Your ULTIMATE guide to living a soft life

Your ultimate guide to living a soft life.
In this video, I'll share the meaning of living a soft life, as well as examples of how to live a soft life. This is all about getting away from being stressed, burnt out and tired all the time and how to start enjoying life more. Step away from the stress and struggle life... it's time to enter your soft life era. If you're a doctor, nurse, medical student or any other healthcare professional who is finding working in healthcare stressful, this video is for you. Here's how I made soft life work for me in my life as a doctor.
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00:00 Intro
00:51 What is soft life?
01:46 Stop thinking that everything has to be hard
04:54 Notice what's stressing you out
06:10 Eliminate stressors
07:54 Stop saying yes when you mean no
08:52 Make life easy and fun
12:21 Handling responsibilities
14:10 Rest and recharge
16:08 Let go of guilt
17:36 Learn what you actually like
18:58 Make time for yourself
20:06 Luxurious lifestyle
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I'm Dr Sarah, a medical doctor and youtuber. I make content about overcoming perfectionism, people-pleasing and procrastination and help you to find real self-confidence.
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[@HabeshaNurse]

I’m a night shift nurse, a wife and a mom of 2 young boys. Life gets so crazy sometimes. I feel like I have no grasp of any part of my life. I was also doing KZbin and instagram videos on top of it. I felt anxious most of the time. Now I’m taking a break from social media. I feel free and my anxiety is gone. In fact, I don’t even feel like I want to get back to social media until my kids grow older. There is so much peace in disconnecting from the social media world. I am now living in my soft era. I do lots of activities with my boys. I journal. I garden and take care of my home. it feels like I have so much time and it’s so peaceful. Everything happens in my own pace, and I have time. It can be done! Thank you for this inspiring video

[@nsorx1765]

I second this! As a fellow nurse & shift worker I am too in my soft era. I was burnt out after the Pandemic and hadn’t been looking after myself. Always working… all of this stress led to a slipped disc in my back & have been off on leave the past 9months. I have also deleted my IG and don’t really use other platforms (besides YT of course!) and the difference in impeccable! I’m not constantly looking at friends and influencers stories constantly on my phone. Since stepping back I can see how toxic it can be. I’ve also taken up gardening and yoga and my life has changed drastically for the better 🙏🙌

[@IrinaBeier]

So interesting...I give up on Social Media in November and since then I live a soft life, working with two kids...it was like something was erase from my brain

[@SarahNicholls]

I love that you're making this work for you! Removing things from your plate and schedule is so important. I think so many of us spend way too much time rushing around. Thanks for watching and for sharing your perspective ❤

[@Mastrninamarie]

@HabeshaNurse Your comment gives me inspiration to let go of social media as I am realizing I'm better off without it. It takes time away from things I want to do without even noticing in the moment. Thanks for posting! 💛

[@pippamoore9563]

I'm a nurse and working nights is not good x I gave up nights yrsrs ago when I became so stressed with not sleeping . If u can manage fine but if u can't I'd find a job which doesn't require night duty x trust me it's not worth it x I regret ever working nights when my kids were small.

[@mylowspendlife]

Luxury to me is eating a dessert item at home on a fancy antique plate that I used to only reserve for looking at 😊.

[@debphelan-devon7928]

That's so cool I'm going to copy you 💖

[@natliekla]

I'm using my thinest, finest glass for "everyday- glass" 🥰 I inherited them from my great grandma ❤

[@SarahNicholls]

Yessss 🙌 it's so important to use the fancy things now!

[@JaniceBeattie]

I heard once that if you want to find things you enjoy doing for fun, remember what you did as a child. For me, drawing, swimming and being out in nature. 💕💕

[@SarahNicholls]

That's so lovely!

[@MalenaTaylor-jl3wg]

4 steps I took -no social media except KZbin and not after 9 -moved to a smallish town (under 10000 people) - no traffic, safe, quiet, peaceful -work from home only -got the kind of dogs I’ve always wanted regardless of the stereotypes and judgment and walk them every morning after my at home workout and then sit in my in home sauna Still grinding and still work a lot!!! ….but these 4 things were game changers for me and those are my “soft life” hacks Not a rich white lady either I took a pay cut to work remote but saved up for my sauna and dogs and not going to the gym or buying Starbucks etc being in the streets, eating out has also improved my physical health and the financials to do these other things .

