I spent a day with NON-BINARY PEOPLE

[@AnthonyPadilla]

come back next week for *I spent a day with JAIDEN ANIMATIONS* ≡ ▸ open.spotify.com/show/5aOLuPenneHbhLh05fmkeu  ▸ podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-spent-a-day-with/id1550213250

[@ghost1sh566]

POG

[@Goldskull_Mystic]

Ok, I’ll check back then 😄

[@mouseboi312]

Hello :D

[@sachiichu387]

YOOO

[@samsunguser85]

Can't WAIT

[@vesh]

Anthony is one of the only youtubers bringing representation to every community

[@Goldskull_Mystic]

Agreed my friend. Agreed

[@syazaizzah9973]

straight up factsss

[@magnusw.2758]

WHY ARE YOU EVERYWHERE XD

[@tronontouch9925]

Unfortunately your not one of the only people abusing a checkmark

[@Goldskull_Mystic]

@@magnusw.2758 look at his explanation video for that

[@oppositeofbatman]

I love how Anthony completely matches the energy of the person who he is interviewing and makes them feel comfortable and sort of in control of the speed and feel of the conversation

[@se7vin77]

Yeah, hes a great interviewer.

[@twentyonetortas5921]

it's a sign if Satan approves it

[@ihtishamhussain1785]

Wow Satan likes Anthony, don’t know how he would feel bout it

[@Byslie]

yes he's mastered the arts of interviewing

[@GregBonks]

That's cool Satan!

[@niks961]

my favorite thing about the way anthony interviews people is that he is able to crack jokes that aren't offensive and he isn't like treading in eggshells when cracking jokes because you could tell he's just genuinely respectful

[@mantashamalik7365]

treading in eggshells when cracking jokes XD

[@kunaihanaki]

Mantasha Malik Very well spot xD

[@mantashamalik7365]

@@kunaihanaki lol ty

[@kitirena_koneko]

He also asks intelligent questions so that he, and through him his audience, can learn and understand.

[@lostone1117]

Very off topic, but I love your pfp (profile picture) :))

[@genderno7448]

When I had first come out to my best friend I was so scared, but then my best friend just said "Oh yea, I remember in 6th grade you saying how you didn't know if you were a boy or a girl, so I've been using they/them pronouns for you for the last 3 years." and I started crying so hard. They really are the best friend I could ever have

[@moonycat]

Oml that's so sweet 😭

[@jellycore1316]

Aww, that's so cool! ;v; Thanks for sharing, that's awesome! They definitely sound like a great friend! ^^

[@marthmallow7420]

i love that so much oh my god

[@GanymedeTheCorgiCat]

Aww…

[@sylvianimates]

aww

[@timallenbrown]

"We will never live in a world that DOESN'T try to hurt people like me, UNLESS I live this way." Woooooow

[@Jatski_pelaa]

that gave me the chills

[@hortonamorticia5146]

That perfect response is exactly what caught my attention too. Beautifully said. I do believe the courage these people demonstrate every day will bring peace to future generations.

[@caitlynrae05]

I had goosebumps the minute I heard them say that. It is so profound and so true.

[@xanlutsky5951]

How I live my life as a nonbinary person too! Especially as an almost nurse

[@CSCS20]

I doubt that people can act anyway and still get hurt

[@unoriginalityismysuperpowe9826]

Yes! “That’s a person thing. People do that” is exactly how I feel !

[@artemis754]

That made me laugh so much. I hate how most things are pointlessly gendered.

[@jianlisa4885]

Me too! love this concept 💕

[@artemis754]

@Kelly Ali hm??

[@artemis754]

@Kelly Ali i think that is a personal choice. The difference between this is that the things that should not be gendered are objects. Or ways to do something. I personally feel better after i discovered my gender identity. I guess we should stop gendering items, and just listen to peopke and the way how they identify.

[@artemis754]

@Kelly Ali someone deciding their own gender isnt harmful, nor sex stereotyping.

[@nessuno1984]

It's not that we should be bringing our kids up to be genderless, it's that we should be bringing our kids up to be gender limitless. Girls should be free to play with cars and trucks and play football and boys should be free to play with dolls and wear dresses. Girls should be free to be masculine and boys should be free to be feminine. That's how my hippy parents brought me up decades ago and how I brought my kids up. Kids who feel they are male or female shouldn't be told they are genderless the same as genderless kids shouldn't be told they are male or female. Nurture your kids so they feel okay that they are who they are when they get to the age they can realise what they are - straight or queer or asexual, cis or trans or non-binary. They will go through stages of figuring out who they are and won't know for sure until they are in their 20s. Bringing your kids up gender limitless will make them accepting of all the different levels of gender that exist, even if they turn out cis and straight themselves.

[@soulgazer11]

I love this 🥰 *gender limitless* This is why I love linguistics, words are so powerful 😌🤩

[@mayyo2925]

@@soulgazer11 i agree such a great term that i will now use

[@modkip25]

if the terms don't mean anything, what's the point of keeping them?

[@queenemmers]

I completely agree! My parents didn't really seem to push me and my siblings beyond our comfort zones but they did seem to expect us to like certain things when we were younger. As we've grown up, they haven't pushed us toward doing things according to our gender. It's nice to encourage your kids to do certain things but ultimately it's up to the child.

[@gaminglegend]

There are some parents who raise their kids genderless, and that's a problem. But raising kids to do things without them being gendered is fine

[@Limes_not_Lemons]

The "that's a person thing" thing was hilarious cause that's so true. Everything should be fair game, interests, clothing, toys, etc. should all be for whoever enjoys them. People should be allowed to be people

[@Mel-wn9gb]

Yes, that's why defining people in terms of 'gender' is such a huge backward step.

[@cosygoose1813]

Stop supporting a channel that gives Jeffery Marsh a platform. A guy who tells his fans to stalk and threaten people who call out his concerning behaviour such as telling kids to abandon their parents and get his pateron so he can talk to them "intimately and privately".

[@jackhamilton9604]

@@Mel-wn9gb when it comes to biology it isn't and is important

[@kyoza5069]

"Half-hearted ball kicking That's a person thing" I'm sorry this cracked me up

[@KaityKat117]

lol I prefer half-hearted ball kicking over whole-hearted ball kicking. tho I think any amab person will agree that no ball kicking is best.

[@rsyvbh]

​@@KaityKat117 personally i would love it, free surgery lol

[@abbyhelena640]

can we just appreciate how polite Anthony is and how much he respects and supports people who come on the show?

[@delaneyknipp9485]

@Serena Nintendo okay this one confuses me??? what do u even mean

[@doris-lx1vx]

He respect everyone on his channel

[@Benni777]

@Serena Nintendo really??🤦🏻‍♀️

[@killerqueen3193]

Why r u gae?

[@cybernexus4233]

I mean if it fits his views of course he will respect it

[@mossycobblestone5317]

One time, I was taking an assessment for school, and it said -Male -Female And in small letters it said "Skip" and I choose it. Later when I got the answers back, it said "Gender: Unknown" and I felt that on a deep level.

[@nickmerryman1666]

HELPSDKSFNSK why would that make me so euphoric I would love for my gender identity not to be perceived

[@po1zen98]

Yea I’ve felt that before ಥ_ಥ

[@MC-ns8gb]

@@nickmerryman1666 void-gender

[@Lucas_TheUmbreon]

"Error 404: Gender not found" I love that

[@Indi_Waffle_Girl]

Damn.

[@themegayoutuber]

"How many "y"s were in the word gay?" "About 16" "Yup. Thats the appropirate amount for a purple lunch box"

[@sovietdoge.7369]

Gayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

[@Shiris_box]

haha theme gay outuber i'm sorry

[@jessasmith2521]

I’m HOH and know several Deaf people who would like watch your videos, but unable to without captions. Please consider adding closed captions to make your content accessible for Deaf community.

[@hypothesised4453]

Bump

[@alexg4218]

Yas

[@angeliquestevens1863]

Absolutely !

[@mirror1643]

and captions help non hoh people consentrate

[@dork_mork6953]

1000% agree!! Honestly all videos should have captions

[@AmiralXII]

It's a tiny thing, but as a cis man, I found myself in a store trying out a scarf, only to realise it was labeled in capital letters "FOR LADIES". Instantly I felt ashamed and put it back in. I then looked at the men's options but they were few and all very bland. It was another click for me, earlier that week I had seen that chain I really wanted only to be told by a relative it was for girls. I know it's a tiny thing, but for the many times I gave up on myself, from the music I listen to the way I walk, I wanted to make a first step towards breaking free of gender comformity. So I went back and bought that scarf and I now wear it proudly. It's something small and it doesn't make for a great inspirational story haha, but if for something this simple I already struggled so much against peer pressure, I can only imagine what non-binary people had and have to go through. To Them, I give my sincere respect and admiration, you are a symbol of change for the better.

[@danieldoesstuff2300]

yes king!

[@autumnivez8238]

This makes me feel better about shopping in the men's section for shoes and bags despite being cis-female. Thank you.

[@samsamisasamsam]

This is pretty cool! Small steps are great! Thank you for that end part!

[@chloemcclung1173]

such a cool story!!

