Are You Dating A Narcissist?

Are You Dating A Narcissist? | Dr. Ramani

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Erika Kullberg

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@NancyBrown1975 8 ай бұрын

You have a gem of an expert here on narcissism. She’s the best!

@CodeDusq1 8 ай бұрын

Narcissists think everything is about them and get upset if you say no and they don’t respect your boundaries, so it feels like a risky emotional situation whenever you have any interaction with them.

@mbraden8949 8 ай бұрын

What an amazing interview. I only wish I had known these traits years ago. I was engaged to a narcissist and Dr. Durvasula nailed every behavior perfectly and in hindsight I couldn't be happier that I left that relationship.

@ceciliamarshall4618 7 ай бұрын

Great interview and explanation of the narcissists behavior. My brother in-law is a Narcissist. He just married the sweetest Christian girl who knows he can change. They just bought a house in a different state. I’m praying for her!

@jvtadros 8 ай бұрын

Wow, Dr Ramani never disappoints. Great interview!

@alex-mq8rm 8 ай бұрын

I love psychology...if you can pick up on cues, it can save you from lots of headaches and heartaches

@lydwinaofschiedam2685 8 ай бұрын

Before I retired, I was a college professor (in nursing). At one time, there were 4 nursing instructors in my department I am quite sure were narcissists. It was an awful time. I stayed in my position partly because I felt the students needed someone they could talk to and trust and partly because I love teaching. One got fired; one got driven out; and two retired.

@carolannstevens5814 6 ай бұрын

Powerful episode Erika and Ramani! Looking back, I now know as this makes it clear! Thank you! I need to divorce. 35 years of living with a narcissist. He broke my fingers, early on he shoved me down. I don’t have a loving family and my mom is narcissist. You are so right Dr. Ramani as it was so hard to leave when I had little children and felt no one in my corner. Now they are grown and regret not leaving decades ago.

@orianam9835 3 ай бұрын

Start your new life now. You can do it ❤

@BecauseOfHim1111 8 ай бұрын

Thank you Erika and Dr. Ramani. I really enjoyed this podcast.

@bngr_bngr 8 ай бұрын

My friend was a narcissist that insisted that her boyfriend was a narcissist.

@Weiredoe 8 ай бұрын

My mother-in-law does this to me all the time. The last 7 years have been a smear campaign against me. One time, she heard me listening to Dr. Ramani before work and texted my husband that it was unfair to him that I waste the days watching videos on me being a narcissist while he works. The projection is strong with this one. 🙂

@starboy5177 8 ай бұрын

Little known FACT: Most Women TODAY are narcissists. The more beauty and/or status she has, the more the chance she is one.

@Desaved 8 ай бұрын

Wow! This answered a lot of questions. It's especially hard with family.

@sandracaezza7234 8 ай бұрын

When Erika spoke of his flirty situation @ work I totally related I’m looking back on all those yrs bc it’s part of my awareness now Grateful to be free . In the end….. The narc/addict showed me a behavior that became my freedom So yo all those new supplies…… “ tag your it “. & thank you Dr R this was so eye opening & validating TY ladies

@GLOBETROTTER-KIKO 7 ай бұрын

One of the best and most informative podcasts I have ever listened to! Bravo to Dr Ramani and Erika…kudos to both of ya! 🙏🏼

@moniquejackson7741 8 ай бұрын

OMG Fantastic interview! I'm a huge fan and follower of Dr. Ramani, and I loved, loved, loved hearing her up to date summaries and examples. When you opened up and put yourself in the therapy chair, that was so powerful! Saving lives. Thank you.

@carolannstevens5814 6 ай бұрын

Yessss! It was a treasure!

@Kyshalise 8 ай бұрын

This broke down everything I’ve been through one of the best videos I’ve ever seen from dr R so far

@kayakins3051 8 ай бұрын

Be careful who you vent to though not all people are the right ones to talk to . There are flying monkeys that are just as bad as the main person causing the problems. Them flying monkeys can be just as bad !

@wildhorses6817 8 ай бұрын

Yes, for years Ex Narc called me Crazy Kari. Yet, I had advanced degrees, my own home,money saved. It destroys self esteem and causes chronic health issues. Destroyed my life completely.

