Difference Between OVER Pursuing and Pursuing!

[@Mauitaoist]

Pursuing a woman properly shows your bravery, letting them pursue you too shows them your confidence. Balancing these two energies together makes a real man. Remember, not all women want a real man, just walk away in those situations. Men need to weed out women that are wrong for them, even if you think you love them, that is strength

[@phantomreacts]

I listen to both women n men coaches to balance out n take my own stance ....

[@youngslime9692]

100 same thing i do

[@youngrevival9715]

What she says is completely true.

[@ernestgty1442]

saaaaaaamee it's really interesting

[@BestKayneUwU]

The thing I don’t like about male coaches is many of them will tell you to ignore it and pretend like it doesn’t bother you but doesn’t that just keep enabling shitty behavior? Better to say it like it is and if the person doesn’t like you so be it.

[@prezidentjeff]

100%

[@kgotsomashigo4043]

The mistake we make as men we think if we have a very attractive female on our side we've found happiness and we forget to ask ourselves what value will she add in our lives

[@andrethetruth5662]

💯 never thought about it like that

[@timharry5168]

True

[@umermahmood]

The most important relationship you can have is with yourself.

[@SSGTA440]

YOU, sir have got that RIGHT!!

[@patrickbrennan1317]

Basically if you are not happy with yourself, no one else will be.

[@edvas625]

@Ron Lambert hahaha

[@DjR3aper]

*With God Yourself/myself is 2nd

[@_M_D_M_]

@Ron Lambert lol

[@joemancini2988]

Sometimes just listening to you reminds me of what my mother used to tell me: Have some self-esteem!

[@JAF2991]

That's the truth, self esteem and confidence.

[@andro396]

one of the best videos you have ever made .. Great point about happiness within ourselfs !

[@thomasmbiba5558]

This makes so much sense. If you feel like you need her, you will over do it. But if she's a preferential addition, then you'll be sober and pursue well.

[@eye-am-xavier9745]

Def needed this because we all forget whats the right thing when your caught in the moment.

[@Vascodagam333]

Relationship shouldn’t be this difficult. The reason why it’s so complicated is because human beings have several bs going on in their lives-it’s unbelievable!!!

[@budd1876]

This video is worth watching multiple times, so you can go out in the real world and apply the good stuff you teach 🙌

[@samuelhara4874]

Oh my! This girl knows what she is talking about! Bravo! My hat is off to you Madam🙏

[@BrooksKirkbride]

Apolonia’s a smart, insightful and a deep thinker who understands the dynamics effecting men in relationship to ladies.

[@markferguson6215]

I must admit that I think your videos are very well put together and you articulate everything so well, thanks for providing a lot of advice that many of us don't even think about.

[@rebelreloading5265]

The female version of these videos is advice such as; have a queen mindset, shit-test him, play hard to get, be indecisive, do this with 20 other guys.

[@wm2828]

Apollonia, great video. Very informative ... in the end as men we need to be confident and secure with who we are, focused on our mission.

[@mustaphadoaa1024]

Thank you Apollonia. The woman should be your fan and if she is not a good one, there are a lot of fans for great men. Allah bless you Apollonia.

[@daniellucier2290]

Your words are true and it makes me feel like I need a break to find myself love. Thanks a lot.

[@2790tanmay]

The way u break down things and make it easy to understand..., And helping real man who are vulnerable and in misery.., It is like, you extend your hand to those who have fallen bad and they are not able to come out... And u help them.., u pull them out of that place... U are a nice person Apollonia... This energy u wear, and the kind of person you are.. I like you 🙂.. I like ur energy... From India.

[@mxdi2727]

I’ve been watching your videos for a little while, you are an amazing person, from now on I’ll watch videos of how to meet someone like you !! Forget my ex ! 💐

[@DannyBoy443]

Best dating coach ever. Done. I'm not even using her products just videos. No on deep dives like this chick.

[@danielupsdell2697]

You are so good and so right I have found myself over Pursuing my last relationship which did not turn out Will never do that again .

[@vortigern2448]

Very useful and insightful....these are great tips to ponder on... thanks. Keep up the good work..

