Are Step Parents ALLOWED To SPANK Their Step Kids?

As a step-parent, how far can you go when it comes to disciplining your step child? Comment below.
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As a step-parent, how far can you go when it comes to disciplining your step child? Comment below.

[@forgivingyourpast-ng6qy]

I think the discussion of the discipline of children should be done before the relationship gets too far. I come from a blended family. I have stepmother/father and am step brother and half siblings. My family was very different when growing up, we did not use step parents references. My father and his wife let all of us children know that it was there marriage over us/children, when I was young I didn't understand why would they not love the children more then their spouse and I asked him as a teen and he replied we are the foundation which means we are grounded in us first. He told me if I choose you will you choose to take care of me rather then be in a relationship. I said well of course all your children will chip in to and take care of you. He said see there you are not obligated to me but my wife and I are to each other and she will be my companion through life, how selfish would I be to take that opportunity from you/children to live your life and create families. In my family everybody handed out ass whooping I mean everybody even the elders in the family that weren't blood related. It was a different time.

[@HeadingEast33]

Everybody getting it. There will be order. 😂

[@danig2029]

I have 4 children. My husband and I had 2 children together and we(yes, both of us) obtained full custody of his 2 children from his first marriage. We did not use step children or half siblings in our home life. They had the option of calling me by my name. I first came into their lives when they were 2 and 3 yrs old. We divorced. I received full custody of our mutual 2 children. Then I sought guardianship of my other 2 children. Won. To this day they call me mom, mama, and mommy. Yes, at times I disciplined them. They are all brilliant! Grown(minus my 17yrold, teenagers know everything) and thriving! The amount of compliments I receive regularly about all 4 of them are heartwarming. Families aren't all the same. So many different variables.

[@edstringer1138]

Sounds like you used the biased courts to weapon size the kids that weren't yours

[@bibliolov]

Only with permission from both their biological parents. All should be on one accord, and the child should be made aware of it.

[@Keyh]

No adult should ever hit a child. Doesn't matter if you're sleeping with the Mom or not.

[@jackiejackson3495]

That is one of the first conversations my husband and I had. When we met, I had my daughter, and he had two boys and a girl. You both need to be on the same page when it comes to discipline. But if we are going to be a family yes I better be able to discipline his kids and he was able to discipline my child

[@ericj240]

Simple answer is yes, if i marry the mother and I'm the head,(not dictator) leader, provider, protector, priest of the home the child/children are my responsibility, that means in terms of love and discipline, rewards and rebuke, good times and bad times. I don't expect selfish worldy minded people to understand this, this is a spiritual as well as natural issue. If any mother does not allow the head of their home to discipline quote her child and vise versa you have division in the home at the onset. satan loooooves to keep a home divided, A house divided cannot stand. The new husband, the wife and the child/children's father/mother should sit down as adults if they care about the well being of the child/children and discuss it because regardless of the adults foolishness the children still need love, guidance, discipline in their lives in order to grow up to be successful, intelligent, functioning men and women in society.

[@charlener8937]

It’s depends on the situation. All people involved should be involved in disciplining the children. I had to discipline my step son because both his real parents didn’t. He talked down to me and disrespected everyone and everything. Had I not, the path he was on wasn’t a good one. My step son knows this and is grateful to this day. He’s told everyone that if it wasn’t for me, he would be in jail or some other bad path. All kids need guidance, structure and discipline. It doesn’t always come from their biological parents - unfortunately.

[@michaelshabaz5804]

As a step parent I agree with Brandon.

[@aileenhoop5810]

We have 3 grown children in their 30s now. His, mine, and ours. Two under 3 when we married then had our youngest. All exes remarried as well. All three were spanked when the punishment fit, by either of us. You see, we raised them as a family unit, not one of them received special treatment, why should they? Family is what you make when you love all equally. Note: each grown child is married, with children of their own, and have complimented us for raising them THE SAME and never favoring one over the other. It’s an honor when they ask our parenting advice (we must have done something right). Were there arguments with exes over discipline (among other things)? Of course. If you got along with your ex, the person wouldn’t be your ex. Raising children morally correct is what matters (that includes discipline). Hope this helps someone.

[@Fedx1208]

Avoid the situation is the only right answer.

[@jaimezimmerman161]

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[@carolyn0714]

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[@amydemars2039]

My son’s name is Beau too! ❤️ As far as disciplining step kids…it depends on the age the child is, when the step parent comes into the picture. That is a major factor too. Because if a step parent comes into a 14 year old child’s life, and tries to start disciplining….it’ll never work. Even with a 10 year old. It’s not the step parent’s place at that point.

[@andreprado3377]

Definitely hard trying to check a 10 year old.

