Lets discuss dating Straight & Bisexual Women W/JKiillem

[@reneecobbs3521]

It’s definitely hard to be taken seriously as a bisexual woman. Men think they gonna get a 3some freebie. Women think u gonna run back to a man and drop them. I’m an adult capable of being loyal, regardless of gender. You don’t even want to be honest and share your sexuality cuz you can’t win either way. *sigh*

[@jennymiez5664]

This! I guess us bi-people just need to continue to set a good example to tackle this prejudice.

[@modisedaeswatiniprincess6944]

​@jennymiez5664 Your bias is not my responsibility. Also I think it's easier to date bi people so do that, I don't understand why we want to be accepted by straight or gay people 💀

[@phDST1913]

It's more about the dating phase when people aren't in a serious mode yet. During that time "some" bi women go back and forth. We absolutely know you can be faithful in relationships but it's that dating phase that can be naturally mixed between men and women. That's what many don't like... (also, why don't bi women want to date other bi women too? wouldn't they be more understanding and relatable?... just an added question)

[@barksnbrews]

YES!!! While I’m bisexual, I’m not going to take off and go look for someone else besides who I’m with, man or woman. But people really do get hung up on that. It’s an odd ‘limbo’ to be forced into.

[@barksnbrews]

@@phDST1913speaking only for myself, I have no issue dating other bi women. That said, I generally am more attracted to masc women and I think (at least where I am) bi women tend towards being more femme.

[@dearmeecha1310]

I’m bi and married to a man. Definitely attracted to masc energy. I would have married my masc girlfriend till she cheated on me and broke my heart. It’s all about who you are with. When I was with her I never thought about men or anyone else. Love you guys for talking real about all this stuff. 🙏❤️

[@DolceSuono9]

Newly "out to myself" bisexual, just turned 38. I feel like my brain has completely reset. Binging content and learning whatever I can and different people's points of view on anything and everything. Enjoyed this conversation!

[@xemmalx]

As a bi woman, when I first started dating women I got to let my romantic side run wild as I’d never been able to do romantic gestures with men. I’m engaged to a woman who I’ve been with for 3 1/2 years and I still buy her flowers every two weeks, write her love letters, do romantic set ups and honestly, I was wasted on men 😂

[@NEIGH6699]

hell yeah sister, welcome to the fun side, from a lesbian. I wish more bi women would realise their worth

[@kid-ava]

​@@NEIGH6699as a bi woman, thank you, I'm so ready for women now lmfao

[@barnaliadhikary9421]

As a lesbian as well...I got you... Can relate to it...too many bi and straight friends of mine have same experience with men

[@Oldworldlove]

I have a question. So I've always been attracted to women but because of upbringing felt it was an unnatural sin. Well now I'm older (about to be 27) and I feel like my connections with women are way stronger than with men. But I have a child. Are lesbians/bi women accepting of women with children? I know some men think value goes down, what's the thinking for women? Is it a baby a deal breaker for most lesbian/bi women?

[@olikah4667]

Amber is a big part of my awakening back in 2016. I had no idea I was bi. And love how she is a champion for us bisexual women and she doesn’t tolerate biphobia AT ALL!!! And Amber, of course they wanna marry you. You’re awesome ❤

[@KarinaCappucci]

I'm pansexual but I'm a very loyal person. I'm a Cancer so I'm very emotionally invested in whoever my partner is. If you have a good soul, then it doesn't matter if you're a man, woman, non-binary, etc. Everyone is capable of cheating, not just pan or bi people.

[@jiliciar.1423]

✨This✨

[@desertqueen_1103]

Team cancer! ♋️ 💛

[@camarojai6832]

Wow I’ve heard cancers are very emotional and can be invested….let me go find a cancer 😂😂😂

[@tabitha3555]

Cancer gang ♋️

[@silverstar2052]

This!!!! Also a cancer pan and I feel this!

