Are Women A Bad Bet? Or Is It Better Not To Play The Game?

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Are women a bad bet, and are all relationships doomed to fail? Let's hear from Doctor Taraban from a channel called Psychacks, as he compares relationships to gambling, and explains how to avoid an unhealthy addiction that puts you at a disadvantage! Let's answer the question - are women worth the risks, and are relationships a bad bet?
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[@TheFilipinaPea]

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[@dongshengdi773]

I only bet $20 up to $50 every single roll of the dice. So no regrets for me. Always a happy ending, no matter what

[@MrG2G]

Another great Friday banger. I am currently working on having a Prenup drawn up...

[@Ed19601]

One of the main reasons I did not get married. I intend to stay with my 'wife' till I die and take good care of her. But if she is unhappy with me, she is free to leave.

[@noelsingletary]

Great video Pea! I love the format of this video. Kepp 'em coming!

[@wmberthold780]

I've gambled and lost more times than I'd like to admit, but I'm still at the casino 😊

[@sardaukerlegion]

"Strange game. The only winning move is not to play." WarGames, 1983.

[@themadpaddler9043]

Perfectly sums up dating in 2024.

[@soup-nazi6824]

That's my philosophy-at least for now with western women....

[@tomster7574]

That is entirely untrue. That’s like saying the only way to win a baseball game is to not play. You miss out on the entire thrill of every aspect of what it takes to play whether you win or lose., But in this case, it’s how you play the game. And you will always win. Even if when the game ends, you’ve learned a lot from that game to play the next game better. And eventually, you’ll be able to play the game without ever losing. But to have never played at all is a really sad thing in life.

[@RCWrightX89]

My sister is a lesbian and even she is getting tired of Western women. She is starting to get weary of the game.

[@clydekimsey7503]

That surprised me😮​@@RCWrightX89

[@Burtonis]

Never enter a contract that rewards the other party for breaking it.

[@BillGreenAZ]

Under rated comment here.

[@blackwoodrichmore4531]

In 1981, my then boss told me the following: Your head is for thinking, your feet are for dancing, so just remember to keep your bowels open & enter into no contracts. I laughed & asked him what does that all mean? He answered: Don't get married!. 😂 I think it means don't go into it blind. Be aware & do your homework. Reconnaissance is key. 🤓🕵️‍♂️

[@andrewcarlson2178]

Couldn't agree more. Western women are only after resources and status

[@Nope_handlesaretrash]

Bingo. You lease them, never purchase them. The only caveat is if you screw up and have kids. Women's BS is separate from being a dead beat dad.

[@VENEMPASTOR]

Why the hell, at retirement age, should I... 1) get married 2) cohabitate 3) impregnate 4) raise some other fool's kids 5) tie myself down inconveniently 6) throw away all the peace, quite, rest, adventure and fun.. that I had been working my whole life for 7) make myself more valuable dead than alive 8) support an entire clan of strangers that weren't there for me when my a$$ was in pain working with ailments all those years 9) give into a self defeating trend of stu_pid decision making 10) make myself more miserable with drama 11) leave one stressful life for another 12) put myself at a disadvantage 13) subject myself to people's bullsh$t 14) do anything other than enjoying my life in my retirement? WHY??? To each their own! ✌️

[@secretagent86]

Get a girl who was raised in an orphanage

[@BillGreenAZ]

Sounds like you and I are at the same conclusion. I'm too old to start over again to put up with that long, valid list you post. Thanks for itemizing the situation.

[@VENEMPASTOR]

@@secretagent86 As the CEO of my life, I get it covered. Worry about what you're gonna do. I'm super good!

[@deandee8082]

if you have no kids but have a home and stability, find an american woman, a good one, tell her the deal, you pay to have his kids, boom, now you have legacy to hand your shit down to and have someone legit to take care of you when you cannot...

[@sweetoldbuzzard6087]

@@deandee8082 In the US, that used to be true. Generations of families used to take care of older adults until the 90s. Now, they are too busy buying the newest thing on Instagram. After you hit 60, you become a ghost, and what you’ve been taught in school is all wrong. The younger generations look at you as racist and a dumb ass before you say a word to them. Please don’t blame them. Blame the parents. Asian culture still respects the elderly and their wisdom.

[@SantiagoA.Wright]

This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@RoyJ.Tillison-tq5ed]

I am sorry about what you have been through. I have been through something similar and was almost depressed, till I contacted a spiritual counselor who helped me get my ex back and hence my life back

[@SantiagoA.Wright]

Interesting. Who is this counsellor, and how do I meet the person?

[@RoyJ.Tillison-tq5ed]

Online, you'll find shelly renee white, revered for her expertise as a spiritual counsellor. She has the ability to reunite couples and promote holistic well-being.

[@SantiagoA.Wright]

Thanks a lot. I just did. Impressive.

[@Ghostflyer63]

Men are in love, women are in business.

[@solascripturaPR1517]

Coach Greg Adams always says that. Give him credit.

[@lwoodt1]

That needs to be a T- shirt. LOL

[@zonacrs]

That is a perfect way of describing it.

[@johnnypastrana6727]

So true...yet women are portrayed as the romantic gender when in fact it is the opposite.

[@gumdeo]

Women have to be more pragmatic.

[@keithedwards4468]

The thing is here in America. A lot of women will break up with you if you ask for prenup…. And that’s a red flag that she’s not good for you.

[@spartanx169x]

True but you should know before officially asking how they feel about one. I had that discussion many times in dating over 100 women. Men in general don't pay attention to women. They see them as a trophy, and once obtained they pay no attention to them and how they think. I spent 25 years studying women(I didn't get married until I was 37).If you want to be successful you have to put in the time and understand what (the game) and Who (women) you are dealing with.

[@setha360]

Prenup is like silver to a vampire, the teeth come out and the tears

[@mikedv7954]

Come on! Majority of men watching this channel own s..t, not even a house. And you want a prenup...LOL

[@DogSpeak]

Dont even get married. There is nothing in it for men.

[@user-qo8sx1pl1z]

​@@setha360silver is for werewolves lol. Werewolves is probably.more accurate anyway lol

[@user-sq6rg9lq8m]

Met my Filipina in 2020 on a Filipina dating site (been in business since 75) on the advice of my coworkers that are married to Filipinas here in US. The main advice they gave was keep her at home because American 'woman' will ruin her. 3 yrs later (last December) we got engaged. Recently Ms Pea we watched your vid with Gracey I had to explain to her what a prenuptial was she had no problem with that. I do have to admit (even with a big age difference now I am 62 she is 31) when we met we didn't 'test' the water we jumped right in and it worked for us. Since we met it has been Heaven for both of us. We have a 'traditional' home life. When I am at work she takes care of our home/animals when I come home she takes care of me and I her. For those men in US and there girl is still in the Philippines we do have a suggestion which really worked for us. No matter what you can only 'talk' so much. So what we would do every night for hours we would go on video chat I would put my phone in front of my tv and we watched tv/movies/DVDs together it might sound crazy but we learned a lot about each other doing that.

