How To Help An Addict Or Alcoholic - (5 Things You Must Know!)

[@jmomma0530]

I honestly think to some extent we all end up addicted to something in life... severity levels may vary. But I think the advice given on this channel should apply to everyone. Have boundaries, but treat your loved ones with kindness and respect. Love conquers all.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I completely agree!

[@ellencausey6317]

Thanks I am needed to hear all this! My husband is amazing! He really is but this addiction is causing me pain & I feel so crazy! I love him so much & I believe in him I just hate his addiction!

[@carolynwitherspoon475]

Hey friend so sorry how is he doing now

[@lindadunn8787]

I am literally using this video and others from your collection as "background noise" as I work on an assignment from my therapist due next week regarding specifying my anger toward myself and my oldest daughter and my son. Whoa. Also taking notes and journalling and replaying. I'm close to my 69th birthday and my family that I tried to hold together? Kaboom. Grateful to have a therapist and a family. I live independently with no pets or roommates, so I have the time and the space to do this work. Wow. Thank you. Sincerely.

[@millstreetteut7835]

Thank you for all the helpfull Information. You are the best when it comes to addiction!

[@samblu1]

Thank you you are amazing ! I am just entering the arena with my 34-year-old son I was blind and I have experienced many of the manipulations that you have discussed. I will see if therapy for myself as well but thank you for creating such a comprehensive, kind explanation. I'm afraid but I am motivated to save him from himself. Thank you

[@anthonyrossmaund3161]

Thanks again for great content. I have been working with an organization for justice reform and parole reform and this is what i try to talk to my senator and assembly woman. I'm trying to get rid of incarceration for rehabilitation. Thus content helps me learn for myself and talk to others about.

[@MaMoNa752]

Thanks for letting me know that I'm not so lost in this journey.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You are absolutely not alone, Magdalena! 💗

[@Believe30]

Some people are BEYOND HELP!

[@carrol2236]

No, you can only help those who want to help themselves. Some people are just too self destructive unfortunately

[@amberscott576]

Comical but true that we’ve been transported to another dimension! I’ve given up trying to encourage my addict partner, and focusing sadly on my own recovery from the cycle.. I say sadly because I’ll miss him. But he disappears for days at a time anyways, in my new vehicle. I really love the validation and understanding you have for both sides and your ability to recognize our different stages... I know where there’s life there’s hope, but a 30 year addiction is probably not going to change and I still have kids at home.... just not sure what to do with his stuff n what to tell the kids without making anyone look unlovable.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

It's definitely like being transported to another dimension. All the rules are different. Not sure if you're ever seen Stranger Things on Netflix, but I say living with addiction is like being in the "upside-down"!

[@ellencausey6317]

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[@janethammond4760]

Glad to find these videos. I’ve watched this one twice. Also focusing on my side of the street, going through the enabling playlist

[@carolgomezarredondo1964]

I just love your Material & how you present it! You have the best personality & attitude! Thank you for your work!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Wow, thank you Carol! 😊😊😊

[@bonniebarnekow1415]

I appreciate you doing this on UTube thank you ! I’m struggling with a son on drugs, gambling, abuse .

[@estherwernick6114]

Thank you so much.... your advice is a godsend...

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You're so welcome!

[@kimperfect2295]

You’re so good at this.

[@KCinspireME]

You’ve been such a blessing!!!!! Thank you soooooo much!!!

[@brook7880]

I'm just starting this journey with my son, I'm a little nervous thank you for the information.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You’re so welcome. Just FYI this Tuesday abd Wednesday Campbell (our parent specialist). Will be on Live

[@brook7880]

@@PutTheShovelDown I will be watching. Thank you

[@paulacate448]

Excellent, as always! Thank you!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

My pleasure!

[@marydonald3453]

You're such a natural.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Wow! Thanks 😁😁😁

[@JJG5150]

Can you tell us what to say exactly? You often say to be empathetic. What types of things would help an addict? Do you have a video on empathy?

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Here's a link that will allow you to watch an actual session, were I demonstrate various responses: www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/motivational-interviewing-session also, here's a link to a downloadable I made, called "Say This, Not That" www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/say-this-not-that

[@luben3045]

Our 50 years old daughter just had returned from a specialized center after 9 months out of drinking. Less than two weeks pased and she did 2 terrible dranks again. We are in a big confuse. We spent a lot of time and money to help her escape with no result. All our efforts are in an empty space. She manipulates, blames, furies on us, cries for more money, doesn't accept her depens on alcohol, sabotages any option to start to work, to go to a dentist including, warns us with a suiside if...and so. She is to destroy our lifes, health and family...if not destroied that yet. We are to take a brutal step - to give her an amout of money and to send her to the street... How wrong we'been to be such a helpless parents?

[@karenmcgrouther6173]

This is all very well but if your loved ones who suffer addiction refuses help and says the have no problem and they enjoy doing what they are doing what then.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

They always start out that way. It’s tough dealing with someone in denial.

[@kathymclaughlin3327]

Thanks, I needed this right now..

