ALOK: The Urgent Need for Compassion | The Man Enough Podcast

In a conversation filled with wisdom, historical insight, and radical mercy, ALOK talks openly about their story, their movement to #DeGenderFashion, and they challenge us to get to know who we are outside of who we have been told we should be. You don’t want to miss this episode!
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ALOK: The Urgent Need for Compassion
Do you know who you are outside of who you have been told you should be? Acclaimed gender non-conforming writer, performer, and speaker, ALOK, shares their story, and the stories of those who came before them, with an urgency that invites us to step into our power and the power of interdependence. As the creator of the growing movement to degender fashion, ALOK is helping others move beyond the binary into full expression. In a conversation filled with wisdom, historical insight, and radical mercy, ALOK challenges us to value compassion over comprehension, to try harder for each other in the name of love, and reminds us that learning is a sign of being alive.
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[@rebeccawellington-bakst1382]

I think this changed my life in ways I don’t even realize yet. Every word Alok used was so powerful and awakening

[@yournewfarther]

🤡

[@RightCitified]

I just found this-and your comment! 🥰🤗

[@RightCitified]

👉 38:22 ❤️ Start here, and KEEP LISTENING! “Are you fighting for freedom, or are you fighting for PRIVILEGE.” 💥

[@grammar8561]

He is a joke of a man

[@ItsJennNotJenny]

I just watched this with my 67 year old father and he absolutely agrees with everything Alok is saying. This just made my heart so happy. I knew he was always an open minded person willing to learn on many topics but this is something we've never discussed before. So glad this exists 💖💖

[@itachiuchiwa6875]

ALok the predator, look it up

[@michaelfandango6711]

Alok said “little girls are kinky” and suggested children would enjoy being abused. He’s a known nonce, you should be ashamed of yourself

[@maybabyy06]

I’ve been in college for 3 years and I have NEVER left a class with this much insight & knowledge & motivation to learn more and spread the information. Incredible. Thank you Man Enough crew & Alok for educating us and learning with us♥️

[@envylopez6035]

@@PepsiMagt where did you get this from?

[@happymonday06]

The same Alok who thinks little girls are not innocent but are ‘kinky’ 🚩

[@Devo99-23]

@@PepsiMagt that’s just your pain. 🙏

[@1207Hugo]

@@happymonday06 that's not it. I think you should work on your discernement capacity and try and understand what they meant or maybe just read the full chapter/book and figure out by YOURSELF what was meant. Not what was cut out, used and extorted by anti trans activists

[@handsomerube]

@@PolarBearXx Apparently you are, too. It’s “you’re,” not “your.”

[@clintonzulu]

“Are you fighting for freedom or are you fighting for privilege?”

[@glitterbitch8830]

It's funny because Alok's only scratching the surface and introducing them into the understanding that men are both beneficiaries and victims of cisheteropatriarchy. Often podcast conversations flow more fluidly even if superficial but Alok's words are unearthing so much of their blinders, it's stunning them into silence/process. The numerous beats of nodding and "woah" moments communicate the need for further evaluation.

[@lape2023]

Long long way to go

[@bpapao]

alok is a groomer, he said "9yr old girls arent saints and have urges too"

[@KLMNOP_30M]

@@bpapao did he groom them? He just stated those coz those are facts that kids have collective sexual fantasies as per studies, but that doesn't mean that people should have then the urge to abuse and take advantage of kids. He just simply stated the fact, and he didn't abuse no one.

[@AnadiaDK]

@@KLMNOP_30M they*

[@nikimagelakis9085]

Who has not known, since the feminist movement in the 60’s, that men are not victims of the Patriarchy too?! He is not saying anything new😂😂😂 I have been waiting since then, for men’s answer to the feminist movement. And it’s not a movement against women. It’s a movement against the Patriarchy!

[@kelechiasagwara]

Alok dropped so many gems in this discussion: “Are you fighting for freedom or are you fighting for privilege?” “Comprehension vs. Compassion” “Entitlement vs Erasure” “Most people don’t know who they are outside of what they’re told they should be.” The moment they gave that first answer on feeling “enough,” I knew we were in for something special. This whole hour was incredible. Truly. Thank you, Alok 🙏🏾

[@ketyao9037]

You point out all the things that shook me...let's learn n pass on the things we learn...not as he/she/them/their but just as human beings generally ..

