'AITA for Telling My Niece the Family Secret?' -- Reddit Story

[@robynkamira7294]

As a mum to a 2 year old I am SOBBING. I can’t imagine my loved ones AGREEING to erase me from my child’s memory

[@sarahakm]

My son is 2 and knows who mama and dada are. I cry thinking about how the niece was old enough to know who to call mama, but was young enough to then be told otherwise and grow up thinking her step-mom/aunt was mama.

[@kris.........]

Literally

[@candiedolives5340]

@@sarahakm I have a feeling that there was probably a lot of gas lighting (and worse, psychologically speaking) going on.

[@UnicornsPoopRainbows]

Ditto. I'd be haunting mofos!! I can't imagine how that much gas lighting at such a young age can effect you

[@stormiejojackson]

Agreed. It's absolutely DISGUSTING.

[@Shawn-rq4py]

OPs last Update: “Laura reached out to me & my parents. She is safe and with her girlfriend “. Nothing else by Op

[@miaknox9006]

What’s the user? I’d like to read the post

[@xo3535]

@@miaknox9006 same

[@Ebunoluwa13]

I wouldn't even reach out to the grandparents to be honest. No excuse could make up for going along with the lies. They had access 24/7 to Laura for 18yr and they STILL said nothing. They could've told her at the age where Laura could make her own decisions and keep in contact with them herself

[@pickedceasar1216]

@@Ebunoluwa13 they were clearly scared of the parents. You could say a similar thing about the OP

[@munmun07]

@@pickedceasar1216 i agree with you i don't think its the grandparent's fault they just wanted to be involved in their grandkid's life. i can't imagine what they went through losing your daughter and then both psychos doing all the crap

[@rhythmictiger]

Interesting that Laura found her aunt to be 'different from what she was told' as implies they were smack talking the aunt to try and stop this. Absolutely disgusting that they erased Kim's memory.

[@katiep3027]

Erasing the whole existence of her mom is so disgusting. Straight evil almost, and then for the family to keep it up for nearly 20 years... I think there was definitely cheating there. I don't buy the whole "she would want them to be happy" to justify being together. I'd want my kid and my husband and my family to be happy. But not TOGETHER. I also see marriage as a complete union as a family, so in my eyes, theyre all family even Tom. If I was Laura, I'd never speak to them again. I'd erase their existence like they did to my mom.

[@geekyguirl]

I would erase everyone who kept up the charade, but the aunt was the only one who did the right thing. Laura deserves to know who her mother was, and that she wanted her. NOT THE ASSHOLE! You did the right thing hun, and I hope Laura reaches out to you when she's ready, so she still has the part of her family she know will always tell her the truth.

[@yinyang6672]

True, plus was Tom like “Oh Kim was my wife” or did he not say anything about his relationship with Kim. Also they probably never when to her grave because it would have said something around the lines of loving mother and wife, sometimes, with the child and partners name.

[@andrewjacquot6086]

@@geekyguirl op did update apparently and said that Laura contacted them and said that she was safe and with her girlfriend.

[@simodn28]

They’re both disgusting people, not only the father! What sister wants to vanish all memory of her sister and steal her life?!? For me she’s even worse, he’s the dad, always has been always will. But she’s her aunt!

[@madnessarcade7447]

Was it her sister? I thought he married a rando maybe I misheard that part

[@simodn28]

@@madnessarcade7447 yes, there were 3 sisters. OP, the one that died and the one that pretends to be Laura’s mom.

[@Evanescence1231001]

As someone who has a sister, if she has kids and then god forbids something bad happens, I will do EVERYTHING in my power to make sure that they know everything about her and keep her memory going

[@Ebunoluwa13]

The kind of sister that moves on with her dead sister's husband. Is it a western thing for that to be acceptable? No matter our relationship the minute that dude married my sister he became my brother theoretically even if we don't get along. So how do you explain leaving all the single NON RELATED men in the world and only finding your brother in law/brother in love (if the relationshipwas close) to fall in love with just because yoir sister is now dead? That's just not okay

[@meowiestwo]

@@Ebunoluwa13 no. Don’t think it’s a western thing. Most people I know would find this absolutely unacceptable. I would never do something like this to my sisters.

