Are you really... depressed?

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Nicolas Berney
Are you really depressed? Today we will speak about depression and how it differentiates from the feelings of sadness, melancholy and other similar emotions.
This video is adaptation on the ideas of Prof Dr. Jordan B Peterson, and it will explain the difference between difficult life situations and the symptoms of depression. Also we will explain why you might not actually be depressed, and how you just might have a horrible time in your life.
We will also explain what depression is and isn’t on a scientific, biochemical level using two hormones - Dopamine and Serotonin, and also we will touch upon the idea that the symptoms of depression and low status are pretty much the same, so the two can easily be mistaken.
So, are you really... depressed?
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[@atteimmonen9110]

The thing is a prolonged depression usually ends up with you having a horrible life. You cannot continue in your job or studies and in worst case you lose your friends and loved ones cause you have no energy to care of these relationships. Then when you are finally trying to come back from the depression you have a lot of obstacles to face while still probably having pretty low mental energy. And a vicious cycle begins. Building your life from the ground up is possible though and who knows maybe you will end up in a better place you otherwise would.

[@SalveMonesvol]

You are mixing chronic depression with circunstancial depression. The guy from you example was depressed, but not necessarily chronically depressed.

[@diogenesofsinope7465]

Circumstantial depression isn’t real lol I’m not a sad person usually but if my whole family dies in a car crash why wouldn’t I be sad?

[@thiagofonsato3682]

Short and direct into the point of the question, for a month I was taking anti-depressives because I thought I was with depression, but when I look back at my life what I thought was a depressed life was just a bad embased life, that's why the anti-d. weren't working. The hardest part at all is to assume your life is horrible instead of taking medicines and think it will solve every thing in your life. I'm glad I foud your channel, you're helping a lot, keep up the good work, you're awesome

[@DysorderNet]

man, your videos are my new binge watch show. whoever youre, wherever you are, ily

[@purbasha2829]

Aye I watch your videos 😂

[@pixelwortel9578]

So im not depressed but have a horrible life. This makes me feel worse

[@wyattmcconchie3889]

Then do something to change your life

[@blaine8650]

Wyatt Mcconchie ok but how do I change my life if the whole reason I hate it is because I hate my self and my body??

[@wyattmcconchie3889]

Mom Skirt I have major insecurities about myself on many different levels. I have finally worked up the energy to tell my depression to suck it. Slowly, I’ve been changing small parts of my life. (Working out, changing eating habits, seeking counseling, getting financially healthy, etc.) Yes, I understand deeply how draining it is every day, but I keep giving myself pep talks and kicking my own ass to change my ways. Basically, if you hate yourself, take the things you hate and get rid of them one step at a time. Yes it takes effort but it’s worth it.

[@LegalAutomation]

John loses weight when he drinks? What a lucky guy

[@marshmallowsandtoast1529]

i definitely agree with most of it, as someone who is diagnosed with MDD, and is on two anti depressants, i caught myself and enabled myself into this loop without realising. i said I'm depressed, this is my life forever, instead of saying, i am dealing with depression, and i am treating it, now i have to keep pushing forward until that phase of my life is gone.

[@hesham8721]

I really dont know if I'm depressed or if I have a horrible life,but I feel extremely lonely right now. I wish I had a boyfriend or at least some friends I can relate to,not friends that I need to "blend in" with... God! I just need help!

[@glorytoarstotzka330]

man i really appreciate that u even made subtitles, keep up the good work

[@kasunwithana2262]

'Guy with Engineering degree has to work as a janitor because his mom's got cancer. He's getting alcoholic and secluding himself from friends. He DOESN'T have depression. It's just a really "horrible horrible life" Guy has an awesome life but doesn't feel like getting out of bed in the morning. Now he's got depression' WTF dude!!!! You've confused depression with an existential crisis. I don't know about you, but a lot of people out there get Depression WHEN THEY HAVE A HORRIBLE HORRIBLE LIFE, not when everything's peachy. People don't just wake up in the morning and get depressed, they have to have a serious problem in their life for depression to get triggered. "The real cure lies in taking responsibility and putting your life together". Try doing that when you have depression!! And if you went through some really horrible shit and you're in a constant bad mood, you should meet a qualified psychologist or psychiatrist without trying to "take responsibility and put your life back together" all by yourself which, if you have depression, would only end up making things worse

[@DragonScytheX]

