Anger, Resentment and Forgiveness

[@888FreshwaterJesusdeChrist]

Your channel is amongst the most blessed. Thank you, Dan.

[@sandrachisholm2310]

"Stop that crying or I'll give you something to cry about." Anyone familiar with that beauty?

[@PainFreeYou]

Oh yeah. Anyone who was raised in the 60's or 70's. haha

[@sandrachisholm2310]

@@PainFreeYou Haha and here we are!❤

[@adamrosefire]

Self compassion has been very important in regards to forgiveness for me. I spent so much time, trying to forgive others while unknowingly I was abandoning myself. Forgiveness becomes far more real when I take care of myself first.

[@Inge508]

Unknowingly abandoning yourself ! Wow, so true! Forgiveness can feel so fake if we don’t practice self- compassion first..🌻🌻🌻

[@josiejo117]

I can relate.

[@8aNda1d]

Yes I agree. It is so much easier to forgive others when you learn to let go of the guilt, shame and disappointments we harbor unintentionally for ourselves. Sometimes those feelings are related to how we have allowed others to treat us more than the treatment we have received from others. What I have learned also is wishing that person (people) happiness, contentment, and peace of mind. That is VERY difficult to do and it is also a consistent learning process.

[@AvaGreenFeather]

Agreed 💯

[@PainFreeYou]

YES YES YES.

[@rajbilla76]

I think it’s important to feel what you feel, and keep releasing it with self compassion. What you’ve experienced is valid even if you get no apology/closure whatsoever. If you had to educate yourself on what you’ve gone through i.e making the connection of narcissistic abuse and chronic pain, then you can start to heal. Focus on getting your body out of trapped fight/flight etc. because the past is the past, and a new you is trying to surface. A much wiser and stronger person with boundaries in place, and recognising your unmet needs and red 🚩in people. You are the priority. 🕊️🦋✨ Also I read this yesterday “The people who abandoned you, also abandoned themselves”. 💜

[@Inge508]

Beautifully expressed Raj! Thank you for that ❤

[@rajbilla76]

@@Inge508 you’re welcome! ❤️

[@massagepublications]

Raj - beautiful ❤

[@josiejo117]

So true!!

[@PainFreeYou]

wow - love that quote. so true.

[@tominnc315]

Ive at times been angry at myself for being steamrolled by my parents & others. Trusting , always bieng loyal always saying yes. Im a trustworthy & loyal person- i cant redo the past. You are saying exactly! What my local therapist says: forgive for Tom. Let go Im 11 months in zoom call now & im so much better. Im about ready for my crown! Ive learned alot thus i still enjoy it

[@Inge508]

So happy for Tom! Well done!🎉🎉🎉

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

Yesss Tom yippee 💐🎊🎉❤️

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes. Let go. I'll crown you when you are ready.

[@Bachconcertos]

Sounds like Narcissistic parents family members.

[@tamjase1978]

Thankyou Dan 😊

[@MissDoreen]

Thank you Dr Dan 🙏🏽♥️☺️

[@Nonessential888]

Thank you Dan. I have anger that I have held for many years that I don’t even think about. Now I can see that it is harmful. I will work on forgiveness. I already feel some relief. Thank you.

[@PainFreeYou]

Wonderful.

[@TheVaultwest]

In our home, it was, “I’ll give you something to cry about!” Which meant that any emotion wasn’t okay. It’s no wonder we find ourselves in pain. I think forgiveness for me is really important. I still have anger toward parents who weren’t there emotionally. They didn’t know how to be because their parents didn’t teach them. And, it goes back for generations. It stops here with those of us doing recovery. Another critical message, thx Dan, and welcome home! 💖

[@Inge508]

❤❤❤isn’t it beautiful that we can stop that cycle of wounds that’s been going on for generations ! I think that’s a gift from recovery.. have a deep healing dear Christine 🤗💕💕💕

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you Christine. It's nice to be home.

