AITA For Refusing To Pay For My Friend's Eyelash Extensions For Her Wedding? r/Relationships

[@owl7072]

Story 2: "Getting your tubes removed should be illegal" God forbid Op does what she wants with her own body. It's not her fault he's an _illiterate idiot._

[@robertwesley7332]

That's just it. He _absolutely_ knew she wasn't having kids. Whether it was familial pressure, a brain fart, or straight up insanity; he concluded that it was worth a shot to suddenly spring the idea on her and somehow change both her mind and her physiology. When that didn't work, he threw a mild tantrum and attempted to ease back into normalcy without addressing any of the manipulative shit he tried to pull.

[@kureaz]

​@@robertwesley7332in the update. OPs father even asked him if he was ok about the tubal removal and lack of children before he proposed

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

Gaslighting, the goto tactic for religious zealots, narcissists and all-around scum of the Earth.

[@jimbobjones9330]

@@kureaz Ah. Didn't hear the update. Still think that OP is a bit of an AH for not bringing this up a single time in a 3-year relationship, but sounds like the ex-fiance was intentionally blind and deaf to discussion of it.

[@katiecakesl4691]

People who are against women having their tunes tied/removed/hysterectomy are the same people who are "pro life". Like you don't want us to "murder a human life" but refuse to let us take the steps we need to prevent that from ever being an issue.

[@nakoruruwantspepsi1556]

Story 2: He knew, he just didnt care. "I can change her mind." Or worst "I have her locked down so now I can get what I want from her." The Bible thumping family, the "now that we;re engaged its just your decision." yeah, no. This guy has abuser signs written all over. She dodged a big bullet. also loved the Vegata bit at the end.

[@kmbaldwin5325]

2nd story: yet another example of a man not taking a woman seriously when she says that she is child-free. It was in her profile, at the top of the profile no less, so it’s on him for not taking her seriously or clarifying it with her. His comment about “now that we’re engaged, it’s not just up to you, I get a say too” is so telling. That, to me, translates to “I’m a man and I want kids, so you will give them to me, whether you want to or not”.

[@ACAB.forcutie]

It's worse, "whether you're _able to_ or not"

[@juliearmfield2634]

To be fair women do this to men all the time too. Actually women have more of an opportunity to baby trap men and Color Oops baby thinking that they'll change their mind.. And don't jump my ass about it why he did is messed up to however his doesn't have quite the consequences if a woman

[@LunaP1]

He literally ignored the “infertile” on her profile and kept making assumptions in his head.

[@vanzy01]

​@@LunaP1💯👍🏿

[@emilybarclay8831]

@@LunaP1he probably thinks his scrotum is magic and can heal her. These men tend to think their sub par genitals are gods gift to women

[@keanufryer8181]

Keep doing them bloopers 😂! They really add character especially when it’s riffing on how ridiculous some people are lol

[@ACAB.forcutie]

His bloopers give me life 😭

[@star3catcherSEQUEL]

Story 2: OP was not unclear. This was an entitled manchild raised by an ignorant, misogynistic family who knew she didn't want kids but thought he could browbeat and gaslight her into changing her mind. Glad OP got out before she was in too deep.

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

You forgot God fearing.

[@jimbobjones9330]

I agree-ish. But come on. Something that important, and you just assume the partner sees it and don't discuss something so important over the course of the relationship? ESH. The boyfriend is a lot worse, but OP still bears some responsibility.

[@marshawargo7238]

My opinion is that he loves her, hence the "you'll regret this" line, heartbreak, sadness, grief, guilt, all of the things most people go through after a breakup (I think he's going to have a harder time than her) I kinda think he's a mommas boy or family pleaser & that having or not having kids, is no big deal To Him BUT it is to his family! SO in order to not make mommy & the rest of the clan mad, he had to make it Look like it was All on OP! "Geez mama, it's all OP's fault, she never told me about not wanting kids!" I'm certain that if the distance & money made it so that the two families would never get together, he would have lied to his family sending letters & pictures of his & OP's great big 10 kid family! But it's just one post & that's what I read in it & between the lines😢😅😂

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

@@marshawargo7238 The Ex loves the idea of OP. Not the actual person. The Ex is trash and so is his God fearing family.

