Address This Mess: Friend Finds Out Her Best Friend is Sleeping with a Married Man...at Her Job!

What would you do if you found our your best friend was sleeping with your mutual friend's husband? Real Fam, we got you! This is "Address This Mess."
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[@angemarie12]

If my best friend is messing with married men, then we're no longer best friends. I don't trust women who do things like that.

[@lennzo9231]

Yeah the woman you don't trust, saved your life, in this situation.

[@anustart1934]

Yeah, they might then come for your man too lol

[@lennzo9231]

@@anustart1934 Your colleagues wife and your best friend are two completely different things.

[@angemarie12]

@@anustart1934 So, do you pronounce that "Anus Tart" or "Anu Start"? 😂

[@angemarie12]

@@lennzo9231 For me, it's the same principle as being with a person who's sweet to you but mean to cashiers and wait staff. If you're kind to me but you treat others like dirt, then we can't be in relationship the same way.

[@yogaqueen1527]

I wouldn't lose my job over an affair. Not my business

[@peacehappyb237]

Exactly.

[@friimunya8488]

EXACTLY!

[@Sensoredcensored]

Agreed! Especially someone else’s affair. It’s free to mind your business

[@tawanamufasa291]

Would it be okay if you were the one being cheated on

[@kattodoggo3868]

@@tawanamufasa291 they literally gave her a job. She should mind her budines unless she is close with the wife.

[@cheftruvii6146]

I agree with Adrienne if I had kids to feed I would keep my mouth shut. Pray about it and keep it pushing 😂

[@lorigrant4628]

agreed

[@AutumnIvy1995]

I know that’s right! 😂😂

[@charmcharm2352]

Like Tamar used to say "My name is Benet n I aint in it, name is Paul dat between y'all" and I'll add to that "now run me my cheque at the end of the month and lemme go home n pray for y'all sad mix up people"

[@rogers5622]

Right. They don't know that she saw them .

[@Tan87ful]

Yep. 😂😂😂💯💯

[@killerqueen7489]

I wouldn't say a word, and keep my job. That being said, I'd slowly distance myself from this Nicole and just maintain a cordial relationship in the work place. A lot of tines, the wife already knows she's being cheated on anyway, and we all know Nicole and Renee's husband KNOW what they're doing and don't care. 9 times out of 10, you're most likely to get the short end of the stick and come off as nosy rather than be of help.

[@jennbrooms8058]

I absolutely agree

[@furdings2797]

girl where are your shade videos ;(

[@Dira091998]

100%!

[@Deactivatedbygoogle]

my point

[@greyciepesh9784]

💯

[@Anas-rx1he]

Completely agree with Adrienne, it’s a blessing they didn’t see you catch them. Keep out of it, maintain some reasonable distance from both Nicole and Renee’s husband as well gradually.

[@ceterisparibus8966]

Why? Nicole is her best friend. Some friends and some family come first.

[@sailor6322]

@@ceterisparibus8966 before your livelihood?? Erm that’s a no for me dawg

[@kazior6521]

@@ceterisparibus8966 Wasn’t she close friends with both of them? Back in high school I was in a similar situation. I immediately told my other friend what I saw. In the end, doing the right thing caused a lot of drama and scrutiny for me. Even from people outside the situation. I came out of it losing two friends (the couple) and one that permanently changed (the “disloyal” friend). Since, I learned to do my best to avoid those situations. I adopted “I don’t wanna know about it” policy. Although I do believe in loyalty before the dollar, this woman just pulled herself out of a hole. She is lucky they didn’t see her catch them.

[@ceterisparibus8966]

@@sailor6322 What? I was not talking about livelihood.

[@cindyben3089]

@@ceterisparibus8966 But if tells Nicole what she see, Nicole can get mad, tell her boss and get her fired loosing her livelihood.

[@elsaromero4743]

Low key set them up. Everyone is the cool friend until it's their husband they are sleeping with 😂

[@Justme0003]

Lol, i just replied someone's comment with something like this

[@spoildchik1]

If your best friend will sleep with a mutual friends Man, then, Your man isn't off limits either... Remember that. She not only has low morals but poor self esteem, create distance because you don't want to be involved if / when others find out. Also, most companys have a retaliation policy and will do an ethics investigation anonymously. Do yourself a favor and document the situation with the date of occurrence and time then email it to yourself from your work email to personal for your personal records and if there is any retaliation or harrassment on the job you've started to protect yourself preemptively.... The advice of not saying anything is why side chicks thrive. I would act so funny with her that she would KNOW i knew something and NEVER discuss my relationship or any other friends with her.

[@sxnchezhype212]

👏🏽 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 agreed.

[@lynne709]

I don’t think it’s worth doing all of that. If the affair starts to somehow effect the workplace environment or this woman’s workload then she should probably report it. Sometimes you have to let these issues work themselves out.

[@sx3todd]

gurl what about your kids at home that depend on you keeping your job?!

[@madamesproete]

Hr has access to all, and I do mean ALL of your emails. That's a good way to get yourself fired.

