AITA For Not Inviting My Brother’s Girlfriend To Thanksgiving After... - Best Reddit Stories

[@nadinesharp9766]

The fact that Emily had to ask why she wasn't invited shows how clueless and self-absorbed she is.

[@lawrencerunning]

Just tell Dan, "Since Emily doesn't like what we were having, she wouldn't enjoy herself." NTA

[@CarolEdmonds-pk7hr]

lawrencerunning, good comeback!!

[@heffa3821]

LMFAO OH GOSH THE FOR DAN MY HEFFA ASS XD F DAN AND F THE G F LMAO U MADE MY NIGHT!!!

[@dancon0116]

NTA. Emily wasn’t trying to be rude? Then it must come naturally to her. She does not deserve an invite; why would anyone want someone at their home to criticize their cooking and eating lifestyle. Let her (them) go elsewhere for their meal where it suits her better. Don’t allow this disrespect in your own home. Tell Dan they can come over for dessert AFTER dinner.

[@TLJ88]

She doesn’t eat sugar!!😅

[@amethystanne4586]

If you want to be fancy, prepare a bowl of honeydew and cantaloupe chunks for her. Otherwise, hand her a mandarin orange or a banana.

[@groofromtheup5719]

@@dancon0116 it isn't quite that. It's that she feels incredibly superior to those lesser beings that eat sugar and animal products.

[@bruceblunderfield5431]

I'd explain to you brother that her behaviour is rude, disrespectful and if he wishes to miss dinner here this year, that he could go to have Thanksgiving at her Parents place.😅 I can just Imagine what they'd serve him up! Oh, and can we have a photo of that? ROFL 😅

[@williamj.dovejr.8613]

I'm a lifetime natural bodybuilder... food during the holidays is something that I ease up, a week of enjoyment won't wreck years of work. This is just wrong. Don't invite her back. Btw, butter is far healthier than margarine.

[@itsjustme7487]

I switched to butter several years ago. My blood work has improved.

[@Emjay_blackdogranch]

Emily would have taken her eating disorder elsewhere. The audacity of the brother to even think she should be welcomed anywhere is wild

[@CensorshipVictim]

I'm sorry if your eating disorder is so bad, you need a better therapist and not attend events that include food, if you are soo triggered

[@julesa2894]

The brother KNEW THIS about his girlfriend. I'm thinking he lied by saying his girlfriend, Emily eats anything. Nah, besides Emily Dan was DEFINITELY the AH. The host should never have had to go through that.

[@civillady13]

Oh for goodness sake! Screw staying calm. Forget keeping the peace. Make a scene. Call out your brother. Call her out the first time she disrespected you. Stop being a doormat.

[@dmack9431]

"Let me walk you both to the door". (Snaps fingers at brother.) Shut it down nicely, but don't take it!

[@RedPanda74]

This!

[@lynnw7155]

Yep; you don't put up with that.She lectured you and insulted your food in your own home .A NYONE in the US knows what a traditional Thanksgiving dinner looks like. Escort her to the door and close it behind her. Don't allow her back in your house.

[@nancyinquilla3916]

Butter? Has Emily ever read the labels on butter substitutes? Does she know who paid for the initial "research" condemning butter? Corn producers.

[@TravisWilson-r3w]

Stop spreading misinformation

[@nancyinquilla3916]

​@@TravisWilson-r3w Educate yourself, especially regarding trans fats but who am I kidding, some people are too proud of their ignorance to check facts.

[@TravisWilson-r3w]

@nancyinquilla3916 I don't need to educate myself just because you think your opinion matters

[@TravisWilson-r3w]

@nancyinquilla3916 also what do trans fats have to do with you lying about the corn industry attacking butter

[@TravisWilson-r3w]

@nancyinquilla3916 stay on topic if you're going to holler check facts and educate yourself

[@plumppassion]

NTA and if your brother is too spineless to stand up for you in your home then uninvite him too same with every family member on his and Emily’s side

[@Marialla.]

Emily is entitled to her preferences or values. She's not entitled to impose them on others, especially in their own house. She could have silently passed on the food, and respectfully whispered to the hostess that she has dietary differences she had brought food to accommodate, with regrets to not be able to share what everyone else was enjoying. None of this had to be so disrespectful. That lack of empathy for the group is what makes her uninvitable.