[@patbens9501]

Typical gas-lighting.

[@L8rCloud]

@@user-sq6rg9lq8m Keep her at home 🤣 , like a prisoner or slave….??

[@bonditltd5346]

@@patbens9501I don’t understand your comment

[@Biboxism]

may i ask on what dating site you met her? I struggle with dating sites cause almost all of them seem like a scam

[@bonditltd5346]

@@Biboxismif it’s any help, most people recommend Christian Philippina- not because of the Christian aspect, but because they verify the ladies . This means id and age, so the scammers are quickly evicted.

[@Minenotyours58]

When I was a teenager. We used the 4 F system. I should have stuck with that. Find them, Feel them, F them and Forget them. I could have lived a much better life.

[@xMister.Misterx]

Being a good judge of character is an essential life skill. No one can predict the future; all we can do is manage things that will likely come up along the way.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

And that’s about the best you can do, yes 😳👍👍

[@endlessroads9936]

Agree a 100% but will add the need to check out family longtime. My wife is great but her family see me as there free ATM, and start drama between my wife and me

[@zonacrs]

One must factor that they are very skilled liars and judgement of character is based on a point in time and perception that may be completely false.

[@johnnypastrana6727]

Deception is alive and well...nah, it is the luck of the draw. Unless you are Solomon you are taking a chance just like everyone else...Yes, I have prayed for discernment and wisdom...

[@samueldavis2327]

Prenup, prenup, prenup! Most marriages end up in divorce or wish they were divorced.

[@MrVenom-iu9rs]

My Auntie's best advice to both me and my sister. Find someone that loves you more then you love them. And unfortunately the vast majority of women don't love men and only love what they can provide, the decision to not date at all is a pretty easy one.

[@themadpaddler9043]

Yep. Dating isn't about love anymore. It's nothing more than a transaction for most people these days.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Follow whatever path suits you best 👍👍😊

[@superbirden57]

All women are hypergamous. Always have been. HOWEVER social media has made women delusional about their SMV. Western society has replaced sexual morality with get as much as you want when you want. With delusional SMV women all want the top 10% of men leaving 90% of men on the outside. It gets worse. Marriage. In marriage women have all the leverage, this leverage is increased with children. 67% of all divorces are initiated by women. Western divorce courts find for women most of the time. Then there's lying, cheating, false accusations. all intended to gain leverage in family court. The sad fact is in Western society the majority of women are a risk, and the ramifications of loss is higher than in Los Vegas

[@tomster7574]

That entirely depends on the the type of woman you choose to pursue. If you keep choosing to pursue dead ends, you are always going to lose. And that is the definition of insanity. Hoping that eventually that dead end is going to open up to keep going. It’s not, and that’s on you for choosing the wrong kind of woman. You’re choosing always to play with players. Stop doing that.

[@tomster7574]

And lastly, as always, shop locally. There’s lots of Filipinos where everyone lives to not have to resort to going overseas and import your life. That is almost always 100% a disaster. as on both sides of that scenario reeks of desperation.

[@cilace]

I was married for 2 years. I'll die before I go back.

[@lashlarue59]

As bad as marriage is in general I've never understood people who get divorced and then get remarried. That's like getting bitten by a rattlesnake, surviving and then taking a bite from a cobra because the bite might be good this time.

[@davidcollier1680]

Not that every woman WILL ruin your life, but she CAN should she choose to do so.

[@nathanbutcher7720]

No. They can only throw shadows at you and try to convince you to ruin your own life all by your own hand. Ultimately, they only have as much power as you give them.

[@1307scooter]

New to Dumaguete and have rolled snake eyes my whole life in the dating game. I am one of the few expats that isn't here to roll the dice. I'll be happy with my 2 dogs, they are the only creatures that gives you 100% lifetime love and loyalty.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Then you’re also one of the few expats that’s completely safe from dating disasters 🤣👍

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Lol. Yeah right. You'll be broke in 2 years.

[@stevend474]

​@@TheFilipinaPeaIf you want to see true love lock your dog and your old lady in a closet. When you come back a hour later and let them out you will know instantly which one loves you.

[@racebiketuner]

There is only one woman I like as much as dogs. Unfortunately for me, she's already taken. 🙁

[@nobody7817]

Cats... not dogs. Dogs will run off, even if fixed. Cats... get them fixed, and they become true lap cats... never leaving your side ever.

[@nairb9321]

Never play the game by her rules. I have been done a long time ago.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

👍👍👍

[@GBU61]

My experience over the years has led me to a hard reality about relationships - they have a shelf life. Some last longer than others but eventually they all run their course. Women have come in and out of my life and will continue to do so all my life. At different points in my life they offer something I need at that time. Some offer companionship, others offer a good time and others fill a need I may want. I do not take any of them too seriously nor do I expect more from them than what they can give me. No one can fulfill all my needs so when one comes into my life, I embrace it, enjoy it and as long as it improves my life, I continue to keep it there.

[@gobfranklin6759]

great points

[@manonpurpose6565]

For a gambling analogy I've been all in twice, and went broke twice. That was over 20 years ago, and I haven't been able to go all in again. Every relationship since, I've been the one with the house advantage, and they are the ones who go broke.

[@hardlygamaliel455]

I'm the oddball here - a 40 year happy marriage that was literally till death do us part. I did date for a little after my wife passed, including a widow that had a similar occurrence (same husband for 43 years, then he died of cancer). As I told her "We're the winners in the game of life. We've both had something that most people will never experience."

[@wildbill562]

If both partners were happy until death, you were truly blessed. Often times, one partner is happy while the other is not. Other times, neither partner is happy, but they stay together for the sake of the children or their shared friends or religious beliefs. How very sad.

[@1976smb]

You aren't an oddball, society has made you think you're an oddball. 06JUL24: I'm sorry to not have said that I'm sorry for the loss of your wife.

[@SpaceForceCooks]

Jackpots are won in casinos every day; congrats to hitting the jackpot in the relationship game

[@williamna5800]

Only odd by todays jacked up standards. In your era women had to deal with the results of their actions which made for far far better women. In todays world women are worth nothing, demand everything, all the while taking no responsibility/accountibility for what they are and the courts support this by rewarding them.

[@mikek0135]

YOU are the one that people should be taking advice from regarding having a successful marriage, not losers like the guy in the video Pea just reacted to.

[@Rick-hz8ee]

Warren Buffet said, "If want to have a successful long-term relationship you need to find someone with low expectations ".

