25 things i've learned in 25 years

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[@mitzloo1933]

Straight from a 93 year old - “Don’t listen to other people’s advice. Nobody knows what the hell they’re doing.” I find this oddly comforting and the older I get, the more I realize how true it is.

[@saiprasadpanda5288]

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[@bloominglillies]

Thank you for this comment!! A beautiful reminder. I also don't know what I'm doing, but that's okay.

[@alinasophie746]

One quote that I like is “everyone has a chapter they don’t read out loud.”

[@emmak4938]

I needed to hear that, thank you

[@N332]

I don’t get when people say “you’re so young!!!” You’re literally the oldest you’ve ever been so naturally that’s gonna be the mentality of you feeling “old” ya know?

[@jordyliterario]

I never thought about it like that. Thanks! :)

[@michellesmirnova4471]

Of course but I think when people say that it’s a way to remind you that you still have a whole life in front of you and you don’t have to rush to do anything. It’s natural that you’re gonna FEEL a certain way, and nobody should ever tell you to NOT feel old because of course you will, but I think people mean well in telling you that you’re still young.

[@burninembers]

Thanks for this perspective, I absolutely agree

[@mitzloo1933]

And now you’re even older. And now you’re even older. Thank you, They Might Be Giants, for writing one of the most terrifying songs ever.

[@anyawillowfan]

I usually get this when people confronted with the fact I'm disabled and mostly housebound. It's not helpful, if anything it's hurtful and harmful for me and how society views disability. I'm surprised those who aren't in similar situations also get the 'but you're so young', though I fail to see what that would be in response to because age doesn't always equate to experience, and I think it's patronizing for anyone to be told.

[@tamaraangelina9024]

A lesson that took me quite long to learn but is one of the most important to me: Wear comfortable underwear.

[@davidschmidt5507]

* Never let your schooling interfere with your education - Mark Twain Sticks with me always

[@saracasale3329]

So true!!!! Thanks for sharing

[@samh7206]

It made me emotional hearing her talk about that and that quote just..yeah. it's so weird going from high school to uni and reprogramming my head to study for LEARNING cause I'm taking these classes for just that, learning, and not care about a test coming up or the end grade.

[@HeyItsShey]

A simple one that I love is, "why not me?". For folks like myself who are prone to self-sabotage, it's a useful mantra.

[@leralto-khutjokarabokapa1646]

Hey shey👊😂

[@surrealsteph]

Yes! I started using that mantra over 3 years ago & it has made such a huge change in how I live & see myself

[@rubiapedone31]

I’ve learned: 1) You can’t help people Who don’t ask you for help. 2) sometimes, The things you really dislike about someone without any particular reason, are the reflection of what you don’t like about yourself. 3) (this Point goes in Hand with the previous one) accept and Love every part of yourself 4) in Order to grow you have to be Kind to yourself and not beat yourself up because you have such high expectations for yourself. Only if you start from a place of Love where you feel safe, you will have the courage to go further and grow. 5) people come and go, and that’s good. You learn from them until they leave. Then, it’s Time to learn something else from someone else. 6)we were Born in this World to live. And Not (like my materialistic father taught me) to work.

[@celina-xz4pt]

Amazing :)

[@anyawillowfan]

Equally, you won't get help if you don't ask for it, and there is nothing shameful about needing help as everyone does sometimes.

[@VijayaLakshmi-wq3bc]

@@anyawillowfan exactly!!!!

[@youcancallmesteph]

I’m 31 years old, and this past fall - I found out that I am dying. I had so many plans when I was in my twenties... I never could have imagined that this would be my life. The thing is, it’s been my greatest teacher. I’ve learned to look up at the stars, to enjoy the feeling of petting my cats, or savouring a good donut. It’s about the little things. God is in the details ♥️ love you Ariel! You’re not weird at all - you’re exactly who you were put on this earth to be xo

[@David-un4cs]

I hope you're still doing ok.

[@peregrinearc]

I hope you are alright.

[@Tambisme]

💛🥲

[@lauranathaliacortes4603]

My advice: - Your mental health is important and taking care of it is nothing to be ashamed of.

