Why Do Men Go Silent? (With Dr. John Gray)

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

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[@asifmuniruniverse7732]

Hi, 24/ 7 not possible for me only I'm one among all who dining give more other then them

[@asifmuniruniverse7732]

And they all charge and take other benefits I'm one who serve totally free

[@wildflower7961]

with no comunication let her go.

[@sweetstrawberrylove]

People should stop giving this stupid excuse for man's immature behavior. And called women needy for lack of communication on his part. If he needs space and time he should communicate that as a grown-up adult person and not go silent on a person and expect her to be ready when is ready. That is not called healthy communication or relationship. There is something called RESPECT. And I can respect his space and he can respect me by communicating that with me. Thank you very much.

[@mademoisellemsc]

Exactly!!!

[@ViYoung-os4kv]

Totally agree

[@michelletulumello661]

This guy seems to think women need to tiptoe around men and cater to their every whim and analyze all their reasons for doing every little thing. They are grownups too. They can have MANNERS. He's out there creating timid, obsequious women and spoiled brat nasty men. That's not an accomplishment for either gender and it's never helped any relationships. Ever.

[@tenmillionvolts]

It's like when my grandmother would ring her friends for big catch ups and gossip. My grandfather would tell me she's gonna be a while on the phone. We'd go out and build something in the garage. We'd come back in all excited about the thing we built and she was excited about hearing of the new things in her friend's lives. She needed conversation and we needed quiet activity. Then my grandparents would sit and be together, both happy after their alone time but their bond stayed strong until they died. They knew the male to female balance

[@ktnow88]

Wonderful. Thank you

[@brendab2946]

Well said

[@whiskyngeets]

Men go silent because you've disrespected or devalued him, and he doesn't want to respond and kind nor hurt your feelings. So rather than lash out and create an environment where somehow the issue becomes his anger instead of your failure to pull your end of the relationship, he just goes silent. Men never do this for no reason UNLESS there's another woman in the picture and you're just not that valuable to him. Source - I'm a man.

[@basicinfo2022]

5:35 theres a difference between having a life and a man who is deliberately emotionally neglecting you and lacking decent communication... in modern dating, the men are going "silent" for weeks. That's neglect. That's not a relationship or pulling back. That's ghosting which is what women are referring to mostly.

[@MelissaLona]

Well there’s a difference between a man being toxic versus if he pulls away because he just need to decompress.

[@FallenMadonna]

Silent treatment is a violent act in narcissistic abuse. Run away from any man who get silent instead of discussing.

[@tonyalee5257]

"Silent treatment" when my oldest daughter was growing up(I was very much living in my masculine energy) she would make me so angry that I may be silent for a few days. She took it as punishment. Which it was not. It was a period for me to keep myself contained and not say things out of anger that I could not take back.

[@somaticjourney]

@@tonyalee5257 it's still is toxic passive aggression. Would be more functional to go in therapy and learn to process and express your emotions without poisoning yourself and your relationships.

[@gertaqilla7795]

Dear Tonya, I can understand you very well.I have been also in your state.And sometimes we don t have the luxury to get therapy when we need it most.How much more happy I had been if I had stayed in my silence. Sometimes other women around us don t share their flaws and difficult times with their little children once upon a time.....Very often we can experience the shoutings of the point finger directed to us by other women.The truth is that if after child bearing our bodies don t have the needed support, we jump into masculine mode and if it spreads in all areas of our life, it becomes destructive for us firstly and its effect radiates all around.It would be more construvtive if we as women can with each other sincerely and honestly what is going on with our life.Without any point finger and judgment.....Habing children is nice but society sjould also create space for the expression of all the difficulties that knock on our doors as soon as the first child comes into our life.And for what reason couples who become parents separate and get divorced then?Because we all are not well supported by each other. We are judgmental instead of being supportive.Otherwise, we hadn t need to watch edicational videos here on you tube channel.We crave for understanding and support. We all crave and we don t know which path to take into all this societal development but also separation from each other......I wish you with all my heart peace and blessings.You haven t done anything wrong and for your daughter you are the best mother she could ever had.And thank you for being honest and sincere here. You have mirrored many followers here, including me🤗.

[@lamarcurtis1582]

This is so misleading. If a man goes silent it's for his own peace and understanding. If I have an argument with my wife and she's being disrespectful to me and I constantly telling her to stop being rude to me, I'm going to go silent and I'm going to have my own peace and try to make sense of why this person always disrespecting me and never seems to apologize hold self accountable. so that's why men like us go silence...