[@jayhendricks67]

My friend is an alcoholic and sometimes she starts crying because of the situation she's in I'm so afraid she might hurt herself I try to get her into Following Jesus and ask him to come into her heart but the problem with that is when she was a child young girl a person in the Church either Pastor or Deacon used to touch her inappropriately I don't know to what extent because she doesn't want to talk about it. It's devastating

[@cjgia4898]

Thanks Again, Amber! Your videos are a godsend. I've learned a lot. Like I've said before, I wish I could have found you a decade ago. Btw, any way you could clone yourself and come to Western Pennsylvania? Lol

[@PutTheShovelDown]

The videos are my best effort to do just that! hahahaha

[@otischance9144]

sorry to be off topic but does anybody know of a tool to log back into an instagram account..? I was dumb lost my account password. I would appreciate any tricks you can give me.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

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[@ryant4871]

Such a great video

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thanks Ryan! Glad you enjoyed it 😁

[@user-vf3fg1gl7pMsSandy]

Hi Amber, Excellent video, thank you..it is soo difficult to stay in " the perspective role, as I call it" lol. Due to what I call " The Bag of Tricks" from the other side of the street. From my perspective it is not per say the alcohol or drug itself..wet or dry(alcohol or drugs)..it is the underlying cause that the addict/person is fighting and flighting from. I also feel that it takes Courage from the addict/person to finally finally face truth in themselves and turn-around and deal with the underlying cause and fix it. I would really appreciate if you can let me know if I am on the right page? Thanks Amber, you are amazing!😊💞👍👍

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Right on target!

[@user-vf3fg1gl7pMsSandy]

@@PutTheShovelDown 😊💞👍👍

[@victorial8764]

Is this good advice for someone who is sober right now. I mean I know that people still take time to heal and get rid of toxic traits but I just want to make sure I’m doing what I need to.

[@cptings3396]

Ex addict i enjoyed walking 2 town & back (in the snow) today ...Wow..& i have 2 cars

[@PutTheShovelDown]

🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@rekhashriram4028]

Thanks 🙏🏻

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You’re welcome 😊

[@LisaNEdwards]

Thank you Amber ❤️

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You're so welcome!

[@jqueen9891]

Most Addict tell me the substance they take give them Energy.having energy to complete that day tasks is all they want every young person was and is taking lot of energy drinks ,i believe that also is part of getting a physical and finding something to boost our immune system.

[@rydervisuals9754]

Do you offer some type of therapy together? Where we can talk together with you . I’m just so broken down and mentally drained. I can’t help my wife on my own

[@christyfallinger8716]

My patience is gone. His mom enables him He chooses not to change 3 years and he act is not together

[@kellywest7466]

Been on this carosel 18 years and I am so done.

[@gracesrebornandlifestyle5610]

My aunt is a alcoholic and she is abusive to my uncle

[@veraguillory4480]

Lord God needs to be there getting them baptized and getting demons removed. My son does some drugs trying to get him to see it's dangerous, he understands the demons coming in with the drugs. No Catholicism please, Lord Jesus will help with his Holy Spirit.

[@mazermajestic]

What if there is drug psychosis and intimate partner violence ?

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Hi Mazermajestic! Those things are definitely not okay. Take a look at this video. I think it might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/l2W6aoKimrdlrJY

[@robertterry3036]

My son has had a dug addiction for 2.5 years he has been in and out of treatment center and just won’t get clean. He told a family member that he won’t stop using, my wife his step mom doesn’t want him back in our house. He had no job, license or car. I don’t want him to be homeless, but how do I save someone that won’t save himself.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I'm so sorry you're going through this Robert. It's absolutely heartbreaking.

[@robertterry3036]

@@PutTheShovelDown thanks your videos help

[@ameliaalvarez5900]

What can i do with my 25 yr old son who doesnt admit he has a drug addiction problem?... he says he does it by choice🙄😭...He says he can clean himself on his own and has relapsed several times now. He takes fentanyl 1yr now and previous 2ys om other pain killers and pot...we are so stressed out, my home is strugling because of this situation...Please help...

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Hi Amelia, It's so frustrating to be dealing with someone who is so obviously addicted but refuses to do anything about it! Here's the link to my playlist on Motivating An Addicted Loved One To Change: kzbin.info/aero/PLaaJWwIpP_zYtiUsXjYwB-GJEy2iJ24a4 I also teach an online course called the Invisible Intervention, that teaches a step by step process for getting people out of denial and willing to get help. Here's a link to learn more about that: www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/invisible-intervention

[@ameliaalvarez5900]

@@PutTheShovelDown Thanks

[@alangreene7850]

I wish you were licensed in NC

[@janetlowden5960]

How do I find the link to all the videos by category?

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Hi Janet, Are you talking about the playlist? If so, you can go to my KZbin channel page and see all the different playlist. kzbin.info/door/T8PE1v0xFR9zLXOijxM6hg

[@ravkmann]

Hello dear bless my loved one he lives abroad 🤔plz help 🙏🇮🇳

[@PutTheShovelDown]

🙏🙏🙏

[@keshaillsley9603]

Amber I wish you was closer…

[@keshaillsley9603]

Thank you so much I have learned so much from you.. and with the DBT IOP

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I'm so glad these videos are helpful to you! 😁😁😁

[@amberbroyles817]

irony my name is also amber Hollingsworth

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Really??? 😄😄😁Is Broyles your married name?

[@amberbroyles817]

@@PutTheShovelDown yeah

[@PutTheShovelDown]

@@amberbroyles817 that’s awesome! We are name twins 👯‍♀️ where are you from?

[@amberbroyles817]

@@PutTheShovelDown west Tn and currently trying to learn ways to help My dad

[@PutTheShovelDown]

@@amberbroyles817 what the heck….. I’m from West Tennessee! 🤭🤭🤭.

[@taevonking7168]

The truth is you can't help them.

[@donnaturpin5995]

Exactly, they have to want to help themselves!