[@saiprasadpanda5288]

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[@arianebrosseau1316]

Fashion isn't permanent. Clothes that get ridiculed in high school become the new trend as we get older. Wear what you want!

[@introvertedreader4432]

Girl...I am 28, my 20s nearly over and as 30 looms I have had SEVERAL times of existential crisis and panic attacks about like “I have done NOTHING!” And “Why didn’t you go to University?!” And I work in a cafe. Not where I thought I would be, ever. You have no idea how much I needed to hear some of these mantras. Thank you Ariel. You gave this old gal hope.

[@peculiaritea]

You must have done and learned so many non-university things though! I am 28, too, went to uni and god knows there are a billion things I did NOT learn there. When I started teacher training I was shocked at how I had basically never before been learning to do anything REAL and tangible. What are your favourite things you've learned?

[@saiprasadpanda5288]

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[@Jay78910]

I went back to school at 28 to get an art degree at 31... taking classes with students older than me, with professors younger than me. And I bartend. There's no time frame for anything. I literally have 3 degrees. And now my goal in life is to use everything I have learned and my passions to start my own business. And I didn't figure that out until 35. Seriously, just flow. Do you and do what you love. I know it sounds cliche, but stay true to yourself and take no BS and it will come to you.

[@Jay78910]

Also, if you've always wanted to go to school, do it. I know that a lot of people say "but you may not use your degree." And honestly, that's true. But with school you will always learn and grow as an individual. And from there you may find direction towards something else. And every degree has many different pathways to go if you do pursue it. I'm not necessarily using my degrees for work, but the first one made the third one easier for me without even realizing that they were connected. And now my future goals for my business stand to make me more successful because of my art background. I know I wrote a lot but I've had a gin and tonic and your initial post spoke to me because I totally relate and I wanted to share. I know it will all work out for you. Have a good rest of the year. :)

[@David-un4cs]

I feel this I'm about to be 25 and I've only been able to go to school part time and I feel like it is taking me so long to move forward with everything I want to do.

[@kirawise1701]

The most life changing thing for me was at the end of The Perks of Being a Wallflower when Charlie says "Just because there are people that have it a lot worse doesn't change the fact that you have what you have". We need to stop comparing our struggles to other people and believing that we don't have a right to be sad about the things that make us sad. This quote has helped me so much.

[@littlemissfrodo1]

Me: *waiting to hear some mind blowing tea making advice* Ariel: literally stir before you drink

[@jumpincows]

As my hiking pal always says “there’s no bad weather, just bad clothes” (true 99% of the time)

[@colleenconahay7661]

"We're all a little weird and life's a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join with them in mutual weirdness and call it LOVE" -Dr. Seuss

[@shanchannz]

One of my professors once said to the class "remember to enjoy your weekend. Being a student isn't your only identity." And that has really stuck with me for a long time.

[@peculiaritea]

"The people that bring you the most peace should get the most time". Saw that on Instagram and it really resonated with me - it's applicable to staying in touch more closely with important people, spending time with myself, to choosing between yes and no to things other people propose I go and do with my time/with them, etc.

[@angrylittledumpling]

I turned 38 this year, and I can tell you that even at my age I still feel like I was just 18 a few months ago. Even at this age, you never really know what the hell youre doing. Nobody does. Fake it til you make it and just enjoy as much of it as it goes by. Also- take care of your knees and your back. For real.

[@angrylittledumpling]

youngen rich I wish I did. I was careless in my 20’s with bad posture and sitting at my computer/office desk without taking care of my back. And roller derby. Now my back is always hurting. I do find that back pain-specific yoga on KZbin is helpful. Also sleeping on my side with a pillow between my knees has really helped as well. Good luck! A strong core helps.

[@adinaneagu6085]

We missed u!!!

[@sc0rpions0ul60]

Big time!

[@wanderingbeyondpages]

also: worrying / mulling things over makes you suffer twice

[@Sarahac8]

One of the biggest lessons I've learned is that no matter how vastly different someone's political view/world view is from yours, it's almost always worth it to hear them out and learn about why they believe and think as they do.

