How To Be Upfront Without Killing Attraction | 8 Tools To BOOST Attraction!

[@Slashco]

1. Create some substance within your own life, i.e., accomplishments, goals and aspirations 2. Have ambition and happiness 3. Don't be needy or feel like you have to be in a relationship to be complete 4. Pace yourself and don't attach early on 5. Voice your standards 6. Be clear on the idea of the woman you want 7. Make sure you both have the same goals 8. Be upfront and voice the outcome you're looking for with women Sounds solid to me.

[@isiahcoles4684]

Good cook for starting a relationship...

[@Uneek1980]

Thank you.

[@edwinrivera7027]

basically work alot 70 hours a week plus

[@BENJAMINKPOSOWA]

Thank you!

[@acharich]

🔑🔑🔑🔑🔑

[@boss4330]

"If you cannot accept me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best." Men are entitled to use that too. She has to work and build a life with you, not wait for a winner at the finish line.

[@Enrij]

So true

[@ascalon8001]

Yes, but consider this. Actually, women's behaviour doesn't usually contradict this. So long as you're passionate and have a powerful vision and a healthy outlook in life, even if at the moment things aren't going your way you're still going to be extremely attractive to women. But if you're just miserable, whyever would anyone want that in their life?

[@nightrider222222]

Amen

[@92CJLove]

PREACH

[@vuyanebenard695]

Very true

[@IronChloride]

1- distinct substance and self integrity 2- be ambitious and happy 3- dont be needy, she's just an investment 4- dont attach, pace yourself 5- voice your standards, self respect 6- be clear of 'your type' 7- both should have the same goals 8- being direct, dont let your insecurities take over you

[@Dreamer1422]

Number 3 describes me. That's the mentality I am trying to fix right now. Since I started watching your videos I became more confident about myself. This particular video is sooo helpful, thank you! I am grateful that you are doing everything you are doing and for me, hearing everything you say from a woman rather than a man is an added bonus because I don't have the suspicion that you are saying what you are saying because it works for you.

[@Mybrothafromanothamotha]

Your presentation has improved, thanks for getting straight to business. I think your fan base will appreciate getting what they came for earlier on.

[@nilesengerman8263]

I totally agree. The word "need" in an intimate relationship, is a recipe for codependency.

[@muhammadnabihothman2432]

Right on the money.! "Don't go thru life blindfolded" & "life won't work for you unless you work for it"..! I love you Apolinia.!

[@tonycooper4712]

Apollonia this is one of the best videos I've seen involving relationships! Boundaries and integrity is important. Great job!

[@philadams9254]

Yes. You need to be on your purpose. She wants to feel your strength and determination.

[@rmjmoviereviews6876]

Great info! I find women are more attracted to me when I talk about things I have a passion for. I lost weight going from 284lbs to 186lbs in two years and when i shared my passion for fitness and grinding hard in the gym, i found women were much more attracted to me verses when i stopped working out, while dating a toxic woman, and started to not feel as good emotionally.

[@LegendaryanChannel]

Great job on all your progress! 🔥

[@Rot8tn13b]

Keep it up dude!💪

[@Justin-baxe]

A relationship is between 2 complete people coming together to help each other grow.

[@chillydawgg4354]

a relationship is 2 people asking each other what they want to eat until one of them dies

[@acharich]

✨🙏🏾✨

[@BAKER22-l4u]

Lol

[@Juli-n-David]

Even if you have to up root an replant the same flower in new soil..

[@Pudekz51790]

You just contradicted yourself. You say 2 “complete people” but then the last part you said “help each other grow.” If you are complete, you don’t need to grow. It’s like saying adding something to an infinite. You’ll never find a complete person nor will you ever be a complete person yourself. A real relationship is two imperfect individuals who learn to fit each other. After all, to love is to love unconditionally.

[@thuggieboi1]

Awesome information, the part that stuck out to me was “ you have to constantly check in on the relationship because Goals can change for you or your partner “ eye opener....