[@TheVaultwest]

@@Inge508 Thank you, dear Inge 🩵 I realize that all of us on this journey to heal have changed the course for ourselves and our families. I love seeing you here each day and i wish deep healing for you, too! 💞💞💞

[@Inge508]

@@TheVaultwest 🤗❤️❤️❤️

[@toshuarussell4703]

Same!

[@jeanninegiordan7096]

I’d love more of these types of videos. I think understanding why the brain perceives certain thoughts and emotions as dangerous is helpful. The WHY of it all. Thank you for dedicating yourself to helping others. It’s so tricky and it’s hard to find anyone in my life that will accept TMS as a diagnosis so I just don’t talk about it. But that also causes anger. The cycle is so so hard. Im glad your here.

[@PainFreeYou]

Stick with this community. We understand you. We get you. Many in my own immediate family don't accept what I do.

[@monishareddy1]

Thanks Dan - it was perfect timing. i have been holding on to anger and ruminating about something my Dad did and like you said the person you areangry against is happily living their life . I guess I have to try to forgive

[@PainFreeYou]

Not for his sake, for yours.

[@monishareddy1]

@@PainFreeYou - thank you ,

[@yaamas]

Thank you dear brother, this was for me...all of it. I love you Dan, welcome home!

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad this one resonated with you.

[@maryanderson8746]

You hit the nail on the head! Ruminating is horrible and hurts only the person engaging in it! I forgave someone for myself and after I did it went on to have an incredible relationship with that person!

[@PainFreeYou]

Really interesting. Thanks for sharing your story.

[@tessinmaxwell2599]

My best advice about forgiveness is to stop trying to forgive, and let yourself be angry when you are in fact angry. There was a point in my life when I had reason to be very angry at someone and it was a situation that was ongoing. I was religious at the time so there was pressure to forgive and fear and guilt about not forgiving, and I could not forgive by force of will (I don’t think it’s possible). I eventually stopped being religious, admitted that what had happened was wrong and it was appropriate to feel anger, and I let myself be pissed off and rant to a friend when the issue came up. I also started meditating regularly and gradually my nervous system settled down quite a bit, though I still have a ways to go. My anger gradually faded over over this period of time without me thinking about it at all. I still don’t like what happened and when I take the time to think about it, i can still get a little pissed, but it is not intrusive (it takes effort to bother to think about it). I wouldn’t even necessarily say I’ve forgiven, just that I care less about it and the anger is kind of exhausted. So yes, intentionally holding grudges or feeding rage doesn’t help, but I personally think forgiveness is often overrated and to have it as a goal can be counterproductive.

[@PainFreeYou]

What if we can FEEL the emotions, then forgive?

[@tessinmaxwell2599]

@@PainFreeYou Maybe forgiveness is the natural outcome of having felt the emotions? I think it’s important to allow yourself to be angry for as long as you need to- your body is going to produce a certain amount of emotion to any given situation, and it needs to be felt until it is exhausted. When forgiveness itself is the goal, it can be tempting to hurry the feeling process or want to skip it. I do not mean to ruminate on your stories as you talked about in another recent video, just to not actively try to forgive. I also think forgiveness implies a finality, as in, I have forgiven them, period, the end, it’s over, and I’m never going to be angry about that thing again, when in reality anger, though becoming less and less intense and prolonged, might need to pop up from time to time indefinitely, depending on the severity of the offense. Not a criticism of you, I just know forgiveness is very “in” these days, and it can be loaded with pressure and self-judgement; “good” people forgive, etc.

[@PainFreeYou]

@@tessinmaxwell2599 you make a lot of good points.

[@bonnieh5172]

Great video, using it last few days for a friend and anger situation. Thank you.

[@cindybrown1356]

Excellent Dan, thank you once again. Nothing to add, as this is full of truth and wisdom. 💚

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you.