[@SarahNicholls]

Oh I LOVE this! Thanks for sharing 🫶 moving to a small town has made a big difference for me too, as well as the dog part! They bring so much joy to life. Love your idea about social media too.

[@lawyerdebbie]

I waste too much time being stressed. This was a great reminder that there’s no medal for that and I should try to relax and enjoy life more 😊

[@SarahNicholls]

Definitely! Life's too short to be stressed all the time ❤️

[@rebeckahowells5156]

Doing a job that YOU want to do, not what your family, your culture or society says is a "good job" or "good career" 🥰

[@isobelyoung8591]

Love this! I wish I could upvote you 100 times

[@ree_flowers]

Wish I knew this earlier! You’re so right!

[@SarahNicholls]

THISSSS

[@LLearner1121]

My question is...what if ive always been living in the soft life era but my family/friends arent and they judge my lifestyle? Also at times being around them makes me feel less just because im not as busy as they are? For example one of my friend, who seems to LOVE her busy lifestyle and have lots of social circles kept asking me what do i do at home (in a condescending way at times)? Im a happy sahm most days just busy with my children and works around the house and i like my me time like netflix, walks atound the park, trying new recipes...and why does that seems too boring for her? 😅 help me explain.

[@sawdarchitects4803]

Dont let other people decide your lifestyle, people will judge you even if you have a too busy life, trust me I used to have a too busy life and got judged, so be free like a bird, give your dreams wings and let your dreams fly...do whatever you feel like doing, everyone's life purpose is different...

[@SarahNicholls]

I couldn't have said it better than the other person who has commented! It's YOUR life. Don't wait for or expect acceptance from others. Live your life unapologetically and enjoy. Life is short!

[@TJ-kz1ul]

I am a healthcare worker, working in admin at a hospital. I've just been diagnosed with burnout and wow, the side effects are so real!! I am not the person I used to be, no more go, go, go, high energy, getting up at 5am to workout etc. etc. This video is really helpful on my road to healing. Thank you!!

[@SarahNicholls]

Burnout is no joke. How are you doing? I hope you're getting the opportunity to slow down and take life at a different pace.

[@SimplyBeautiful516]

I grew up in the 1970s and my mom was married and was the epitome of the working mom who also taught classes at church and volunteered. But, she never had time for herself or her children. Unfortunately, I became just like her just in a different form. I was the Sahm who homeschooled our children and made everything from scratch. We both burned out with serious mental and physical issues

[@AE-sd2vv]

I can relate. Big hug❤

[@shawntreasetheealluringbea1215]

Hugs

[@SarahNicholls]

I am so sorry to hear that! How does life look for you now?

[@lynnemanning9553]

Life can be hard. I think it can be very wise to make life more "simple", I think I like that word better than soft. Because life can be hard, no matter if you have a sauna and the dogs you want, and the home job making enough money. I think it is definitely smart to take out the speed with which some of us think our lives have to operate, which can make life very stressful, simply because we think that is how life should be....I guess, that has been our model throughout our lives. What I hear from this is that there is a lot of calculated control over making things soft, but life is full of ups and downs, and it doesn't matter how much we try to always have our life going smoothly and most comfortably, shit happens! And we must learn to accept and embrace those challenges, whether they be health, financial, family, problems etc,....We don't really learn any of the bigger lessons in life, unless we have adversity in our own lives, which will inevitably show up. So I think we all have to be careful, no matter how "soft" you are making your life, be realistic and accepting of the challenges that will show up. Human beings get stuck in ruts and go to the total opposite end of the spectrum, protecting their lives from any stress, which is impossible, and we were built to handle stress, which is a reassuring thought when the shit does hit the fan. Life can't be soft and controlled all of the time....life is full of obstacles and challenges, so don't over protect yourself so much that you freak out when something hard comes your way. A good meditation practice and always focusing on how grateful we are for our lives, and truly looking at what you are grateful for, like a roof over our heads, good food, pets, kids, we are not living in a war zone, we are healthy, on and on.....These routine practices really do bring a depth into our lives, so that this "soft" life isn't just about the superficial. Be of service in your life to others, like the planet, animals, people, etc. We don't need so much stuff, something else that is confused with "soft" but very terrible for us and the planet.

