Addressing Relationship Insecurities and Abandonment Fears

[@apope06]

Her first slide...every bullet point was exactly me...was abandoned ar the age of 4 by my parents.

[@youngspeaker]

I like the brick idea. I have a question. @11:47 you mention, I could have multiple bricks for the same relationship. How so? Is it a separate brick for each incident?

[@amandaschwartz1]

I have a deep fear of being cheated on. Probably stems from my childhood and my ex who was previously emotionally and physically abusive. They would go on dating apps in front of me when they would get mad at me. I don’t know where to start in overcoming this fear to be able to have a healthy relationship. I know recognizing it is the first step.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@amandasmith3182]

Learn how to be happy first the you will understand how to be happy in a relationship. It’s not conditional based on how others treat you. Learn to be healthy and secure within your own life and that’s when you will attract healthy and secure partners. Watch all of Doc videos.

[@hopelovefaithinGod]

hey girl, just wanna say you’re not alone in this, and that I’m also on the journey of healing this deep fear as well a few things I’d like to share that’s helped me through trial and error of my own experiences and which I have found through the bulk of listening Doc’s vids (so thank you Doc, your work is very much appreciated): • be gentle and have compassion for yourself - i.e. whenever you get triggered, instead of feeling frustration at oneself, understand that this is just your body reacting to the trauma that you have experienced - especially in cases of post infidelity stress disorder (PISD) which she addresses in one of her vids • learn how to calm and relax your ‘vagus nerve’ >> I’ve been able to do this by deep breathing, meditating before I start my day, and then also taking walks and asking myself what do I enjoy doing • whenever you’re caught in a mental thought loop, reflect on it, “okay, yes, I recognize these are intrusive thoughts, but what would I rather think of/do instead?” • the deeper spiritual undertone is cultivating loving detachment-to learn how to let go control and take back your power to nurture your life whether or not your partners choose to be in yours and also irregardless of what they choose to do with theirs this one is the hardest bullet to bite I must say because it means having to lose the false sense of security that we’ve created by trying to control everything because that’s the only time we felt safe, but we have to realize that in essence we will lose our loved ones anyways in death, thus, in theory, there will come a day that they will leave us so it is facing the inevitable, letting that sink in, coming to the fact that you cannot control anyone, except perhaps yourself so by seeing that you only have control over yourself, you bring back the choice to you and how you wish to choose to spend your time and energy within this life • journaling>> taking the time to dissect and reflect on what is keeping us stuck within the deep fears-when we journal there’s many things that we discover through the unpacking that we didn’t know was there before or still existed • somatic healing- given it’s a deep fear, a lot of the trauma is stored in our body, thus through practices such as somatic healing & yoga, I’ve been able to release the pent up trauma stored energy that’s been piling within my body - these are some of the things that I’m currently doing that are helping me everyone’s path to healing is unique, however I do understand the turmoil of not knowing where to go with this, so I hope this helps❤ you can always reach out to me personally ❤❤

[@chrysapapakirgiaki937]

Great techniques!thank you!

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching!

[@marjievanderlaan6598]

this is a fantastic educational video

[@DocSnipes]

Ty!

[@jasminrodriguez7063]

Thank you for doing this ❤

[@DocSnipes]

So welcome! I appreciate you watching!Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: kzbin.infosearch?query=relationships

[@theeyesofastranger462]

Is it a sign that the other person does not care and this is not a good relationship. I t is impossible for you to have a good relationship if both parties aren't trying.

[@kristinaasimova601]

Thank you!

[@boostmobile9249]

So, many times I have heard & have been instructed to BUILD A EMOTIONAL SHIELD, OR BRICK WALL, TO PROTECT PERSONAL FEELINGS TO BE HARMED. DO NOT TAKE PERSONAL DEGRADING NAMES, or harmful descriptions of appearance HARM. FROM OTHERS. SELF-CONTROL, SELF PROTECTION. KEEP FREE of personal digs, arrows. Correct??? Healthier mindset with delightful spirit, light hearted out look!!!

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching.

[@theeyesofastranger462]

What about when you communicate and they don't respond or constantly ignore you

[@Intellectual_House]

Do you have a video about how to build a good relationship or something like that ? It will be really helpful Btw From Algeria 🇩🇿 thanks for all these videos they're very helpful

[@DocSnipes]

Algeria,, wow. I think you are my first viewer there. :) Thanks for watching.

[@Intellectual_House]

@@DocSnipes my pleasure 😊

[@boostmobile9249]

Unfigureoutable vs. FIGUREOUTABLE : LOAD OF BURDENS, CHALLENGES, TESTS, TROUBLES, PROBLEMS. ?????????????

[@theeyesofastranger462]

How do you properly approach being ignored

[@Alphacentauri819]

Make sure you aren't ignoring yourself. Ironically, you ignore your own needs by tolerating a person who ignores you consistently. Context is important though. When do they ignore you? Have you addressed it with vulnerability and clarity, owning your requests. Additionally, stating your boundaries, clearly and confidently, is key. If you continue to tolerate someone ignoring you, after clearly, calmly, communicating how it makes you feel, your needs and boundaries (spelled out)....you are ignoring you. We attract people who treat us like we treat ourselves. If you sit and are quiet, listening to your own feelings, fears, wants, needs, AND advocate for them, having your own back....that's what you'll attract. We train ourselves to a higher standard when we elevate our relationship to self. That's where it all begins.

[@kiavaxxaskew]

maybe begin stating the obvious. like, Why are you ignoring me? It's totally fair to ask that question.

[@theeyesofastranger462]

@@kiavaxxaskew yes that is the obvious and I tried that

[@boostmobile9249]

Forgiveness is FORGIVING SELF. RIGHT?

[@etemnella]

31:32

[@DocSnipes]

Ty for watching.