[@oilairnalo]

Or someone rich and who soon would have low temperature.

[@kevinreist7718]

My wife and I got married in 1981. If you did the math and came up with 43 years, good job. Marriages don't last that long without a real commitment. I just spent 6 weeks alone in the Philippines on an exploratory and am considering us relocating an assisted living facility in Cebu because she has early onset dementia and their staff has memory care professionals. Don't get me wrong, I was tempted many times by the beautiful filipinas I encountered, but my commitment did allow me to resist that temptation. Loyalty is a trait that has it's own rewards.🥰 Good video, Pea!

[@rememberstayangry2366]

My mother told me when she meet my father. It was love at first sight. They eloped and got married a few months latter. They were 21 and 19. They remained happily married until my father passed at 80. 5 years latter and my mom still tells me all the time how much she misses him. Love is a real thing and it can happen.

[@alexsanimeart5706]

And it also makes you more likely to have a successful marriage if you had the example from your parents. I didn't really have that. My parents divorced when I was four or five. Still trying to figure this whole dating thing out. Take advantage of the good example set by your parents

[@wwaldes]

👍

[@Gregabob]

Similar story with my paternal grandparents. Married in their early 20s, happily married until they passed away within a year of each other in their late 80s.

[@aavila1206]

Love was real 100 years ago, how does that help us now?

[@ScooterOnHisWay2024]

1%

[@charlesyoung9980]

Pea giggling like a school girl when she hears the word "kitty." 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@TheFilipinaPea]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I know basic poker, but I didn’t realize that cats were involved 😆

[@snapoffmonkeybranch1242]

@@TheFilipinaPea Very common in the game of "Strip Poker", you could literally lose your "kitty" if you go all in.😮

[@nobody7817]

@@snapoffmonkeybranch1242 Both of them even!

[@billable1861]

I caught that too and laughed out loud just by her facial expression

[@PaMuShin]

That girl never played strip poker nor does she play with her kitty according to her channel.

[@maplesyrupphilosopher6886]

I think the biggest issue is that because so many men feel starved for love they'll pounce on anything that looks remotely like it. Logic and critical thinking go out the window (guilty as charged). I take his meaning to be more along the lines of "don't dive in head first" or to pace themselves. Love is out there, but hedge your bets 🤷‍♂️

[@Gregabob]

Yep-being love starved is tuff-you start looking for a woman's affection in all the wrong places. I've found myself overlooking huge red flags hoping for some love and affection. Orion is right-being the adorer evokes extremely powerful emotions of love-so much so that any sort of common sense goes right out the window. I've caught myself starting to fall for women whom having a relationship with would never work out. I'm just glad that I was able to stop myself before I did something rash.

[@gregkrauze6470]

For me ….the point when relationship starts being a game is….the end of relationship. And….As always I’m impressed with you Pea. You save my faith in women . Thanks

[@stargazer3828]

I think what he meant by not loving someone 100% is because in the west women tend to date based on a man's resources and what that man can bring to the table, but the women don't want to offer anything of equivalent value other than stating they are the table so you end up with the man loving the woman unconditionally while the woman has a list of conditions that will cause her to leave the relationship if the man doesn't deliver. On a podcast with both men and women they asked the question how long would you support your partner if they became ill and could not take care of themselves? The men all stated as long as it takes for the person to recover. The women on the other hand said up to six to eight months and then they would have to leave because they would be doing all the work in the relationship.

[@tedstriker754]

That guy is right, I've played that game and lost too many times. Men eventually get to a point where they can't afford to get in a marriage again, since they don't have enough time left to financially recover from a divorce, which inevitably happens in most cases.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

It doesn’t seem to be a game that’s easily winnable, no 😳👍

[@spartanx169x]

1. If you got married for any reason other than having kids and a family, then thats on you. 2. IF you got married more than once, again thats on you. I'm 55, Been married for 18 years. My one and only marriage. I will tell anyone. This is my only one. There is zero reason to get married if we end up divorced. I would argue after age 45 for a man or a woman there is zero reason to get married. I have yet for somebody to make a valid argument otherwise. At 45 or later there is nothing to gain and everything to lose.

[@brianbaxter3913]

@@spartanx169x I have to agree. I have a friend who plans to remarry and we had a discussion about it. Another friend and myself asked if what is the advantage of getting married and he could not come up with a good reason.

[@gaf53]

Been there twice

[@davidhenryhudson3102]

@@spartanx169x I'm 20 years into my second marriage. We were both 40 and had kids. Reasons - companionship, sex, a partner to build a future with. To each his own.

[@glahome1]

My wife is Filipina. I met and married her 35 years ago. We don't play games; we grow together but she is still my Queen. She is the most beautiful and smartest person I know. She is only 3 years younger than me and at 62 years old, so very cute and sexy. I do my best to take care of her and make her happy, hopefully as happy as she makes me when I just look at her. I am the luckiest man in the world, I still get surges of adrenalin and chills when I hold her, sometimes even looking at her. I love going places and doing everything with her, I feel better when she is around. This is what love is and what everyone should be looking for and it will last you an eternity.

[@wwaldes]

💯 sto lat w szcześliwym związku życzę. jesteś wygranym

[@CraigRodmellMusic]

I feel exactly the same about my Filipina wife, who is 3 years younger than me at 58. She turned me from the unluckiest man in love, into the luckiest. I still think I'm a very lucky man to be married to her. In two months, it'll be our 25 Wedding Anniversary.

[@MikePedersen]

This is spot on. 100%! Men read this and understand this very clearly. “She is not yours. It’s just your time.” Statistics show women do most of the breaking up like he mentioned. Whether that’s a marriage or a relationship. Divorce rate is 50%. In gambling that’s not a very good bet. Just go in with your eyes open, enjoy the moment and do not expect anymore.

[@randomyoutuber308]

What ruins marriage for me here in the states, at least from a financial standpoint and "going all in" is how much the "rules" of relationships have changed without the laws changing. With a "traditional" marriage I'd have been married by my mid 20s with a reasonable chance of being married til death do us part...so more or less marrying at that age you are entering the marriage with no meaningful financial assets, and hopefully both parties without much baggage either. These days though, a lot of women aren't even looking to get married until they are 30+ because they want to have their fun in their 20s. Well what does that mean? I found myself an unwed millionaire in my 30s, so now "going all in" is a huge financial risk for me. That same woman around my age here that I'd have loved to marry ~15 years ago, well, what do I get from her now? I get a woman that has already "gone all in" with many men in her past who rather than accumulate assets has just accumulated baggage. Like I said, the laws haven't changed. Men get treated the same in divorce whether you married an 18 year old who never had time to work on her career or a 38 year old who had 20 years to work on her career before she met you. When the divorce happens, you simply have to pay, so you assume the same financial risk for what exactly? One of those women gave you her prime years to build a family, and the other just did her own thing and happened to not make make as much or accumulate as much before you got together...so if you split up, you owe her the same as the woman who gave you her youth and a family? Nah...I'm not signing up for that deal. I wanted to get married maybe when I was 23, to someone my age when we both had a clean slate with little in the way of assets or baggage so we could build a life together. Well, society here doesn't work like that anymore and now that I've worked hard to build up my assets I'm more interested in retiring in my early 40s and moving abroad where life is cheaper and hopefully the dating pool a bit better than I am marrying a 38 year old single mother with mountains of debt and a toxic view of men because in her past she's made many bad choices in men and doesn't even know what a real man is.