[@johannes6760]

People think they are so smart on yt because they've discovered the word "narcissist" in 2022.

[@tntkop]

SILENCE CAN’T BE QUOTED. Never forget this fact.

[@thetaraparker]

I haven’t gotten sick in four years and that’s when I started hiking in the sun five days a week! Vitamin D is so incredibly important and society doesn’t even let you in on that. They don’t let you know that if you want to stop getting sick just go out in the sun every day for at least 10 to 15 minutes. John is so right.

[@neko1533]

Same here. Four years healthy because of the sun. Before that I was often sick.

[@Koozomec]

If you can digest it (i have issue to), milk and derivative (i can eat cheese...) can gives you a lot of vit D. With moderation because of the fat and hormones.

[@nchapman41]

Reading men can be an art, my husband would whistle loudly while outside and when going to the door he'd say coffee woman. I would make 4-5 cups and take them outside for the guys. I knew this stoked his ego and it was important to him and I never said a word about it. Allot of women do not know how to step back and allow the man to actually be the man. Little things to one can be a big thing to the other. For an example anytime a man comes into our presence I hold my husband's hand and make eye contact with him and give a small smile. It lets him know in front of others he's the one. My anxiety level about having to drive or stop and get fuel is really really bad. I was very upset with my husband one morning so I stopped and got fuel for the vehicle, later he said he was going to and I told him I already had. The look on his face was shock but he never said a word. About 3 weeks later he said he'd get me fuel again, me being a bit ticked off at the time said don't worry I will do it. He turned and said, what you don't need me anymore? I was surprised. I told him yes I was just upset and he knows I want him to. I could see in his face he was instantly relieved. He hugged me and told me not to worry he'd do it for me and I thanked him.

[@cavelleardiel]

I get that and good for you for understanding what he needed and responding appropriately.

[@hawaiigirl8089]

Wow an argument over getting gas? Wow

[@nchapman41]

@@hawaiigirl8089It has nothing to do with gas 🤦

[@lblincoe2094]

So you have to repeatedly gesture a display of exaggerated tunnel vision to prove your loyalty and fidelity anytime a man, a complete stranger, ever comes in your vicinity after HOW many years of faithful marriage? And you got your own gas when you were mad at him because getting your gas is something HE does? Being independent and meeting your own needs without him was a punitive act? And his response to your capable initiative was to provoke you into reassuring him of your dependence on him with an inflammatory accusation intended to cause guilt? Yeah, I guess "reading men" could be considered an art, much in the same way servitude is an art. I daresay sacrificing your own autonomy, goals, life purpose, passion, and personal needs to live your life at the behest of another person probably doesn't come easy to just everyone. I imagine it takes great skill to carry the weight of a man's huge, fragile ego entirely on your shoulders and to personally caretake all of his insecurities, especially when there are many. And I don't actually mean to be unkind or condescending to you, none of this vitriol is even for you. You don't deserve my derision or criticism, you're the VICTIM of this toxicity, not the perpetrator. And I don't fault you for believing these are actually values and virtues instead of seeing it as the abuse it so clearly is, you're clearly living under the control of a profoundly insecure and delicate man and the load you've been carrying is immense. So I apologize for the contempt, it isn't for you. I've just developed quite an intolerance for weak men and the burden they create for the rest of the world. You deserved better and I'm sorry it wasn't given to you!

[@raindrops21_9]

Men need distance after climaxing. I need closeness and communication. Hmmm, so I have to accommodate his requirements and ignore mine? How's about both being mindful of, and respecting each other and *communicating*?

[@melissa3986]

Exactly

[@fatimamassicard9280]

If I told you I smiled throughout this, believe me, I am! Thank you so much Dr. John Gray. I have had so 4 bad relationships, and now on relationship no. 5 I am doing all that you have been saying here. I am happier and content and learnt to love on a completely new level.

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

I am so glad you love Dr. John as much as we do, he is so helpful!

[@janiebutterfly5251]

Fatima I'm wishing you many blessings happy for you 🙏🌈🌈🌹❤🥂🍾

[@GUITARTIME2024]

As a dude, I can tell all women this advice: Stay feminine, don't talk so much, and do little things for your guy. You will be better than 90 percent of women.

[@JeffCaplan313]

@@GUITARTIME2024 Yes, let's all suggest women smile more and learn to be seen and not heard. That went over well before. 🤣

[@yabe1496]

@@GUITARTIME2024 thanks for sharing, but its a bit confusing, dr Gray says we, women, have to talk more than men, specifically in dates. Others coaches say that lets men talk. I am very quiet and soft speaking, I love silence, but this keeps me attracting very femenine men that talk a lot, really a lot. A want a masculine men we can share silence in peace.