[@yellow.rainboots]

this makes me so happy, please keep being you

[@LaurArt_UK]

"All that gender was for me was a list of things that were forbidden" - my mind blown

[@space_ace456]

for me, realizing that I'm nonbinary actually helped me embrace some of the traditionally feminine things I avoided for so long because I hated being seen as a girl-- I finally feel comfortable enough in my own identity to wear a skirt if I want to and it's honestly super freeing

[@Mel-wn9gb]

You never heard of the centuries long women's movement? More freeing than putting yourself in a box just so you can wear a skirt.

[@space_ace456]

@@Mel-wn9gb I don't think you understand, finding a comfortable box allowed me to be myself-- I'm not forcing myself into this box just so I can wear a skirt. I spent a long time dealing with dysphoria around the idea of being a "woman," not because of clothing (my mom has never dressed particularly femininely but is still certainly a woman) but because that label in and of itself didn't fit me. Because I was so unsure of myself and hated the label that was forced onto me, I avoided "feminine" things in general for pretty much my entire life, but now that I'm comfortable with myself, I no longer feel the need to avoid things like skirts or embroidery just because I see them as "girly"-- now they're just things I like that don't determine my gender. I am fully aware of the women's movement, but that was not the issue at play for me-- perceiving myself as a woman in any sense tends to cause me intense discomfort; I spent months coming home and crying on my bed wondering what was wrong with me because of it. I knew I wasn't trans, but I also didn't feel like a woman-- it's just a weird gut feeling that I don't know how to describe. Based on the other comments you have left on this video, though, it seems that you're unwilling to allow people like myself to be who we are, and if you feel the need to try to convince me that I'm forcing myself into a box when I try to share a positive experienxe, perhaps you should take a look at yourself and reconsider the way you spend your time.

[@kai_alex]

im a trans man and i feel the same way. like ppl always ask "why are now comfortable being feminine". bc i needed to get my gender right to feel comfortable. im a man but im comfortable wearing what looks cool and for me coming out and accepting myself helped me with that so much

[@kai_alex]

@@Mel-wn9gb no they didnt like the box they were placed in bc it was the wrong box. the nonbinary box or outside the box (idk what the the correct term) fits them better.

[@Mel-wn9gb]

@@kai_alex So what exactly do you mean by the 'binary' box then? What makes you two any different from any other girl or woman who felt comfortable enough in themselves to put on a skirt or a pair of pants, if it has nothing to do with sex stereotypes? Opposing sexism is always a good way to spend our time. You guys should try it.

[@Lilipad08]

Even though I identify as cis, I HATE it when people say, "That's a girl thing" or "That's a boy thing" WHY CAN'T IT JUST BE A PERSON THING

[@AM-ne4uo]

It is just a person thing. You don't have to accept sexist stereotyping. You can challenge it, as women, gays and lesbians have been doing for centuries now. The so-called 'nonbinaries' challenge nothing. They endorse the very system they claim to be against.

[@Batshitcrazyfreak]

@@AM-ne4uo Not true, nonbinary people don’t identify as nonbinary because they don’t fit in with stereotypes, it’s because they don’t feel like either gender

[@AM-ne4uo]

@@Batshitcrazyfreak Yes, and 'gender' is sex stereotypes and roles. What else are they not fitting into?

[@CallieBlader]

because different genders are good at different things guys are better at doing the heavy lifting because in ages pass we were the protectors of the family and know how to fight girls are better at keeping things neat and tidy because in ages pass they were the housekeepers who needed to keep the place clean and cook for the family guys are better at hunting, wood cutting, building places girls are better at cooking, cleaning, and giving a damn. what i find odd though... since we all evolved from cavemen, didn't the cave women of the past also hunt and what not? wonder what the explanation for that is i'm a guy and i want to learn how to cook/be good at it (mostly because my food tastes are unique and i'd rather cook for my family than my future wife only cooking for herself + kids if i have any) i'm also ocd as hell and need to keep things organized/everything has to have a home otherwise its a mess tl;dr stereotypes exist, just deal with it and move on

[@alpha9775]

Yeah I agree

[@wowieitssam9457]

Oh my god I hate pointlessly gendered things. I was like 7 years old (give or take a year) and a girl made fun of me because my juice box had a character from Cars on it. A JUICE BOX. WITH A DISNEY CHARACTER.

[@nininyoko13]

Kids are weird

[@thatweirdmoldycarrot4262]

I remember I was like “red is my favorite color!” And someone told me “that’s a boys color” or my male friends telling me their “secret” and their secret was just that they liked the color purple or pink, and id always be confused cause yknow- they’re just. Colors.

[@ramona974]

@Incased_pol I think they're a girl

[@shaniadefreitas1312]

@@nininyoko13 i think its more their parents

[@SYRLEY06]

In primary school (like age 11) i had people comment on my shoes because I chose the blue ones and not the pink ones. (They had 2 different kinds. Pink or blue.) These shoes were mostly white but had a strip of either blue or pink. I'm like umm.. I like blue. I don't get this.

[@kneptoon03]

Jeffrey: “the pressure built and built and I needed to do something drastic” me: D: Jeffrey: “so I moved to a buddhist monastery” me: :D

[@Lucas_TheUmbreon]

I got scared too, Jeffrey seems like a really cool and wise person, I love them

[@pvic6959]

@@Lucas_TheUmbreon I think im in love with jeffrey's personality. the kind of confidence, positivity, and "no struggle is too hard" attitude I need in my life. 10/10 would be good friend

[@shiroi201]

I too thought this was going in a VERY different direction

[@RadleySanitarium]

I read this right as the part came up lol

[@boopp9283]

I got so scared for them honestly I thought it was going in a VRY different direction

[@chiuharn-ching9997]

I'm a native Mandarin speaker, and I am very proud to say that Mandarin is a non-gender language! He/She, even "it" are literally the same word! (all pronounced as tā) I remember when I first started learning English I find it so odd to have gendered pronouns. Been using Mandarin for my whole life and I can assure you that a language can work PERFECTLY fine without labelling everything/everyone with a gender :)

[@roxyraccoon9126]

Hungarian too. For the most part. He, she and they are all "ő" and it is "ez, az".

[@again7pyms]

yea, for the oral part yes, but not when writing..

[@chiuharn-ching9997]

@@again7pyms actually, the difference in writing happened only after the New Culture Movement in China in the 20th century. It was because the leaders of the movement wanted to "learn from the west" hence they altered Mandarin to be more similar to English and other European languages, so they created the female version of the writing "her". Before the 20th century, all the writings between different genders are the same. (Even now if you use the original TA on females I believe no one will regard it as a "wrong" writing)

[@Never_again_against_anyone]

@@chiuharn-ching9997 Interesting. Thank you for telling us.👍

[@colddekstar]

@@chiuharn-ching9997 genuinely did not know this, I was always confused when learning Chinese why there were gendered means of writing tā when it made no difference to the context or meaning, that's one thing I despise about English, the language isn't gendered whatsoever, so why are there gendered pronouns? A woman's T-shirt is still called a T-shirt, so why is it a woman's T-shirt? I know it's because it's manufactured differently to fit a different body structure, but if it's made to be different, why not label it as a different thing from the start if your intent is to make it gender specific? English is Germanic based, which has gendered words, only with a third, neutral gender, why this wasn't adopted to English outside of words like Blond/Blonde (which I understand is French) is strange, and even the direct gendered words that aren't pronouns have no difference in pronunciation, only in writing It's so strangely inconsistent, the use of gender specific pronouns in other European languages is because they have gender specific words, this was something totally unnecessary to apply to English, yet it was And to finish my rant, gendered titles These only started because other languages had them, and we adopted gender specific pronouns, however most currently used leadership titles are not gender specific, probably because they were created with the intention of only having men fill those rolls, so there wasn't a point, but European sexism isn't what I'm here to get into, there's terms such as President, Prime Minister, Judge, Justice, Ruler, Leader, Senator, none of these are gendered, however Emperor/Empress, King/Queen, Priest/Priestess, Prince/Princess, etc. all are. These are all positions of power, why are only some gendered? Even if the formerly mentioned titles were created with the intent of being male-only, why do we have female-specific terms for other positions of power? As I was finishing that up, I remembered we do have a term for a president's wife/husband in First Lady/Gentleman, however the term for their spouse remains gender neutral president With the absurd amount of inconsistencies within our own language, I don't understand the point of contention so many people find, considering the only gendered part of the language is pronouns, titles, and words that originate from gendered languages I'm sorry I wrote so much, I basically came in here intending to say "hey, I'm learning Chinese right now, and you just taught me a little fun fact that clears up some of my confusion", once passion kicks in, I begin to ramble (really hurts me when I'm arguing with someone, since there's often inconsistencies or a lack of structure)

[@jacqychan]

fun fact: Indonesians doesn't use she or he, we just use they when talking about other person which is "dia"

[@brandonawesome4900]

Awesome

[@hypnoswatch276]

It also adds to my language ! (Filipino) we don’t use gendered pronouns since there’s a term or word for it, “siya/niya” which means “you” and “sila/nila” which are sort of the translations for “they/them” pronouns ! ^^

[@imnotapollo4188]

I think all austronesian languages have no grammatical gender

[@badinstructor6806]

Same in Finland, we don't have she or he, we use "hän" which is just genderless version of he/she.

[@denizunveren4979]

turkish people also don't have gendered pronouns, we just use "o"

[@heatherlee2967]

“The LEAST interesting part of is the pronoun…It’s about giving yourself this profound freedom and joy and bliss in your own body”

[@iheartg4m355]

@Kelly Ali That's what I wanna know? I still don't get anything of this.

