AITA For Buying Everyone A Drink Except For One Guy From School Who Ignored Me? r/Relationships

[@MisterNightfish]

Lmao, dude snubs OP and then complains about OP when he gets snubbed back? There will be nothing but trouble with him.

[@jbrennan381]

Yeah it bugs me that people are calling him a mild AH. The dude snubbed him, and then when it's convenient he wants to be buddies to take advantage of OP's money and kindness? He's no remotely the AH. Reddit will tell you not to be a doormat, and then call you a jerk for standing up for yourself lol

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Dude might’ve developed a huge ego out of nowhere or he really is struggling with something or is on drugs or whatever else, there really is no way to tell and I doubt we’ll get any answers in regards to his behavior. It’d be best for OP to just move on and put this behind him.

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

Yeah what an extremely strange story... it definitely sounds like some kind of mental issues but wow.

[@jackierenee1691]

Yeah it sounds like something is up, which is a shame, but dang. I hope his family is still around to suggest that he gets checked out. I get not wanting to talk to people, but a full on melt down? It sounds like he's developing paranoia of some sort if he's constantly pushing people around him away and being aggressive with no provocation.

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

Or the guy is just a self absorbed prick. 🤷‍♂️

[@johnbradbury8610]

@@jackierenee1691 Op is definitely NTA, but the YTA commenters are morons.

[@riffwizardsupreme]

probably started being able to afford cocaine over weed and that’s why he’s better than everyone

[@toriistorii6939]

Man, explosions like that are scary as hell. My dad occasionally bursts with pent up anger, and it gets violent. And that only happens every few years or so. I cannot imagine the terror of it happening multiple times a year. Glad OP has finally put his foot down (I hope he sticks with it anyway)

[@marshawargo7238]

That last comment punchingbag said better what I thought. "The main reason she hasn't gotten fired or gone to jail is because she has OP" Both the same thought but the commenter said it better.

[@johnbradbury8610]

@@marshawargo7238 It is suspicious that she's never lost her shit at a store, at work, ETC. They better not have children. Op is foolish for not separating and forcing her to get this issue delt with. Even when she was calm she got mad at Op for not caring about her feelings. Its getting worse. Op is the AH until he separates from her. What the hell is he waiting for?

[@paulinadeboer3604]

i was angry about 4 times a year, not in an agressive way lucky, but i make it very clear that everyone has to stay away from me.. Why? It is build up anger, small things that happen that i bare en grin that pile up. i know this from myself, i know my limits. The problem was communication. As a single mum real communication with kids is difficult. The moment they learned to understand what i said it was over.. And i have to tell my mum was great, if i called her that my bucket was full she got them right away for a sleepover. i must say in my defence i grew up in a hospital where i couldn't decide about my own body. Is a long story. i had no communications every one else decided how i had to feel for me. I tell this because if someone has big emotions but can't share them the bucket tend to tip over.. Even after what happend op doesn't want to communicate with her. As they don't communicate this will keep happening. Better to end things now.

[@jbrennan381]

I actually had similar episodes. Not quite like this. They were in private and not usually around others, or I'd be in my room but I would get emotional and angry. I'd be balling my eyes out while punching and kicking things (never ever people mind you). That lead to me breaking my hand from one good punch. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, even before all of this, and was not getting treated properly, which I do take some responsibility for. They were usually 3 or 4 times a year, and it was from stress and emotional build up. It was not fun. It took some time but I learned how to regulate, got on the right treatment path, and learned/am learning my relapse signs. Therapy is great, it's awesome, but it's not enough for everyone especially if your brain isn't functioning normally. I'm sure outside of those explosions she's a great person like OP said, but that doesn't change the fact that she is responsible for taking charge of her own mental health. I wouldn't blame OP for leaving her

[@squash6497]

I had a milder form of those rage attacks (didn't hit people or throw objects, but I did yell and cry a lot, especially after drinking. The remorse was extreme, but as it's often said, the only genuine apology is changed behaviour. People removed me from their lives over it, and I understand why. Like another commenter said, it's often due to things building up over time and not knowing how to express frustrations in a healthy way. In my case it was PTSD, and how OP describes his wife sounds similar to what goes on in the PTSD brain. She needs to go to a psychologist who specializes in this because what she's doing clearly isn't enough.