[@imaginativegirl126]

@@madamesproete Right. Don't send any emails from your work email that you don't want people at work to know about. Just write those details on a piece of paper for later reference.

[@natalieperez4982]

I literally died when Loni said “I don’t know any of these bitches” 🤣🤣🤣

[@aleesharenea8565]

🤣🤣😭

[@Tan87ful]

😂😂😂😂

[@zenahendricks1804]

"nobody needs a extra-credit Christian now" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 amen Jeannie!!!!

[@Ennui83]

Isn't that just regular Christian though. Y'all kill me with your pick and choose morality.

[@symone7777777]

@@Ennui83 you are so right!

[@theechubbyone]

@@Ennui83 The woman who saw her friend sneaking did nothing wrong though. What those two were doing will come to light somehow, it just doesn't have to come from her because it would just throw her in the middle of it. The Bible says don't stand in the way of sinners. Psalm 1:1

[@vivisnotes]

@@theechubbyoneIn that verse it's stating you don't want to follow and do the same wickedness or gossip about it either to others in the manner of mockery. The verses you should post up are "Colossians 3:9-10 Do not lie to one another, for you have stripped off the old nature with its practices and have clothed yourselves with the new nature, which is being renewed in full knowledge, consistent with the image of the one who created it." & "John 3:20-21 Everyone who practices wickedness hates the light and does not come to the light, so that his actions may not be exposed. But whoever does what is true comes to the light, so that it may become evident that his actions have God’s approval." So in all, do the right thing. Do not be a sinner about the truth and do not commit to deceitfulness.

[@Tan87ful]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@NIAtoolkit]

She needs to find another job in the same industry ASAP and put in her 14-day before getting involved

[@black_butterfly4947]

She need to mind her business

[@cheesewithxbread]

Agreed!

[@TheEricaKatherine]

In a pandemic ?!?! It’s so hard finding jobs on a regular . She needs to mind her own and do what she’s getting paid for everything else ? Not her problem

[@vwadebiz03]

While the pandemic has made things hard re: employment, if she was able to get this job, she can definitely find another one, it just depends on the strategy you take to seeking new opportunities. She can still look for one while she’s working there. the dynamic of the work environment has now changed, so I agree that she should find something else while she’s still working there in order to get away from it. As long as she networks within her industry/city/other people and orgs, she’s able to find something better that can pay her just the same, if not more.

[@bohlalenchabeleng1370]

@@vwadebiz03 the question is will the next job be as well paying?

[@ashlieleavelle]

I would reevaluate my friendship. I don't want to be friends with a woman who sleeps with a married man. I mean, if my best friend doesn't have morality, why keep a friend like that?

[@eveandherapple1619]

Because she said she was dependent on her due to the pandemic, and now feels indebted to her for helping her get her entire life on track.

[@brittaniharold1880]

Then you better find another job in that case because she did you a favor when she could have blocked you.

[@KharisB.A]

The basis of my friendship with the very few people I consider friends is the common values we share. So, any of these friends of mine who engages in such hurtful acts will have no problem understanding why I cut ties with them; because that's exactly what I'm going to do. Then, I'll seek divine assistance on what to do next. This route has never failed me.

[@mandys1038]

I'm with Jeannie, check your friend but stay out of it Your job is more important to keep especially when you struggled to get your life together.

[@joshualongoria8631]

Well this is where people need to educate themselves more you can't fire someone because they told your business like that you put yourself into that situation that's on you. He knew the cost when he was cheating and she knew the cost when she was messing with a married man you can get seriously hurt for that and in certain States you can sue the significant person who destroyed your marriage most girls who say they want their friends to be quiet remember this can happen to you you got to learn to put yourself in other people's shoes would you want your friends to be quiet and they found out your significant other was cheating on you with someone close to you or she could just take it up to HR

[@nellskay2432]

@@joshualongoria8631 True but it’s a long and daunting process to sue for wrongful termination. It’s seems from the letter she does not have a lot of resources due to pandemic set back. Maybe once she gets into a better situation financially or a new job she can speak up if she chooses. It’s a tough situation.

[@joshualongoria8631]

@@nellskay2432 true. If i was her i would start looking for another job then send the wife a an anonymous letter or email. Then after she leave that way it can't come back the haunted to her later in life.

[@janelle5175]

@@joshualongoria8631 and this is where you can't be naive, people get fired over personal vendetta all the time

[@joshualongoria8631]

@@janelle5175 1. you need to look up the definition of naive before you insult people 2. if you can fire someone over it you could sue over it 3. you are making an a assumption that I didn't know that for example I've seen a girl get fired for burping bc she didn't say excuse me infront of customers even tho there was nobody around her at the time 4. People who are in a position of power or own business tend to get overconfident with time which usually leads to their down fall history has proven that 5. We have rules and regulations for situation like this that's why I said take it up to HR because this is probably breaking one of their rules 6. Have you not heard of the Me too movement 7. Don't be rude to people you don't know makes you look like an ass 8. We only know one side of the story but there are only two parties who are in the wrong here and in the eyes of the laws that's what matters. 9 the guy aka her boss probably has a history of doing this because if you listen to the story you can tell he's too comfortable getting away with it. 10 that was your opinion and this is mine you don't have to agree with me but have a bless day or night and I wish you well.