[@BrainWitchSiv]

​@jimbobjones9330 how do you figure. Her introduction clearly stated child free and infertile. You can explain something to people but you can't make them understand it.

[@kaykay8855]

Story 2: NTA. Where’s the lie? Op put ‘child free and infertile’ in her dating profile.

[@tashacooper1753]

I think about that with the lady that made the dating profile to use a truck to help get a couch and a lot of dudes didn’t read her profile

[@christiankucera7730]

As a middle-aged man, I only learned fairly recently by reading discussions on the Internet that "child free" doesn't just mean "I don't have a child atm" and "ostensibly infertile" could just as well mean "I haven't had a pregnancy so far".

[@destinystarr3494]

Also did he never think to ask her before getting engaged or she wanted kids?

[@ajzephyros7454]

I think that's why "Lying" was in quotes

[@FinnishLapphund]

@@tashacooper1753 But if he really hadn't understood it before, the talk with OP's father should've made the situation crystal clear.

[@Ospyro3em]

Story 2 update- yep, it's official- he totally unhinged.

[@Letha-AnnCooper]

So sorry. Quit the wedding party. You are not obligated to pay for eye lashes. Bride is being entitled and they knew you would say no. It’s the bride’s responsibility to pay not yours

[@marshawargo7238]

OP started out the post with "Calie's not really being a Bridezilla" Then proceeded with Total Bridezilla Actions! I think after the move, OP should start a "Calie/Sam Bank account! Money she could estimate she's Not spending to be their friend. You know money she can save up to spend on a car or a trip & maybe call her car Sam😅 or let's go on a trip to Cali (No Matter Where it is)!😂🎉❤

[@TheNekoMimiGamer]

love the ending you put in! 🤣 the stories are quite satisfying because OP gets out of a truly toxic relationship before it's too late

[@chinavaughan6383]

Story 1: NTA. How in the heck were you suppose to know that she didn’t have the money? (since she pulled out her credit card, turns out that she did have the money, she just didn’t want to pay to have her lashes done) You don’t need eye lash extensions in order to get married. You’ve done more than enough already for your friends’ wedding. If she couldn’t afford to have her eye lashes done, then she shouldn’t have done it!😠 P.S. Congrats on standing up for yourself and dropping your so called “friends”😒 Story 2: Why didn’t he talk to you about having kids from the start? Three years is a long time to let something like this go by without talking about it😟 P. S. This guy seems to be a little unhinged. Good for you on ending this relationship😢

[@Davtwan]

She wasn’t. She was trying to put OP on the spot in a public place in order to make her pay from the pressure. It’s a gaslighting tactic.

[@annhans3535]

with her great mind reading skills.🤣

[@chinavaughan6383]

@@annhans3535 Oh, yeah, I forgot😏

[@Rose-yt5hi]

I feel sorry for the lash tech having to sit there and watch that cringe unfold. Lmao

[@chinavaughan6383]

@@Rose-yt5hi Yeah, I hope that she/he at least got a good tip😒

[@carlrood4457]

As they used to say in those old commercials "Reading Is Fundamental"

[@OD1261]

Not understanding infertility, not understanding fetal alcohol syndrome, i feel like these past videos have shown how important Sex Ed is in schools.

[@ruthsaunders9507]

Sex ed in school is a joke. Its mostly about social issues these days and the teachers are a bunch of creepers. Parents need to be teaching their kids.

[@eikomi]

at this point it's not about education but just being a moron 😂 who in their right mind thinks you can give fetal alcohol syndrome to your kid as a FATHER, even if you don't know it's just common sense that it's not possible

[@Ax-xo4ux]

@@ruthsaunders9507oh hon it’s not social issues- it’s “abstinence ! Here’s some fear mongering! You want BC? We won’t tell you anything aside from condoms! Want to learn to put them on? Too bad!” It’s a joke but the most it goes into “social issues” is consent and it barely touches on that

[@ruthsaunders9507]

@@Ax-xo4ux Our classes were extremely detailed and over the top. The teachers were creepy AF and from what my son said his were worse. Thankfully he finished school before this latest wave of teachers that like to experiment on other peoples children.

