Address This Mess: Fiancé Threatens to Pull Out of Wedding Over Daughter from Hell

[@AlanyaTashon]

If he does not check the behavior, leave him.

[@dennishaedwards4017]

Exactly lol I'm not putting up with this foolishness for noone smh if he they blind to what's happening now and things escalate after wedding its gonna be ugly

[@NellieKAdaba]

Exactly

[@maggiecos2892]

I Agree with Jeannie 100%. Things Need to be ADDRESSED BEFORE that marriage. Communication is KEY 🔑

[@RuurdWoltring]

EXACTLY!

[@yayadrew]

It’s troubling that the he doesn’t believe his fiancés account of how rude and disrespectful his daughter is. That’s part of the reason why she thinks she can get away with it. It’s his responsibility to fix this not his fiancé, she’s already not respected. You have to check your family not your significant other.

[@cassandrabrown881]

I just want to know if the daughter started acting like this all of the sudden or have this been going on for 3 years.

[@mandys1038]

Leave him! The fact he won't even believe that his daughter can do these things is a red flag. It should not be only the fiance making an effort to fix this, it should be the father as well. To allow this kind of disrespect now will only get worse after the marriage.

[@HR-re6mr]

But girl you took the ring before this! I would NOT even entertain a ring with this going on…Postpone wedding

[@xxnarutxx3938]

Exactly

[@zahedah80]

Exactly 100%

[@CherrelleColeman]

This comment 💯

[@anastasiatheactresstv5895]

Simple

[@mariamakematoure]

Thank you loni!! Lately you have been on point on this show to check for realism. I love Jeanie but remember this is the real world everyone can’t afford nor are able to get all that counseling. Remember this is real world and in here there is restriction thanks loni for keeping it real! Motor city in the building!!!

[@TheFdizz]

She used to be very aware of financial limitations but I guess it happens when people come into money, it’s easy to lose touch, it’s very human

[@Anas-rx1he]

I was thinking the same thing. She was listing those combination of therapy sessions like they’re nothing - it would cost a fortune! As for the girl, I’m curious if her biological mother is in the picture. She might see view this new fiancé as trying to replace her mother’s role or may be blaming her for her family breaking up. It’s misplaced anger. The dad and fiancé definitely need to set boundaries and speak to her in a kind but firm way.

[@RW-yt7ro]

Everyone can afford counseling you can even get it free . If u want it

[@shakalawebb1751]

There are options for free Counseling, normalize prioritizing mental health it should be a norm.

[@Vickylee576]

Nah counseling is affordable and you may even qualify for free counseling. If you attend a church you can ask your pastor if they have experience counseling for whatever you nees

[@crystalmasters8582]

He needs to hug his daughter real tight with love and tell her she will fall in line. And I love you more than life even with a new life.

[@kishajones841]

It’s nice if Cynthia can make a breakthrough with the daughter, but now for me the bigger issue would be him not coming to his fiancé’s defense…that’s a major problem!

[@awandezwane1500]

I don't agree with Loni that this child's behaviour is a sign that her and her father are close, if anything for a child to be this insecure about another woman in her father's life suggests that he probably doesn't know how to prioritise time for the daughter hence she's acting out like this against Cynthia. I sense fear from the daughter that she will lose even more time with her dad after the marriage. Cynthia needs to have activities/outings that include the daughter.

[@essie420]

This is such an interesting perspective very true! I feel the father and daughter need to have a convo first, and he needs to understand how she's feeling, but also let her understand what behaviour is not acceptable. That would create a good foundation for Cynthia to build a relationship with the girl .

[@melmel7011]

I agree with Loni..This usually happens if the father was single for a long time and the child got used that its just them(kids) and dad no wife or girl friend. I know because I was that kid in my teens, I got jealous when my dad started dating. Used to throw my now step moms eating away when I find them in his bedroom.

[@evelynhernandez-st6xh]

Exactly!!!!!!!

[@shenquejames7598]

This is why I didn't date men with kids. I was raised with a step parent and I didn't want to relive that as an adult. In my opinion, avoid this if possible have all your kids inside your union it's less stressful.

[@ericpoeperic]

There's two sides to every story I'd love to hear the daughters experience

[@lookhowshegobbledthat]

That's an issue that should've been fixed way before getting married or engaged even chile.......

[@crystalmasters8582]

It’s March 2022

[@beautybyjenycia]

They are not married yet

[@VONiiE8]

Hence why she’s here, so it can be fixed before marriage…

[@kimson305]

Its called pay attention because clearly she said they get married next year🤦

[@agathachris9722]

Exactly

[@gierk27]

The father needs to get some counseling with his daughter, maybe she is afraid of losing the connection with her father. If they have that close, secure loving relationship, she will be able to embrace whoever her father chooses to marry and know that the marriage will not bring a wedge between her and her father.