[@bonyarcher]

I'm gonna master these tools. A lot of what is said this this video is what this girl told me after I showed her indecision and she said she'll let me prove myself to her. I don't know why I termed it that way but she said yes. KZbin and coaches like Apollania are teaching me so much that I never was gonna learn from my teen years

[@WorldWideMic]

Wow. This is mind opening. Truly made me realize a lot of things I was doing from a scarcity mindset. I’m currently in a relationship and I was acring very insecure and jealous because I subconsciously felt I wasn’t good enough. Realizing they are all fears/ insecure mindset. Thanks for your words today. It fed my soul.

[@Ates5man]

I know i ve been here and there on comments in different video's. But thank u once again Apollonia. These quides refreshes my though's that i already have. As like training muscles. This world needs u and women like u.

[@TheWorkinProgressChannel]

13:15 Absolutely! Lack/scarcity seems from low self value/esteem. I've just thought scarc-ity makes me think of the word scare-d a vibration of fear/apathy.

[@DRTY3RD]

First off...that hair is slayed something serious. Secondly...the impassioned energy from which you speak significantly empowers the tools you give in this and other videos as well. That's how I know it's real. Thirdly...thank you again for even undertaking this work, and for the wisdom you've shared in this latest video.

[@djalfredstein1049]

I will master these tools..Apollonia this video came at a perfect time

[@internetperson9121]

This is a great subject. I'm a very upfront person in general and when dating. I've always been aware that it will turn off some of the less self-aware women, who will lose interest without realizing why - i'd prefer they lose interest. But still this gives me some things to think about to make sure I'm communicating effectively.

[@jacknorton3771]

I have mastered a few of these and will master the rest. This coaching stuff works.

[@Ben256MB]

On point Apollonia Ponti ..... I'm have really enjoyed your content and I have never for second regretted subscribing to your channel since last year . Thank you being so authentic .😍

[@obakengamosotho2931]

"Life does not work for you if you are not willing to work for it ".very inspiring❤️Apollonia Ponti

[@unclerico2987]

Thanks for your teaching Apollonia and wisdom. Love your energy and amazing craft. I enjoy watching you nighty falling asleep to your soothing voice appreciate you!

[@reginaldcoonce7520]

In my opinion.... This is probably her best video yet

[@reginaldcoonce7520]

This video helps us {as men} to know ourselves better!

[@robinlewis2952]

Hey Apollonia ponti thanks for your wonderful guidance presented in the video.Im gonna master these 8 keys shared by you for sure.

[@aakashpanchal3314]

Apollonia , your speeches r getting better day by day 🤗🤗

[@albertgarrido8142]

Appalonia, Love your content has helped me tremendously. I hope to see you.at one of you coaching seminars in LA.

[@captainkirk5027]

Yet another great video and advice from the lovely Apollonia

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Thank you Nicholas. Glad you enjoyed it! :)

[@MarcKlark]

@@ApolloniaPonti I want to donate without booking a session

[@natebadger927]

I've been listening to your advise and sound wisdom. And it's been instrumental to a T..gentlemen, listen and apply not only will you see result, but it's going to built self awareness and confidence..I guarentee you.

[@jeffrailey]

Thank you so much Apollonia for your knowledge and expertise. This is my favorite video, and I even downloaded it. Why? I am a strong person yet sensitive and passionate when it comes to a certain woman that I met. With all honesty and humility, I’m a 5X champion boxer that is a very dedicated athlete. First and foremost, I am a Christian man. The conclusion of this video for me is that a relationship with a woman is definitely NOT a need especially if I am just getting to know her. Thank you and God bless you. 🥊🥊🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💖✝️

[@mpv9866]

I am mastering the tools you are teaching. It seems to come naturally these days, like 2nd nature 🙏🏼

[@rayf5360]

Excellent video. This is not just about cultivating attraction with women, but even more so about maintaining a healthy attitude in life.

[@twaniebgodfirst8799]

That's real talk being upfront that's me💯

[@jeromestanford1992]

YOU SPEAK WITH SUCH CLARITY. IT'S LIKE YOU ARE A CAPTAIN OF A SHIP, GUIDING US SAFELY THROUGH THE PERFECT STORM. AYE AYE CAPTAIN APOLLONIA PONTI. STAY ALIVE.