[@mamorukun16]

Thank you for helping me see the difference cause I wasn’t aware until now.

[@seekingwisdom8]

What you explain is similar to wanting a relationship and needing a relationship. I have become extremely close emotionally with a woman who is a 10 in any mans eyes. Beauty beyond compare, super sexy and sensual. I fell in love with her personality, she is the sweetest woman I’ve ever met. We will finally meet in February. I’ve made it clear I want her, and if we don’t have chemistry when we meet in person, there is no reason to continue our online relationship. She doesn’t understand why and said “you need me in your life”. I told her I don’t need her, I want her and she was hurt. She then explained what she meant and included herself, saying “we need each other...” Then it wasn’t so offensive. But once a woman believes you need her, she loses all respect for you. When you believe you need someone, you lose your own self worth and identity. If the person ends the relationship, you feel like life is over, but it isn’t. I had a wonderful marriage to the love of my life for 24 years when she died suddenly from opioid poisoning. Not an overdose, her body was too small for the minimum dose of meds prescribed, so she never “woke up”. I knew at that moment the heartbreaking feeling of losing someone you need. But that need grew over spending half our lives together, not from seeing her and wanting her.

[@techbazaar8462]

She likes me but i know I had to play the game for getting her

[@williamcampbell39]

Right on Girl! Thanks for being passionate about what u do! It really matters to know your self worth...

[@Makonen442]

The answer is simple. Pay attention to personality. If she has low self esteem.. and you have high self esteem. Then obviously that relationship will not work. Simple!

[@82powpow]

Apo omg I’ve been talking to this girl and I said the same thing to myself. She’s good looking and she has a lot going for herself but I’m also the shiznit and I’m a prize that needs to be won!

[@stevenlawrence5733]

LOVE EVERY WORD FROM BEGINNING TO END! You nailed it in this video Apallonia

[@hayleypardinan]

this is a really great video, Apollonia. this is like the summarization of all your videos. thank you for this! :)

[@ObeyaCorpsArmory]

lol Apollonia, i just started pursuing this chick and this video came out just at the right time to CLARIFY that im doing everything right (which i am). Girl... you da best!

[@samuelturner1668]

Amazing video. Thank you Apollonia, your videos have helped me so much this last month since my gf asked for a break.

[@mutungiedmund2355]

I thank God for 2019, for bringing me love and giving me a God fearing Woman 👩, my child hood friend I have known for 10 years and so so good next year we are doing our introduction and we always bring the best out of each other, love and respect each other and pray for each other every day. And we love each other as individuals and we love each other as a Couple 👫 ❤️ and we thank God for the love 😍 he has given us.

[@charleshayes1793]

You can't lose with when the both are GODfearing

[@michaelhorn4540]

Very informative, some of the best advice I've heard yet

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Glad it was helpful!

[@theprecursor8736]

this is one of your best videos! so much insight, thank you

[@julianrodriguez3401]

Wow this makes a huge amount of sense!! Thank you for your input!

[@lutaayam]

Learnt a new word, authenticness

[@kartongfolonko4646]

The you much Apollonia I learnt lots from you since I started watching you videos... I in UK I love you lots bcos if am watching is like you talking directly to me thanks and God bless you with your amazing teaching x

[@Geforcepat]

It's been too long since i watched the lovely Apollonia. Pretty good stuff Apollonia

[@rarefinds5735]

Thank you so much for your advice. Definitely a lot easier to put in perspectives. Never to be a player but to kill the nice guy that people pleases.

[@georgegorse4744]

Great content I made so many of the mistakes you mentioned in this video I lost who I was but i'm starting to learn about my own value which is great.

[@regerbryan]

There’s a girl that gave me butterflies and now I’m killing myself trying to pursue correctly. As we speak I’ve conveyed my feelings and she didn’t say no, she’s open to getting to know me and I’m definitely not in the friend zone, next step is to hang out with her in person more

[@kevinpatel6602]

What happened??

[@CREPTOVATOR]

So much value in here 🔥🔥

[@johngonzalez4298]

Great video Apollonia. Happy Thursday beautiful 🌹

[@jeffhall3044]

1) I setup a date. 2) Get off the phone. We will talk about it at the restaurant.