[@Agonysis]

2:38 "A few people have told to me I should have just bought the guy a drink." These people are called doormats and it's better not to take their advice.

[@OD1261]

Markee just sounds like he's slowly descending into madness with each passing video. Don't stray too far, Markee!

[@LunaP1]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@valeriew4833]

Story 2: he does NOT need to get her help, she needs to get herself help. Imagine how much farther along he could be in life by putting that effort and energy into himself instead of someone else.

[@sonialinsey8083]

Yeah “her regular self has big emotions, too” code words for a big problem. My mom has borderline personality disorder and my grandma (her mom) described her as “having a big heart” or “wearing her heart on her sleeve” UH NO. Personality disorder? PMDD maybe? She needs help.

[@miminana-hd6nf]

Yes, she is responsible for her mental health, and how she manages it. He cannot help her with that. He has enabled her, all these years, by "accepting" her big personality and moving on from her outbursts. She is confused because she thought that this is what would have happened this time, and it didn't. She needs to see a psychiatrist, now. I am surprised her therapist has never suggested it. To have untreated, diagnosed disorders is exhausting, both on the person with them and everyone who they interact with. He needs to have an exit strategy and he needs to follow through. She is not going to get help until her whole world crumbles around her. Thank goodness they have no children.

[@johnbradbury8610]

Op needs to separate from her. Its getting worse, What the hell is he waiting for? gunplay. Right now he is slasher movie stupid.

[@johnbradbury8610]

@@miminana-hd6nf thank you. The commenter had a point as to why this hasn't happened at her job, in public.. ETC. If the genders were reversed everyone would tell the woman to get the hell out of there, and they would be right.

[@ChrisCouch-vx2te]

Geez, I hope you or none of the loved ones you have around you ever struggle with mental health disorders. If you love someone you will help them get help when it's clear they need it. If you don't love them it is easy to just walk away and throw up your hands, just don't lie to yourself and say you love and care about them.

[@dawnstone4424]

First story: The guy didn’t want to associate with old school mates? No drinks for you then. Buying a drink is associating. Tough luck.

[@FelisTerras]

Markee's off-screen quips cracks me up every time. His laughter is so contagious^^

[@FlamesofRebirth3836]

S2: if that wife was as empathetic as OP says, she would not keep raging at him.

[@hlcooper]

Story 2: i totally agree with the commenter in the video that pointed out she doesn't have her outbursts at work or in public just with the OP. it shows she has control over her tantrums as like the commenter said she hasn't lost any jobs due to the tantrums she throws or been arrested for her "random outbursts"

[@Ladyresin0978]

I was in a similar situation, same diagnosis and it can escalate. While it started as directed to just me, eventually it became co-workers, bosses and customers and general public. Jobs were lost and police/healthcare became involved. People would say "they can control it around everyone but you" but that wasn't true in the end.

[@tineve2002]

Story #1 : Absolutely NTA. The Old classmate is a user. To the comments saying that OP is an AH or ESH should GO POUND SAND. He made it clear to OP that he wants nothing to do with him in spite of the brief history together. So when he saw where the fun crowd was gathering and heard Op say the first round is on him, he now decided OP was useful to him after all. What a douchebag, he's learning quickly that he can't always get what he wants being a negative person in life. OP did the right thing 👏

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Story 2. I know exactly what OP is talking about, as I have the same issue. The condition is called Intermittent explosive disorder (IED). Its a mental health condition marked by frequent impulsive anger outbursts or aggression. The episodes are out of proportion to the situation that triggered them and cause significant distress. She needs to see a psychiatrist, as there are medications that help. I have been medicated 15 years now. Before medication, I had an episode about every other month. Since medication I have maybe once a year. She needs to see a psychiatrist, as there are medications that help. I have been medicated 15 years now. Before medication, I had an episode about every other month. Since medication I have them maybe once a year, and they are nowhere near as bad as they used to be. To those saying she needs to "control" her temper, you are incorrect. However, that doesn't mean she is not responsible for her behavior and outbursts. She obviously knows she is doing this, and she needs to take the steps to seek help.

[@crichtonbruce4329]

Thank you for sharing your own experience. I've been through my own mental health issues and believe there are times you need a psychiatrist and times a therapist. Both working together is best. As OP tells us his wife is in some form of therapy I'd be suggesting he ask/insist for a joint session with her therapist to address the rage issue specifically, but also get a referral to a psychiatrist for evaluation.