[@clydekimsey7503]

Best summation of this subject I've heard in years😊

[@setha360]

Good outlook, when you go overseas some advice from a retired Sailor been to over 30 countries, always try to fit in, buy some cheap local clothes, no bling, never disclose your assets or too much info, they will spread your info using cocoanut hotline far and wide.

[@jodyberryhill4564]

Preach on brother!

[@user-em1sj5ph6h]

@@jodyberryhill4564Say it loud, say it long. Say it thrice, you won’t be wrong.

[@stayfree6115]

Retired at 45. Moved to se Asia. 18 yrs ago. It's been a blast.

[@davescott9062]

In "the book of numbers" by Aaron Clarey he annualized the R.O.I. on the reality of relationships. Turns out there's a 4.5% possibility you will find a keeper.

[@christopherturco197]

That's a discouraging probability. Definitely need to be an eternal optimist to play this game.

[@solascripturaPR1517]

You’re correct, ​@@christopherturco197; especially with the reality that wedding vows are constantly shit on, in Western society.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Wow! Well that just … sucks! 😳😳👍👍

[@clydekimsey7503]

He probably means that figure is before you get married because at least 50% of couples stay married

[@marclietzau7239]

Kind of sad😢 but I still have faith😅 good luck

[@DavidECoy]

I agree with some of what he said but I also agree with you. For most of my life I have chased the fairy tale and got burned, but now that I’m older and wiser I believe I’m making better choices. The only constant in life is change, and love is a choice not a feeling. No matter how much changes around you your relationship will last if neither of you change your mind (not your heart) and choose to stop loving and supporting each other. I like the reaction stuff too Pea. It is nice to feel validated but it’s also wise to seek other people’s perspectives in case you have a blind spot on a subject. Listen to all but make and take responsibility for all your decisions. As always Pea you don’t have to reply. I’m going to stop putting this line in comments but just know I will never be offended if you save time for yourself by not replying to any of my comments. Take care Pea and see you in 3 days 😊

[@rolandswift4311]

I think the best interpretation of "don't love 100%" would be; Don't tie your self-worth/self-image to your partner and/or his/her perception of you. Don't just fold and start getting dragged down when he/she starts looking down on you because his/her perception is distorted by seeing thing through the lens of a bad mood, or let yourself start seeing yourself as lesser, or even nothing, because he/she's lost sight of everything great about you. HOWEVER; You also shouldn't lock yourself into an "emotional tug-of-war" where you make a habit of trying to oppose everything he/she does, because you'll just end up dragging yourself down when he/she sees how high you could fly and tries to give you constructive criticism to help you overcome your legitimate pitfalls and reach your full height.

[@joekahno]

The best I've heard it summed up is, "Men pick a woman hoping she won't change, while women pick a man hoping that he will". Personally I try for the sweet spot between tolerance and apathy.

[@themadpaddler9043]

I think that saying is pretty accurate.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

All things in moderation 👍❤️

[@samueldavis2327]

Men believe that a woman will not change after marriage, and they do. Women think that men will change after marriage, and they don’t.

[@jonhenson5450]

I try for the sweet spot between left leg and right leg

[@ed5308]

Think like this if your move to the Philippines its better to rent than buy. If you unhappy with the rental you can move but if you buy you might not find anyone that wants the property anymore.

[@WALTERBROADDUS]

♠️♥️♦️♣️😏 "You got to know when to hold them, know when to fold them. Know when to walk away, know when to run."🏃🏿‍♂️💨

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Run Forest, run! 🏃‍♂️ 🤣

[@marvindockery-lo9cw]

Pea, one of your best videos.

[@clydekimsey7503]

​@TheFilipinaPea that was a reference to The Gambler by Kenny rogers😅

[@aaronburdon221]

you never count your money, when you're sittin at the table. There's time enough when the dealin's done.

[@WALTERBROADDUS]

@@clydekimsey7503 it still works however. I would tell Forrest Gump to run away from bad relationship as well.

[@hankyoung5683]

Thanks Pea. Maybe surprisingly your comment about being willing to go "all in" on a relationship is the most memorable statement in your video. Glad to know there is at least one more of us!

[@levisguy53]

as stated many times before, "the only winning move is not to play" one cannot put a monetary value on harmony and peace of mind. no snatch is worth the hassle despite how good it looks, it's still a depreciating liability!

[@pauls4742]

Well said !!!

[@stargells1384]

I'm one of the luckiest, unlucky, guys then. I meet my wife in high school, we were married for 32 years till she past away. I dated on line and found another lady, that was perfect for me at my age, We lived together for 12 years, till she passed away. Those were the only 2 women I ever dated, or been with. You also get as much as you give in life.

[@wildbill562]

Your first statement was correct. You are extremely lucky. Your last statement is wrong: You get as much as you give in life. You are now taking credit for something that was pure luck. Lucky guys always do this. they think life is so easy and can't imagine why everyone else has so many problems.

[@patbens9501]

Did u use poison or an axe?

[@stargells1384]

@@patbens9501 No, they both died of cancer. I'm sure women love you.

[@stargells1384]

@@wildbill562My dad and oldest brother went missing never to be found in 1970, I was 13. That left my mom with 6 kids. Wow how lucky I was. I took care of my other brother while he passed of brain cancer. My younger sister died of RA, it eat her diaphragm till she couldn't breath anymore. luck just seams to follow me. My wife had cancer for 16 months, which again I took care of her. How much luck can one guy get. My 2nd love also died of brain cancer, you guess it, her 2 daughters and I took care of her the whole time. But yea, I still think I'm lucky. sometime it's better to say nothing then saying you really don't know about.

[@Gregabob]

@@stargells1384 Heartbreaking story---you're right -you're a lucky unlucky guy. You've had the blessing of loving 2 wonderful women, and the sadness of losing them. I feel you buddy.

[@themadpaddler9043]

The trouble with dating is that it has become far too transactional. Romantic love just doesn't really seem to exist anymore.

[@Abelius]

Has "become"...? 😏

[@Michael_Arnold]

Good

[@themadpaddler9043]

@@Abelius I mean, I guess it always was in many ways. Just now it is overtly transactional.