[@zaynmalikofficail]

for me, i’m okay with bisexual girls as long as they prefer women. oftentimes i come across bisexual women who can’t fully conceptualize being with a woman, or still expect certain heteronormative gestures/actions despite being with another woman. also, if you can’t imagine yourself ending up with a woman fully, not just sexually, don’t waste my time. i know there are bisexual woman who don’t do any of that, but i rarely meet them 😭

[@beetlegeuse1961]

As a bisexual woman with a preference for women Ive run into the same issues, bi women understanding being sexually attracted but not actually wanting to commit to a woman and all the nuances that come with it, I don't understand it either lol

[@kid-ava]

as a bi woman who's typically more into women, I agree 100%. most bisexual women I know subscribe to a bunch of heteronormative bs and talk down on queer women in general (especially the masculine ones) cause they dont match the type of mold of queerness that's digestible to them and they've never been with women, which isnt a problem but just kind of adds to the weirdness imo. I feel like once I really get on the dating scene, I'll mostly go for other bisexual people, but I could really use a nice girl in my life. after dealing with crappy men I'm exhausted

[@cheeling794]

i dont even usually call myself bi because of the fact i dont think id ever date one, but sexually ive been with more women than men so idk😅

[@cjp592]

Amber is gorge. Gorge as a stud and/or as a woman. I love and enjoy her aesthetic. It’s clean and stylish and masculine. 🥰

[@AmbersCloset]

Thank you🥰🙏🏽

[@soilgrasswaterair]

I’m in tears over the ”why is no one talking to us” comment!😅 6:26 I get hit on by guys and a ton from the lgbtq+ community and I think it’s because I tap into people’s childhood wound of being rejected, which makes them work harder to get my interest. I’m friendly, but I don’t invite people in due to being too busy with my uni. law studies. I’m so deep in my books that people close to me think books are my biggest love in life, but nah I just want to finish with decent grades so I can build my future career❤

[@Jkiillem]

Always such good conversation with the fam!

[@Lucky.girl.17]

I love you you are the best

[@sandalirathnasiri6892]

❤

[@Becoming0ne]

I’ve nearly finished reading “Sexual Fluidity” by Lisa Diamond. I was surprised at how many women identified as lesbian but still had some form of attraction towards men and had even engaged in sexual activity with men while still identifying as lesbian. I would be interested to hear your thoughts Amber and Jess, around those topics. What constitutes ‘lesbian’ to you and what constitutes ‘bisexual’, what constitutes ‘straight’. And what are the signs that a woman is each of those. I have my own thoughts and experiences but am curious amount what each of you have both seen/experienced.

[@Laura-vl6db]

Many lesbian women have been with men before. That’s actually how women find out they are in fact a lesbian. And women(men too)…. Are sexualities are complex. It’s hard to know the difference between platonic love, romantic love, aesthetic love, intellectual love, sexual love. Many women love penetration, even lesbian women. Does it mean they are not gay? Women crave more emotional connections. In media, you can only feel strongly for a romantic partner so if you do, of course you’re going to assume you actually “love” that person romantically even when you don’t. Heck, even love is reserved for only romance. As a society, we often expect our partner to check all the boxes for us and that’s seldom the case. However, I no longer judge sexuality by who someone is sleeping with and what they like sexuality. Our bodies are responsive to sex, no matter who it’s coming from. Lesbian women like penetration, are they straight? Are only women who uses straps and don’t like penetration the only gay ones? The real sexuality, meaning the real difference I’ve seen is romantic attraction. Also, women’s bodies responds to sex or is sexually aroused more often to things than men. Another word is sexually reactive, even if we don’t desire it.

[@AmbersCloset]

That’s a great question! I got you

[@Becoming0ne]

@@AmbersCloset Awesome, thanks!

[@Becoming0ne]

@@Laura-vl6db thanks for sharing your thoughts. That book I mentioned previously also talks about how women appear to react differently to men.

[@rwiley8535]

Honestly I think most people are non labeled and/or fluid. Lesbians, like straight is just a title that most people may identify with. What I am saying, at the end of the day a person who considers themselves straight want to marry and invest time with the opposite sex. While a person who considers themself a lesbian want to marry and build a family with the same sex. According to a scientific study on human sexuality, they did a test on male participants. All of the male participants, found anal stimulation satisfying. The 100% threw me off, bc any test has a margin of error of about 3%. But they were not talking about the population of men, but male participants during the research. And 100% of the male participants found anal stimulation satisfying. That told me that most people are fluid. And heterosexuality is just a concept in Patriarchy.

[@MsBNYC1986]

I couldnt even get a woman to say yes to me when i was bisexual. So now that im full blown lesbian im getting a little attention. All because they thought the same way. We want to play and not take anyone serious. Not true on my part. Im looking for a life partner. I dont play about my life and my cookie. I treasure it and i wouldnt want someone to play with me and my heart. I want real love and a long lasting relationship. Once we exchange energies thats it im here with you for life.