[@bluestormyseas8981]

"We don’t know how to see each other for each other... We see each other for what we think one another should be. It is to look at each other horizontally, and not need to put each other on pedestals"

[@tharunsankar4926]

All these questions are bullshit because privilege depends on freedom, compassion depends on comprehension, entitlement depends on erasure. You can’t fight one or another, and this is what people do not understand.

[@AvaNightingale]

​@@tharunsankar4926 idk how that undermines the points they made

[@joaovitormedeiros2929]

Takeway from this amazing podcast: "You don't need to comprehend someone to have compassion for them"👏👏👏👏👏

[@Logosfollower]

This is what they’ll say about pedos soon mark my words, specially since alok seems to be one of them himself

[@fourthpanda]

@@Logosfollower I'm sorry what?

[@bongopro4401]

@@Logosfollower so true but it seems like the other reply frm fourth panda isn’t ready to comprehend it

[@bongopro4401]

Nice quote but no one practice it , they just wanna get in yo face telling u how wrong u are for not thinking what u think 🤔

[@fourthpanda]

@@bongopro4401 this accusation that all trans people are pedos is truly vile and you disgust me for even buying into that for a moment.

[@chanellesadoll]

as a non-binary and gender non-conforming individual, each and every word by alok is a hymn. thank you so much for this amazing episode! 💕

[@WeAreManEnough]

We agree! Thank you for being here.

[@ronsparkman4913]

Oh my umpteenth listen of this episode -- as I recommend it yet again to another person I care about and then find myself also having to also have another playthrough -- and when Alok, after dropping bomb after bomb, says "Let's get into it" to Jamey's question, you just know they are about to step it up a notch. This episode is a masterpiece and a Masterclass.

[@dantheman669]

I didn't think you could take a masterclass in nonsense, but okay.

[@liamfrederic5203]

@@dantheman669 what‘s your issue with what they are saying?

[@mxmangobutt]

@@liamfrederic5203 D Scott is feeling uncomfortable so they're saying stuff to make themselves feel better.

[@michaelfandango6711]

Alok said “little girls are kinky” and suggested children would enjoy being abused. He’s a known nonce, you should be ashamed of yourself

[@ronsparkman4913]

@@michaelfandango6711 proof?

[@gurpskaur1265]

This is the best podcast episode to date. What an articulate spokesperson for the human race.

[@carolinaparedes6617]

I have a lot of tears, and very little words. Thank you Alok, thank you all.

[@WeAreManEnough]

We so appreciate you being here with us! Thanks for your support.

[@helohalo3106]

"you've naturalized our disappearance" this talk is so profound, thank you.

[@dantheman669]

No, it's rhetorical nonsense. There are more people claiming to be"trans" and "non-conforming" folks than ever have been. Though, I suppose if 1000 people claim to be a wizard it doesn't mean there actually are more.

[@samhand8270]

Yes, these type of activist who are fluent in ideological drivel are experts at using flowery, academic, dramatic, hyperbolic language that, although impactful, is completely disconnected from reality, and whatever kernel of truth there is, it is lost through all the exaggeration and oversimplification.

[@jauvidmoradi901]

@@samhand8270 please explain in your language what Alok is oversimplifying or exaggerating.

[@thomasthomasphilp4393]

The world is not just US and Europe

[@savannahdomingue9307]

"We keep on mistaking the prison as another home..." Alok, keep speaking TRUTHS!!!

[@coralmercado8292]

I literally wrote this down. So powerful!

[@MrGenedancingmachine]

@@coralmercado8292 did you write down what he said about little girls and bathrooms also?

[@JackThoseTacos]

I was suffocating under the evangelically charged ideas of who I should be and how I should act. 30 years of bruises and manipulation and false compassion constantly shoved down my throat. Presently, with the encouragement of my spouse, I've discovered I'm bi and am actively striving to sit in the discomfort I feel when I push back against those ideas from my previous life. Maybe it's a silly question but... How does someone who has identified and been identified as "masculine" for so long change the outward to reflect the inward? I just NEED to feel that freedom to step into the world as the full version of ME. I've never had to, or been asked to risk myself in any way for my identity... There's a real fear that comes from the privilege I've lived with and now, shedding that to be ME, feels like I'm falling a bit. Just my thoughts. Thank you so much for this. The amount of learning I've done inside just this episode has been immense, a bit overwhelming, but SO needed and freeing.

