Address This Mess: Wife Finds Out Husband Has Secret Child After Filing Taxes

We’re always in the business of helping our Real fam clean up their messes, and this one definitely needs to be addressed.
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[@faithybyfaith]

This is crazy....if a person can hide a child what else can they hide? Scary 😨

[@iluvbooty]

exactly that’s too muchhh.. 😟

[@BayouKitchenGuy]

No telling how many skeletons he got in the basement.

[@marcusjones2961]

They sexual orientation 🤔 They bank accounts 🤔 They mental health 🤔 Donate they sperm 🤔 Ex con murder 🤔

[@lydiaayala5366]

For real ! That is why i left him. No trust no RELATIONSHIP

[@kristy5698]

This is why I’m not dating anyone anytime soon, I don’t trust anyone

[@VictoriaLynne1966]

There is no way in hell I would trust a man that hid a child. It’s obvious he’s not spending time with his child.

[@GlendaKRose88_]

Ask your parents back in the day it was done frequently for different reasons . We are only hearing one side Of the story

[@morewithmariama7723]

took the words right out of my mouth.

[@rosalinaburton3061]

Why these women/man stay after someone LIES about their children I will NEVER understand. My dad is one of these man. Told one lady he had two kids and when he ran into a third she hadn't met he just acted like my sister did not exist to maintain his story. Anyone that is too weak to face the real feelings of his partner about his past is NOT someone you want to build a life with. When the going gets tough they will drop you bc it's not convenient/doesn't fit their narrative. That says something about their character.

[@Officialinspiredbystave]

Took the words Right out of my mouth

[@sk9rib2blz]

@@GlendaKRose88_ what does a reasonable other side of this story look like?

[@keta5914]

It’s the lying for me. Not the kids.

[@sequillarochelle4044]

It's both for me your lies and disowned a child,and she doesn't have any..no I personally will not be a step mom and I'm don't have kids

[@lollolol6756]

It's both for me. It's the lying about the kids, and the owing $40k in back child support. So he a liar, a bad husband, AND an irresponsible father.

[@lydiaayala5366]

This happened to me . Married 5 months dated for 3 years and the kid surfaced . Apparently the kid 11 going on 12 stabbed his mother with a fork, she did not want him anymore. Called my ex’s parents to come get him . They had him for 2 weeks before my ex’s mother called to say this I can’t take this kid come pick him since my ex did have the guts to tell me himself. That happened on a Thursday . Ex was out of the house the same day, and i never met the kid . Had marriage annulled.

[@charmcharm2352]

Whoa Lawd! That's some heavy crap!😲 Man, I pray the best for you. I hope you're doing well now.🙏

[@millieras123]

wow that's crazy!!

[@Jaimelikegem]

That kid sounds like a monster. Good u left bc had u stayed and had kids with him, u mightve ended up with a kid with the same Chucky ass genetics his kid had and running for the hills for ur dear life from ur own kid🏃🏾‍♀️. Idk why someone would think that's appropriate to hide

[@lydiaayala5366]

@@charmcharm2352 Yes I’m great now that was another lifetime . That is the proudest moment of my life, kicking him out . Ironically I never missed him but did feel like I failed at something although not my fault . By Monday I was at a lawyer . That was July by end of December papers came in . Needless to say it was a happy new year .

[@lydiaayala5366]

@@Jaimelikegem Agreed . Plus I could never trust him . Seriously any feelings I had for him went away straight away .

[@priyashukla3784]

I love how Adrienne says “you don’t know him” with the air quotes. Brilliant and straight advice, ladies.

[@LMLification]

The damage is already done. Lying about his/their finances, hiding a child from a previous relationship, creating stress and involving his parents. His parents should be ashamed for enabling his bs. Some men can be rather bold in assuming they can just have a woman forgive this. No man, on average, would stay with a woman who did this.

[@cococherrymango1225]

That last part!!