[@Abelius]

@@themadpaddler9043 Fair enough. I've heard true horror stories from the US dating scene (I'm not American).

[@johnnypastrana6727]

My old boss told me that romance went out of fashion in the 19th century.

[@Kelvostrass]

When past partners of mine complained about something I just tell them to do what they need to do to be happy - I like to have time away from them during the week and prefer not to cohabitate during working days, as I like peace and quiet. I would tell them that I'm very happy in my life and don't want to change, and that I like seeing them on the weekends as it gives me something to look forward to and generally improves my life. I had a partner that wanted to break up from dissatisfaction in the relationship, so I wished them well and told them that I'd cherish the good memories we made; and I meant that. Months pass and she tries to come back to me, going to events I used to attend, talking to my friends to ask about me, even calling me directly. Thing is when I stopped being around my partners each time I would realise that I was happier when I was alone - not having to deal with their complaining. So nowadays I feel confident to say that I am happier alone - I like my life and I only want a woman to enter my life is she improves it and is willing to adapt to my schedule.

[@gheechiedan9299]

Good information ! Very well thought out Pea! 🤔👍🏿

[@keithedwards4468]

I have a coworker that has a LDR that he has known for about six months he said that they both were in love with each other, but had never met… The most foolish thing he did was buy her a ring and told me that he was going to surprise her when he moved out there while they were having dinner to propose … well that truly backfired because she said she was not ready and that was in front of a lot of people in the restaurant so he pretty much came back to the states with his tail between his legs… Great video from Master Pea❤

[@randomyoutuber308]

Ooof...sounds like a complete moron. Its sad how some guys get that mind set...they just set themselves up for disappointment or being taken advantage of. I'm planning on moving abroad in my early 40s...but I've got zero interest in finding an internet girlfriend before I go...I'll just wait until its boots on the ground and see what I can find.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Haha! Good. Fools need such lessons.

[@whittakerwinstanleyiii4051]

He will carry that chip on his shoulder for life sadly

[@wwaldes]

@@whittakerwinstanleyiii4051 zrobił sobie po prostu wycieczkę, jesli bzyknął to ok, jesli nie to przynajmniej zobaczył inny kraj.

[@netshaman9918]

IIn the past, our elders in France practiced what was known as "fiançailles": a period of two years during which a man and a woman would meet once a week to get to know each other better. It was simply common sense.

[@bonditltd5346]

I have watched most of Dr T’s videos and agree. People change and people can be elusive in what they’re like and what they really want. Often they don’t know themselves. 12 months may not be enough to find this out, so being wary all the time and ring fencing wealth is essential. Romantic films and literature have skewed reality . Thinking - that’s the thing at the top of the body, not the middle. Be a worthy man, strive for excellence and you can’t go far wrong.

[@AntiTheismForever]

Taraban's PsycHacks channel has exploded for good reason, just consistently excellent content. Worth watching more than just a few of his vids Pea. As for prenup agreements, they get thrown out too often to make the expense worthwhile, no guarantee you won't get divorce-raped in court in terms of assets. Going all in on a relationship emotionially is gambling for sure and I agree that you can't do that many times over your lifetime. A problem arises when deciding how to show that emotion. Women in general don't respect or admire men that are overly emotional in their responses to them. A man, character wise, must be emotionally strong, virtuous, engaging, captivating, and a bit mysterious to gain and retain the respect and commitment of a woman. So being stoic seems the best approach for a man in general in addtion to being very cautious about going all in with a committment to soon. I am not a gambler in this context, but admit someone like you is rare enough to consider going all in with.

[@chipparmley]

There is a lot of wisdom in this video. 12 months makes so much sense. The "rule" used to be survive the holidays, a road trip, and a move before making long term plans, and never make plans further into the future than you have known each other, but what do I know? Once, a girl met me at the airport. This was our first meeting. In her morning rush to get there in time she forgot to brush her teeth. That did not spoil the visit. I never mentioned it to her. I am not that stupid. Much of the wisdom in your videos is very universal and applies to ladies from any country. Thanks as always Pea

[@GFYM_Finance]

I'm in the "Single, not looking" camp. And I'm happy with that. Women, for men nowadays, are a luxury, and I am overly cautious on what I define as a luxury in my life at this stage 🤘🤘

[@johnwells3573]

I’ve heard that both men and women present their personality at the beginning of a relationship. This is how we want to be viewed by people in the world; especially someone we are trying to impress. But the longer we are around someone, our character starts to emerge. Hormones also come in to play at the beginning of a relationship causing some distortion on how we view others and how they view us. It really is worth waiting awhile before making a long term commitment so both parties can see more clearly what they are getting into.

[@aravindarandeni9949]

Lmao😂😂😂....the last comment got me 😅. Awesome video!

[@williamward7226]

I was married 38 years when wife passed away. Hate to say I don't see how anyone could take her place. I am only 64. Enjoy your show keep up the good work.

[@setha360]

Go overseas a single mother needs saved lol

[@kengaroo5170]

If she was the love of your life and mother of your children, stay single.

[@Gregabob]

No one can take her place, but another woman can bring some joy back into your life. I'm close to your age, and companionship means a lot to both men and women as we get older.

[@rnedlo9909]

I'm 70 and the same thing happened to me recently. IDK when the void will end, but let's keep some room for hope.

[@ogremgtow990]

Pea here in America men are either remaining Bachelors or are getting their Passports and leaving .

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Very sad situation 🥺 We Filipinas can help 🤣👍

[@ltsallwood]

@@TheFilipinaPea Lately I have been reconsidering traveling to the Philippines, or anywhere at this point. It doesn't matter where men go, they are still vulnerable to hypergamy and I just would rather save my money for myself. It might be a depressing thing to think about, but unless there is a country that has very strict laws to protect men from gold diggers, liars, and cheaters, it's just worth the risk, even over in your area. I'm only 36 though so I wouldn't be able to travel to the Philippines right now anyways without a steady income.

[@curtis.albrecht.79]

@@TheFilipinaPea My Pre-Nup with my Filipina was THROWN OUT. My current GF is 6mos pregnant with our second child. She KNONWS that I will NEVER marry her.

[@jazzsnare]

​@@ltsallwoodnot worth the risk

[@jazzsnare]

​@@curtis.albrecht.79what is way to get prenup that holds?

[@ericg9092]

Great video, Pea, and excellent analogy. Looking forward to the next one.

[@shanefrericks5929]

Oh my God, Pea, you hit it right on the head the very first time. About buyers and sellers

[@DeltaVTX]

Are women a bad bet? I don’t know… I’ve been single for some years. Now I have an airplane.

[@samueldavis2327]

Smart move! The airplane will serve you better in the long run.