[@meredithburnsed8462]

As someone who found out at age 22 that my dad wasn’t my bio dad, my bio dad was really his brother (my uncle) who passed before I could tell him I knew the truth, I can absolutely say the OP is not the AH. The sister and dad are! I was devastated. And I know Laura is too. Do NOT do this to your kids. I don’t care how “good” you think your intentions are.

[@crism.d.9242]

Wow... How are you doing?

[@massis9069]

How are you?

[@animerlon]

Hope you're doing well & found balance in your life. You're so right. The path to hell is paved with good intentions. I had a boyfriend who found out around age 15 that his 'mom' & 'uncles' were his siblings, so his brother & sister were his nephew & niece & grandpa was really dad. His conception was an accident that his mom didn't want to deal with since she had recently become an empty nester when her daughter left to get married. She just left town one day & didn't look back. Unfortunately, i'm sure he found out in the worst way possible cause he had a rough time processing it & was still dealing years later.

[@violetmoon6233]

🥺🙏😢😢💚

[@moldyreesescups]

thank you for sharing your story. i was wondering if anyone had been through this, but hoped it was an isolated event. i’m sorry for what you’ve been through, and i hope that you’ve been able to find all the happiness and joy you deserve after enduring that ❤️

[@KyanosBFF]

Changed Laura’s NAME. To something JANE wanted. What the hell. I’m happy to see in the description that Laura is safe. Thank god-

[@jesystar]

I think Jane has equal blame here, she was the Sister!!!... where is the loyalty? Kim was her blood! Jane sounds like the jealous type probably always wanted what kim had... I.e. : her man and her daughter. This story is absolutely disturbing.

[@susu_m]

Jane is the worst in this to me.

[@Ebunoluwa13]

Being blood is EXACTLY why she has MORE blame. Also what I got fr the story is that it was Jane's decision to begin with Tom just went along with it

[@Xxxypher]

OP sounds like the only sane one in the family. The way Tom 'made' everyone to promise such matters has some serious manipulation vibes.

[@MovableNu]

More than vibes. Flat out manipulation. I’m RAGING over this!

[@janejones7638]

Exactly. If the grandparents didn't agree to this the child would be alone with her manipulative parents. At least the parents could provide a safe place because Laura's "parents" were horrible, terrible, and absolutely monstrous people. I'm glad that Laura finally got the messages from her mother. Hopefully that'll bring Laura some peace.

[@esmooth919]

I agree

[@pearlycomplaints]

JUSTICE FOR KIM I hope everyone reading/listening learns from Kim’s experience. If sadly you find yourself in a situation where you won’t be there to see your child grow up, please protect yourself and your memory. Leave belongings, make copies of videos and photos. Leave them with multiple trusted people and possibly get a lawyer involved to make sure your wishes for your child and your tokens of love make it to your children/loved ones. Even if you trust someone unconditionally things can happen and having insurance is always smart. I in no way blame Kim for not doing this cause who would ever imagine this happening, but unfortunately it did, let’s not repeat this situation.

[@hyrunnisa997]

Getting a lawyer is a really good idea.

[@lizbethpliego1771]

This is so so deeply heartbreaking. I don’t understand how this couple could do this. So happy OP told Laura. She deserved the right to know. Poor thing will need years of therapy now.

[@tpgriff5032]

There had to be cheating and some animosity between real mom & aunt mom. If there wasn't then why make it like she didn't exist. I don't fault the Grandparents for going along with it so they could know their granddaughter. I've seen the pain caused by people not allowing their children to know/spend time with Grandparents. It has a devastating affect on people and the kids miss out too.

[@xxprettyrwbyxx3857]

Thank you that's exactly what I'm saying they can try to say they weren't sleeping around with each other behind Kim's back when she was alive all they want the evidence is futile cuz either of them really cared and loved and respected Kim when she was alive this would not be happening 😐 Jane literally sat here and stole Kim's a life right when she died it's obvious she has always been jealous of her for a long time and Tom most definitely was sleeping with Jane to go along with this crap cuz if he genuinely loved Kim like how a real husband should this would not be happening right now

[@Ebunoluwa13]

But the grandparents had a few years to tell Laura in secret and STILL didn't. They fully planned on keeping it a secret for the rest of Laura's life and NO reason justifies that

[@politereminder6284]

They did it to hide their own shame

[@simodn28]

This is so psychopathic that if the mom died from something else instead of cancer, like an accident, I would suspect if they did something. It has happened before.