[@LilyOscar333]

Morning Dan you look very happy and refreshed after your break. Yes I have felt anger, resentment etc on hurts I received during my life. But thankfully I have now forgiven them as I have come to realise they are the ones with the problem not me. The hardest part was forgiving myself for hurting my back! But with the help of a therapist I have let it go.. Thank you for excellent teaching. 🙏 How is Finn ? I bet he missed you. 🐈‍⬛

[@Inge508]

Have a lovely day Lily ❤

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

Hi love you Lily ❤

[@LilyOscar333]

@@Inge508 ❤️🕯️🌺🌷

[@LilyOscar333]

@@Lenneke8422-b3t 🌸🕯️🥰❤️

[@PainFreeYou]

Finn was fine. My son visits to take care of him.

[@sallyfoley5451]

Thank you so much Dan, this was incredibly relevant to my present situation. I am currently sorting out the mess my 91year old mother is in, on both practical and financial levels, so that she can stay in her home as long as possible. My mother neglected me as a child and offloaded my care as much as was possible. My narcissistic sister was her preferred daughter, even though she has taken all of my mother's savings (with my mother's consent) and now has dropped all contact with her. My mother is very grateful that I have picked up the baton, but there us a lot of bad history there that is too bizarre and lengthy to go into here. I have very mixed emotions over this present situation, so this was the missing link I needed at this time. I have found your videos extremely helpful in dialling down post operative foot pain Everything you say makes so much sense. Thank you so much.

[@ruthie408]

Thank you, Dan, for what you called your ramble but to me was a beautiful and important message from your own experiences and from the heart. I agree so much.

[@PainFreeYou]

Thanks Ruth. I always appreciate your kind words and support.

[@annettehansen6047]

I have always struggled with anger , resentments, and unforgiveness. I have been working on it with a therapist and 12 step sponsor, and it is getting better. I was told that resentments only hurt you, not the wrongdoers. I had to write down my resentments and how they affected me to see the damage to motivate me to let go. I also had to write down my part in the resentments so I could see where i was in the wrong, make amends, change behaviors, build my character and reconcile relationships if appropriate. Obviously there are some situations you don't play a part like if you were abused. I really get into psychology and human behavior so I like to understand why people act how they do for example mental illness. It helps to have compassion on them and to wish them well. This is NOT justifying or condoning it just helps to understand, have compassion, and wish them well. Its also not good to get revenge, not only because of consequence but they will get their karma and there will be justice. If it motivates them to change and make anends be happy for them.

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

Hi Dan well painful emotions plenty. Now full on with grief and am very nervous because on this Wednesday i am going to scatter Corine's ash. She didn't have a funeral because she didn't want to so this ceremony on Wednesday is the final goodbye. I have never done this before so ver very nervous. I walked in the dunes and talked to Corine. Helped but sooo nervous. Cried already a lot this morning. I had some good days lately as you can read in my comments. Forgiveness i do for myself... I forgave many people and the ones i could not forgive myself i left them to the so called karma. I strongly believe in karma. By the way you look great! Ok love you Dan and everyone else a big hug and smile from me see you all tomorrow 😘😘😘

[@Inge508]

Sending love to you in these difficult emotional times ❤️🌹🌹🌹

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

@@Inge508 cant stop crying

[@1STBUCKLEY]

Look on it as setting her spirit free, Corine will always be in your heart. Walk the grief pathway knowing Corine is with you, as are all of us here. ❤❤

[@Inge508]

@@Lenneke8422-b3tlike Patricia says it so beautifully !Allow your tears .. and we all hold you in our thoughts and love!🌼🌺🌸

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

@@1STBUCKLEY ok will do that thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@maatjederegt7434]

Wise message Dan, thanks!👍

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you.

[@fablesreveries6223]

Thanks, I needed to hear this today

[@PainFreeYou]

Awesome.