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

What concerns me about Story 2 is that the wife isn't getting the proper treatment and she isn't SEEKING the proper treatment. I don't think she's a horrible person or evil, I believe she is sorry, but this just can't go on for them. It's very sad :(

[@emilybarclay8831]

She is a terrible person. She’s abusing her spouse and using her intentionally untreated mental issues as an excuse and a crutch. This is domestic violence. Somehow she’s managed to never have an outburst at anyone other than her partner? She’s an abusive animal who’s found a victim, nothing more

[@videofan1010]

Doesn't matter if she's a horrible person she sure is an abusive one...

[@miminana-hd6nf]

@@emilybarclay8831 yes, I think that observation was an eye opener for OP. She only rages at him. She chooses who to rage at.

[@projectjupiter5523]

not to be pedantic but idk if she's truly sorry. to be truly sorry, you have to understand the impact that your actions have on whomever you're apologising to and you have to show remorse, which means that you wish you hadn't done what you did and shall strive not to do the same thing again. however, if the wife keeps having these episodes and is not getting more intensive treatment to prevent them, then she either doesn't know how harmful her behaviour is to her husband or she doesn't care how much she hurts and traumatises him. furthermore, by not getting help that sufficiently improves her emotional regulation or coming up with a solution or safety plan to keep OP safe, she isn't demonstrating any willingness to change and gives off no indication that she wishes she could undo or remedy her actions.

[@betheguy_posts]

Back-to-back daily videos despite the circumstances, mad respect. Sorry about your lil buddy, thanks for pulling thru and uploading anyway 👍

[@eldeano9964]

pRedditors: ugh, I hate it when people say 'Be the bigger person'. Also pRedditors: why was you rude in response to someone being/said something horrible to you?...

[@Deedoof]

Story 2: I wonder if OP's wife is on 3-month(seasonal) birth control, her period symptoms could be worse during her 'break' as a result. Either way wife's an asshole; she knows when and what happens but doesn't change? Will OP finally consider help after she hits him the next time?

[@fandomfan2800]

Lol who cares? Women can't abuse men

[@Kraaied]

This was my first thought too! Though of course a reason is not an excuse, she shouldn't be this much of an asshole.

[@carlrood4457]

When we were dating, my wife went on birth control and it was like navigating a minefield. Anything could set her off. She realized she was on the verge of crying all the time and went off them. Those hormones are serious crap.

[@Deedoof]

@@carlrood4457 It's 50/50 how hormonal BC will affect a woman. I had good experiences with mine because my hormones were VERY off before, but it's amazing how drastic the changes can be.

[@miminana-hd6nf]

he stated she has an "untreated diagnosis", that would indicate she has some sort of untreated mental illness.

[@michaelwoods3651]

Story 2- she needs to really make an effort not excuses. How did he even put up with this for so long?

[@immapotato1]

same as all abusive relationships

[@erima4270]

Story 2: Markee's coffin interjection 😂😂😂

[@missionsquirrel]

It was akin to "if my grandmother had wheels she'd have been a bike" 😂

[@Celestial-Skyys]

Story 1. I don't associate with most the people I went to high school with but at least I'm not rude and insane about it most of the time. Have I told off people who were actively harming others (a nurse arguing that she should be able to work with immuno compromised groups and not have to vaccinate, and people attempting to cheat on their partners with me)? Yes. But do I tell off people trying to reconnect and be a normal human being trying to catch up? No, I entertain it because either we get along now and it's a good experience or I go back to not talking about them.

[@brandyanderson3522]

I hate when someone is staying in dangerous or toxic relationships, gets downplayed to staying because the sex is good. I highly doubt OP is staying in what is heading towards a physically abusive relationship because his wife is good in bed. These type of comments completely disregard the mental conditioning that leads people like OP to think this is the norm or somehow their fault. This was an r/AITA post not from a r/relationship. Meaning part of OP thinks he is in the wrong for setting these boundaries. OP needs to be concerned about what will happen when /if they have children.

[@TheDarwinProject1]

There is ZERO reason that a condition like being described in story 2 isn't seeing a psychiatrist or a neurologist. Since she's escalating, I would think she'd be trying to find a new therapist with access to an inpatient psychiatric hospital/clinic. Seems like something a loving, empathetic spouse would do after having so little control & so much anger that they threw something with the intentiion to break it.