[@secretagent86]

So this smart man took a flier literally 😅😅😅

[@tedstriker754]

Yeah, me too. I have two of them. And many days I'm out at the airport all day. With a woman at home, they'll start to bitch if we are gone all the time doing our own thing. I don't have to hear any of that now.

[@PaMuShin]

Lets wait for the pimps to comment and then we gonna have a broader picture.

[@Gregabob]

@@samueldavis2327 I have an airplane too-the funny thing is-you can use it to get a woman! You really stand out from the crowd being a pilot, and you stand out even more owning a plane. The woman's curiosity factor will get your foot in the door so to speak. After that it's up to you-the novelty of you being a pilot will only get you so far.

[@dennisboulis1859]

Hi Pea, I like most of your videos, and I always enjoy hearing your different perspectives even if I disagree. This video falls into that category. I'm a 63yo WM who has been burned twice in marriage. My first was 13 years, the second 19 years, and yes, in both cases it was the women that left me. In spite of that I still believe that we are not meant to go through life alone. Last year I found a wonderful Filipina through one of your sponsors, Christian Filipina. We met in person, became engaged, and are now going through the K1 visa process to be married here in the US. The gambling analogy falls apart on two very important points. First, the willingness of both parties to do the work that any relationship requires, but the second and most important is to have a common faith in God to help tie you together during the rough patches that any marriage will have. So Pea, please don't let your subscribers believe that only a "world view" of relationships exists, and thank you again for having Christian Filipina as one of your sponsors.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I’m glad you found love, Dennis! ❤️❤️❤️ But I don’t accept any sponsors - you probably just saw one of their ads on my videos (I can’t control who KZbin sells ad time to). Congratulations, and keep us all posted! ❤️❤️❤️

[@jamesi.calhoun4020]

Thank you for being such a wonderful understanding woman yourself Pea.

[@johnmcneeley]

I reallly appreciate the effort and sound reasoning that you put into your videos. It is really obvious that you do your research and that your advice is always well thought out and sound. Your editing is smooth and professional. Thank you. You are awesome! (Not to mention beautiful) 😀❤

[@oncall21]

Think of a relationship as you would a business investment. With relationships having a failure rate of 50%, would you invest in that company? Probably not. So invest your love by using your brain. See it as doing your due diligence when looking for a partner. That’s why I never have and never will give money. It’s one metric that can rule out a lot of grief. Great video as always Ms Pea and thanks for sharing. 🙏

[@TheFilipinaPea]

It will rule out a LOT of grief, and help to level the playing field 👍

[@samueldavis2327]

I think that in the long run, most men and women are simply better off living apart. It is easy to hire someone to do everything for you in the Philippines. No need for a long-term commitment.

[@themadpaddler9043]

DUDE!!! That part about going all-in emotionally hit hard! Fellas... If you don't ever pay attention to another damn word I say, pay attention to this... I did. Many times. Went all-in and got fuckin destroyed. So, I can very much so testify to the validity of what he says here: "And trust me, you don't have unlimited emotional resources. It's very difficult, if not functionally impossible, to go all-in emotionally more than a few times in your life." I.... Feel... NOTHING. Most of the damn time now. I want to feel. I wish I could bring myself to have feelings for someone. Especially now that I'm making it in music and actually have women approaching me (which I am still trying to get used to) but I just CAN'T feel anything!! And let me be clear here. This is NOT a case of me fighting my feelings for fear of getting hurt. No this is FAR WORSE. I literally feel nothing. I TRY to feel, and fucking can't! The best way I can physically describe the way it feels is very much the same frustration you feel when you turn the key to your car and it won't start. Like it's out of gas or the starter is busted. I barely even feel the music I play anymore and music has been the biggest passion of my life. But even that is fading now... I have been racking my brain trying to figure out WTF is wrong with me, why I have such difficulty feeling anything when I used to be the guy who felt everything... and this guy in one sentence answered that question. It's because I expended so much of my emotional energy on people who didn't deserve it, that I have none left. The only emotion I ever feel strongly now is anger. Fellas. If you aren't already where I am, please for the love of GOD listen to the advice in this video. Trust me, you don't want to end up like me.

[@jazzsnare]

You answered your question at the end. For the love of god.

[@themadpaddler9043]

@@jazzsnare Yeah. My story is a cautionary tale. Don't do what I did type shit.

[@setha360]

Only answer for you is a mushroom trip to get ou out of your box and self reflect.lol

[@aavila1206]

You invested too much (love) into 1 person vs a community of people (family). A small community was always supposed to hold both parties of a relationship accountable and soften the blow of any emotional pain. The destruction of communities is what has really led to the imbalance of pain and love of individuals, especially men.

[@randallfox8920]

I've been exactly where you're at and it took me many years to find my answer. I quit feeling because the pain was so overwhelming that I had to turn everything off to maintain my sanity. I finally learned to let the pain in a little at a time. It took me years to fully accept it all. Now that I have, it's fading to memory and I am enjoying life again. On the plus side, extreme betrayal by "loved ones" does teach you some lessons about humanity. I learned that the majority of humans are ape-brained emotive "thinkers" and it has made me value my relationships with evolved and rational friends all the more.

[@sandman6988]

Good Video great job Pea! keep up the great work...

[@stevend8785]

You can run out of money and time. Also after 3-4 heartbreaks, most people find it difficult to trust anyone.

[@oilairnalo]

Out of money, I ran just in time.

[@acttemp6170]

@9:57 Here it is. This comment is totally off-topic but very prudent. And is directed towards the ladies. This guy is a professional therapist. This comment is for the ubiquitous body count question. In majority cases, men do not connect emotionally with sex. However, most women do. Men stay away from women with high body counts because of the emotional baggage. Emotions of a woman with high body count are practically impossible to repair.

[@migm7428]

"Emotions of a woman with high body count are almost impossible to repair".... so true... You hit the nail on the head

[@Gregabob]

@@migm7428 Yep-you're getting compared to all the guys before.

[@edsmith8301]

I think this is one of your best videos, very honest 😌

[@robertlalor8090]

Pea, as the father of two daughters, I have a different view. I taught my daughters that men are fine as far as they go, but sometimes they don't go far enough. I encouraged them to take care of their own financial affairs, so that they are positioned, at least financially, to choose a man, rather than to "need" a man. So committed am I to this, that I have done all that I can to help my Filipina to become financially independent. There is such joy in knowing that she has choices and that she chooses me. Why would I settle for less than that? Why should she? I believe that love and life blossom when the money matters are resolved and removed as an issue between us. As for more reaction videos, "more, more, more" is my reaction. Thanks for another gift.

[@wwaldes]

👌

[@TheManGrant]

Excellent. Thanks Pea. This new format of commenting on another video is useful.