[@eilisniaisi5954]

You're still Bisexual if you once were ✅😂 you don't just magically morph into a lesbian. Unless you Just thought you were bisexual because of expectation etc

[@beetlegeuse1961]

​@@eilisniaisi5954 I don't think they mean it literally I think they're just trying to make a point

[@overtremendouslyblah]

@@eilisniaisi5954 That's probably what she means. Also there is no point to say you're bisexual if you only date women it just confuses people.

[@valeriegriffith5409]

Never got involved with straight women. For Bisexuals, after being burned multiple times, I didn't get emotionally invested and understood that there were expiration date embedded in the relationships. Just have fun and zen with the moments.

[@MsAaannaaa]

You may have your experiences but you don’t speak for bisexuals. I actually take offense in what you implied. Since when is drawing conclusions based on someone’s sexuality ok? Maybe you just pick the wrong people?

[@valeriegriffith5409]

@MsAaannaaa well Bisexual women have variable attraction levels between their sexual and romantic toward women and men. % will make a conscious choice to date women. These Bisexuals call themselves Febfems. 95% of Bisexuals will end up with men. There are multiple studies that consistently prove this. Women live in an aggressively Cisheterosexual society, and therefore the majority of Bisexual women will choose to be with men. Now out of that 95% Bisexual women who choose to be with men, 25 % to 30% of them are going to become Unicorn Hunters. They will try to get other Lesbians, Bisexuals and Queer women to have threesomes with their boyfriends and/or husbands. To be OFFENDED BY FACTS...JFC 🤔😕😂😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.

[@hell0w0rld12]

@@MsAaannaaa It's funny how I've heard many bisexual women say exactly the same thing about men: "I've just been burned too many times by men, I'd prefer to date women from now on," and so on. And no one knocks them for it. Why can't lesbians reach a similar conclusion after a set of negative experiences? Yeah, not all bisexuals, and not all men. But if you've had enough negative personal experiences, it's legitimate to cut your losses.

[@valeriegriffith5409]

@hell0w0rld12 are you aware that Bisexual/Pansexual/Omnisexual AFABS population is 17% of the female population. They can identify as Ace/Aros/Cis, Queer/Sapphic/NBs (he/him, She,They and they, them. You have a cornucopia of potential dating options and sexual partners. The question really is: Why are Bisexuals so focused on whether or not Lesbians will date them when they have a huge population of potential dating options? Is there something wrong with other Bisexual women that you can't just date each other?

[@Luna-lo6gx]

@@hell0w0rld12I’m not ever going to tell anyone who to date and I’m a lesbian. But I just wanna add in that it’s absolutely a false equivalency to compare wariness towards men (who have been the most popular perpetrators of harm against women and other genders throughout history) to believing a negative and untrue stereotype about bisexual women. Who to be clear, are also marginalized and actually more often victims to relationship violence than other sexualities. So I feel like it’s important to acknowledge that there’s more to this than comparing it to women not wanting to date men.

[@elspethfougere9683]

I'm so interested to see this video amber! It's honestly great to see the straight up out there experience and realness.. but I remember when you did a video like this with case, and it caused a bit of a bite back from some bi women.. but this stuff needs to be talked about! To me, it's still the question of being out or not. It's totally ok to explore and experiment, but own it! I won't date anyone who isn't out, if it's a bi person or a pan person, I need to know they are out, loud and proud on their own terms, that they've thought it through and have the self respect for who they love because then I know they will respect the love they have for me, and our relationship. I don't want to be used, or used for someone to justify themselves, or blamed for turning someone, or whatever else. And I wouldn't be with someone who offloaded self responsability on any other topic as well. I wouldn't be with someone who doesn't own their life, and what they're putting out into the world, or what they want, or what they're creating. Otherwise, it's not an equal relationship. I have been people's firsts, and that's been great, but it's been great because those people are taking the time to reflect, consider themselves for themselves, and owning their business. And obviously there are plenty of out and proud lesbians and queers who don't own their business at all and are quite happy throwing projections all over the show.. but I steer clear of those as well. So, some of it's about maturity, some of it's about personality, but for sure, some of it's boring old homophobia still, and that has to be called out, discussed, and people have to be given the space to feel sad, hurts, mad etc and work out how to protect our sacred space, because we do deserve respect as queer people. We all work hard to deal with our own internalised homophobia, the last thing we need is newbies bringing in truck loads more un-processed homophobia and dumping it at our feet.