[@nataleighjones4596]

SAME!!!

[@jenniferblake3224]

The dad and Jane(?) can’t even blame this on some sudden decision for the good of the daughter. The bio mom didn’t die suddenly or a quick accident, it was at least over the course of a couple of months at least and they probably watched bio mom fret and worry over her daughters future while sick and dying.

[@nameunknown1519]

Forget just cheating, are they sure Tom and Jane didn’t have a hand in Kim’s ending??? All of this seems way to convenient 🤨

[@gloriabarrientos3546]

I thought the exact same thing

[@jackieluvsfashion5200]

I wouldn’t be surprised smh

[@crystaltaylor3320]

I wouldn't be surprised because this is all too convenient and it's all falling weirdly in place sounds like they offed her to have her sister take her place and take on her role

[@schokococoa575]

It makes me think it was a poisoning and not cancer tbh. It’s just too convenient

[@xdani_thethinkingneko]

I was literally just about to come at the same thing. It's just way too strange.

[@bethspall4458]

How do people get with their siblings ex’s or husbands etc 🤢🤢 they should of been too busy grieving and concentrate on looking after Laura instead of getting with each other as soon as Kim passed. That’s vile! Seems like they were waiting for her to pass before making it official by getting engaged then married and having kids are their own. I understand why the grandparents did what they did. They lost their daughter, it would be even further soul crushing to lose their granddaughter out of their lives too! All we can hope for is that Laura is thriving and doing really really well considering. Hopefully she’s still in contact with grandparents and OP and completely cut off Tom and Jane.

[@Claire-lu8hf]

Laura was 2 when she watched her mother slowly die. She many not have any memories but that definitely left an impact on her brain. She could have abandonment issues and not even know why because they hid this from her

[@calico_queen8976]

And the fact Kim and Jane are sisters. If this was a random woman, it would be more understandable but for her to basically erase her own sister from her daughter's life is just awful. I'd be so disgusted if someone did this to my sister. They definitely planned this while she was dying and it's despicable to think about.

[@anlydaly5726]

Not to defend the husband or anything but I want to know why no one is talking about the sister's involvement in this, like obviously what the husband did is a ass move but Jane and Kate were sisters! How much you have to hate your family to condone this behavior from your husband?!

[@soccersinger101]

I don't understand how ANYONE can erase someone's own existence. The father and Jane are absolute monsters. The mother literally made videos to make sure her on daughter would know who she was and they decided to never let their daughter handle or deal with that closure. This terrifies me. To imagine that all my loved ones would remove my existence as a mother from my daughter. Edit: I hope Laura is okay. I really hope OP updates this so wr can at least know that Laura is okay

[@alejandravidal8992]

I don't know why I feel Jane was jealous of Kim, why did she agree to keep her life? She even changed the girl's name because Kim chose her name. She just wanted her sister's life

[@sadlystuckinreality]

Oh my. Thank god she had the videos still! I can't believe the dad got rid of that stuff, it's disgusting!

[@evd186]

The motivation to erase her makes me think they were messing around before she died. Guilty people want to erase things that make them remember

[@launimelton9872]

So sad for Laura. She could have had a mom in heaven watching over her and a mom on earth guiding her and being there day to day. They cheated her and I’m sure left her with huge trust issues.

[@hutchyyy6444]

"Why would you... Fuck this dude, this is so bad!" I feel like your reaction in this moment is exactly how I feel about the whole situation.

[@JugglingFinance]

I scrolled down to your comment the same time she said she this 😂😂

[@Alisha8596]

Your right, some people really do terrible things. My daughters dad married this horrible lady that ended up being charged with child abuse of our daughter. He cut all contact with our child after the court said his wife can't be at his visitations. Hasn't seen her for almost 2 years now. Some people shouldn't be parents.

[@dealwithit9772]

Im probably just thinking this because the reddit universe is wild but sounds like Jane wanted to straight up steal Kim's life. Tom would be horrible for letting that happen if it wasn't his idea. I Keep imaging this woman sitting there, "Ah, this is my house, my family, my husband , and my daughter." And just reveling that she accomplished it. Again that's just me thinking the worst. Lol

[@animerlon]

Absolutely my thinking.