@wildhorses6817 8 ай бұрын

Destroys health, finances, emotions, self esteem, life itself. Soul Crushing.

@orianam9835 3 ай бұрын

You are valuable and capable. Do not let this scumbag tell and make you believe otherwise honey

@saturdayschild8535 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for your vulnerability, Erika. Very powerful episode.

@aaronmacdonald7412 8 ай бұрын

Excellent episode. Very helpful.

@Why19501 8 ай бұрын

My guy told me I never cheated on you but you’ll never believe that and I don’t need that…..after I caught him--he so turned that around and made me feel like am I being too harsh and mean to him. Lol

@dianeferguson9957 8 ай бұрын

Clear, direct. Thankyou x

@bond33sy Ай бұрын

This episode is simply awesome!

@alcudiababe1 5 ай бұрын

I love the content and everything discussed, but all I can think about is how that green light is reflected on Dr. Ramani's face.

@Moneymakinglinksmedia 8 ай бұрын

I had a narcissists who made false accusations against me. Now, they're in a relationship. Knowing what I know from this video, their relationship will eventually fail. 😅

@joanadkins9438 8 ай бұрын

Unless the person in the relationship with your former narcissist continues to give good supply. In fact the narcissist that I was with for 2yrs, went on, shortly thereafter, to be married for 30yrs and is still together.

@donnahale1011 8 ай бұрын

This was EXCELLENT...

@wildhorses6817 8 ай бұрын

Great Interview, Thank you. Also, a great Book !

@CocoLaurel 8 ай бұрын

Customer service. Sales. Hospitality. Tons of narcissism in these industries too.

@TimothyTaylor-w6d 8 ай бұрын

Dr. Ramani + Erika= TNT 🧨 Explosive 🧨

@CoachCreesh 8 ай бұрын

The MOST BEAUTIFUL part of it is when you figure them out, go NO CONTACT, HEAL❤, understand you did NOTHING WRONG🥰, move on in peace✌🏾 and ignore all there stalking for years 💯❤️💯❤️💯❤️💯❤️💯❤️💯❤️

@BecauseOfHim1111 8 ай бұрын

Hi Erika, forgot to leave you the following in my last comment. Best of luck to your friend who is married to a narcissist. She may not tell or show you right away how thankful she is, but trust me in due time, she will. Going no contact is not going to be an easy task and the heartbreak is overwhelming. ❤

@katiemiller4187 8 ай бұрын

This is great thank you

@mariastewart9861 8 ай бұрын

Would a narcissist announce that they are a “good person”? I have heard this many times from people I think are narcissistic. Is it a common phrase or thinking by a narcissist?

@specialtwice4975 8 ай бұрын

Yes, they will say "I'm a good person". Of course this doesn't guarantee them being a narc. They could just be a jerk. What a narc will say though? Narc: "Hey, you~ You wanna go for sushi?" Person: "Uh...I don't really like sushi. I told you this last week..." Narc: "What?! You don't like sushi? But you told me you love sushi. Of course you like sushi. Everyone does!" Person: "I don't like sushi..." Narc: "Nonsense! We are going for sushi, come on! Let's go! Yay sushi! Yay yay sushi!" Person: "I don't want to." Narc: "Wha...Now, now, lets go eat sushi. You wanna be a good friend to me, don't you? Of course you do! Your my bestest friend in the whole world!" Person: "We aren't even friends bro...da f?" Narc: "Of course we are! Don't you remember yesterday when I asked you for a cup of water? And you gave me water? We are friends now. Best friends." Person: "I don't think that's how friendship works. I don't wanna be your friend. I don't wanna go out for sushi. And you spilled water on my shirt yesterday, then tried to clean my shirt with napkins, and when that don't work, hugged me saying "sworry. I so sor-y". I didn't like your clingy koala hug." (They make their ideas yours. They say you like what they like. They don't understand the word no. That maybe you want pizza. And they make you embarrassed in situations and tell it differently than the actual situation.)