[@bobbileehall3567]

Lordy Lordy he is spot on! I’m 60 now...spent my entire life undoing the damage both parents did....now I’m happy healthy whole! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Oh God. I misread that last word ! Lol

[@britneythao]

@@GUITARTIME2024 LOL...if you put "that word" in there, it would sound really funny.

[@Rottimail]

Same here! Some damage I cannot undo. I am genuinely pleased that you are now happy, healthy and whole. No one deserves that kind of cross to bear in childhood.

[@simpinainteasy680]

As a boy i used to wonder why my grandfather's had so little to say. Now, as a man i know why.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

I'm middle aged. You'll learn that there's just not much to say. Doing is what matters. Lift weights and jearn an instrument.

[@a.okoronkwo311]

FACTS

[@annkatrinengj6420]

The silence is actualy killing me and it made it easy for him to forgett about me. I feel like I was never worth anyting.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Ann, you need to get sone therapy. Stop basing your self worth on one person.

[@tenmillionvolts]

It's about his actions. If I'm madly in love, I can't wait to get home to hold her tightly in a loving male embrace and make her feel wanted. I don't think of a million things to say though. I just want to see her loving smile as we embrace. Men really do need our space and time to think sometimes. But if he loves you, he will be addicted to you and be drawn back to you. If he stays distant a lot, he doesn't have that connection, and a lot talking isn't going to strengthen it. A truly interested man will keep showing you his love but we don't often communicate it with words.

[@annkatrinengj6420]

I just wish I ment more than that when we were together for almost 5 years. But I know now that he will never loved me in the time we were an item. That is why silence hurts cause I really hoped that I am not that forgettabel. It seemed easy for him to walk away and never talk to me again. Like I was played for years.

[@allsmiles2938]

You’re beautiful and worthy, focus on doing things that make you happy and keep you busy.

[@maryt7959]

Yes .... because he is playing the hot and cold game called being narcissistic!!!!

[@LuckysLair]

"you need to happy and fulfilled WITHIN YOURSELF" That's the problem, women and a lot of men aren't at all happy within themselves.

[@Sandyde321]

Yes I agree. I'm learning to put that practice now. It's very freeing!

[@johntrojan9653]

@@Sandyde321 (A-hum:) ""LIBERATING"" 👍 !***

[@Sandyde321]

@@johntrojan9653 I took myself on a day trip out in the weekend (here in new Zealand) throughly enjoyed myself 🙂

[@johntrojan9653]

@@Sandyde321 Good for you ! As Tony Robbins would say; 'You're Worth It and YOU DESERVE IT' !!!!!! 😀👍👌

[@johntrojan9653]

@@Sandyde321 PS. ... As So. California would say; ""HANG TEN"" 😀 🤙!! 😄

[@00pisani49]

The problem is that women need men around them to increase their estrogen levels. But men need constantly to pull away..so then women get grumpy and then men become confused and angry because he doesn't understand this. It's a vicious cycle. The less he's around...the less estrogen women have...more grumpy means he will run away again.

[@jessicakellycuocsongmy2985]

No women don’t need a man to increase their estrogen

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

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[@avabrown901]

TY for just sounding off as a man then the mature doc....we all need one like you

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 😊

[@YaYa-gy6rn]

Everyone needs to hear this. Mr Gray is brilliant

[@heatherann4390]

His silence is killing our relationship.

[@johntrojan9653]

Clutchy jealousy killed the "Bleep" out of mine 🤢 😡 😡

[@neko1533]

He's silence is a reaction on your actions. Stop overtalking him and let him first think what to say. Stop punishing him verbaly for nothing only because you can. I know that it feels good for you to again and again test his masculinity, but at the same time those kind of so called "shit tests" destroy him. Think about it, is it really his silence that kills your relationship or could it be your abusive verbal actions whitch may led to his silence as a reaction on your masculine, uncooperative behaviour and your fights for nothing? Think about this, at least if you want to stay married. Other men probobly would have the same issue with you. So if you want him to become less silent, first try to change yourself and your behaviour towards him. Instead of being rude or agressive start to be kind and smile sometimes. I wish you good luck and all the best for your relationship. Greetings from Serbia.

[@joannefrias3784]

Punishing through silence

[@johntrojan9653]

@@joannefrias3784 YOU MEAN "GASLIGHTING" ? 🤪 ?