[@twoods2914]

We moved from the big City to a smaller state more like a country life style last Jan. We can’t believe the change it’s had on our entire lifestyle, stressors, everything we do. We are still learning but the planning ahead is so true and I resonate with you.

[@SarahNicholls]

Oh how lovely! Such a beautiful change of pace. Enjoy it 💕

[@Yazzyyaz92]

I’m chronically stressed and tired of it. I work from home, have 3 kids, husband does shift work, I’m late for everything, barely sleep and constantly doing cooking and cleaning from the moment I wake up you the minute I lay my head to rest. I feel like I’m doing a crappy job at everything. I’m always in fight or flight. I NEED to make some changes in my life

[@rebeccagreenlee7265]

Me too

[@cheryl3316]

You are doing your best and you should be proud of that. Is everyone fed? Do your kids feel loved? That’s already enough to pat yourself on the back. Let the dishes sit overnight. Give yourself some grace. We’re all doing the best we can.

[@Snotra-if7ml]

A perfect lifestyle for an unemployed and childless person... Just can't imagine a working mom who can incorporate all this good stuff mentioned in this video in her everyday life(

[@SarahNicholls]

Take from the video whatever is helpful for you. Being a working parent definitley makes life more full-on! The point I took from this trend is to try and make life easier for ourselves and to be kind to ourselves.

[@jennifers5778]

I am thankful for quiet days.

[@SarahNicholls]

So peaceful 🫶 I'm finding as I get older I appreciate calm and quiet so much.

[@anashappydays]

When my children were little, I embraced slow living. It completely transformed my life. I make myself my priority and I am a much better person and more focused in what and who really matters in my life. No more running around and feeling like I am not doing enough or able to cope. Priorities really shifted and life is beautiful.❤

[@meesh2015]

Omg how did you do this? With toddlers slowing down feels extra hard😭

[@anashappydays]

@@meesh2015 Just focusing in what is really important and saying no to everything else. With an intention to be present for my children and family moments. I didn’t make too many plans that we had to stick to, just going with how the day unfolded. And of course making time for myself. Taking a bath, reading a book in my room, having my favorite coffee etc…Toddlers teach you to be in the moment because when you are not all hell brake loose 😄

[@SarahNicholls]

This is so beautiful! Thank you for sharing ❤

[@24cammo98]

good presentation! One thing I’ve done is only scheduled appointments on Tuesday, wednesday. or thursday. i was finding I had a little bit of this and a little bit of that almost every day of the week. Of course there are always emergencies, but now I choose, which days I go to the dentist, the doctor and other things. It gives me a few days in a row off on either end, It feels like a vacation. ❤

[@rubyus7332]

You’re so right! We are all deserve a stressless life and we’re capable to create it for ourselves! ❤

[@aleksandrabt9856]

On the beginning of the video I felt very judgmental like : I have 2 small kids, sick husband, job what is she going to tell me… but I absolutely loved that video and I will pay more attention to my life to make it less stressful.. thank you, it was a pleasure to watch it

[@SarahNicholls]

Thanks for sharing!! I hope it was helpful to you 🫶✨️

[@dianamay3609]

New concept for me! Thank you

[@lisaharry5829]

This is exactly what I needed

[@thinnthuzarhtet4823]

I can relate to a lot of things you mentioned that stress you out!!!

[@pegcaptain]

Hadn't heard of this term. Thinking of going back to an OT for help with activities of daily living.

[@niumidissanayake6445]

Your content is addictive! Please keep doing more😍❤ YOU SLAY!!

[@SarahNicholls]

Probably the vest comment I've ever received 😍🥰🥳 thank you!!

[@janesmith3782]

New to your channel Sarah but thank you for this. I am constantly stressed, constantly rushing from thing to thing, exactly as you describe at the start. I am really going to use the tips in this video 😊

[@SarahNicholls]

I remember that feeling so well 🫠 this way of living that I mention in the video has changed my entire life! It starts with your mindset and your habits keep it going. Best of luck to you!

