ADHD, burnout, & medication | 1 month diagnosed

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clarity kat

Күн бұрын

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@abbys5347 2 ай бұрын

This is so important to talk about! I am proud of you and you are not alone!! 🥰

@claritykat 2 ай бұрын

@@abbys5347 Thank you so much, I appreciate you! 🥺❤️

@MaximumDull Ай бұрын

Late in life adhd diagnosis here too. My therapist says to focus on the benefits, rather than the deficits. We tend to be creative, friendly and prone to problem solving. We get burnt out because we put a lot of energy into things we're passionate about, which can distract from obligations. We chase stimulus, but we can create systems to harness our energy and focus. It might sound counterintuitive, but my life got easier without lists and being overly planned. I work in education and set up the learning management systems to maintain the front facing appearance of being organized and just check in as needed. I am aware of how to best make use of my time. Like, I mark assignments first thing without really thinking about it, just to clear the pile that might weigh heavily on my mind. I use scheduled emails to deal with administrative tasks. My memory has improved as I find ways to improve confidence and reduce stress. I wonder if it has to do with traumatic brain fog.

@claritykat Ай бұрын

@@MaximumDull The thought of not having lists gives me anxiety 😅 Even if I never refer back to them, brain dumping my thoughts helps alleviate the anxiety that I’ll forget something. I love everything you said here though! There are so many great things about how our minds work, and it’s good to remember that. I think you’re right that it’s about finding healthy ways to cope so we can function in a society that won’t change for us. And there is definitely something to be said about traumatic brain fog! When I’m feeling triggered because of past negative experiences that make me anxious or depressed, my brain works less efficiently. It can be really hard to dig my way out of it when I’m in the thick of it. But I think building confidence and trust in myself has been helping a lot. ❤️

@MaximumDull Ай бұрын

@claritykat It was terrifying for me to take the leap by giving up lists, but I found myself single from an 8 year relationship about a month after my diagnosis. I was feeling trapped by all the things I suddenly was totally responsible for. I decided to start doing things and adapted. Most of my friends also have adhd and think it's ridiculous that I operate the way I do, but I still have systems in place. Perhaps it wouldn't work for everyone, but I think it helped me because I had severe anxiety due to low self-esteem/confidence. I didn't trust myself to be able to do things on my own, let alone my instincts that helped inform my boundaries so I could better advocate for what I need as a former people pleaser.

@claritykat Ай бұрын

@@MaximumDull oof, the last thing you mentioned about learning to trust your instincts to help inform boundaries hits really close to home for me. And I think there is something to be said about going on instincts to inform your day to day life too, rather than relying on lists. I think lists can definitely cross over into being too restrictive and making us feel bad about not following them at the end of the day…

@amyheckathorn7172 Ай бұрын

I’m considerably older and was diagnosed two years ago. This all sounds very familiar. (I also have a new song in my head every morning.) I’m still trying to cope and figure it all out. Outwardly, I am not hyperactive but the thoughts in my head are bouncing around hyperactively. I saw a comedian say having ADHD is like making toast then suddenly wanting to know how people figured out how to make toast and when they first made toast.😂 It sucks. There is no help or guidance whatsoever. I could not clean and tidy up, the mental load of trying to clean things up was so overwhelming. I had just moved and could not organize my appointment. There was no help, to get the organizational plan I needed. My health plan at work keeps calling trying to help me see specialists to fix high blood pressure, etc., but no support to physically help me get to a better head space. I had to wait until the medication took effect to begin to try. I’m still trying to catch up. So congrats on the diagnosis. You still have a long way to go, learn to surf the waves and be fine with not being “normal.” Good luck!

@claritykat Ай бұрын

@@amyheckathorn7172 omg the amount of times I’ve wondered how humans all around the world figured out how to make bread out of grain as I’m making toast…I feel so seen 🤣 I’m so glad you were able to finally get diagnosed! Isn’t medication such a game changer in being able to move our lives forward??! It is shocking how little our mental health is prioritized, especially since it leads to physical problems as well. I feel like the past year I have been practically begging for someone to help me with my adhd, but I think because our healthcare system is so disjointed and not holistic, it was really hard to get connected with someone who could actually help. And I’m definitely in the middle of learning to ride those waves and be ok with not being on the same life path as others! It can be really terrifying but I’m also proud of myself for learning to do what’s best for me! Thank you for the nice comment ❤️

@seedylee Ай бұрын

i'm very emotional right now. i'm just hearing out loud what i've been thinking for so long.

@claritykat Ай бұрын

@@seedylee this makes me so happy to hear, that I could possibly be that voice for you that others were for me when I first heard these things being mentioned out loud. It is very validating to hear that we’re not alone in our experience ❤️❤️

@seedylee Ай бұрын

i'm figuring this out rn. thanks for sharing.

@claritykat Ай бұрын

@@seedylee wishing you all the best in your journey 🫶 you always have support here!