[@heatherann4390]

@@joannefrias3784 it's rude and immature if u ask me

[@henkverhaeren3759]

Men go silent because they've lost courage. So be a men and speak your truth.

[@producentenreizenkenia5729]

Courage to reject?

[@christinarichie6171]

Called cowardice... and its rife in this era..

[@tangotrouble7998]

That’s why it’s always good to have somebody on the side...

[@jasminej6281]

This was really great. I can listen to Dr John forever and he makes sense alright.

[@Rita32117]

This is so relevant for today's generations. Thank you for sharing this great insight Dr. John.

[@bonnielyskanowski1775]

Wish I would have heard this a long time ago.

[@thipimotsoare4228]

I finally understand the power of not rushing the sex because even if he goes silent I dont stress about it, I focus on other things❤️

[@vikinglass5496]

I wish I was a man....Dear God being a woman is hard.

[@cynthiacrawford1573]

Right

[@ptyh27]

Men might feel the same, being a man is hard

[@mumariner495]

I agree being a woman is hard

[@cynthiacrawford1573]

I'd rather be a woman.Men have lots of responsibilities, but are not given the respect earned behind those responsibilities.It's common to emasculate them now.In the same regards women should be respected as well though.

[@DADDY_PUTIN]

Sure but u will regret it ma'am only we know how fckd up our life can be if we make a single mistake

[@foreveryoungpisces7426]

I have a cocky NYC attitude. My guy in S. Africa is more polite with sweetest lingo -- but I think our cultural differences are a turn on. I am learning a lot from your videos on male/female hormones. It's hard to change decades long conditioning and cynicism -- for me. He's had painful breakups with past girlfriends and guards his heart. The more we open our hearts the quickly he pulls back. Thank you.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

As a dude, let me advise to lower the cocky nyc stuff. That's not very feminine. Here and there is fine, but your main vibe should be supportive and feminine for that guy. Also, if he quickly pulls back, that's a red flag. He's perhaps not that into you.

[@foreveryoungpisces7426]

@@GUITARTIME2024I don't know about that. We both guard our hearts. We're LDR nearly 4 yrs. When finally decided to be together and see how it goes the pandemic occurred and travel bans ensued. We've been waiting over 36 months. It's really hard and we hang on by a thread. We are in near daily contact. He's actually attracted to my NYC attitude but yes, you're right. I need to tone it down sometimes. But when we're funny we're hilarious! Thanks. Don't know why I didn't see this comment earlier. My settings I guess.

[@foreveryoungpisces7426]

Also during lockdown there's not hella lot to talk about. His country suffered riots, looting, alcohol bans these past few months. He shared news stories but was so angry I couldn't bear listening anymore. He's become quite a curmudgeon. Needs a sex life, like me. We wait.

[@vernabryant2894]

If you think they have cheated and you ask them about it and they go silent it looks like they are guilty.Innocent people have nothing to hide.

[@johncarlson6472]

This video is a great reminder of why more and more men are realizing the futility in trying to reason with someone with a self-aggrandizing, emotion-driven child-brain. Dr. Gray is right when he says, "get a life" to women that place the blame of their incapacity for happiness and contentment on men.

[@charlotte5671]

And why women are getting completely fed up when men can't be consistent. When he said get a life I'm thinking, ok so I need have another partner to fulfill my needs while the 1st one goes off and does whatever?? Its good men are also watching & understanding what women need. We are more masculine because we have to do so much in a man's world but believe me, I am craving for that masculine male to come in. Be the provider, take care of business. Get shit done. So I pray we can find some balance in allowing women to be feminine & men raising their testosterone. 💖 Different & ment to compliment each other.

[@anoukvanryckeghem9894]

Yes you’re right! It’s high time women put ourselves first and stop prioritizing men! So the men have to stop taking it personally when we don’t and stop acting like children demanding to be the priority, and society has to stop putting those expectations on us to waiting to be “saved” and giving all our power to them.

[@patriciadyer2942]

Anyone who gave this a negative review, must be a jealous competitor. John Gray is brilliant and a genius in his field. Period.

[@yavarjn2055]

Such a wisdom. What he says is definitely not for narcissistic people. I am reading the comments and see lot of women who look at men objectively. Leave your partner as soon as they lack sth. That is the best advice for men (sarcastically). Like women don't lack anything. Living together and having stable family is not about being self centered. It is about two people creating synergy by downsizing the problems and maximizing the benefits. It is a collaboration. Men and women should grow up and we need a better system of teaching how to live together and an evaluation system that categorizes people based on what they really want and are capable of.