[@shells500tutubo]

Lack of empathy? You mean lack of home training, lol!

[@KeliRae]

"Hey, everyone! Emily and Dan have just volunteered to host Thanksgiving at THEIR house next year!"

[@cynthiaoconnor7185]

Yeah, and no one would eat her food or, maybe, not even go. God knows, I damn sure wouldn't. Or, it would be fun to take a bite and immediately spit it out on the plate.

[@bgorum]

No effing way. I like my Thanksgiving dinner decadent. It’s half the point. I can eat all natural, all vegetables and grains anytime. Thanksgiving is special, which makes it even more ridiculous that she decided it was a perfect time for a dietary health lecture.

[@nathanfarra6371]

It's your house you're perfectly just in choosing who in allowed in your home.

[@heffa3821]

END OF DISCUSSSION PERRRRRRIIIOOOOD!! TELL IT!

[@danwagner1777]

Emily was a guest in your house and acted like that? Boyfriend should have stepped up and corrected her.

[@lindalanteigne8909]

He should just stand up and escort her out. Has she not heard of everything in moderation.

[@ladymai805]

There is no way in Hell I would have sat back and let Emily talk about my food like that. I would have shut her down and thrown her out immediately. Dan could go with her he didn’t like it. I don’t think Dan ever told Emily she wasn’t invited. With her personality, he was probably afraid to. The way he kept his head down the first time makes me think if he’d spoken up, Emily would have attacked him in front of his family revealing how whipped he was. Who knows what she makes him eat when they're alone? Dan wanted Emily to get a direct refusal (he may have suggested the call to his sister), ensuring he could enjoy a traditional Thanksgiving dinner without her and not look like the bad guy.

[@HorseLady1109]

Emily is rude and disrespectful. Dan is just enabling bad behavior.

[@SummonerOrthan]

Who goes to a Thanksgiving meal expecting Fitness Friendly Food? like be fucking for real

[@Zurround]

Something I want to add is that she was making a blanket assumption that these people ate this unhealthily all the time or on a regular basis. Thanksgiving is ONCE A YEAR and once leftovers are used up most people eat healthier. Also, when people make way too big a deal out of avoiding something that might be tempting there is usually something that they are trying to suppress, their own urges. One of those "Me think the lady doth protest too much" kind of things. For example, "adult" material is even more prevalent in the "bible belt" than in Las Vegas Nevada per capita. If she keeps depriving herself of the joy of some good comfort food to the point of ruining OTHER people's meals maybe she is externalizing an internal conflict and secretly badly wants to eat the unhealthy food but is at war with herself over the issue internally. If that girlfriend ended up weighing 600 pounds five years after being uninvited I would not at all be surprised. Just saying.

[@placitas52]

You have a brother problem, not an Emily problem. Tell her to keep her lectures to herself.

[@Zurround]

The brother is the character I MOST dislike, even more than his girlfriend. If I was the OP I would have told him very clearly that if his girlfriend shows up at all they are BOTH evicted on the spot and if need be I would enforce it.

[@irinanikolaeva786]

Dump them both! Invite me instead! Living abroad I haven't been at Thanksgiving dinner for a long time! 😂🍽

[@heffa3821]

lmfao helloooooo work it now!!!!

[@MH_Prof]

Why are you biting your tongue in your house? As the host, you should have cut off the mini rant and ended that line of conversation. Why would you let it go on and on? Your response should have ended with “…and you are free to not indulge in anything on this table. Bon appétit everyone!” She should have been shown the door (along with your brother) when she began to rummage through your kitchen. Your brother obviously doesn’t know the difference between rudeness and passion. Leave them both off the guest list. And mean it.

[@califdad4]

Doesn't make any difference if she's important to your brother, she singlehandedly almost ruined your thanksgiving last year, never again

[@grannyell9487]

Not only would she not get another invite she would have been asked to leave and not come back.

[@DamaciaJohnson]

Yep NTA and they both of them are not allowed over for dinner again. Dan could have said something he knew this would happen but he wanted good Thanksgiving food 😂😂

[@DamaciaJohnson]

Dan really wanted food with taste. Nah he's needs to feel the burn

[@justmepercy720]

He certainly wasn’t get good food with Emily!