[@beatricedevarenne2621]

the last part is point to the fact

[@tamiekaaugusta4058]

THIS!!!!!👆

[@l0us3rr]

Why are his parents only willing to pay the back child support if this woman, who isn't even involved in their grandchildrens' lives, stays with their son? This is pure insanity. You'd think that they'd be embarassed that their son lets the kids go without, but they're supporting his latest toxic relationship instead🙄

[@ec6621]

Probably because his parents think the woman's issue is the $40k debt. That debt would likely be paid with his money which is marital money, so essentially it affects the woman. If the parents pay it from their own money instead of the husband paying it off from their marital money, it won't end up affecting the woman.

[@cococherrymango1225]

THEY KEPT THIS FROM HER TOO

[@cococherrymango1225]

@@ec6621 I'd agree to stay just to have the $ paid then fuckin leave

[@RTA6226]

Probably no one else would want to be bothered with him and his baggage!

[@l0us3rr]

@@cococherrymango1225 you can file for divorce and say it's fraud

[@PSALMSOFSONGS]

Loni says that's why she does a background check. Although, I ABSOLUTELY agree with that, background checks don't show always show who a person really is. Being a liar, cheater, manipulative, etc. don't show on records. Unfortunately, people find this out having to waste time with them.

[@Drawingboredi]

Ja I agree with you. She likes to throw this background check thing around.I think this response over simplifies situations in life that are complicated. Last time she said a woman who was killed by her tinder date should have done a background check. I don't think everyone has access to this and sometimes people want to give people a chance or don't expect anything bad to happen to them. Sometimes people lie, pretend and those around them know the truth but say nothing because they are "minding their own business ". My family and I know our uncle has a child he denied but it's his. When he got married we supported him and said it is between him and his wife. What background check could she have done in this case??

[@glossssyy___3012]

I LOVE yellow on Jeannie! I’m gonna miss these ladies for real..

[@danadane2575]

A’s sneeze was too cute! ☺️

[@anniearegger1418]

I missed it somehow lol

[@alexandraanderson3988]

Wait she sneezed 🤧 here when??? Lmaooo

[@alexandraanderson3988]

​@@anniearegger1418Right 😂😅😊lmaoo where??? ❤😅😊😂

[@IAFoodReviews]

There was a guy I was getting to know. I asked him if he has kids & if he ever wanted kids. He said that he didn’t have kids & that he doesn’t want kids. At the time I didn’t want kids. After searching his social media I found out he does have a child in another state with his ex. I confronted him about his lies but he thought I was making a big deal out of it when it isn’t. He tried to brush it off like it never happened and said that he actually never lied which is a lie. I swear guys like this are CRAZY!!! He seemed distant from his child, not taking much time to bond & made me wonder why. His ex doesn’t like him & makes me wonder what truly happened which he would never say…ugh…I said byeee 👋🏾

[@KT-pw1cq]

Most guys who says they don’t want kids I automatically think they got kids and don’t want anymore lmao. I know it’s. A bad way of thinking but who cares because I want kids so we won’t be compatible anyways

[@jaynecristalpagan2509]

If they don't have any children together she should just stay away.

[@oceaneo4603]

Oh my God ! She is so lucky she didn't get pregnant with him. This sound mean but what a red flag !

[@Carousel5883]

Kid or not .she should leave!!!He hid such a big part of his life from her and didn't tell her instead let her find out through the taxes and not only that the idiotic parents in law are using her as scapegoat.Bye boy bye

[@jabrianadrew3724]

Oh how imma miss Jeanie’s random stories 🥺🥺

[@snenhlanhlankutha1340]

I know 😢

[@GETYOUREDUCATION]

Im so glad she came back

[@tomoyat727]

Girl I'm sorry but don't go back to that man. As Jeannie says, "Goodbye sir." He and his baby mama, and his parents can all deal with that drama on their own. You don't need all that negativity in your life.

[@kekemola1475]

BIG amen to that 😤

[@GoldenLady1007]

Get rid of him as quickly as possible. He doesn't care about his children nor her. His parents are out of pocket as well. They obviously have no relationship with their grandchildren, which is sad. She needs to get as far away from these immoral people as she can. 💛

[@aaaxcity]

Ade and Jeannie said it all today 🙌🏾💯

[@ednajay5724]

"Tell me the worst thing about you and let me love you anyway" that's a word!