[@psycha2611]

Hey friend. I’m proud of you. To answer your question, although I can’t promise it’s a perfect answer, I would recommend experimenting. It’s hard to say exactly what you expressing your inner essence would look like. I would follow your inclinations. If you feel like wearing this, doing that, saying something you’ve held back, do it. If you end up not liking whatever expression you put out, then you at least know what isn’t you :)

[@WeAreManEnough]

Thank you for sharing. Sending you love and strength as you go on this journey to becoming more yourself every day. It's hard.

[@WeAreManEnough]

Great advice.

[@awildelife]

I love Tiktok and Pinterest for broadening my fashion choices :) I bet there’s even a KZbin or tiktok for bi men… I will go look for one.

[@battzipora]

First step is to fully love yourself. And the second step and third step is also to fully love yourself….

[@suzettephinn7829]

I was struggling to understand the they, them non-binary labels. Today I fully understand. I always try to push compassion to the forefront but folks are just not getting it. Thanks for this I feel freer.

[@WeAreManEnough]

Thank you so much. We all struggle and that's ok. We appreciate you being here and embracing compassion, which is not only important to put over comprehension, but often leads to comprehension eventually too.

[@siennad587]

They also have called children kinky and people cows so…

[@chickennuggets3951]

@@siennad587 ?

[@superatzenl7616]

@@siennad587 ?

[@chrispiasecky7679]

It's not compassion to pander to someone's fantasy about infinite genders. This should be titled "The Urgent Need for Sanity". The fact that this is a legitimate show with thinking, functioning adults talking seriously about this topic is frightening. This guy should seek counseling, not your misguided, fawning approval.

[@TheJohnisg]

Please bring back ALOK for another interview, esp with everything that is ongoing in the world.

[@WeAreManEnough]

We're sure that will happen at some point soon. On 4/10, we will release a wonderful episode with trans actor and activist Brian Michael Smith, so look out for that one.

[@thehoffmancode]

I was at their show in bombay yesterday , it was stunning, and I've seen this episode a million times already! Please get them on the show again! Love and light!

[@WeAreManEnough]

Thank you! So glad you caught their show.

[@naty58pr]

"Multiplicity of truth is healing"

[@osooso6027]

Saw a clip on TikTok and had to come watch the full episode. This is amazing I’m gonna start reading their book after this 👏🏻

[@therelatablekitchen5368]

This is my fifth time listening and I’m just so in awe every time. Alok is captivating and listening to them really just centers me. Thank you so much for this.

[@WeAreManEnough]

Thank you. We agree.

[@stephaniaeverett6377]

Same!

[@marcorafanan718]

as a boy then a cis gay man ive been distancing with the same conversation with myself my whole life up until 4 years ago why ive been suppressing who i am as a nonbinary. its been a learning process for myself getting to know who i really am and not be afraid of my own femininity. being forced to cut my hair, not to walk a certain way, to sit a certain way, to laugh a certain way... to burry all that i am just to be accepted by society but also myself. i hated my self. and still do most days. but im being and learning to be authentic. its hard but wort it.

[@trans-forming]

This was an amazing conversation. There were so many fantastic, quotable lines. I'm going to have to listen again and take notes. As a trans man, a lot of what Alok says is familiar, but the way they approach each question is truly special. I am going to point people to this episode when I try to explain how trans rights and liberation is tied to the larger liberation project, including feminism. And I'm going to point people here when I think that they need to hear words about loving themselves and loving others and living in community -- being vulnerable, being messy, needing help; these are all part of being human and being in relationship with others. Truly beautiful lessons here.

[@WeAreManEnough]

Thank you for being here. We're so glad that this resonated with you and appreciate you sharing it with others. So much work and learning left to do. Happy Trans Awareness Day tomorrow!

[@lovers4028]

This is so healing to witness as a trans person

[@jaycewright3321]

Agreed

[@ProfessionalWildChild]

This is by far the most beautiful podcast episode I've ever listened to.

[@WeAreManEnough]

Thank you!

[@georgeanthony4834]

its vacuous nonsense

[@annechawe8363]

Woooow.....this is the most intelligent conversation. "The antidote of trauma is compassion."

[@coralmercado8292]

Alok echoing one of my favorite quotes from Lilla Watson (an aboriginal academic and activist), “If you have come here to help me you are wasting your time, but if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together.”