[@britbritnicole]

He needs to have a talk with his daughter and lay down the law on respecting his soon to be wife. My mom experienced this and it’s not fun having drama because the daughter wants to control the situation.

[@zachariahdemylo]

LEAVE THE MAN!! He’ll learn after ppl keep leaving him!!

[@BlackGaySlay]

Loni and these ad-libs !!! 😂😂😂😂

[@gabsghost5160]

You need a password 😂😂😂😂😂

[@Whisperwarrior]

My daughter was like this with my ex! However, kids have a great judgment of character. He was a crappy guy and she knew it! I kicked him to the curb

[@AkireMaru]

Or they can just be jealous, or the mother of the children can be jealous and say bad things about the other woman to the children.

[@yamirants]

What I don’t understand is how there are so many people that get engaged when their partner and their kid(s) don’t get along. The only way I could see myself getting engaged with someone is if they get along with my son, I get along with their kid(s), and our kids get along with each other. If we’re not already like family, we have no business marrying each other, and trying to force a blended family.

[@superbluerock8327]

I’d just postponed the wedding until further notice. Like, I don’t care if I had to postpone it an entire month. If that’s what it takes, then so be it. But if no progress is being shown by my fiancé , to make some hard necessary steps, then I’m leaving. Because in the end it is whether the father supports me but at the same time not lose her daughter. I’m not evil, I’d never try to ruin the relationship of a kid and their parent.

[@nathan-sb5iw]

Why is no one asking the real question, what did the fiancé do to get the daughter so mad? Because I know some step-parents who deserve that

[@Desi-zz4gb]

That's still no reason to say what she said or do what she did. She may be insecure and don't like the fiance because she's "taking her dad" which is wrong

[@blurryinterests]

Like I wash with towels all the time lint has not been a problem for me. Idk she seems dramatic

[@AkireMaru]

Agree to marry the dad

[@BlackBerri83]

This is why I never dated a man with kids 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@Brooklyn_baddiex3]

Exactly why I don’t deal with someone with kids already. Just not a situation I want to deal with…..

[@dennishaedwards4017]

Loni really has more energy ths month I love it especially where I'm a low energy person most of the day myself and is not because I'm not happy it just takes a lot to show so much energy

[@agathachris9722]

There can be so many things untold. Is Cyn the other woman, is she feeling hateful because her father is in lobe and she still has loyalty to her mother. There has to be a lot of understanding from the adults in the situation. Sometimes the issue is bigger.

[@djidjine5082]

I was the daughter when I heard my stepmom could possibly be pregnant. I was the youngest and everyone told me I was my dad’s favorite and I thought the new baby would steal my spot lol. So I kinda agree with Loni except I think the dad needs to let the daughter know that she is his princess and will always be but they need to respect each other.

[@ForeverGodsGirl03]

But his fiance is his Queen

[@justmemadison]

Communicate. Communicate. Communicate. Everyone is making assumptions, passing judgment, building resentments and no one has taken the time to have the necessary conversations. Expecting someone to know how you feel or to change their behavior out of the blue is a fools errand. The best way to make sure nothing gets better is to say nothing and expecting them to figure it out. "They should know how I feel" or "if they loved me they would..." it's a cop out. Set boundaries, but the other person deserves to know what they are...if they choose not to respect them then it's up to you to decide if it's the right relationship for you, but at least give the person a fighting chance -- if you really care about them and the relationship. Unspoken rules/boundaries/feelings will inevitably result in disappointment.

[@marianarowles5523]

A real marriage with an extended family is going to have its challenges and resolving situations of roles and individual has takes conscientious effort. The mother needs to know that she can not be replaced and the daughters role is just as important if through open discussions tension will dissolved.

[@beverly677]

That daughter needs to be put in her place

[@crystalmasters8582]

Yes and even if the kid ignores you for some outings time heals . Boundaries for sure.

[@JessicaHeartsMakeup]

Honestly this is why I never dated a man with kids! I’m thankful my husband is my age & was never married with kids before me

[@Vickylee576]

Y’all want the tea? Adrienne and her stepdaughter Lilly don’t speak. This why Adrienne felt like that.

[@missmack2328]

SPILL THAT TEA ON WHY THEY DONT SPEAK!!!

[@llilitantobz1408]

You know you lying?

[@jordiem8059]

I noticed that too!

[@agathachris9722]

Hmmm.