[@bubblegumrose777]

@@ruthsaunders9507 No one has ever complimented some one on their sex skills and knowledge and had them reply it is because they were homeschooled! Thats a very strange point of view.

[@amemooress6291]

LMAO. The idea that it should be illegal to have autonomy over your own body is legit insane. Also, I laughed at the absurdity of the dude's mum saying "You ruined his life!" 😂

[@ircillo351]

considering folks like this are now running the country by a concerning margin i'd say this'll be one of their next missions once IVF is banned

[@LovesGaming37]

Story two: he knew. It was in writing. It was the first thing on her profile. He's trash. He knew.

[@jess-bo98]

That Dad from Story 2 IS A REAL ONE

[@OuchingTigerLimpingDragon]

"I can't talk to you when you're like this!" Like what; having my own opinion? 😆

[@katiecakesl4691]

Story 2: So OP's partner was told implicitly, multiple times that OP cannot have kids and does not want kids, but then seems to insist now that they are engaged that it is his right? His mask absolutely slipped. This is an abusive controlling man and things would have gotten worse. I am so glad OP got out.

[@benjie128]

OP stated on her dating profile she was child free. And the fiance either skipped that or thought he'd be that one to make her change her mind.

[@ruthsaunders9507]

For a long time I thought that just meant people didn't have kids. I know a lot of people think that.

[@LunaP1]

@@ruthsaunders9507it’s because willful ignorance that some people who are hell bent on having kids with someone who doesn’t want them that causes the problem. Most of the time it’s because they want to baby trap the person so they can either leech or abuse said baby trap victim.

[@piiinkDeluxe]

12:53 i think the best way in a situation like this is to tell your loved one once, in a calm setting and a diplomatic way, what your impression of their friends are. Don't shame, don't advice unless asked, just tell them how the situation makes you feel. Let your loved one know it's up to them, but you'll be there for support no matter what. Then you leave them alone about it. And if they get disappointed by their friends later, NO 'i told you so' (your loved one will tell that to themselves anyway), only support, especially emotionally.

[@SweatyGreaseMan]

You’re on a roll Markee, thank you!

[@rachealborders]

The bride story is crazy to me. I communicated with my ladies to make sure we were all on the same page. My only ask was that they pay for their dresses, which I had then pick out and we ask went together. We did the same dress in different colors to suit them in different jewel tones. They all agreed on the dress style. One of them didn't have the $90 up front even though there was a four month heads up before shopping for their dresses. She said she'd pay me back but never did, which, honestly is fine because she is notoriously bad with money and follow through. I didn't mind whatever shoes they wanted to wear, I just asked them to wear shoes they already had so they could be comfortable in them. I just wanted to do a pizza and movie night with them for a bachelorette party and they surprised me with a sweet little beach trip. It was so much fun and so wonderfully low-key. They also surprised us with a honeymoon 4 day, 3 night stay in a condo at the beach when we were just planning on having staycation. We didn't have our hair and makeup professionally done, but another friend helped with makeup and another who loves doing hair did mine beautifully. I let them choose how they wanted to do their hair and makeup because I just wanted them to shine and feel great. They ended up coordinating their hair because they cared more about the esthetic of the wedding than I did. I bought all of the flowers for the wedding at the farmers market morning of and they were gorgeous! I picked out individual small bouquets for each of them that had their favorite flowers and colors. I made their necklace to coordinate with the earrings I bought then. I made all of the decor for the reception months in advance. So many peacock feathers! It was a blast. A friend of my husband is a DJ, who gifted us his services for the day with all his awesome equipment. We had a coordinated potluck style dinner of enchiladas, rice, beans, and salad. We had 175 guests and it was a blast despite my mother-in-law pulling shenanigans. My girls kept my punch heavily medicated with vodka from hidden flasks, so it didn't even bother me when she stomped on my tulle overlay on my dress and tore it. Including my dress and the reception and everything, our wedding cost $2000. We maintained all our friends and they had fun and felt good. The pictures turned out beautiful and we surprisingly ended up with 2 photographers who we fed and asked then to join us in the fun rather than just shoot. It was a fantastic day!

[@Badassoldwoman]

Sounds like you cared more about the people you loved sharing the day with you than an IG worthy looking wedding.

