Addiction Recovery and Cluster B Disorders Through an Attachment Based Trauma Informed Lens

[@DocSnipes]

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[@beautardyartist]

28:42 "Addiction may represent the person's only secure attachment." So true - amazing insight. Thank you Doc Snipes.

[@EVallone]

Positively brilliant

[@debievans5045]

As a former nicotine addict, this is so true. My cigarettes, as unhealthy as they were, offered a sense of comfort and grounding.

[@TheFaro2011]

This sums my ex and his upbringing. Getting to understand his mother and how she was, explained everything. I had to leave. Hurt people hurting people

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching and commenting.

[@robinrealraw5347]

I just found your channel as trying to get healing for my addictive behaviors! You answer SO many of my questions of why I am the way I am. Thank you! I have CPSTD from when 15 being gang raped, 5 marriages, multiple abortions, last marriage to abusive naracsisst, lost 2 homes and everything. Been moving about every year for 15 years. Been seeking healing, Christian ministry, regular counseling for 20 years. Better than I was but still paranoid, no trust, lots of physical pain issues. Using kratom, not much now, but dependant on it to function without pain and aniexty. I'm 66 now and so frustrated that this seems so overwhelming to tackle. Suggestions for getting healed of all this. Started with my naracsisst abusive parents

[@robinrealraw5347]

@@edatatu2739 thank you! will check it out. I know I said for years I DID NOT want children due to my miserable childhood. So makes sense

[@DocSnipes]

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[@TheFaro2011]

Daym. Wow. I hope you're healing, my friend recommended "the body keeps the score"

[@angelacoleman6580]

😔

[@debievans5045]

ACA, (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families) has helped me tremendously. Its a 12 Step program with weekly meetings, some online, and is a safe, supportive space to speak ur truth and heal from a traumatic past. Some meetings r "healthier" than others, so if one group doesn't feel right, try others. Find someone to be ur sponsor and create a "team" of recovering friends to be ur support network. Also " energy work" such as Reiki, Healing Touch, Pranic Healing, Eden Energy work, etc. helps A LOT. And physical movement like yoga, Tai Chi, helps get the energy moving, loosens the "body armor" and frees up the "issues in our tissues." Dont be discouraged if money is an issue. 12 Step meetings cost $1, sponsors dont charge. Some energy workers offer sliding scale fees, or donate their services thru a church, Community center or clinic. Ask around. Some will barter for sessions. Tai Ci, yoga classes are easy to find, in person, on line or DVD's from local library. Many blessings to u on ur healing journey. ❤ Dont give up. 😘

[@musicanovas6]

"Right now, there are people all over the world who are just like you. They're either lonely, they're missing somebody, they're depressed, they're hurt, they're scarred from the past, they're having personal issues no one knows about, they have secrets you wouldn't believe. They wish, they dream and they hope. And right now, they are sitting here reading these words, and I'm writing this for you so you don't feel alone anymore. Always remember, don't be depressed about the past, don't worry about the future, and just focus on today. If today's not so great don't worry! Tomorrow's a new chance. If you are reading this, be sure to share this around to make others feel better. Have a nice day!"

[@DocSnipes]

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[@musicanovas6]

@@DocSnipes Thank you very much . God bless you and your family wish you a new day full of blessings, health and happiness 🙏🏻💋

[@anitagastelum1091]

Thank you 😊 For Introducing Myself to Me . I'll be 59 next month and will celebrate with the Child Within ,without Fear of the Future!! Blessed ..

[@DocSnipes]

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[@ShenaH.]

Thank you so much for this very in-depth talk and review. It makes me feel validated and I’m like, “Yes, that’s me.” Or, “You get it!”, when going over all of the details. This is the first video I’ve seen of yours and with all of your information and the way you explain things, I feel good and assured taking notes and viewing many more of them.

[@DocSnipes]

You are so welcome! Thanks for watching and commenting.