[@lifeofdice8929]

It’s really that simple man💪🏿🔥

[@herefordopeness]

Apollonia your videos are great, I've learned lots, thank you. You're gorgeous and dress suave too!

[@tradingstar9176]

hEY, just wanted to say. -- You're great. good content and quite relevant and practically applicable. -- Cheers to your work

[@briggelton]

All facts. I needed this 4sho

[@freevideos051]

Balance is key.

[@luisw3406]

So perfect timing video with someone I am dating it answer questions I was thinking about ty A.P😊

[@TheAgiovannym]

Thanks for having simple intros. Haha Good material. Thanks for adding value.

[@adrianlemus2768]

This is a really good video.

[@danieldaniel-vb8rh]

May God bless your life Apollonia and the job that you do

[@lionelreesable]

Hi Apollonia, thank you for your informative videos. I am new to your channel and have been working my way through your videos and podcasts. I do not think I have any specific issues with women or finding women. I am always trying to Improve my knowledge base and have found your videos to serve that purpose. So far there is one subject I do not see you addressing. Because you are at the pinnacle of what most men want and personify all which is desirable in a woman, it would be helpful if you would tell us how can we approach and acquire a woman like you. Any input you have on that specific subject would be most appreciated.

[@yehudasam]

Love your content! A really powerful message here. I especially liked the 7 aspects of life which I need to improve, instead of trying to fix everything threw a romantic relationship.

[@pablovizcay]

Knowing the temparement of the person makes all the difference in the world in all things relational.

[@TheMrwilliams2u]

We all need the happiness we get from someone else which is why you are married and why this channel exists. The key is, that you still feel valuable without them.

[@Musicizmyremedy]

You are the best, honestly everything you said spoke to me. Thank you

[@m.r.5990]

This is one of the main differences between men and women. Men are poligamous in nature, we don't focus on just one woman, we have so much love for women that when we try to focus all the love on just one woman, it becomes putting her on a pedestal and we become unattractive to women when we are like that. But that's what society AND women demands from us - to love one woman and be there only for her. In this situation, when we focus all the love on one woman, we come off as needy, because we focus all the love for women on one person and therefore the woman has the power to stamp on our love and play games, and blackmail us emotionally. The society demands from us the game that is impossible to win. Man that puts his woman on a pedestal is unattractive to all women, including his own woman.. On the other hand, a woman that puts her man on a pedestal is very much attractive to her man, and very much loved. That's the difference. The solution for a man is to always be open to love and intimacy with other women. To let them compete for your attention, even in a long term relationship. Don't withdraw your love for women just because you now want to have the one girl. They compete over you, they are stimulated emotionally, and they love you and want to win your love. And you don't f.ck around, take care of your semen (your potential children) and don't give it for free. Stick your junk only into a woman that showed you and convinced you about her that she would take care of your potential children the way they deserve and be a perfect mother if they show up (Even if you don't plan it, take care of it, because there is a physical possibility that they show up).

[@wcole1385]

Great points to be use at all age ranges!

[@darrickbrisco5016]

Great points especially the idolizing and equals part

[@mybp5]

3:50 We love you too, sister. Great fashion!

[@shanehixson1313]

Great videos AP. I was a crazy over persurer. But I was happy in all areas of my life except romance. I was scared to death that I was never find love. I idolized all girls I thought were attractive and I didn't think I could be fulfilled without falling in love and getting married. I ended up with a bpd. I was codependent.

[@edb.9196]

I’m learning a lot from your videos thanks!

[@Sebastiaopedro1957]

For me this was the most important video from you Apollonia, Thank you!

[@willislewis1088]

my perfect woman is perfect to me,we make each other better...it's about what makes you better together..the right person you will start changing without saying anything...

[@prathamesh1242]

You are the best Apollonia!!

[@blackbond-007]

Thanks again for an awesome video. 🙏🏾

[@564d]

Very valid. Buen video amor

[@TyeDye622]

I've never thought about it like that

[@extraxt]

Apollonia, you rocks!