[@rachealborders]

@kingdomfitness3029 yes! And it still ended up being beautiful! People still talk about it being fun and that they loved the decor!

[@EluneAnzu]

Story 2 update: Yeah I 100% agree with the first comment, he's either incredibly stupid about where babies come from or just wanted out he was literally told OP can't have kids due to her surgery, that requires insane level of stupidity to not get, possible but he could just be using it as an excuse.

[@morganleanderblake678]

8:30 THIS IS THE BEST UPDATE I HAVE EVER READ AND I AM SO HAPPY

[@Lillireify]

Hahahahahaha I see FAS becoming a new "couch" type reference and I'm here for it!

[@Iflie]

Exactly, me too! There may be a few named videos needed for special refferences like the couch, King Pymon math and yeah, fetal alcohol through 2 beers and bedroom.

[@llamabrat07]

Story 2, the kids conversation is always a fairly early conversation for anyone who really wants, or doesn’t want kids. OP felt she had no need to have this conversation cuz it was clearly stated on her dating profile she is childfree. I wonder if the fiancé thought he could convince her to change her mind once he had her locked into marriage. Even with the update I think he’s lying about not thinking about wanting kids or not. Usually, when you start picturing a life with someone, whether there will be kids or not is typically part of that picture. Plus, he sent his family to try & talk her around. Dude definitely thought he could lock her into marriage & strong arm her, or maybe tamper with her bc, to get the kids he wants. With the update, his rage is a giant red flag to nope right out of that relationship. But him forgetting she doesn’t want kids & can’t have kids was also a red flag. Glad she got out of there & she made the ex and ex.

[@jimbobjones9330]

I still say that OP has a bit of fault for not discussing it at all and just ASSuming that he knew everything from her profile (just because he brought up an odd detail from who knows how many profiles he'd seen at that time). After the update, I'd give OP 0.5/5 ahole score just because that's an EXTREMELY immature way to be in a relationship. This is the type of big decision you need to talk about a couple of times in the 3 years. Don't get me wrong. The ex is 1000% more the Ahole and likely wouldn't have listened anyway. But OP does bear some responsibility, but it sounds like she's learned that for the future. And people acting like "it was in her profile, and thus he should know everything" is silly as well.

[@maurer3d]

Story 1 (before update): NTA, she is over extending herself and volunteering you to spend money for her...She is a bridezilla, and is insane to think you should pay for her. You get the wedding you can afford and save for. Story 1 (update): Look at that shiny new spine you got...Congrats.

[@LovesGaming37]

Men who are freaking out and saying they can't talk to a woman are calm are insane

[@LunaP1]

It’s an abuse tactic. Crazy men don’t like calm women because they have their shit together and already going to leave them.

[@LovesGaming37]

Guess who gets the final say on whether a couple has kids? The woman

[@cejara1801]

The man, right?

[@owl7072]

​@cejara1801 unless he'll be the one ultimately carrying it and pushing it out then no.

[@arianebolt1575]

It's a mutual decision.

[@LunaP1]

@@cejara1801unless he’s a sea horse, that ain’t happening.

[@Ax-xo4ux]

@@arianebolt1575yes- but if the man wants kids and the woman doesn’t- no kids. If the woman wants kids and the man doesn’t- no kids. But the one with the uterus is ultimately going to be carrying a child (different for same sex couples and people who are infertile of course) and therefore have the ability to veto having kiddos. Of course it’s a mutual decision- but that’s the whole thing- mutual- if one party is not totally into it- no kids

[@weltschmertzz]