[@foxconvey4744]

I get why everyone is just left breathless. Alok is an epic spiritual teacher! Honor, love, listen, connect 🌈🌈🌈

[@michaelfandango6711]

Alok said “little girls are kinky” and suggested children would enjoy being abused. He’s a known nonce

[@prettyhatemachine101]

Alok is so articulate on a level that goes beyond the intellectual. I find their words are rhythmic in a way and connect deeply with our authentic selves, whether we comprehend that self or not, kind of in the same way we appreciate music. To me that explains how often we saw tears welling up in the other hosts (and my own) eyes. When our authentic selves are seen and accessed and spoken to by someone or something, it is an experience that overwhelms our senses. It is love.

[@orearabilemonakedi]

❤️

[@fourthpanda]

@Marci They are not a man. If you legitimately want people to do research on them, I recommend you don't be so aggressive and use the right pronouns. Otherwise people, including myself, are just going to ignore you because why should I care what an asshole has to say.

[@apebass2215]

@@fourthpanda he is an adult human male - a man.

[@fourthpanda]

@@apebass2215 No they are not. Their gender identify is not male.

[@apebass2215]

@@fourthpanda I don't care what he "identifies" as, he can identify as non-human for all I care. His sex will always be male, he will always be an adult human, he will always be a man. Pretending he isn't doesn't change reality.

[@annechawe8363]

Your pain is valid but weaponizing it is invalid.....gems dropping!

[@SocialDrones]

I love love love hearing Alok speak. They have a way with words that just hits❤

[@shivaani6686]

When ALOK answers the question "what does it mean to be enough?" My soul was so full that some of it spilled over🙏❤😭❣This was an absolutely insightful and educational session💯 Thank you so much to the Man Enough team- for making this possible🤯and to ALOK- for just being💖Mad love to all 🦄∞💟

[@WeAreManEnough]

Thank you. They are so incredible.

[@globalshooky3321]

I wish this was translated to all the languages in the world. Alok is so articulate and knowledgeable. I'm grateful to the person who shared this beautiful episode with me.

[@jacquelinemickaela6744]

Comprehension vs compassion, fighting for privilege vs. freedom, and being enough just IS. Again I am in humble tears. Thank you so much for having and sharing this conversation.

[@felix5287]

Alok gives me so much comfort and inspires me so much. As a nonbinary person, just to see us existing is so powerful

[@WeAreManEnough]

We agree! We're so glad you exist and that you've joined us here.

[@elizabethdelacruz8944]

My god, I’m only 5 minutes in and my soul and heart are shook. Absolutely insightful and so powerful. I will take all of this forward and be more conscious of my love for myself to allow others to do the same.

[@phelciakojwang8588]

I've never met a person who has freed me like Alok has. Thank you for sharing them with us♥️♥️♥️

[@WeAreManEnough]

Our honor and privilege. Thanks for joining us.

[@JustJRR]

"You don't want freedom, you want power." 🎯💯

[@MusicKnowte]

The way this doesn’t have a million views is insane

[@mariaargenal225]

Chills all. the. way. Pure power and love in their words.

[@cathe8282]

As a person in a wheelchair who gets called "inspiring" and "brave" for just going outside and also having to turn the other cheek when people "help" me without asking, a lot of this resonated with me but I also want to say how much I'm willing to listen to other voices and stories and lives. You're not obligated to teach me, but I will listen and learn. Thank you for this podcast.

[@kaleyregner2843]

This is genuinely one of the most powerful videos I've ever watched! I simultaneously feel so calm and excited yet also scared because of the vulnerability of that. Alok gets it. They are fighting the same fight that I have dedicated my life to and they do so with such grace and eloquence. I'm just so grateful that they exist and that this video exists. Just thank you

[@WeAreManEnough]

Thank you!

[@LynnFraserStillpoint]

Amazing interview! "You want this person to be loved and safe and be free, existing in the world in their beauty and majesty and glory and not have to worry about their safety, just like I want the same thing for you"

[@paulterrano1178]

Alok has a gift to articulate what most people fail to put into words. Everytime I listen to them, I get to know a thing or two about my own self. They need to be protected, at all costs.

[@tharunsankar4926]

yeah, the gift of telling other's that their kids are kinky. It's a pretty awesome gift.

[@apebass2215]

Strange how he doesn't have the "gift" to realise he'll forever be a man regardless of what pronouns he demands others use, or how much make-up he wears. Referring to little girls as "kinky" is sick.