[@booklover1634]

If you know having animals around helps your mental health, and you're financially able, get the damn cat.

[@aishamoon698]

I don't know why I love this comment so much 😂

[@booklover1634]

@@aishamoon698 I am glad you enjoyed haha

[@wings9177]

One of my best pieces of advice: when you can't stop thinking about an embarrassing moment, try and remember something that someone else did that was embarrassing. Chances are, you can't think of one. Everybody who saw you do that embarrassing thing has almost definitely forgotten.

[@TwinkTwinkle]

All of these, so much. And one extra: you are allowed to start learning something new even later in life! Just because you didn't start as a child doesn't mean you won't get good with practice.

[@SlantedSpines]

You covered most of the wisdom I have! “A rose needn’t do anything other than be a rose in order to fulfill its destiny. It’s enough to just be you.”

[@saiprasadpanda5288]

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[@semanticallysam8611]

This was so lovely! and highly relatable! Something I've learned in my 22 years: don't let other people make you feel bad about how you spend your money! (let me add that this only works if you're not in major credit card debt or something!) A lot of the people I love roll their eyes at me when I come home with a new book as if that is somehow less valid or worthwhile than whatever it is that they spend their money on. But, at the end of the day, I'm a hardworking person and if I decide I would rather buy another copy of pride and prejudice than a new video game, new clothes, a meal out, etc. then that's ok and nobody should make me feel bad about it just because it isn't something they would buy for themselves.

[@jordanreadsalot]

my family gets annoyed every time I buy a book, and they are always saying to spend my money on something better. They make me feel bad about it so I sometimes hide it when I buy a book cause I just don't want the drama and it makes me feel depressed sometimes cause i work so hard at my job and at everything i do and for them to tell me that one of my passions is a waste of money it hurts. Thank you for reminding me that it's okay to be me and not feel bad about the things i love and am passionate about.

[@revelreads]

Late to the game on this one but "closed mouths don't get fed" has been SUCH a helpful mantra for me when it comes to verbalizing the things I want to others. I'm definitely the type to stay quiet if I'm uncomfortable or if I want something so just having that reminder in the back of my mind is so useful.

[@bumbleebree4264]

my grandma once told me "you can be pleasing to people, without being a people pleaser" and this HIT HOME. oooft. stuck with me ever since

[@asia7279]

So many people need to know this, wow

[@Charlotte-ji3vl]

advice: it's perfectly OK to put yourself first. also Ariel thank you for inspiring me to delete Snapchat:)

[@Miss13Beefy]

My dad is a business coach, which means his job is listening to people. His favorite advice to give people is: "Listen to understand, not to respond." Our culture talks over each other and no one is really listening. If you know what you're going to say before the person has finished speaking, you're not really listening, you're waiting to respond. Everyone deserves to be heard and understood. Give them the respect they deserve and as Lilly from Princess Diaries TV show said, "Shut Up and Listen".

[@mediumjohnsilver]

My only advice is this. Always aim for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll end up among the stars. Well, not actually the stars, but you will end up in an elongated orbit around Earth with a diminishing supply of air, water, and food. So that's something, anyway.

[@kiranstarr4359]

omg sooo inspiring

[@beltheshell]

The energy of this comment is immaculate

[@saiprasadpanda5288]

Hi friends (Habits wisdom and mindset of highly successful people 2020) this book is Amazing it's available on Amazon and Kindle *

[@Chareads]

Damn Ariel this is such a great list. Certain ones stick out to me as things I've learned only in the last year or so - don't monetise your hobbies, you're allowed to let projects go, deal/delete, taking charge of finances - I love that I'm still learning these things because it means there's still more to learn! and I'm going to! My piece of advise is to focus on fostering the virtues of kindness and curiosity; I think they lead to a life that excites you and brings others up with you.

[@serenekho7030]

Advice : it’s ok to have that slice of cake you’ve been craving. Thank you Ariel for this lovely video!!

[@surrealsteph]

How I got over caring what others judgements/opinions of me were/are; I repeat the mantras “It’s none of my business what others think of me”; and “I am not for everyone”!