[@Inge508]

Most of us can relate to hurtful experiences.. it’s called life. I was not good in forgiving, but I realized I kept myself stuck in the past ! Like you say Dan,those who hurt us just go on living their lives happy or artificially happy.. It’s me who became chronically I’ll,not them.. Injustice is a big one for me too! But feeling that all the time keeps you stuck as well.. I don’t want to stay stuck in that past, I am worthy of a better future ❤ Very inspiring insightful words Dan! Thank you 🙏 I wonder if disappointment in some people is allowed ? I’m trying to get to light version of disappointment, but not sure if I can get rid of that feeling / state completely.. Have a good day, Dan and everyone ! 🤗🌻🌻🌻

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

Yes my sweet Inge wr all deserve a wonderful future have a wonderful day ❤️😘💐💕

[@LilyOscar333]

Inge yes it’s hard to let go.. I know that now. Life is not fair and as I think it’s Tara Brach who says ‘it’s not what happened to you it’s how you deal with it’ I dealt with things very badly, like my hurts, injuries etc. I think it’s because we are very sensitive, etc. Sending you lots of healing ❤️‍🩹 hugs 🤗 and will light candles. We are here to encourage each other with Dan’s help. 🌸🌺🌷🕯️❤️

[@Inge508]

@@LilyOscar333agree 💯 ! It’s one big learning curve for me! Will light candles too, for everyone and especially Lenneke who’s having such a hard time now❤❤ ❤

[@LilyOscar333]

@@Lenneke8422-b3t Candles lit for you .. plus sending healing ❤️‍🩹 hugs 🤗

[@8aNda1d]

🤚❤I think forgiveness is like grief. There are at least 5 stages of grief. We'll experience all of them, but because of our memories, some of those feelings will return. When they do we will need to work through that and maybe forgive all over again. Some people may think that you haven't forgiven this person or circumstance, but for some things, for me anyway, is the only way I can process those feelings and stop the memories from becoming ruminations. It's funny, because I just got a notification for a meditation channel I subscribed to entitled, Unresolved Conflict. I don't use these meditations for pain relief nor do I do them daily, but when those feelings return it helps me let those feelings go. They're only 10 minutes long and are not Zen meditations, but it helps me. ❤

[@trishnewell6877]

Yes I agree with this.

[@PainFreeYou]

thanks

[@sallym9769]

I never express rage. If someone or something pushes me that far, I simply cut them off. I really do forgive them with time because I know it is best for me, but I will never open my life to them and allow them to hurt me again. I was molested as a child and I forgave my molester as an adult, BUT it did leave me with a life long feeling that I am not safe, which really has been a challenge in TMS work.

[@Inge508]

So sorry you had that experience Sally ! Wishing you all the safety in the world and a wonderful healing 🤗❤️🙋‍♀️

[@PainFreeYou]

I'm so sorry you had that happen to you. But you are safe now and you don't need to hurt.

[@MissDoreen]

Sally 😊 I can completely relate with you 💯 😞 I to was sexually abused by my biological “Father” I have not seen him in about 45 years or so…. Sending you love strength and peace ♥️🙏🏽

[@acjuan84]

I'm sorry that happened to you. May I ask how did you recover and found peace?

[@josiejo117]

I was more the opposite. I would always have compassion first for the other person, especially when they were treating me bad. On some empathic level I felt their pain & or fear & I wanted to be the one who made them "better" by being the person who did understand them by sticking around (far longer than was healthy or helpful to either me or them) to try & show this. But this caused me to stay & remain in abusive & traumatic relationships far longer than was appropriate. I didn't know then that I was just enabling them to continue with their behaviour by taking it & remaining. After this I then gave myself a hard time for staying & accepting this type of treatment for so long & then I realised if I could offer them the compassion & understanding for their behaviour, then why not offer the same to myself. Forgiveness of self is still a journey I tread!! Regarding what you said about caring for a family member who in the past was not (shall we say) "easy" to be around, (as the only surviving member of my immediate & extended family) I am the only person who can attend to this person so was no stranger to the conflicting & confusing "resentment" feelings you spoke of. However with implementing all the understanding you've so kindly & consistently imparted, over the last few months with my newly found understanding how tms & emotions work, it has helped me develop a much better understanding of myself & thus a better relation relationship!! Life eh...always learning!! Pleased to see you are home safe & looking so rejuvenated. Love you.