[@druhboy5631]

I’m going to master these tools! Thank you Apollonia! You Rock! 🎸

[@fomonyuyanthony7488]

I'm gonna master these points. They make lots of sense. Great work Apollonia

[@kennethnamend8156]

This information is so true, just for the simply fact that Im going to continue to grow as an individual, pursue personal goals and ultimately creating the posture of a lion.

[@hugorujeles87]

Hey A, I have learned some things bout myself w/ur videos some good n some not so good

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Hi Hugo, Thanks for your comment! I hope the video can help with the not so good :-) -Apollonia

[@alexezerski1140]

This is my first KZbin comment ever. Honestly this was a awesome video and very much appreciate the advice and for the great explanations. Just so damn believable and practical! Love this. Thanks !

[@CESAR-io6ob]

I love your videos Apollonia, I watched lots of them already. You're so beautiful and inteligent. You were born to teach and help others. I must say, the truth hurts and I have so much to work on to be a better man women can desire. I've been single for a while, and I'm growing to like it or perhaps accept it. I had several relationships in the past including a marriage, and failed. I may stay single for the rest of my life, who knows. I'm 43. But at least your teachings give men like me hope to grow if we aspire to pursue a great woman to spend the rest of our lifes with. You rock!

[@juliocampos9170]

Yes I too remember this being the last yo mama joke

[@Darkmondayll]

Lmao

[@coldcoherentprotocol1807]

LOL

[@rafoniaks]

xD

[@aaronricketts3313]

Lmfao

[@HelpWithHeartbreak]

Apollonia, you nailed it on the head with this video. Taking the time to really reflect on what you need in a partner is incredibly important. Especially on mutual goals. Thank you for sharing this!

[@martinchanda8579]

You are on point all the time. Thanks for the timely advise. You are simply awesome.

[@mosestheuri5575]

been learning so much from this channel. Thanks Appolonia for all the advice

[@chrisirving868]

your Brilliant, I forgot all these intuitive tools, making my girl my entire world has zero balance. thank you!

[@welcast1987]

Great video. To bad I didn’t see it at the right moment. Girl told me to stop texting her too much or she will block me. I basically killed her attraction by texting or calling to much. Hope I can applied these tools to get her back. Guys don’t make that mistake. I take full blame for it but we learn from errors/mistakes.

[@elliotvazquez5811]

I work the graveyard shift @ a hospital and thank u! When I get my down time is when I can focus on your therapy 😊

[@XCLR8]

Love your vids! PLEASE come to Jersey!

[@Hvacmania]

Been enjoying your videos . I've been doing things right now and it works. Thanks Ms Apollonia

[@danhuskey2496]

Great video,thanks for the insight and advice.Everything you do is always appreciated.Thanks again.

[@Nsands81]

The crazy thing is we all know this through intuition. Now ofcourse with the brought up of technology most people are not connected with their internal and therefore live externally which as we know only leads to be miserable and lost if we haven't first taken awareness in knowing how to take care of ourselves. everyone talks a big game but the hardest thing to do is actually applying it to our very own lives. You're amazing by the way Apollonia!

[@roderickdevon2277]

you are really helping me out here.. good points

[@KevinContreras2013]

You’re real and honest. A huge thank you!!

[@fingling8]

This is really kind, sincere and sage advice. I see I've made rather a lot of bloopers ... Well, maybe next time I'll do better. Thanks for this.

[@florianmuller5332]

I'm gonna master them. Precious, dense video. Saved for evening 'evolving' work. I need to work on some points others are not so bad already. By the way the courses on your website are very good.

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Thank you so much!

[@mustafaali-mahgoub8980]

I’m going to master these tools and be a better version of ME everyday day! Thank you for your amazing inspiring videos!

[@panathasg13]

on point. Loads of love have a good weekend.

[@soubsxio]

You are an amazing woman Apollonia. I love your videos! Thank you for your great work!

[@denisprozorov3101]

Good videos and coaching from the perspective of a great woman Appolonia. I wonder though, will it apply towards single women who are “on the market”, which your listeners have to deal with? I am talking about 30+ audience.