@momfromnj911 8 ай бұрын

I think I may be in ANOTHER relationship with a narc.. My boyfriend was very sweet the first 4 months or so. Love bombed the heck out of me. Offered me money before we got together...helped me out financially the first few months and then pretty much changed. He sometimes talks down to me, he says people annoy him that he is the smartest person around..can barely every say he's sorry. I remember him apologizing by saying I'm sorry, but you should be sorry too..when it was all his fault. Literally left me af a restaurant stranded. Then when I went to stay at a friend's house that night. .I would not respond to him when he was blowing up my phone. He retaliated by bashing me on FACEBOOK. One time I made him Mad he went on facebook and changed his Facebook status to blank and took everyone of our pics down to "teach me a lesson". Also has remarked that he wished I was more submissive. .. Hr does drive aggressive and not to the drivers face but will curse ..is this a narc???

@njrom2975 8 ай бұрын

I don’t think so . Have 1:1 talk with him maybe he have some other personal problems. Double check first and then if he really goes toxic then you can break up , look yourself on the mirror too and see if u did something as well. If both of you are compatible or not .

@primsandwhims7533 8 ай бұрын

Yes.

@carolannstevens5814 6 ай бұрын

I wish I knew this decades ago! I have been with this man that is an abusive narcissist. 35 years!

@Erika2 8 ай бұрын

If you found this episode valuable, I highly recommend watching my full interview with Dr. Ramani from last year here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/n56WlYKhiriMeZosi=k6y-rUceXd25k84J

@rexnelson8604 8 ай бұрын

Now I'd like to hear this where the relationship is between a narcissist leader and a community. For example, a condo association president and the membership.

@wildhorses6817 8 ай бұрын

YES ! HOA famous for Narcissists ! CONTROL and POWER.

@JoeyCheny 8 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing!

@dlwilliamson5644 8 ай бұрын

Is Erika the most adorable person? Unfortunately, I had to hit rewind when she was curious if she was in the wrong about an idiot "massaging" other women! So glad Dr. Ramani was there to reassure her that she is/was not the problem.

@mgenihamed5710 8 ай бұрын

Narcissist is so deep than we know those people to change they know to have spiritual awaking,self reflect and humble themselves just know they are just human not God

@janai4477 8 ай бұрын

My dad is a covert narcissist. He is a slow driver, though. But always complaining about others in traffic

@AmeeraG242 8 ай бұрын

Don't forget real estate especially commercial

@stockmarkhq6604 8 ай бұрын

The only narcissists I know are teachers. Could be just local.

@GeorgideMarne 8 ай бұрын

No. The worst one I ever encountered was malignant NPD teacher.

@tracyhenry6752 8 ай бұрын

Thank you

@phatchotimondabbakulanaayu5090 8 ай бұрын

My parent do the violent everyday when i was a child and never had a time for me . never support and never said to me with normal like other parent. now I grow with someting solve with violent . I always run everything in the house and never be my life. You said violent is more in narcissism , Is i narcissism. I feel sad and very holpless everysec in my life now.

@maevebutler4641 8 ай бұрын

Brilliant interview Currently reading DrRamini's book "It's Not You" It is extremely interesting and very helpful to any person experiencing difficulties with narcissistic individuals

@TonyM-h7c 8 ай бұрын

Brava signora lei ha ragione grazie

@fridaytieday 7 ай бұрын

20:37 You're funny Dr Ramani!!!! Its true though. I dumb down a bit just so I'm left alone and it's a safe observation place to be in.

@Grandestplateau 8 ай бұрын

Not all physically violent people are narcissists. Many feel massive remorse and guilt, and do seek therapy. Just a heads up this lady is one person speaking from her experience.

@janebaker4912 8 ай бұрын

Says you, the violent person? If you think you have the right or entitled to hurt others than you are a narcissist. Even if you feel remorse.

@Grandestplateau 8 ай бұрын

@@janebaker4912 do you think all violent people are narcissists?

@janebaker4912 8 ай бұрын

@@Grandestplateau it takes high narcissism to think it's justified in that moment to unleash your emotions and harms others. Would they all test positive for NPD, maybe yeah. I'd beliyit

@janebaker4912 8 ай бұрын

You didn't answer my question? Are you violent and don't want to admit your narcissism?

@mamathemeat 8 ай бұрын

I used to get triggered by gaslighting and I used to hit my boyfriend who was very narcissistic. I didn’t know what gaslighting was. I do now and j realize it triggered my trauma. My mom used to beat the shit out of me so I thought it was ok. I had a lot of unresolved trauma… I no longer do that and I no longer have those triggers. I am not a narcissist and I have really no other of the signs of narcissism. I have never cheated, I take responsibility for myself, and I’m not envious or anything like that. I’m pretty self reflective and self aware. I wouldn’t really hurt him I just hit him with open hand sometimes out of rage sloppily not like punching or anything that left marks or on the face. So I should say that. I just thought it was normal behavior.