[@danielle7127]

As a bisexual, I think the best way to weed out pansexuals/bisexuals who don’t seek women out romantically would be to ask them where they fall on the split scale model. For instance, I am a biromatic bisexual meaning I can have both romantic and sexual relationships with men and women. I am also demisexual (for context). If someone identifies as a heteroromantic bisexual, I am less inclined to interact with them sexually and definitely not romantically simply because we’re incompatible value wise. This way you can avoid a lot of unnecessary hurt and BS.

[@chenilleanderson8936]

💯👏🏽

[@ramonsanders651]

Yea but see this would require monosexuals to realize that romanticism and sexuality are two different things. They think to love someone is to want to fuck them, even though we, as polysexuals, have realized how false that can be lol. Ppl just need to be educated on how sexuality ACTUALLY works

[@danielle7127]

@@ramonsanders651 Yeah I agree with you completely. That’s lowkey why I made the initial comment because I’ve always felt like most of the issues people have with bisexuals/pansexuals has to do with them not understanding the wide varieties of ways we identify outside of our sexual attraction. Someone saying they’re bisexual is only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to how we interact romantically and sexually.

[@raspberrypanic]

Gotta love how not enough queer people know that SAM was proposed by the Catholic church in the Gregorian era to minimize same-gender love/attraction/sexuality. Good for y'all for feeding into conversion therapy methods 🎉🙃

[@dyman2016]

This was a really interesting discussion, especially on the topic of gender and sexuality in relationships and body count. What I got from 4:39-5:42 is that men don’t find women’s femininity threatening but they find women’s masculinity threatening. But they also find men’s femininity threatening in terms of homophobia. Very complex

[@kikifelice]

As a feminine Lesbian, I've heard so many of my stud/masculine friends complain about straight women, but they can't seem to stay away from them lol. Not to generalize all studs, but I feel like many of them are driven by ego and the desire to obtain the "unattainable," rather than finding a partner who is actually compatible, and who isn't afraid to love them out loud. Emotional and sexual connections are important, but if you're involved with someone who isn't comfortable enough to love you, claim you, and consider building a life with you, then the emotional connection becomes a moot point. It was actually kind of sad to hear JKiilem say that studs will accept being a "placeholder" because no one should accept that for themselves.

[@overtremendouslyblah]

That's the way men are too I've noticed. They seem more interested if you're not haha

[@MKatyOK]

It's so good to hear lesbian narratives. It's like nectar for my lesbian soul! I've recently broken up with a bi woman and I love her, BUT it's been so difficult navigating this with her because she doesn't have the lesbian life history. Anyway thanks so much for talking about what its like to be women who love women! 😘🥰

[@Hannahdealer8180]

I have my favourite lesbian youtubers on rotation. You two are spoiling us lately! It's the best distraction from Jade Fox not uploading XD I love how you guys are actually friends though! GOALS!

[@brendapasia9]

I’m bisexual and it can be frustrated explaining it to both genders. Men get intimidated and lesbians can get insecure. Thank you for expressing a positive side of bisexuals. I consider myself very open and transparent with both sides. Don’t have time for the emotionally unavailable with insecurities.

[@Victori.A1]

Lesbians don't get insecure, that's your ego talking

[@brendapasia9]

@@Victori.A1 okay lol

[@Victori.A1]

@@brendapasia9 good lol

[@kawaiikoibito3268]

​@@Victori.A1insecure response

[@Victori.A1]

@@kawaiikoibito3268 that literally made no sense 🤣

[@liveyourlife7367]

This was a great convo, because you two know what you like. I use to be a NEXT girl, I am a fem and have dated all types but what worked for me is half fem half tomboy. So that is what I am with now. :"

[@indiasimone6645]

Awesome content Commissioner and JKiillem. I enjoyed this very much. Looking forward to Part 2💯🌈💜

[@Reed5016]

1:25 That is so annoying when “straight” women do that. It completely invalidates sapphic sexuality, and goes into that “it doesn’t count without a d*ck” bs. It’s totally not cool. Storytime, if you want: I had a relationship with a “straight” girl who led me on (best friend type of thing). She told me she felt something for me, but she had a guy “friend” who she was paying more attention. I didn’t want to accuse her of cheating, and I didn’t want to look clingy. So I ignored it. But she kept getting more emotionally unavailable, and it got to the point where she didn’t want to hear about how I felt and only wanted me when she had something shitty going on. She invalidated my feelings and blew me off. Eventually, she told me she thought it was wrong for queer people to have children because they “need people from both genders to be healthy.” Right around that time, she stated watching Ben Shapiro’s content. She really wanted kids, and she shortly after left me. I really felt like shit afterwards, and I have honestly been burned by bisexual and straight women who are experimenting. But I’m trying to work through it.

