Are you passive aggressive? (Guide for PEOPLE-PLEASERS)

[@SarahNicholls]

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[@SED79]

Yes! More video series on how to communicate as a people pleaser 🙏👍

[@SarahNicholls]

You got it!

[@elizabethsydnor5247]

Please do consider making more videos on how to handle.Being a people pleasure without being a doormat.And carrying our weight being assertive but not mean

[@SarahNicholls]

Fantastic idea for a video, I will do! If you haven't seen it already, I have a video about setting boundaries that you might enjoy: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gYLGmpJ9dst1isksi=sYyns1rRxNU1MEtr

[@Jane-yq6yq]

I was raised to 'be nice or nobody will like you'. I was made to feel like a bad or nasty person if I expressed other emotions. So of course i became a people pleaser and its caused me a lot of stress and anxiety. Even now at 55 my parents are in their 80s, they have still tried to make me feel im wrong when i express an opposite opinion

[@SarahNicholls]

Oof, that's heavy, so sorry. How are you doing?

[@Jane-yq6yq]

@@SarahNicholls I've got better the older I've got but it's so ingrained in me it's hard sometimes. My parents aren't horrible people, they just don't like conflict or confrontation so have always felt we can't 'say anything' or it'll cause family troubles

[@SarahNicholls]

I think that's so common from what I hear. Lots of people have a feeling that they should 'keep the peace', but actually they're just swepping the problems under the carpet. Sounds like you have a good handle on it and it's good to know it's gotten better as you've got older!

[@lorrainemercer525]

I do all this and never realised it was a people pleaser thing. Which is def 100% am. Love this and yes please on more

[@SarahNicholls]

Have you watched this video yet? You might find it helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pHq2iZedjZ1lY80si=dXIU-lSvqXtlfpEf

[@a.m.8252]

Excellent video!!! Please do consider devoting an entire series to teaching people-pleasers how better to communicate. Kudos on your work here on KZbin! My best to you.

[@SarahNicholls]

Ooh that's such a good idea! Thank you!@

[@LizManeschijn]

Dr Sarah, you have so much wisdom! Thank you for sharing it with us - you have taught me so much thru your videos! Thank you!

[@SarahNicholls]

Wow, thank you so much!!

[@braydensblowups8144]

Love this. Thank you

[@SarahNicholls]

You are so welcome!

[@a.m.8252]

Dear, dear Dr. Nicholls, I am a great admirer of your videos, as you may know from my earlier comments. I do have one minuscule bit of what is intended to be constructive criticism: at the end of your videos when you take the palm of your hand and touch your camera, I wonder if you might try seeing this gesture from the subscriber's perspective. To me, it feels as if someone whom I admire and to whom I am grateful (i.e., a person who has only positive feelings and thoughts about you) is now coming at my face with her palm! It feels uncomfortable. After an in-person visit with someone, it would be unthinkable for either party to that visit to take the palm of his or her palm and, in effect, smash it into the face of the other person! I know you will make the decision based on your own sense of things, but with the greatest respect for you, this is my sense of things.

[@myaccount9498]

Hi 👋 It's a popular way to end a video. Lots of KZbinrs, TikTokers etc do it so I'm moderately confident Sarah is doing it because it's a popular mode to end a video!

[@SarahNicholls]

Thank you! It's a trend in the online content creator world, but I definitely see your point 💕

[@a.m.8252]

@@SarahNicholls Many thanks for your characteristically empathetic reply. One of your other followers made this point soon after I posted my comment, and I thought at the time, "But Dr. Nicholls is so above that kind of thing!" But I do understand that, as with literature and poetry, each genre of communication has its norms (Elizabethan sonnets always contained the same number of lines, for example) and if this is a norm of online content-creators, then I understand that you would wish to be within the norm and not an outlier. I do think of your work here on KZbin as so above the normal run of content, though! Kudos galore for what you are accomplishing here! 👏👏🤙👏👏👏👏

[@SarahNicholls]

@a.m.8252 thats so kind, thank you! And I love your reference to poetry as well!! Hope you're having a lovely weekend 💕

[@a.m.8252]

PS! When attempting to give you an ovation of applause, some other symbol crept in by accident, which was unintended! I have no idea what that hand symbol means, but all of them should have been applause emoji! ❤❤❤