

[@startribecafe]

This was a very interesting talk. This was something that I had considered with a few friends of mine, just in mulling it over. Then I came to realize that there were certain things about the friends that I spend time with and love that I couldn’t quite see us cohabitating together. But I really love this idea of community and what that might look like for you know women in their 40s women in their 50s 60s 70s and living abroad. Thank you. This was a really thought-provoking conversation. Loved it.❤

[@carlad1465]

I LOVE this!!! ❤❤ I have been renting 2 rooms in my home short-term like Airbnb but now I want to share my home (in Portland, OR) with long-term housemates because I'm out of the country so much.

[@rose4u111]

Hey Adalia.👋🏾 I thoroughly enjoyed this conversation!🤗🌹

[@AdaliaAborisade]

I'm so glad!

[@winningintheworkplace]

This was an excellent video discussion. I would do this if it was in a Tiny House community, definitely interested in that!

[@sscaneel]

I’m interested in a tiny community too!

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Go for it! Do some Googles and see what you can find.

[@jetta_may]

I had no questions Adalia, cuz you looked so happy!! So so happy for both of you ladies!! I’m saving this one! So many good questions to ask and things to discuss BEFORE co-living!! 🙏🏽

[@VoyageHER]

I love this conversation 🤎🤎🤎 I feel like I could do co-living if we have the same standard of cleanliness and our own bathrooms.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

🙌🏾

[@sayyidahthewriter]

This was a great topic and I hope you return to it again. Thank you!

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@WanderingWhileBlack]

I'm here in Mexico. My first rental was the universe unfolding and it was a breeze. Having moved around I definitely see the struggle in finding accommodations.

[@OurBlackUtopia]

#Replay, even for those of us who are partnered we should still keep this idea in mind...there will come a time when one person will no longer be there.

[@tonyetheselfcaremaven]

Cathie the replay Adalia! Great conversation and very informative in terms of things to consider if you’re going to go the co-living route. It’s also a great for those who want to move abroad but would like to stay on a specific budget.

[@RA-qb4gl]

Excellent session. Thank you.

[@RA-qb4gl]

I have grown into an introvert as I aged. I have the funds and prefer to have my own space however if I met the right people I would consider it. As I get older I can see co-living being beneficial. I definitely need a private balcony and my own bathroom.

[@bebe553]

Watching the replay on 2/29/24. Thanks, Ladies.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

You're welcome!

[@natasharobinson4447]

Thank you, thank you, thank you for having this conversation. I love this idea and I hope I am lucky to find this arrangement when I take the leap next year!

[@AdaliaAborisade]

I hope so too!

[@evelyngolden2272]

Watching the replay from Johannesburg, SA.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

thanks for watching

[@latonyadover3588]

Replay Wonderful background here. I enjoy your videos and talks.

[@WanderingWhileBlack]

38:38 "the universe tends to unfold as it should" 🥂

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

Im buying a 2 bedroom in france. Im going to get a local roommate, someone in school. So ill have a roommate when i visit, but thats not bad. So it helps pay for the property and ensures someone is watching it when im not there.

[@meliw4142]

#Replay This Vlog is very timely for me!

[@diamondforbes2783]

Great conversation, this is definitely an option I can consider.

[@OurBlackUtopia]

Great conversation. Angela, you're giving me ideas on how to help my tenants 😆 who are co-living.

[@malaysia1911]

Awesome video... Thanks so much!

[@AdaliaAborisade]

My pleasure!

[@gg13308]

Watching the replay from Rome, can’t do lives. If I ever do this, I will hire Angela to facilitate a conversation and ask questions that I would not think of. I am an introverted extrovert. I have a tendency to be both sometimes. More introverted than extroverted..but this makes me want to say hmmm… if you know then you know

[@AdaliaAborisade]

I think you just tapped into a new addition to Angela's business 🤣

[@aimeepaterson4423]

I Don't Know What Is Happening; My Comments Are Disappearing From YT Videos.😌 I Wrote A Really Lovely, Congratulatory Comments To Adalia and Angela For This Episode, For Raising & Discussing an Extremely Useful & Vital Subject Matter...But It Has Apparently Disappeared! :( Hopefully This One Stays!🙏 Muito OBRIGADA Adalia & Angela. A Great Session. Invaluable & Very Helpful.💗

[@kathyhampton_wellandaware]

Replay!!!❤❤❤

[@GeorgettaShemil]

6:57 Fort Worth Texas

[@debbiec9526]

Yes, let’s do it in Paris.

[@NicoleGarrett-fb7gd]

I may be open to a co-living situation with another single mom aboard. 🤔 might be the only way I can do this move sooner. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@AdaliaAborisade]

It's absolutely worth considering

[@elisedarvis2540]

Watching the replay. As usual excellent content.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@elenawalker517]

This was so very good to be apart of, but question what does “Slow Traveling mean?

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Slow travelers stay in a location for months at a time before moving on

[@anissiawest]

I have grown to life co-living after co-living in Colombia.

[@01akqueen]

Hello from Rose😊

[@Patty_Palmer]

#replay

[@brem3386]

I recently travel to Las Cruces New Mexico, nice but not for me. What part of New Mexico are you located?

[@AdaliaAborisade]

I live in Mexico City, Mexico.

[@brem3386]

Thank you for sharing the information with me. I have been watching your and Stephanie's videos on black women living abroad and in different parts of New Mexico, but I'm still unsure about the relocation process. I am interested in attending a group meeting are would love to receive a message from you when you're planning for women to travel there for a meeting. I don't use social media much, so a message would be the best way to reach me. I'm in my early 60s and excited to hear more and would love to meet up with you one day to discuss the details.

[@ScriptureGal]

Is this just for international or local here in the united states

[@AdaliaAborisade]

I think it is a good option no matter where you are

[@dr.keishablackinbaja6826]

How much of your financials do you share with a potential flat mate?

[@AdaliaAborisade]

You need to know if they can pay the rent but really, that's it

[@lisamanz6641]

I luv this topic- I have begun to rethink my options about living abroad

[@AdaliaAborisade]

There are so many ways to make this transition.

[@peacewithin0186]

Just subscribed to your channel. Your voice is very relaxing

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Thanks for subbing!

[@GardensFlowers-f7k]

❤❤❤

[@MsArtelia]

Thank you for the information

[@AdaliaAborisade]

You're most welcome