[@rejectwokeness1314]

It's true, having a woman in your life is usually not a recipe for increased happiness, at least not after a few months. But the ironic thing is, if having a woman is not going to improve my life, why do I need her?

[@pitdawg6418]

Pursue women with a career and a JOB and no Bastards as luggage! Enough said!

[@TheFilmSpace1]

You and Rom Wills the best on KZbin 💯💯💯

[@ferbogadoaSalirAJugar]

watch entirely, thank you, amazing counseling.

[@risnandarmultimedia5296]

7 different areas for happiness. interesting topics, thank you

[@SheshagiriPai]

The dress looks awesome on you.

[@GubyIQ]

great video Apollonia

[@josemamani1246]

Thank you, Apollonia...!

[@denzilthomasiii2375]

I love you apollonia

[@goudagrishhdoe8925]

I like the new lil look u got going on today. Good video.

[@cobycrisp4605]

HEY APPOLINIA PONTI, I LOVE YOU

[@vin605]

Thanks for sharing and you are always love

[@zoozoo6528]

should try to make advice with AMS

[@Temarius_Walker]

Great advice!

[@jashannon]

That makes sense thank you. I'm doing way better now. the only trouble is i'm 57. so I wish I had learned this stuff 40 years ago. After getting divorced and going through a 10-year dry spell for a second time in my life, I asked out somebody who's overweight and she is younger though, and the overweight is not perfect sexually, but I've learned that the love that she has for me is more important than a hot body. And I have to keep looking in the mirror to remind myself that I don't look 37 anymore also, and I am overweight as well. For a while there I thought maybe I was just with her as kind of a placeholder better than nothing woman. But as time has gone on, my love for her has grown little by little.

[@jashannon]

And you are right because for the last year and a half I've been technically homeless, using a van as my apartment, but that's because I've become a writer. after I lost my last job, I decided to just do what I love. women can sense that I have that sense of self which I put before any woman. While my woman will sometimes remind me and complain that I should have a job, shes still attracted to me I think because she knows that I know who I am takes precedence over getting laid. And I can sense other attraction with other women. I have not learned to not be passive yet though that is a big problem of mine. so I guess I should do that. I was trying to not be jealous around her regarding other men, but it sounds like it would be better if I was jealous to communicate my no no's.

[@jashannon]

I used to think it was glorified prostitution, because if women we're attracted to providers, which always confused me since women go to college too, meaning that they're providers also. and if they're providers why do they need a provider? that if it really was like that, then how would that be different than prostitution? But now I'm looking at it like they must be attracted to a man as long as the man is being his authentic self. And the reason for my bad luck was I didnt know who I was. Low confidence goes hand in hand with not knowing who you are also.

[@moustaphadiop6357]

God!! this video is gold

[@elphusselememoeng3766]

Let me takes this opportunity by Thanking you Sister Apollonia Ponti by taking you job very professional by Dress to kill on each and every video that your doing 😍👌👌

[@Brandonkemar352]

That video hit home sheesh

[@andrewboyddotcom]

Amazing tips about how to realise your own innate value and how to stop idolization. Completely on the money.

[@anisberoual1572]

Thank you do much this was helpfull

[@juliusfoleng3556]

Self happiness is the most important value

[@mikebruzi8714]

You’re very intelligent Apollonia.. thank you for being here

[@davidthomspson9771]

Great advice here.so true

[@6drk6mrc6]

I wonder how to apply the last tip without coming off as possesive or hypersensitive

[@vel6979]

We went on a first date and after-when she called me the next day she was mentioning how I wasn’t complementing her, but she said she still enjoyed the date. And she still calls me. I pursued but I didn’t idolize her so it means I didn’t overpersue correct?

[@danielsantana540]

Apollonia i may have already said this but once again your so pretty

[@jonathanduke8295]

Thank you for this .

[@andredelaine9171]

Thank you for this video

[@henny925]

The thing is: I don't want to be with my ex to make myself happy, I knew she would piss me off and give me a headache but the thing is I was not happy with my life. Moving in with her would not provide me happiness but the pursue of living a new life was. We are completely opposite but she and I always found ways to be together, always. That's why I love her and love to be with her. But I wish to find my happiness through my work and hope to find her again.