ATTACHMENT IS NOT LOVE

Attachment is often mistaken for love, but they are vastly different. They are quite the opposite of one another. Attachment gets in the way of love, but love can dissolve attachment.
"Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy. My happiness does not lie in you."
- Anthony de Mello
"Love in such a way that the person you love feels free."
- Thich Nhat Hanh
"Drop the idea that attachment and love are one thing. They are enemies. It is attachment that destroys all love."
- Osho
"Seeking love keeps you from the awareness that you already have it..."
- Byron Katie
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This video is for those wanting to improve your relationship, how to have a healthy relationship, how to have more intimacy and connection with your partner, how to not be codependent, how to get over a break up, how to be happy alone, how to be emotionally independent, how to have a happy relationship.

[@alexandraalynne]

Always stood by this, you worded it perfectly. So so many do not know real true love, yet call it that. It has always upset me how often I see the name of Love being tainted by its incorrect labeled use unto things that are nowhere near close to it; attachment, codependency, possession, or a neediness from a personal place of lack within. It is also unfair and undeserving to the other person too, to not love them truly, to not have this basic pure love towards them yet dare try to call it Love, is a disgrace and dishonor to Love itself because Love is something so beautiful and special. It is one of the most powerful things in all existence.

[@howardcohen6817]

Wonderful. Love.

[@PersisP]

often its mixed though. I truely love but cant say I am detached. I want to be near and would grief when losing them

[@MargrietS]

I love that Rumi quote

[@antarasinha8639]

I've never experienced true love in all my life, even my biological mother never loved me and so I was a seeker of love a bit desperately in my childhood and early youth but then I realised this world was mostly a miser with a very poor soul whenever I wished to receive love from it. Then I decided to turn my mind inward and looked for its source from within. Now, I feel like my embarking on an unending inner journey of discovering my inmost infinite self can only help me experience the true love in my lonely life because that love ultimately connects me to the infinite Love of the Infinite for eternity. Human love devoid of the essence of spirituality is always finite and contains all those impurities like attachment, possessiveness, etc. Only God-touch to our souls and feeling His/Her luminous presence inside us can make our life full of love and I wish to live my life in that love so that I feel the Divine with me always and forever. Thank you. 🌈😇🙏🙋

[@fiestapais]

"The prison is just an illusion created by your own false beliefs. But until you see that, you remain trapped." - That really resonated with me. Thank you.

[@mindfulkayaker7737]

Thankyou Rupert Spira says that love is the recognition that we all “share the same being” I think that this idea fits perfectly with you opinion about love.

[@ManchesterSloth]

Won't get too deep but as I was beginning a meditation about avoiding attachment, I wondered this very questions. Then, I open KZbin and see the first video from you in my recommendations in months. Your words reflected my own feelings , thank you. Feeling solid right now.

[@prettysimplemusic]

This man is PREACHING GOOD!!!! 🔥

[@roseanne1234]

Great video. I think we should all question our belief system. I am thinking that attachment comes from the ego and true love comes from our soul. 🙏☮️💕

[@PiyushaShukla-nv6se]

Perfect timing, was just thinking of this! Thank you for your insights.

[@arrowfar920]

Thank you so much for this lecture. Lectures like these really help. God bless.

[@ptlovelight2971]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this....I'm actually dealing with such a situation with a sweet but broken man who is clinging to the thought of being in relationship with him. It is clear to me that he does not value himself, and that he is placing all of his worth onto being with me. I struggle with being a people pleaser myself, but I know in my heart that this will never work out with him. Painful as it may be, I'll have to tell him what's in my mind and break away from this situation

[@con_doorman]

I had been watching your videos regularly a few years ago, but then you took a long break and I thought you'd stopped posting for good (I should really start viewing my subscribed feed...). Glad you appeared in my normal feed again, and that you're well.

[@mariajosegarciapallares9447]

Thank you 💜

[@stiffmiester300]

Xanax I’m sick of my panic attacks and racing thoughts. No therapy can ever work on my messed up beliefs I was never raised properly and am tired of this backwards society that’s mainly egotistical and narcissistic with no empathy towards my needs all everyone cares about is themselves and there own misery. I’m tired of playing these role playing therapy games crying myself to sleep and the. Wondering why humans are so messed up and I’m the only normal person this entire time I was not crazy it was everyone else

[@shiner8375]

You need to just accept and be happy where you are. Keep improving yourself / find your community. I joined a yoga studio. Got in shape and eased my mind. Meeting some beautiful people. Just take it slow slow slow. Don’t look desperate even if you need to act for now!!! When they smile simply smile back. When they talk simply respond with same energy. Try to look a little mysterious don’t tell anyone your business. Trust me they will approach you, not the other way around. Good luck!