[@Inspiriments888]

I have come to realise that true healing began when I stopped blaming others.. It put the power in their hands, the counsolers hands, and all it was doing was identifying the root, yet when accomplished with a blame narrative, it kept the pattern repeating.. I learned it's a 3 part process.. 1.) Identify cause and patterns; 2.)process and forgive myself and the others; 3.)Establish extreme self honesty on how to take responsibility for my life; free from victimization and blame(no matter what) True empowerment is possible once blame, shame and guilt are forgiven. I give all credit to GOD, Jesus, and the will Spirit gave me to face the music and Rise again! I believe all can find peace and healing . GOD Bless all on the healing journey

[@DocSnipes]

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[@ssing7113]

Oh this is gonna be so good! Thank you Dr. Snipes

[@DocSnipes]

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[@judygraessle7358]

Thank you for teaching and informing, instructing and guiding us in the field of psychology. I appreciate you and am grateful we can learn through your online videos. God bless you and your endeavors.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@EmmsReality]

@@DocSnipes very briefly. Do you believe a sense of loneliness lack of self esteem, roots of codependent behavior, can be MUCH worse in trans people. Those of us who’s trauma was just being trans and hiding into mid adulthood. I did all sorts of things from 18-35 trying to find my way, running from being trans. And now when I listen to things on codependency it all rings so loud it hurts. I know cis people have self esteem and self love issues. But in your experience, trans people seem to be on another level for this. Assuming they didn’t live their truth from a young adolescent age.

[@dee0731]

Great, great, powerful teaching Doc Snipes thank you 🙌🏻🌞

[@DocSnipes]

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[@jenniferarce6993]

Hello Dr Snipes since your session on Codepency ive really had the desire to dig deeper into behaviors ive been demonstrating along with the temptation to IGNORE" them too ..im happy that ive decided to go deeper in this session youve Once again hit the 🎯 as to where these behaviors are coming from or could be coming from (Ive vot a long way to go I bet ) but with the proper information and awareness that your sessions provide i believe someday i will be healthy-minded again and excited about life! Thankyou Dr Snipes your making a difference🌅

[@DocSnipes]

Glad to hear! Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@jenniferarce6993]

Happy Valentines Day Dr.Snipes!💝

[@jenniferarce6993]

Merry Xmas Dr Snipes! And love to you and your beautiful family and all the farm animals!

[@sektorify]

Thank you so much for this! So informative and compassionate..

[@DocSnipes]

You are so welcome! Thanks for watching.

[@patrickhanson712]

Oh goodness, so true and pointed as always Dr. Thank you once again. If someone with long term trama, addiction, detachment etc could get closer to their own reality (change crisis, crisis change) not easy and slow. Your insights are focused, and helpful on the path out of BDP.

[@DocSnipes]

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[@yourenough3]

Thanks so much Doc. Snipes !! Appreciate your videos. 💕

[@DocSnipes]

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[@roxannevlogs7329]

Thank you Dr. Snipes. I truly appreciate & learn so much from your videos.

[@patrickhanson712]

As well, yes.

[@DocSnipes]

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[@dominicshaw4140]

Brilliant talk, concise and to the point, thank you.

[@DocSnipes]

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[@ambrosehunter5164]

Thank you Madame Director Snipes, MD *Vanity. The logic of appearance.* ~Epictetus \|/ Narcissism, as an of abundance of self love/self esteem in a sick and twisted mind suffering from Maladaptive Patterns of Behaviour due to those Cognitive Dissonances > Cognitive Disturbances > Cognitive Distortions TATA FOR NOW

[@valenciawalker6498]

Thank you for this presentation.

[@DocSnipes]

Our pleasure!