[@ultimateships]

“GENDER NEURAL PARENTAL UNIT NUMBER ONE” I WHEEZED I ABSOLUTELY LOVE JACOB

[@waifu1275]

Ayyyy fr no cap sleezy shawty triflin no dirty docks cap a hunned 😂😂😂😂👌👌👌👌

[@keithross7329]

Whats there to be mad? atleast youre #1 lol

[@AxxLAfriku]

You dislike the stuff that gets uploaded by my fingers clicking upload? Are you just a h8er boi? I say see you l8er boi. Don't watch the stuff that gets uploaded by my fingers clicking upload anymore. Your dislikes are damaging my good good GOOD reputation. I am a superstar, dear um

[@axowelp]

hell yeahhh! Also I love your pfp so much, I’m a happyduo fan as well

[@melonenjoyer]

YOO SAME AND HELLO FELLOW HAPPYDUO USER

[@shannae.mollet0822]

I was born Intersex and was raised female. Joan (my mom) would always yell at me when she'd see me playing with my cousin's hot wheels and she'd force me to wear dresses. As a parent, I teach my children to express themselves. Play with any toys, they share their toys. They're old enough to understand that their is a category for some toys as boy or girl toys but they still play with whatever toys they want without feeling shamed for it. Same with whatever they want to wear. I do see them expressing themselves as the gender they were born as, for the most part, but at least they have that freedom to play and learn about themselves without me categorizing them. They're human things, clothing, toys, ect. and I feel categorizing them is what causes confusion because humans are too complex to be in boxes. I am non-binary, I don't care if people see me as a female or a male. I've received questions like that my whole life, from fellow children and adults, in my adult life. Or adults saying I'm just an ugly woman. I see myself as a mother and a father, at times.. but for the most part I feel I'm just me.

[@Thisisit_zaijian]

Hi! I’m an intersex and transgender genderless youth. Thank you for posting this. I find it rly hard to find other transgender intersex people, even just stories of us being happy, so seeing your post made me really happy. I hope you have a good day

[@shannae.mollet0822]

@@Thisisit_zaijian I'm glad it made you feel happy. I hope you have a beautiful day/night.

[@ghostmelon64]

That’s good way of thinking

[@Mel-wn9gb]

"Humans are too complex to be put in boxes"....."I'm nonbinary". 🙄

[@Suited_Nat]

@@Mel-wn9gbthen let me restate it: Humans don’t want to be forced into boxes they don’t feel comfortable with. Nonbinary is that comfortable box. Don’t know why you are getting angry about something that doesn’t have to do with you.

[@maeveandres25]

angel is so androgynous, i'm jealous.They are stunning

[@llynxfyremusic]

actually she's masc.

[@llynxfyremusic]

@@trollrat2828 wdym i got offended? i simply corrected the person.

[@katohelenah]

@@simba1376 they use she/they pronouns

[@ghost_of_luna]

Yessss

[@bigwijdsljla]

@@llynxfyremusic I think they were referring to her looks, not her identity

[@elizabethbarker6692]

WAIT JACOB VOICES DOUBLE TROUBLE IN SHE-RA AND THEY PLAY A NONBINARY CHARACTER-

[@elleyd1641]

AAAA IVE BEEN LOOKING FOR A COMMENT TALKING ABOUT THIS YES YES

[@Iloveduderanch]

THATS COOL

[@AJ-lz1nf]

Icon

[@sparklestorm1236]

Omg that’s friking amazing that was like my fav charachter

[@Netsinthepantry]

I literally didn’t realize until my second time watching and now my lil enby heart is so happy

[@visionaryventures12]

Purple has been a color of royalty throughout history.

[@bigwijdsljla]

Fan fact: the reason it was a symbol of royalty is because purple-coloered dye was really hard to acquire back in the day, so only rich people could afford it this is the same reason way no country has purple in it's flag, because then it would've been to hard to recreate for the general population

[@lucidlemonarts7597]

@@bigwijdsljla what does that have to do with fans

[@bigwijdsljla]

@@lucidlemonarts7597 well I am a fan of the color purple

[@YourLocalWitchDJ]

Is THAT why I look good in it?

[@clay4320]

blue and pink didnt mean boy and girl till after world war 2

[@docdoc.4500]

Freaking nonbinary people man, they're so cool. Enbies are why I'm completely comfortable with trying to understand my gender better and was able to recognize that I'm a transdude

[@Atan55555]

This made me so happy.

[@marthmallow7420]

fellow transdude!!!!!

[@solmoman]

Based on what? If you don't mind me asking

[@docdoc.4500]

@@solmoman Hm? What do you mean? What's "based on" what?

[@sheepyhead0399]

@@solmoman Probably based on.. experience? No idea what you're asking lol

[@lostcamcorderr]

I wanna see Anthony spend a day with aromantic people. As an aromantic person myself, I'd love to see that

[@AnthonyPadilla]

coming soon 👍

[@DylanB05]

​@@AnthonyPadilla yay :)

[@ashleed6322]

@Serena Nintendo wdym it’s literally his channel

[@jisookim1452]

@Serena Nintendo what?

[@ghostlyvendetta]

@Serena Nintendo Could you please explain your comment?

[@seronimo__7735]

While I liked these interviews for the most part, I want to stress something: you DON'T need to know as a child. You can go until 40 or 50 while being relatively comfortable with the label you were assigned at birth, then try on the nonbinary label and realize it fits so much better. If you're questioning now, don't feel like you must be cis because you weren't stealing all the dresses in kindergarten. These people are just three examples.

[@seronimo__7735]

Also, I want to reiterate that you don't need to use they/them to be nonbinary. The interview didn't really show that; two of the interviewees used they/them exclusively, and the third used she/they. You don't have to use they/them at all. You can use he/she, you can use neopronouns, or you can even just use the pronouns you were assigned at birth. So don't stop questioning your gender just because you don't like they/them. Or because you're fine with your name. All are welcome in this community!

[@seronimo__7735]

And also, you don't need "dysphoria" (at least not in the traditional sense) to be nonbinary. Dysphoria is typically thought of as crying yourself to sleep every night because you don't have breasts, but it doesn't have to be like that. You don't need to hate your body either. You can just feel weird every time you're called a man/woman. You can feel like there's an emptiness in you, that suddenly goes away when you try on the nonbinary label. You can feel perfectly fine, but then trying the label makes you feel like an itch on your back that you didn't notice is finally being scratched. If you think the nonbinary label fits you, that's all there is to it.

[@seronimo__7735]

And finally, there are many ways of being nonbinary. You can feel in between man and woman. You can feel like some of both. You can feel like your gender fluctuates or alternates. You can feel like your gender's completely off the man-woman spectrum. Or you can feel like your "gender" slot is empty. All of y'all are valid

[@AM-ne4uo]

@@seronimo__7735 Why do we need to be 'slotted' into a 'gender'. That's just sex stereotyping.

[@seronimo__7735]

​@@AM-ne4uo You don't have to be slotted into any gender if you don't want to be. That's perfectly valid as well.

[@MisakiOgata]

"you don't need to look like this to be non-binary" is exactly what i needed to hear. i just discovered that i may be non-binary recently, but i don't change the way i look, so i did doubted that i maybe faking myself. i'm still on my journey to discover my true self.

[@kayladattilo8667]

Imposter syndrome is real, my friend. I am afab nonbinary and still present fairly feminine. At first I felt like I needed to overcompensate for my unconventional feelings but it just wasn't me. You can present however you want and feel totally different. As long as you're comfortable

[@leozerbe9513]

Good luck! I'm still trying to find out who I am and Anthony has actually helped me with a lot of stuff. I wish you luck with finding out who you are and whether you are a male, female, it, they/them, or you just dont have a gender, we love you and want you to feel safe here.

[@Docdoodle]

@@kayladattilo8667 tHe ImpOstEr fRoM aMOngUS??!?!?!!//1

[@FUCK1NGAWESOME]

Wow same here, I really love that they put emphasis on that. I think people kinda see non-binary as a third gender or inbetween-gender, when actually it's more like any or every gender outside of the binary.

[@elieli2893]

Ya I'm also feeling this, I really like to wear pretty things which would be considered conventional for my birth assignment, but when I try out labels, be they "woman", "man" or "nonbinary" every single one of those makes me uncomfy ;__; I suppose I might be fine with "agender"..? I just prefer not to think about it and leave it blank :'D But since I dress semi-conventional, there's always the inner nagging of "are you sure you're not just faking", which seriously gets to me sometimes... It's good to hear people confirm you don't have to look a certain way :)

[@demonyu5325]

What i love abt Filipino language is that we use the word "siya" and it's gender neutral... Like "Saan ba siya pumunta?" Means "Where did he/she/they go?" Who are we referring to? We don't know! but we do wanna know where did they go, pretty chill right?

[@allansarion7118]

OML YASSSSS IKTRRRR

[@soulgazer11]

Can you please do *"I spent a day with intersex people"* next?? I feel like not enough people know of their existence and what it means to be intersex.

[@m4zedust453]

^^ *VOUCH*

[@dork_mork6953]

Big agree

[@paxChristi.]

VOUCH!

[@maskymemo793]

vouch!

[@radioactiveraptor1011]

YEAH!!!