[@mi_cielovida3642]

I love this platform and so good to see you @AmbersCloset back strong and heavy on the channel again ❤

[@saras1458]

I stumbled across your channel and Jess's channel this weekend. I'm an older femme lesbian and finding your conversations very interesting. My mind is comparing your topics to my experiences in early 2000s. It would be interesting to see you have these discussions with studs/butch/masc in their 50s. What was their experiences? Have things changed?

[@FrancescaCoelho-wk6ob]

This conversation resonated with me deeply, and I appreciated both of your humor, depth, and sincerity in this video! My journey of self-discovery through my fluid gender expression and open sexuality has been revealing, especially regarding what I seek in relationships. Despite a lack of success in dating, I stay true to my desire for a partnership based on growth and freedom. Identifying as solopolyamorous for the moment, I'm on the lookout for a partner who shares my values. Finding someone equally dedicated to self-improvement and openness is rare, but I'm committed to the search. Good luck to y’all! It’s rough out there! 😅

[@deedeesmexilife861]

Amber's like I'M NOT THOUGH 😂😂😂😂😂

[@paigemontgomery7887]

34 seconds.. fastest I’ve ever been to a video 😂 Always will support Amber!

[@salhooper]

Dating and sexuality/ gender has always been a complicated topic for me. I’ve always known I was attracted to more than just cis guys, and I can be attracted to women, non-binary people, trans people etc, it’s not about what’s in their pants for me. I consider myself bisexual but also Androsexual as I’m attracted to masculinity, whether that’s butch women, pretty boys, gender non conforming people and sometimes but rarely cis men. The fact there are so many stereotypes about bisexuals yet people like me exist is wild.

[@bdance1620]

I've followed u both for yrs now & and this is DEF 1 of my fave vids from y'all

[@souldreamer8838]

Awesome and insightful discussion! Enjoyed both of yalls perspectives, definitely a vibe. Cant wait for part 2!!! 🫶🏾👑🫶🏾👑

[@stephanieparker558]

I got one shirt on the way! Love you guys

[@BkWellness]

Grown people have grown conversations. ♥️

[@discoveringdenee]

Amber is just so funny😂 Like she doesn't even have to try!

[@shyshy1164]

I'm straight and here to understand my masc lesb. I'm trying my best to understand your world.

[@nata6835]

Nahhh, I caught feelings for a masculine lesbian woman few yrs back. Didn’t even know I was capable lol.. started to question myself because it was the first time I felt feelings for a woman. Then this woman totally broke my heart. She was dealing with other women. I still have some bitterness in my heart over it and I’ll never deal with another lesbian. Some of us are indeed loyal.

[@Nubian11]

Amber you get men ask you out so much because you are very PRETTY. I don’t think it’s because they are low key gay. Amber even if you are a tomboy, you have a nice personality and you are pretty. So it’s normal a lot of men are attracted by you.

[@carmelalopresti6039]

You know why you get hit on by dudes because it's a power trip for them

[@OGJayroc.tsukuyomi]

I just think amber is very cute and alot of other masculine women also and I'm not attracted to men in any type of way, my visual of a stud is mostly the face and the truth is she's still a women thats my thought process, so that's what makes me attracted to some studs and probably some other dudes think the same way.

[@kenziepeace6096]

Amber and Jess big love to you for making this vedio , Great talk loved this.

[@SoulFullOfMusic81]

I'm a bisexual who only dated bisexuals (circumstantially) and nobody cheated. These relationships were far from perfect, but not because of our sexuality. We were immature and had deep unresolved family issues. First gay people I hanged out with were from online gay forum and I was so dissapponted when I discovered biphobia. You'd think someone who looks for tolerance and acceptance from heteros wouldn't discriminate within the community. That was 15 years ago and it still friggin exists. Ironically enough, I've seen many "players" amongst lesbians, who behave like hetero street thugs and I'm disgusted by their demeanor. They'd fuck just anything and are no better than average men. It's been a while since I no longer seek queer friends, just open minded people who have worked on being better for themselves and people around them.