[@bettyreads222]

Loved these. My tip is every day is not going to be a good day but you can still do things that bring you joy in that day, nap, read, watch something.

[@ArielBissett]

That is A+ advice

[@saiprasadpanda5288]

Hi friends (Habits wisdom and mindset of highly successful people 2020) this book is Amazing it's available on Amazon and Kindle *

[@lizmarcobello]

My best advice is what I already knew to be true but Glennon Doyle (author of Untamed) articulated it so well: "If you are uncomfortable - in deep pain, angry, yearning, confused - you don't have a problem, you have a life... you will never change the fact being human is hard, so you must change the idea that it was ever supposed to be easy." This calms me down from any anxiety-driven perch.

[@SnehaSrik]

I’m 19, just graduated high school last year and currently at uni. I cannot explain how much the whole ‘school doesn’t matter’ advice is true - also life changes so much in such a short amount of time after school, I feel like a totally different person and it’s barely been 12 months. School compared to uni is such a bubble and I’m sure uni compared to life is also such a bubble!. My confidence levels have improved, my mindset and perception of people and the world is so much better than it used to be - I think I’m a little less selfish now that I’ve left high school as well, although there’s nothing wrong with being a little selfish, I’m now much better at acknowledging my life is not where the world begins and ends. (also I completely agree with the tea making :,)

[@thefrancophilereader8943]

Thank you for reminding us that we do not know what is going on in others' lives.

[@agnetebutk]

You can dress weather appropriate AND look good!!

[@lauragouveia4526]

Don't allow anyone to treat you badly just because u like them. Always stand up for yourself

[@anna-maymoon1001]

I'm sure there's lots of horrified English people like YOU DID WHAT TO YOUR TEA?! I'm one of them, Sorry, continue

[@ArielBissett]

I’m so sorry 🙈 I’m better now!!!!

[@elliejenkins8147]

Some things I've learned (I'm 26, soon to be 27): 1. It's OK to write on the walls of your own flat. It's just wallpaper, no big deal. 2. It's OK not to iron your bedclothes if it makes you too tired. Yep. 3. You NEED to get a healthy sleep every day, 5 hours are NOT enough (still struggling with that) 4. First think, then speak. Not in the opposite order. 5. Life is not a race. Competition is not always a healthy way going around things. Help others, so that all of you can win.

[@grey-raspberry.narwhal]

Mine is "it's not a weak move to ask for help. You don't have to do all the things yourself"

[@augustaholyfield388]

I really like the saying "Be more, appear less" because there are so many layers to how you can interpret it. I generally see it as focusing on cultivating yourself for yourself rather than doing things in order to be seen a certain way, but as an extrovert it also reminds me to pull back and observe rather than dominate situations.

[@bookofdaisy9124]

So sorry to hear that you guys are being evicted, I know how happy you were to move there and how much work went into making that space your own ❤️️ I hope everything works out for you and your family, whether that be you being able to stay in your house or you guys finding somewhere even better that you love even more!

[@ilariaattardbarbini8384]

I turned 25 recently and what I learned is that you don't actually need to wear make up only because your friends tell you to do so. You can go out and dress nicely with no make up whatsoever and still be beautiful. I learned to just be myself and don't do thing only because someone thinks I should do it.

[@saiprasadpanda5288]

Hi friends (Habits wisdom and mindset of highly successful people 2020) this book is Amazing it's available on Amazon and Kindle *

[@simrantheathi36]

This is the first comment I've ever left on a video but I wanted to say that what you said about school pretty much sums up my whole life. I graduated from university a couple years ago and I've been struggling with stepping away from school and not pursuing any further education and right now it feels as though I'm never going to get past this feeling of defeat and like I've failed my younger self who valued school more than anything else in the world. Again, don't know why I'm leaving this or if you'll even see it but I guess I'd like you to know that what you said is something I'll be coming back to a lot this next little bit while I try to get through this period of my life. Thank you.