Depression and being sad are two different things. Sadness is a natural reaction that occurs in response to a tragedy in real life. Sadness is temporary, but the potential to see happiness is greater than that of someone who is depressed. When someone’s depressed, their emotions are not properly regulated. Although there’s not necessarily wrong with someones life. Depression is not natural. Being sad in response to bad situations is natural. Although in cases where bad things occur on a daily basis, depression CAN manifest, but there are people that can recover when the bad things end. Although a person may not have a particularly bad life, depression can shift the persons perception in thinking that their life is bad when in reality it isn’t. Think of it like this: If you were in a dark room and happiness was a lightbulb, being sad would simply be turning off the lightbulb with a flick of a button. When bad things happen, flicking the switch off is the natural response. If you were depressed, once the lightbulb is out, no matter how many times you flick the switch, the lightbulb wont turn on. It needs to be fixed. The point is, you’ve lost control of the ability to regulate your emotions if you’re depressed. It is true that depression can manifest from a series of bad things, but it is also true that when bad things happen you can simply just be sad as a natural response.

[@indrada-rf2vu]

Yes trying to put your life back together without a babysitter will "only make things worse"

[@klaaskolpert8431]

You're right. This guy is pretending to be a psychotherapist, but he's not qualified to give any counsel.

[@ilexcorp]

So i don't have a depression i'm just a miserable piece of shit great😃

[@noamias4897]

Now I don’t know if I’m depressed or just have a horrible life, I’m diagnosed with depression but this makes me question it. But I’ve felt this way since I was 8 so I’m probably depressed with a sad life

[@chicagoboy279]

Noamias who diagnosed it

[@samanthakim1975]

Who old are you?

[@noamias4897]

Juan M a psychiatrist?

[@noamias4897]

Rita Rodrigues I’m 16 in 2 weeks

[@noamias4897]

@Sxkes Yeah actually. For the better, thankfully. Weird looking back on this comment. My psychiatrist told me to at least try taking medication for my depression, and it worked wonders. Luckily for me it worked splendidly the first time, which is very uncommon apparently. The same medicine made by another company doesn't work for me at all, so I was very lucky. Thinking back on the time before I took my medicine I can't believe that I pulled through with it. I'm thankful that I have help now. The only downside is that if I've been drinking the medicine stops working for a day or so.

[@hamedhaidari8658]

I feel depressed because I have a horrible life! :/

[@ProjectBetterSelf]

Well, at least it's something you can work on and improve! :)

[@hamedhaidari8658]

Project Better Self Your videos are very inspirational 👌 thumbs up!

[@l3n693]

Think positive and do something about the horrible factors, if there's really nothing you can do about something, get over it.

[@weltschmerz2805]

same

[@oaka5639]

At least we are two now... cheers 🍻

[@eri4965]

my friend always thinks that she has depression or anything else , It's annoying especially when she is NOT depressed ,she does not have all the symptoms not even close , but she stil tries to find quotes that justify it ,like why , what can i do

[@orobout]

There's a third category to me, people that feel "depressed" because of the world they live in. In that case, it's not life situation you can do something about nor hormones, it's on a rational, existencial and philosophical level. And in that case, would that be called depression ? I'd rather have them sorted as "type of depression" than "it is, or it's not", what you describe in that video is clinical depression.

[@adventureswithdom5081]

Orobou do you mean people who are depressed by things out of their own control?

[@jamesryantaylor6391]

"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.” Krisnamurti 'The cost of sanity in this society, is a certain level of alienation' Terrance McKenna

[@chicagoboy279]

Relatable

[@ricardoo.s2348]

Orobou No you're just pretentious.

[@Victoria-ij3cb]

I know I'm two years late, but there's a name for this and it's called "existential depression." My first bout with depression was existential and it eventually turned into a very chronic depression, so please take it seriously if you're dealing with this (anyone that might be reading)

[@Fettclone1]

The name of this channel should be Thanks, I'm Cured.

[@guesswhoami4723]

Serotonin is a happiness hormone like dopamine The sadness hormone is Courtozol

[@ProjectBetterSelf]

Exactly. But the video states that low levels of serotonin is associated with depression. But thanks for sharing the info!

[@ashute222]

*cortosol

[@tooooomboh]

*testosterone

[@marshmallowsandtoast1529]

Guess Who Am I cortisol is the stress response and is mainly associated with anxiety. the reason serotonin is associated with depression is because you may have low levels of it, or your body may not produce a serotonin response for things that should, like spending time with your family, or achievements or hobbies :)

[@l3n693]

Yea cortisol is not the sadness hormone, it's the stress hormone, dopamine is the hormone that makes us continue to doing something and serotonin is the hormone that "controls" our self-worth and confidence.