[@ILoveLibertyJustice]

Accept, Love your self ‘100%’. It’s not easy at first yet once you ‘truly’ do then your life will change for the better. Love your self. You will not regret it.

[@angelinasamson6996]

It’s crazy because he’s all over me when we first meet up and the day or so after he curls up into an emotional ball I am not sure if my anxious attachment is being triggered or if it’s my intuition This has confirmed it ❤

[@princepacifico1512]

When he doesn't want to put up with your tantrums and rude disrespectful behavior yeah he goes silent no hard maths baby.. be a nice respectable lady sure he'll be there. Men stay where they're loved and cared and respected. Thank me later someone maybe needed to hear this

[@emmakaefer8772]

I did, thanks a lot 🙏

[@princepacifico1512]

@@emmakaefer8772 welcome love

[@alainbellemare2168]

if he could he would leave until she quiet down

[@Ma_Cherie1]

​@@princepacifico1512I needed this too.

[@falafil1967]

Your contribution to my understanding about relationship is tremendous and efficient. I pray that your generosity leads to a world change and that everyone benefits in their daily life from your useful recommendations. I also pray that you are rewarded for sharing your knowledge. I highly appreciate what you do!

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 😊

[@maxwill9584]

He knows his stuff for sure thanks Dr gray

[@valclub479]

He doesn't come back. Now what. It hurts

[@stephaniefortney22]

Your wisdom and insight is incredible!!! You give so much to think about , it’s like learning life over…thank you John very grateful

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 😊

[@ABBY-ml2rq]

My husband went silent during a separation. It led me to divorce court after 25 years of marriage.

[@stevewood870]

Contact him he restore permanently without going back he is 💯 percent sure off okay....,,,!!!

[@stevewood870]

You will testify and don't forget that problem shared is a problem solved

[@stevewood870]

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[@stevewood870]

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[@doingit-zt3oe]

Did he start talking?

[@angelawiggins7651]

Thanks, I didn't realize that men had to pull away physically in order to come back. Thanks!

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

You're welcome!

[@doglover5519]

​@@MagnetizeYourMan How do you know he's coming back??

[@jeya9139]

the man who changed my life ,, Dr John Gray

[@charlottehanna790]

....and, I don't care.....I love it. Sorry, being indifferent for three years or so......thank you for the info. I've learned to not trust anyone for not one second. I feel better.

[@ChristinaKM]

He goes silent, I walk away. Poor behavior should not be excused

[@GuruRasaVonWerder]

do not reward his being a zombie, become one to him -

[@marryjane1684]

You gone be single for forever because ALL MEN will go silent at some point .... not even , in ANY relationship the somebody will eventually go silent .

[@kp4911]

@@marryjane1684 There's a difference between going silent because a guy is working through a problem and going silent because a guy is stonewalling or sulking like a child. The latter is not conducive to an adult relationship. I recommend you look up the work of Dr. John Gottman and communication styles, as stonewalling is one of the most destructive behaviors in relationships. John Gray is not the end all be all of relationship advice.

[@GuruRasaVonWerder]

they go silent when they have what they want. They start talking to get attention or to divert you from what you are doing. If they have what they want, sometimes, they stop trying, they become the 'deadheads' that they {some of them} are.

[@uSmitH2010]

Really funny because women tend to play and jerk around guys that are too attached also taking long rides by myself are so therapeutic and rejuvenating just disappearing for a while. I’ve been in situation where I’m just getting off work and everyone “needs” me or comes to me/wants to talk I’ll definitely disconnect or want to leave funny thing is disobeying my body has been the wrong answer all the time. Crystal Jones seems like you didn’t even watch the video also I’m not a Dr. but do you think you may have attachment issues? Im super duper walk away without saying anything type of person. Just because when I was younger I constantly got the third degree before leaving out or literally just told no I couldn’t leave the house(over protective parent) for no reason other than someone might take me. So as I got older just leaving and saying nothing became a habit. And some abandonment things where seemingly everyone else can just leave but I can’t.

[@Birdsplant]

I think The Six Intimacy Skills that Laura Doyle talks about comes from your in-depth work. One of the “skills” she stresses is self care when he pulls away!🙃

[@sandytran8600]

Thanks so much... nice advice 😊

[@loida6837]

Luckily I found the answer to the question that I had always thought of

[@oranjenijntje8368]

This is such great information! Picking a favorite part is too hard. It.’s all so relevant and eye opening. Thank you both so much for sharing this.

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

Glad it was helpful!