[@raspberrypanic]

"Hetero street thugs" wow...work on your lesbophobia.

[@rwiley8535]

Can someone answer my question. In all seriousness. I hv always wonder this. Bisexuals dont date other bisexuals. Why? Bisexual men dont date bisexual men. Bisexual Women don't date Bisexual Women. I always wondered why?

[@Imetwurld_]

Bisexual men date other bisexual men .jeo lee is a KZbinr with such relationship .you can check him out .both are bisexuals .infact bisexual men with bisexual men is very common .

[@rwiley8535]

@@Imetwurld_ The internet is one thing, but in my experience. Bisexuals avoid other bisexuals. I always wondered why? males gravitate to one another,..granted. The DL man, out gay men, in the closet males, etc. But as a rule, in relationships,..bisexuals avoid one another. Why?

[@danielle7127]

I’ve dated other bisexuals before. Also I think some people may perceive bisexuals as lesbians if they see 2 women together.

[@rwiley8535]

@@danielle7127 I see. In my opinion, experiences are just that experiences, if yours were grest,.. fantastic. And also I agree, some people write off someone sexuality as either straight or gay, not bi. I just always wondered. Bisexuals avoid one another when seriously dating. People notice, I just wondered why. Thanks for responding

[@charlyb9194]

There’s more to sex than just penetration… 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@AmbersCloset]

Absolutely!!

[@eleciarobinson2584]

I appreciate hearing y’all talk bout us bi women in a good way lol. It makes me a bit more confident to pursue women without feeling like I’ll be shot down for just being bi 💜

[@GETYOBAGMONIQUE]

I always get tested on a regular and show the person i am currently dating my test results they always say no one has ever done that for them before some times i have ro beg and drag them to get tested too smh

[@mbutterfly4180]

I just have to say, my brother who is gay ended up with a man who was straight and they were in a committed and loving relationship for over 30 years. Like wise, my best friend, who never was interested in girls, ended up in a relationship with a women and they have been married for over 10 years and just had their second cute baby!!! Just saying, love who you love. Don't worry so much about the labels.

[@robinjohnson2409]

You know what I'm gay straight women are attracted to me 1,000% but you're right they start liking you and I notice when they start liking you then they get mad at you some of them get mad at you because they like you that's what I get a lot first we start off cool but then when they start catching feelings then they start acting brand new and don't let another woman start liking you then they start getting real possessive like you're my gay girl it's really weird I'm glad me and my woman got back together you guys can have them straight women because it takes too much energy but if I have somebody already I'll be up for the challenge LOL

[@diysimpleartsncrafts5617]

Hi Amber, I like your wall artwork... Awesome!

[@mariareinsky]

This conversation would of definitely resonated with me, when I was in my 20s for sure. In my 30s I feel like, some of it feels a little immature. Not preferences or experiences obviously just statements. Being there for straight girls to have their first experience or ‘ awakening’ I mean, that makes me sad. But then I also feel that we, the LGBTG+ community is a little slower to deal with some of the general issues, and thereby take a little while longer to mature. I certainly did, as a millennial.

[@vf8811]

Everyone’s bisexual but me 🤣🤣 wise words of amber

[@byronbillups9362]

I think masculine men and women need to have a conversation. Bcuz there are plenty of us that feel it doesn’t have to be an us vs. them mentality…being ENM really gets you to see ppl and not labels…I know some fems who actually love mascs but from an ENM format which I think could be the best for plenty of ppl but not many mascs are in that field…but I can understand where you all are coming from. Women who play with hearts need to learn how to have tough conversations up front and not use masculine women nor anybody for that matter as an experiment or vice versa.

[@carmelalopresti6039]

Amber you're amazing and you get straight to the point you're absolutely right

[@rachel183321]

This was very interesting and enlightening at the same time

[@desertqueen_1103]

“I feel like every women is bi sexual, IM NOT!!” 😂😂😂I fuckin love her lol

[@Imetwurld_]

As someone who identifies as straight if you think all women are bisexual than that includes lesbians too .I didn't watch the video but after seeing straight I clicked on it and went straight to the comment section .🤷🏽‍♀️.