[@blissvii9756]

To everyone who's saying "wow I'm not depressed my life just sucks" you're supposed to 1: find out why your life "sucks" and 2: Remove, change, fix or embrace it. Evolve. Don't dwell.

[@josie3221]

yes i am really depressed. i'm not sad, i'm completely empty.

[@cgc7032]

And what if my terrible life and a lot of life problems starts because of depression? and because of it, I cannot begin to solve them.

[@genzozone8324]

I sort of agree. Most of my problem came from escapism. Just want to go home and spend all my time with my computer, be it programming, watching anime, checking some subreddits daily, or else. People say that I'm dull -- I am -- but so far I enjoy my time alone. Can't stand being in social interaction for too long. Although depression is not always black and white. Just because someone have a relatively perfect life, doesn't mean they're automatically depressed when he/she have the symptom, vice versa.

[@محمدعبدالله-ظ6ب7ز]

I'm very depressed. I used to cry in the park when I was a kid. I had it from youth.

[@cadaverous6]

Welp, I’m just gonna throw all my meds away!

[@KhmerL0VEKhmer]

I've heard that antidepressants increase suicide...it makes you do things that you wanted to do but just hadn't yet...

[@EddyConejo]

*No, you're not*

[@anarcxh8502]

this happened 2 years ago thought that too(a ton of people are experts now a days) and thought how pathetic,weak and whiny I am was too scared to actually go thought my plan but was begging to get killed cause I was too pussy to take my life.I'd say maybe stop trying to be Dr.House

[@capricon9178]

Wow.... The explanation in this video is fantastic. Thank you. I have subscribed

[@averysmith7004]

I have a great life. My parents give me a shelter as well as food and water. They aren't strict at all. I am kinda productive but I'm up all night and sleep all day and I dread getting out of bed at 5pm. I know it's almost definitely an edgy phase and I'm glad I have really good friends to talk to but they never wanna hear about me because I'm being edgy so I just try to be positive around them.

[@Shorjok]

what if I had the things mentioned needed for a happy life but got depression for no reason and lost all of them in the process?

[@ThePatniks]

It can be one thing or another for someone or both if they're lucky.

[@inkorporeal204]

Thanks, but now... How can I get out of having a horrible life?

[@l3n693]

You actually forgot to mention CBT(Cognitive Behaviour Therapy), which is a therapy done by psychologists to change how depressed people think about the things they have/happen in life. Because depression can be overcome with changing the mindset to thinking positively. And while antidepressants can help, they're most effectively used with CBT.

[@RobertMOdell]

And what if you think not only is your own life going nowhere, but also everyone else's life is going nowhere?

[@SteveFard]

Yep I am depressed

[@darkness4996]

Im still not completely sure. Yes theres no reason for me being sad. But something inside tell me i should be sad but outside im not sad not in public or private. Its like my nody for some weird reason wants me to be sad for some kind of satisfaction or something

[@hupthe_poddling7513]

My mother is having diabetes . I feel depressed everyday thinking about loosing her. I need some advice pls.

[@hyperdespite]

Nice video. Thank you.

[@c1mitov]

Another great video! Big fan here, I just started recently to work with VideoScribe and I am curious to know if you create your videos on the same software, or which other/s do you use? Big ups, bro!

[@g-wm6392]

this video is really really good . it constructs and deconstructs how to identify you issues and how to tackle them

[@worldtops3453]

which software is it?

[@scarlyt1017]

Why is this in my recommendation?? Ive got no worries 😎😎

[@nickvang7]

But one can experience the emotion of anxiety without necessarily having an anxiety disorder. So can't you become depressed without it being the disorder? I think a depression disorder would be when you become depressed without a proper reason, but I still think anybody can become depressed in the right circumstances (a bad life).

[@lizzyleea]

Nick van Ginkel I'd call that simply sad or stressed out.

[@mathijstjeerdsma7181]

Another awesome video. Keep up the good work dude👍

[@berserker8884]

The huge problem with depression is that you are not able to keep the life together and you just watch it slowly fall appart and then you have HUGE problems AND depression, which is the worst

[@PrakharBaisakhiyar]

Well this prooves that I am not dpressed, but in a miserable situation, That I truly want to get off of...