[@jameslyons6655]

“I don’t want to associate with you. Unless you’re buying, amirite?”. GTFO. Listen, if you want to shine me on, that’s fine. But don’t plop down at the table after hours and expect me to buy you a drink, that’s Mayor of Crazytown levels of entitlement.

[@Sclasspsycho]

I've just heard three people say "delulu" in 24 hours. I don't know why I hate it, but I do.

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

Get off my lawn

[@katwiltz1134]

Is that short for delusional? Legitimate question

[@Sclasspsycho]

@@katwiltz1134 yeah. I think the reason it annoys me is because it’s a medical term?

[@lifewithlee6298]

Conspiracy theory, what is that guy only looks like somebody you went to high school with. Maybe he’s an imposter that’s why he’s trying to avoid interacting with old people he used to know.

[@carolroberts4614]

An evil twin maybe?

[@cesaravegah3787]

Adults trying to bully other adults on buying anything for them Is stupid and beyond cringy.

[@katbird5872]

Lmao “and a coffin is just a place to lay down” what a good quote!!!

[@oliviaksiag6163]

I kind of understood the guy when he was like "I don't want to deal with people from school," as someone who would rather not deal with people who knew me back then, but then this guy throwing a tantrum over not getting a free drink? He sounds extremely selfish.

[@amberluppens3292]

I don’t want to come off as rude, I’m just curious and want to understand as well, but why would you rather not deal with people from your school days? Is it because of cringy memories, or bullying or something? I’m just curious as someone having trouble making new adult friends why someone would willingly part ways with any friends from school If you’d rather not answer that’s totally fine too! And if you’d want me to delete this comment then I’d completely understand too

[@DeathclawJedi]

I prefer not to associate with classmates from school myself. I haven't been to a reunion ever and I've been out of school for a few decades now. However... If I passed them on the street or if they turned up at my place looking for a job I would not ignore them or go out of my way to snub them. This dude's got issues OP best ya just steer clear of him.

[@TheRockinDonkey]

I don’t do high school reunions because I didn’t have many friends in high school and moved on after one of the few friends I did have died. College was kind of the same story. At my age, my wife and kids are my social group and I’m okay with that

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

The guy is Hot and cold and unpredictable. I would not want to asociate with him anyway

[@nickster5286]

Just a note on people bringing their unusable clothes charity shops. If someone does that all those clothes get gathered up and sold to a rag vendor. That vendor and sorts them sterilizes them cut them up and sells them. Trust me I work in construction and we rely on that heavily

[@adjwindu70]

I keep in touch with 3 of my college friends. 2 are brothers and 1 is a friend from high school. I dont keep track of any of the other friends.

[@nimisilverbird1239]

Nta. He made it clear he wanted nothing to do with you. You are not pushing yourself on him. He got what he asked for

[@videofan1010]

I didn't think OP 1 was an ahole but Reddit has a lot of hurt and triggered people on it.

[@susanyoung1600]

Somebody I've known from school was like that. She turned out to be a paranoid schizophrenic. It got really bad, poor girl.

[@yingyang8130]

mayn, that story about the teacher reminds me of one of mine. she'd ususally be calm, but sometimes, she'd jsut randomly start screaming, throw our stuff against the wall and send us to the hallway

[@TheDarwinProject1]

My guess, for story 1, the old classmate has either become a pathological liar &/or he is trying to "reinvent" himself. He might have been having tatrums/emotional breakdowns due to his real personality screaming at people around his through his "mask" that might as well have been made of lace that had lost a battle with a cat. Ex: perhaps he wanted to be seen as a "popular, social, *Chad*", but the only way he knew how was through memes, incel forums, & "ass-fluencers" like Andrew Tate.

[@helianabanes4875]

I definitely thought, "she's going to kill him" gender aside, that is DANGEROUS, HORRIBLE, and ESCALATING behavior! Op needs to leave for his own safety. She us manipulating and abusing him.

[@aurora4218]

Story 2: important question for OP - when wife has rages, does she break her own posessions, or only ones that are yours/shared?

[@kumikor3392]

Story 2: i need everyone to understand that OP is not, and will never, be responsible for getting his gf help. OP should leave, and that is all they need to do. No one should EVER believe they should get someone else the help they need

[@joshuahaskellcarr]

I don't want to associate with you. How dare you not associate with me.