@meekawolff 8 ай бұрын

Our old neighbor (I’ll just refer to him as H) was such a narcissist. His late wife never left him but acted like it was a normal thang fer H to give her a black eye or two. However, when she passed away H ended up marrying an older woman and his narcissistic behavior disappeared. His new wife was the one calling the shots. I don’t git it. I thought narcissists never change.

@specialtwice4975 8 ай бұрын

It's possible the second wife was a stronger narc or a psychopath. Probably a psychopath. They can make narcs their personal b. A psychopath will say to narcissist: "clean the floor, do the dishes, scrub the walls. Now!!" And the narcissist will bow and say "yes dear, of course dear." and do as they are told.

@meekawolff 8 ай бұрын

@@specialtwice4975 Wow! I would never have guessed that his 2nd wife was a psychopath. Thank you fer clearing up my confusion. She’s such a tiny, petite woman (about 5’2 or 5’4) compared to H’s 6’2 or 6’4 stature).

@majakolon426 8 ай бұрын

He found his mummy.

@HoboeJane 8 ай бұрын

Good video thank you! but the beginning music overwhelms her talking

@jim-zx7gz 8 ай бұрын

So some narcissist people can be extreme in their behavior. Like very obvious

@CoachCreesh 8 ай бұрын

Yes. Narcissists come on a spectrum from low to extreme.

@kayakins3051 8 ай бұрын

Is a covert and vulnerable narcissist the same?

@sf3413 8 ай бұрын

Thankfully, we have found a healthy church with sweet loving pastors. BUT, listening to this video has brought horrible narcissistic pastors that we were really hurt by to mind. Oooof

@Aerashaimasen 8 ай бұрын

her describing the narcissistic traits: me: 🙂😮😯😦😧😨 👆

@lmhv5945 8 ай бұрын

Hi 😊

@alastairpartington254 8 ай бұрын

Why can’t you spot these people?

@BarbzSA 8 ай бұрын

Massaging other women at work 😮?! And he probably told her that's what he was doing just to get a reaction or did it in front of her.

@levanahbatlila859 8 ай бұрын

Are most narcissists first borns or only children? Are most narcissists males?

@janebaker4912 8 ай бұрын

Meghan Markle

@vervideosgiros1156 5 ай бұрын

I don't think it's healthy to have your partner's password or the other way around! That "if you don't have anything to hide, why not?"-kind-of-think makes no sense to me! If you trust your partner you don't need a proof! A person can receive a message from their bff who are dealing with something; I don't have the right to tell that to my partner because we are a couple: my bff's privacy it's none of his business!

@alex-mq8rm 8 ай бұрын

Your ex had "all these girls around him" funny, because perhaps that attracted you to him.. the fact that you had a long relationship with him and you felt like he claimed you and you were better than all the girls he flirted with 🤔

@TheOrignalTRockz 8 ай бұрын

Review: Dr. Ramani is great. Your forced assessment is annoying and unbearable

@francobola9920 8 ай бұрын

She needs to go, she needs to work on herself.

@user-xm8rf6ik7b 8 ай бұрын

As a man I can tell you 100% Erika is an easy one to pull . She is the kind of chick that will go along either way pretty much whatever if she likes you . I don’t want to say lose but easily ran through . There is a big difference from being in a narcissistic relationship vs being easily ran through . I can tell you her longest relationship isn’t over 1.5 years . She has also been cheated on a lot . Definitely side chick material. That being said , when she is in her 40’s she will have some real knowledge and hopefully will help younger women .

@specialtwice4975 8 ай бұрын

What makes wife material?

@user-xm8rf6ik7b 8 ай бұрын

@@specialtwice4975 wife material is a woman that has her own thoughts , own ambitions but doesn’t seek attention or validation from others . She knows who she is. It knows the value of a partnership. A wife is the kind of woman that functions in a relationship for the relationship not for herself . The fact that that’s even a question is insane . Figure out who you are then realize you will have to make adjustments to be in a partnership .