[@andiirish4723]

I'm so glad I just found you on youtube. What a blessing!! Since I love learning & doing new things, it's easy to over schedule. Before I retired my work/life was frenetic. I promised myself I would never do that again but I seriously need to re-evaluate what is important & pare down. Thank you for giving me the boost I need Right Now to do this!!

[@SarahNicholls]

I'm so pleased to hear this was a boost for you! It's so easy to allow things to get too busy and hectic. Thanks for watching 🫶

[@MANDS81]

Loving the new Videos Sarah 👏👏👏 as always, the content always on point, whether you are in the medical field or not, nuggets for everyone.. Thank U!

[@SarahNicholls]

That's so kind Amanda! Thank you 🥰

[@rainydayz7]

I agree this is a nice way to live. But, it's unrealistic. We will always have to do things that stress us out or make us unhappy. Unless you have someone, who basically does everything for you--from cooking, cleaning, navigating through traffic, paying your taxes, doing your job for you, repairing things like your car, managing your kids and spouse, while you lay in a lawn chair pampering yourself, you will never live a fully soft life. I love my job, but it is very fast-paced and sometimes stressful. I'm not going to quit because I get tired or there are things I dislike dealing with. I get through it. No matter how much you try to buffer your mind and body from the demands of just living to live a life of ease and mental comfort, there will ALWAYS be challenges. Sorry to rain on the Zen here, but the best we can do is accept Life's challenges as they come, but find moments of sanctuary for ourselves. These trends of striving for zero stress in life are non-sustainable and just not reality. 😢

[@CAGChannel1]

My husband and I had a good laugh at this with two of our kids who are medically fragile, both with chromosome triplications. We kind of look at life the opposite now, you don’t know what you CAN handle until you have to. Life will mess up plans in a hot minute, and I think we have to accept and embrace that sometimes. This video seems like some kind of fever dream to a lot of us, but cheers to you if you can really do all that is blissful here. But please don’t feel bad if , like me, you had to find big humor in this because of life circumstances that just are right now.

[@lindaanderson4990]

I think the point is to be aware...do what you can. Get up early enough to not be running late every day. Be prepared for events ahead of time..buy and wrap the gift. Plan meals so you aren't stressed about meals and wasting money on fast food. There are so many small things which can help reduce some stress while raising kids...don't overbook their schedule or yours. Enjoy your family time more and less panic mode helps the kids also. Best wishes to you.

[@CAGChannel1]

@@lindaanderson4990 well, good luck!! Seriois hats off if you can pull it off without life constantly pulling the rug out in all its crazy ways .

[@SarahNicholls]

I'm sorry life is throwing you lots of curveballs and that this video was shown to you when it probably feels completely at odds with your reality. It sounds like you're doing an amazing job and my intention wasn't to shame anyone or make you feel bad about life. I agree, this way of living is totally impossible if you're just trying to keep your head above water every day. I hope you're doing well.

[@debphelan-devon7928]

Thank you so much once again for the incredible advice 💖

[@SarahNicholls]

You're so welcome 🙏 thanks for watching!!

[@yashvi.tuteja]

What an amazing video. I feel so inspired to live 'that' life. Thank you so much.

[@SarahNicholls]

Glad you enjoyed it! Go for it 🙌🌸😘

[@clareashton1834]

Love this 💗

[@_thehappyhomemaker_]

I can't believe I have just discovered your channel. Thank you ❤ this video was so helpful xxx

[@SarahNicholls]

So glad to have you here!! Thanks for watching 🫶✨️

[@millyc2044]

Such a great video! Thanks for sending this message out. There are too much productivity and hustle energy to female being the boss babe. Having this type of message is such a balance and a blessing! ❤

[@SarahNicholls]

Thank you!! Yes, I'm a recovering hustle-boss-babe 😵‍💫😆

[@shellym9657]

Thank you

[@georginat6051]

Really enjoyed the video. I am currently looking for a job after having quite a lot of time at home. I was worried that I will be going back to a hectic, stressful working life but am going to try and remember that being productive is not about being stressed. I can do a really good job and be very productive without loading stress onto myself and trying to do a hundred things at the same time (and trying to second guess what everyone thinks of me :)

[@SarahNicholls]

Yes!! Being productive doesn't have to mean being stressed. So true 🙌

[@dani45216]

I'm also a doctor in the NHS, currently in fy1 so I can't leave yet, but work is the main thing stressing me out :( looking forward to finishing fy2 and then starting my own aesthetic practice!