[@karenmoreno433]

Omygosh 😂😂 the part about The Lesbians wanting the masculines to do fem stuff in the bed really is a thing .. some give in 😂😂 ... I knew i wanted to taste a girl way before i even knew it was an optional possibility 😅😅

[@skwinglesushi]

I can already tell you why Amber gets people wanting to commit..... I can tell Amber is a romantic just by the way she talks! I've had women come to me saying they don't want nothing serious and be the first to want a relationship few months in. That includes bisexual women. They might not even want the commitment really but just don't want you to give that attention to someone else because they know its rare. Its because we really take care of our women and make them feel special. The " I dropped flowers off for you, open your door, feed you poetry lines" type shit. To me I don't feel like I'm going out of my way to do that its just flirting. So even if I don't want a relationship I end up being offered one. 🤣🤣

[@clairebrady7730]

Love the content keep it up!!❤️❤️

[@hfortenberry]

“I think all women are bisexual…I’m NOT” 😂 SAME here sister!

[@figginsdalip]

Amber essentially said “I make women change teams” and I can totally understand why.

[@michellecox2344]

Ive never been a fan of bisexual or "straight" women because I do feel like they will just go back to men or at least be thinking about them. But, I respect everyones opinion. Men are just intimidated by agressors..so we are the "body count" ... but, if someone is fooling around with another person or persons... then they all count.... good talk

[@yescastillo8973]

Amber hit me up ! For real !! You are so beautiful lol ! I’m a Scorpio

[@MarissaPulsipherLowery-u8d]

Love that shirt amber I want one!!

[@astelaalahmari3899]

Welcome girl wee need more of this topic

[@bradlove9684]

Love the vibe 🎉

[@txmedusa13]

People want to wife up Amber bc of her typical Virgo personality. Straight to the point but also very caring too 🤷‍♀️ and her being so fine is just the icing on the cake... But anyways I loved this one 👏

[@coffeencream8820]

can a fem and fem lady be together ? even though i am more masc i can be fem at same time i love women 😊i am gay women with a bixsual women

[@allegreajohnson7353]

Very insightful ❤❤

[@lrthevasahayam]

Interesting subject, your doing great! ❤

[@rwiley8535]

I don't do straight Women or bisexuals. Too much drama and game. Straight Women will be with u, and "experiment" with u. Straight Women knows by being with u, it does not mess up Her game with men.. Some men find it fascinating..And dont consider the relationship part of her bc. Bisexuals?! No. I had a bad experience and She came back pregnant. I was like,.."go back to the daddy". I respect wlw or people that are non labeled. I feel Women who considers themselves non label are at least honest. Just my opinion 🤷‍♀️

[@Victori.A1]

Exactly

[@lizzie3352]

if straight men get called gay for being attracted to masculine women ... then what does that mean for us fem lesbians who are mostly attracted to mascs ? kind of reinforces the idea that we secretly want men when we do not but it seems like you also believe that " most of us are lowkey bisexual " ://

[@AmbersCloset]

That’s a great point. I definitely don’t want to be a part of reinforcing that stereotype🙏🏽

[@ehiobanor]

You make a great point, but if we look at certain societal implications and account for men’s contributions to heteronormativity, or patriarchy in general it is more likely that they do have repressed desires and attractions for the same sex. Of course it’s not fair to generalize, but I think two things can be true at once.

[@fishingwithsky4015]

I’m screaming I love this 😂😂😂

[@elisegray6962]

I'm very bi-curious hoping to find the right woman to have an amazing connection someday and get to the point ❤ because I just don't wanna try with any woman

[@POLYLIVING]

U really got my attention with this subject👏💥

[@djsmoothjackson630]

I enjoyed the video n I got to get one of your merch shirt.

[@G-Master3]

Because lowkey they want our strap real bad🤣🤣🤣

[@TheClosetRatchet]

Yeah, I’m very open about my sexuality. If I’m attracted to you, then I’m attracted to you. We’re just spirits in human drag. 🤷🏽‍♀️ I’m happy that I’m open minded in this lifetime. And I used to dress more masc when I was in college and ALWAYS used to get hit on by straight men. It’s like a conquest to them. But them niggas just gay lmao

[@Imetwurld_]

No they are not gay .men can like pretty men . But In this context you are a woman so that dosent make Dem gay .