[@paulterrano1178]

@@apebass2215 Ape why do you gotta act like your name bruh ? Man and male are two distinct entities. Biological sex and gender identity are two distinct entities. Don't mix them up. If you're a miserable conservative who just loves to demonise trans bodies and minds. If you possess conditioned hostile prejudice against trans or enby folks, you need to unlearn it and better yourself as a human being. Be kind, it costs nothing.

[@apebass2215]

@@paulterrano1178 you're right, I am prejudiced against a man who refers to little girls as "kinky". He's a predator. I don't care what he believes about his "gender identity", he has every right to his beliefs, but he has no right to force those beliefs on others. 'Feminine' men aren't lesser men, 'masculine' women aren't lesser women. Men are adult human males and women are adult human females. He is an adult human male, he is a man. Man and male are distinct entities, not all males are men, some are boys.

[@patrickbarros386]

Just got here, and this was so important to me. One thing that i have always believed is that vulnerability makes us closer, makes community, as Alok said. And this conversation just freed me to take a look at my own inadequacies once again and find myself human. It's reassuring to see that the only way to be a better person, is through compassion. And even through all the negativity and poison spread through the internet, i just wanted to leave a big and loving hug to anyone who might need one, as i felt hugged by Alok today. Love and thanks from Brazil!

[@abhayayadav7603]

Thank you for creating this episode. I'm truly grateful to have this opportunity to learn so much here. Alok have such a humble yet powerful energy, and they have have so much of love and patience to make us a little bit easier for us to understand things that we weren't quite aware of. They have been kind enough to explain with so much of compassion for us humans. And also all three of you were so gracious to just soak in all with love. This has been a great learning experience for me. Thank you once again. 🙏🏼❤️

[@oshearocker5129]

Alok was spitting gems.. learned about alot

[@WeAreManEnough]

We all did.

[@meala23]

This interview was my first introduction to Alok, and has inspired me ever since, pushing me to seek out all of their art. I cant get enough of their carefully considered thoughts, beautifully expressed with so much love. I'm so grateful to you Alok ❤

[@WeAreManEnough]

Love this. 🧡 Thank you for sharing with us.

[@call_me_ping]

Alok, thank you.I have never heard someone so closely summarize their own expierience, beliefs, and understanding that mirros how I understand my whole self. I asked my dearest loved ones to listen to this video. After they watched Iasked for their initial reactions and let them know that the reason I love them is because without my coaching, prompt, and without them demanding that I guide them... they allow me to be. They love that I am being me and I love them back

[@mosquitobcn]

¨privilige is the ability to do what was done to you to other people¨ so many cases in this world. Humans are fucked up. We need more people like Alok in this world otherwise it will be the end for everyone.

[@WeAreManEnough]

We agree - we need more people that bring compassion and encouraging understanding.

[@stefanschachtell2096]

I've watched this numerous times, and hear different things every time. Just brilliant and thought-provoking.

[@RedHearts178]

"are you fighting for freedom or are you fighting for privilege?" whew what a line

[@sabinaasirifi]

This was it, the way I have yelled and snapped in agreement. Every word I felt in my soul. Alok is an extension of me.

[@AnaLozah]

Wow..just wow.. this conversation healed a part of me❤ Thank you❤

[@WeAreManEnough]

So glad to hear it! Thanks for being here.

[@Lilbitatatime]

This changed the way I see so many things in my own life. And a bit about what others go through in theirs. I'm so thankful the Universe brought me to this podcast. Much love and care to all of you. ❤️

[@WeAreManEnough]

Thank you! We're so glad you're here.

[@user-kz7oh8wn6c]

Thank you. This Podcast was introduced to me by my 21 years old daughter. I am a teacher, I teach math which is a hard topic for many reasons. I believe the concept of compassion above comprehension will be my new approach to my students.

[@ravalencia5194]

Thank you to this podcasts for allowing trans and gender non conforming people to speak their truths. The liberation of all absolutely MUST be with everyone taking a seat at the table.

[@rhendonceniza2179]

can i just say!! im blown away with these conversations, from Philippines here a 19 yr old trying to live freedom.love alok and three of u love love love!!!!!!

[@JesusBlones]

The first episode I saw form this podcast and is still my favorite! Alok is amazing!🙌

[@WeAreManEnough]

Thank you! What other episodes have resonated since?