[@mariecampbell3373]

Love that sip Loni took when she said, "..... background check."

[@MALXCX]

Yes I really wanna know what Tameka will do !!! Please keep us up to date with this story!! This story is a hot mess!

[@kishajones841]

She needs to cut her losses before she ends up pregnant! How do you trust someone who has been lying about their child for years. It seems his family was aware, so everyone has been lying…run fast! He clearly has no relationship with the child. I’m sure if she think about she has possibly missed red flags that he is dishonest. This is probably not the only thing he’s lied about!

[@meaganbianca2978]

Trying to take away someone’s option to choose after being disrespectful shows there’s no real love

[@princessefeohi]

If you can lie to your spouse for 4 year, hide a kid, what else are u hiding and how far can u go? Just leave him he never respected you in the first place!!

[@monicawallace9059]

Divorce that's the ultimate betrayal I don't want anything to do with him

[@MALXCX]

Hearing these stories makes me wanna be single forever 😞

[@jamelahallsdyer]

Me too I'm 17 and I have a bf I'm just really scared I'll get hurt my him, he did it before but I forgived him

[@GoldenLady1007]

@@jamelahallsdyer You're young. Put that energy into YOU. Young guys cheat. Figure YOUR life out before you get into a relationship. PLEASE don't have any children!!! Travel. Buy a house. Experience life. Stack money. THEN get into a serious relationship. When you're 25 or older. Just my humble opinion. Sending you love and light. 💛

[@fahariaa]

@@jamelahallsdyer been there and done that. Three and a half years of my life I’ll never get back 😩 trust me pls leave him and put yourself first. You’re future self will thank you!

[@esemac]

Yoooo I felt the same way. Like, nvm having a boo, I’m goodttt 🤣

[@candacedawn357]

Ditto! 🤦

[@ericadavis2483]

Adrienne looks/sounds like she doesn’t feel well😩 get well soon A!! Im going to miss this showwwww!!🥺

[@anilalikevanilla]

Leave him and disappear. Now, you’re always going to wonder what else he’s hiding from you now? He should have just been honest from the start. Now it’s too late.

[@TripleBlsdNHlyFvrd]

The parents have been enabling his childish behavior his whole life.

[@brooklynnpacheco665]

set aside the fact he lied about having a kid he essentially stole her money. she works hard for her money only to not get anything in return because of him!! OH HELL NO!!!

[@cookiesncream789]

Unfortunately I've heard of a similar situation, where the parents were also convincing the woman to stay, after she found out about her husband's secret love child. Well that man is now her EX husband! 🎉

[@LMLification]

The saddest part is that the innocent child is in the middle of all this drama! A daddy that is lying, ducking, dodging and neglecting him and a mommy who didn't protect her womb from his nonsense.

[@Bkrunz]

He lied and stole from her. I say it’s grounds for a divorce

[@fahariaa]

I will miss this show and listening to these insightful, intelligent, beautiful ladies so much 🥹😭😭

[@distorbia20]

Alvin needs to be very very very honest as to why he hid that part of his life. Ain’t no way I am going back with such a big lie. Also taking our money to hide a secret. Give me a choice. I am glad they don’t have kids together so Tamika cut it clean

[@MamandDamian10]

Don’t stay w him. Any man who doesn’t take responsibility and hides a child is NOT a man. And it’s not worth it.

[@hokagekai4259]

Props to Adrienne for sticking it out

[@CC-si3cr]

She knew about everything up front.

[@dawncullen0214]

Shade💀

[@hokagekai4259]

@@dawncullen0214 my comment wasn’t shade it was me giving her props for working while sick

[@laurzkw3674]

Money, lies and cheating are the things that will break any relationship. There will always be that doubt even if she reconciled her relationship with that guy. Run lady.

[@emilywaters1076]

I do have mess that needs to be addressed. Why y’all quitting on us 🥺😭😭😭 i love y’all. You’re literally the thing I look forward to during my morning routine.