[@zuhairlunat2199]

I did not expect this response from you guys 😬- in my opinion, a true best friend would check their friends, tell them to do right, and either stop being friends with them (if they behave like it’s not an issue) or at least keep their distance from the friend. Life is like a boomerang, if you know something is wrong and stay quiet about it, best believe it can always happen back. Also, it’s understandable that you don’t want to lose your job and you just got your life back together, but once the money-load overtakes your desire to do right, you’ve lost more internally than you would ever have, had you made the correct decision. Telling the partner who has been cheated on about the affair would be a last resort for me, if the husband or the friend themselves has not come clean, and I would tell them anonymously to keep myself out of the situation as much as possible

[@iamlakesivad4675]

And if she doesn’t change? Change your job. Good luck 👍🏾

[@Justme0003]

They'll say not to tell until it's their husbands cheating

[@BybeeBunnie]

This is easy to say until it comes down to keeping your mouth shut vs being on the street with your kids/dependents. Life isn’t so black and white, I’d risk my integrity to keep my kids healthy and safe. Integrity doesn’t put food on the table. Maslows Hierarchy of Needs comes to mind. I’ll secure my basic needs then worry about my character. Just like I’d steal before I let my kids go hungry. It’s shitty, but it’s life. A true best friend is still not on the same level as my own kids or elderly parents.

[@zuhairlunat2199]

@@BybeeBunnie think about it this way, had you been the spouse who was cheated on in this situation, wouldn’t you want to find out about your partner if they were cheating? Granted if you know something about someone, but they have no relation to you- it’s none of your business; but it doesn’t change the fact that what’s happened is wrong and the partner deserves to know. You don’t even need to directly get involved; talking to the best friend (cause you’re best friends, there should be an understanding of how they’d react to being told off, and you can do it in a way which you know they’ll be able to take it) would be wise, and then perhaps directly telling the spouse about the issue can be a last resort if you think that they are still getting cheated on. Also have you forgotten about job security and how it is practically illegal to fire someone for reasons like “knowing about the cheating scandal” 😭.

[@blacklungsanji3]

@@zuhairlunat2199 Laws like unreasonable firing aren’t always implemented also they could literally make up a reason to fire her like pin something on her. Like the previous comment said life isn’t black and white and also I think you underestimate how evil someone can truly get when you tell them they know your secret like an affair. She can go from a best friend to your worst nightmare. I’d look for another job or tell the one who’s being cheated on anonymously cause I don’t believe in cheaters getting away with stuff like that but I also understand people who don’t say anything cause they have kids and the kids do come before some morally corrupt “best friend”

[@thaahirsamsodien9518]

Unless my friend is gonna pay my bills when I get fired, then naah, it ain't my business.

[@ceterisparibus8966]

That's just a justification.

[@jaydubbs8277]

a justification for what? minding your business? bc thats always the best option and its totally free.

[@cindyben3089]

@@ceterisparibus8966 justification for staying employed and not lose my home?? I’m not the one cheating no need to justify minding ones own business..

[@Tan87ful]

Yep 💯💯👏🏽👏🏽

[@lotlot40]

I wish Loni had more time to say. That ending was hilarious.

[@csillagergely9996]

I LOVE Adrienne’s new hair color!!😍😍😍

[@dani23dani85]

@@badguyjudah1875 that’s not her real hair? A wig?

[@desyreemalig9329]

It's a wig. You don't see scalp

[@bethW_]

I'd make it clear that I don't condone it, don't support it, and flat out tell her to her face, that my respect for her has diminished. It's your job to check your friends, and call them out when needed.

[@troybradley2575]

It’s your job to mind your business

[@bethW_]

@@troybradley2575 not when they made their stupidity into my business, like this woman's friend did. Her friend put her in a hell of a situation. She couldn't have made it her business anymore if she tried, and if we're not talking specifically about this situation... I'd still call my friend out on their bs. What they doing is trash and you absolutely call that out.

[@troybradley2575]

@@bethW_ that’s how people get murdered 🤷🏾‍♂️ nope not me! I Luv living

[@sherrijones8244]

Any other time I'd address the situation, with my friend..this time I'm not sure. *My friend would pick up on the change in me and eventually we'd talk about it, but I'd probably record our conversation to hopefully prevent any retaliation. This is a messed up situation 😞

[@bethW_]

@@troybradley2575 really? I would have thought sleeping with a married man is the type of stuff that gets you murdered. If having good enough morals to call out a close friend for being a hoe, is what gets me murdered, then so be it lol

[@thecurlywarrior]

I’d pray that EVERYTHING comes out to light. God has HIS ways.

[@ms.hjohnson6820]

Damn they’re sloppy, it seems anyone could have caught them!! I’d write an anonymous letter if it were a medium/large size office and if I was sure the other coworkers knew his wife loll. I’d act shocked as hell when pretending to find out for the first time. 🙀

[@agathachris9722]

Very good. Let it seem like anyone could have seen it and pretend to find out at the same time.