[@roryvandegrift5992]

NTA…..I would never have been able to be quiet after the first few comments. I would have spoken up before she started in on the cranberries . I don’t even like cranberry but that’s besides the point lol. I don’t care about the fact that she’s the brothers girlfriend or not, she have been spoken to or thrown out . I’m not even through the story completely and I’m already thinking violent thoughts(kidding… kinda ) 😂😂😂. I will say that it’s not unusual to take food somewhere if they have an allergy . And in the past, when I had to go to my sisters for Thanksgiving, my son we are very picky eater back in the day, but we all knew this in advance and we prepared. But that’s different. It wasn’t done on a rudeness because he wasn’t doing it to hurt them. He was just eating the same way he could eat at home . Six years old and he was six years old . Not a grown woman. but what Emily is doing is so darn rude rude.. I would never accept an invitation if I knew that’s what I’m like .i’m actually getting further along in the story because I’m listening as I type so I do apologize for how long this comment is, but I seriously hope that this brother does not marry this woman. She is insufferable.

[@rebekah.2187]

It would have been fine if the brother had just said she's really health conscious and would bring her own food. There's no need to criticize the food your host made. It was the lectures at the dinner table, her hiding the food she brought, and acting like she owned the place that was the problem.

[@shells500tutubo]

"No butter, no sugar or fats? Oh, Emily, how 1970s of you. Either you are completely out of date or you have an eating disorder".

[@melissacooper8724]

Emily reminds me of Peppermint Patty in A Charlie Brown Thanksgiving! Like Emily, she complained about the food and hurt Charlie Brown's feelings. Unlike Emily, Peppermint Patty invited herself instead of Charlie Brown inviting her.

[@soniabowers7039]

Nta, well your brother will get over it. You was too nice. You should have cursed her out.

[@CensorshipVictim]

NTA: If Emily was so health conscious, she'd know the dangers of using Tupperware in the microwave, so unhealthy ask any crunchy mom. She's a hypocrite and a drama llama. OP never allow this creature into your house again. I bet if OP made dishes exactly how Emily wanted, she'd still complain, she seems narcissistic.

[@mztweety1374]

Op needed to release a tiny bit of Beth Dutton. that definitely would have set Emily straight. “ take your Tupperware and gtfo my house before I snatch you bald headed”

[@zackkatian3436]

Nah, channel some good ol fashioned Betty White, the Lake Placid kind.

[@vasuki7e202]

Crazy of Dan to think his sister is not respecting his girlfriend's food preference but nit vice versa

[@vidaapplebee8388]

Microwaving food in plastic, actually adds plastic to your food..smh

[@SparklySparrow]

If you can’t respect me in my home, GTFO, now and I mean RIGHT NOW…

[@sakon10]

But but....we have to keep the peace for family harmony.

[@groofromtheup5719]

I have vegan and vegetarian family. They never pulled anything like that, and never would.

[@itsjustme7487]

A vegetarian friend of my sister brought scalloped potatos to my BILS pig roast. When I asked her about it, she said that the ham chunks were large and easy to pick out.

[@Zurround]

I suffer from Asperger's syndrome and do not form relationships easily and often do not get invited but I would have been a WAY better guest than that entitled girlfriend lady.

[@CharlesJohnson-y3r]

Uninvite your brother, he is his wife's enabler.

[@bignormtv6036]

I actually can’t believe you let it go that far before standing your ground IN YOUR OWN HOUSE!!!!SMH

[@elizabethwatson71]

Family or not, and yes I've done it...stand up point at brother and dipshit and strongly say "get your disrespectful ass out of my house

[@dawn-gk2tr]

Simply disenvite all who think you should invite Emily. It would cut down the amount of work. Keep to your boundaries . Has your brother every cooked for a large group ? I doubt it. He can tell you who to invite after he caters for next year 's Thanksgiving all on his own.

[@zackkatian3436]

Not to mention more leftovers for the following days.

[@vintagetriplex3728]

Op is a doormat. She should've kicked her brother and his girlfriend out the moment she Started to be rude.

[@lindalanteigne8909]

She was trying to be polite.