[@hiroshi7025]

Story 2's wife is just abusive, we need to stop that nonsense. Y'all would have NEVER given the benefit of the doubt to a dude doing these things. Even if you did, you'd suggest the OP to at least gtfo for her safety. So OP, for your safety, gtfo.

[@FoxBlack.]

No one is giving her the benefit of the doubt, so your comment is unnecessary. Just like 90% of the time people try the "reverse the roles" crap. There's no reason to say that, it's clear cut wrong and no one claimed otherwise.

[@videofan1010]

​@@FoxBlack.Thank you for saying this. These people lack basic brain functionality.

[@hiroshi7025]

​@@FoxBlack.Go down the comments of the post. I read it before coming here, miss me with your bs. The reason for my comment is also that people are way quicker to blame one than the other. This shouldn't take a giant essay to make it seen the same way as one you'd instantly judge as abuse.

[@Rhaenarys]

Is it ever pointed out that the irony of the guy claiming OP wasnt a team player right after telling OP basically that he wouldnt work with old classmates? Just saying lol.

[@willm687]

The life of Brian bit at the end was gold

[@frankiejanejane]

Story 2: Untreated disorder that causes emotional regulation issues, rage attacks, and big emotions sounds more like Borderline Personality Disorder. As someone with BPD myself I saw a lot of myself in that description

[@draconisdragonheart4248]

Story 1: NTA, the guy apparently seems entitled. I'm pretty sure other people don't like him as well. Story 2: You do need to move on because she is not getting help for her mental illness. She needs a psychiatrist.

[@some_random_user_who_is_random]

"I'm an adult now so I don't want to talk to people I went to school with" Does...does he think he's the only one who ages? Does he think the people he went to school with are still kids? Wtf

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

Story 2: "You cant keep doing cr**py things and then feel bad about them like that makes it ok. You need to BE better." - Todd, Bojack Horseman

[@macylouwho1187]

Jesus, when you said “bipolar” I was like “ding ding ding, we have a winner! This story almost made me sick because it’s the precursor to what my parents have become-but now exponentially so much worse. It escalated so badly to the point where he is basically a prisoner of her rage. He won’t make a single move without her permission. Her behavior is spot on for the same bipolar that my best friend was diagnosed with by multiple doctors and she was treated for. My mom on the other hand does not “have” a problem and everyone else is the problem in her mind. So no doctor. She briefly saw a therapist but I’m guessing he figured her out and once sh-t got real and the real talk began-she noped out. Because her fantasy of how things are are much better than the reality that she’s just a monster. She had meds briefly from a general practitioner but stopped taking them (and I quote:) “because they made her too nice and she couldn’t get anything done with her partner”. So she quit them. Rage monster is putting it mildly. Toss in some absolutely psycho threats to his family or wild manipulation of friends that harm reputations and ruin relationships and sprinkle in some “hits like a man” punches and you’ve got my mom. Oh I forgot the stalking and isolation. The guy is not my bio dad but he is my dad to me. He’s wonderful and kind. A lover, not a fighter. He has been a wonderful dad to me when I barely had one otherwise. It kills me that he won’t leave her “because love”. They aren’t married and he could leave so easily if he just would, but he won’t. Only temporarily and he comes to me after one of these battering episodes. He’s too ashamed to go anywhere else. I’ve talked until I’m blue in the face trying to get him to stop allowing her to do this to him or to call the police but he refuses. She’s always been beautiful and sexy and men never could tell her no to anything. The abhorrent behavior that they’ll put up with just to be near an attractive woman is crazy to me. She’ll beat you up, lie, scream at you, cheat on you, take all your money and STILL “beauty” is worth it? This man could go get a slightly less attractive woman who treats him like a king and his life would be a million times better and happier and he could easily see his family and friends and not be controlled with an iron fist. But no. She’s wildly abusive and bat sh-t crazy BUT she’s hot-so the absolute hell is apparently worth it 😂

[@ebagentj]

Story 2: I had a similar condition. It started when I was in middle school, and I never hurt anyone or broke anything, but I would scream and it apparently got really scary for both my classmates and my teachers, who eventually made me getting help as a condition for being allowed back. I got therapy and medication. It turns out it was a trauma response, and what triggered it was me feeling cornered, physically or emotionally, not helped by me being a frequent target of bullying (which is why it always happened at school). I wasn't even a legal adult when I got treated for it and learned how to manage it (along with some other things linked to my depression, anxiety, and PTSD). Wife needs to see a psychiatrist and get this shit figured out.