[@melissalitus8879]

Lilly? I never heard of her 🤔 I only know of Mariah. I know he has 5/6 kids but idk their names like that is she the oldest or youngest?

[@DreamsAreForWeaving]

Glad to hear Adrienne on this. This man is disrespectful

[@natashadunbar6330]

Where is the mom? Is her mom still alive? Why is she behaving like that maybe she needs to go back to her mom for her last or final year of high school. Sounds like there’s some deep rooted issues it’s really hard when you think you are your dads best friend and you cook and clean for him like your birth mom would have...and you think all is well...just the two of you (you think you’re all the family you need for 17 years) then one day 💥 another woman comes in. She married your dad, has kids for your dad, they make a new family and forget about you. She’s just trying to solidify her importance in her dads life but she’s going about it the wrong way. It may or may not be a jealousy thing but the daughter is definitely intimidated. She needs some reassurance like she’s not losing a dad...it’s just that her dad is gaining a wife. The family is expanding

[@dreamerc2585]

There real issue that’s the daughter needs help…her man and the mother of the child need speak to her lay it out….she obviously acting out because of her feelings being hurt relationship with her father…

[@roxannd8536]

Walking down the isle March 2022 👰‍♂, less than 4 months to fix situation 🤔. Uuummmm, you had 3 years to make that attempt. Best of luck and may lady luck be on your side.

[@carmellem6813]

Buck that, she's 17, she's never going to change.

[@NellieKAdaba]

That's what I thought.

[@private_person]

This scenario sounds like a Lifetime movie.🤭🤭

[@shawncasey4331]

Run, girl, run!

[@mahams8954]

Adrienne looks stunning 😍.

[@Krfran14]

She really does

[@quailbanks4483]

Mother's and daughters be like this💯

[@redd2sons]

Loni kept it Real.❤️

[@ajohonly3721]

JMJ is almost done with her pregnancy looking fabulous 💕💕👌. You girl is glowing.

[@rogers5622]

Don't do it,Cynthia !!

[@jenniesmythe8188]

therapy. as a 17 year old that unacceptable.. Also father needs to step up.

[@dance4life1208]

Don’t date people with kids if you don’t have any simple. You knew the daughter was hell before.

[@Lorinski]

Why do you say that?

[@ryanamari2233]

I know one person with 5 and another with 3…,I know the three are all adult children so it’s somewhat easier ..however the one with 5 may be a challenge . I wouldn’t say don’t date someone with kids …But get to know the relationship with the kids and their parent and their parent and the coparent….she has some deep rooted issues about her parents separation

[@dance4life1208]

@@Lorinski too much drama and too many extra people you gotta deal with

[@osimeon00]

It's not that simple.

[@Lorinski]

Idk. I see what you mean but I believe some situations can work. It’s definitely not ideal though.

[@jotamj6752]

Adrienne, what’s the tea with you and your step daughter lily 😌😊😊😊

[@nicoleharris742]

Facts!! Lol she never mentions her anymore. Only Mariah

[@xolibagithi9514]

I can't deal with this ! Too big for my 🧠

[@zahedah80]

That marriage won't work

[@tmac7734]

The dad needs to check his daughter period.

[@tha1thaonlythatsme]

Y’all know these emails are made up right lmao I find it pretty insulting they do these 😂

[@esetamyreelemanu8584]

Ouch! This one is messy!

[@NastyZ100]

Sounds like she already addressed this mess. BYE!!! If he's like this now, it's going to be worse once you're married

[@EGYPTSCOTT882]

He will not do anything about it

[@yarelybanuelos1004]

The woman has probably done something

[@dr.braxygilkeycruises1460]

I would walk away from that relationship. Trust, I've been there on both sides. The father MUST snatch his daughter up and set her ass straight, including going to the Word of God and explaining CLEARLY that Cynthia is Part Of Him and she is to be respected, period. He has to put her in her place before she can respect Cynthia's place. If he won't, the marriage is doomed.

[@VONiiE8]

If this was me, the outings and “bonding time” wouldn’t work for me at all.

[@jasmainjasmain2906]

Run away lady. I dealt with a troubled teen and husband that allowed whatever... it won't change. That 1on1 time is crap, therapy or run away.

[@WannaBesProductions]

Loni's reactions got me dying 🤣🤣🤣

[@worldofdrue9632]

Miss Jeanie!! I hope she returns to the show soon!