[@nataliestoemmer2151]

Been listening to this podcast back to back for a little bit now (just found y'all recently), and this was the first (& so far only) meaningful conversation. I feel like thanks to Alok you've finally reached the right level of abstraction. I just wish you had learned and changed something about every conversation you've had after this one... Have you y'all gone back and re-listened to it yourselves? Honestly, there is so much learning here for all of your topics! This was amazing, thanks for having this conversation!

[@AlexGarcia-gc6ki]

Absolutely agree with this.

[@WeAreManEnough]

Looks like we missed your comment until now. Thank you for the honest feedback. We're glad this one resonated with you. It certainly changed our hosts and the entire team. We're always open to feedback, so we welcome any specific ways that you have found other conversations lacking or less meaningful. Each one of these is quite different and tends to be meaningful to different people, yet this is a journey of constant growth and striving to always improve the way we do this.

[@awildelife]

I can’t speak for everyone but I have skipped podcasts where I felt hosts were sometimes talking just to talk. (Not Liz!) I know you have to talk in a podcast lol but - Alok was giving a life changing wisdom talk here and the hosts actually mostly absorbed all they said with very valid feedback and questions that didn’t ramble too long for the most part. They let Alok be featured as they should be.

[@nikson7762]

One of the best videos I've ever watched. Seriously helped my anxiety and wow, I'm happy to be on this earth with these people. Alok is trying their best and I want to try my best too! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@gwenadams4509]

Alok is such an Intellectual human...And so true Trans People are looked at as Entertainers and not as Brilliant Humans..I will rewatch and listen to this conversation over and over again....Alok you have my Respect....👍👍✨✨✨

[@dogwater5499]

Well when the main selling point of trans genders is drag queens does this come to a supirse to you?

[@veritas4698]

Really? The guy who said "little girls are kinky" and victims of child abuse "aren't all that innocent" has your respect? I don't know how we got to this place but the world is going to hell in a handbasket.

[@fourthpanda]

@@veritas4698 I hope you realize you invalidated anything else you said when you said "guy".

[@fourthpanda]

@@dogwater5499 I'm sorry can you explain what a "trans genders" is to me again? 🤣

[@dogwater5499]

@@fourthpanda I am actually confused? Did I miss pluralize the word trans gender? What's a group of trans gender people called? A gaggle?

[@DowntownPaco]

Without a doubt, the most important interview I have ever heard. Thank you for this! Thank you so very much!

[@priscillaquiah1837]

I have come back here again and again. Y’all thanks too for your humility, “Man Enough” team, for allowing y’all and us to be taught by Alok

[@WeAreManEnough]

Thank you so much for being apart of this community

[@chikaofodu4428]

exceptional conversation! Everything Alok said was powerful, articulate, and exceptional and demonstrative of the pain they've carried. They didn't speak in spite of, they spoke because of and I'm so grateful for their words.

[@TinaA8863]

Hi @manenough I want you to know that I come back to most of your interviews again and again. This conversation however with Alok is my favourite. Incredibly powerful and insightful. Very humbling ... Thank you all

[@WeAreManEnough]

Thank you for sharing with us, we truly appreciate your support and so glad this conversation resonates with you as much as it does with us.

[@leilaniviana1306]

Thank you for this groundbreaking and raw lesson about love ! Thank you all so much!

[@Sanji7h]

Everytime I hear them speak, I feel so much joy. Thank you Man Enough team for platforming such incredible speakers and for having the courage to unlearn and learn in real time. ❣️

[@AnatGevaSharonphotos]

Wow. So many a-ha moments. Thank you! Alok is brilliant and inspiring.

[@lumav7440]

My cousin just announced to some of us in the family a couple of months ago about his transition to female and I struggled to understand. Watching this helped me a lot. Thanks for having Alok on for a chat.

[@lumav7440]

@@PepsiMagt way to miss the point. You are the perfect example of why they need to speak up and tell the truth.

[@lumav7440]

@@PepsiMagt my cousin can do whatever she wants it's her body. Thanks for your thoughts. However I disagree you are free to be prejudiced all you like it isn't my personal choice nor does your choice affect me. Have a great day.