Story 2: Ex boyfriend and his family are crazy and trying to pass on their craziness to OP. OP dodged a bullet.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Story 2. OP didn't dodge a bullet, she dodged a missile! How in the world did OPs fiance see everything else, and talk about everything else, but not the "Child free-Infertile" part that was on the second line of her profile. Did he just see the "child free" part and thought OP would change her mind, while completely ignoring the "infertile " part. I get that OP assumed he saw that in the profile, but when they started to become serious about the relationship, it something they should have spoken about before getting engaged. I mean I get it, OP put it out their on her profile, but I don't get why at some point OP didn't say something like, "So, are you ok with the fact we can't have kids due to me infertile?" Or something like that. How do 2 adults date for years, get engaged, yet never talk about thier feelings on kids. Even if OP didn't put that in her profile, I would think that the boyfriend would confirm OP has the same life goals as him. WTF. One of the first things my husband and I talked about before we moved in together, while dating, was: 1) Do we see marraige in the future? 2) Did we see kids in our future, if so how many? 3) If we had kids would we both continue working or would one of us stay home? 4) If either of our parenst are unable to live alone once elderly, do we take them in with us, or find a retirement home? And the most important question was 5) Who mops the floors (I hate mopping, lol)? Those are basic thing couples discuss when committing their lives to each other. Edit to add. So wait, this asshole knew OP didn't want kids and had her tubes tied, and this was his behavior!?! What a huge a**hole!!

[@michelehofstetter4803]

#1: I'd be booking an appt to get my hair dyed back to whatever color *I* really wanted it to be - returning the tattoo coverup makeup - & telling them not to bother me ever again. When you have cancer, you excise it. The bridezilla & her minion are a cancer. Cut them out.

[@cookiecrumbs4525]

Here again to binge watch ur videos while doing my design projects

[@ambermcglone4811]

Story 1) Not real friends … why didn’t the other girl pay?! They are using you

[@Deedoof]

Story 2: Op's ex-fiancé was cheating or hiding an addiction, fertility is not something that people in relationships "forget". The sudden personality flip and accusations are a dead giveaway.

[@ngjuicey2001]

I hope so. I would be so concerned trying to figure out what I missed for 3 years for this side of him to suddenly show up. There had to have been something else going on.

[@trillionbones89]

He didn't forget. He knew. Her dad reminded her even.

[@Deedoof]

@@trillionbones89 That's my point.

[@thebladeofchaos]

very doubtful personally. He didn't forget, he wanted something to hold over her. 'You can't give me kids you monster, you should be serving me'. He's an abuser with a family behind him letting him do it. bear in mind he's fully aware of her being unable to have kids. he was told multiple times. during the fight, it wasn't 'I'm too mad right now' it was 'You're not in the right frame of mind' to OP. as in 'OP is too emotional' when she's being calm. he's also religious given the group chat, so he hid that too.

[@pippo17173]

Even when religion is the main factor, I think he is using this to distract everyone including his family away from a mistress so he can introduce her later once it blow over.

[@soCyberWasTaken]

Thanks for bringing great entertainment, it's a savior during the work days!

[@LadyJuse]

OP2 is WAY too good for him!

[@heatheraucoin5832]

S2- Tried to do mind gymnastics on OP but she caught he whenever he contradicted himself. Op- you wanna talk? Him- I don’t want to talk? Op- You want the ring back? Him- So you don’t want to talk things through. Op- I just asked and you no. Me- bruh WTF

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Story 1. She knew OP had blue hair and tattoos before she asked her to be in the wedding party. Yet, she made her change her hair and cover her tattoos. OP really didn't need to damage her hair more by dying it again. I have blue hair and tattoos, and when a friend got married and we found (thanks to her 6 year old niece's suggestion) a solution for my hair. My friend didn't ask me to change my hair color, I wanted to do it because I didn't want to stand out in her wedding pictures. I bought a bottle of brown temporary dye that came out in one wash and bam brown hair. As for the tattoos, my friend told me they were a part of me, and she loved all of me. Seems to me like maybe OPs friend decided she didn't want OP in the wedding after all, but did want to look like the bad guy by asking her to step-down, so she concocted this big supposed slight OP supposedly did to them have a reason to start a fight and get OP out.

[@meiimacca4054]

S2 ex was unhinged and she dodged a massive bullet, terrible partner and family. THAT BEING SAID As a childfree individual she definitely dropped the ball on being thorough. It's a very important conversation that needs to be had over and over to be sure both parties understand. There's leniency there since it's her first long term relationship but she was too casual about the kid talk, or lack thereof.

[@bunniefae4012]

Markee using dulu in the correct context is making me want to scream out a laughter

[@miriammartin9319]

"The eggs can never escape" rofl

[@KCohere33]

Either this guy has selective hearing or he is deliberately trying to pick a fight so she breaks up with him.