[@marathonbleu]

the MUAs of the real deserve an Emmy

[@FlwrPetalsOnVenus]

I’ve had multiple step parents so i understand why she’s doing that. She feels threatened that her dad is being “taken” away from her AND she feels like the woman is not right for her dad. The woman should try to bond with the daughter bc clearly she’s not impressed with. If u love ur dad u want him to be happy with a good woman so the daughter probably thinks she isn’t one 🤷‍♀️ also she didn’t say how she treats the daughter, girls don’t go to extremes like this for no reason

[@owiro001]

Loni really spoke truths here.❤️

[@Krfran14]

Interesting.. I feel like Adrienne has some experience of this.

[@Nneddy121]

Woah that’s a lot of therapy sessions 😂 but I understand what Jeanie meant.

[@NellieKAdaba]

I don't know if that well solve the problem.

[@Nneddy121]

@@NellieKAdaba Oh yeah same girl, I just meant I understand Jeanie usually comes from a therapy standpoint. Different strokes for different folks.

[@Rio_Monique]

I'm interested in knowing if the lady had anything to do with the father and the girl's mother breaking up. If there was any side chickerization going on, the relationship is gonna be a tough sell to the daughter.

[@teejaybee9]

I believe Loni's got this all wrong. It sounds more like the dad ignores this child and doesn't set boundaries. He also sounds as if he's ignoring his fiancee. I agree with what Jeannie said.

[@gabbyford1670]

“Get Out”

[@heyitsnayaa6736]

Either the father puts his foot down or LEAVE!! They should’ve fixed this before the planning and rushing with the wedding.

[@MadisonPettway_]

Love Loni’s POV this season!

[@TheStarLaura]

Has anyone noticed Adrienne doesn’t post Israel’s youngest daughter anymore?

[@TshegoMolefe]

Loni's commentary is KILLING ME😂😂😂😂😂

[@thuang2800]

What did she do to make his daughter hate her so much ?

[@missmack2328]

Some kids are evil

[@agathachris9722]

Sometime all you have to do is exist and remind that kid that their family is no more and that dad has moved on and that they will soon be replaced.

[@signalfire15]

Something sounds off to me. The only complaint that she made about the daughter that is valid is her going through her phone and sending texts to her friends. And that could easily be solved by having a password on her phone. The other stuff she wrote about are childish and immature things to be upset at. The laundry thing is ridiculous, she has no proof that the daughter stole the wedding invitations, the line about being a peasant could have been taken out of context or a joke or a defense based on something that the woman said first. I’m not saying that the woman doesn’t have a right to dislike the daughter but to compare her to less than Chucky using the examples she gave makes no sense. My gut instinct is telling me that the daughter may not be the problem. It’s probably both of them reacting off of the negative energy they are giving to one another. But the step parent should always humble themselves in situations like this and make the first attempts at reconciliation.

[@missmack2328]

Nahh....the daughter brazzyy

[@LG-kx8xl]

If what Loni said doesn't work, demand they go to counseling to address the issue & include his daughter so maybe she will express her real issue because she's acting out.

[@loveinthewebb6168]

All of this should’ve been addressed from the start. Not when you have a wedding date established 🥴 the fiancé should address his daughter like A said.

[@kimm3385]

Run girl! I'm proof 🙄 it def wear on ur relationship, he doesn't think it's a big deal so the behavior only gets worse an they make u feel Ike ur crazy by say "she's just a child don't make a big deal about it"

[@yasminesoto8764]

Sounds like she wants reassurance & that could be a simple hug and her dad letting her know things were not going to be different now that he’s getting married. I was the only child for 21 years and found out My dads gf was pregnant and was devastated. It’s hard to explain that feeling if she is an only child. Could also be that she’s had bad experiences with other girlfriends, as I have. It affects you more than dads realize

[@Kay456Ms]

Looking beautiful, A! 😍

[@Jasmyne444]

It doesn’t seem like she is trying to bond with the daughter AT ALL. When you marry a man, you marry their children and she should be trying to build a genuine relationship with Jordin. Of course the daughter is being defensive, she feels threatened. The fact that she feels like a peasant, gives me red flags. Why isn’t the man ensuring his relationship with his daughter is secure? He’s not doing a good job at managing this and that again gives me red flags. I’ve met many women like this and they only care about the man and could care less about his family. I hope they’re in it for the right reasons. 🙏🏾

[@bluebellcrushedvelvet]

This is why I don't ever really want to be with a man with children! It is too much of a headache!! You can't tell them off if they are disrespectful or badly behaved and it causes too much contention between the couple! So for me it's a HARD PASS! It just puts me off! Real talk!

[@rodbacote8607]

She needs to sit the fiance' down and address everything that the daughter has done because he doesn't believe it. And if she constantly denies everything and he still refuses to do anything, then he is not the man for her. The fact that the wedding invites are missing is a BIG thing and she most likely threw them out. He needs to realize that his daughter wants no other woman taking his attention away from her and they can not be happy if he doesn't stand up for his fiance' and there will be no wedding.