[@fadzaisaravoyi6279]

The parents are trying to manipulate her into staying with him. The child deserves that child support regardless of whether she stays with him or not.

[@IAFoodReviews]

The fact that they had a joint bank account makes me think he might of taken some of her money to pay off his child support. She might not have noticed yet or he’s making it seem like it’s towards an “investment.” Also, the mention that his parents will help pay his child support if she stays with him makes me think what I said before makes sense. It’s just to take her money to “invest” in his chaos. I’m not sure if his parents directly said that to her or he said to her that his parents said that just to get back with her (and the joint bank account).

[@revolution9oh9]

Poor Ade is sick

[@muhammadanwar1698]

You can tell Work is work !!!

[@jenaumorgan]

Might just be allergies 🤔

[@irakayeestrada5077]

The truth always comes to light 💡

[@morewithmariama7723]

Jeannie's outfit is everything.

[@ms09241993]

So he can’t be seeing his kids if he was able to hide them for those years. I highly doubt his family didn’t know, so they are liars and manipulators as well. $40,000 is a lot so he hasn’t been paying in a long time. Why wouldn’t his parents help to support the kids from the get go. He’s probably only giving his kids mom $800 now so she wouldn’t tell his wife. She should leave and never look back. They are not good people.

[@GoldenLady1007]

#Facts 💛

[@aminachanae]

She needs to file an injured spouse form with the IRS they will refund her portion of the tax refund back to her. As for the rest…that will be up to her.

[@rogers5622]

Her husband probably has more kids than what he is admitting to . My cousin found out when she pregnant that her ex didnt have just the 2 sons he had custody of -- he had 6 additional kids 😳( his sister told on him)

[@asauntamaynard9590]

Real love tells the truth and respects their choice... That one hit.

[@Bee-wd4mh]

Jeannie’s take on this is so accurate and mature.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾This looks like t’his parents are trying to trap her with him because nobody else will put up with their son.

[@loosenuplivefully1089]

I'm learning a lot from these conversations. my sister's boyfriend told her Even though he was afraid he called in very late. he said he never knew he had a baby i honestly respect people who tell the truth. It's worse hiding a child the most important precious thing in the world how am I suppose to respect and trust you after that.

[@Desi-zz4gb]

DIVORCE no question about it. As a matter of fact ANNULMENT

[@mandys1038]

Dump him! This says a lot about his character, how can you love a man that kept such a huge thing from you? Not only that he has been a deadbeat dad, 40k in back child support means he has not been taking care of this child. Adrienne and Jeannie were bang on, speaking of Adrienne get well soon munchkin!!

[@oceaneo4603]

That what gross me out the most. Him not taking care of this/those kids (?). And is wrong with those grandparents ?

[@mandys1038]

@@oceaneo4603 Right? Them begging her to stay means they knew what he was doing and hid it from her too. Whole family is messed up she needs to cut her losses.

[@cococherrymango1225]

@@mandys1038 which also means they knew their son was a loser from jump *obviously because they raised him* and was hoping this would Never come out because they knew he'd never find anyone better

[@GlendaKRose88_]

It definitely says a lot about his character.

[@stacycottman4712]

I'm going to miss this show.

[@catherineottilio3273]

Can relate! Liars never change!

[@PHE-nomenon]

RUN!

[@Anas-rx1he]

I’m sorry but who is setting up these questions lately to call out Ade & Israel 💀 the real producers are ending this season with a bang I see.

[@munab3666]

You what? Palestine isn't hiding his kids though

[@lauracamacho6942]

Sad the show coming to an end

[@NorryaParsa]

All of this could have been avoided!!! Alvin, Alvin, Alvin..... Why couldn't you just tell Tamika from Day 1?!?!?! Most women are reasonable humans. They can handle it. Being lied to for 5 years is an insult to Tamika's intelligence and time. SMH

[@daynahitlal9824]

how could she love someone like that

[@cher-marienavarro1345]

Love doesn't evaporate when somebody does you wrong.