[@ms.hjohnson6820]

@@agathachris9722 bAm you got it. Concisely put ;)

[@marzellholbrook6130]

I can get behind this

[@alextroy9202]

That’s what I was thinking

[@orangeblossom5362]

I dont think i could trust/have a best friend that had those kinds of morals. I wouldnt say snything but I would no longer be so open with the best friend

[@brittaniharold1880]

Then she could use the fact that she helped you out when you let your life get so down and desperate out.

[@jenniyahb9475]

If my best friend did that I wouldn’t even trust her and she wouldn’t be my best friend anymore. Anybody who knowingly does that has no respect for themselves or others whatsoever. I would have told because I would like for someone to tell me. If I did get fired then I would go somewhere else and do the best that I can. It’s a shame that there are so many women who agree to not say anything. It’s all good until it’s your situation 💯

[@Sensoredcensored]

The whole situation is completely unfair to her. She shouldn’t have to lose her job or face scrutiny because of coming to work early and finding out secrets. She is justified if she wants to keep her mouth closed. The wife probably knows everything already. If she doesn’t know, she will find out because whatever is done in the dark always comes to the light.

[@sophiedion1738]

I would reevaluate my friendship too that speaks volumes about her character Girl that is the jesus part u breaching but not when u are feeding kids and pills to pay oke i know that is right!! u are my kind girl mind your bussnies. girl got to do what she got to do oke,, however i think cheating is mental illnes and these people need some help..

[@brittaniharold1880]

So you make it about you when it's not about you

[@heatherlynsey3092]

This one hits close to home. My best friend, I’m talking sister basically since 2nd grade did this. She lost her virginity to a married man, she never told me until I got it out of her. She knew my dad did that to my mom and it hurt me so badly. I told her how awful it was and it never stopped. That was the hardest yet easiest friendship to leave, if that makes sense. Morals are huge to me and that just wasn’t it. I’ve heard they still mess around, sadly.

[@JazFae90]

I understand morales mean that much to you, but she didn't break trust with you personally. As a friend, you should have been there with her to work through her mistakes. Unless she truly had a history of messed up decisions that made you question your friendship, your the messed up friend in this story.

[@idi.h5460]

@@JazFae90 yup

[@agathachris9722]

Exactly

[@patty8644]

@@JazFae90 I completely disagree. Her friend was the messed up individual. If she can do it to another, she can do it to you. It's either you have morals/standards or you don't. She was right to break that friendship. You never want an individual like this in your life. AND she knew how sensitive of a situation that is for you? No ma'am. Adios.

[@sakurauzimaki365]

@@JazFae90 I disagree the type of people you choose to keep around you says a lot about your character. I had a friend who was constantly doing of the wall stuff and would always drag me into her problems. I had to learn to let her go. I wouldn’t want a friend who didn’t have the same morals as me because who’s to say they won’t flip on me in a situation?

[@aryang4975]

We also don’t know how “Renee” would take the news. She could very well not believe you or just stay with her husband even after finding out..and now you out of a job and 2 friends. Im with A on this. Don’t say nothing, clock in and out

[@jasi7313]

One thing Loni always says, which I've learned through experience is sound advice: They grown! Mind your own business!

[@TheKRGS]

Company policy is usually "if you see something, say something" otherwise you're complicit. HOWEVER, in this case, I would just shut my mouth and keep it pushing. If they were irresponsible enough to get caught by one person who's technically still new... they will get caught again by someone else who may not be as forgiving.

[@edithputhy4948]

Yeah, if you witness something illegal, a personal relationship is nothing you're obligated to report to anyone unless there's sexual harassment or coercion involved.

[@Sassy_Muffin136]

@@edithputhy4948 lmao you’re surely defending the “not reporting” quite heavily just because it’s not illegal. This is the second comment I’ve seen you made saying this

[@edithputhy4948]

@@Sassy_Muffin136 bc it's true

[@naturalelation1631]

I'm tellin Renee... I'd want somebody to tell me🤷🏾 furthermore, nicole couldn't be my friend anyway, cause MY friends don't sleep with other women's husbands.🤷🏾

[@agathachris9722]

Exactly

[@omphilemoerane2569]

I feel the same way you do. But from personal experience I can guarantee these ladies (especially Adrienne) are correct. Most of the time the wife/girlfriend already knows and once they know that you know, they get embarrassed and take their anger out on you cause they don't have the courage to confront the person who is doing them wrong smh.

[@excuseme9458]

@Hakeem Hakeem I see you leaving this comment everywhere.

[@jaydubbs8277]

so youre more worried about exposing other grown ppls issues than feeding your own family? weird... lol

[@msmojo1]

I noticed quite a number of women hate when other women bring information on an affair or cheating to their attention. I personally would want to know but a lot of women don’t.