[@LIVEFIT5D]

Wow this is one of the best talks I’ve heard

[@Abby-Brock]

I feel like this can really make a difference in my marriage! I’m excited to try it! Thank you so much for sharing 💕

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

You are so welcome!

[@gertaqilla7795]

It is so true. A man attached to us all the time, would suffocate the women.We as women, need time alone detached and we need to do what we want as before, when we hadn t met him yet.We had a life.That life calls the women immediately the guy needs detachment.And there s no bitterness.Compassion is important.Thank you for the compassion you are teaching here.

[@rjc7289]

Men remain silent because it's less aggravating than trying to get his point across to a nagging wife who won't listen and keeps drowning him out and cutting him off. He soon learns to not give a shit anymore and withdraws.

[@aussieopalgirl2915]

In my marriage it is opposite. I feel not listened, not understood, so now i withdraw into my own world, sharing only with my female friend. He can just talk over me and makes me more miserable, should i dare to share what i think. I believe we live in two different realities. And now he does not have a clue

[@ozanoutcast]

@@aussieopalgirl2915 Have you tried therapy together? My father used to shut himself off for days and weeks when I was a child and they ended up getting a divorce. It's demoralising to have a partner you can't speak to. Every marriage has around 10 unresolved issues and people need to learn to listen and to have collaborative communication to keep the ship aflot. Hell, I wasn't good at this as a talker myself, yet when I started to listen more, I realised I could get more out of life. I wish you well.

[@aussieopalgirl2915]

@@ozanoutcast he does not like therapy, bec. In his first marriage counseling did not work out for them to stay together

[@hpqzhpqz9688]

People commonly analyse male / female nature as a way to try to solve relationship issues. How about the idea that marriage, as practised in western societies today is itself not a natural situation. Families are often an isolated group with their own internal dynamics. There is an almost obsessive preoccupation with materialism and status. And then we are told to celebrate individualism and are cajoled with a confused mix of what life's goals and meaning should be. Political correctness and gender politics has become institutionalised and written into law which makes the whole relationship thing a god awful minefield. Going silent, seeking solitude and choosing to live outside all of that is an intelligent, legitimate and increasingly attractive option for many men that i think suits our nature. I mean, look at the divorce ( industry ) stats and the endless bitching about it everywhere ! ..... why go there ?

[@ozanoutcast]

@@hpqzhpqz9688 I agree. Many strong points there. Everything you mentioned has to be reestablished. It's not meant to work.

[@mypassions8880]

Wow, Dr. Gray, my goodness, thankyou for explaining how the testosterone and hormones work, i've been wondering for so long and now i so get it. Thank you so much. Ive been a fan of yours since i was a teen and thank u for being so dedicated to what u do. God Bless u sir. ❤️

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

So glad he could help you out!

[@coleenmatonic9791]

This man is a genius!

[@GuruRasaVonWerder]

As far as an ultimate partner, a mate, someone to be in love with it's CHEMISTRY. It's not logical, to be thought out, planned, it HAPPENS by unknown, unconscious factors. There's something in your unconscious needs the other person & they you, it cannot be easily explained or understood, it's FELT. Unconscious is something you're not aware of. So how can you explain it? People talk so much about CHOICES but that's not it, not with true 'in love'.

[@hugavet3049]

Tired of being wrong everytime I opened my mouth.

[@АмерикаИзнутри]

He is a narc.

[@ayarikiyo2178]

This was the best relationship advice EVER

[@focuseddrew8737]

Where have you been? This needs to be understood.

[@Hellsbike]

Good video. I'd like to say, when women want their space, to draw into their cave of self care, wanting to spend time with their lady friends, be involved with their hobbies or just time alone inmeshed with a book, then the man starts thinking she's cheating, it's not just women that think that way, men do to. When both people are emotionally mature, have self awareness, have introspection, empathy, good commuincation skills, have deep interest in wanting to know the differences in anatomy and how their brains operate, trying to understand each others perceptions of the world, what makes them tick, how they value things and the egocentic part, is when it works. We haven't been in the new awakening of emotional awareness yet for society to have healthy relationships, we're still in the survival mode but at least we've made some head way. Note - There's difference reasons for silence, the slient aspect John touhces on is not toxic.