[@readingkings2801]

I know a non-binary parent that has their kids call them “MaPa” and I lowkey LOVE THAT SO MUCH

[@dr.bandito60]

Haha nice. In my family we call my dad “Pop” and as a nonbinary person, I like the idea of going by Mop

[@gibrinmjsankara2971]

There was a cartoon of two kids searching for their parent they called "Mapa"

[@missimperfectlyfine7]

@@dr.bandito60 that sounds so nice omg

[@Ghost_Token]

@@dr.bandito60 to be a mop one day…

[@garbage7734]

I’ve thought about that but I came to the conclusion of Pama instead of mapa because- *Pamasian cheese*

[@Ruby_Nightmares.They-Them.]

The thing that people need to realise is that feminine traits and masculine traits are not exclusive. ALL humans have access to these feelings and can express themselves however they wish!! ♡♡

[@sandrorukhadze8707]

Sure but those traits vary through sexes and masculine traits are usually expressed by men and feminine traits are usually expressed by women. it's not to say that there are no feminine men or masculine women but those are few and far between. Even those atypical behaviors for men and women is influenced by prenatal testosterone exposure in the womb. So this idea that gender roles are EXCLUSIVELY socially constructed is not at all true.

[@monbub]

@@sandrorukhadze8707 That's bullshit. It's not biological at all, just pure gender roles. Femininity and masculinity are social constructs. Having a female or male body is not. If we grew up without gender roles, people of any gender would be free to do anything they wanted to.

[@shortourt14]

@@sandrorukhadze8707 gender roles ARE exclusively socially constructed. You are conflating gender and sex. male does not equal masculinity (a term invented in the 1890s), male equals penis--and even that is a bit fluid accd to scholar Judith Butler.

[@sandrorukhadze8707]

@@monbub Wow, talking about logic. What you just did is that you assumed all of the opposite things without providing any substantial counter-arguments to back up your claims and started throwing blanket statements at me. I have a strong suspicion that you deliberately side-stepped addressing the points that I've made. Can you bring proper scientific evidence which shows sex and gender are completely unrelated ? most likely you won't be able to because all of these left-leaning theories have been based in the idea of social constructivism which has quaint scientific basis. All the political games aside, the idea that biology has nothing to do with our behavior is simply not true . It would be enough to look at the animal kingdom and observe continuity between us and them and track how they behave. On the other hand, I kind of understand where you are coming from, you are worried that these biological facts will re-incite sexism between men and women, but that reason isn't sufficient enough to disregard pure scientific facts and truths.

[@monbub]

@@sandrorukhadze8707 you're the one pulling facts out of your ass. biology does impact how men and women act (bc of evolution), but its not to the extent where men are always/usually masculine and women are always/usually feminine. we only think we're supposed to act that way, but we don't need to. many people are living proof that it is a social construct. and they dont have any genetic mutations or anything like that, they are just average people. btw the idea of certain traits being masculine or feminine is definitely a social construct. for example, people like to think that men aren't emotional, but they have emotions too. they can also cry, but whenever they do, they feel ashamed of themselves bc its seen as a feminine thing according to society.

[@madomtomlinson]

I remember vividly telling myself that I didn’t feel like a boy or a girl when I was nine, forgetting about it, and then realizing that I was non-binary seven years later.

[@DarthSion6987]

You're either one or the other.

[@pancakewithz]

@@DarthSion6987 I'm the or

[@ifindmonstersattractive9011]

@@DarthSion6987 im fidel castro

[@Manbearpig4456]

Manbearpig is real

[@Fade_NB]

@@Manbearpig4456half man half bear half pig?!?!?

[@mewow3556]

the fact that anthony uploaded this during non-binary awareness week

[@alllittlethingzz]

Ikr!!!

[@harimukund4785]

Its vv pogg

[@TheBirdGuy923]

Seriously one of my favorite KZbinrs. I love him. 🥰🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[@LynRodriguez123]

Wait it's non binary awareness week? Damn, I'm a bad non binary 😂😂😂

[@Benni777]

OMG NO WAY THATS POG! 😝

[@monkeyflower_]

"when they really want to get under my skin would be like 'gender neutral parental unit number 1, i'm f-ing hungry when's dinner?' and i'm like 'SHUT UP CASSANDRA' " that one sent me lmaoo

[@catalina3710]

Yeah, I laughed so hard. Such a creative way to think about it XD

[@solsystem1342]

I honestly do love it when my children call me "Parental unit number 1" it gives me some much gender euphoria. I'm still ok with they calling me mom though.

[@scaleonkhan183]

18:48

[@lokani]

Yeah same lmao

[@selladore4911]

jg;ah

[@IrieRogue]

I very much vibe with "that's a person thing" 😊

[@ashleed6322]

@Serena Nintendo ?

[@taylorgrace1523]

@Serena Nintendo ?

[@softsoapsof]

@Serena Nintendo ?

[@NOPANCAKESONMONDAYS]

@Serena Nintendo ?

[@riverzx]

@Serena Nintendo ?

[@wolfden8979]

"There are risks that I need to take in order to create a world where I am safe".. ❤️🙏 definitely needed to hear that.

[@DabiHadAPoint]

To any parent using "Im afarid of what the world will do to you" then dont be part of the problem! Stand with your kid so even when the world hurts them, they still know theyre safe and loved! Don't make them feel even worse and like the world is right just because you don't have the guts to go against it!

[@dead_beatbunny]

I don't think that these things can't be one in the same. You can affirm your children and their expression and still feel fear for how the world treats them.

[@popmarcelli]

I’m non-binary, I don’t identify as male or female and I personally don’t care about pronouns, and so I just wanted to say I love this, thank you so much for this.

[@perroconsombrero]

.-.

[@userhayley9950]

I love your name is pop

[@cloud99955]

why are there comments keep saying this

[@userhayley9950]

@@cloud99955 because in the video one of them says they'd want their kids to call them pop instead of mum and dad

[@cloud99955]

@@userhayley9950 no other comments copying and pasting

[@alex_is_out]

"That's a person thing. People do that." EXACTLY! This is exactly how it feels

[@ukbtsarmy4725]

This, I’m enby and I’ve felt this since I was smol.

[@SHARKAST1C]

I cannot imagine withholding affection from a child as punishment, that's heartbreaking. They obviously turned out perfect, so their parents are very lucky that they didn't break them.

[@mysticalmidnightmask]

I think they did a lot of healing at the Buddhist monastery

[@ZachAgape]

ikr, wtf… it's so insane! But it makes a lot of sense to think of it from the perspective of the parents being in fear. Fear often makes ppl make very dumb decisions🫂💚

[@user-cc4rn6om4i]

He turned out to be weird so no

[@OrphanPetGreece]

Not all gendered languages are binary. Greek has three genders. All nouns, whether they represent an idea, an object, a disease, an animal etc, are either female, male or neutral, which is considered the third gender (linguistically)

[@nikkidevitz]

im greek (not fluently, i grew up speaking greek but i also grew up in germany so i stopped speaking it regularly for a long time) and i was unaware of that. do you have any example sentences?

[@Zeyno4141]

Oooo in german we have He she and another kind of „it“ It’s like Neutrum

[@elmolovesyou2320]

@@nikkidevitz Maybe they meant ancient greek? idk.

[@nikkidevitz]

@@elmolovesyou2320 then it would probably be best to specify that, but if they did, fair enough, i dunno squat about ancient greek.

[@musicbamboo1276]

It’s also the same for Latin, in Latin there is masculine, feminine and nueta

[@araccoonwithalaptop8637]

My sibling was born intersex, so finding out who they were was difficult for them when growing up. My parents are very loving and we’re like “yo child, do what you wanna do, as long as your not committing arson or something you can be whoever you wanna be” and so they just go by all pronouns and there gender? Well, if you look it up intersex is considered a gender so I guess it’s all good. We are all human and we all go through different things trying to figure out who we are and what feels comfortable for us as we grow up. Kids now a days are being exposed to social media and more toxic people on the media hating on people just trying to be who they are and it’s damaging for the child. For the next generation if we ever decide to have kids, raise them well by letting them believe what they want to, let them play with whatever toys they want, don’t force your opinions and emotions onto them to try and “fix” or “change” them because you know what that makes you? A bad parent. Like my dad always said “As long as your not trying to become a mafia member, be whatever you wanna be, do what you wanna do I’ll support you….. what do you want from McDonalds?” And yes, he said exactly that. I have a quote book filled with random quotes from my family or friends or random people and this was one of them.

[@heyimsam7428]

This is very sweet :) I’ve always been curious about intersex experiences but I don’t know anyone who is intersex (or at least openly) and even if I did I’m sure it would be rude to ask. It must be cool to have a sibling who can share experiences with you and expose you things that are (unfortunately) not considered to be the norm. Much love to your sibling, you, and the rest of your family :)

[@mariee.5912]

😍

[@prapanthebachelorette6803]

Agree

[@sraniewbanie366]

i love that:(

[@EvanNeedsTherapy]

I’m kidnapping your parents. Parentnapping. ~Seeking the love and affection I never had~

[@Adrian-Maxwell]

I would like a “that’s a person thing” shirt. Angel is my fcking goals. I’m nb and still learning how I want to present to the world.

[@embrace7052]

YESSSS

[@music-books-films]

Angel is very attractive they are the way I wish I looked

[@NeedsMoreTriangle]

I've always believed that as long as what you're putting out is 100% YOU, then you can't go wrong! Not everyone will like you and that sucks... but being "true to yourself" is probably the best corny advice I've ever heard. Wear, do, and say things that are true to the person you are inside. Also, I'd buy that shirt!