[@tb11212]

If she chooses to divorce him, I hope she annuls it and cites fraud cause wtf

[@CrystalDatingCoach]

The Relationship is OVER actually it never began. You were living a LIE. Your Partner was living a Double life. I'm sure he visited his Children and ex wife behind your back. How can you EVER trust this man. Move on! Please!

[@bombayallday4229]

Jeannie looking really good, love the outfit! And loni’s eyeshadow I’m digging it! Poor Adrienne u can see her pink nose!

[@marilynnelson2240]

Exactly Jeannie…bye bye for him🤦🏽‍♀️

[@kevinroyceho]

Loni read my mind! It's even more insidious that the parents are only helping out their son if she stays with him. That's so manipulative. Why are you trapping her and using his well being to blackmail her?

[@miriamflo6471]

She should run for her life. If she didn't deserve the truth from him, she doesn't deserve to live with him

[@afoy550]

I could never be with a man who's a deadbeat dad. If you have a child be honest about it and be present in their life. The fact that he lied for years about even having a child is bananas to me. And the family was complicit. That's crazy

[@thejen24]

He's a STRANGER SIS! That's TERRIFYING!! LEAVE HIM! The fact that his parents are trying to emotionally blackmail you means that THEY KNEW HE HAD HIDDEN CHILDREN AND THEY ARE COMPLICIT IN THIS CONSPIRACY! Free yourself! The first thing he'll try to do is get you pregnant should you come back! He wants to lock you in as well! Fly away and stay free!

[@iamtjolie1336]

Reasons why I fear joint accounts . Too many horror stories . At this point I would want to move on and get my money back .

[@sashanaism]

U should have told her at the start of the relationship if he loved her. That is betrayal of trust

[@kyliejones8890]

That's very manipulative of the parents to base their decision on her to help their son

[@eltonandfrieda]

I find it funny how Addriene and Jeannie are quick to tell people to move on. I bet you if they found themselves in the same predicament we would be hearing a whole different perspective.

[@cher-marienavarro1345]

They both had their situations and spoke about it on the show. Adrienne spoke about Lenny and Jeannie spoke on Freddy. They seemed to have both practiced what they preached imo.

[@Mampuruadvicetv]

I definitely love this segments, “address this mess” 😂❤️

[@TheFuronda]

This situation a little too ghetto imo. I'd be out!!!🏃🏾‍♀️💨

[@sweetkey87]

It's no way my husband would take $800 a month of OUR MONEY and tell me that he's "INVESTING" it with me not seeing what the "INVESTMENT" is.

[@ages6592]

The parents are doing that because they are the type of people who have raised this type of son… they are not an example of a healthy relationship with good values that the son has learned from!

[@eveallusion]

Jeannie looks AMAZING! 😍

[@omobuukola]

He is a Joker....how do you hide a child? Was he hoping the child would die or disappear? Wow

[@lynnea5731]

I can’t respect a man who does not value fatherhood.

[@carlospar6896]

A sounds 😷🤢 sick...wish she stayed out this episode. Hope she gets better soon. She's always careful with sickness. ok to the topic of the show bye Alvin goodluck to ur future endeavors bye

[@bbloodyangel1]

She probably wouldve married him anyway if he had been honest about kids when they met?? What even is going on...leave his ass girl, shady.

[@mariamonroe1974]

yeah cause who lies about having kids ? he should've told her so she can decide if she wants a man with kids or not

[@TiffanyRayneOfficial]

The thumbnail of Loni's pic sipping her drink over the title is everything 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. But yeah, Jeannie said it already, leave this man ASAP. And Adrienne said best, why the lies and deception? The truth is a whole lot easier to deal with.

[@Ounsreymap]

Tamika I am so sorry for what you’re going through, looks like Alvin still has growing up to do.

[@buttercupj6208]

One word DIVORCE!!!!!

[@bradburghwilliams679]

Miss Jeanie u better stick to your words ...cos if ever u end up in this type of situation u better do what u telling her to do !

[@perisndirangu1280]

Yap … well said .. her Man is not saint 😂😂😂

[@debwilli2031]

Leave! RUN GIRL. Not only is he a mess but his parents as well. How many more secret is in the closet? Leave and don't look back.