[@ArielBissett]

Thank you for leaving me your first comment 💕💕💕 I don’t think you’re failing at all: it sounds like younger you didn’t know what older you would be like! You have to respect and love your current needs 🌻

[@saiprasadpanda5288]

Hi friends (Habits wisdom and mindset of highly successful people 2020) this book is Amazing it's available on Amazon and Kindle *

[@simrantheathi36]

Thanks for the reply! I guess I’ll just have to come to terms with the fact that I’m just figuring life out as I go and hopefully I can learn to live in the moment :)

[@mskiwiko]

“What goes up must come down.” I remember this quote from 5th grade. Applies to so much in life.

[@ForTheLoveOfMusicals]

Don’t gaslight yourself! I saw this somewhere recently and it was very much a “that’s what I was doing” moment. I had to take a leave of absence from uni last semester because I was too tired to go to class or do homework and making that decision was so hard as everyone at my uni is tired, but that has a different meaning then everyone and you need to stop questioning what you know is true

[@valhicks19]

1) mental health comes first ALWAYS. I don't put time into things that aren't making me happy or worse, are actively triggering my anxiety and depression 2) just like you'll forget high school, you'll forget a lot of joyful moments as well. Keep a specific journal for the things you appreciate, moments or interactions that made you happy. It's so nice to look at as a reminder of happy things, especially when you're feeling down, and it helps you consciously express gratitude 3) explore what makes you happy, especially if you're young and not financially burdened. Work the minimum wage job you love, sell art, etc if you're still living with your parents. Do it before your life revolves around making money and paying bills. Hopefully your passion will grow into a career! 4) learn how to adapt to the ways people communicate. Learn your partner's love language so you can love them in the way THEY understand best. Likewise everybody has different morals so be mindful that you're speaking to people in a way that they will be receptive to. You will communicate more effectively and build stronger relationships 5) sleep! Eat! Take care of yourself, it makes a difference! 6) your friends will change. Appreciate them while you have them but understand they are growing and sometimes they will grow away from you or you from them. 7) talk to a therapist! Fuck the taboo, it can be your secret if you're that worried about it. They're so helpful for relieving stress and processing things big or small in your life. There's nothing wrong with it and it doesn't mean anything's "wrong" with you

[@audiofandoms]

i’ve learned that if you want your friends to touch you, you can just ask. i’ve grown up in a family that does not really do physical contact but i love touch! and it wasn’t until i made a friend who would just sit next to me and hold my hand that i realized that was a thing i could Do. changed my life for the better

[@Victoria-Claringbold]

Our biggest troubles create our biggest compassion for others. Being kind is one of the few things that hopefully people have gained during this pandemic.

[@LiteraryStoner]

Life is too short to let other people pick what you read: YES! I'm finally learning this! In my 30s (i'm 31). I live with chronic pain as well, for different reasons (I have vacterl association), and it is SO exhausting and no one knows just to look at me. No one really knows what other people are going through, especially behind a screen. People in general really do deserve more compassion, ya don't know what they are going through. I'm a pretty open book but there is still stuff I don't talk about and even when I do it's often a "you can't really get it unless you are also going through it" kind of thing. I wish people (in general) had more compassion for others. I'm working on using social media less. Twitter is so toxic it was wrecking hell on my mental health and I couldn't hear myself think (so to speak). I don't even have a snapchat (though I tried it) or a TIktok (which is apparently about to be banned here in the US...which is messed up). I see pros and cons to social media and the pros are amazing but the cons can be devastating, so i'm trying to find that balance. Love that last one! Always be open to learning💙We will never know everything, and that's wonderful.

[@rkbucknam]

“Fix or delete” reminds me of the quote “what you don’t change, you choose”

[@rafia2918]

she didn't have tea until 20- i've literally been drinking tea since i came out of the womb I'M 15 AND i'VE DRANK MORE TEA THAN IMAGINABLE (because I'm asian lol)

[@muelelc3632]

Same

[@mariee_e]

I thought green Lipton tea was the only type of tea out there besides matcha and when I started working at a boba shop and found out about jasmine my mind was blown

[@robynloveschocolate]

Same here but I'm english 😂 one of my earliest memories is sitting at my grandma's house drinking cold tea with milk out of a sippy cup hahaha

[@SofiaLover100]