[@lunaguy1195]

Yes, I would like one too, with the colors of the non binary flag

[@dionemartins0212]

I would definitely buy it too

[@TheNotoriousDUDE]

As a pansexual cis guy whose three best friends are non-binary, genderfluid, and transgender respectively, and who as of late has been dabbling in some light gender nonconformity, I've grown to legitimately get frustrated or even upset when my customers (I work at a department store) ask me which gender an item is for. Like, b*tch, *it doesn't matter!* Recently I was even asked whether a specific backpack was "for boys" or "for girls", and I kinda internally snapped and just said "It's for backs" and left it at that. I know that most of those people mean no harm, but it just gets *so* draining to perpetually be confronted with that kind of ignorance.

[@Mel-wn9gb]

Why do you use the terms 'gender nonconformity' and 'nonbinary' if you don't think 'gender' should define us or matter? Doesn't make logical sense. What even is 'light gender nonconformity'?

[@TheNotoriousDUDE]

@@Mel-wn9gb **sigh** Did you even watch the goddamn video you're commenting under? I've got better things to do than educate you on stuff that is literally right in front of your eyes.

[@Mel-wn9gb]

@@TheNotoriousDUDE I watched it and used my critical thinking skills while I did. You should try it. You don't want to educate me. You want to indoctrinate me. It's not going to happen. Lol.

[@fussballer1001]

While I agree with you, I must also say that as a trans guy who's getting misgendered all the f*cking time and has tons of dysphorias, gendered items kinda save my life. It's just so important to me to be seen as a guy, by others and also by myself, and wearing "girl" things would make things SO much worse. I'm really looking forward to starting hormones and stuff so I can get my freedom of expression back, but until then, I always make sure I'm only shopping in the men's department

[@TheNotoriousDUDE]

@@fussballer1001 Yes of course, that definitely makes sense! What pisses me off is when people use items' gender designations as a means of restricting their kids' freedom of expression. I will say that these are two separate issues though ^^

[@ellatizzy9726]

Side note: Just because you are a biological girl and you like playing football, it doesn't mean you are transgender or non-binary. Same with boys; just because you like dresses or makeup, doesn't mean you're transgender or non-binary. There is no definition of what a man's interests and hobbies should be, and there is no definition of what a woman's interests and hobbies should be. And I'm NOT claiming this video said anything like this, just a side note.

[@knees0cks_49]

True! And here for a side note on your comment: I would suggest you use "assigned female at birth" (AFAB) instead of "biological girl", as there are - as was mentioned in the video as well - more biological gender types than just XX/"female" and XY/"male" :) using AGAB or cis instead of biological is more inclusive for intersex people and just everyone in general, so just a heads up!

[@Queer_Nerd_For_Human_Justice]

Yeah, but it also doesn't make you NOT trans. It's not about the activity. It's about why you do it, how you relate to it, and how you feel about it. Activity is sometimes done IN SPITE OF gender, sometimes REGARDLESS of gender, and sometimes BECAUSE OF gender. It takes introspection to tell. Going against the grain IS ABSOLUTELY a sign to start gender questioning. Questioning is healthy for all people, trans and cis. It brings people closer to their own gender, regardless of what it is. And if they are trans, they're going to want to catch it early. There's nothing wrong with wondering if you're trans and then concluding that you're not. It doesn't hurt cis kids to do this. A better version of your statement would be that your gender is on the inside, not the outside. That goes for trans kids as well as cis kids. Trans girls can like sports and trans boys can like dolls. It doesn't make you who you are.

[@seronimo__7735]

Flip side: If you're a biological boy, liking football doesn't mean you can't be transgender or nonbinary. If you're a biological girl and like dresses or makeup, that doesn't mean you can't be transgender or nonbinary. Trans women can like football, and trans men can like dresses.

[@senthecat14]

True!! Remember people: sports, hobbies and/or clothes don’t have genders. You can do anything without it being a boy or girl thing!!

[@mrrooster4876]

This is EXACTLY why Non-Binary isn't a REAL thing! People need to stop misusing and confusing the words gender and sex. You're not labeled a gender at birth, you're labeled a sex according to your biology!

[@BowserZeki]

So in Turkish we say both gender "o" when we talk about in 3rd person. So it's English fault lol

[@naillik4701]

What’s up, checkmark?

[@armitababaei4614]

Same in Persian!

[@someone857]

O

[@shaikai3]

Could you give an example of this? I’ve always been super curious about gender between languages but I’m only fluent in English and variations of English-based sign language

[@armitababaei4614]

@@shaikai3 in a lot of languages using a noun isn't really common and verbs are not gendered like actor and actress but in Persian and Turkish we say things like: O is a actor (referring to male). O is a actor (referring to female). O is a actor (referring to nonbinary). So yeah basically sex based pronounces are a social construct and confusing as fuck for a non native speaker

[@HeroesAndHeroiness]

Literally burst out crying when the person said "gender for me as a child was just about what was forbidden"

[@AM-ne4uo]

So why would you then turn around and make such an oppressive, sexist concept the defining feaof your 'identity'?

[@Queer_Nerd_For_Human_Justice]

@@AM-ne4uo Being yourself.... is not the same thing... as the mass cultural oppression of children...

[@Queer_Nerd_For_Human_Justice]

@@AM-ne4uo "Stop hitting yourself, hahaha owned liberals, I am very intelligent" TOUCH GRASS

[@peatot2670]

@@AM-ne4uo being yourself isnt sexist

[@Mel-wn9gb]

@@peatot2670 It is when your sense of self is based in sex stereotyping.

[@ThatTravGuy]

A commonality I see between your videos focused on the LGBT community is that all of these folks had an understanding of their identities before they even knew there was a word for it. I went through something similar when I was wondering why I had a crush on a male classmate when I was little and thought it was a totally original concept, since I was fairly sheltered. Even these decades later, it's great hearing these stories and knowing I wasn't alone there.

[@pIllowVent84]

I don’t like stupid gender rules like how guys can’t wear makeup or how girls shouldn’t play certain sports or with other more masculine things but I still like going by he/him. Just feels most comfortable :] Edit: looks like a lot of you agree. Fun fact I’m not allowed to get my ears pierced because “it’s gay”

[@izziek86]

F pointless rules. You do you. If he/him is your jam, then he/him away! :D

[@soulgazer11]

@Incased_pol there's actually a lot of people *trying* to stop others from being themselves, and that's exactly why Pride is a thing. The fight for our rights, our freedom to live authetically.

[@herr0_2zer0_]

Have you not heard OF A FUCKING TOM GIRL

[@laurahueller4440]

lol i can’t paint my hair blue because my dad thinks it’s “gay” as well and that shit HURTS

[@MrGowose]

Lol, people get pissed when girls do things more commonly "masculine" and boys do thing more commonly "feminine". It's weird. I feel like tom girls are more accepted by people than femboys tbh.

[@quinncasi5929]

To all of my non binary friends out here: y'all better not be looking for hate comments. You deserve so much more than to be told that you are not wanted/valid. Enjoy the good people here.

[@louvervaeke8121]

... i was subconsciously doing that... thank u

[@Deafdeafdeaf12]

@@louvervaeke8121 me too… 🥺

[@theoldjesterisdead9434]

Thanks

[@rominadiaz5567]

💞

[@imanzuhric4781]

haha i was actually scared to check the comments but people are nice :)

[@nadiahassan2030]

I'm so glad that they mentioned that not all non-binary people use They/Them pronouns. I'm so tired of hearing people on twitter and tiktok saying " yes the girls, gay and the they!" we are not " The They's". We don't talk about women like " omg I love She's" . You can just take the words of The Queer Kiwi who says " girls, guys and non-binary pals". My pronouns are He/She btw.

[@starnathanstar]

Dope pronouns! I view myself as a guy and use He/They and Xe/Xir pronouns.

[@nadiahassan2030]

@@starnathanstar Awsome!!

[@charlie_mario6292]

I typically hear people say “guys, gals, and non binary pals” because it rhymes

[@nininyoko13]

@@charlie_mario6292 same And rhymes are never not awesome

[@hihellowhat]

Yup ^^ I'm agender and use he/him pronouns

[@blxrryFace]

honestly, if I ever have a trans kid or something I'll not care and use their preferred pronouns. like why do I need to give a shit if my child is trans or nonbinary I want them to be happy

[@Mel-wn9gb]

You should give a shit because you'd be defining not only your own child, but yourself and everyone else in terms of regressive, sexist stereotypes.

[@blxrryFace]

@@Mel-wn9gb lol what?

[@Mel-wn9gb]

@@blxrryFace 'Cis', 'trans', 'binary' and 'nonbinary' are literal sex stereotyping. Why would you support that?

[@MichaelHasPaws]

@@Mel-wn9gbyou should support anyone, for who they are. But you shouldn’t support haters that talk shit about these things.

[@Mel-wn9gb]

@@MichaelHasPaws If 'who you are' depends on sex stereotyping other people, then no, we should not support that shit.

[@blanchepiedefer4105]

I'm feeling a lot of empathy and love towards Jeffrey right now

[@ZeldaRoseSongbook]

Jeffrey is an absolutely amazing person. The bulk of their Tiktok is rooted in spreading awareness and acceptance.