[@Inge508]

Wow… parts of what you wrote is just me, completely.. my compassion and empathy for ex- husband and caregivers is what opened the door for more abuse.. on all levels.. My grandma always said: you’re too good for this world.. love being good but not at cost of my own mental and physical health no more🙋‍♀️🌻🌻🌻

[@josiejo117]

@@Inge508 I totally relate. But just as others didn't know how to be different when being abusive, we also didn't know any different THEN. But in the NOW we can implement our new understanding to self & thus this will ultimately extend to others (as we are all one) so forgiveness frees us all.

[@Inge508]

@@josiejo117mmm..🤔 Some people were aware of what they did to me .. I even got into therapy with them in order to find peace and calm.. They REFUSED to work at themselves ! Every situation is different,and for me forgiveness is liberation / letting go of the hurt for myself.. Some people can hold their masquerade until they die, leaving whole families ruined behind them..

[@LL-pk2uu]

Wow, what you wrote really hit honme!!! I too felt empathetic toward others, no matter the trauma ans abuse they did cause. I need to forgive myself first. Thank you for sharing, and beautifully said!!❤️

[@LL-pk2uu]

@@Inge508, I relate very much as well. Yea, I felt compassion and empathy to those tgat hurt me. I am now starting to feel rage! I’m going with it, as if I am going to truly forgive and love myself, I need to feel the rage, too! So interesting how we can feel empathy, compassion and rage at the same time!

[@megancusack6963]

Perfect timing as always Dan, thank you ☺️

[@PainFreeYou]

You are welcome.

[@louislovereality]

thank you. on the mark. especially having seen your 'walking on egg shells' comment . how enmeshed life is. being socialised & not challenging the dominant, or as in Divided Mind page 159/64 Abner.[read yesterday] exactly what Dan says about letting go asap being key.

[@marly1869]

Thank you for this topic.. so important in our life journey ♥️♥️

[@PainFreeYou]

Thanks Marly.

[@AvaGreenFeather]

Thank you Dan! 🙏😊

[@Inge508]

❤❤❤

[@AvaGreenFeather]

​@@Inge508 Back atcha! 🤗❤️❤️❤️🕊️

[@PainFreeYou]

my pleasure.

[@MissDoreen]

I highly recommend meditating with the ancient Hawaiian prayer Ho’ O Pono Pono prayer of forgiveness 😊 Give it a try it amazing and it works beautifully The prayer is . Say in your mind or out loud. Breathe in and breathe out while repeating this powerful prayer of forgiveness # 1 I love you #2 I’m sorry #3 Please forgive me #4 Thank you 🙏🏽 I truly hope this helps to whom ever this prayer resonates with 😊 Mahalo 🤙🏽♥️☺️

[@PainFreeYou]

Wonderful. Thank you for sharing.

[@massagepublications]

Welcome home Dan! You look so rested and healthy. I’m so glad you gave yourself that gift. This is an important topic and right now to be honest, I’m having a horrible flareup or extinction burst, I don’t know which, and it doesn’t matter. Doing well then out of nowhere a huge spike. I feel intense rage at my symptoms. A friend of mine said I need to forgive my symptoms. I don’t even know how to begin to do that. Before I went to bed last night, I listened to your crashing waves video and it helped a lot. Will light a candle for all of us today - the light that guides us. ❤❤

[@LilyOscar333]

Peggy sending healing ❤️‍🩹 hugs and love your way. Hope you feeling better. Have to read ‘The Way out’ by Alan Gordon? I found it very good. ❤️🌸🌺🕯️

[@AvaGreenFeather]

This too shall pass. 🤗❤️🌊

[@alandry6872]

Could you share that waves video, please? Not sure how to find it. Thanks

[@davedukes4069]

hang in there Peggy...sending you compassion

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

Thsnk you sweet Peggy 💐❤️😘💕

[@deekod1967]

So well said & put, for me somatic tracking is key to experience the emotions not just in the mind but through the body too - ie using the mind body relationship as part of the cure

[@PainFreeYou]

Thanks for sharing that.