I’ve definitely learn this year that it’s okay to put yourself first. I’m so used to always bending over backwards for other people to the point were I feel emotionally and physically drained and completely forget myself. You can’t always be there for everybody when they need you and that’s okay. You need yourself sometimes ❤️

[@sanaa.2195]

This is soo true!! ❤️

[@z111.01]

thank u! I needed this! ♡

[@AnnaTalks-videos]

I return to this video a lot. I watch it all the way through a lot. A lot of good advice here

[@poodlegirl55]

My best advice came from Abraham Lincoln "Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." I just survived cancer and 5 surgeries and people seem surprised at how happy I am. Seriously? I'm still here! I have no time to waste acting pissy.

[@lucyevegardiner4333]

I loved this video, as a teenager I’m very swept up by both school and the internet and we usually ignore older people’s opinions on those things because we think ‘ugh they don’t understand!!’ But hearing it from another young person who is a little bit older and gone through education but still grew up on the internet really gets the message through. Thank you for this video, I know it was mainly for you but it really impacted me :)

[@laurenbarber5127]

'Everything in moderation. Including moderation.' - Nigella Lawson :)

[@Emma-ut4mf]

One of the things that I have learned is that there is a difference in being alone and being lonely. That being a friend to yourself and being able to sit alone in your own company happy is one of the best feelings. I think society holds standards to always have friends or always be in a relationship and these things are nice but not necessary for being content.

[@Alkeran12]

Twitter is an aweful place people go to in order to get mad about stuff. Anything will do. I'm not part of the booktuber community, but I decided to create a Twitter account this year to follow some of my favorite youtubers and it kind of ruined some of them for me. Twitter seems to make some people really nasty. All these people talking against each other publicly, depending on who it's popular to bash that day... It brought me back to when I was bullied in high school and my schoolmates spoke about me as if I wasn't standing right next to them and they made fun of me, insulted me, said how I did this or that and how laughable my existence was. I don't go there anymore.

[@emilygustin1324]

Some great advice from my mom that I always carry with me: just take things one day at a time. Things are so hard and scary sometimes and it's difficult to stay grounded, especially right now. When things get really weird sometimes all you can do focus on the present moment and getting through that. Lean on those around you and keep looking up. You'll get through this.

[@alinegr]

also 25 and still trying to get comfortable with the fact that not everything needs to be done today, or right away, it's ok to take a moment and get back to things a little later when your mind is a bit more fresh

I still remember when you cut your hair and made a video. Has it really been that long? 😱😱 My greatest life lesson so far is that you should never rely on motivation. When I was younger I wasted so much timing waiting for motivation to do stuff I didn't want to do. Turns out that sometimes you just have to start, even if you don't like it or hate doing it. For me that's basically studying. I failed one of my uni classes because I kept putting of writing my essays.. Because I just didn't feel motivated and rather wanted to spend time doing anything else basically. When I found out I has failed because my last minute work hadn't been good enough this time. Before I always managed to finish my papers the day they were due and even got great grades. Finding out that this habit didn't work out that time.. well, it was a horrible feeling... But, of course, there was no one to blame but me... I wish I could say that incident was my wake up call but sadly it wasn't.. It took me some more years to finally figure it out. 🙈 Your first lesson reminded me of the saying "this too shall pass". I think about this a lot

[@KuwaCraft]

School isn't everything. Truer words have never been spoken. I put myself though so much durring senior year of HS through Freshmen year of college.

[@kaylayeager8443]

I especially relate to dressing appropriately for the weather, haha! All those years of fighting my mom on wearing snow boots and rain coats and now I don't care what I look like at all so I can be warm and dry! I even bring a change of clothes if I have to 😄

[@cucaracha6]

Such a great idea this vídeo, i'll be completing 40 years next year and i'll do the same exercise you did, as a gift to myself :) just discovered your channel, keep it up, you're quite the character (in the nicest way possible)! I've remembered some important things, today, i thank you. Hugs from Portugal. Good luck with those tires

[@michellesmirnova4471]

The one about school is so important to me and thank you for reminding me about it. Because of my experiences, I am TERRIFIED of people not viewing me as smart and good in school and all of that because people expect a lot from me and I expect a lot from myself. But I need to remind myself that literally nobody cares except me, it’s okay to fail.