[@ambrosehunter5164]

Thank Madame Director Snipes, MD "WE ARE PEOPLE WITH LIVED EXPERIENCES" "There are times when the mind is dealt such a blow it hides itself in insanity. While this may not seem beneficial, it is. There are times when reality is nothing but pain, and to escape that pain the mind must leave reality behind." ▪︎▪︎▪︎recovery is im-possible▪︎▪︎▪︎ “There are indeed stewards whose own contradictory nature causes them to treat the children entrusted to them in so unreasonable a fashion that the children’s illness would appear to be unavoidable.” Carl Jung, The Theory of Psychoanalysis

[@jenrich111]

You make us traumatised CSA/child sex trafficked child-adults feel seen and understood. I can't get any DBT in my state for at least a decade. I've bought all the trauma books but although having intelligence I just can't read them. BUT seeing you and your content makes my life have some hope and compassion for myself and life. Thank you Dr Snipes (and family) Sincere gratitude XO

[@DocSnipes]

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[@georgieeve2026]

Fantastic presentation! Thank you :)

[@DocSnipes]

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[@sacredloveandlight]

Someone is quite intelligent. This is quite relevant to relationships or lack of relationship, in my immediate environment/living space. This is impossible to know, unless their were spiritual influences, dictating which titles are made available to select. And, I am aware of algorithms and relevant ads and videos. There is no reason for this video coming up, available for me to watch. Thank you for sharing your time and supportive messages with me. All my love dear one. Namaste 🙏🙏

[@DocSnipes]

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[@sacredloveandlight]

@@DocSnipes received with gratitude and respect. Thank you for your prompt reply to my comment. It means much to me. Namaste 🙏🙏

[@geoffreyharris5931]

My son Kevin Harris died of fentanyl poisoning on the evening of Friday, March 20th, 2020 at the age of 19 while a first-year student at UC Merced.

[@bygraceonly182]

God bless you, so sorry to hear that.

[@Justyn219]

im so sorry. :/

[@Liisa_011]

Hi.I can only imagine the pain,much love to you He is there on the other side waiting for you. I cannot understand why all these young kids are trying pain relieving opiates? Baffling.

[@karaquick395]

Sorry for your loss of your son Mr. Harris. These drugs that are deadly..., I just don’t understand why & how they are so easy to get?? Your son didn’t mean to die. Our governments are making $$ & yet our kids are dying. I will pray for you to find peace and to connect spiritually to your son. God Bless!

[@powerdisney]

Superb. You read my mail. I shared it. There is another level to do with mkultra, dissociative identity disorder etc but still superb except careful with the hand signs!

[@DocSnipes]

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[@gtavlossantosisadriverstown]

I watch ur videos. I found out everything happens for a reason. Its either gets better or worse. Psychologically speaking As tough as it may be.. no matter what happened in the past the way you feel is a choice. In some situations like this can take years of reprogramming To heal the trauma

[@DocSnipes]

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[@Dani.G1975]

Wow.. my therapist was right. My ex definitely had a combination of narcissistic, anti social and historic personality disorders. I tried to explore the triggers etc as saw them clearly but he couldn't ever see anything he did needed to be corrected.

[@DocSnipes]

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[@danielraypickrel4316]

Thanks for this, most thanks.

[@danielraypickrel4316]

Few people expect to never to be physically sick. Many people believe it is possible to never have had been mentally sick.

[@DocSnipes]

Welcome

[@browmi03]

This channel is really good.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks so much!

[@tinathompson2209]

Thank you for covering this aspect of it. The insight and psychology is explained great. I have to say it, things ppl do intentionally esp.. Is so wrong. I never shouldve been secretly adopted, but I'm sure it doesn't start there. Thank you for your understanding of this, it helped.

[@tinathompson2209]

They are doing this on purpose

[@tinathompson2209]

I have been telling people as I developed these more and more in recent yrs that I was doing it to protect self.. they continue

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for sharing! and Thanks for watching.

[@Angels_surround_me747]

THANK YOU. 👍

[@DocSnipes]

You bet!

[@drsandhyathumsikumar4479]

Much gratitude to u mam !