[@cookiecrumbs4525]

People really shouldn't be getting married if they can't afford it

[@velvetmau]

Correction. People should not be having a lavish wedding when getting married if they cannot afford it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with going down to the courthouse and getting married for the price of the filing fee. Getting married and having a wedding are technically two completely different events. One is a legal contract and the other is a party.

[@ElfInTheFlowers]

@@velvetmauI came here to say this!!!

[@susankaempfer8427]

100 bux says op‘s fiancé was fine with no kids until his family threatened disinheritance.

[@michamocha]

2nd story: I don't know, I don't think it's really fair to critique Op for "communication" when she was open and honest from the very beginning. If he changed his mind, it was up to him to revisit and discuss but seeing the update, I suspect he was banking on pressuring her once he felt like he had her too emotionally tied to fight him on this. It backfired lmao.

[@deballen7031]

That comment "...a dick strong enough to reverse surgery....' ! Lmao 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@maurer3d]

Story 2 (before update): NTA, you didn't lie, he was just ignorant. Even if you didn't include your infertility in your profile, him assuming you wanted or would have kids makes him the AH. Story 2 (update): OP you did nothing wrong.... He knew you couldn't have (and didn't want) kids and was just manipulating you to make you feel like you are now. This was him showing you who he really is, an abusive control freak.

[@morganleanderblake678]

Story 2: please send this man back to the shop for repairs someone forgot to install all the software

[@Poggerpup]

Love those bloopers

[@sammyk.6457]

The second blooper had me in stitches lmao

[@KE-hr4sb]

S2: She didn't lie, it was on her profile that HE swiped on. It's not on her to remember things for him or make sure he read every line. That said, something feels off about this one, and I think he was looking for an out. Is he cheating? Either way, good riddance to bad trash: anyone whose family goes off like that the minute you have an argument is NOT a family you want to marry into. Tell him (and his family) that HE is actually beneath YOU, and to go headbutt a moose! "I asked why he never brought up having kids before, and he said because he knew I would get all weird about it." Translation: He's known all along you can't have kids (either that or he didn't know what "infertile" meant and doesn't want to admit it). He's picking a fight for some reason, and gaslighting you: accusing you of acting crazy when he's the one screaming and losing his shit. "I knew you didn't want kids, but now that we're engaged I get a say in whether or not we have kids." Um, no. She's not a broodmare. Again, did he not understand what *infertile* meant and just thought she was child-free and he could force her to have kids once he'd locked her in with engagement? He wasted both of their time (ironic that his family was accusing her of that). Loving the bloopers!

[@samalvarez8776]

I loved the bloopers!! Keep them in!

[@MasterYandle]

I cut meat for a living, love listening to you while I work. The Vegeta blooper had me cackling like a maniac with a very large knife in my hand. Genuinely, thank you.

[@katphish30]

Story 2: Nta, and I'm literally, physically incapable of understanding why OP seems to think she did anything to contribute to this. But bullet dodged, I guess?

[@Octoberdoomster1]

As I put it, since I had my tubes removed at 28. The freeway is gone to the baby maker lol. I’m 32 this year, I swore to never get pregnant again and I meant it. I was so happy when I didn’t have to worry about birth control failing. I hated being pregnant.

[@Monsterbunnych]

Bro started spitting fire the second he said “fax no printer “ 😭

[@notiddymothbirlfriend]

"wedding eyelashes" has gotta be a brand new phrase

[@LunaP1]

Another bridezilla story where they think they can walk all over every person that is trying help her with the wedding. Ungrateful bints, all of them, including any flying monkeys.

[@Keita999]

That ending caught me off guard lol

[@arroweyne]

The Bloopers have me dead. Lmao. 😂💀

[@teenalot1235]

Story 1: I LOVE CATS! Recently, a friend of mine who owns a Cat, called me to let me know hos cat gave birth, and offered me one of the kittens. While I would have LOVED to own one, I realized that the nature of my job rn will not allow me be a good cat mama. I turned down his offer and he 100percent understood, he also takked about my turbulent life at the moment. Op is not wrong for being "controlling" about HER dogs, also because she KNOWS Max, she can tell if he is ready for such a commitment, the same way my friend also knows that as much as I freaking adore cats, I will be so horrible to the kitty. Also, A story recently went viral about a parrot and how OP's brother did not really take good care of it. Luckily for the bird, the sister is now the owner. OP is mot controlling, OP is just doing her best to provide good conditions for lovely pets.

