Adult with Autism | Autism & Low Mood Mental Health Tips | 34

[@ChaseTheLadiesMan]

"The good people will understand." Very true. Sorry to hear that you are dealing with the dreaded low mood, Paul. Thank you for sharing, I always appreciate your uploads.

[@AdultwithAutism]

No worries. Thankfully this is an older video now, but no better time to make a video like that!

[@Purplegoddess777]

Thank you for sharing a dark time with us. You're a cool dude, don't feel embarrassed. Eat them takeaways!

[@AdultwithAutism]

Haha, takeaways for life. No worries 👍🏻

[@turtleanton6539]

Agreed 😊😊

[@SweetiePieTweety]

This was excellent fruit. I wish the depression tree wasn’t blooming for you though . There were more than a couple of validation statements in here for me and thank you Paul for sharing your perspective. Stay steady on your new course, uncertainties and a lack of routine can cause things to wobble. I am about to face homelessness again and I approach the intersection with my coffee in hand and there is a gentleman holding a sign “Homeless Autistic. Please help”. I look about my cat and nothing tangible to give. And I realize in 30 days I am that sign. Better get my pen and some cardboard lol. So much of how I got here is the inability to break away from established routines even though they don’t work. I’m thinking this disruption of being homeless is going to be the force to change routines. I better put some own to paper as to what I must lose and must put in place for this new routine I have forced myself to live. I am thankful that in your country there are a tad bit better support systems in place for autism. You are wise. You will execute. ❤️

[@AdultwithAutism]

Sorry to hear that, I really am. It's horrible to think know that if we're not NT then we get put to the scrap heap essentially. Really hope things can turn up in favour for you over the coming days.

[@Marie-1901]

We were concerned when we first hit play because you were looking unwell again. Glad to read the description that this was a previously recorded one! We are rooting for you Paul and hoping that things are going so much better for you these days 🌞

[@AdultwithAutism]

Thanks Marie. Thankfully I'm not in that place anymore! As much as I don't like to see how I look at that time, I still wanted to share it.

[@Marie-1901]

@@AdultwithAutism yes, still good tips to share. I’m always impressed with your honest desire to help others. 👍

[@AdultwithAutism]

Thanks Marie, I appreciate that.

[@marikac6263]

Thank you, thank you for sharing!

[@AdultwithAutism]

I just wanted to do it when I was low, as I thought I'd be the best time...whether it ever makes it onto KZbin for future viewing for all, I'm not sure.

[@debbiemacdonald6627]

Thankyou for those great tips Paul .. I look forward to your videos every week .. very encouraging.. hope you have a good week.

[@AdultwithAutism]

Thanks Debbie, much appreciated 👍🏻

[@nee-na6874]

Paul, again, I can relate to almost everything that you've talked about here (except I am a senior age female), but still, right now I am in that low mood. Loss of interest in just about everything and everyone. Yeah I really think I am in burnout and possibly have been for a long time with no end in sight, no matter how much I try to take care of myself. You are right, the people who are accepting of me is all that matters and the rest can go bye bye. Good answer is, I am not feeling good right now, and leave it at that. I don't need to hear any BS from anyone who does not understand me. I used to be like that, straining myself for others even at my detriment. I am not interested in doing that anymore, especially since I got spectrum clarification in the past couple years. I am almost 68, I feel like I am running out of time to slay myself for undeserving people. Now that I am feeling low, I am trying to sort out what I am actually DOING, paying attention to whether it is good for me or triggering. I almost am to the point where I literally CANNOT do what I can't do. I like how you said not to beat yourself up when you're low. Come back to fight another day. It takes me at least a week to muster up enough energy and headspace to strip the sheets off the bed. 😑But I manage to keep everything clean, even though it is hard. So I guess I should actually be proud of myself. And I have to live my life by lists. 😊 I just told my daughter this morning, in response to something she was saying to me, "look, (generally speaking) 90% of Americans think I am crazy". Just sayin' 😑 Thank you for reminding me that I am important. I am doing as good a job at my life as I possibly can, because I am trying hard every day. All the best 😊👍😊

[@AdultwithAutism]

You are important, never forget that. And burnout can take years to climb back out from. It is important we recognise being in burnout, and adjust accordingly...but also accept we can't force ourselves back onto the tracks we need to be on. What we do to take care of ourselves leading to that point will help 👍🏼

[@nee-na6874]

Thank you for saying that we can't force ourselves out of burnout, even if we are doing our best. That's very affirming to know, understand, and remember, during the difficult process. All the best to you Paul.