[@JasperCatProductions]

Don’t clean up rage wife’s messes, like a drunk. Leave the mess the destruction let them deal with it. Leave until she gets her mind together.

[@DisneyChar]

S2 nta, that's abuse, she literally has violent outbreaks, if the gender was swapped you would be told to run. Her sickness doesn't excuse her being an abuser.

[@kazzuo32]

#2. Nta. "Emotion regulation issues " that sounds like a nightmare for the husband.

[@132karissanelson]

Story 2- she needs medication. Why is she not medicated? If she isn't going to take accountability for her health then he needs to leave.

[@socialmoon]

It's not rude to tell people that you're not interested in socialising, as long as you're not actually rude about it. Smile, be friendly, & explain that you're an introvert, that you don't have the time or energy for another friendship, that you simply want to sit in silence & be left alone with your thoughts, etc. Sure, a lot of people will think you're weird, but they're not people worth knowing anyway.

[@drea4195]

Sometimes people just flip. There's no rational explanation for someone's behavior when they have mental health issues. And, it isn't uncommon for people to suddenly have a psychotic break and do a 180 with their attitude or behavior. In your 20s is one of the most likely times for this to happen. OP just might have known this guy who was sane at the time, and then had his psychotic break right after graduation. It does happen.

[@boredchannel1191]

This is my official request for more bloopers.

[@missionsquirrel]

I'm very excited by the end of this episode 😂😂 your brain went Monty Python and Borat in the same way mine did 😂

[@TheScaletIbisNW]

Story 2: has your wife had her blood sugar, hormones, ect tested. Im hypoglycemic and in a much better place now. However, under deep stress my blood sugar can go hay wire, and I could have serious melt downs. Your wife needs a full blood panel and seriously her counselor should have dismissed her a long time ago because her behavior is clearly out of her scope. She needs a psychiatrist. You also shouldn't put up with this.

[@DominosAndHearts]

I agree 100% with you on story 1 markee

[@timbit8670]

😂😂😂😂 loving the bloopers almost got in trouble at work but it was worth it 😂😂😂😂

[@lexie7753]

Borat outtake finished me 🤣

[@person2463]

The Monty python was too much 😂😂😂😂

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

The Life of Brian bit in the bloopers took me out. Thanks Markee!

[@leviathan8215]

Dude I kind of don’t care if your wife has mental illness that’s abuse, you need to go

[@northeastoperations]

Guy in last story needs to record that shit when it happens so she doesn't claim he was beating HER. He doesn't need to use it but it will be important if the police show up.

[@theconfusedvampire]

Story 2: Not intending to "diagnosis", but, if she has Intermittent Explosive Disorder like my father it could be dangerous. My bio father almost killed me by accident when I was 5, because, he threw a stereo across the room. He wasn't paying attention to his surroundings and it almost hit me in the face while I was watching TV. He just straight up couldn't see me there, he was just that mad over a board game. What if she gets this blind rage around a small child and an accident happens? Good or bad intentions don't matter here. She needs help.

[@sambam2285]

I'm loving the backgrounds and bloopers

[@yef122]

Love the Monty Python blooper 😂

[@amberluppens3292]

Kinda off topic, but I think it’s such a strange choice to one day decide to just… cut off every single person you knew from school. It’s so hard to make friends as an adult, when you’re going to school you’re around the same people like 8 hours a day 5 days a week excluding breaks, so it’s really easy to forge bonds when you’re basically on each others lip for that much time, and once you’re done with school that gets much harder, because yeah you have work colleagues but it’s still different and outside of that there aren’t as many opportunities, so to just one day to decide to cut off all friends you made before adulthood it so crazy to me

[@humanbeing8948]

Story 2: check if she was drinking soy milk. Soy can affect a person's mood and personality. I had a family member who was really mean to everyone. Their moods completely flipped after they stopped drinking soy.

[@livevine3351]

Bipolar pr borderline. My last relationship was like this, was a very sweet and funny girl but had a lot of panic attacks and it could go a few ways, passing out, crying, being terrified of me if I got slightly frustrated with some of the stuff shed say to me, as one of the biggest episodes that stood out, would be her anger, I was never good enough, everything was my fault, all my life choices were bad but she also didnt care about my past and how it affects my life, I need to do everything yesterday to fix any issue...I'm happy to be single and I cant see myself easily getting into a relationship again.