[@annhans3535]

Nah- he read the profile. He understood it all but thought he could get her to change her mind. He was working on changing her mind. So, this is on him.

[@CardedAlice]

I bet the guy in story 2 is one of those guys who thinks the girl will change her mind eventually or that he can change her

[@user-fg4tn8ot6b]

The latter. Him saying that he has a say on her choice about having children the moment they were engaged makes me believe so. 😬

[@maismais993]

Omg the bloopers are hilarious 😂😂

[@2p-blog-thing]

Bahaha, I loved the FAS reference at the end.

[@bbureau12]

I hate brides/grooms who assume you'll happily take out a second mortgage for THEIR big day. Newsflash: it's their wedding. No one else (besides possibly the parents) is going to be as invested as they are. My sister wanted me to do video for her wedding. OK, no big. I have a rig I use for wildlife videography and a decent tripod. Then it was "can you also do photography?" No. I can't do both, don't have the kit or experience for portrait work, there's like 80 hours that go into editing, and people tend to get big mad if wedding photos aren't Hollywood quality. Then she wanted me to also be an usher and walk my mom up the aisle... dude, I can't do your videography AND all that. On top of that she wanted my wife in a specific dress even though she wasn't in the party (my cost.) On top of that, after walking half an hour to get back to our car, she sent her maid of honor out to tell us that we need to walk back to be in the photos. Whelp, you should have communicated that beforehand, genius. In the end, she started screaming at me at her reception, and I walked out.

[@fixer-1372]

God damn bloopers I spat up my tea with the dbz one 😂

[@grizbear4115]

C'mon, those bloopers should've stayed in 😂

[@funkadesiac]

When you ASSUME, you're just making an ASS out of U and not ME.

[@ivorynk752]

19:55 Narrator interjections are so amusing

[@tigerdeadlytiger]

Eyelashes: Why didn't Sam pay for the lashes, or at least Sam and OP split the cost? Why was it all on OP to pay?

[@nimisilverbird1239]

Nta. Callie is a bridzilla. She can pay for her own extentions. Your savings is not her backup wedding fund. Time to get new friends

[@KCanbutwont]

When you tune out but wake up to the soliloquy 😂😂❤

[@blackrex828]

Yo was that a Team 4 Star reference 😂😂😂

[@sandeesandwich2180]

Extra 10 points for the Fetal Alcohol Syndrome reference!!

[@LizHellsing]

I love the sass in this video 🤣

[@bjnboy]

Story 2: OP should’ve screenshot the messages from his family and send it to their workplaces.

[@Niklarus2010]

“Delulu”. 😂. Someone’s been watching Charlotte Dobre videos.

[@carlrood4457]

Third wheel finally realizes she's the third wheel with her "best friends". The truth is if you have more than one best friend, you probably have none. No two relationships are ever completely equal. Clearly Callie and Amanda are best friends Edit: Just to give an example of what I mean. What if your two supposed "best friends" were to get married on the same day. Which would you choose to attend? That's who you really consider your best friend.

[@trillionbones89]

Sam: you pay!

[@gknight7778]

25:51: lol

[@ellieguerra536]

FETAL ALCOHOL SYNDROME, LMAO

[@missterygirl16]

Markee my fav reddit reader

[@vanzy01]

Story 2: dude ignored reality and now Big Mad that he can't bend reality to his will lol.

[@tinak2576]

Story 2: where does the OP think she’s at fault? She was clear in the no kids stand. I agree with the commenter who believes the ex cheated or is projecting.

[@kateemma22]

Story 2 got Markee throwing out all the Gen Z slang. Don't do this to me, mate, I'm too millennial for this.

[@nancynakamura7746]

Oh, don’t be de-lu lu, that’s the so-lu lu. 😅 I’m a boomer and I loved it!!