[@ReginaConnell]

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[@ReginaConnell]

Communication IS key!! Totally

[@GwladYrHaf]

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[@andreatarling8249]

Love this!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@gingerbrown1509]

It's a very slippery slope at the beginning. I believe there needs to be a level of trust and a relationship formed before the step parent should start to discipline. My step dad was a "dictator" and I couldn't stand him. There was never a level of trust or relationship that formed prior to disciplining and it made me resent him. Both bio and step definitely need to be on the same page. I think when a healthy relationship is formed and there is a level of respect and trust earned then the step parent can navigate discipline. If you just go into with the mindset of "I am the adult and you are the child", you will have a kid that will resent you as they get older and you will create the opposite effect. There is a way to integrate discipline as a step parent if you can start a healthy foundation first.

[@ricksaunders8074]

This is what I would SAY My house My rules Go live somewhere else if you dont like the rules Im not good at the discipline But dont mess with me I dont play

[@cindyfaulkner5725]

The parents and step-parents need to work together in the best interest of the child, regardless of how they feel about each other. We have a blended family and decided right at the beginning that even if we didn't like each other we would be civil and put the best interests of the child first. That was over 30 years ago our children are grown and so has the love our family shares.

[@RoseReadings]

Your wife is hilarious,as u are. I get how u get along so well. ❤

[@chrisbracken7889]

Mother's please learn to take your spouse's side unless proven otherwise. Momma Bear wants to protect her cubs but cubs lie to avoid trouble. Marriages won't last that way.

[@chrisbracken7889]

Being a step dad is the biggest challenge I've had in life so far. I like to think the reward will come in the end. Stay Strong Brother

[@standingonthepromises285]

We quit leaving our kids with my mom bc she spanked and threatened to spank our kids when we explicitly told her she wasn't allowed too.

[@christmasina]

Hell yes he should! Any parent involved should be part of the discipline process. Any parent who says they would flip if anyone else did so and so to my child, grow up. You don’t get to pick your ex partner. You only do damage when you set up those stupid rules. It puts wedges between the parents, they play sides, it makes kids feel unsafe. It’s ridiculous to not be able to coparent. The adults need to grow up and realize that the world is going to discipline their kid and they don’t get to choose anymore who does or doesn’t

[@BigPete44]

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[@Meknowulongtime]

I ain’t a spanka but don’t push me!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@jamesage24]

In the 1950's it was socially acceptable to spank OTHER people's kids if the situation presented itself.

[@firestorm5432]

Unless you are a single parent you have no business dating one also

[@That_Brett_Guy]

It’s obvious that jailing parents for spankings has worked out wonderfully for all these kids today!

[@batmanforpresident9655]

I subscribed to this channel yesterday because I thoroughly enjoy your other channel. I'm sure thos one will be equally successful. God bless 🙏🏻 you and your family.

[@LovenBlknWhite]

Thank you for the support and always entertaining us with your awesome comments!

[@trueletterson4545]

If they live in my house.

[@katgmied3]

This is why I put off getting married again. My ex has a hard enough time with me disciplining the children, a step dad would be such a huge issue.

[@jerichofawkes1911]

Yes.

[@natalieperry4713]

My ex was only a weekend dad. Once I tried to call him when one of the kids acted a fool, but he ended up calling the law on me. I hadn't even disciplined the child yet. Was hoping their dad would deal with the issue. 911 call was that my husband beat the child (he was still at work & that is why I had called my ex). Anyway, my husband, their step-dad, was ALWAYS there (unless hindered by work). He loves those kids like they are his. I have NO problem with a step-parent spanking a child. The only people not allowed to spank my kids are strangers. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@SerenitysVision]

Our middle child is my stepson, we get him on weekends. From the beginning we had a conversation, all 3 of us about my role in our son's life. If I'm not sure if his Momma is cool with something, I CALL HER! I would never discipline a child I didn't give birth to without having a conversation first.

[@jasonwheat5242]

Don't date single mom's!

[@jodiplocher860]

I think if you raise the kid with discipline, it’s rare that they would need it from others. If your kid is acting a fool, it’s fair game.

[@tuloong3807]

I treat anyone's kid that I'm responsible for the same way I treat my own. I let their parents know ahead of time how I do business & if they aren't comfortable with my way of doing things then I'm just never responsible for their kids. In my books kids get 3 verbal warning before getting any spanking. Spankings never go above 3 swats & are typically just a single swat on the butt. Fortunately it's rare I ever had to go that far in the punishment when typically a verbal warning is all it takes.

[@jennysanders3957]

I believe if there’s a father in the kids life, the fathers need to discuss it. That’s what my husband did and it worked out decently well.