[@joijorm]

Loni in the beginning adding ad libs😀

[@marymackxo]

She better leave. Perfect Angel? Every parent knows their kid is no angel. 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@827honey1]

She needs to sit down and have a serious discussion with the fiance . If he is not taking the lead and addressing the issues with his daughter's behavior before the wedding that should be her cue to leave or at least postpone getting married. It will not get better with marriage only worse.

[@melindahmkhwanazi]

Girl run!!!!!!

[@anthonytirado829]

Can we have a real homecoming with the OGs 🙏🏼

[@trinigrl09]

A lot of daughters are unfairly pissed off at the perspective step mother when they really should be pissed off at the man/their fathers.....but daughter's have such a hard time holding fathers accountable for anything......I wonder if this has been happening the entire 3 year relationship and if it stems from resentment of her father no longer being with her mother or feeling replaced....Parents can be so selfish a lot of the time bringing in step parents w/o consideration for how difficult the adjustment is going to be for the children......the children are the ONLY ones FORCED to deal with the new person, the adults in the situation can leave at any time. It is a red flag that the father doesn't respect his own fiancé enough to demand that his daughter treat her with basic civility.......he is the REAL problem.....He seems very passive and weak to me......I don't think Cynthia should bother to marry him because if he doesn't take your concerns seriously before the wedding he won't take them seriously after the wedding......I would agree with Loni's advice but I think it's a little late for that unless they are going to postpone the wedding, which I highly doubt.....Cynthia should have been making an effort to get to know Jordin long before the engagement and definitely long before a wedding date that is fast approaching.......I question whether Cynthia is accurately and fairly describing Jordin though........She makes "Chuckie look like Jesus"........REALLY? That seems like a HUGE exaggeration on Cynthia's part given the transgressions she described and it doesn't seem like someone with such a low opinion of her soon to be stepdaughter can authentically bond with that stepdaughter......THIS RELATIONSHIP IS DOOMED

[@jazminehaughton9295]

Bonding time is great but if I tell my fiance his daughter is being disrespectful and he brushes me off like that, we have a problem. It's his responsibility to mend fences. He should be the one Initiating some kind of sit down between me and the child. I don't mind putting in the effort but there must be respect there first. I don't like how he brushes her off "she's perfect" well clearly she's not.

[@zoelife7272]

no relationship is worth this grief. he has to want it to work out too and lay down the ground rules. does she think he will be a better husband? no he will not be.

[@ObedienceOrSacrifice]

If you've told him and shown him the things she's done and he DIDN"T address/check her and put her in HER place then you have a real problem and no man is worth your peace, trust me I know. Please don't marry a man that doesn't recognize his child is toxic if you haven't done anything to provoke her behavior then you need to exit stage left and let him recognize what he allowed his child to cause him to miss out on. She's too old for this kind of behavior if she were younger I'd take a different approach but at her age she knows VERY well what she's doing and trust once she starts to date someone he doesn't approve of he will get his karma because she will disown him for who she wants to be with. As parents you can't allow your children to run off the ppl who are intended to be with you until death do you part when the kids are suppose to be raised to leave and start their own families. I'll stop here but I could say a whole lot more.

[@doneecemcneil7826]

Gm edagdwg thanks you tube for sharing this sad story of what happens when your man takes up for his daughter pay attention to what you say and do to people god bless you all pray changes everything and people linda j . peace

[@Deactivatedbygoogle]

these women as anchors are young but soo mature in content .... put it in comparison with other talk shows

[@chefnic4763]

Yeah, no thanks. ✌🏼

[@sherrieginger9693]

You can’t be calling you step daughter names

[@NellieKAdaba]

Yes, but she probably called her names too.

[@SSingh-nr8qz]

Never ask any man to choose between his kids or someone he is dating or going to marry. Divorces are almost 50%, but your kids are part of you for a lifetime. You push away you kids, and you will regret it later in life...married or divorced.

[@RealTakerslady]

Nope don’t marry him until this is fixed, or wait til she’s out of the house

[@marias6583]

WOW there’s some serious lack of discipline and childraising here if this daughter is behaving like this

[@londimkhize9429]

😒😒the children thing is complicated. Too complicated

[@Desi-zz4gb]

Oh nah her daddy would've had to check his daughter or his daughter would've got put in her place. And she needs to leave that man if he don't speak up to his demon child

[@lydiamesfin2139]

if he loves her he would tell his daughter to back off.

[@Mariamamay]

Lmbo it’s Loni’s adlibs for me😂😭