[@mayurakshimukherjee7948]

Story 2, yes people like the ex & his family are that dumb. I am saying this from personal experience 😢

[@seanphelan2618]

Did the dude think that she could get her tubes reattached? Cause it definitely sounded like he didn’t understand that she physically couldn’t get pregnant

[@firetail550]

Fetal alcohol syndrome took me out after that other Reddit posts 😂😂😂

[@Lqtech00]

I don't watch dragon ball z anymore but I still appreciate a good reference. Also, never, ever stop bringing up the couch incident. That's in reddit folklore like the sandwich guy.

[@jimbobjones9330]

Gotta say -- in the second story, ESH. The man is WAY bigger of an ahole, but OP "assuming" that he read a line in her profile? For a big life decision? That he never brought up again?!?! That's just chilish. To steal the rSlash scale, the ex-fiance gets 3/5 buttholes, OP gets 1.5/5 Sorry, but "you didn't read my profile in an app where you're likely swiping over tons of profiles" is idiotic.

[@jimbobjones9330]

After hearing the update, I'd go 4.5/5 on the ex-fiance, and drop OP's score to 0.5/5. I still feel that OP shirked some responsibility by not bringing it up at all in 3 years, and just assuming that he'd read a line in her profile... but didn't find it odd at all that he never mentioned it in the 3 years? Sorry, but that's either naive or insane to me. If I was infertile, even if it was in a profile that she likely glossed over while looking at others, I for SURE would have discussed it at least once with my partner relatively early into dating, just to be sure we were on the same page. I'd like to know if OP remembers the second line of his profile. Because it's possible he remembered the carrot thing because it was an odd detail, but glossed over the rest because he read so many other profiles. (And I'm sorry -- but isn't that the _point_ of Tinder? I've never been on it, but it seems like a catalog of potential hookups/slight possibility of partner) Anyway, OP still gets 0.5/5 for ASSuming (and sounds like she learned this lesson for the future), but the ex is 900% more TA.

[@user-fg4tn8ot6b]

Story two: The ex-fianceé is the AH. He knew what 'child-free' and 'infertile' meant. He knew she didn't want children. He had a convo with his ex's father about a future with no children and her surgery, and the f@cker LIED about understanding that it was OP's decision. He's a f@cking idiot for getting together with someone who doesn't want children, and expecting for her to change her mind. And he's even more of an idiot to think he knows more about the medical procedure OP went through that purposefully rendered her infertile (he said she didn't know what she was talking about). And he dragged his own family (who's just as bad, if not, worse than him) into this. *He should've left, instead of staying and thinking he could force her to change her mind the moment they were engaged.*

[@aduckofsomesort]

I do not at all agree with that commentor saying what most people would assume that child free and infertile means it’s not by her choice. Child free and infertile mean child free and infertile. Why would anyone assume that means she is involuntarily not having kids?

[@VoidRabbit]

Story 2: that whole family is defective because their boy can't read

[@lorifiedler13]

Makeup that actually covers tattoos is expensive.

[@25Erix]

Story 2: Good thing God isn't a hardass on the children thing. All He ever said was "go forth and be fruitful" but nothing in that statement ever implies he's twisting anyone's arm about it.

[@nimisilverbird1239]

Nta. Time to dump the selective reader

[@carlrood4457]

Is removing tubes a typical procedure? I know about tying them off, but never heard of complete removal. Is there a reason a doctor would do one over the other?

[@BruinPhD2009]

Just a guess, but perhaps removing the Fallopian Tubes entirely prevents accidental pregnancy. If they’re tied off, there’s probably always an outside chance that the body could reverse that. However, if they treat tying the tubes like a vasectomy (they cut, burn, and smash those bad boys these days), it’s almost impossible to surgically reverse that procedure.

[@trillionbones89]

2: but op didn't do anything wrong. The ex *KNEW* she was infertile.

[@lynnw7155]

Ex is unhinged. He says his family doesn't have anything to do with it, yet HE told them and send his flying monkeys after her. He says she doesn't know what she's talking about re; not being able to have kids? OP didn't do anything wrong....she needs to stop thinking any of this is her fault.

[@maxpanzer10]

I never thought I would hear a Reddit KZbin say “delulu”