[@SarahNicholls]

The struggle is real! If you want to talk about it, I offer free 30 minute coaching calls. Just drop me an email [e-mail] 😘

[@a.k.akarin]

I feel this ❤ from 2020 until end of last year I was very much in my villain era. I had finally gotten out of an emotionally abusive relationship end 2020 and I was not going to let anyone treat me like that ever again, so I worked myself to the bone to get myself away from that life. It’s been 3 years since I left, I’ve healed a lot and I think it’s time to lay those weapons down and enter my soft era ☺️

[@SarahNicholls]

I am so pleased to hear you got out of that relationship. What strength you have! Hope you're doing well 💗

[@lilarose9348]

You’re voice and accent are a beautiful addition to the soft life. It sounds relaxing and classy.

[@SarahNicholls]

Oh thank you!

[@idaliarice4773]

excellent video… all valid points… and i love the pup!

[@SarahNicholls]

Thanks for watching!

[@louisetanner8628]

Great ideas thank you. Definitely need more blank spaces in my calendar

[@SarahNicholls]

100%

[@Christina_DiStefano]

I think we’re all insecure about being good enough as we are and so we feel we must push ourselves to extremes. It’s also the influence and repercussion of a decade of hustle culture being bragged about on social media. A lot to unlearn but not impossible. Your field especially. It’s unreal the long hours doctors and nurses are expected to endure. PS Thank you for making this video 🤗

[@SarahNicholls]

Thank you!!

[@dianaordonez12]

I have been struggling with getting enough sleep for 5+ years now. My sleep got worse when I started working in a hospital setting. It’s because my life has never been aligned with such an early wake up time and early bed time. It’s impossible for me to get to bed by 9 unless I neglect exercise, cooking, playing with my pets, showering. I’m not sure if I am trying to do too much or if this schedule is hard for everyone.

[@Humanessence778]

Good suggestions and I love your dog.

[@SarahNicholls]

Thank you 🥰 she's the star of the show!

[@GetSchmidtdone]

Great video! ❤

[@mariatsipe2763]

Excellent advice ❤❤❤

[@SarahNicholls]

Glad you think so!

[@stellaetta2811]

THANKYOU❤

[@ericaarvizzigno3768]

Soft life of your dreams

[@letty88]

I like hearing her voice !!!

[@drdanbeese]

Great video 🎉 well done Sarah 😊

[@SarahNicholls]

Thanks Dan! ✨️

[@SilviaGarciaRodriguez-gc8jt]

Loved it!!

[@SarahNicholls]

Thank you!!

[@shavonbirdsall7806]

This was wonderful and so helpful!! When you said take care of your wellness or you will take care of your illness 🤯🤯🤯

[@SarahNicholls]

It's such a tough life lesson but it's so true!!

[@sophiyaqadeer5315]

Love the video. Keep it up

[@SarahNicholls]

Appreciate it!

[@jameysmith1103]

Hello from Florida! Just found your channel and subscribed.

[@SarahNicholls]

Yay! Thanks for being here 🥰

[@kazhdomusvoyo7924]

Nice colours of the background Liked the video Subscribed 😊

[@SarahNicholls]

Thank you so much 😀

[@tquirkyt7118]

✨Wow✨ You are just delightful❣️I’m so glad to have found your channel…How do you not have 1M subscribers⁉️❤️✨

[@SarahNicholls]

Wow, thank you so much!!!

[@nadagendeel8456]

What about your (work as a doctor) sara, how do you go soft living with that? Asking coz I'm a doctor myself and I can't get over that :/

[@Nora.Frank.]