[@kmaguire7161]

I love it when OP's pop off on Reddit users for being absolute fuckwits and making up scenarios that are not based in reality.

[@elsl669]

A markee video dropped just as I am going to work! Whooo! 🎉 thank you ^^ made my commute bearable lol

[@mnicolee175]

Story 2- sounds like undiagnosed BPD and she needs help .. op is not an asshole for how he feels at all. He needs to do what’s best for him and she needs to do what’s best for her (getting help)

[@FoxBlack.]

Pretty weird for it to be so cyclical. Could be a birth control issue etc, who knows. But there's no point sticking around and putting energy into someone freaking out that often.

[@mnicolee175]

@@FoxBlack. yeah.. I didn’t put that into perspective .. maybe. I was only speculating because I had similar emotional/behavioral problems before I got diagnosed and helped. But it is weird. He needs to do what’s best for him and I hope she takes this as a learning lesson and get the help she needs

[@AWildJirachi]

Is anyone else getting the vibe of potential drug use from the former classmate in Story 1?

[@LololoriShow]

The rage is a few times a year? Shes hogging an 8 ball and gets the rage when its all done!😅😂

[@fireflyinnocence]

Omg that Borat impression made me spit my soda out my nose 😂

[@guldobean1217]

Story 2: I've got bipolar, so I feel a bit more qualified to address the idea of the wife's rage fits not being related to Bipolar at all. I've had bouts of being unmedicated for my bipolar for years at a time, and 4 major meltdowns per year is a REALLY small amount for a person with untreated Bipolar. I've had that many in a singular week, at that level of intensity during my time of the month ALONE. So i can say with a degree of certainty that the wife doesn't have bipolar. And that's not even touching on an "episode" for the condition not even having to be violent. In a manic state, violent outbursts are more likely, but so are things like impulse buying. And with bipolar, that manic state lasts for MONTHS. A 1 day temper tantrum 4 times per year does not mean she has bipolar. It might mean she's just abusive.

[@patty-pat-pat]

That title is fantastic lol 🤣🤣🤣

[@heatheraucoin5832]

I love the Halloween backdrop So pretty 😍

[@nightdweller6446]

S1. Nta and expecting a drink as someone who no longer acknowledges your existence isn't the adult you want to hang with. No drinks for him and nta. Then tattling to teacher? He's acting very childish. Just move on and ignore him. From the update: dude definitely has developed a mental health problem. Much better to give him a wide berth after his blow up. S2. Nta but this woman needs actual professional help from a real psychologist/psychiatrist. These outbursts are not normal and require treatment not placating.

[@Clairski3]

The woman in the 2nd story needs to see a psychiatrist and have her brain chemistry evaluated. This sounds severe, but a lot of amygdala flare-ups can be treated so easily. I’m in group therapy for bipolar (I do not think the wife has bipolar, btw) and in my group there was a guy with unexplained fits of rage. He went for a brain scan and it turns out his brain had very violent reactions to red food colouring. He went on a specific diet and hasn’t had a violent episode in 3 years. I’m nog saying every problem is an easy fix, but the wife does seem to want to take responsibility for the episodes - so why doesn’t she extend this responsibility to seeking out proper treatment?

[@Techischannel]

Story 2: I'm pretty certain she has exactly what i got. And i have myself, no clue on what actually causes it. Though it does involve impulse control and exposure to said outburts to improve on the person's reaction time (and early warning) on when a outburst happens. From personal experience, its like a sudden wave of i dont know what, that quite literally takes over your body and causes you to act hyper agressive towards anything including yourself. Training in impulse control, stress avoidance, and self-awareness seem to help with both subduing the take-over/outburst more quickly while also helping with early detection and with mental focus, avoiding it happening alltogether. Also from personal experience: I find emotions and especially said outbursts to be extremely draining ... mentally, physically and emotionally plus i obviously feel quite bad afterwards as i was loud, mean, and overall extremely unpleasant. Its basically either close to nothing, or a hardline for anything that can rapily switch over and over again, basically being sent into a tailspin. (Some emotions are so strong sometimes they cause very real pain, doesnt even have to be a inherently bad emotion. And seeing they only happen with OP means that there is something between OP and Her that causes them to happen, i wouldnt know what, because while i had some outburts that occour thanks to person-to-person interaction ... these people were cruel, careless and overall mean. And most of mine happen due to some yet-to-be-known factors ... sadly in very public places. I'm guessing stress caused by being in larger groups? Overwork? Underwork? I really dont know but i wish i did so i could do something about it. Anyway, enough ramble, thats my comment on the matter. Its really complex, really weird, and i wish it didnt ever happen and i could have instead lived a, even if a bit boring, normal life.