[@PatchaChel]

It sounds like a gaslighting movie

[@madelinelewis5165]

Absolutely the AH, HOW could they have decided to hide Laura from her bio mom, who wanted to have her daughter know who she was. The family are horrible for hiding the truth from her. I hope she gets closer to op and can learn more about her mom.

[@Firentheashes]

Wait you think the OP is the AH?

[@sleebybear9280]

@@Firentheashes I think they mean OP's family

[@danyeldoyle9685]

I don’t understand why these people who do this. If I was their mom I would of talked to the sister and husband about how wrong this is. You can’t just erase your sister and your dead wife. I don’t even know why you would want to do this.

[@liafcelestino14]

Is it just me or did Jane and Tom gave some vibes that Kim's illness seem to be planned by them? Anyway this story is crazy! I don't know how they could've done something like that!

[@lotusquinn101]

I was thinking the same thing! I'm kinda glad i wasn't the only one thinking that!

[@DixieC]

How can a MOTHER allow their child to completely erase her other daughters memory! Her dead daughter!? How! Like wtf? “Tried to get them to reconcile” she sounds like a door Matt. Absolutely disgraceful and I’m so happy the sister didn’t let it go.

[@srhfitzpatrick]

There are other instances where two people grieving the loss of the same person, find comfort in each other. I don’t know if that is at all what happened here. Jane could’ve been envious of Kim and then seized her opportunity.

[@srhfitzpatrick]

I think the grandparents going along with the lie is justified and I hope Laura forgives them when she is ready. They had lost their daughter, they couldn’t lose her too. Tom and Jane gave them no choice.

[@Riyaanreality]

Not to mention Laura knows of Kim (not as her mom) from her grandparents. Although she didn’t know that was her mother she was still introduced to her as opposed to Laura not knowing of Kim’s existence.

[@Z.O.1991]

At some point, if they helped financially taking care of the child, or took care of the child in any other way, they could had gone to court for grandparent rights.

[@Claire-pd8ce]

Tbh I don‘t. They could‘ve told her once she got older and help her get away from those two psychos. The mistake they made was wait until she was 18 and still not tell her

[@laytonpro8655]

This is heartbreaking. My mum is one of the most important people in my life and I can not imagine my life without her or without knowing her existence. If I found out my family erased my mums existence I would go insane

[@jackietyce]

They should make this into a documentary. It's crazy to see a plot for a movie play out in real life

[@BK-2003]

I feel like y'all just glossed over the fact that the "mom" is the dead woman's literal sister 😭 she's so much more fucked up than the husband imo, that was her literal family. She was so willing to erase her sister from existence and steal her life. But the husband is no saint either, getting w his dead wife's sister immediately. And like y'all said, they were def cheating before she died. Such evil, heartless pigs. I think they killed her, honestly. The way they show such contempt for the dead woman is insane. And to do this to Laura, she's gonna be fucked up for life & just lost both of her parental figures.

[@PrismCasillica]

Just checked the post: The only update was that Laura reached out to OP and her parents. Laura is safe and staying with her girlfriend.

[@desireemudry]

Classic case of making a choice between what is right and what is easy.

[@MegaAlanaaaa]

but it would’ve been 10000x easier to just let Laura know about her bio mom

[@mothertruckeronajourney8037]

People are shredding the dad, and these folks don't seem to realize the new mom was the real mom's sister. They didn't seem to understand when she said the blood would be the same. It's not just the dad who is responsible here. This woman (jane) is ALSO betraying her own sister for not telling her daughter she is her aunt who adopted her. So, while the dad IS a monster, the new mom is not just some random woman. She is even more of a monster because that was her SISTER who's daughter she essentially stole.

[@sksunshine4860]

My cousin found out she had stage 4 breast cancer when she was pregnant with her son. She died when he was 9 months and her sister took care of him while his dad was working. They ended up getting married when he was 2 and their situation is so opposite. There are pictures, videos and memories of her everywhere and he knows what happened and why his aunt is now his mom. TBH, this sounds like guilt on Tom's side and jealousy on Jane's. Either way, she's not the asshole.