[@cristinedemesapanek366]

how about being in miserable hopeless trapped and always wanting to prefer to be dead? a day doesn't go by without thinking of suicide? since the person feels like nothing will change once he is gone or he is better of dead and see's himself as a waste of space, burden due to incredibly low self-confidence, self-worth,

[@Sazazezer]

I think it gets at least a few basic points down. Depression is a complicated subject so there was no way a five minute summary was ever going to catch all circumstances. In a summary context, its points are clear in that feelings of depression can occur either in part due to depression itself or due to living a horrible life (and usually it is a mixture of the two). In these cases, you should aim to do your best to remove the horrible life aspects. You may still be left with the depression itself afterwards, but you will have at least improved your overall circumstances and that can then give you the space to focus on managing the depression.

[@CTimmerman]

So aside from the alcohol, my life is rather horrible atm.

[@vasalexander5784]

Sorry i can not understand these people who have depression or claim they have and at the same time they are doing well at many aspects of their lives which is a great thing. However this shows to me they are kind of ungrateful. I do experience many episodes of serious depression myself lately but.........you guessed it..i do NOT do well at the rest unfortunately. A combination of personal errors,unresolved weaknesses and fears and an ugly economical situation in my country resulted at my personal failure. So i believe someone who is doing well at othet aspects of his/her life is much easier to go through this.

[@petrpiper6978]

You sound like you're giving up

[@petrpiper6978]

And yeah somv people are just ungrateful and entitled, wish you the best

[@GermanyKitKat]

Depression can be sth for your mind like a influenza for your body. your life can be great, but with a illness you still dont feel good. you should know that as sb with depression

[@vasalexander5784]

Ich nicht Yes i know. I may see this through my own eyes. If i didn't have these (real) problems i described earlier i most likely wouldn't have depression. I know this since i didn't have in the past not like this i experience now anyway So yes i may see the problem through my own eyes and beliefs but yes it does exist to people who don't have any serious economical and personal problem i know. You do have depression if you feel depressed regardless of your status or personal life.

[@MMTGarage_Media]

Well, I just found out I had depression from this video

[@blasder007]

this made think a lot, maybe i am depressed and i have to put my shit together, thanks

[@alonsocardenal3328]

At least I know I don't fit quite into the category of depression...

[@joachimbrams4324]

Hi dude, awesome content. Which program/online software do you use to create these videos? Thanks in advance, keep it up :)

[@jacobb8397]

Ah, this one is easy, I don't even have to watch the video to get it right! The answer is yes! :)

[@Thaqlain]

Hi mate. amazing work. Your videos focus a lot on relevant issues and are very interestingly made. I wanted to reach you out for something that would be good for both of us. you can reach me on any of the social media platforms.

[@KonEl-BlackZero]

Best episode of Down the Rabbit Hole

[@9nikola]

Basically, depression is when you're sad for no reason whatsoever and most people deal with it by taking a pill. The important thing is to choose the correct pill.

[@catagaming7461]

Im not depressed. thanks

[@strategossable1366]

I can't place the accent, where are you from?

[@AirElegant]

As good as Proactive Thinker

[@chillaxer8273]

Im happy :)

[@fadlinugraha347]

You can't tell me to blame depression for my miserable life!

[@ThatDumbDude]

3:22 Thats me right there

[@DianaHernandez-fe9io]

Is sad but sometimes I get depressed for things that happened years ago, like a breaktrough etc

[@marclb6751]

this videos r just beautifully revealing and lucid

[@marclb6751]

thank u!

[@marclb6751]

taking notes on every video, a tru guru

[@practicalsuccess]

Agree!

[@cocothetimeless8382]

*gets hyped and immediately goes to buy SSRIs*

[@dommhardy]

So I'm not depressed. My life just suck! Whitch feels much worse to say.

[@possiblyaplace7751]

Me being 12 and realising I either have a shitty life and should die or I have deppression and should also still die

[@calinescualexandru554]

Cool.

[@_baller]

You cant be depressed from a horrible life? Lol that's standard depression

[@florianf22]

Now, I officially know that I have a depression

[@viktorhaugdal2564]

the voice crack at 0:01

[@pwhite644]

Yay now I know I'm depressed, my life is pretty nice but when I don't take my happy pill I'm miserable

[@pwhite644]

@Syed Ali Yasar Bukhari yep diagnosis scizo affective disorder the bi-polar variety

[@pwhite644]

@Syed Ali Yasar Bukhari took a while to get meds that work for me, but generally speaking, I live a normal life now.

[@kitsurubami]

Jordan Peterson huh? I knew there was something wrong about this channel.