[@DocSnipes]

My pleasure 😊

[@EmpressLTA]

Geez. Iv been threw so much. More than I care to elaborate on. I'm so greatful it's all good🤗

[@DocSnipes]

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[@eileenfuentes6975]

Oh how I wish I could just sit down some afternoon and have coffee and just talk to you. Just listening to your knowledge since I am a psychology junkie, I just love it. You are brilliant and fascinating. I was wondering if you have any videos that cover pregnancy anxiety and worries. Especially for people who are on certain medications that they have to stop abruptly. It's hard because some doctors say to wean off and others say to quit suddenly. Some say the benefit of weaning off quickly outweighs the risk for the mother's Mental Health. How do women who are pregnant or just people in general when having to make quick adjustments? What kind of coping strategies can help make times easier? This can be for pregnant women or even people that suddenly lose access to their insurance and can't afford medications. That topic as well as how to approach. Especially ADD medication, that's my struggle having to quit my prescribed medication for ADHD that I have been on for a long time, suddenly. Ugh lol

[@DocSnipes]

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[@DocSnipes]

Videos returned by this search of my channel might help. kzbin.infosearch?query=pregnancy

[@debievans5045]

@@DocSnipes Thank u for this information. Very helpful

[@glennjohn3824]

I suspect that many adoptees struggle with these things their entire lives.

[@DocSnipes]

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[@annaleesummer7710]

People don't realise the Impact being adopted has on a person😔

[@glennjohn3824]

@@annaleesummer7710 yes... most people ignore the pain of the orphan to celebrate the adoption... the copy and paste approach to family.

[@franny5295]

My husband died just after our son turned 2. I believe he has a secure attachment to me. I allowed him to nurse past infancy and he's always slept with us. I'm consistent enough with discipline for him to consider me strict but he'll also tell you I'm fair. He's still grieving his dad and I encourage him to share his thoughts and feelings about it with me. He's 5. Is there something else I should be doing to try to minimize the emotional consequences of his early childhood bereavement? I don't want to pathologize him but I also don't want to miss anything.

[@tinathompson2209]

Hmm can u maybe just make sure to encourage independence and curiosity? Sounds like you're handling it well giving safe space to express themselves. I'm sorry for ur loss, I imagine it must take alot of strength. I lost my parents at 18. Went thru a hostile home life prior. Balance and strong belief/security in their core within their being is important, as well as learning compassion /empathy/differentiating what they feel vs think, recognizing what thoughts may not be theirs. Sorry starting to ramble. Sincere best wishes.

[@iCandiMandy]

This really helped me understand why I do some crazy things that I do it really helps knowing I'm not the only one like this don't feel so isolated and crazy ... Were all a bit crazy one way or another tho lol the fir this helps alotb

[@DocSnipes]

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[@tammyvoss473]

Excellent

[@DocSnipes]

Ty

[@dk3062]

I'm curious about your thoughts on treating personality disorders with a 12 step program

[@josetrevino6674]

Ezekiel 3:18-21 18 When I say unto the wicked, Thou shalt surely die; and thou givest him not warning, nor speakest to warn the wicked from his wicked way, to save his life; the same wicked man shall die in his iniquity; but his blood will I require at thine hand. 19 Yet if thou warn the wicked, and he turn not from his wickedness, nor from his wicked way, he shall die in his iniquity; but thou hast delivered thy soul. 20 Again, When a righteous man doth turn from his righteousness, and commit iniquity, and I lay a stumbling block before him, he shall die: because thou hast not given him warning, he shall die in his sin, and his righteousness which he hath done shall not be remembered; but his blood will I require at thine hand. 21 Nevertheless if thou warn the righteous man, that the righteous sin not, and he doth not sin, he shall surely live, because he is warned; also thou hast delivered thy soul.

[@DocSnipes]

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[@commontouch1787]

Can you make a video about treating/healing from AvPD and have a social life

[@DocSnipes]

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[@tearthangel373]

Thank you

[@DocSnipes]

Welcome. Thanks for watching.

[@DragonPhoenixOracle]

Hiya, is it possible to have treatment for trauma and then after treatment, another big life change or major stress in immediate family relations bring back cptsd and/or, re trigger trauma to resurface? Xxx

[@bubbabobodbrain]

Is there such thing as normal emotionally adjusted ?

[@browmi03]

It sucks, I wanted to build a relationship with a friend then she triggered my abandonment because she was going through something pretty traumatic and I was full on dysregulated for like a week. I had to say hey I can't really do this right now can we try it again later, but I don't feel I communicated well because I was full on dysregulated. I did the best I could and hopefully didn't ruin it.