[@pearlycomplaints]

I’ve listened to a LOT of these stories on THT and this one is going to stick with me. I’m absolutely DISGUSTED and LIVID. They don’t have any respect for Kim, at all! I feel like if I were the sister and grandparents I would have found some legal way to fight back on this. There has to have been some sort of deceased parental rights, like suing for throwing this stuff out or something. Jane’s behavior is abhorrent, to go so far as to change Laura’s name and taking that from Kim and claiming Laura has her own. Jane has zero love for Kim. A story has never made me this distraught. I’ve never felt the need to comment on any of these videos but I’m so upset about this story.

[@PatchaChel]

So the entire family gaslighted that kid. What a terrible family

[@aishahkhawari5352]

I’m currently pregnant and on bed rest due to debilitating pain. This pregnancy has not been easy, but I’m powering through with the knowledge that my baby is healthy. I can’t imagine someone just robbing her of me, of my memory after all this 😢

[@astrelle_slytherin6255]

If they adopted her, but keep her mother spirit in their house and tell her at the good Time, but no they really erased her from all the family ?!?! How the parents of the mother could have Say yes ??? They were okay to erased their daughter ?!?!? Lauras reaction is totally understable and i Hope she Never Come back to their adoptive parents and even thé rest of the family Thats was okay with thé situation ... Telling the secret was the best choice ever

[@animerlon]

Jane & Tom are despicable, they betrayed both Kim & Laura. Not only denying Kim's parentage but changing the name she chose to one that Jane prefers is outrageous. I have a feeling that Jane wanted Kim's life even before Kim got sick & maybe sleazed her way in to help Tom through the illness & death, but who knows the extent & timing of Tom's willingness to get involved. Eradicating Kim's connection to Laura may have been a way to combat any guilt feelings, but i strongly feel Jane is the bigger culprit & that she wanted to totally deny Kim ever had anything to do with Tom & Laura, hence the name change. I hope Laura can forgive her grandparents & re-establish a relationship. I'm sure they thought going along with the lie was the only way to be able to watch her grow up. I also hope she gets to know her aunt & doesn't totally cut contact with her half siblings. Jane & Tom can go rot in hell though.

[@somaa4050]

Screw the sister that married her husband and was ok with erasing her own sister who died before her time. Like how horrible can you be? I can’t even imagine doing that to anyone let alone family. The husband is horrible but the betrayal is worse coming from her sister.

[@secoolin]

I watch a lot of your episodes & I can hold back tears for most. but this one…I couldn’t. prayers to OP & Laura. ♥️

[@krystalrose5874]

As a mother this makes my blood boil! I cannot believe that they're mad at the aunt! Are you fucking kidding me? They should have been honest with that child since she was old enough to understand! It is their own fault for not telling her the truth not anybody else's.

[@ltlredhen4177]

I can't believe they erased that baby's Mom. That's insane, actually insane. I'm so glad she found out. They don't even know if what's in the permafrost can effect humans yet, I read about that.

[@emilymanos2855]

I want to know how Kim died….sounds like she knew her death was coming but if it turns out Tom had something to do with it I wouldn’t be shocked.

[@brittanylockwood6085]

Not the AH. I could maybe see why OP’s family chose to keep the secret. Maybe they were genuinely terrified of losing contact with their granddaughter. Maybe the former husband and sister threatened them with that. Especially if the sister adopted her. It’s hard to get grandparents rights if there is a parent involved and they aren’t neglecting their child. So I can’t necessarily blame them IF they were worried about losing contact with Laura. In regards to the husband and sister…wrong on so many levels. I damn well bet they were cheating. Two, it sounds to me like Jane wanted to erase the bio mom out of the picture. I can’t imagine Tom did that all on his own. I mean, did he not love his wife at all!? Just sounds like she controlled the situation from day one. To Laura, I feel for her. I hope that she and OP have a much stronger relationship, and that maybe she’s able to rebuild a relationship with her maternal grandparents who may have had no choice but to go along with it. In regards to her “parents”…I would cut contact and have absolutely nothing to do with them ever again. The move to erase her biological mother from her life was cold and calculating. Especially when the mom wanted her daughter to know about her, and made videos for that purpose.

[@Youtubing5999]

That is so disgusting. Especially since there were videos of her birth mom. That is evil

[@AnonANGL]

I actually found out my dad was not my biological father this year (I'm 20), everyone in my family knew. However, my family had their reasons, and I get them. But this? Nah. This is such a horrible thing to do. At least I get a chance to know my bio dad, if I want to. The fact that they took every part of her mother from her was so shitty. She didn't have her mom growing up, but they kept everything her mom left behind for her, from her. That's horrible. I hope she's ok.