[@1Bob4All]

Relationships require commitment. Each person should ideally be repeatedly choosing to make the relationship work. Each person is repeatedly adjusting, growing/changing and choosing to try to do better for the relationship.

[@davidburt6659]

Well sad Bob

[@davidburt6659]

That is the principle of a successful relationship with a Filipino

[@oilairnalo]

So, what is your take on this: "Collect and select."

[@1Bob4All]

@@oilairnalo I am not sure what "Collect and Select" means. Does it mean to collect many romantic-relationships and then select one?

[@theluxphoenix]

Always love yourself more than anyone else

[@Abelius]

I definitely love my daughters more than myself, but I know what you mean.

[@shinrinyokumusic1808]

I love myself, but still wouldnt want to end up alone.

[@Gregabob]

@@shinrinyokumusic1808 Same here-I have a lot of love to give to the right woman-just have to find her.

[@eddieslittlestack7919]

Watching your face in the little corner box as he was saying 'kitty' was very funny Pea.

[@tangelbahn]

HI Pea: As usual…you continue to amaze me! Your perspective and comments convince me that you indeed have a very sophisticated approach to life in general. You are refreshing in so many ways! 🥰

[@RomeoWhiskey692]

I’m glad you watch Psych-Hacks too . One of the most intelligent channels out there . A saying among my peer group is “ Many men never actually meet their wives until they meet them in divorce court .” We are pretty good at deceiving each other . Sometimes for years . Perhaps that is the lesson to be learned in the end . Young men are looking for the deception in women , and trying to uncover it . Old men understand that there will be deception…perhaps they can show some compassion and kindness in knowing the fear and pain that prompts someone to need to hide their true selves like that . If a woman hides her flaws to try and please you , it’s a compliment of sorts . She cares what you think of her . Men in my group may hit you with brutal reality … the scars of injuries past … the toughness of their present … to see if you are capable of being with them . Honesty taken to the extreme . Most women aren’t . I think that’s why we get on so well with you Asian ladies . Y’all have been a bit closer to the fire , and felt the burn , so to speak … than western women . We can appreciate that . And y’all don’t seem to hate us so much . If that’s a lie … keep doing it .

[@kylejamesdalzell2839]

I've been burned by a Filipina and taken for a great deal of money. Filipinas can be just as self-centered, ruthless and greedy as western women, believe me... And many will say that because they are from a third world country, it is their divine right to be that way...

[@wwaldes]

wow , power

[@nobody7817]

There's a saying in my group: "It's cheaper to keep her"... they ain't wrong. I should have listened better.

[@wildbill562]

I'm turning 69 this month and resonate with your thoughts. I like slim, sexy, young babes with pleasant attitudes just like every other guy in the world. So many younger men are fixated on a woman's "body count." Or they want a virgin to start a family with. I don't care about that at all. First of all, a woman will never tell you the truth about their past sex life - unless she is so unattractive that she actually has none! But even GRO's will lie and claim they never had sex for money. Who cares? Let them lie and feel like they are fooling you into thinking they are a "good girl." Secondly, just as experience counts in every sphere of life, it does in the bedroom too. I will take an experienced girl over a virgin every time. An experienced escort knows what men like and is willing to provide it. Perfect! Always rent; never buy. People change. Don't get locked into one relationship. Stay liquid. Keep your options open.

[@Gregabob]

Well said.

[@mikelind2762]

What is being suggested by not going all in on love with someone, is don’t go all in on conditional love. True love is caring for someone’s well being with compassion love and kindness for them as a human being regardless of your contributions. Conditional love is thinking you love someone as long as they provide you something in return, or meeting a need that you have. Like, I will love you as long as you look a certain way or provide money so I can buy the things I want or satisfy me in some way.

[@dukewanders]

Great topic. Your balanced perspective is always delivered well. You workouts are really paying off. Keep up the great job. I always appreciate the wisdom and experience in the comment sections of your videos.

[@toddhill1465]

I married my Filipina wife when she was 36 and I was 40. It was the first true lasting relationship for both of us. 2 kids and 15 years later, it's like we're still in our dating phase. :)

[@wwaldes]

życzę Wam tego do końca życia

[@nikkfrostt]

Prenups are a good way to help deal with the imbalance of divorce. It's not perfect but its better than nothing. Women who specifically get angry at you protecting yourself are definitely a walking red flag.

[@causalitymastered]

Prenups are dissolved all the time with the magical phrase: "Under Duress".

[@solascripturaPR1517]

Absolutely correct, ​@@causalitymastered Look no further than what happened to Dr. Dre: his prenup was thrown out.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I absolutely would NOT marry without a prenup. No way, no how 🥺

[@jazzsnare]

B​@@causalitymasteredhow can they claim duress? It is the very opposite.

[@richbrown369]

Prenups work on what is listed in it. If she can't support herself financially via tax returns then, alimony will be paid. Is what a lawyer told me.

[@joshuarizalforeman816]

I am now 11 years into my relationship with my Filipina wife. We lived in HK for 5 years and now we live here, in the Philippines, where we have property and a business and a decent income. We have a son together, I support her daughter and our niece at university, as well as some of the kids at school. We employ her family in our businesses. Of course there is a 'monetary' element to our relationship. She knew I had money when we met (just not how much) and that was clearly a factor in our getting together, but that is the same the world over. Today is my birthday. She bought me a cake. My step-daughter's boyfriend bought me a bottle of wine, which I am currently drinking. He had no need to do so but he did so out of respect for me - and she told him to! I cannot really fault my life. Yep, it is business, but there is also affection and everyone is doing just fine.

[@wwaldes]

👌👌

[@valnir78]

Not to spoil your reality, but it's evident that' much more then just " a 'monetary' element to our relationship" involved there. If you woulnd't be willing to provide for her whole family but wanted a marriage and indipedent life just for yourselves, all this "niceness" would fall apart very, very quickly..

[@ralphbuschman3364]

Pea , this is a very needed video. Thanks

[@toddmason7429]

Great vid pea..keep it up!

[@philjenkins1138]

I’ve been dealt a really bad hand 😭

[@MW-eg4gu]

MY 76 YEAR OLD CHINESE WIFE IS THE ONE! I'M A 76 Y. OLD AMERICAN CAUCASIAN MALE, AND WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED 50 YEARS. WE'RE IN IT FOR THE LONG HAUL, BABY! ALL THE WAAAAAAAAY!

[@Gregabob]

You lucky dog! I saw a couple like you at the grocery store a while back-it was nice to see. I'll bet your wife still looks good to you too! Asian women age so well generally. I know a Chinese woman who I'm sure is pushing 50 but her body looks like she's 35.