[@bryanmerton5153]

Hey Paul, superb video! Amazing advice. I especially loved the part about "Work is not personal." That one took me a long time to learn. Also celebrate to small victories. I have never thought of that. Thanks again for putting yourself out there for us!

[@AdultwithAutism]

Hey Bryan, no worries, and glad you liked it. Just glad I'm not feeling as I did when I made it!

[@flamingohead27]

you got to shower! That's a feat for me. 😅 Explaining myself is most of the conversations I have. Work is definitely waiting right now. I'm so burnt. I feel guilty if I do things that recharge me because they are "childish" or not productive... I definitely get the f-its. I definitely get your feelings about that weight and food. Writing stuff down definitely helps. I'm not good at writing, so I use my phone. Makes me think is the crock board my family has. We put up notes about what good things we each did. Randomly. It's nice to read when any of us are feeling poo. Someone said that self worth is like saying I deserve to be clean or to clean up or eat or get out of bed. If you feel your closest person is important so are you. 😊

[@AdultwithAutism]

When I am low, I instantly revert to the smallest 'wins', and I force myself to get through them. I know it is my path back to where I want to be, so I move heaven and Earth to make them happen. Even if it is to make a coffee by 09:00. It is happening!! 👍🏼

[@katileighb]

I like the soggy brick analogy, it made sense to me.

[@AdultwithAutism]

Good to know my nonsense makes sense to some 👍🏻

[@turtleanton6539]

Very awesome 😊

[@AdultwithAutism]

Many thanks 👍🏻

[@janinemills6732]

This is such an amazing video. I am so proud of you for putting it out there. Your strength to put this together when you are feeling as you were. It's a testament to your amazing character. Thank you

[@AdultwithAutism]

Thank you, I appreciate that 👍🏻

[@Wiz.37083]

Awesome video, Paul... I agree, we have intrinsic value...

[@AdultwithAutism]

We sure do.

[@lisbethchristensen1981]

🏆 Great Video. Thank you. ❤

[@AdultwithAutism]

Thank you 👍🏻

[@livechimera666]

im just getting used to the realisation its ok to just exist and not be doing something every second of the day.

[@AdultwithAutism]

Switch off days are a must to recharge properly.

[@livechimera666]

the problem with haveing time to stop and think is that you think i get the same when i have to rest after overdoing anything. iv just given myself a repetative strain injury in my thumb again doing diy at home. and not being able to use my dominant hand is driving me nuts. also i can never sort food out lmao also thae same put a bit of weight on but its more that you are stressed as we tend to gain weight from stress.

[@AdultwithAutism]

I hear you regarding food. I'm so fat at the minute because everything is busy, and food is being kept simple so I can crack on with everything. Simple foods are takeout foods 😂

[@turtleanton6539]

😊😊😊😊😊

[@AdultwithAutism]

👍🏻

[@Plumsouffle]

Beard itch is dry skin. Big beard takes moisture from skin. Beard oil keeps beard hydrated after shower. Use beard oil. Look after yourself mate.

[@AdultwithAutism]

I need to find a beard oil that doesn't feel gross or has a weird smell 👍🏻

[@Plumsouffle]

@@AdultwithAutism Anna uses castor oil for her hair and I pinch some occasionally. Don’t need much. I can barely smell the stuff but that’s just me although I am olfactory sensitive.

[@SmackedyDoo]

All oil will smell funky once it's aged. Put oil in the refrigerator to lengthen the spoilage expiration date.