[@cestlavie6040]

0:35 I don't have any of that so am I living a miserable life?😐

[@cestalia]

Or unproductive life 😂

[@kippen64]

Fail to understand why people need friends.

[@ariekanibalie]

I've always doubted whether low-status service workers can even get diagnosed as depressed, kind of like you never hear about people working at McDonald's or as a sales clerk suffering from 'burn out'. Could be different in Murrica, but most doctors indeed would inquire whether those feelings of silent despair and hopelessness don't just stem from having a shit job, before prescribing pills or therapy. Then again, it's the apparent inability or unwillingness to change a bad situation that might be a sign of depression. Either way, if you're one of those incel failsons who lives out his parents' basement scourging the internet looking for feminists or liberals to blame for your miserable excuse of a life, you need to take a serious look at yourself.

[@skreetdiscreet2003]

Sorry

[@Cicada-eg4pw]

It's way worst if you suffer from anxiety like i do You don't know if your depressed or just a lazy "pig" person than you wonder everyday if you really are depressed or just lazy :(

[@Karlbrussolo]

You got something going on here! your content is very interesting and you have a real good talent! You def got my Subscription :)

[@Szchandler]

who in this fucking world can live not depressed at all? I'm afraid I have the answer for my own question, those living in full ignorance live blissfully, now I know how Cypher felt like.

[@someonesmatesprit]

I have multiple friends that say they have depression, but literally nothing in their behaviors has proven it. All it boils down to is, "I'm sad because [bad thing] happened once and I refuse to become a better person and learn from my experiences. Instead I'm gonna cowtow to it in every aspect of my life until I can do nothing but act sad and talk about how depressed I am." Funny, too, is it's always teenage girls pulling this crap, who are, most commonly, full of way too many emotions and way too much drama. Needless to say, I've started calling bullshit when I meet a teen girl who claims to have depression. I would consider this a toxic point of view but I've yet to meet any teenage girl with real, genuine depression. It's like "I'm actually depressed" is a neato icebreaker with teen girls, which makes someone with real depression hard to believe. Sucks.

[@darkbacon1691]

3:52 my world is on the left

[@enno1162]

Love this video

[@alejandrohernandez3767]

Teenagers say they are depressed to get attention while actually depressed people are suffering and wish they could tell someone

[@undyne3366]

No

[@chicagoboy279]

Ok youtube you know everything about me

[@kai9720]

Why was this in my recommendations?

[@ronk_thecat4002]

Prince Ea clone who?

[@CaptainFracture]

yes

[@parma3925]

Dude really said you can only be depressed if you're life is great and you're still sad You might be mixing up cause and symptoms here

[@portiasnowdon9443]

Did anyone else tune out the second he mentioned Jordan Peterson.. ugh

[@Pilgrym52]

I'll never forget that Barbara Dunkleman said she's an introvert.

[@anakasapu2448]

OMG I'm truly depressed...

[@PEREZHTX]

X MADE DEPRESSION KOO DAT WHY PPL FAKING IT

[@The_Dark_Tubby_]

Nostalgia: Minecraft Alpha

[@ruu8534]

Yes.

[@ayaalshab2778]

ممكن إضافة الترجمة للعربية

[@Techie1224]

اتعلمتي انجليزي ولا لسه 😁

[@pijn2370]

So you're telling me that I'm depressed?

[@JamzSlime]

Justin Y fanboy you need to change your profile justin y. just recently changed his/her profile

[@pijn2370]

The Plush I noticed, but I'm gonna stick to this for about a week more

[@randomalien7746]

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[@losblogsdemarcos8590]

The people is depressed because they are emotional dependent!!!!! We need learn to be alone!

[@sabinasb2445]

LosBlogsdeMarcos , I agree with you +this low level of serotonin

[@nickvang7]

Humans are a social animal. We literally go insane when we are too alone.

[@DuckieMcduck]

Nigga "learning to be alone" is the most fucked up goal you can set out for yourself because you're instinctively wired to relate with others. In fact you're doing it right now by consuming media and even posting a comment.

[@nickvang7]

Mike Jack | No, if you can't handle being alone that simply means you are a human being. It's science.

[@DuckieMcduck]

Mike Jack then why did you feel the need to even direct words to me? "Being alone" is a total illusion of the modern era, and even if you are a social rock you still have thousands of people taking care of you indirectly by supplying markets, maintaining infrastructure, you name it. To assume you're in any way "independent" then still come here and tell others that already proves you're full of bullshit, and a total hypocrite.

[@nileshchouhan8699]

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