The realisation that we are putting our faith, and often our *lives* in the hands of doctors who are having such little sleep that it’s pretty much a given that they will be making mistakes, and literally cannot be functioning at anywhere close to full mental capacity, has been a terrifying one for me, especially as a chronically ill individual. This goes for all healthcare professionals, nurses, HCAs, and all other hands on supporting staff, including the cleaners and canteen staff, etc. Everything is interconnected, everyone is connected, every interaction matters. We *all* need enough rest, and we *all* have a responsibility to look after ourselves as best we can so that we *can* look after others, and allow that care to cycle back to us as and when we may need it. Blah blah - Put your own oxygen mask on first - blah blah - Self-care is vital, not selfish - blah blah - One cannot pour from an empty cup - blah etc. etc. It’s only when our own needs are fulfilled that we have enough to give to others, too. Sadly, I can’t remember the last time I spoke to someone who felt this was even an option, myself included…

[@mickett]

look into incline bed theory. it is just simply raising the head side of your bed 15 cm or 5-6 inches. Animals sleep in an incline if they can.

[@SarahNicholls]

Interesting point! Not sure what it has to do with this video? (Not trying to be rude, just curious)

[@mickett]

@@SarahNicholls wow soo rude xD joke joke! Easy free natural health. How to feel better. Wake up more relaxed and be less stressed in the softer life. You just felt like a person who would think something like this is awesome :)

[@mickett]

Sleeping inclined increase circulation in the body and lowers heartrate alot among many other benefits. Look it up :) it can be step 11

[@SarahNicholls]

@mickett Oh I see! That's cool, thank you! We actually recommend it to patients with gastric reflux too. I can confirm my dog also loves to sleep at an incline. Thanks for the info 🙌

[@MajesticFerret]

How to live a soft life: 1. Have or make a lot of money. 2. Don't work or stress yourself too hard in order to accomplish this. That's it. What else would you really need?

[@delvenaothman-eu9zy]

Is there a way to live a soft life with a husband and 3 boys ages 2, 6 & 7? I feel like my sons are all so active and make me busy all the time

[@lovedandabundant6384]

❤❤❤

[@the_greenhouse_gardener]

Also called slow living I've been doing this for years

[@SarahNicholls]

Love it!!

[@the_greenhouse_gardener]

I always practices slow oiling as I do live in the highlands, but since losing my husband in December, he was only 59, I'm 54, I realize even more now that life is just too short. You only get one life, some people choose to go out and live life fast and furiously, sky diving, tightrope walking, running marathons, others (like me) live slow, redecorate the house, spend more time in the garden grow my own produce, cosy by the fire on rainy cold days,get outside in the sun and cook outside in the sunny days, I'm going to quit my job in a couple of years and try and make my cottage table top small business pay for itself

[@SarahNicholls]

​@the_greenhouse_gardener I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your husband 😞 how are you doing? 59 is so young. I'm glad to hear you're spending time redecorating and gardening etc. Those things must bring a lot of comfort and purpose to your days. We sadly lost my stepdad in September and my Mum has been dooms the same sorts of things as you. It's a stark reminder of how short and precious life is and I'm glad to hear you're filling your days with beautiful activities. I hope you're doing well.

[@ina.beauty]

Hi! I enjoy your chanel! But What to do When you have a special need kid and the sleep is a big problem? Because he didnt sleep, he cries. And with this came the craving, the anxiety, the frustation

[@CAGChannel1]

Hugs from a mom with two profoundly disabled daughters. Read my comment to the commentator above yours. Find humor, lots and lots of humor, everywhere. Something that was life changing for us was a service dog. The process was hard and very stressful, but once she was trained to the specific needs, she will alert before the monitors, allowing me my first full few hours of sleep because I didn’t have to half sleep listening for the monitors. If at all possible, when your child is the right age, push though the looooooong, often stressful process of a service dog if needed and if you can. Seriously, that first block of sleep when I knew the dog would alert, knew to my core that she would, was such a night of extreme gratitude. So, I guess, lots and lots of humor ( even dark humor, all kinds of humor) and gratitude when you do find things or moments of reprieve that help- deep gratitude for any “sparks” if you will. When my girls were babies, I literally could not picture surviving, so I hear you, I get you - hugs!!