[@OrlaQuirk]

I would have been polite! Even as I heard this story, nasty remarks were leaping into my brain. "Oh, Emily, dear, I am so sorry. I asked Dan if you had any dietary restrictions or choices, and he said you'd eat anything. I truly wouldn't have subjected you to my cooking if I had known!" And when she rummaged through my cupboards, I would have trotted in and told her no one gets to rummage through my cupboards; that's where I keep my stash of meth and heroin. (I never took any illegal drugs and I also do not drink or smoke, so that would cue laughter from my family) I also was stunned to hear that Miss Perfect eats Quinoa. I would have lectured her about the farmers, who used to sell their neighbors their crop, but now make more money selling quinoa to rich Americans, and their neighbors can't afford it, and have to buy sugar and cheap, poor quality food, that makes them sick. "I'm sure you're not aware of this. I thought everyone knew. I'm so happy to be of service. I know you wouldn't want literally to take food out of some poor man's mouth." "Kill them with kindness," my dear sainted mother used to say.

[@allisonherndon6897]

After the first comment, I would have stood up and said, "I'm sorry. You're not going to enjoy anything I've worked so hard to prepare. I think you should go. Now." Definitely don't invite her back for anything, ever.

[@monicaminor906]

Emily is that one relative who ruins holidays for everyone. Kinda like my dad did EVERY SINGLE TIME.

[@MichelleAyotte]

If I were OP I'd have honestly told Emily," If that's how you feel about the food being served here then you can leave and not come back." I wouldn't tolerate such disrespect in my home.

[@donnadiscordia3657]

My house my rujes and she doesn't get to ruin another holiday

[@gloriavaldez1560]

Hope the brother wakes up and leave her. She is going to be a nightmare in the future hope he dumps her.

[@leroybrown2968]

NTA. Ask your brother if her twat is made of gold. What kind of brother is he? If he was still with her and allowed her to treat you like that then you don’t need him in your life.

[@itsjustme7487]

I agree with you, Leroy. That said, She is Dan's new girlfriend. 😅😂

[@kathleencowley7772]

Nta. You have every right to set boundaries in your own home!

[@brettster3331]

If you have your own dietary requirements and are invited to a big dinner let the host know you are on on a special diet and will bring your meal and then eat that meal at the dinner.

[@ihatepeopleyes9492]

If others peoples taste bother you that much just stay your ass home.

[@lindab.716]

I am a vegan and bring roasted vegetables to share with everyone. Cleared with host of course.

[@Elleffante]

I am honestly shocked at peoples' eating habits but never say anything. I usually bring a dish to share that works for me. Good enough.

[@kathleenkuklish2973]

See, I’m petty; for Christmas I’d have signed her up for a Dunkin’ Donuts membership, McDonalds value card, get her gift cards for all the fast food places …. And Dan is a class A idiot.

[@jasontodd8071]

NTA, your house, your cooking, your rules. You don't need the drama. If I was there, I'd be thankful for what was placed on the table. Plus be thankful that there was food to eat.

[@tictactoe325]

She seriously thinks Margarine is better????? Yikes

[@juliel5945]

Brought your own food? Good, you can eat it at your own home. Goodbye!

[@leahwhiteley5164]

Your house your rules. Tell them they aren't invited. Telll your other relatives they can host TG if they are offended and invite them. Tell Dan he's a ouzzy. .

[@alexadraeln5316]

Simple solution: since you unequivocally said you will not host Emily yet your brother Dan blatantly ignored what you said he is uninvited as well. Congratulations on a nut-free Thanksgiving dinner.

[@user-ml3hl6vr4t]

NTA. I am celiac, lactose intolerant, vegan m, and have other allergies. In my earlier days, I cooked big feasts. With butter, cream, bacon, and more. I’m not airborne (a few i know, if you open a flour container and close it in the room, they can be triggered the next day in that room.) If I’m invited, I do not expect to be able to trust the kitchen and what comes from it to be safe for me to eat so i will have to bring something. I do explain to my host or hostess beforehand that I m honored to be included, but I’m going to have to bring and fix my own food for my own sake. I won’t be in the way and will take care of things myself. I prepackage my food to a disposable plate, bring my own tableware, and drink. I unwrap it in the kitchen and carry it out, and sit to enjoy the company of others. I will compliment the appearance of the other food, enjoy the smells and make do. No, I am not militant, eat your turkey and ham. Thanksgiving is a special day and people indulge in food they usually don’t that often. From my viewpoint Emily has the right to her opinions, but what she did was over the top. If she wanted to at differently, she should have nicely informed the hostess ahead of time, and her Quinoa and kale should have been prepared and plated to be on the table when the others began the meal. I do not blame the hostess for not inviting Emily back. Until she learns to be considerate of others. For veganism, it’s my choice. Unless you ask, I keep it to me, same as gluten free. I don’t have “allergies of convenience” if the butter tart gets trotted out I’m not going to suddenly have one crumb. OP, wish you luck.