[@zeroCY_]

5:23 I’d just ignore him and not buy drinks for him like your not here you are invisible but that’s in my opinion.

[@epjetta]

He returned the energy he received. NTAH

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

Seemingly unpopular opinion but the wife in story 2 seems abusive to me. I still hope she gets help but beyond that I still sense she's just abusive

[@kazzuo32]

18:54 lol... Markee is to funny😂😂😂😂😂😂 20:23

[@cindykq8086]

Woman with the anger fits sounds bipolar. He really needs to get out before she escalates to hurting him. If he defends himself, no cop will believe he wasn't being abusive to her.

[@nevadeva]

Story one: the guy dubbing old classmates has some faulty logic! Most people he will associate have been in School at some point. It makes no sense to avoid certain people just because you went to school with them and view them as immature. EVERYONE has been in school at some point so you’re dealing with former students everywhere wether they’re from his school or somewhere else. What diff does it make if they went to the same school YOU went to as if by sharing a school with you that makes them incapable of becoming mature… wtf?!

[@MrsKatieninja]

As someone who has rage episodes like that, i know its awful for her but i ALSO know i NEED HELP and have been looking for help for years......also the crazy hot scale is why hes with her 😂

[@Elizabeth-ud8su]

Who even says that? If you don't want to hang out with someone, don't. You don't need to announce it. Weird

[@alleycatalog]

Mum, have I got a big nose?

[@lorifiedler13]

Hope the dude doesn't wait until his wife has another episode. He needs to give her a timeling to see see a psychologist, not just a therapist.

[@deballen7031]

Welcome back, Markee. There were some whacky ones in this batch! 😂

[@stuffedninja1337]

As someone who was an emotional (and eventually physical, which is when i ended it) punching bag, yeah. The term fits here. Wonder if he’s the frog in boiling water.

[@tinycrimester]

story 2: oh yeah no, op is in danger. gtfo now.

[@tartlynerdy]

Story 1 - NTA. lol wtf? I like how people tried their hardest to paint op as the instigator and bully here instead of the guy being rude to everyone and then losing his job because of it. I doubt it's mental issues. The other guy just genuinely sounds like a jerk. It's choosing begging behavior at minimum to expect someone you cut ties with to buy you a drink just because they're buying everyone else a drink.

[@nanoglitch6693]

Story 1, yet another story where someone isn't genuinely seeking an aita check, they just want to rant about someone and form a little echo chamber.

[@emte4236]

Was that messiah blooper from Life of Brian? 🤣

[@macylouwho1187]

Dudes not the AH but I think it could have been played more suavely. Give him exactly what he wants-to leave him alone. Buy everyone else there the drink but him, but look at him and say so the group can hear a sincere “don’t worry sir, I remember what you said and will always respect your boundaries.” Then drop it completely and don’t talk to or look at him ever again. He’s officially a ghost-just there but you can’t see him or hear him. Ignore his existence moving forward. Guaranteed curiosity would get the better of someone in that group as to why you said that, to which you could then explain privately what he said to you. That would spread from person to person and he would get backed off of hard by others who wouldn’t want to deal with his weird drama.

[@EllieC130]

I can't lie... I could actually see myself from about a year ago doing something like what happened in Story 1; I was personally in a very weird place mentally that I was trying very hard to pick through but some days, it would feel like it would be really easy to just get super upset out of fucking nowhere. I never got any kind of diagnosis but at best I could guess it was like severely untreated social anxiety. So yeah, I don't think the guy is justified and OP is 100% NTA but I don't necessarily think the guy was in his right mind. The closest I can get to explaining it is it's simultaneously feeling everyone is unfairly making you feel like an outsider while desperately trying to find the thing that will make people like you/accepting you don't deserve to be liked. Shit is tough but again, it's no excuse to do this shit, it's just a reason.