How to Tell if Your Addicted Loved One is Manipulating or Being Honest

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In this video, we delve into the complex dynamics of addiction within families and explore the challenging task of distinguishing between manipulation and honesty in our addicted loved ones. With insights and practical tips, we aim to empower viewers to navigate these difficult situations with clarity and compassion. Join us as we uncover the subtle cues and behaviors that can help you discern whether your family member is being genuine or attempting to manipulate, ultimately fostering healthier relationships and boundaries in the journey towards recovery. Watch now to learn how to navigate this delicate balance with empathy and understanding.
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@AMM3. 9 ай бұрын

The phrase "You know they're lying because their lips are moving".. was probably penned by someone dealing with an addict.

@michellecodispoti3665 9 ай бұрын

So tired of the lies. Tired of not living my authentic life! God forbid you ask a question!

@johnnyjames9705 9 ай бұрын

Put the shovel down should be the name of your book. That phrase says so very much about your teaching and guide style. First. Put the shovel down. Thank you. That phrase helped me stop in my tracks and first put the shovel down before approaching the situation. I have grown exponentially taking your words to heart and applying good action. Not shovel action. Thank you

@PutTheShovelDown 9 ай бұрын

I like that! 🤩🤩🤓🤓😎

@IOSARBX 9 ай бұрын

Put The Shovel Down, Your videos always make me happy, so I subscribed!

@PutTheShovelDown 9 ай бұрын

That's awesome, IOSARBX. Welcome to our little community. Glad you're here 😀

@georgiatina7361 8 ай бұрын

I’m 73 and can’t even bear talking with my 42 year old addict daughter on the phone. I feel sick and don’t know how to get over this feeling.

@Kara-p1e 9 ай бұрын

Thank you Amber. The message I need to hear - again and again 😂 Keeps me from losing motivation

@ReginaGinamaria79 9 ай бұрын

Your a life saver I really appreciate your page ❤❤❤ everything makes sense now with my partner and his addiction

@PutTheShovelDown 9 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your words of encouragement, Regina!

@kimlee1416 9 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing, much appreciated. God bless you.

@PutTheShovelDown 9 ай бұрын

Same to you!

@BCK869 9 ай бұрын

?????? How do you combat the negativity and the self deception of the addict????? My friend, who is addicted to alcohol, is very negative about everything and wants to be in crisis mode all the time so that he can have an excuse to drink more. How do you combat his type of thinking and let the addict see a more realistic picture of life and the need to stop drinking to get out of crisis mode?

@Tay-fl8ym 9 ай бұрын

I’d love to hear a video about this because I see this daily. It’s exhausting! 😓

@ungyee18 9 ай бұрын

Thanks

@PutTheShovelDown 9 ай бұрын

Wow! Thank you so much! 😀

@JAMN2GD 9 ай бұрын

Ah man Bonnie. Stick with it. Trust will come again. AWESOME to hear. I envy you . Great job.

@IOSARBX 9 ай бұрын

Put The Shovel Down, This made me laugh so hard, thanks for sharing!

@PutTheShovelDown 9 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!😀😀😀

@brightpage1020 5 ай бұрын

Assume they are luing or manipulating. If they are in active addiction. Assume you are if you are codependent. Powerful thing to do is ask "what could I be lying to myself about?"

@themetalprincess 9 ай бұрын

Amber is looking really pretty in this video. ☀️

@LadyBug31705 9 ай бұрын

Is there any hope for a relationship where there has been alot of gaslighting around an addiction?

@jenniferandrews8449 9 ай бұрын

That's a great question! I've been dealing with it from my son for 4 years now and I never really thought of that question but you've got me wondering about it now! I hope Amber gives a reply!

@PutTheShovelDown 9 ай бұрын

Yes there is hope. I've seen people and relationships come back from the brink, lots of times!

@ritannaji492 8 ай бұрын

Thank God there is hope .

@stephencaudill2422 9 ай бұрын

There is no such thing as an honest addict. Oh sure, they will sometimes tell the truth, but never the WHOLE truth...

@edek13371 9 күн бұрын

Well we let out the whole consumption part and everything what has to do with it, and because it takes 60-70% of our day, thats why it feels they lying or hiding something but we are mainly embarrassed and ashamed about ourselves

@christiebailey9941 8 ай бұрын

For sure, leaving out information, on purpose, is deceit.okay...not a lie per se, but definitely deceit

@JayneDryden 9 ай бұрын

I'd have to say " that doesn't make sense, why would you do that?"

@tamarazwinak 9 ай бұрын

We have a property manager who is likely an alcoholic. She parties with tenants who have addiction and severe mental health issues. One died. The company does nothing to stop it bc this person is highly manipulative. She is unstable and pounded on my door "like an animal" for two hours. Still nothing is done. The level of corporate enabling is astounding. In fact they gave her employee of the year!

@LadyBug31705 9 ай бұрын

How do you help them see their own deception?

@AMM3. 9 ай бұрын

They know. They're masters of manipulation. Not stupid.

@PutTheShovelDown 9 ай бұрын

The most helpful thing is to step out of the way so they have to pay attention to their own behaviors instead of focusing on others.

@LadyBug31705 9 ай бұрын

When they do that is it wise to call them on it?

@PutTheShovelDown 9 ай бұрын

Good question. Here's a video on that topic, LadyBug. 🐞Here's a video on that topic. kzbin.infoAKQHIqr5Gl4

@akabana5989 8 ай бұрын

What is the name of the book you mentioned in this video?

@michelleradford5956 9 ай бұрын

😮😮😮 Kool

@carolrichardson678 9 ай бұрын

What can I say to my son that is in jail that is positive to begin building trust. He is suffering real life consequences we hope to move him to rehab after this

@123gp1833 9 ай бұрын

What about those who use addiction to make themselves comfortable because of diagnosed psychiatric disorder.

@JasminePeteetArocha-ug5bm 9 ай бұрын

My hubby cuss me out today and he drinking and yeah 👍🏾 and we marriage but separated!

@JAMN2GD 9 ай бұрын

They never line up. So what can you do but wait for them to show up destroyed?

@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj 2 ай бұрын

I feel like am manipulating myself l get caught up feeling bad about myself am a hypercondrac little bit some people think 🤔 l need to change my facial expression am beautiful little

@MichaelAlbrecht-jx5cp 9 ай бұрын

Yep it's a lie

@JAMN2GD 9 ай бұрын

Go Suboxone instead of methadone. However, both tough to get off of. However, should not act like addict as it is way different. You don't feel it at all. or get high unless doing wrong and not following directions. Dont even know on it until its wears off. Then you have a week or so to power through some of the anxiety but much better than sick as heck.