[@anerdybooklover5889]

Yeah, my problem is my parents. They always say to people that I love school, and that I am great at school, and expect so much of me in terms of grades. When I get a “bad” grade, they are disappointed. I do love school some of the time, but I am finding it increasingly hard to stay top of the class. A lot of people at school also think that I spend my entire life focusing on school, and don’t realise that I am so much more than that. Btw I know you don’t care about my school life but I Just wanted to write this ok bye.

[@mintymocha7546]

Thank you for making this video! I really needed to hear this, this year. 💖

[@grettelbh4777]

I cried during the _school isn't everything_ because I felt so related to it. Ariel, PLEASE, PLEASE READ RADIO SILENCE, by Alice Oseman, I think you're going to LOVE it so much. It's about Frances and Aled, both A+ students, but their vision of life is going to change completely when they meet each other. Pleaaaase, give it a chance ♥

[@Rjohnson246]

So happy to see you!! Please do take things at your own pace though ❤️❤️❤️ sending spoons!

[@mirandateixido6087]

you look beautiful ariel! missed you sm! so excited to watch this video when i get home

[@djdancer4513]

Alrighty heres some stuff I've learned: 1. You don't always get what you want. (This was one of the first things I remember hearing a lot) 2. You never know until you try. 3. Be grateful for what you have. 4. Have your siblings backs and they will have yours. 5. Hide any potential food or candy from your siblings they will eat like a carnivorous t rex. 6. Find out what you like to read. 7. Don't take things for granted. 8. Try and pick up old hobbies again. 9. It's better to have no friends at all than have fake people as your friends. 10.Everything happens for a reason.

[@victorialikos3999]

I really admire your way of thinking and love your channel 😊

[@agla7460]

This is by far my favourite video of yours. you are so well-spoken and inspiring. I didn't even read the comments until the end which is very rare for me, because I always have to be doing more than one thing at a time. I just wanted to say thank you, and Happy birthday Ariel.

[@swatiswami598]

my my what a ride it was ! i just discovered your channel and dayum am i happy this video made me feel idk hopeful? and kinda looking forward? thank you ! i just loved it 🤗🤗🤗

[@misstonix]

Every point you made was PERFECT and absolutely worth hearing!

[@taceitac]

i have watched my fair share of these types of videos, and i have never gotten so much out of one of them than i have with this one. thank you, really loved listening to you!

[@melodiesandmemories7739]

I've learned that it feels so good to be uncertain about things. Almost nothing in the world, no experience or person, is black and white, and living in that gray is actually not that scary to me, but instead is oddly comforting. Sort of fits in with your last one!

[@lostforwordspoetry]

Love this so much. You have such a refreshing sort of gentle and freeing perspective ❤️ So much wisdom in 25 years! Thank you so much for sharing this !

[@shoppingforamoon]

This video is so calming and reassuring 🌙

[@sarahparis8235]

#1. You can't control what other people think (of you). #2. People will judge you no matter what you do. #3. Someones action does not have to dictate your reaction. #4. Expressing who you really are externally feels amazing. (clothes, decorating your space, how you communicate with people, ect.) #5. There's great satisfaction to be had in letting things unfold in their time (not rushing everything). #6. You really don't need too many people in your life to be happy. A good handful is better than a crowd of people who make you feel alone. #7. Honesty is one of the most powerful qualities a person can possess. #8. 'There's always a bigger fish...' Meaning that once you've completed that huge goal, there's going to be another huge goal looming up behind it. This is why it's so important to be in the moment. #9. Getting your space (possessions) into order is one of the best things you can do for yourself. #10. Taking care of/getting to know yourself is one of the most selfless things you can do, because it's the insecure, the hurting, the personally unhappy individuals who hurt other people the most. And finally. . . #11. As Jean Luc Picard once said: 'It is possible to make no mistakes and still lose. That is not weakness; that is life.' Thanks for reading. ; )

[@musicissimo07]

A comment I once read: “my biggest nightmare is to be greeted on my deathbed by the person I could have become.” I’m also in that stage of figuring out what I want from life and what it all means, and something that always gets in the way is a tendency to do things just to feel superior or adequate to the people around me. If you always compare yourself to others you will NEVER be happy. It seems simple enough but the more you look outside of you to feel content, the less connected you become with the person you really are.