[@MW-eg4gu]

To - gregabob. Yes, in general, Asian women can hold up well. But, they are not immortal. But, yes, I am very lucky. I would not trade my Chinese wife for anyone else. But you young guys, even Asian girls, watch out for red flags

[@brianbey3575]

PsycHacks rarely ever misses and he didn’t miss with this one. Good share Pea.

[@jefft724]

When my wife met me, she told me she would say yes to marriage. But she told me this after only 6 months. As in love as I was and still am, I insisted on waiting a year. I learned from a previous relationship that women wear a mask.

[@yogibear2k220]

I have been single and a total virgin for 53 years, and never been happier, so yes, I would say relationships are definitely a bad bet.

[@nonrepublicrat]

That's what I would call a total loser.

[@seans7228]

@@yogibear2k220 🫨

[@KuroNekoNetwork]

😮😮😮

[@TheFilipinaPea]

A 53-year old virgin? That might be a new record 👍👍😊

[@donbrashsux]

Nothing wrong with being single.. it suits a certain type of personality that generally only single people can understand 👌

[@tomster7574]

Hopes and hormones are the worst thing to go into relationship with. They blind you to reality of who that person really is other than how you want to see them as the fantasy you’ve always wanted.

[@keithandes2804]

I have a saying "Pretty Just Ain't Enough" most guys get hooked on how beautiful a woman is!! I have made that mistake and it has cost me dearly!! Now I handle it like she is a potential business partner (I know that's not sexy) but I had to learn to hold back my physical & emotional desires to make sure this woman is the right fit!! Sure no one is perfect including myself but we all have red flags and when you see the red flags don't ignore them! Investigate and ask questions and most important watch her behavior!! It TAKES TIME!! So TAKE YOUR TIME!! ❤🙏

[@jamesballard6564]

Actions supercede words

[@jamesholland5761]

Great video Pea! Yes it is a gamble, but as they say! Nothing ventured, nothing gained!

[@stevenrobberts3238]

Excellent video as always Pea!!!! It is said men marry for love, women marry for a lifestyle. I don't know about Filipinas, but that saying seems to hold true here in the west.

[@jazzsnare]

Women are women.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I honestly can’t speak for other Filipinas, but I’ll marry for love, and STAY married 👍❤️

[@jamesballard6564]

That's a universal risk we all face. However, we can better hedge our bets in some locations over others.

[@wwaldes]

@@TheFilipinaPea 💙

[@richardgoose5205]

It’s definitely interesting how many females don’t invest in a relationship fully. As a man, I often question why females don’t look at the bigger picture, vs long term. In my experience, I’ve never seen more females really commit to a relationship, vs be Truly faithful to their husband. I would think that women would have a better outcome if they were to stay faithful. But a females nature is to be an opportunist. Like I said previous in several videos. I’ve had more one nightstands with married women, then single. To be totally honest. The delusion of what the word “faithful” really means to a woman, is very troubling. That man is more desirable than her husband, she will venture out. The only way I can see an effective relationship happen, She will have to be limited to her options. The more she’s introduced to options, the more fleeting she becomes. Given the opportunity to meet a female, married or single. I’ve always found a way in, if that’s what I desire. So knowing that, I have to take consideration that it could happen to me. This is the reason why, I don’t believe faithfulness is in a woman’s DNA.. at least men are content. As long as he’s not deprived of sex, food, and respect. A man’s nature is to stay with that woman.

[@J_Dubb79]

Thank you Ms. Pea. This has helped me out a lot.

Pea I have never heard a more apt analogy on relationships But as we all know the heart wants what the heart wants Have a great weekend

[@ivoted7199]

OH YES, Dr. Orion is on my regular watch list, not unlike yourself Pea... ;) Bottom line: "Never invest all emotions" and "Prenup"!

[@Abelius]

That guy is simply amazing. He encapsulates everything good about the Red Pill in one channel.

@@ivoted7199 You are a very aware person.

[@samueldavis2327]

Prenup, prenup, prenup!

[@johnlobley]

Here comes that Friday feeling ...and always let the ads play

[@TheFilipinaPea]

🤣🤣🤣 I can always count on your help, twice a week ❤️ And this time, you got a silver! 🥈

[@genepothier8398]

Hi Pea … very good video. Possibly one of the best concerning relationships. I whole hardly agree with taking time to get over the ‘infatuation’ stage. Keep them coming plz.

[@rlh125]

Great insights from both of you.

[@CB4basser1]

5 comments and 8 likes in the first minute. Pea is a Rock Star

[@TheFilipinaPea]

But … when will I get paid like a rock star? 😳🤣🤣

[@christopherturco197]

@@TheFilipinaPea You already do. Just think of it as your manager withholding the majority of your income and using it on himself. 😂🤣🤑😝

[@bobbobbington3615]

"Love is the delusion that one woman differs from another.”

[@fcruz43215]

I like the analogy…good episode Pea ; )

[@michaelwilbur4320]

Morning Miss Pea relationships are a roll of the dice is chance depends on the people involved . I'm not a attractive man but I've had women make moves on me especially after I got married

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Women sure are attracted to men that other women want 🥺👍

[@jamesballard6564]

​@@TheFilipinaPeayup. Sickening and disheartening. Every single time.

[@danielgleason7858]

Beautiful dress pea

[@TheFilipinaPea]

It’s … different, isn’t it 🤣

[@danielgleason7858]

Very nice. Plus you make it even more beautiful. 🥰

[@Gregabob]

@@danielgleason7858 The wisdom of a mature mid 30s woman in a 22 year old looking body-mind boggling to a Western guy.

[@bobtimster62]

@@TheFilipinaPea Nice nails, too.

[@tonywilliams7918]

Good advice segment Pea. Occasionally folks need a refresher on the "continuous trend" of dating, relationship and commitment. There is so much to be said in rebuttal or agreement, I just hope that a sound mind prevails after viewing such a refresher. This video is a point for ages...considering how you understand relationships. Thanks for sharing Pea.

[@guillaumeebbers5238]

Good advice. This is how I look at a relationship. (Building)

[@TheHelixballerone]

Hay Pea. “. The way her breath smells in the morning “ that is so true Slow and steady is the way . But , I say “ rollercoasters “ are way more fun. 😂 I don’t agree with this guys rule #2… Take his position on the matter, and expanded. How can anyone go around half ass living, only investing just enough emotion to get by. What a waste of time and energy 🖖🏽

[@TheFilipinaPea]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 Lots more ‘ups and downs’, that’s for sure 😉👍

[@dongshengdi773]

​@@TheFilipinaPea women can always give all of their emotions to the man they are with . They've got nothing to lose. Women always get free lunches. This is why I always tell women not to push men into spending more than what you yourself can afford. The more you spend less , the more the guy will love you. Studies have shown that women who are gold diggers never have a lasting relationship