[@HeavenlyLights]

1:42- 4:21 WOW. Men AND women need to hear THIS🧨 13:58-14:55 😮

[@ranusharma4695]

Thanks for upload this video. Its give me inspiration for my life

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

Sure thing, so glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 🥰

[@uSmitH2010]

Some of y’all are literally missing the point of the video. One lady said her guy is a marine, and that men are too much work you should try dating a woman then. Men are pretty simple in our own complex way. With that said I guess it’s understandable that many of the comments are not understanding just like a man doesn’t know what it’s like to be a woman we still try to understand yet women don’t know what it’s like to be a man and don’t care nor want to understand. I see the shaming comments as well “since he wants to act like a baby” blah blah blah are you serious? 😂 Reminds me of this one woman I dealt with in my retail days all I did was explain since she didn’t have a receipt since her mother bought the item that it would be best if she could get her mother to take a picture of it and send it to her so the money could be refunded properly(target) all she heard was that she couldn’t return the item. After continuing to argue with me and not understand what was actually being said she left and called the store. Told my manager that she makes so much more money than I did and that I refused to return her item.

[@Nola5427]

Who cares! Ask yourself why you put up with his shit? Value and respect yourself! focus on yourself and your life and there are men out there that are worthy of you and actually know how to communicate.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

You sound like a real winner. Enjoy your future cats.

[@Nola5427]

@@GUITARTIME2024 you sound triggered, just speaking the truth but you must be angry because you are one of those " guys, and I am enjoying my relationship with a great man and love my cats (why do guys think that' s an insult 🙄 ) Thanks for trolling.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

@@Nola5427 not trolling, and I bet your man is already looking around for better options. May your cat days bring you joy as your dating options wither. Lol. Buh bye.

[@Nola5427]

@@GUITARTIME2024 lol, whatever triggered troll, I don' t fight with losers that I don' t even know and that definetly don' t know me on the internet, you just came here because you' re unhappy with your own life and my guess is to many MEN have rejected you one to many times and women definetly know they can do better than you ! 🤣 so you TRY, yes TRY and bring others down to make yourself feel better but i' m not into that i' m into peace and positivity, so your trying to pick something with me won' t work because i' m not playing your game, reading anymore of your negativity or responding I' m done with you and have better things to do, so don' t even bother replying because like I said i' m done, bye.

[@Jane5720]

@@Nola5427 peaceful music is not a man he sounds like a little boy

[@manuelasantner5519]

Very interesting from a biologic point of view. What I miss here is destructive attachment styles and manipulation. The first just makes it impossible to bond normally/healthily and the latter ... well, many men AND women use not talking as a powerful manipulation technique.

[@genasoriano559]

I really like your approach 👍 I could listen on and on to make me more stronger and knowledgeable about it. Thank you for sharing this video

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 😊

[@Hiddenpearl2024]

Omg.. new perspective of love i understand today with mowt clarity.. thousands of videos i have seen to understand why he pulls away and this hormonal fluctuations seems soo accurate as i am also a dr but never understand this love psycology

[@Valoelify]

I subscribed! This video made me giggle... I just feel like I understand everything so much more now and it has made me calm and relaxed. I'm so glad you are here! Thank you!

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

Thanks for subbing!

[@TwilightSagaBella1]

Such a wonderful video ... Thank you ... I learned a lot ... The problem is if a man pulls away if he is addictive to sex he will be with other women and we don't want that to happen....A woman is scared for that ... but also at that pulling away time a woman can have sex or meet someone else....it's difficult to balance a relationship ... till you get serious together and will start living together or married.😊😇🍭

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 😊

[@joannachimonides3644]

What to do when he wants to break up? I got dumped so instead of chasing I let go. But I wouldn't let him back, I would just move on. I dont care if he wanted to pull away, he dumped me so Bye!

[@rosalinddavies8466]

I have Autism and some days have terrible anxiety which feels beyond my control

[@lanamiccoli7056]

Wonderful. Everything made complete sense 🤍

[@chocoluver18]

Most authentic answer

[@kristynaled]

Great explanation

[@cathyannhill8024]

Yes! Yes! Yes! Thank you for the clarity. 👍🏼

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

You are so welcome!

[@chynabarnescb]

This was truly informative man because even if u not dating u will be in the known when u do… I watched three times maybe 4 because my loud kids

[@kellyellis6080]

In my case , he went silent because he was cheating and being deceitful ( with his ex! )

[@larisabellydance2492]

Holy smokes , that’s awful for you .... but might have saved further pain later .

[@raindrops21_9]

I hear ya!

[@Snowboarding2020]

So he wanted to get rid of negativity

[@FOH45]

wonder why he chose the ex 🤔.....he's still a coward though, i would have just said... ✌

[@keithdon3313]

He went silent before he cheated.