[@gcarr1089]

Glad OP kept the messages for the niece. Laura has had the rug pulled out from under her, she needs time to put her life together. The life she lived was a lie now she needs to put back in all the missing pieces. Once she has repaired herself then she will contact the family if she feels she can. They are going to have to work really hard to gain back any trust, it will not be easy.

[@esthersim9216]

Adults do so many f*ed up things to kids because of their own selfishness. When I was 4, my parents had a nasty divorce because my mom cheated on my dad. So he got full custody of my brother and I, and I was told that my mom died. I was young and naive so I believed my dad’s side of the family. Years later, I found out that she was still alive and I was so confused and felt betrayed. Of course I have issues from my past, family drama etc, but as a mom of 2 little kids now, I try my best to be the parent that I needed as a child. My kids will always come first and would do anything for them.

[@amandahedden4965]

I’m so sad for this girl. I truly couldn’t imagine someone erasing me from my child. Like she died-- she didn’t abandon her and run away- the fact that the grand parents went along with it is even sadder.

[@violetmoon6233]

I'm sobbing 😭this needs to be a movie 🥺😢how can anyone do this ??? 😔I'm so invested I have a stomach ache 😔. This is heartbreaking on so many levels 💔🕯️I hope Laura can heal & reach out to her aunty .

[@sherylmezinis6202]

Finding out something like this destroys the life you have built and are living. Equilibrium is shot. Dramatically changes who you perceive you are and the people around claiming they love you.

[@madambutterfly1997]

What makes me even more disgusted is that they played off their Affairs as if it was an accident Affairs are planned they don't just happen when you cheat that is a conscious decision you preemptively make unless of course it was involuntary and you were roofied and that's the only scenario where you cheating is forgivable

[@trinity2145]

This is just heartbreaking on so many levels. As I was listening to it. I had tears in my eyes. So sad. I’d like to know how this has ended. And how Laura is doing. I feel so bad for that young lady. Op is NTA

[@jadeitegray3531]

The dad clearly didn't love his late wife and was 100% cheating the whole time

[@athomas641]

I’m so disturbed by this. Like I could sympathize more if her mom like abandoned her or was a terrible mother. But her mom loved her and died and created memories for her daughter. He was cheating on Kim, because some not all do not move on that quickly and they do not try and erase the memory of their child’s parent because they are grieving too

[@madnessarcade7447]

Morgan I’m not sure if it was intentional but the title of the video makes it seem like a movie plot where they reveal the family are secretly superheroes or something lmao

[@TwoHotTakes]

Haha this is so true. If only that were the case 🥺

[@madnessarcade7447]

@@TwoHotTakes true or supervillains instead ig

[@FloridaKatLady]

This is so painful to hear! That's terrifying that her Dad could erase her Mom like that! Horrible! Evil!

[@samsonjones9332]

This is SOOOOOO SAD, like I could cry RIGHT NOW at this damn restaurant 😢

[@sarasolomon4812]

I understand thr grandparents going along. They lost Kim. If they refused to comply they would lose their granddaughter Laura, and Jane would ghost them as well. It's heartbreaking, because I'm sure they saw how much Laura looks like Kim growing up. All that being said, Tom and Laura and MESSED UP. Laura essentially stole Kim's identity, and Tom enabled it. Weird weird weird.

[@kimberlybenne1121]

The other part that gets me is that it was the other sister that married her sisters husband and then tried to play off her sisters kid as hers…

[@ginab4348]

Omg this broke my heart. My older brother died leaving 3 kids under 5. I couldn’t imagine anyone so vile to not only remove every trace of him being their father and moving on like he meant nothing. But to delete videos and letters meant for the kids is disgusting! How could either of them do that? Not only him as her husband but Jane as her sister! How do you care so little about what a person you’re meant to love wanted for their child after they die. Absolutely vile.

[@spectra3300]

The grandparents of Laura should’ve fought against Tom for custody.

[@nicolecorinne]

Disgusting and a complete betrayal to the deceased mother, and the daughter. Could this have been prevented in Family Court?