[@edie4321]

Yes, I experienced and am the same. Those damn benzos. I am also damaged by many prescription drugs. I left them all seven years ago, and have yet to recover. We are all too traumatized, at least the ones of us that understand. Recently I learned something else inverted here. All One = Alone. We are exactly where we need to be. Us wounded souls will come together when the inverted are gone.

[@edie4321]

@@shiner8375, Listen to you, and I bet you call yourself an empath.

[@howardcohen6817]

I hear you, but therapy can never work on messed-up beliefs, only the individual can do so sometimes with the help of a therapist. I find that I stop playing these games when I engage myself with others and our situations. Thenn I enjoy living. Playing concerts and sharing music is wonderful. Going to the train-station, for example, and breaking bread with some of my acquaintances, listening to their stories and sharing mine offers moments of great value to us. Listening to spring blooming and other activities in which I'm not involved with dealing with imagined deficiencies of mine or of yours is a very joyful activity. Learning about the political situation of, say, Sudan, allows love to exude. Who cares about the "who?" is crazy? And sometimes it is me. Love.

[@zodsi]

thank you ❤

[@TheCupcakeicecream]

I’m going through a hard time. Since finding out my mom’s diagnosis I have been in despair. Although I’m still struggling this brought me some comfort

[@johntessitore9305]

Thanks for your insights!😊

[@annabellacrewe8858]

Very well explained ! Thank you from my heart ❤

[@stratford27]

Thank you for this.

[@elfmix]

Very insightful thank you. Im glad your video came up tonight, just what I needed.

[@werewitch9466]

Came at the perfect time. Thank you.

[@leilabell3939]

Thankyou so much for this. I really needed to hear this. Thankyou

[@CuriousVisuals]

Thank you for this video, I appreciate you sharing your wisdom. I love the analogy of the mental prison you described and how because we're trapped we try to get other people into that prison with us, and how it's simply an illusion.I suppose that's human nature, never wanting to be isolated, even if it's alone in a concept. I had a question I wanted to ask about this: These past couple of months I've began questioning these beliefs, or as you put it had 'suspicions' about these beliefs. I've been pealing back the layers to uncover where they began. It all feels quite foggy, but I'm making progress. What would you say is the best way to rewrite those beliefs once we understand their origin? Any advice is greatly appreciated!

[@nidzaraosmanagicbedenik3808]

It helps for me to ask myself: Who said this? Is this the truth? How do I feel about this? Our feelings are always our best friends. Good Luck!

[@howardcohen6817]

Wow - I'm very hopeful for you. Human nature is very diverse and not able to be codified into rules. Lots of luck. Love.

[@howardcohen6817]

The doors to love had been sealed shut through belittlement and feaar of more belittlement. Of course those belittling me wanted my love and respect, which I would have given them, anyway, had they not crippled me so severely. Now there are wonderful people all around who don't do this, or maybe they do, but this no longer matters, as I am open and fine with not possessing them (how silly to think that I could posses somebody or would want/need to). Thanks for your video, with all the metaphors and similes.

[@tillyvickers2721]

👌❤Thanks

[@bethra.flowers]

❤

[@teddyboef2821]

The strange thing is i know the source of infinite love within me but as soon as i started to look outside myself for love i immediately got stuck in the programming. Aware i was doing it but unable to stop some of the behaviours like allowing the mind to build expectations and overly attach to feeling a need to be desirable. There are still trauma residues that need to be looked at.

[@MargrietS]

is love really about giving? To me love is a state of being. I don’t have to give I don’t have to receive.

[@MargrietS]

I think you mean the same, it’s not about that ‘giving’ giving but the state of being you’re in. And if you’re in a state of love, then others automatically benefit from it right.

[@AwakenInsight]

Yes, you are right that love is more a state of being, and that giving isn't necessary. But giving or sharing tends to come as a natural result of love, which is what I was trying to express simply as a way to emphasize the difference between love and attachment.

[@lucka102]

Can you explain attachement and love in relation to needs?

[@chyrlannbrown5280]

💫🧚‍♂️💫

[@OPTHolisticServices]

💗🍃🙏

[@johnnyesmond9176]

someone told me that love is a result of an investment, the more you give, the more you love (or maybe attached). what do you think about it?

[@howaboutno2023]

❤❤❤❤❤❤🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@Yault.]

Do you think that true love comes effortlessly and unexpectedly or one has to put work on to genuinely love their partner? I must admit that I'm attached to my boyfriend, while I know that he truly loves me, my soul. He is so good to me, and has such a good heart, not only to me but to every one. I can say that I love him, because I intentionally take action to give him love, certainly because I am naturally empathetic and kind. But I want to experience this kind of love for him. Does it necessarily have to be a feeling? Is there something I can do to love him this way?