[@fynntasticmovienight]

@@PepsiMagt i really imagine what kind of good people like you could do in this world, if you loved yourself and were honest with yourself

[@michaelfandango6711]

Alok said “little girls are kinky” and suggested children would enjoy being abused. He’s a known nonce, you should be ashamed of yourself - he’s been removed from platforms because of his disturbing sick comments about minors.

[@shampaugs6409]

I hope ur cousin ain’t like this

[@pierpaolodegobbi4984]

I think Alok is one of the most powerful thinkers (dare I say philosopher?) of our times.

[@lyndarodriguez5470]

I had the same thought! Alok is a philosopher of our times. Amazing and brilliant!👌🏼

[@estitt1973]

100% agree

[@jetnavigator]

Ahaha, it's a dude in a frock. That's "powerful"?

[@metalicrobot66]

@@hotdogwaterperfume343 Wasn't that from a now-deleted Facebook post from 10 years ago? Where's your compassion, Lane?

[@metalicrobot66]

@@hotdogwaterperfume343 I'm sure you've said things in person or online in the past that you'd regret now. I'm not excusing a predator because Alok isn't a predator in the first place. Also was the misgendering really necessary? You just sound like a transphobic troll.

[@Buczee]

This episode is so important to my well being. I often come back and listen all the way through.

[@ruzifancy]

I am from Tanzania, East Africa. This is a life changing moment for me and I hope it becomes the same to anyone I may share this too. It goes without a doubt that there needs to be a reavaluation of who we are as beings to be more compassionate to each other. The systems are there not to tell us who we are but to encourage everyone to include each other in this chareography of life where we fail and try to improve and learn as much as we should. Thank you Alok for chosing to dig deeper and share your compassion with the world. I appreciate Man Enough for giving this a platform it solely deserves in the world today! Thank you! I appreciate this.

[@ShervinTalieh]

My god, this changes everything. Watched it two times and cannot get over how mind-blowing and powerful this is.

[@dantheman669]

Watch again with your thinking cap on this time. It's rhetorical word salad.

[@DIJONh100]

@@dantheman669how?? Please be specific. Everything they’ve said still makes sense after my 50th time watching it.

[@gabrielletoloza9211]

this is truly moving, Im new to your podcast but will be exploring others. In my work I sit across from my fellow humans and see their pain daily, witness their suffering regardless of the content, compassion not comprehension guides me, I do not have to understand, in fact I cannot ever fully comprehend, but I can witness, acknowledge and self-reflect to do my part. Thank you ALOK for speaking this wisdom, may it be heard by as many people as possible, may it lead to more human to human exchanges where people show up for people.

[@steffyjustin5108]

This is the first time I'm learning so much about non-binary gender and, most important, it's the first time I want to know more. Thank you Man Enough for hosting this conversation. Thank you for being you!

[@jamescolahan9023]

i never knew why but the truth is scary as hell and I feel aware. my life just went on a 90 degree turn and it feels true.Thank You.

[@aravindkrishnasaravu2223]

Wow Just wow! They were amazing & I personally was awestruck by their talk. Every Moment was a Mic drop..Just Wow!Thanks ALOK

[@michaelfandango6711]

Alok said “little girls are kinky” and suggested children would enjoy being abused. He’s a known nonce that’s been removed from platforms because of his comments about minors.

[@BlueberryStem]

I firmly believe Alok is one of the most important speakers of our time.

[@RafaelReyesofficial]

They articulated what I have always though about so well. This i why we need educated people speaking for our communities. This was very powerful and they destroyed all the myths and misinformation surrounding the "gender" conversation right now in the world.

[@DelaneyWalker]

I always thought I was opened and knew a lot on these topics and I was almost brought to tears many times. I was looking at so much of this in a different way or not looking into the full story and it just opened an even deeper acceptance and understanding. Thank you for this education, wow. I’m speechless.

[@lantern6272]

so many languages out there and Alok choose to speak facts. What an amazing podcast with the best people. Alok is extraordinarily knowledgeable, inspiring, captivating and just an amazing human being! Hats off.

[@visionaryviews_]

this answered so many of questions and my doubts. I appreciate this podcast episode so much. I appreciate Alok’s words it has enlightened me in many ways. thank you!

[@WeAreManEnough]

Thanks for joining us and glad it helped you!

[@nordiawilliams7028]

This conversation was so healing and reaffirming ❤❤❤

[@mariaelizabeth1400]

I was having a low day yesterday, and then I listened to this podcast. It restored my faith in humanity a bit and improved my mood in a noticeable way. Thank you all for being who you are, for doing what you do, and for trying to make this world a kinder, more compassionate place. Fighting right here alongside you in my own personal way.