[@overtremendouslyblah]

Where do people get rings like that? i want rings but I can't ever find cool ones

[@kid-ava]

amber, we love you too! 💗💜💙

[@nehasweet8019]

As a bisexual woman, I admit I couldn't take my eyes off you (the one with the short hair and tats). Sorry I don't know your name. First time watching

[@miaranee]

Yooooo Amber is repping the masculine community hard, mad relatable. The all women are bisexual except me is how I feel. Most straight girls I've dated wanted marriage and kids too and all I wanted was some fun, also, getting hit on by dudes meanwhile my straight friends are looking fine asf!! So trueee

[@_justkellie]

I love you Amber!!! 😍💕💕💕

[@sweetkk101]

I feel bisexual woman are thrown under the bus more than str8 women still at the end of the day people gonna connect with who they connect with... Counting a title out might make you miss the one truly for you.

[@LovedbyYah]

Im bi and a fem presenting but masc Energy love to lead and take charge .even men say i have masc vibe but im soft .

[@TheBeccasol1]

Yes - awakeners! 🔥🙌🏾

[@Hannahdealer8180]

Part 2??? I'm so happy I foudn you guyyys

[@iamsun26]

I have a crunch on Amber I couldn’t make it to the pool post when she was in the A

[@bernadette1079]

Im bisexual ive known sense i was very young. im a libra and im a very loyal person to whoever im with doesn't matter if im with a woman or a man treat me right and were good. idk what gender ill marry but im still single cuz people ain't shit 😂

[@dcspiderman1]

I've dated lesbians before and I love them but it has nothing to do with being gay or wanting a strap. I just like beautiful women and don't care how they dress or how they have their hair.

[@Dream-Me]

I'm bisexual but I am also learning that I'm poly. When with a man I miss women. When with a woman I miss men 😅. So much love to be had and I really don't wanna miss out on none of it 😂😂 I'm excited for what the future may hold 🥰

[@Rita30rage]

let everyone be what u think u are if yo bisexual be that if yo straight be that stop confusing yourself Thanks for the gd topic ❤❤❤ 12:58 😅

[@vixensims4418]

Just cause a few do or think that way, not all. It is hard to date a stud or lesbian because of the other 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@wokemanishboi5003]

For clarification. Even though there may be SOME men who are low-key gay and find studs attractive for that very reason. Most us know that regardless of how masculine you want to dress. A fine woman is a fine woman, and we can still see your lady lumps underneath all of those clothes. That said, you're STILL a woman at the end of the day, which makes you appealing regardless.🤷🏿‍♂️

[@Justin-st6og]

Common sense thinking. Most studs see themselves as men so they confuse what they have vs real masculinity

[@EdwardSanchezProductions]

Amber you are the best

[@ann000000000000]

"You shouldn't put expectations on someone." *proceeds to expect that every bisexual wants to bottom*

[@AmbersCloset]

I think you’re mixing up what each of us said. I said don’t put expectations on people about what your expect from them or the relationship without communicating and getting on the same page. We talk more about this in part 2

[@Victori.A1]

You're mentally challenged

[@ann000000000000]

Thanks for clearing it up, Amber. I just watched the second part and got that you both would appreciate equal partnerships. So I think I really got the insinuations wrong in this vid.

[@MaceyPrice007]

I am Lesbian and part of LGBT community and dating Femme women are bi or lesbian. But not straight if sleep with lesbian

[@ariselissanchez417]

After the third time😆😆😆

[@entrepriseenfondcommun2024]

Oui oui bien sûr Amber😂

[@cb8329]

I don't completely agree with ya'll, some straight men like all types of women no matter what they look like. ( I'm a masculine woman who is straight/pan, but I'm not attracted to trans men or women at all, just feminine men or in-between men who aren't too masculine or too dominant. I'm also attracted to a lesbian shemale her male genitals and not necessarily the lesbian shemale herself ) What I meant to say here is that not every man is "gay", but lately you see a lot of men doing it with each other, yes that's right !!

[@damnboy-xl2jc]

How could you be straight if you like trans women? You sound so deeply closeted and trasphobic. Girl get better

[@mjp.7765]

For my side, except teenager’s relationship with boys and father of my daughter (which was short); I use to date only woman since the age of 18. As lesbian are often complicated, I am thinking if bisexuality could be an option. Imagining myself having s with a man makes me feel 😵‍💫🙂‍↔️ I could have feeling for men for sure but without the magic word “s..”

[@madamdram]

Are y'all at Shan's?

[@Lolapecola]

Lol

[@Lolapecola]

Shan’s back drop is not like this though, it’s more leafy. I don’t think Amber said she got the painting from Shan though

[@Lolapecola]

I do think*

[@cho.cho_]

Heavy on communicating what you want. Saying it with your whole chest.