[@antoniettamurphy7126]

Butter is extremely good for you. What planet is idiot gf from.

[@mbinta70]

the gf went to far that's a fact, however, what she said is true. true but rude af. you might disagree with her behaviour, but saying that butter is EXTREMELY good for you? its not THAT bad, but its not extremely good, do some reading.

[@nadinesharp9766]

@mbinta70 It does TASTE extremely good, though, lol. I don't know how people can think that fake margarine full of chemicals can taste good or be better for people than butter.

[@mbinta70]

​@@nadinesharp9766 as an active member of the salted butter community, i can confirm that butter taste good af margarine should even exist, like why would you use margarine if you can have BUTTER?

[@katrinakee726]

OP asked her brother if Emily had any eating preferences. That's when her brother should have told her about Emily's super health conscious diet. I am sure that OP would have welcomed one or two of Emily's side dishes at the table for everyone to at least try as well. Who knows? It might have made for a new Thanksgiving meal tradition. Not everywhere in America does everyone eat turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes and gravy. There's ham, lobster, crab, lasagna, dressing and all sorts of foods. While turkey is very traditional, other foods, depending on the household, are just as traditional. The best part is giving thanks to having good food and great company at this time of the year. Emily missed out on that part royally. She did nothing but badmouth the food while having her feet parked underneath the hostess' table, then went off to the kitchen to snack on food that she snuck into the kitchen. She knew what was being served at Thanksgiving but was so self absorbed that she didn't care if she was rude or disrespectful to anyone else. When she hosts Thanksgiving at her home she can serve whatever super healthy and clean food she wants to cook. But she had better not become offended when her guests act like Peppermint Patty on A Charlie Brown Thanksgiving about it. Karma will always come home to roost. I wonder if her boyfriend even bothered to tell her that she wasn't invited this year. I think that he didn't want her to become a drama llama to him and let his sister be the bad guy. What a spineless coward.

[@heffa3821]

saw title NTA. 1) don't have to be around toxic people 2) ESPECIALLY IN YOUR OWN DAM HOUSE INVITE WHO U WANT END OF STORY PERIOD. Now onto the drama n juiciness!

[@abigailpatriciadole3167]

There is NO WAY any sane person would tolerate this crap!

[@gartackpsdav4984]

Where do these self important holier than thou jerks come from? I swear there are special schools for each type of "Let me educate you on what you should think, eat, read and believe." Be it food, politics, religion or any other possible point of difference.

[@rosrychaplet]

You don't have to host him and her the next year. Wow she brought her own food. That's something you say in advance. For sure.

[@niccolehoody7317]

OH NO SHE DIDNT SHE GOING BRING HEALTHY AND CLEAN DISHES 😮

[@dshadow2579]

What I don't get is why would she actually want to go? She clearly doesn't like the food and it's definitely not for the company since she seems rude, so what is she getting out of this? Why not go hang out with friends and just see the boyfriend later?

[@deborahbutcher3933]

Power trip. Just a power trip. Of course, I'd inform Dan the cops would be visiting the house to take out the trespassing Entitled Emily. He's welcome to go with her.

[@nickeeb79]

My family woulda talked so much ish right then and there that she woulda stormed out. 😂😂 "Girl, well imma eat this inflammation and heart disease. Enjoy your flavorless rabbit food." And then call her Peter Rabbit all day.

[@monkeynumbernine]

I *LOOOOOVE!* butter 🎉 It's a wonderful, natural food product! Very delicious and versatile. Why would the 'healthy' (rude) guest even go to someone's house on a holiday and behave so poorly? I'd tell her to kick rocks.

[@erienspice]

If I were told ahead of time that the girlfriend had food issues, I would understand the Tupperware of her own food, but the brother lied. The girlfriend was out of her mind if she thought she would go to a thanksgiving meal that didn't have a table full of those foods like that's literally THE day for it. NTA

[@rebeccacoleman3341]

"Emily, can we be a little less rude, please?" Or "Dan, it's time to leave."