[@kimberlymartyn1232]

Laura deserves to know who her mother was, also Jane didn't want anyone to speak of her sister, I believe they were cheating, why didn't Jane have her own kid

[@kantimeowpaw4693]

NTA, sometime telling someone else secret to one who deserves to know is worth saving.

[@Balgees24]

They changed her name and blackmail the grandpas? They both the devil and I hope she never talk to her dad ever again after he deleted videos that left for her by her late mother.

[@fizzydizzystudios4768]

What kind of monster is Jane to not only want Laura to not know of her Bio mother, but to FORCE her family to erase the existence of their daughter and sister from Laura’s life otherwise they would take her away from them? And don’t even get me started on Tom, oh boy! 🤬

[@Starsongzz]

I can’t believe they tried to deny her mother the right to be a mother even in death by hiding the tapes. That’s the most vile and intentional part.

[@rainbowflowerpower4464]

God, I hope wherever Laura had gone she’s okay, safe, and with people who can support her through this huge revelation, it will not be an easy thing to deal with but especially on her own.

[@DWPersianExcursion]

Love from Texas 🍍🍍

[@psicoquico8276]

My god, this is so intense, I feel happy that Laura knows the truth, although it hurts I think it's for the best.

[@غيداءالبربري]

You are not the a hole you did the right thing 😥

[@realityfairy1060]

Jane as an evil stepmother

[@MeowMeow-sy2mi]

This story is so sad 🥺🥺🥺

[@Mari-il4bw]

I grew up in a similar situation. My dad passed away when I was 6 years old and my uncle stepped in and he and my mom ended up together and I didn’t like it or understand it for a long time but as an adult I genuinely don’t think they intended on being together it was a vulnerable time for my mom especially and it’s something I think that just happened. I love my uncle, losing my dad so young he helped me through that but I don’t see him as a replacement for my dad because thankfully they did let me know who my actual dad was and my uncle made that clear that he wasn’t trying to be my dad. It’s all still a weird situation and hard to explain to people that didn’t grow up in that kind of scenario. When a sibling passes it’s probably best to not go for their brother/sister but if it happens you should let the kid know all about who their real parent is.

[@Me_1983-]

I was so hoping to hear after she said nobody knows where she's at, for the aunt to say I do... she is with me

[@HolandaChiquita]

I kinda understand to not wanting to deal with the pain of loosing a loved one. But to erase the person, especially for the only person that is still here that has the closest link to them, a child! That's utterly disgusting.

[@gatordragon8824]

Most people get chickenpox. Also, that's an incorrect definition of hoarding. Hoarding is when people attach memories to object and the things accumulate. It's often related to trauma. It's a mental issue. I had to do a full training on it for work but I don't have my notes on me at the house.

[@KniteWolfe13]

Disturbing fact.. it's actually VERY common for men to dip when they find out their female partner is terminally ill.. "A woman is six times more likely to be separated or divorced soon after a diagnosis of cancer or multiple sclerosis than if a man in the relationship is the patient, according to a study that examined the role gender played in so-called 'partner abandonment.' "

[@ky_sharkB]

This is similar to my dad's situation. He was raised by his mother's adoptive mother. He grew up thinking the woman who raised him was his real mother and the lady living next door is his "aunt". He was so confused cuz he'll be hanging and playing with his "cousins" all the time and was wondering why, despite having the same father's name, he had to return another house, while his "cousins" returned to another house. He only find out who his real family when he's about to finish high school or after that.

[@deadlymoonlight]

This happened to my friend. She passed away from Cancer and her “bestfriend” literally was sleeping with her husband before she even died.. my friend and her husband had 2 children together and when my friend died they immediately got married and had a child. Supposedly my friend said it was okay. But her husband had accidentally sent a snap to her sister claiming he loved the other girl which the snap was meant for the bestfriend.. her sister exposed him on fb calling both of them names while her sister aka HIS WIFE was in death bed sleeping with her own bestfriend… it disgusts me how there’s a lot of MEN in this world and you choose your friends/family members when there’s a lot!!! AND this girl dated my friends BROTHER before and they looked like a really good happy couple.. now she is the sister in law of his? That is disgusting af!!!!!! I hope my friend is at peace. I’m not. My friend gave this bitch a place to stay and everything and her friend paid her back by sleeping with her husband, marrying him and having kids with him after her passing.. and they are nonchalant about it. Like as if this happens everyday in their lives or some shit. And they all went to church.. and they still go to church… they really do need Jesus after all of this.