[@davedukes4069]

I was doing well last wednesday and thursday going to Giants game wed and played 9 holes of golf thursday for 1st time in 5 years Then boom worst flareup in years... so painful I was struggling to walk I'm trying to employ all my tms Dan techniques but I'm just so discouraged...

[@PainFreeYou]

The ONLY thing that happed was that the brain perceived danger. That's it.

[@davedukes4069]

@@PainFreeYou thanks Dan...that's exactly what my TMS therapist Taryn said! it's just so hard when pain is huge and also showing up in other knee, calf etc. alot better today,,,,finally thanks I'm back on track....

[@lotte2894]

As a kid I was always sent to my room by my mother if I was angry. To cool down for a "civilized talk". Then my dad would come knocking on the door saying: Don't be mad, it makes my stomach hurt! I would tell him to go away, but he would keep begging until I came out and stopped being angry. That was to types of suppressions of my anger on top of each other. No wonder I'm a people pleaser ect. But they did their best in so many ways also .... My main issue I believe is not being good at setting up boundaries. I cross my own limits and let others do the same. That's a bad habit and it leaves me feeling hurt much of the time.

[@PainFreeYou]

Awareness is the first step towards change.

[@erinm9445]

For me, I think forgiveness of the really deep stuff is hard because it means giving up on an attachment, or at least a component of one. If I'm very angry at family member for a lifetime of treating me a certain way, then forgiving them means giving up on the idea that I will ever have the relationship I wish I could have with them (and that for many years I mistakenly thought I did have). And that is very hard. Or, I'm currently feel anger at many friends because most of them have forgotten me as I've dealt with my condition, and it hurts to know that most people in my life think I am just a less valuable person to them now than I was when I was healthy, even though I am the exact same person inside. But forgiving them means giving up on the friendship I thought I had with them. Once I am recovered, I don't know if I will want to rekindle these friendships or not, or to what degree, and even the uncertainty of that is painful and scary. It's true that forgiveness can lead to renewed relationships, but the deeper and more painful or chronic the hurtful behavior went, the less likely that that is true. When you're doing the forgiving for the deepest hurts, you don't know in advance how you'll feel once forgiveness is complete, so it feels that forgiving means releasing the relationship, and that is just very painful and difficult, even if it is also necessary to finding peace.

[@sweetie2219]

I hold my anger in. But I reached my limit today and let it out with my spouse. I felt so much better instantly. I am not going to hold it in . I am going to express myself.

[@chrisbenj3819]

Truly have to forgive yourself

[@barbmorrell2529]

Good morning Dan. I have a question that is very odd. I seem to have intense dreams where I am angry trying to hurt someone or dreams that are extremely disturbing. I am wondering if what you dream goes into your subconscious and can make your physical pain worse. Does the dream cycle and the subconscious work together and cause TMS symptoms worse without us even realizing it, since we are in a sleep cycle. I am aware of the cognitive dream cycle stage of sleep, is where all of your emotions come out, and they are hopefully released in the last set of dreams before you awake. I may have to work on this more. I will say that I have done a lot of work in the last few months working on these chronic pain moments. When I feel I have done everything I can, I go to my kinesiologist to get my body aligned and adjusted and it helps a lot. I am usually pain-free for about five days after I have an adjustment and get my thought processes to stabilize. Chair yoga helps also with relaxation and slow stretching movements. I find that very helpful. I breathe in the good air and I expel the crap when I’m in my class. Just a thought.

[@PainFreeYou]

Dreams are run in the subconscious. And if the dream has dangerous events in it, we can wake up with pain. Two things we can focus upon. kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXaWkJapbL6aebs

[@Bachconcertos]

I don't no how to get rid of the anger and rage. For ten years now I keep asking how do I let this go?

[@PainFreeYou]

I don't know your story, but perhaps this video may help. kzbin.info/www/bejne/fIncqI2AlqtrsLM

[@pramodsharma7284]

Hi dan I always want to forgive him . I start to talk to him, after that I realize he has no guilt for his bad behavior for me he try to kill me earlier , he and his wife trap me and I can't do anything against them. After time spend I fall anxiety and panick for the wound accour after 4 year of that ancidence. So I clearly told him I don't want to talk to him. I don't forgive him but do not any contect to him go to hell or heaven I don't care any more

[@PainFreeYou]

Wow - wild situation. Sorry you went through that. Hopefully this person is no longer in your daily life and you don't have to deal with them at all.