[@natebadger927]

Thankyou sister for your time and videos.

[@danjsilve]

Very good video. I still have yet to nail down 1 & 2 fully. So probably best I don't start to show interest in a relationship. At this point in time I am travelling for a year, changing countries every 3 months.

[@DCVocabulary]

Loved the video. You are extremely passionate about this subject. Thank you.

[@olinzodd]

I agree with much of that. I also think a lot of men just want a woman who believes in them, which is really hard to find these days. A lot of women seem 'self-absorbed' in this day and age. I once had that, but my wife died of cervical cancer. So guess I shouldn't complain, at least I had it once, something some men never see. My problem is I've never met another woman like that since then, do they even exist anymore? :-) Most gfs I've had since then think that if they give me good sex, that's enough. But someone like me needs more (I have no problem finding women who will sleep with me, just can't find any that believe in me).

[@superpearlreddragon1]

I am going to master these tools, thanks for all the great videos your an amazing teacher.

[@Thadon33]

Apollonia Ponti If you just came out of a relationship and are not looking for anything serious, as a man, what’s the best way to approach things with a woman you’ve just met?

[@lukedavis6711]

Just stop focusing on an outcome. You dont want to say the truth because you assume you won't get the outcome you're seeking. Just say the truth and stop trying to produce a particular outcome; else that's manipulative and everyone can smell it on you.

[@matthewschwartz6607]

What if you fell for a woman that you SHOULDN’T have fallen for?

[@Thadon33]

Luke Davis, since when is having a desired outcome considered manipulative?

[@j.schade5820]

Apollonia - Thank you as you always help me to a better man and centered with your talks.

[@morbidonslaughter7050]

My substance is video games and my metal/punk music to deafen my ears in the morning

[@brownpunk1794]

Ur clearly a champion..high fives🤘

[@WinWin-gl4ns]

you are very inspirational, and i'm thankful for your advise you understand relationships baby.

[@Acid1771]

This video is just what men need to know thank you and like I always say God bless 😌🙏🏼😊☺️

[@walterramirez1723]

Thank you Apollonia, you are amazing, I can’t wait to start sessions with you, I can tell your advices come from the heart. Muchas gracias!

[@garybill3508]

Great advice, I'm sharing it with several people

[@ApolloniaPonti]

THank you!

[@rjblaze5330]

Mrs Ponti your amazing and i'm going to master these tools.

[@eyaalem7990]

Million times thanks. u just saved my time by giving the right advice. I need u to be my mentors.

[@ericbonaparte9790]

Another Classic Let's Go Ms Ponti👏🏿👏🏿

[@kevinkelly3758]

So profound! Thank you... So you told me to walk away and I did. Guess what hapoened? Also, I was focused on an outcome with her and realized that's not what I'm supposed to do. Amazing things change... However, she blew me off this weekend because she was exhausted and didn't want to get together on Saturday night. I didn't text or call her yesterday and gave her space.

[@connorschweikert2328]

I feel im in the same spot as you. I focused on an outcome with her, after 2 months..now 3 months casual dating. it pushed her away (emotionally unavailable). Still seems interested in me tho. I'm not waiting around but if the opportunity comes I know I need to be patient in my communication. Haven't talked for 4 days now. These points opened my eyes. Any advice for me? Thanks

[@kevinkelly3758]

Connor, I've been there. You just have to live your life and focus on your purpose. She will text or csll you unexpectedly. That's when you ask her out. Don't chase her! Also don't wait around for a call or text looking at your phone. I did that and it's agonizing. Find a hobby or go out and do something. You'll be surprised when you hear from her.

[@maxhouse2409]

If she turned down a date with you, it's up to her to come up with a counter proposal. If she's not cooperating with you, she's not interested.