[@neitan6891]

10:45 so effed omg 😭

[@Irishrebel092]

Changing the kids name was the last straw for me. That was completely heartless

[@daniks4217]

If I was Laura... this would be totally unforgivable.

[@KimmiieDoll]

I know it’s not the same but I didn’t find out I had two older siblings till I was 13. My mother never mentioned them, never said a word to me. Not till my aunt suggested it was time. Now I barely have a relationship with either one. I knew about my bio dad but not them. I desperately want a relationship with them but it’s too late now. They have their own lives and I barely hear from them. I did meet them once when I was 16 but that was the one and only time I have seen them.

[@fionakirkwood5975]

He should have as her dad never erased her birth mum. EVER! Now it's bit them both big time. The auntie isn't at fault, she did the right thing

[@Raraking4796]

KEEP THE SENTIMENTAL THINGS!!! Keep the most sentimental items you have in a fire proof safe. Both of my parents and alll of our grandparents and most of our uncles have passed away. I am 35 and have siblings and cousins older and younger than me. Since my Dad gave to me the property that me and all my siblings grew up on the large majority of my family sentimental items were at my house. Pictures, photo albums, trophies, year books EVERYTHING my parents built and left for us including our Mom ashes,, her jewelry and 90% of everything from my Dads side of the family as my property is the last remaining property out of 4 property that belonged to my parents, my Dads parents and their other 2 sons. 2 of the 4 were sold and one was repossessed burned in a house fire 3 weeks ago. If I had a million dollars I would hand it over to get all those people back but if I couldn’t get the people back than I would hand it over to get those sentimental items. A VERY small number of important items are left but 95% of my family heirlooms were completely obliterated in my house 3 weeks and 4 days ago and I’m still so devastated. Things I saved from when my siblings were babies, things I saved from the hospital when my daughter was born, things I saved from my niece and nephews and a baby book that belonged to one of my brothers that passed away from a heart condition when he was a infant. That baby book was literally all that was left of my brother that 4 out of the 6 of us never got to meet. I could go on and on all day about the sentimental things that we lost but in this particular Reddit story this girls Dad sat down and got rid of EVERYTHING that showed his daughters Mom existence and that’s extra vile. My Dad would never have done something like this because my Dad was the kind of guy that cared about his kids!!

[@ayvidyan]

My friend during high school has a sister who got pregnant at a young age and they hid it with everyone because of teenage pregnancy they only think of what other people will say. When the kid was born she was adopted by the mom's Uncle and Auntie. She was raised as her cousin. My friend at that time told me about it and she said the guilt was eating her up but she was still too young to meddle with his parents decisions. I have no contact with her now and Idk if the kids already found out about the truth. I remembered it because of this story. I hope she is alright now and already knows the truth. My heart breaks for the kids who experience this.

[@esmooth919]

7:31 I never had an oatmeal bath, but my mom kept rubbing me down in calamine lotion daily, and I would not stop itching for the life of me! I was so glad when I got over that shit! And I was only six! Chicken pox is not fun!

[@YungNic]

As far as the story goes about the girl who got cancer and her boyfriend left her: I completely understand why he left her... Her parents were stupid holistic healers, and so was the gf! And I know I couldn't sit there and watch my GF die slowly as she refuses to get treatment at a REAL hospital... he was probably pissed off at her as well as the parents 🤷🏾‍♂️ but he still loved her, which is why he kept asking how she was doing....

[@UnscrupulousAgitator]

I couldn't imagine erasing a parent. Even in the case of my granddaughter. Her mother abandoned her before she was 2. My son made sure she "knew" her. Until she got older and decided she was "over it. If she wanted me to know her she would have been around"

[@hinarahyuga1684]

I really would like a update to this

[@ollielee493]

My ex's cousin was as weak as this man. His wife also died a few short years after giving birth to their daughter. Although his new wife didn't try to erase the memory of his wife, she treated that girl so poorly just because she was the daughter of his dead wife and the family loved her. She made sure to treat their son like gold, but the girl always got the short end of the stick. Then the new wife proceeded to tell her husband that he's forbidden to see his family. Honestly he's a weak shell of a man to allow any of this, especially the poor treatment of his own daughter.