[@wickedbird1538]

😮😮I don’t eat chocolate, but everyone loves it. I usually don’t even mention it. It’s not polite. Emily was a jerk.

[@TravisWilson-r3w]

You just did

[@wickedbird1538]

@ ok, I did on the internet. But I don’t mention it AT the dinner table. If it gets put on my plate, I ignore it until I can dispose of it or my husband may take it if no one is looking . I find it embarrassing when someone feels the need to make a public comment that I haven’t eaten any chocolate. Usually my husband will whisper to the offending party that I am allergic and to just be quiet.

[@TravisWilson-r3w]

@wickedbird1538 being allergic isn't the same as not eating but I get your point

[@wickedbird1538]

@@TravisWilson-r3w My allergy is mild but the truth is I absolutely hate the taste.

[@raypelmer5013]

She needs herself a mean friend for when things like this happen. Uninvited them both and tell them why or better yet , cancel it and tell everyone Dan is to blame , that Emily was kind enough to host

[@christinecary8413]

Maybe tell brother this year we are deep frying the turkey!!!😂

[@vidaapplebee8388]

Why does Emily want to come? Tell her come but no bringing food and your using Extra butter this year!!

[@gloriavaldez1560]

Dan is a doormat. Hell no she is allowed to be there. She was a horrible guest.

[@christinecary8413]

No! The whole family shouldn't get lectured on a day of gathering and enjoying their family. Apparently her family never taught her manners. There is a time and place for that kind of talk. When you just meet someone who tries to accommodate you and tries to make sure you would have food you eat. She could have just taken her aside and said something to the degree of I didnt know what kinds of things you would have. So I brought my own food. Hope you don't mind. You can stand your ground but with kindness and respect.

[@nyneeveanya8861]

Glad she did not come to my house. We had all the same things plus ham with gravy,roast with gravy, egg rolls, pigs in a blanket, corn on the cob, fruit salad, Waldorf salad, sweet potato casserole with marsh mellow, macaroni and cheese, pecan pie, honey bun cake, cherry cobbler, and sweet tea. Large extended family(about fifty of us) each family group brought a dish. If she tried that with us I know at least Two aunts and three cousins would have jumped on her and maybe even escorted her out. Definitely wouldn’t be asked to any other family gatherings. We get together about every couple of months at someone’s house to eat. Also brother had every opportunity to tell his sister and his girlfriend that what she was planning wasn’t going to fly with his family.

[@twainclarke5755]

Tell the other relatives they can have their own and invite that witch

[@zackkatian3436]

I would of told her the moment that she started her bullcrap that if that is all she was going to do she can get outta my house and never return.

[@karinefonte516]

And why didn't OP kept her in the kitchen to eat by herself? Girl decided to segregate herself from the poisonous filth, let her eat her personnal food in the kid's table.

[@bernicearthur8655]

The fact that she came to your house and tore everything down is ridiculous. You ate taught to be polite from a young age. Dan thinks that he can bulldoze his wat. He has placed himself in the no invite list.

[@christinecary8413]

Thanksgiving is one day of eating what you want.

[@yurmajestygod]

Dan wouldve been out my house with his gf fast asf because my father and other brothers would have tossed them out😂

[@seraglioborneo2803]

OP should ban the brother too for having such poor taste in women

[@seraglioborneo2803]

5:00 Butter: We In India have stayed perfectly healthy and go a step further. Earlier there were no refrigerators so Indians boiled butter in an open wok letting the volatile part evaporate leaving a thick brown liquid called "ghee" or" clarified butter". This is stored in glass bottles and lasts really long if you open one bottle at a time after another gets over. Can be used for any frying purpose and has a high smoke point. I was impressed and thrilled when I saw a YT video of an American (northern US, probably WY) describing how he waits for a sale at the supermarket and buys 10-20 lb of butter at around $ 2 per pound. Boiis it and converts butter to ghee. Keeps for a long time in 1 liter Mason jars. AND HE CALLS IT "GHEE" Mediterranean people cook with olive oil We in India have peanut, mustard, sesame and coconut oils + ghee + butter Saturated fat isn't the problem. Inactive/ sedentary lifestyles are the problem

[@seraglioborneo2803]

Excellent. Firm but polite. OP is a diplomat.

[@melissacooper8724]

She said that when her brother showed up alone, she said he seemed happier. I wonder if he wised up and dumped Emily?