[@SarahNicholls]

That sounds incredibly challenging, I'm sorry. I don't have all the answers I'm afraid. I hope you have a good support network around you. Sending love and strength ❤

[@ina.beauty]

@@SarahNicholls Thanks !!!

[@lilylebowsky5908]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@ginandtonic5888]

Sleep is so important. As well a blank space. Also, how do you get your eyes so white?

[@SarahNicholls]

Definitely! I don't do anything to make my eyes white.

[@lindseybounds]

Hellooo!!!!

[@DivineTim3]

How would you go about informing coworkers that you're not interested in toxic/gossip chatting? I find that this is a big stressor of mine.

[@SarahNicholls]

Great question! I made a video here where I talk about setting boundaries. I also included a free cheatsheet with examples of how to have those awkward conversations. Let me know what you think! kzbin.info/www/bejne/gYLGmpJ9dst1isk

[@samanta0951]

Thinking about soft life is such a privilege. Only if you’re healthy and in safety you can think about these things

[@SarahNicholls]

Absolutely! Being healthy and safe are the top priorities for sure.

[@halieransom]

Oof this. I'm a therapist in community mental health and I'm tired of being so stressed all the time.

[@SarahNicholls]

Thank you for the work you do! Go easy on yourself 💕

[@MANDS81]

Prepping...time management Yes Yes Yes 2024

[@harrieth7003]

Hmm I’m stressed out but don’t think I have reason to be 😂 my tolerance is clearly very low haha. I’m a SAHM mum of 3 so can’t really get rid of them 😄 and I’m retraining but excited for that

[@erinsnook8537]

Bring home with 3 littles is extremely stressful, and it’s a job you can’t clock out from. You have every reason to feel the way you do!

[@SarahNicholls]

You're allowed to be stressed! Being a SAHM is a full time job. You're amazing 🙌 I hope you get time to give yourself little pockets of time for yourself.

[@Craftgirly]

Burning candles, incense sticks etc are toxic to your pets respiratory system. I use battery candles and if I want to burn incense, I do it in my home office with a closed door. My pets health is more important than burning toxic chemical smells and having a trendy candle.

[@sondancewellness5215]

There are natural candles and incense. Research it.

[@desertbluesplaylist7550]

Just buy the natural non-toxic candles, plenty around

[@luckygrewal4421]

In which country you live ?

[@SarahNicholls]

The UK!

[@judithsphilosophy]

Does soft life sound good? Sure. Could I myself implement some of this in my life? Probably. However… a lot of what is said is from a point of extreme privilege. Thinking of single moms, people having to juggle several jobs just to make ends meet… “just have a nice pastry and prioritise yourself… invest in bed sheets… pay someone to do your chores…” I mean… that’s a slap in the face… come on… of course life is better then, but many of the great ideas here are simply not achievable for a lot of people. Does that mean that the content is “wrong” in itself? Not necessarily, but it would be nice to be more honest to call it “The (probably white) rich peoples’ guide to soft life.”

[@SarahNicholls]

You're right, I definitely should acknowledge my privilege here. I realise I am so fortunate in ways that many others aren't and I don't want to gloss over that. This video is meant to serve as a reminder to treat ourselves well and recognise that we deserve happiness, self-respect and joy in our lives. I've spent most of my life making things harder for myself or not feeling deserving in one way or another, so I view this trend is a celebration of viewing ourselves as worthy. It's not intended to cause offense, and I'm sorry if it did!

[@lindaanderson4990]

I think maybe the point...be aware. I like the idea of using apps to do things. Order groceries for delivery is one...when my kids were small I basically bought the same groceries every week. Place order, have delivered. Pay bills set them on auto pay. Get up early enough to not be rushed. Have meals thought out ahead. A few little changes might help. I raised kids as a single mom...they learned how to use the washer and dryer, make simple meals grilled cheese, scrambled eggs. The implementation might be different for everyone but small changes can make a difference. Start somewhere! Best wishes ❤

[@lindalastovickova9628]

May I ask, how having kids and taking care of them fits into the "soft life"? I am just bursting out with laughter:) It's very cute to have capuchinos and folded white towels lying around but, really, with kids?:) Somehow unrealistic, somehow late adolescent or single lady with cats/dogs like idea, rather than real life compatible.