[@maddie19]

I completely agree with A. The fact that she even considered the idea that her friend will tell the boss and that will result in her getting fired to me says that both “Nicole” and the boss are very reactive people who will take great offense to her just knowing. In my opinion I think she should distance herself from Nicole if it’s bothering her to the point where it’s effecting their relationship. I kinda understand where “Erica” is coming from because I currently have a co-worker friend who’s sleeping with another one of our coworkers who’s married; I’ve been trying to talk to her about how it’s wrong, she’s screwing herself over,and to stop wasting energy on a man who doesn’t show basic respect towards his wife and has no respect for you. A married doesn’t cheat with women he respects, he cheats with women he knows will give him what he wants.

[@jazminehaughton9295]

I would record the conversation with my messy friend then I would talk to my boss outside of work and record that conversation also. Just in case they fire her she has proof that she was wrongfully terminated Or just don't say anything 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@osenifabua1912]

Don’t say anything to anyone. Just distance yourself from her🤷🏾‍♀️

[@ceterisparibus8966]

She's her best friend.

[@allthingsbeauty9175]

Period!!!!

[@GoldenGlam95]

If we’re BEST FRIENDS I should feel comfortable coming to you with EVERYTHING, even your own crap. So I would definitely talk to my best friend and tell her! “ Girl I love you but what you’re doing is f*cked up and I don’t condone that, you need to get your ish together cut things off with him! At the end of the day you’re grown and can do what you want but as you’re best friend I would hope you take what I am telling you into consideration! Not only are you a playing part of breaking up a home but 9/10 the man will stay with his wife and you will be the one in pieces!!! Also because I caught y’all I might be at risk of losing my job, which you know how important this is for me and my kids” The man is responsible in telling his wife or not! Main priorities are her kids(first) than her best friend….other people don’t matter🤷🏾‍♀️

[@sophiedion1738]

Girl that is the jesus part u breaching but not when u are feeding kids and pills to pay oke i know that is right!! u are my kind girl mind your bussnies. girl got to do what she got to do oke,, however i think cheating is mental illnes and these people need some help..

[@MARIARODRIGUEZ-xb5cb]

I love Loni’s response lmao she is such a comedian and always adds so much even in just a couple of words to the table! I LOVE YOU LONI!!🥳🥳🥳 (i hope you see this🥲) and I’m in the last chapter of your book and giiirrrrllll I love it!!!!😍😍😍😍😍

[@LL-xn3jk]

Thats not my best friend anymore

[@rebeccamyrtil2696]

Loni has been so happy lately and I love it!!!!

[@dawnaporter9932]

She can anonymously send the wife a note. And never tell anyone a word. The wife deserves to know.

[@trisht6279]

Girl mind your business, do your job and go home. That 'friend' would never go anywhere near my man though. That's all.

[@acarringman9076]

In this day and age I feel like there are workplace protections to prevent getting fired for these reasons. Plus, there are probably policies that the boss would have violated. Like having sex at the workplace and exposing yourself to other employees? Unless he's like the top top guy, she could probably get HIM fired.

[@dg_71994]

And take HIS job 👏🏼👏🏼

[@agathachris9722]

Exactly

[@Anonymous_JK_Lover]

That's exactly what I was thinking her boss and "Nicole" can't get her fired because of that reason.

[@jaydubbs8277]

that aint how it works at all. if he plays a integral role in the functioning of that company do you think the will let him go over some newbie working as the base level? lol she need to mind her business like they said. lol

[@vwadebiz03]

Big facts!!!! There’s usually an Ethics hotline that employees can call in anonymously to report things such as this to the company.

[@kiracaine]

Jeannie is right! Mind your business, that doesn't concern you. Firstly, your job is the highest priority; especially in this pandemic. Secondly, I would tell the best friend on the side (if she takes my advice great, if she doesn't also great; let it not be said I never tried). Otherwise, I'm coming to the office to do my work, not to watch people's rshps. There is a popular Jamaican proverb 🇯🇲 "Kacroach nuh biznizz eena fowl fight.". Translation: A cockroach has no business in a fowl fight. In other words, don’t get involved or take sides in family fights, feuds and disagreements. What don't concern you, don't concern you. Don't put people's problems on your head.

[@marzellholbrook6130]

I'm with Adrienne with this one. We are in a Panasonic, what do I look like losing my job over business that's not mine. Hell, the wife and several coworkers most likely already know.

[@ep576]

Ummm this “mess” was not “addressed”. 😂 But have to agree with Garcelle’s quick comment that if they didn’t want to people to know then they shouldn’t be bringing it to work. And bc she saw this at their place of employment I think legally if she doesn’t report this to HR, and honestly she could do it without these particular “friends” finding out, that could possibly risk her own position if it comes to light that she was aware. But to each their own I guess.

[@edithputhy4948]

She has no obligation to report this to anyone, it's not a crime.

[@ep576]

@@edithputhy4948 There’s a little thing called workplace ethics and violation of that alone could be grounds for termination. And she could be tied into that if she is questioned of her knowledge of it. So....yeah.

[@user-kf2oi4sq5b]

@Adrienne, that outfit is EVERYTHING mama, you ate that 🙌🏼👌🏼

[@aurelijadaukantaite4903]

My best friend of almost a decade was dating a married man and tried to separate the couple (succeeded too💀). I wasn’t really comfortable with that morally but When I mentioned that she just got mad and called me ‘judge mental’ so i didn’t mention anything since then. But those type of people really has you thinking and I been really distancing myself since that day seeing what kind of person they are. Just shows peoples values and morals. Really glad I removed myself from that environment.