[@frisbeeshawn5356]

This really helped me out a lot. If we don't have standards character values common decency then its all a lie. And not just hang out with them because they are attractive and you want intimacy but a good personality and character is more important .. 🙏☮️

[@mathiaslwolf]

I love the value of the content you bring Apollonia. I feel dignified and empowered by simply listening to and hearing the wisdom. I have done and continue to do work on myself in a very extensive way in all areas of my life, including significant relationships. No doubt, single, as I have begun the process of elimination of everything and everyone that is not true in my life and replacing it with what and who is. Much to say about healing and growth... I am aware of some dysfunction of my own when it comes to significant relationships in my behavioral patterns. No doubt in my mind and heart that this is codependency and narcissism. I just downloaded your free ebooks. You're absolutely beautiful, keep up the great work, thank you! Know thyself; to thine own self be true.

[@macdonaldgrazette1897]

DEEP..I have some work to do Appolonia..I see it..

[@ianmackenzie686]

👏👏 👏 She knocked it out of the park with this one.

[@tokenstandpoint93]

Funny this video came out. I'm courting someone and after our second date she rejected me saying that while I was insta boyfriend material she thought that I wanted a serious relationship right then and there. I told her that she's wrong about wanting to be serious right at that spot. I let her know that I liked her a lot and might want to be serious with her but it was to early to come to that conclusion. Next thing I know 4 days later she called and wanted to know when's the next time we're going out. Type weird how you're explaining this now.

[@wolfh1045]

Wow this is such a great video. I need to watch it several times so all the advice really sinks in. Thanks you.

[@fredoaparri6099]

Thank you Apollina Ponti, Your Great😘

[@keithherren1061]

I am going to master these tools,they are very vital when encountering a woman

[@captainace4987]

Good morning Apollonia ty for great advice as always 😏

[@verlelammey5457]

She knows all of the most important thing is to t, ;g

[@ManishKumar-xk2dw]

New video.. New learning.. Thanks..

[@henrytorresvlogs]

Great advice this is 100 percent true. Thank you. Your easy on the eyes too so it helped pay attention lol

[@jakechizzle007]

Great Video Apollonia!, catching up on some of these congrats on channel growth. love the perspective from the women advice 👍

[@matthewdowling3866]

Good advice, and in the heat of combat, mirror her actions...If she leans back in her chair, you lean back in yours...If she leans in, you lean in...If she looks around at other guys, leave it for a few minutes, then catch the eye of a good looking girl in the room, and she will hate it. And remember, you are not buying her time, your time is just as valuable.

[@evanmaniac2549]

Very helpful, thanks Ponti.

[@nickefgen9219]

excellent video, thank you

[@brightkenneth3689]

Wow thanks for advice i think you are really helping me out💕

[@utd11]

Havnt watched a video more deserving of a like keep up the good work :)

[@ndumethints]

Worth mastering indeed. Incredible insight.

[@silverancient7840]

Great vid with great advice.

[@lull2988]

Nice info but when I use the word "baggage" I usually refer that to kids and permanent responsibilities that there is nothing you can do about. Now on the other hand...flaws can be found in everyone. And flaws can be change or improve overtime. Just my opinion.

[@Playboysmurf1]

Life is such a catch 22. Got to already have it to get it.

[@hugorujeles87]

I've reasoned out that I hv quite a lot of work to do on myself n somehow or someway PURGE them or I'm just going to be spinning my wheels 4ever an just continue to be "this guy" n it sux to be in this place I've landed MYSELF in. I have to own this, which I do. No one put me here but ME. I have to have the courage to leave this comfortable despair an inner movie that keeps playing on loop in my damn head!

[@ApolloniaPonti]

This is where it starts and I'm confident if you keep this mindset you will get what your looking for with work and discipline. xoxo

[@matthewschwartz6607]

Apollonia- Can you get past Oneites?

[@clarencedixon6709]

Like your advice 🌞 write down things , what you want, and your Standard are......Works !!!🎨🖌️😀❤️💙🤓😃👌

[@iuz2bfriz]

excellent message!

[@pedromeraz3501]

My Dear Beautiful Dating Coach. I continue to listen to your videos on how to date beautiful an adorable attractive women. I just finished watching your video on how to master the 8 tools in a relationship. Thank you. Going to listen to this video again.

[@SuperPagt]

You're probably a Don Juan now