[@SarahNicholls]

I don't have kids, so can't comment from that perspective. Just sharing how this mindset shift has helped me go from completely stressed and making my own life harder, to living an easier life. There are other people in the comments with kids and there are plenty of youtube videos on similar topics from people with kids, so if you're curious about how to make it work, please go check those out!

[@emmegirl6586]

Looks like her doggy wants to live the soft life too 😂 🐕

[@kapesh344]

😂 that doggy is clearly already living the soft life❤

[@emmegirl6586]

@@kapesh344 touché 😂

[@SarahNicholls]

She has the softest life 😂 living the dream!!

[@Coconutcutiecleans]

🩷

[@juliemoore6957]

AMEN!! This is epidemic!

[@HipsterSpinster_]

Ugh why can't American radiators look like those. They look like they would be way more efficient. I spend 400/month on electric heating in a 750 square foot two story house.

[@SarahNicholls]

Oh gosh that is expensive!! Are they electric heaters? Ours are good, but I always think they are very ugly 😂

[@HipsterSpinster_]

@@SarahNicholls I feel like they look so cute. Almost like wainscoting. Yes they are electric. I have to get a mini split system soon because I can't keep spending thousands on electricity. I keep my house at 58 to 60 degrees too, so it's not like I'm using a lot to heat to a high temp!

[@SarahNicholls]

@HipsterSpinster_ oh my gosh, that's so much money just to be at that temperature 🫣 cost of living in the US is no joke

[@adventuresblissconnection4198]

“…take EXQUISITE care of yourself.”

[@SarahNicholls]

YES 🙌✨️🫶

[@mikitimiki8604]

Are u still working in healthcare?❤

[@SarahNicholls]

Yes! I'm a locum Emergency Medicine doctor

[@Morgilwen]

Nah I'm pretty sure my 2 year old is the CEO of my life right now...

[@SarahNicholls]

2 year old tend to have that effect, don't they?!

[@BAW47]

Step 1. Move out of the US 😅

[@SarahNicholls]

Things are crazy there right now 🫠

[@BAW47]

@@SarahNicholls Sarah it's horrible. If somehow a deranged, orange clown 🤡 is elected, I am moving. He's a threat to democracy and international diplomacy. It's terrifying, for the entire world. And I let it consume me.

[@christine-my3gd]

I dont think you are the only ones who work a lot

[@marilynshelton2371]

Soft life? Boss babe? Who comes up with this stuff?

[@SarahNicholls]

I believe it's the tiktok gods 😅

[@marilynshelton2371]

@@SarahNicholls Oh, gosh! Gen Z setting the trends again.

[@SarahNicholls]

@@marilynshelton2371 exactly 😂 I can't keep up! Most trends I ignore, but I actually like this one.

[@cheryl3316]

You really shouldn’t waste your time explaining your videos and saying that you should’ve mention this and that… you don’t owe anyone an explanation. Their opinions are just that. I’m a single mother of 2 toddlers and not well off by any means, but I’m practicing the “soft life” when I can squeeze a minute in for myself. I don’t have to be rich to take things away from your video. Sounds like a lot of victim mentality and whining.

[@SarahNicholls]

Thank you 🫶✨️ wow, you sound like you're doing an amazing job! My mum was a single mother of myself and my two older siblings for many years and I'm in awe of the strength she had. She made life so fun for us as kids and never complained or got stressed, so I guess she was also living the soft life. Your kids are lucky to have you 💕

[@SuperYogagirl]

I think this is great. But I have to say, it does sound like white privilege. You have this option. I am not sure if people living day to day would have this opportunity. However, if a person does have this opportunity then I 💯 agree.

[@SarahNicholls]

That is probably true to an extent and I should have acknowledged that privilege in the video. I can only speak from my experience, and I'll never know the extra pressures and prejudices faced by people of colour that I don't have to live through day to day. Interestingly, the 'soft life' trend was started by Nigerian influencers.

[@cheryl3316]

It’s a mindset and little efforts that someone chooses to take. You don’t have to be white to enjoy your life. One easy step is enjoying the moment, and being grateful for what you do have. Other races are capable of that.