[@DocSnipes]

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[@richardestigene1683]

5:25 what do you mean by entitlement? Because i live that experience a few month ago. I ask why i didn’t been proposed the job but after explanation i retracted my position.

[@clouddancer46]

How do you resolve trauma? Talk therapy does not work. Been struggling with this for years and years upon years upon years. 11 years of therapy almost every type of therapy and still unresolved. How does it ever resolve.

[@loriellen2726]

I can relate to that. Doc Snipes is great. Keep listening/watching. Knowledge and understanding regarding the physiological effects of trauma on the autonomic nervous system is a must, in order to begin dealing with, and healing from traumatic experience(s). You really must listen to Irene Lyon. She’s here on You Tube. We can deal with our traumatic experiences now, which we did not know how to deal with at the time of the event(s). Hint: suppressing emotions is a response that will NOT help us heal.

[@clouddancer46]

@@loriellen2726 Thanks so much, I just started following her. Feels like healing will never happen.

[@loriellen2726]

@@clouddancer46 I understand how you’re feeling right now. But I am encouraging you to apply yourself toward taking care of April. Pursue knowledge and understanding of trauma, how a body responds to trauma, how to besti

[@loriellen2726]

@@clouddancer46 we can receive, process and overcome traumatic event(s), with accurate information/guidance.

[@loriellen2726]

@@clouddancer46 There is tons of information available to us now, vs 30 years ago, even. The hardest part for me is doing it all alone. I have absolute faith, though, that I will overcome, and also be equipped to recognize dangerous

[@sandyswain2327]

Wish my daughter could see you.

[@DocSnipes]

:) Thanks for watching.

[@l-train7876]

Is there heavy breathing in the background??

[@DocSnipes]

I can't hear anything, but my dog was sleeping in the office during this video.

[@l-train7876]

@@DocSnipes it does sound like a dog, that was actually my first thought!🐶❤️

[@tearthangel373]

Emotional Dysregulation is a result of betrayal trauma and chronic abuse

[@DocSnipes]

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[@GretsyH]

omg ty

[@DocSnipes]

Welcome

[@Scorpio-dv4ti]

I recently found out that the man I have been seeing is a sex addict. He accidentally sent me pictures of himself with another woman. Now he finally came clean about everything and said he wanted help. Now he's pulling away and being cold. Idk what to do or how to deal with it

[@tessamyers4457]

SIMPLE ! Walk away

[@Scorpio-dv4ti]

@@tessamyers4457 I wish it was that easy!! I've been with him for 4 years. Love him and damn it having a very difficult time walking away! And I know I'm smarter than this!;

[@loriellen2726]

And you’re worth it. Be faithful to yourself, your boundaries, and your wants, needs, and expectations, both for, and from, the relationship. Be clear with your significant other about what you have no room for. He must get help for his sex addiction. He has demonstrated what there will certainly be more of, in your future, if he does not get help.

[@danasalter8186]

It's to my discernment that you don't love yourself.....you must love yourself in order to over come this. You have what is called a soul tie...... I would like to advise you to listen to someone on KZbin named RC Blakes. He has helped me and many women, (even men) who are, or who have gone through this, and simular. My prayers are for you.🙏🏾

[@EVallone]

Look up seeking integrity...support group

[@geoffreyharris5931]

Parents need help to prevent these. School folks have to be trained not to produce them either.

[@DocSnipes]

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[@TheOneanjel]

There's a big gap where it's not clear if you're talking about average people or socially challenged people. I've studied psychology but the intro here is confusing. Get to the point!

[@DocSnipes]

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[@tanasanders7721]

Why doesn’t anyone talk about the TRAUMA OF A TWIN IN MIDLIFE?????????? The answer is because they’re not a twin so they choose not to discuss this but they will discuss every other kind of trauma that there is imaginable very sad very 1800 very old-school lack of knowledge

[@DocSnipes]

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[@jenrich111]

ouch is that rant of your frustration warranted here? Go see a therapist