[@call_me_ping]

Also I appreciate the hosts here speaking cause they're hosts but also being willing to show how loss for words they all are. Seeing them react, process, or even freeze is beautiful. I can feel how they're learning just as I am watching this too

[@chantaljackson9153]

Thank you so much. I love the tearing down of the given structures and finding the love and room for a new ecosystem of being ourselves, of having room to find out who we are and might yet be, and living from a place of there is room for all of what wants to give expression in this world, when it comes from love and care and collaboration to be humans together on this earth. There is a brilliance here and I get how that sometimes only comes from the pain and there is a cost to that as well as a gift. Thank you for sharing the pain and gifts.

[@WeAreManEnough]

Thank you! We agree.

[@sibongiletasilaphiri7521]

I watched this over a few days over the last 6 days and finally finished it today this was so beautiful and challenged even My own beliefs around My own Femininity and claim over My Femininity. It felt like I settled into who I am deeper, rather than what My gender is. So so powerful! So many quotable moments!

[@WeAreManEnough]

Wonderful to hear that it connected with you in that way.

[@solaviento]

"Love means I will never understand you but I will keep coming back"

[@tracydavies5702]

Thankyou thankyou thankyou for having these conversations, they are life changing! This conversation with Alok was perhaps one of the most emotive, inspired, inclusive, compassionate conversations I've listened to. It filled my heart and soul to the brim to listen to them perhaps this is my favourite episode yet! ❤

[@WeAreManEnough]

It's truly our pleasure and honor to share them with you! So glad you respond to it and thank you for being here.

[@aje-olokunsChile]

What a powerful podcast. I’ve been following Alok for quite some time now and am emotionally moved every time they share their knowledge and wisdom. Thank you for giving them a platform 🖤

[@WeAreManEnough]

Thanks for joining us! We're so glad you respond to them as much as we do.

[@michaelfandango6711]

Alok said “little girls are kinky” and suggested children would enjoy being abused. Considering he’s been removed from platforms for his comments and you follow him which means you know about this and STILL choose to follow him? Do you have access to children?

[@nandinisehar]

Tearing up listening to you. I used to think none of this is important but actually feel like I’m getting an education on what it means to be human.

[@WeAreManEnough]

We're all learning together. It is so important to open ourselves up to these conversations.

[@fiftyshadesofgender]

This was just beautiful. I'm sharing it everywhere. Alok is amazing, and you all are too for being open and willing to learn, and willing to be wrong which is hella uncomfortable. THAT'S what the world needs right now 💜

[@WeAreManEnough]

Thanks for joining the conversation! We couldn't agree more.

[@elgingersnap2444]

I deeply appreciate this episode so much. This is wokeness at its best at its core.

[@tankgirling]

Thank you so much. I cannot state it enough. I will be forever thankful for this to all of you. This keeps me alive.

[@WeAreManEnough]

Wonderful to hear! Thank you for being here.

[@annjohnson8437]

This is one of the most moving and enlightening podcasts I've ever experienced. I will be sharing this with my two sons (18 & 25). Thank you for posting this on KZbin! ❤

[@WeAreManEnough]

Thank you! We're so glad you're here with us. And thank you for sharing this with your sons -- that is truly how this work will begin to affect change.

[@dawnwindsor4748]

I am sending this to all my fellow work colleagues. This is mind blowingly awesome

[@WeAreManEnough]

Thank you!

[@sk8rblond]

15 mins into this and I am screaming with delight. I did a podcast episode with my friend recently about Ethical Nonmonogamy and Gender Theory, and we talk about a lot of the same topics covered here. Alok's message needs to be spread far and wide and LOUD! From the Agender AuDHDer, KEEP GOING AND NEVER STOP!!

[@eduardodu86]

Every single time I recommend this to someone I end up back here, listening again to these words

[@WeAreManEnough]

Thank you! Never gets old.

[@hellentatendakajawu]

Deeply touched by this profound conversation

[@kadiarakingai]

Easily my favourite episode so far!!!! Wooow! They are amazing! I felt such growth happen within me listening to this, I literally finished it and re-started it immediately after. Can't wait to buy Alok's books coz they are brilliant and I send them all my love!!!