[@LockedInNOW]

✌🏽 That’s it PeriodT !

[@mariafernanda9979]

Jeannie don’t play! 😂 I love her

[@modestinemungo4661]

Girl 🏃.!! Ain't no coming bk from that!

[@s676n8]

“Oooo tamika…. Lonnie is mixing that drink over there!” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 lmao

[@cynthiajones1160]

What do you have in that Glass Lonnie!!!!😂😂😂

[@callenharris2959]

Yes he lied about the kids...but he also stole her money as well! $800 a month out of their joint checking account.....and their $9000 tax refund that was taken from them to help pay for his back child support! Seriously run!!!

[@MasonPerry7]

I’m mad because they used the whole tax refund to pay the child support he owed to his ex, and she wasn’t even aware of. I don’t care that he kept the child secret, that alone is messed up, and you’re just going to decide to use our money to pay your debt? Nah. I’m not here for it. That’s between him and God. The thing is that $9,000.00 was for the both of them, split it $4,500 goes to her, $4,500 to him. He owes her at least that much and more. Why should she have to pay for his child, that’s not theirs? Nope that’s why I believe in separate accounts, you can keep one account together for the mortgage and utilities, but you keep that spectate from where your direct deposit and your savings, you keep those private I don’t care how much love or trust. Heck we keep them seperate because I love you and I trust you.

[@keshia4974]

That saying should be, Tell me the worst thing about you and let me decide if I want to be there👌🏾

[@butterflyygyrlsworld5106]

Adrienne should have called in sick…😂🙃💕that stuffy nose was sending me.

[@missey7553]

I am sure this is how Adrienne husband ex-wife felt when she found out that Israel had cheated on her and allegedly fathered other kids. This man had no respect for her, their family or the church. I guess when you want a husband bad enough you will marry anyone. Maybe this is why Adrienne is good on this topic.

[@cococherrymango1225]

??

[@CC-si3cr]

I guess Tamika will have to DM Jeannie and Adrienne with a f/u to this mess. The Real ends June 3, 2022. [sad face] Real talk...Tamika needs to leave her husband. I know some couples say they grew stronger from a major problem, but this is ridiculous! Why hasn't he been visiting these kids? Now she's a stepmother! It's all too much. Bye "Alvin"!! He can go raise his chipmunks solo.

[@chidilove8394]

lmao @ the chipmunks reference

[@reeyynnaa]

This kinda happened to me but thank God we weren’t married. I knew my ex had a daughter (who he wasnt seeing often), but he hid his 8 yr old son from me because he said he was ashamed at how he isn’t there for his son. So he kept it from me because he thought that if I knew the situation, then I wouldn’t wanna be with him… smh I ended up finding out about his son 1 year into the relationship from his sister in law

[@cicelibrown8514]

Was it ok with you that he wasn't seeing his daughter often?

[@reeyynnaa]

@@cicelibrown8514 absolutely not. I couldn’t ignore being with him knowing he has a daughter he isn’t seeing. So I would bring her up a lotttt and it hit a nerve in him and he would get angry and shut down and yell at me. He lied and I was believing his lies. I also was too young and naïve to do anything with all the red flags.

[@cicelibrown8514]

@@reeyynnaa I understand. We have all been there. And looking back like wth was I thinking lol

[@reeyynnaa]

@@cicelibrown8514 yesss girl exactly hahaha. And now it’ll be part of my testimony for sure

[@keenahizuagie3306]

I love all the colors going on you all

[@shaynanichelle8621]

Who hides a child fr? That’s insane! I would be so angry and feel betrayed, that’s nuts!

[@SleepyArcticBirds-ft4lb]

Pack your bag girl and scram! Don’t bother to stay in touch with his parents either. They’re probably hiding more information too! These people have no moral compass😢

[@lovereconciled4210]

He would be GONE, Gone, gone!!!

[@alexandraanderson3988]

Jeannie 😅😊😂❤ 2:52 going off lmaoo 😂🤣