[@nobody-xz9yw]

@@scaryrumpus What's the gender of the horse? If your gender is horse, does that mean the horse is non-binary?

[@hxney_bree]

@@scaryrumpus Lmao you really thought you did something with that 💀

[@scoposteve8470]

I don’t he’s apart of the LGBTQ+ community so he’s just as bad as the Nazis

[@ChaCha-fu9th]

@@scaryrumpus a horse is a different species, that's not how gender works. imagine being such a boomer that u still think that way lmao

[@genderenigma8276]

"English is so weird" Well ain't that the understatement of the century.

[@alllittlethingzz]

Old time shakephare English weird

[@oldmylu934]

Yeah, and in Spanish there's no actual non-gendered pronouns. Every object has either female or male pronouns.

[@gimmebleachlmao2576]

I live in Slovakia 👁👄👁 Every verb, every object, EVERYTHING has a gender T^T

[@brize3452]

@@gimmebleachlmao2576 I live in France, I understand you bro 🤝

[@rhokesh4391]

Try Germannnnnn..... we have he, she and it as pronouns. Guess what's an it? Girls. DAS Mädchen, 'cuz it's a diminutive. Still feel English is weird? XD

[@WhoisIzsy]

"Non-binary people don't have to use they/them pronouns." THANK YOU👏👏 Say it louder I don't think people in the back heard

[@nateeaton7729]

I do not have pronouns Please do not refer to me

[@wannabe-werecat]

@I R some nonbinary people do use all/any pronouns, but they can also just use singularly he/him or she/her! they can also use a combination of pronouns like he/they, or neopronouns! for example, im nonbinary and i use multiple pronouns! (they/he/ey/glass) also, neopronouns if you didnt know, are pronouns that arent the typical he/she/they. personally neopronouns just feel more like me when the typical pronouns arent *just* right.

[@wannabe-werecat]

@Kate Seal nonbinary and trans people use neopronouns alot too, they are valid and are only wrong when mocking us. not everyone is comfy with the other pronouns and it fits right for them and makes them who they are. these are my pronouns. i am nonbinary. im not mocking anyone, this is my identity.

[@wannabe-werecat]

@Kate Seal i use nounself pronouns (glass), and they are valid if used genuinely. using them to mock people is wrong but people use these pronouns because they fit them and it defines their gender. these pronouns are valid when used genuinely and not in a mocking way. it comes down to the users intentions. if they use the pronouns to mock people that is bad, but if it helps them with their presentation ect it is perfectly fine. im not going to fight you on this. they are valid pronouns when used *genuinely* by someone. let people use the pronouns that fit them and their gender. the invalid people you are talking about are the people who mock neopronoun users, not the people who actually identify with the nounself neopronouns.

[@alainwalker5177]

@@wannabe-werecat It’s funny how you are trying to change the English grammar like that

[@CaptainPoverV]

This video helped me a lot, I’m finally accepting myself.

[@alexday3142]

I am happy for you!

[@SpiralTheFirst]

That’s awesome!

[@BasedGrandmasKitchen]

same with me!

[@Hydroponic21]

That you are mentally ill

[@pianoman5586]

You are being brainwashed mate

[@rowankishibe]

God everyone is just so ✨pretty✨ it’s insane. Regardless of gender, everyone is so insanely handsome and beautiful.

[@moss_Muncher]

Too true

[@regenhoedje]

It's a person thing!!

[@lemmyxpro]

Facts

[@mlo8289]

non-binary is a weird experience. for me, she/her is like a blanket you had when you were a kid, comforting, something i’ve always known. sometimes it doesn’t work because it’s old. he/him is like trying new food and loving it, because that never happens. they/them is like water, sometimes it slaps, sometimes it’s a nice neutral. but everyone has a different experience, and knowing that is healing. honestly, people should be able to just exist and use what they need (pronouns-wise) also, jacob, you’re thriving hun, and we love you.

[@junuzu]

that was honestly the most beautiful thing I've ever read, I almost teared up

[@Azucenary]

I love this comment so much. It perfectly describes how pro nouns can feel to a person. Thank you for helping me understand myself better.

[@millyhearts]

I have the exact same feeling as someone who goes by she/they, she/her pronouns are comforting and normal to me, it’s something I’ve known my whole life, but they/them pronouns are a mix of exciting and comforting, I like being called by them, and I love it when people switch up my pronouns when talking about/to me because I get tired of being called by one pronoun consistently in a conversation. That’s my experience :)

[@maggiesucks8349]

As a cis woman, this comment helped me understand. Thank you

[@BingusNicholas]

me when I'm thirsty : I NEED THAT THEY/THEM

[@combatwombats]

I haven't even watched this yet, but I know you have a history of being sincere, warm, and compassionate. And I just want to say, as a nonbinary person, thank you.

[@rainboworb8969]

Same here fellow emby

[@kookyblossem4011]

Same here

[@brize3452]

Same here, thanks Anthony ❤

[@bread8095]

Same

[@caseymarlowe5078]

Fellow enby, I did finish watching it, and I'm so grateful! :)

[@vampmoon]

I have a friend who is non binary and I often get confused as to what that means bc this is such a new thing for me. I want to be a better ally not only to my friend but also for people who are generally mistreated. This video is extremely helpful for me. Thanks Anthony!

[@Manbearpig4456]

Your friend is mentally deluded don’t buy into their bull shit

[@NegativeLegend]

This is really wonderful to watch

[@squarrot9355]

Negative legend the nonbinary icon :D

[@crocsanddocs]

An icon

[@Founderschannel123]

Hello some verified dude

[@kaylamareeteresa]

😮🥺

[@sunset_anime]

the person, the myth, the legend

[@meowlyso]

growing up, i would always notice the girls and boys sections in target and think about how it's more acceptable for "girls to dress boyish because they're a tomboy," but when a little boy wants to wear a dress or even a pink shirt, adults fear that they "might be gay or trans"

[@missimperfectlyfine7]

right it’s so weird

[@arus.2171]

let’s just make a new term lol, “tom” “boy” - “jane” “girl” 😂

[@filmscreenamation]

The only problem is girly girls would make fun of and isolate the tomboys. Which create it own problems.

[@irisirisirisirisirisiris]

so true…society stop thinking feminity is bad challenge !

[@kai-gm9re]

yes oh my gooood i used to be so happy i was born a girl because i could do everything even if it wasn’t a girl thing and it wasn’t “not allowed”

[@kayleighm5133]

I am a cis woman, but I hate the societal standards that we place on gender. My whole life I felt like I should dress a certain way or be a certain way. I hated dresses, but I did like playing with dolls. I enjoyed playing outside and getting dirty, but I also liked pink and purple and "girly colors". People should just be able to like what they like no matter what they identify as. Cis, trans, non-binary, lesbian, gay, etc, you don't have to fit in this box. The only thing you have to fit in is a box that is you shape.

[@marthmallow7420]

the last sentence. i love it, thank you

[@roxyraccoon9126]

As a kid I was more of the boyish girl type. Dolls: Stripped them, ripped their heads off, left them behind to play cars with my cousins. Dresses: Refused to wear them (to this day actually) Pink: I'm ok with it now, but back as a kid I hated it because it was too girly. Purple: I was always ok with that. It's now my favorite color because of a certain serial killer character from a videogame franchise. Playing in the mud: Favorite activity. I always stole dad's stuff and wore it like my own. I remember being called out back in kindergarten for playing with the boys all the time. I was told it wasn't ok because I was a girl. Joke's on you I'm nb. Jewelry: Still working on that one. I'm ok with it if it's from certain people (not my parents though), but I'm still not ok with wearing extensive amounts of jewelry. Ew. It's fine on others though. Makeup: it's fine on others, but use it on me and I'm stealing your kneecaps.

[@user_9909]

Anthony is an incredible person for these videos because a lot of them get demonetized and they are greatly educational and can help people figure out who they are. I thank you Anthony Padilla

[@marjos1989]

Off-topic: Jeffrey has a really smooth voice.

[@lemmyxpro]

Reminds me of James Charles & Bretman Rock's voices. They all have such calming voices and are all very funny too.

[@samuelmercier3635]

Them narrating an audiobook sounds amazing fr.

[@stifledbabsie]

I've seen Jeffrey on TikTok. They are very calming, from what I've watched.

[@xLostInFirex]

Yes! I think it might also have to do with them having been in the monastery. It was also interesting to see how Anthony's voice switched to similar, more soothing and calm/quiet tone while talking to them as well :D

[@pumpkin__head]

Jeffrey literally sounds like a therapist and I don’t exactly know why but they just do

[@pwrtothelocalclikkie5296]

things that have no say over how an NB identifies: they/them pronouns the clothes they wear their hair their birth/dead name their name their voice the gender they were assigned at birth the things they like the way they walk the way they talk the way the look the way they act who they are friends with what bathroom they choose to use “what’s in their pants” (

[@thousandeyedvoid]

pls i read "how they walk, how they talk" and my brain went "how their face disintegrates into chalk" ✋

[@therealkr1mstar]

@@thousandeyedvoid same 😭

[@frazzyblue1384]

@@thousandeyedvoid where’s that from?