[@nadinesharp9766]

@seraglioborneo2803 When people used to physically work hard at a job or keeping house, they ate butter like it was their last day on earth. It helped fuel the physicality of their lives. But as you said, people are more sedentary these days. I don't think it's all bad, like anything else, if consumed in moderation.

[@RoxanneSharbono-mb8ol]

I have niece who can't eat any of the traditional Thanksgiving foods, or she will become ill. She doesn't do that. She eats before she comes is pleasant company.

[@bela516]

Emily needs to apologize. Not just invite herself along and add to the menu unasked.?the audacity. Uninvite both of them.

[@cleo8332]

first of all I would give Emily 2 choices. 1 she could shut up and eat the vegetarian option or 2 go home, and if Dan yelled at me I'd tell him to F*** off and eat somewhere else and the same to those family members who say "just to keep the peace". But that's just me.

[@francoisjmarais2065]

Why did she not tackle Dan and Emily afterwards about the disrespect and inappropriate conduct of emily?

[@MsTemptation]

The problem with overly polite people is that they just sit by and allow an impolite person to just do what they want as the polite people say nothing. Thank goodness that I’m not polite. I would her told her to take her food and my brother and get out of my house because they’re no longer welcome in my home. Then politely close the door in their faces and continued with hosting my dinner party.

[@animalmania2381]

I feel like, from what i understand of thanksgiving, a large part of it is 'luxurious' (and unhealthy to a degree) food that you only eat once or twice a year depending on if you also do Christmas. It is not the time to be talking about health (unless you are saying how grateful you are to have it), that can be done any other day

[@missrayelyn3045]

I would've interrupted Emily and asked my brother to take her home. I wouldn't want Emily to suffer through dinner. You aren't the ahole. Your home is the only place on earth you aren't required to put up with someone's crap..

[@AgnesC1111]

Why is she basting her turkey a week before the holiday?

[@dorothykerwin7489]

She was marinating the turkey.

[@bela516]

@@dorothykerwin7489a week ahead?

[@nyneeveanya8861]

So she wants to come and bring food because no one else in the family knows anything about good nutrition. Can she not tell that not only is she insulting your cooking, your eating habits, and your whole families intelligence? Maybe she could try hosting at her home and sitting through someone insulting everything she makes, telling her she’s a bad cook, and insinuating she doesn’t have the intelligence to make flavorful dishes.

[@MsArtistwannabe]

Saying it’s no big deal like the guy that hasn’t spent days and days preparing for a special family meal.

[@gemstar4401]

Does she realize the microwave is full of radiation 😂

[@niccolehoody7317]

Hahaha woo where I came from she never wanted to be invited everything after my family cuss her out lol

[@itsjustme7487]

You can do the same thing I did with my children at MILs house. I'd tell them to pick out the bits they dont like. This should be said out loud in front of everyone.

[@richardw3470]

I had a brat little cousin even that didn't work on, he didn't wa-a-ant it, so someone said 'all the more for the rest of us'. Never happy when he visited us - and that went for the rest of us kids, too.

[@deadlock89]

Seriously???? I'm not american so have never had a thanksgiving meal but even i know a thanksgiving meal is just one beautifully delicious and unhealthy dish after another, with most people passing out from over indulgence, so to go to a meal with the self righteous intent to educate and belittle the host and the family is insane, and then to expect an invite to any family meals after that kind of disrespect is completely crazy. Frankly the brother is lucky he still gets an invite, if he was my family he wouldn't get one if he knew what his gf was like yet didn't give anyone a heads up or try to stop her.

[@christinecary8413]

Well, I have some cardboard in the garage you are welcome to on your way out. I asked my brother if you needed something special. But he said no. So please, be respectful or leave. Don't ruin thanksgiving for everyone. This is one day. You act like we eat this way everyday. Chill out!

[@christinecary8413]

Since I don't seem to get a say in my own house, I would cook but then go to my room and lock myself in. Make sure my family knows how I feel and that Dan and Emily have been told not to come, but they are anyway. So I will cook dinner, but I won't eat. If no one cares about my feelings or my rules, I will make food for my family. But you can all eat without me. Chalk it up to passionate, not rude as Dan excused Emily's behavior.

[@justmepercy720]

OP could just respect Emily’s boundaries re food by not putting her in that situation of being confronted with ‘unhealthy’ food. Do the flip.