[@TRIPLEMLUXE]

Wow this was very enlightening!✨ Thank you so much for sharing, I had to listen 2x! Great content

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@neelamkadri2953]

Gosh, I heard him twice as well 💯

[@nadijones660]

I wish I had this video a year ago! Anita and Dr. Gray, this is such great info. What about after a fight or break-up? How to remedy? I didn't know about the testosterone part :(

[@nadijones660]

Sorry for the typo, Antia! ❤

[@georgeandrews2839]

Men go quiet when we're really pissed or when we get tired of talking to a brick wall.

[@devondp7086]

Big fact

[@lemostjoyousrenegade]

♥️That makes perfect sense as I, a very feminine woman and peace-loving human, do the very same thing…with whomever (mother, sibling, colleague, neighbor…) is acting like a brick wall (or person desperately seeking to control). No thanks. I love us BOTH out of the unhealthy conversation/relationship. Peace is my preference…all the time.

[@omnipoten8]

Exactly ! Reading the comments here from some immature women calling men as "immature" is the perfect example of why men goes silent ! No matter how much you explain these women, they always come up with there own victim mindset to prove that you are wrong !

[@mohitsurekahindi]

The Doctor gave such a great explanation about how men are naturally / biologically built. Yet all negative comments from women show the state of affairs today, it's just selfish to assume the other sex will be bent over for you just because you read crappy books about it or discussed it with other girlfriends.

[@julespowell4896]

I needed to hear this. Thank you

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

Sure thing, so glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 🥰

[@suzeb7005]

This makes sense. Thank you John Gray

[@sayalijadhav7218]

Thank you John. I have been looking for this knowledge and now I feel satisfied. 5:42

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 😊

[@anoukvanryckeghem9894]

The point of being in a relationship is not to boost a man’s ego!!!

[@marygomes1354]

Thanks a lot, just need it very badly, and really learn a lot 😊😊😊

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 😊

[@sobiashah8215]

Very well explained

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

Glad it was helpful!

[@johntrojan9653]

Trying to explain your actions or your behavior to an angry woman doesn't mean a rat's pa'tutty. Silence is golden sanctuary from one's pissey wife or girlfriend - PERIOD !! 😄

[@cynthiacrawford1573]

Sounds like letting her calm down back to rational before talking might help.

[@johntrojan9653]

@@cynthiacrawford1573 Oh, I let her calm down alright. Meanwhile I enjoy a deep conversation with my Best Friend - who lives in the bottom of a beer can . . . SERIOUSLY !**

[@roxannekinnally4208]

Thank you for this information i finally got it dont be so needy

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

So glad it helped!

[@leahnapoles4796]

wow its a wise decision really

[@ptyh27]

Wow love his explanation of how men's T level works and their desire for women Thank you!

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 🥰 I would also highly recommend taking our FREE quiz for custom gifts to help with this also if you haven’t already using the special link here: MagnetizeYourMan.com/Quiz/YT

[@jsol2120]

Thank you for the video Antia! I love videos featuring Dr.Gray he has so much wisdom to spread. I didn't know about the vitamin D levels...Interesting 🤔❤

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

Glad it was helpful!

[@amuservlog4561]

Thanks for this info and new learning

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

Glad it was helpful!

[@getawaywithpam]

Great content, thank you for sharing

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 😊

[@HeavenlyLights]

Really Great Video ❤ 7:22-8:05 😮. Women marry a man you think is BRILLIANT and tell him EVERY DAY.

[@gertaqilla7795]

🤗I love all of I am listening to your speech.Thank you!

[@normalimbaga2253]

Thank you for your reading I'm very happy to this reading thank you so much I'm appreciate now i focus in my family in my mother

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

You are so welcome so glad you loved it!

[@redredbugz8383]

Worth lstning this.. i just quiet too in sometime i hate arguing.and hour later i just smile ☺

[@thenutrientwhisperer3700]

You are spot on about the vitamin D. And also it can cure skin cancer. And prevent other cancers and it’s actually not even a vitamin but it’s a hormone. The only thing you’re missing is that your level should be closer to 100 not 70. Keep it up though 7k to 10,000 international units every day. But start with a loading dose of 50,000 IU’s.

[@brennaceja]

Holy hell this is incredible to know! It makes such sense

[@goodlivelive2621]

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[@goodlivelive2621]

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[@goodlivelive2621]

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[@asifmuniruniverse7732]

What do you think that I'm blind here ?

[@mariacristinaratti2792]

Simply great. Thanks

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

Our pleasure!

[@mgu1N1n1]

Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!