[@TigTig-Kitty]

We prefer NBi because NB means Non-Black, I just thought I would let you know so you can update this going forwards. Thank you

[@20blog28]

@@TigTig-Kitty i neversaw nb used like that used outside of random miku fanpages on tiktok

[@onion405]

Ever look at a thumbnail and title and think: "I know nothing about them, let's listen" And watching this video, They really hit me in the 'wow that's ensightful' bone when talking about how over-complicated we make things when it comes to labelling people and things in general

[@junef3444]

as a nonbinary person, i just wanna say thank you for being so open to learning and for being so accepting :)

[@bunkore]

sex =/= gender and i feel like people forget that 24/7 like if someone finds out i'm non binary , they ask what's in my pants half the time like HOW I IDENTIFY DOES NOT CORRELATE WITH HOW I PEE , MY GUY anyway i'm extremely happy to see anthony make this video uwu

[@bunkore]

i also very recently updated my ID to have X as gender and it's so freeing ,, holy crap

[@Mel-wn9gb]

'Gender' is just a made up social construct based in sex stereotyping. You're no different than anyone else. Nobody is 'binary'.

[@user-guigui01]

"How I identify does not correlate with how I pee, my guy!" I love it.

[@1stAshaMan]

Best go-to response I've found to "What's in your pants?" is "Sorry, you're not my type."

[@GigaDonk99]

I haven’t had anyone ask what’s in my pants yet, but the appropriate response would be “f*ck off, creep” cause that’s a really perverted question to ask someone lol. My genits are nobody’s business, I can’t believe people actually say that to you

[@SamWest96]

"That's a person thing" is essentially my parenting philosophy summed up. Be it "gendered" things, mistakes that we make as humans and struggles. We're all just people out here living our lives

[@jessebellepianzin1915]

When Jeffrey told their story about their dad apologising to them years later, I was in tears. I wish more parents are willing to look back at their parenting and realise they fucked up their kid at a point

[@secretlyamazing]

Ya that was particularly moving for me as well

[@maxthefrog4484]

Jeffrey is so wholesome and so sweet. I follow them on instagram

[@lil.serbian.girl.]

Yes my heart aches for Jeffrey, but I am happy that their father accepts them now

[@Tomboy_Dragon2001]

Yeah I was like awwww that awesome. Jeffrey seems to be so sweet. It really moved me as well😭❤️

[@alexonline2340]

jeffrey’s time at a buddhist monastery must have rly paid off because they sound so soothing and soft-spoken

[@CallieBlader]

really? he sounds like his voice is about to give out must've been shouting or raving the previous day

[@katherinesheremeta9238]

@@CallieBlader im pretty sure they have a tiktok account and they talk like that at all times

[@al3x4.07]

@@CallieBlader they

[@Lazu__li]

Honestly this video helped me a lot Because I am AMAB I usually feel invalid for identifying as non binary (specifically as agender) because I mostly see AFAB non binary people on the internet and even among my friend group and I use He/They pronouns (although no-one ever referred to me as they because I don't use the most used equivalent in French and people don't refer to me often) I realised I was non binary when I realised I did not like to be called a man, at first I thought that it was only because I was young and I felt like it would be better with time but I also realised I didn't like being called a boy either

[@AceOfStars0]

Welcome to the club! No matter size, race, assigned gender, disability, religion, sexuality, etc, you are welcomed as nonbinary, who you are! 💛🤍💜🖤

[@coderamen666]

I feel this a bit.

[@Astralstarie]

FR!!

[@lowercase_ash]

I love how in the thumbnails, Anthony always looks suspicious and the other person always has the most dramatic face but in the actual interviews there's nothing but support and respect

[@tennisthelegend]

Anthony still pokes fun, and thats funny

[@lowercase_ash]

@@tennisthelegend yes 100%

[@MoistCrumpet]

I think we should just be able to feel free to experience life however we like. If a girl wants to play with trucks and action figures then let her, likewise when a boy wants to dress up like a princess for Halloween. And if a person decides that they don't feel comfortable being labelled as a specific gender, then so be it. Gender definitely shouldn't be abolished altogether because you have people like me who are cisgender and feel uncomfortable being addressed with they/them pronouns, but we should be more accepting of people who don't conform to normal gender binaries. I've been pretty mixed on this topic for quite a while now but really want to learn more so that I understand more. I really love this series because I really do feel that it's opened my mind up a lot more. I think I have a much different impression on non binary people now.

[@MC-ns8gb]

The thing about gender abolitionism is that at the end of the day these labels ultimately don't mean anything, they only mean something if we make them mean something, we do this through the use of gender roles, as such - gender isn't gender without gender roles (wow that's a lot of "gender" lol) and currently we're headed on that path to get rid of gender entirely and that is a good thing since it liberates people from outdated, restrictive and unnecessary standards and expectations, as for the thing with pronouns, well pronouns ≠ gender already, they're just identifiers, so if you had a preferred set of pronouns well, you'd still have them, you just wouldn't have the expectations/standards that come with whatever gender is typically aligned with those pronouns

[@bigwijdsljla]

Man this is exactly how I've been feeling about this topic, thank you for this. I used to be really close-minded about the concept because I used to think non binary was just enforing gender stereotypes, when really it was a whole other thing all together. I still don't fully understand what non binary means, but I have learned that by listening to their experiences and respecting their identity no matter how abstract it may seem to me really helps build a more comfortable community with alot of people who feel this way^^

[@KaityKat117]

As a non-binary person, I appreciate this comment. Just wanted to let you know that your voice is heard and appreciated. This is the kind of allyship that we need. ^v^

[@luminousshadowcore]

Same here! I totally agree :3

[@MC-ns8gb]

@Ruby gender abolitionism isn't something we can do right now, as it involves a complete restructuring of society and tearing down of gender roles, not exactly something that can be done overnight, it's more of an ideal world type of scenario, because of that it is important to still be accepting and tolerant of other identities that don't fit the norm until we can reach that, and I won't be addressing the rest of your terfy bs, the same person that would discriminate against you would do the same to a NB person, don't think you're fighting different battles here

[@kitchencat1816]

My son was watching over my shoulder. He heard Angel's voice and asked "Why is he a girl?" I explained "They aren't a girl, They're non-binary. They were born a girl, but realized that they didn't feel like a girl. They felt like a boy and a girl at the same time." His response? "Oh. Ok. I like frogs." (Edit: Didn't realize this would spur so many comments! To those who pointed out I described bi-gender, I realize that now and next time it comes up, I'll make sure to point it out! To those who think I'm a bad parent or forcing things on my son, you're entitled to your opinions, no matter how wrong they are. The world is changing so t's important that our children are able to adapt to those changes. Especially if (you) refuse to change with the rest of the world.)

[@mysticash7695]

AWWW I LOVE THAT

[@gabrielaflores4500]

He deserves a frog hat 💕

[@queenofastora]

bless his heart

[@mohanmanral3278]

Lol amazing story

[@blackboyfly5647]

@@patarsbutthole fr

[@cairneoleander8130]

Omg the expressed sentiment of “do I have to look androgynous to be nonbinary” (also read: “am I valid if I’m not androgynous enough for others?”) is soooooo deeper issues stuff. I’m so glad they mentioned it. I have spent years trying to come to peace with doing what I do and presenting as I want to for ME, and NOT to try to substantiate or legitimize my identity for others who, honestly, do not know me and I don’t expect to grasp it. I only expect people who care, who ask, to follow through with the intentions they expressed.

[@Mel-wn9gb]

What is there to grasp? You're no different to anyone else. Nobody is 'binary' to begin with.

[@jessica232]

Jeffrey is so calming. I really enjoyed hearing them talk about finding a way out of hating themselves.

[@colonelsanders5278]

*him

[@jessica232]

@@colonelsanders5278 them*

[@colonelsanders5278]

@@jessica232 *him

[@jessica232]

@@colonelsanders5278 I know you're trolling but on the off chance you aren't, their pronouns are shown in the video as they/them. Please use them accordingly.

[@colonelsanders5278]

@@jessica232 No I refuse to use them because he is clearly a man

[@AngelandNicole]

WOO thanks for having me on, Anthony! I had a great time and thank you so much for being so open to learn and for being so respectful with your questions. I hope everyone likes the episode!

[@JFGaming.]

Really enjoyed this episode thank you for teaching me and a lot of other people about this very misunderstood term, you did a great job! 😁

[@burrsoup]

:D

[@UnicornRainbow]

When I was a kid, I used to play with girls more instead of boys and football things. one day another kid bullied me, he was 4 years older than me,( he was the brother of one of these girls) bigger and stronger so I couldn't defend myself. I was emotional and went crying to my father. his answer was one of the most devastating things to me as a kid, instead of defending me and going to speak with the kid or the parent's kid who bullied me, he told me "well you shouldn't hang out with girls so you would know how to defend yourself more".... So Anthony, thank you for this video. the world needs more awareness and learn to live, love and respect others different than them.

[@ayo_hitman_bang_introduces]

First of all, I'm so sorry your own father said that to you as a child. Sending big hugs. Also, I love your channel. Its provided me with a lot of comfort over the past few months.