[@dirtydan5399]

You did good. She already distrustful for knowingly sleeping with a married man. But she succeeded in breaking them up?? Now she knows she can do it again.

[@aurelijadaukantaite4903]

@@dirtydan5399 yeah the morals got a low win in that case. They are married now with a baby, I mean they happy good for them. But to separate someone's home to get your happy ending isn't that nice when you think about it..

[@dirtydan5399]

@@aurelijadaukantaite4903 yea if they happy I guess thats good but don’t forget, he was “happily married” when he was dating your friend. There may be another girl like you currently telling their friend to stop dating that married man only for the cycle to continue

[@etherealdeal1792]

Neither of these people are her property. It’s none of her business. If the man is gonna cheat you can’t stop him

[@strawberriesncandii]

I wouldn’t say anything. Getting a job especially during this pandemic is rough. She was barely surviving and now she wants to risk it all? Sis I’d be quiet and collect my check.

[@ashleighrose8115]

This is EXACTLY why I NEVER show up to the office early like that cause people aren't expecting anyone anyone be there that early, so if I'm scheduled at 8am I'll see u at 7:45 and no earlier lol

[@Allinmyworld]

SAY NOTHING! What happens in the dark always comes to the light and eventually she get found out on her own time

[@agapeagencyofvirginia793]

I’m confused tho … did they see her Seeing them?

[@marzellholbrook6130]

@@agapeagencyofvirginia793 they didn't

[@TheeDasani]

As a Christian, I’m utterly perplexed by Jeanne’s statement (“extra credit Christian”) and by Adrienne’s position. I don’t believe there’s any wisdom in anything they’ve said, but there is a whole lot of fear masquerading as worldly wisdom (i.e. fear of losing her job). I’m not saying that it’s unreasonable to be concerned about losing your job, but if that supersedes your devotion as a follower of Christ and leads you to make decisions that don’t reflect him and his integrity then you’re allowing the enemy to cloud good and wise judgement. Isn’t God greater than anyone in any position here on earth? Wasn’t Jesus faithful unto death? Not that anyone took His life, but He laid it down for the joy set before Him. That’s the type of walk we are called to as believers. We are set apart from the world. It may seem “extra” to folks like Jeanne, but those who know are aware of the greater things that await true believers both here on earth and after this present earth. With that being said, it’s understood that this is an incredibly difficult situation, however the Holy Spirit can guide her in the right direction. There’s a time to be silent and there’s a time to speak. The book of Esther is an excellent example of how a woman won favor with a king and saved her people - and herself - from being put to death. She risked HER LIFE to do what was right before the Lord. If that doesn’t resonate, we can take any number of civil rights heroes who risked life and limb for justice. Some people may say we are not called to that level of morality, faith and justice, but that is wrong. Those people were common people with common concerns just like us - what it boils down to is our decisions. Will we be guided by fear or by faith?

[@ashiig6721]

Totally agree. People tend to pick and choose morality and that's sad. As Christians the truth, God’s truth must be represented at all times

[@josephinebournes8212]

You wrote all dat? Based on my lived experiences, it's best to keep your mouth shut.

[@sjcooks3664]

I may be wrong but when are we in a position to expose other people’s sins

[@dirtydan5399]

@@josephinebournes8212 you read it didn’t you?

[@dirtydan5399]

Right! Makes me wonder how they truly felt about Tamera

[@Dori90210]

I couldn’t even follow this story, must have been distracted by the looks A is serving, stunning!🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@monaetheloner3521]

This is the best hairstyle I’ve ever seen on Adrienne omg.

[@carlameadows8593]

Extra credit Christian!

[@indigobeauty1]

I absolutely adore when they Coordinate their Beautiful outfits!!! Looking Great ladies 🤍🤍🤍🌸⚘

[@ms.crystal5888]

I’m wit Loni 💯👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 “I don’t know none of those …..” 👍🏾Facts 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Keepin it pushin… Next topic 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@sodvine3486]

I wouldn't want to be caught dead in such situation. I don't wanna be your friend. I would be too mad for me to remain friends with you.

[@emilypennick6765]

girl. get another job. who wants to work for a man who does that??

[@Myopinionmattersthemost]

I cant believe folks are saying a job is more important than a person's integrity. Jennie has very low morals, I thought she was better than that. If she's fired for telling that a real HR dilemma and most likely grounds for a wrongful termination lawsuit. No way you are gonna be my bf and sleeping with our mutual friends husband. Hopefully Jeannie and Adriennes husbands do not cheat on them and their friends remained silent about it. Jennie is a real fool to say bf come first, that same bf you are protecting will be sleeping with her husband next.

[@signalfire15]

I think people care way too much about what others are doing with their lives. Just keep grinding, get your money and live your own life. I also agree with Jeannie. Your loyalty is to your best friend. Check her, let her know what she's doing isn't right, but don't get involved beyond that.