[@juliaveitch7443]

I am struggling to forgive a health professional (osteopath) that made my disc injury worse. I believe I had a bulged disc at the time and now it’s herniated as confirmed by mri. I keep ruminating over whether or not it was done intentionally, given the osteopath knew I had a disc issue and performed inappropriate mobilations to the affected area. This injury has been so detrimental to my life and that of my children’s, I’m struggling to let go of the anger. I will keep trying though. Is there any TMS recovery stories on disc herniation? I can’t seem to find any on this specific issue. Thank you 😊

[@PainFreeYou]

2/3 of people with NO back pain have disc bulges and herniations in one or multiple levels. What evidence do you have that this herniation is the cause of your pain? Have you taken the pain test to see how YOUR pain is behaving? YourPainTest.com If it says TMS, the herniation is NOT the cause of the pain. Your brain perceiving danger is. That's great news. It means you can get well. The herniation is insignificant.

[@juliaveitch7443]

@@PainFreeYou Hi Dan, thank you very much for your response. The pain is located in the area that the herniated disc is located. I have been told that herniated disc’s can be very painful (and it was/is). I have been told that the tissue will eventually gristle over but this will take time. I’m fearful of activity that will ‘pick the scab’ really only undertaking walking and core strengthening atm. Scored highly on the test on your website, 47/50. So yes I believe it could have an element of TMS. Just not sure how long to give it to heal up naturally before I try mind/body approach. Do you have any success stories with someone with herniated disc, not just a disc bulge?

[@PainFreeYou]

@@juliaveitch7443 a 47 out of 50 is not an "element of TMS". That is absolute proof that your BRAIN is creating the pain. If you believe you have a messed up back, the brain will create pain there to protect you from moving it too much and risking further injury. However, 47 on the pain test means that your pain is behaving like BRAIN created pain and NOT coming from the body. There is no doubt that the mindbody approach like what I teach will help you. The MRI findings are normal. quite a lot of people have bulges or herniations. Dr Sarno called them normal abnormalities. kzbin.info/www/bejne/qIWck2WnltuWd9E

[@tamjase1978]

I have my in-laws staying with us ATM. And my symptoms have started to come back... please help 😔😔

[@PainFreeYou]

Be clear that stress does not have to mean symptoms. Don't buy into the fear. Watch this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/ppu8oqGbrM6HjKc

[@NBTCTennis]

I have what the pt said is text neck which is causing intense tightness in upper back. So bad that I don’t want to work out for the last year. But I also have tension throughout the body and other symptoms including anxiety. My posture doesn’t look that poor and the exercises all seem to make it worse including chiro/accupuncute and even pT. Mri and X-rays are normal. Could this be tms? I’ve had this for 4 years now

[@PainFreeYou]

Hey Adam. I addressed your question in the Tuesday 3pm call. Look for the replay in the members area when the replays post by Thursday dinner time. Yes, it's TMS. There is no other explanation that makes sense. Perceived danger creates tension and pain. The tension is not the problem. It's the result of a brain perceiving danger. Tension is the symptom, not the cause. kzbin.info/www/bejne/qp-4Z354dttonMk

[@NBTCTennis]

@@PainFreeYou thank you that make sense! I hopped in the meeting but had to hop out so I appreciate you letting me know. Thanks for all you do 🙏

[@debbieroso8749]

Digging up my past made no impact on my symptoms. Don’t listen to some of these “ TMS” coaches that encourage you to do so. I do think if you’re holding onto to a lot of anger at certain people That needs to be talked about with a professional

[@PainFreeYou]

If we are holding onto a lot of anger, that is likely due to rumination - which is not terribly helpful. Thanks for sharing your experience Debbie. Great to hear from you.