[@livinlegacie7803]

Think it depends on how old the Kid is when the relationship starts And who is the step parent. Step dads should advise the actual mother when spakings are necessary and mom should do the Disciplining. I feel like there is more resentment from children about step dads than step mom simply because men can be more physicaly Intimidating and demanding of Household Structure. Having said that if something happend between my wife and I another women is completly out of the picture. I feel like if you lose in the game of marrage you shouldn't play again. Step parents and the co parenting thing should never be as normal as it is today. If you lay you need to figure out how to stay period. I blame it on men. If we are christians than mens life should be a sacrifice to our families, the world and in special cases both. Step parenting though necessay in todays society is at best making good of a bad situation. Unfortunatly step parents and Discipline has no wrong or right answer simply because it wasn't Gods intention To have Families. split. I could go deeper but thats my surface take.

[@dannygood9656]

❤❤

[@aprilackerman6513]

If the step child lives with the step parent, then they need to obey the rules of the household set up by the parent and step-parent. If the child only visits; the step parent can only run his/her own home and the parent should do any discipline.

[@RE-ec7iz]

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[@conservativemama3437]

I was spanked by my step dad. It was terrible. Yes to Godly discipline but no to spanking your step child.

[@bumbygrl]

My parents agreed that no step parents should hit us...we could be talked to, punished, or sent in our rooms but not physically disaplined by them, our real parents did that part. Now that my sister is a step mom, we apply the same rules. Our family is allowed to spank HER child (my nephew) but not the step child (my niece), whom is a complete out of control brat btw, who needs a good spanking, barely gets punished or parented by her real parents its a shame they dont care enough to discipline her.

[@dennismhac23]

I am legally separated and my girlfriend who I now live with has a 5yr old, and she and I are expecting in 5 months. I have a 9, 11, and 12 yrs old my previous marriage. Yes, I discipline and spank on the butt because there needs to be structure in my household. Period. Your words can only go so far. Discipline and spanking is part of human nature to become the successful adults some of us become. Yet again it might not work for some because of other medical, Autism etc.

[@FREEDOMREALTYKY]

If you don’t trust your partner to discipline your children then you should not have trust them into the house.

[@ReginaConnell]

Say lady, I love it that’s right, but nobody put no hands on that baby but y’all

[@MVPisME383]

My wife has spanked my daughter but her real mom is no mother figure at all. My wife has raised her for 10yrs

[@Crowndragon]

My step dad use to beat me like i was a grown fucking man. His kids got away with murder. When i date a girl who has kids i always talk to her about any issues with her kids.. i could never imagine placing my hands on a child esp one that wasnt mine.

[@IBEWscoundrel]

Marry your own kind

[@doctoranderson2009]

They did 😂

[@doctoranderson2009]

They did

[@hsthatzo8063]

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[@S_WxIxLxLxIxAxMxS]

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[@plarkin6433]

We're not supposed to hit children ● Gods word has been altered. Discipline yes! of course, teach & guide.I have two grown children I haven't hit them. They're well behaved enjoyable humans. Thank you ❤

[@altvamp]

I'm pretty sure it's against the law now to spank any child, at least in the UK

[@MarquisFoxborough2736]

I have a better response to this. Avoid the situation all together. I don’t see the benefit in raising other people’s kids. That’s just me though.

[@germanprepper]

I will never remarry afrer my wife passed away but also cant say 4 years later i wont get so lonely i wont consider a new relationship. If a single mom and kid move in with me and i support them and the kid breaks the rules of my home i will whoop him like one of my kids. If mom and dad dont like it both are free to move back in with dad.! My house my rules i wont treat your children better than mine!

[@cally836]

No step parent are aloud to to disciplined my kids shit no stayvin your line

[@GwladYrHaf]

Any man who stays in his lane marries a woman without children as he should. So I agree.

[@user-wx5br7nw5d]

The left says I'm raciest , i don't know exactly what that means , if its true ,, can i still watch your content ,, ?" SO CONFUSED" oh and your other channel

[@handle1o1]

No. They are their parents spouse not their parent.

[@FierceGracie]

If they marry the parent, they are a parent.

[@forgivingyourpast-ng6qy]

If I'm just the spouse don't ask me for any help with the child

[@Keyh]

No adult should ever hit a child. Doesn't matter if you're sleeping with the Mom or not.

[@allenwrench2352]

Nobody touches my daughter except for me or her mom. That's it, full stop.

[@TheMulattaMermaidShow]

I don't think you should ever spank children especially kids who aren't yours. When your own children are younger they may be popped if they're doing something outrageous like putting their hand in fire and not heeding warnings.

[@jcdenton2907]

Do. Not. Hit. Children.

[@crocodilegrundee4514]

It’s NOT hitting, it’s spanking, and when done right is a very effective loving way to discipline. A parent who does it right, is showing love by correcting very bad behavior before it becomes ingrained in the child.

[@jamesage24]

​@@crocodilegrundee4514💯 No longer spanking your children is how we got here.

[@derekosgood3230]

Case by case.

[@falcoretheminiluckdragon3060]

Is Beau Brandon's 1st born ?