[@raabhv6814]

I loved this video and I am about to turn 26 as well so It felt so good to hear you out and the positive vibe after all that years of knowledge was the cherry on top. Thanks for sharing

[@mariahresende5233]

I just loved this video and the thoughts it brought. And the "school isn't everything" is so true and I have to remember that all the time.

[@marthamatteson5280]

So much wisdom I learned from my father, but the best thing he told me was, “The most important thing is to learn about the world, and the people who live in the world.”

[@Anamesque]

This video had such a calming effect on me. Thank you, Ariel.

[@lillianad7320]

I really loved this. Please make more advice videos!

[@Nataliecj]

I loved this so much! Especially the "you don't know people" one because it's so true, you have no idea what someone is going through. And I think it's important to remember that this goes for the people you don't like as well. It's easy to be compassionate to people we like, but it's important to extend that compassion to people we don't like or people we don't agree with either. I'm not saying you have to give endless amount of your time and energy on draining people, but we're all human. There are reasons for why we are the way we are. I would also add "No one cares" to that list. That sounds harsh, but it's true. Obviously your loved ones care about you, but I don't mean it like that. I mean that the thing you're really insecure about that you think everyone notices? They don't. No one cares. The amount of times I have to tell myself that when I'm feeling insecure is so high. But it does work, no one cares. People are too wrapped up in themselves to care. And if they do say something mean or negative, then they're not worth *you* caring about. For some reason I was fine turning 26, but 27 scared me so much. Now I'm 28 and I'm feeling OK about it 😂

[@16AprilL]

Thank You for this video. As someone who turned 26 in March my life has changed so much this year alone and is now going through another completely unexpected and confusing change and I needed to hear these. Something I have learned since being 26 is that your mental health comes before everything else.... including your dream job that you have worked towards for the last ten years. Nothing compares to being able to rest and reset. And how I wish more people understood that you never know what battles others are facing especially during a year like 2020

[@beachhouse1927]

this video and the comments below really pulled me out of a bad/anxious place today :) i love your content, ariel - it's so nice

[@aqtbenz]

I had the exact same experience in my master's program, and it made me reconsider my entire identity. All great tips, great to see you again!

[@victoriamann5540]

I really needed this video! 😭 So much wisdom here we love to see it👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 and I love YOU! I’m so sorry to hear about your eviction. When my parents got divorced they went bankrupt and we got evicted from our home so I know this situation is A LOT. I hope you find a place to call hope and feel at peace very soon☺️ Nugget of Advice: Do the things you love without shame or embarrassment! This year I picked up writing fanfics again. I also freaking love stuffed animals and I’m 23 yrs old! Write the fanfic. Buy that stuffed animal. Life is too short to deprive yourself from simple joys💗

[@lindsayvanwynsberghe7693]

No one is looking at you the way you’re looking at yourself!!! Thank you for this video, so much love for you❤️ happy early birthday xo

[@stanleylatty2605]

Hi Ariel, PREP FOR THR WORST!!! PRAY FOR THE BEST!!! Stay Safe, hugs and God Bless! Donna in the NE GA mountains.

[@ricardaseven6083]

Love the video, Ariel

[@peehurasotra9498]

I'm watching and getting really emotional, i know I'm 2 months late but I really really needed this, I can't be more grateful!❤️

[@KelliJ_]

The number one thing I’ve learned so far in my life that I have to remember and remind others is that: “hurt people hurt people” 💗💗 Also thank you for this! I found you while you were on your social media vacation and this was so lovely to be the first video that I’ve gotten the chance to watch from you in real time posting. 💕💕. And omg I love my daily 2 pm nap!, 😂

[@daniivictoria9679]

OMG finally justo me estaba acordando de tus vídeos 😭😭😭 i miss You soo much 🤭🤭💞💞