[@manuela1102]

Like Adrienne said you don’t know how she is going to react. And she could easily do a 180 on you. An next thing you know your looking for a new job.

[@tenierajohnwell777]

I agree 100% with Adrienne. She just got back on her feet. Keep your job girl. I would act like I didn’t nothing. That ain’t none of my business.

[@blacklungsanji3]

I’d honestly look for another job in secret and as soon as I landed that job I’d leave my 2 week notice and tell her straight out cause I ain’t got nothing to lose or I’d tell her anonymously cause it’s not like only those 3 work at the office cause I truly believe that cheaters should get what’s coming for them. I also would suspect that if that friend is this morally corrupt I’d suspect why she helped me out. Was it out of the godness of her heart or was it to hold it over me when we start to fight. In this situation she has kids so I understand staying silent and distancing from the friend but I’d still suggest that she should look for another job cause you never want someone to hold something over you like “I helped you out of almost becoming homeless”

[@Nique1986]

I can’t Jeannie said an xtra credit Christian lol😂😂 but no this is a tuff situation but I agree I would say anything !!!

[@pinkstar9430]

Loni’s response is my mood lol. I prefer not to know anyone’s business at work.

[@hajaarsmith5930]

Great advice from the ladies. Especially what Adrienne said. She needs to keep her job. That's not her business.

[@marywrenn5262]

As against affairs as I am because they destroy families, my family is my priority. I'd mind my own buisness and let what's done in the dark come out in the light as it always ends up doing. I'd keep my distance for sure because I want no part in that destructive behaviour. Ultimately they are the ones who could lose their jobs because in some companies that's a sackable offense

[@janeking4059]

Yep Jeanne...number one....your job! Choosing to let your friend know that you are aware of wats going on...is a sticky one...like Adrianne said...u could get dragged into the mess ...so yeah ..keep your job!

[@SOSKinu]

Just write an anonymous letter to all the parties involved explaining what you know. After that they believe whatever they want it’s on them. They don’t know it’s from you so you keep your job and your conscience is clean.

[@Jasminesmasmine]

wouldn't it be retaliation if they fired her over that?

[@yayadrew]

I would not be able to keep my mouth shut if she’s truly my best friend. And they would not dare fire me because I would sue and that would be a happy payday for me.

[@roselolagne6642]

NO NO NO She should check HIM! lol He m might give her a raise as collateral lol

[@sherrijones8244]

That's a dangerous gamble...

[@jaydubbs8277]

@@sherrijones8244 nah its just stupid all together. lol

[@teejaybee9]

If she feels the need to tell her friend Renee, she should write an anonymous letter to Renee about her husband and Nicole but don't mention that it happened in the office.

[@ro992]

If she starts distancing herself from the friend, the friend will gather that she knows something, and fess up at some point if she is truly "a friend" . I wouldn't tell her. She would "sense" that I knew. I would continue to do my job, while hoping that at some point, the wife finds out about the affair. I would consider going to a different department, or another shift though...... Too awkward.

[@angelareed1542]

lol "nobody needs an extra credit Christina" Jeannine is funny.

[@msmojo1]

I would mind my business and start looking for another job because this situation gonna blow up I can feel it.

[@nadashaq1676]

Imagine if "Nicole" watched the show 😳 and now the whole company knows

[@SleepyArcticBirds-ft4lb]

No!!!! Say nothing. This is between the two of them. I experienced a very similar situation & ended up as The villain. Not only that I was bad mouthed to some friends and embarrassed. Eventually my girlfriend found out her husband was cheating with several other women as well but still to this day has never apologized. The moral of this story… mind your own business! I wish I had😢Adrianne nailed it!

[@npatnz384]

If they ain't being discreet about it, chances are someone else knows about it too or will soon enough. Maybe check your friend and tell her they either need to be more careful in the future or keep it out of the workplace all together.

[@SammySingally]

She should speak to a lawyer about the situation. Then confront Nicole about it by text and let her know Renée needs to know. If she gets fired, she should sue for wrongful termination. The text can be used as proof of the situation that led to her termination. Get more than she earns that way if they fire her.

[@lennzo9231]

Get lawyers involved into something that doesn't concern you? This Nicole literally got her a job, when she almost lost literally everything, and she should repay her by coming up with schemes like this? How old are you? 12? Who thinks like that? It's real life, not a tv show, where you have to show off your hero complex for the audience to like u, tf?

[@SammySingally]

If that was my husband cheating on me, I would want to know regardless of the situation and I won’t trust anyone who knew and kept quiet about it. I have witnessed friendships damaged because one person knew their friend’s husband was cheating, kept quiet about it (to all parties) and then the wife somehow found out they had known for a while. There would be no need to sue if she doesn’t get fired. If Nicole is as good and loyal a person/friend as she’s hoping to seem, she wouldn’t let her friend get fired for talking to her (or even Renée, but my statement above was about talking to Nicole), about what she’s doing not being okay. I won’t let someone doing one nice thing for me put me in bondage or forever indebted to them. If, in this situation, instead of having an affair with our mutual friend’s husband, I found out Nicole robbed/burgled somewhere, killed someone or harmed anyone in any way, I would do the same thing. I won’t keep myself in bondage. A good friend would speak up when her friend is in the wrong no matter what and a good friend would not expect her friend to forever be indebted or untruthful because she did something nice for her.