[@Zephyrheart]

I hear this. I had a lot of curiosity as a child, and never had a problem playing with dolls when I spent time with other kids. When my dad noticed, he talked to me about it. I've always solidly identified as cis male - not that cis anything was a term back then. He told me that he didn't want me to play with dolls anymore - even when that's all my fem friends had - because it could be "taken the wrong way". Fast forward to high school. I told my parents that I was going to join the flag team. My dad wanted me to do sports - ANY sport, really - because he was worried that I'd get bullied and called gay. I did it anyway. The football team called me a "flagette" (flag faggot). When my dad heard about that, he told me that's what he'd been afraid of. I laughed and responded that the joke was on the football players. He looked at me curiously and asked "Why?" I said, "Because they spend all their time with stinky guys and get hurt all the time. Meanwhile, I spend all my time - including long bus rides to competitions - with cute, good-smelling girls." Ended up dating the majority of the flag team at one point or another. ✌️

[@burneraccountpls]

Yeah, my father is trying to get my younger brother to stop playing with his best friend, a girl around his age across the street. Not because she’s a bad influence, but because he doesn’t want him to be a “wimp” or “girly” and I just-

[@soulsilver9991]

I imagine some mafia boss setting the dogs on me saying "get 'em," but I'm so touched the mafia boss used my preferred pronouns I forget about the dogs

[@Ray-gu2fg]

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@Ray-gu2fg]

Oh my god

[@artfulecho]

The country that I live in, the language doesn’t even have pronouns like they/them. We hardly have gender-neutral pronouns or words and it’s very difficult for non-binary people, like me, to explain how we want to be addressed/how we feel without using gendered terms. It’s actually very exhausting and vey invalidating.

[@1lai325]

Yeah, like Spanish and French speaking countries, they don’t have those types of pronouns so, it’s more difficult for the non-binary community to express themselves, and if they do, they risk other people saying “that’s not how our language works” which can be harmful to one’s self-esteem.

[@thelastleocorn7979]

Make up your own pronouns!

[@wewowoeowow]

@@1lai325 Not only Spanish and French, its most of europe especially slavic languages:)

[@ax0l0tl0lstudios7]

Aw damn, I’m really sorry, It probably doesn’t help, but at least I know you’re valid ^w^ I really hope it gets better. I would suggest making up your own terms…many people may try to disagree with you, but you probably don’t wanna be around them anyways.

[@markobagara8791]

@@wewowoeowow Yeah, I'm from Bosnia and its honestly just exhausting, I just let them call me by my assigned gender at birth by now because it's pretty much impossible to explain it. Plus most people here still see being gay or just anybody in the lgbtq+ community as an insult so I dont think I'm ready to tell anybody about my gender identity anytime soon. I can't wait to just leave this useless country. Sorry for the long comment lol.

[@Pilcro]

I'm conflicted on whether to buy Maid Padildochan or not... Pros: Maid Padildochan Cons: ... wait, i'm not conflicted

[@patton_virgil103]

My con is...... im fking broke :(

[@bokx_9566]

my con: my eyes are under 18

[@ryleelatham7139]

okay but I love the concept of "that's a person thing" like we need to normalize this ASAP

[@evelynleisher8313]

Facts.

[@Seashəlls]

Agreed

[@philobetto5106]

The Liberal Rubrics Cube of Identity gender + pronouns

[@ASHsor]

Like we don't because that's vague, there are lots of things other animals can do that humans can and giving birth is a woman only thing.

[@Kinkamo]

the things jacob said about how non binary people can be fat and any skin tone meant so much to me and made me feel so accepted. i’m native american, non binary, and a bit on the larger size. i often feel like i don’t belong in the non binary community because of the fact the im amab, or because of my size, or because of my heritage and skin color. what they said really made me feel accepted and at peace with myself

[@AceOfStars0]

As a white, kinda skinny, afab nonbinary person, welcome to the family! Anyone who is nonbinary and a good person is welcome here.

[@Kinkamo]

@@AceOfStars0 i appreciate it!! thank you for being so kind!!

[@AceOfStars0]

@@Kinkamo you're welcome!!! ❤️❤️

[@Fade_NB]

You go you little gender frog!

[@CedarCritter]

As a somewhat newly hatched non-binary person, it's awesome seeing other n-b's speaking about their experiences that's also similar to my own; it just makes me feel seen and heard.

[@auburnringlets]

Hi enby fam I'm glad you're here!

[@allisons2637]

Newly hatched😂😂 I love it

[@Pupcat_Is_Amare]

Welcome to the community 🥳💛🤍💜🖤

[@heatherlee2967]

+++

[@cerezabay]

me too :) +++

[@silver9204]

Im nonbinary and this whole thing is overwhelming it just makes me not want to think about gender, I'm glad Anthony did an interview with these lovely folks

[@con_the_artist6823]

I like the openness in these videos. This shows that it isn't just a new thing that 13 year old kids are making up like so many people think. So many people, young and old, feel like this, but it's finally more accepted so it's just SEEN more.

[@hayde_ink2809]

From time to time I just come back to this video to harbor some strenght for the hard days. It means a lot and I'm super grateful this exists

[@nathhje]

When Angel talked about having this constant hum in your head that just disappears once you realize non binary is an option that felt so relatable. Younger me would constantly be going around in circles "I'm not manly enough to be a man", "But I hate being a woman", "But I have so many feminine traits", "But also so many non-feminine traits", "So can I choose to be a man then?", "No I can't, you have to manly to be a man", "But I'm not manly enough to be a man", et cetera. Then the day I realized I could live outside the gender binary, is the day many things fell into place for me and that constant loop stopped.

[@okuno54]

Same here! I've been calling it this background noise, where I was always a little worried about my gestures being un-manly, and having to tell my brain excuses for when I did more woman-coded activities. At the same time, I was trying to sleep at night but kept on trying to imagine what it might be like if I were a woman, but that never felt right either.

[@sheepyhead0399]

Yes! I relate intensely to that, I often feel that I really dislike my AGAB but I don't feel "enough" to be the opposite to that, so I'm stuck in the middle but not in an empowering way, more in an "I don't deserve to be anything" way. I'm still working hard to accept myself for who I am and not force myself into non-binary or gendered stereotypes; the entire concept of being gender non-conforming, non-binary or not, is breaking free of those stereotypes, I need to cut this thought-loop out of my life man

[@marisaliu3236]

Oh my fucking god Jacob is one of the funniest people you’ve had on this series, them saying “SHUT UP SANDRA” absolutely sent me

[@cassandraibarra02]

I heard "SHUT UP CASSANDRA!" And that is what the auto generated captions said. Still loved this quote nonetheless

[@not_the_only_cannoli_]

@@cassandraibarra02 Shut up Cassandra! Don't try and correct Marisa! (Jk. Love you. I was making a joke bc your name is Cassandra too, so it's like ironic you know?)

[@stormSeven]

Once our teacher said: “Girls vs boys in a music quiz” So I made my own team and got the same score as ALL the boys. (Which wasn’t much but still) 😎

[@thewonderlander1372]

Hell yeah 😎

[@lingonvaxi1973]

Go you!

[@delaneyknipp9485]

as u shld 😌

[@delaneyknipp9485]

@Serena Nintendo stfu

[@blueflamingo4526]

@Serena Nintendo why don't you?

[@SashikuChan]

Wow, they both seem like really amazing people. Thanks for advice! I'm 40 and have been out as nonbinary for about 2 years. I always wondered why I didn't really fit into gender stereotypes and didn't really see the point anyway.

[@Mel-wn9gb]

The reason you didn't fit into sex stereotypes is precisely because they're just stereotypes. Nobody fits into them. That's what makes them stereotypes. Nobody is 'binary' to begin with. That's just sex stereotyping. Therefore nobody is 'nonbinary'. You're just like everyone else.

[@Manbearpig4456]

Congratulations you went 38 years as a normal person then decided over the last 2 years to enter the deluded freaks challenge.

[@Fade_NB]

@@Manbearpig4456being non-binary is natural

[@Fade_NB]

Slay frfr

[@thatfangirl1145]

Yesterday, the Argentinian government made it possible for NB people to put their X identifier in the national ID. So anyone that is NB will be able to put their identity in their ID and gets legally recognized as such ♥

[@Azucenary]

That’s awesome.

[@so.arevalo]

omg no me había enteradoooo T~T

[@ircusing9875]

Wait rlly? hmmm... K

[@yeabutna7309]

That's amazing!! :oo

[@darkacadpresenceinblood]

Really?? That's so cool!

[@ii94ii53]

Anthony teaches us to be better, and accept everyone

[@raayaswidler1049]

Except flat earthers. (You have to see that video of his, it's hilarious.)

[@dwaekkisinsanity5233]

In my language, we don't have individual pronouns for each gender. We use _siya_ for everyone. Even for your partner in marriage, _asawa_ can mean any gender.

[@gonegonethankyou]

love being filipino

[@lostotter1956]

Heyy, fellow Filipinos! :))

[@erroldtumaque3430]

I'm filipino and I never noticed that Learned something today

[@febbledebble]

That sounds wonderful. In my language (Dutch) gender neutral pronouns don't really exist and "they/them" (as in plural) is the same word as "she", meaning it must be a living hell to identify as nonbinary unless you call yourself "it" which really gives off this garbage kind of feeling as if nonbinary people aren't people, they're "things". I'm cisgender but my friend is nonbinary and I can see that this issue really fucks with their head in our mother language, which is why we usually talk in English, so I can use their preferred pronouns.

[@user-iz9tn5fz5j]

@@febbledebble ben ook nederlands en gebruik he/it in het engels maar ja het is best kut dat we die niet hebben,, we hebben zij/hun maar dat klinkt een beetje raar omdat de zin dan meervoudig wordt