[@ranitagadling4312]

Stay out of it altogether & avoid all parties involved because if not they'll eventually end up blaming you for the breakup or divorce.

[@kishabryan7613]

I'm telling 💁🏿‍♀️ n dipping on her. I have morals n I know what cheating pains feel like.

[@superbluerock8327]

Adrienne is GLOWING. That new hair color is perfect on her and compliments her skin tone, so very beautifully.

[@devenbanks7286]

Nobody needs an Extra Credit Christian rn😂😂😂😂😂

[@joelsepulveda406]

Hands down Loni is my favorite 🤩 💙🤣 she’s too funny and did she curse on live tv or this a special segment on KZbin channel 😩🤔 I love it 🥰

[@atstkb4520]

It's call a wrongful termination suit! they can't fire her for anything unless she actually hasn't been doing her job, if you don't want to say anything that's your business, you might slip up at some point, but do you. But they have not legal standing to fire her for telling them they are wrong nor telling the wife what's actually going on. now the wife might know and get mad at her for saying something instead of getting mad at her husband and the cheating friend, but that's something else. you can not loose your job over this unless they want to pay you for no longer working there.

[@octavia8942]

Mmmm…this was a good one! 😭

[@user-ef5id9km3p]

She can't be fired for calling out her best friend on this, and if she was, she would have a hell of a wrongful dismissal payout thats for sure. They on the other hand could be fired for employee misconduct in the workplace. If he's a manager and married and sleeping around with his employee, that's a dismissible offence. The only fallout would be the awkwardness in the workplace and friendship. This isn't just any friend, this is a BEST friend. I don't care about him, but if that's my best friend you best believe I'm calling her out. Periodt.

[@benjaminreyes3624]

After seeing the situation😳...I would go right back on lunch like nothing ever happened🤣.. I gotta get this coin 👛

[@AP-lh8mi]

But what type of best friend is that ? me and best friend tell each other everything. that aint your best friend because you would have been already preview to what's going on. Keep your job !

[@charmcharm2352]

What is it Tamar used to say? "My name is Benet I ain't in it, my name is Paul dat between y'all."😂 now run me my check at the end of the month plz. Thank you very much.

[@darriennemartin4083]

You legit can’t be fired for this. Talk to your friend and tell her she’s better than this. She’s gotta end this and handle the situation on both ends. But I’d look for a new job regardless…that can become a very uncomfortable situation very fast no matter how it’s handled

[@rogers5622]

Jeannie " Noone needs an extra credit Christian " 🤣

[@heritage.home.crochet]

It would pain me to go in to work everyday knowing this. I feel like I'd be betraying my good friend Renee because I would want to know if this was happening to me. I know it would be hard trying to find another job, but that's what I would try to do or at least be transferred to another department if possible.

[@aditigoswami2247]

I keep shut until i find new job. The moment i find new job i say every thing to my frnd ,in this way i can do both 😁

[@agathachris9722]

How can someone remain with friends who have low self-esteem and low morals? I'd call her out and end the friendship and tell her I don't condone that and I think less of her for it. The boss man is trash and I would find a way to anonymously slip it to the wife. Either way, the relationship is over and jobs do protect you from getting fired.

[@Truther1903]

Calm down Jeannie 😂😂😂

[@ked147971]

Yaaasss Adrian! What they do is none of my business. Keep yo job keep yo mouth shut!

[@tinytee5421]

Loni: ✨“Idk none of dem bitches!”✨ Yes loni, I’m with you girl👏🏽‼️

[@bathroomdiaries5393]

you can blackmail looool im keeping my job and if your fire me im snitching LMFAOOO

[@elizabethmmapaseka7364]

I miss the audience ladies... the noise, feed back and interaction you ladies had with them...

[@lynnetteparkz8092]

Whats done in the dark will eventually come to light. I've got my own things to worry about. I'm clocking in and out like Ive never saw it. They are both grown doing grown folks things so they will eventually have to deal with the consequences.

[@horton12wright]

As soon as you let people know that you know about their indiscretions, they start acting differently (shady). I would keep my mouth shut. The friend could jump stupid, and still get you fired, just because you know, even it you kept your shut! it can basically backfire. I wouldn't even let her know that I knew

[@_adrian_sean]

Look for another job away from the mess AND KEEP YOUR MOUTH CLOSED until that other job comes thru

[@theechubbyone]

Lord protect me from these kinds of situations. I'd have to tell someone, them or the man's wife but I couldn't keep that to myself. But I'd wait until I've already started somewhere new before bringing tension to my workplace. Infidelity ain't new and it may not be a one time thing if they are in the office that early to be together without prying eyes. Personally I can't tolerate cheating and I do lose respect for those who hurt their partner/family this way but if everyone involved is truly my friend I have to say my piece and step back for them to resolve it amongst themselves. Any smoke comes my way for their wrongdoing then I know what kind of "friend" I was checking/looking out for. 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️